husband came home smelling like my ex (w/ Sarah Bonsignore) | Perfect Person Ep. 109

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[@unwreckquested8004]

hey bestie, looks like the quince link goes to a 404 page. Get that bag, tho!

[@bondfool]

Their relationship is so charming… to me.

[@PerfectPerson]

Iconic comment

[@mackenzybarry6625]

I laughed out loud

[@brandiwyne]

Ya beat me to it 😂❤

[@ananyashree.s5631]

Unbelievably charming couple

[@christineoh338]

It has to be more direct: Miles and Sarah, you guys are such a charming couple...to me

[@zoebrown4195]

i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again: we really need a line of perfect person merch that says “I called into the Perfect Person Podcast and all I got was this fake name” and then a spot you where you can write in the name that miles gave you

[@um2913]

Yes pls omg. Pls keep commenting this until he sees this 🙏

[@he.said.teenjiejer]

the name should go on the back like a jersey

[@joorton7527]

Ok buuuuut this kind of kills the anonymity of it for the people who would prefer to be anonymous lol. Still a cool idea for those who care less about that though!

[@anonymixx8106]

​​@@joorton7527 I feel like it could still work if this was understood, because then maybe he could have like a name event that's not associated w sensitive advice, or people could reserve it for an autograph from miles or another perfect person haha.

[@Plutosbff4ever]

Sarah listening to her husband’s podcast in the shower is SO SWEET

[@sierravalentinee]

Agreed! I was like AWE

[@SweetCarolineBAMBAMBAM]

Side note: Love Sarah's hair here! Love the true blonde colour on her

[@PerfectPerson]

We love to hear it

[@asunbeam5479]

but we need to know where Sarah got her sweater!!

[@brynnleighw]

Thank you for mentioning the overuse of the word boundary!!! Also, miles if you ever do feel comfortable talking about it- we (well at least me) would love to hear more about your brother. We have heard the mentions and the little info from Rainie’s podcast. But I know he and the experience of his sickness has shaped you so much. I personally would love a “perfect person’s guide to finding happiness and dealing with grief”

[@emilykpaige]

My partner just lost his mom and this is a new and scary thing we are having to traverse on our own

[@bondfool]

I would recommend the episode with Michael Cruz Kayne. They talk about grief quite a bit.

[@thebartlettbaker]

I second this! I would love a grief pod!

[@francis2fly]

Sarah you could NEVER be boring. You are beautiful, a great Mom and a very interesting person!

[@a_o011]

...to me.

[@anonymixx8106]

Forreal she is goals

[@Saxinful]

That last call sounds like two confident extroverts giving advice to a shy introvert 😂

[@a_o011]

Honestly! As an introvert I wouldn't mind a roommate saying bye or hi to me, but ME starting/ initiating, ABSOLUTELY NOT 😂

[@El1society]

i get so in my head about saying hi to coworkers so that call hit close to home lol

[@kayso]

“Actually, fuck Yale.” 😉🤣

[@patiencekillz]

LMAOOOO

[@shrinidhi1571]

Was listening on Spotify and came to KZbin for this comment 🤩

[@allywatters3160]

Weird fun fact: the figure four style crossing legs is how they found American spies in WW2 because Germans didn’t do it

[@andyqv-goodvibes1900]

woah

[@melbapeach162]

And leaning on things.

[@lorithomasscott349]

The GetReal was soooo Real today. My dad died out of the blue when I was 21, and that feeling of “when is the other shoe gonna drop” is so real. When he was alive though he would always say “far worse things have been known to happen.” And I try and take that with me to remember not to sweat the small stuff, because in the end, that doesn’t matter.

[@TheShauNanigans]

Sending you love. This hit me hard for some reason. I appreciate you opening up about this very much.

[@megs.9915]

I completely resonated as well! My dad also died very suddenly when I was in my 20s and it took me a long time to stop waiting for the next bad thing to happen.

[@cheyennejude]

“Straight from Jeff’s house to my butt” ended me for some reason 😂 I had to pause to laugh.

[@KosmicKait]

NEW SARAH EPISODE, LOCK IN GAMERS

[@nonabonn]

Sarah episodes are always my favorites. The chemistry you two have is unmatched!!

[@skinquench]

Can we talk about the Miles thinking matcha tastes like dirt to visiting Japan to drinking matcha on the pod pipeline? 😂

[@aliyah6943]

I feel like the last call was so relatable and its comforting to know you guys could all relate to that feeling even though you seem like confident friendly people !

[@adrianpink8144]

For the roommate call - I would say the headphones are the easy answer. If she has headphones in, don’t worry about saying hi/bye, if she doesn’t then feel free to say hi/bye etc. Might still require a chair swivel though lol

[@GracieHatake]

I adore Sarah. She is everything. Cutest gosh dang family ever. ❤ Always in demand for more Sarah. 😊

[@libby8920]

MY FAVE EPISODES ARE WITH SARAH YAY

[@courtney104]

Sarah me 🤝 having ankle problems

[@julians4094]

This show often gives advice on easing awkward social dynamics and it's worthwhile to consider that neurodivergent people often have different communication styles that can sometimes come off as awkward or cold or shy etc. but could always just be that 'tis rizz if u know what i mean. One thing autistic people are familiar with is a concept called the 'double empathy gap' where autistic people carry the blame for communication breakdowns if and when they're not meeting neurotypical expectations whereas there might just be some mutual cross neurotype friction between communication/expectations!

[@sailormarsrx]

SARAHHH * we all cheered in unison *

[@Cashhhhew]

SARAHHHh 🦅🦅🦅

[@zoegarcia8767]

I was stepping out of the shower as Sarah was saying she listen’s to him in the shower 😂

[@raychipsd]

The Get Real is SO real today. My sister unexpectedly died a couple years ago, and I do feel the “when is the other shoe gonna drop” feeling when I’m happy. But happy to start learning to allow myself to settle into being content and think that I am “doing it.” Thanks for being a perfect inspiration, Miles 💫

[@beccaq.2297]

Miles, I’m sure its probably so easy to get wrapped up in the numbers but please know that the quality of the connection you’re creating with your fanbase is so strong. Watching your videos feels like hanging with a best friend in a way that is gentle and funny and charming. We see the hard work you put in and appreciate you. :)

[@MegaDoomdoomDoom]

As someone who has been “that roommate”, I would like to add some perspective: They might be going through some tough shit and are currently viewing their life as just “getting through it” until they can get to the next juncture in their life. I might be projecting a bit, but I related a lot to being the roommate and just needing my space when I had roommates that I’m sure made them feel uncomfortable

[@Roneish1996]

I keep struggling with the writing a short comment about the last call, so basically I will try again. It’s possible that the housemate is autistic like myself and has a lot of social anxiety, sensory sensitivities and finds a lot of social interactions overwhelming. I don’t think trying to force a conversation is going to help and could trigger demand avoidance issues meaning that the relationship gets worse. What I would suggest is letting her know you want to talk whenever she is comfortable to do so (also when you are comfortable as well but if I am right too much pressure feels very demanding so you’ll need to give a far bit of leeway) you could even tell her some of what the talk would be about so she has time to process and think about it that could make things easier. I also feel like the idea about leaving the house at the same time is really bad because it feels like forcing an interaction and possibly shaming someone about headphones that are possibly related to sensory regulation. Also no ill will to Sarah and Miles btw just wanted to give a random very specific autistic person’s perspective.

[@jaypaulus]

Never bought a deodorant faster. Should've gotten it sponsored

[@kait_pin]

What's the exact scent? Or maybe can you give a time code so I can find it?

[@jaypaulus]

@@kait_pin it's "Fiji with Palm Tree Scent" but save yourself the trouble, this deodorant couldn't be more basic. If the dictionary was scratch & sniff, this is what the word Deodorant would smell like... I can't believe I fell for a perfect person pyramid scheme 🥲

[@jaypaulus]

@@kait_pin It's the Fiji one, but honestly... avoid it haha it smells the way the word deodorant would smell in a scratch and sniff dictionary. It couldn't be more basic. I want my money back MILES!

[@kait_pin]

@@jaypaulus haha omg I'll have to give it a sniff next time I'm at the store

[@basil4544]

This is the scent that my roommate uses for all of his products (shampoo, body wash, deodorant), and now when I smell it, I am reminded of the fact that he only showers once a week (at best) and the strong scent is probably an attempt at covering up all that BO

[@sundaesorceress]

I really appreciate how candid and chill you guys are about your experiences with parenting.

[@mchammerandnail]

I reallllyyyyy relate to Miles about feeling doom when things are going well, feeling that HEAVY right now. Hearing Miles and Sarah being such honest human people is the best thing to watch as a very human person myself. We’re all human!!!

[@titanweenie]

Loved the smaller problems in this video!!! As always, so entertaining and PERFECT advice!

[@YX3WQ]

sarah is by far the best “guest” on the pod. She’s almost too perfect

[@powerpufffan]

Omg why do men do the “to me” part of a compliment? 😂😂 my boyfriend is the same

[@TriforceLiz]

There was something so serendipitous and charming about Miles, Sarah and the first caller all wearing/loving the same deodorant that was just the icing on the cake of this delightful episode. Also, Miles, after hearing Sarah's 'get real,' I just want to say that you're killing it. I know it must be so easy to get bogged down as a creator on the internet, but you're doing so great and you have cultivated such a loving, hilarious and supportive fan base. I've only grown to love your podcast more and more with every episode and it's truly a highlight of my week- I literally save the episodes for a day when I know I'll need a pick-me up, and it never fails to comfort and make me giggle. Thank you for all the joy and care you put into your work! ♥

[@amehnh]

WE NEED ANOTHER SPOOKY GHOST STORIES EPISODE !!!

[@pilot5684]

Sarah sounds like a gentle parent ...... to me

[@connerolmedo888]

43:47 Fed Nulmer single handedly ruining Yale reputation

[@ginger646]

I have been told that if you see random money or valuables on your car, it’s meant to trick you back out of your car. Used for human trafficking.

[@TheShauNanigans]

Maybe in a random setting, but in the same apartment complex over and over where you are extremely likely to see your neighbors again?

[@amandahayes2306]

😱😱😱😱 Sarah, my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE GUEST, now I'm extremely excited to sit down and enjoy this podcast even more.

[@amazinggracie20001]

DO NOT REMOVE RANDOM ITEMS ATTACHED TO YOUR CAR!! Sex traffickers will use that as a tactic to mark cars and also to trap victims.

[@mariehorseluver9404]

That was my thought too? That they're trying to see who's in/out. Either that or the fake bills are adverts to some business or someone to try to trap people...?

[@PeonyLilacHydrangea]

You are most likely to be trafficked by a partner or a family member, statistically. It rarely happens between strangers (ex: urban legends)

[@jules194]

Maybe for the person with the desk, is it possible to move the position of your desk to face more towards the door so you don't turn around to look at the door, you just look up? Or to move it a bit away from the door or the middle of the common area? (Also, it's okay, don't feel awkward, it's normal to look towards something when you see movement. It's just instinct, everyone does it :))

[@jennyw5904]

the last girlie didn't eat the cookies??? And always walks around with headphones in? Sounds like she doesn't want to speak to anyone ever 😭

[@static2735]

my only thought was she might have an allergy but be too awkward to bring it up? unfortunately there's not really a non-awkward way to handle it when that happens

[@anonymixx8106]

I need Miles and Sarah to understand that I am quite literally here explicitly because I know that they're going to be doing something at the one minute mark like talking about peas and whether they're "the problem." The vulnerability Miles talked about being a given for them in the episode w Jordan and Kendall, is always shining with these two... im OBSESSED 😂❤

[@saradeee]

claim the scent! LOL also the bachelor boys should take bridal/wedding planning questions idk why but it would be so funny

[@snozwanger760]

Such a fantastic episode! Found the podcast through your having Smosh members on, and I'm hooked. The chemistry between Sarah and Miles is wonderful. I really enjoy the mix of silly and heartfelt advice. My partner and I are Old Spice Fresh high endurance girlies. Off to find another Sarah episode!

[@andyqv-goodvibes1900]

yalls get real segment had me crying tbh #goals and very happy for you both even though I dont personally know you. Thanks for sharing your triumphs and also anxieties with us. we really arent entitled to it but its so lovely to have and I feel I can learn from you both especially with how you navigate your relationship. Yall should do a couples advice episode :)

[@PrettyMuchIt]

15:16 🎅🏼

[@andyqv-goodvibes1900]

i see Sara Bonsignore I click :) but then again, I watch every ep hehe big fan!

[@nikhoovie]

Oh to hear about dollars being left on cars and think “I love a mystery” rather than “that’s definitely a trafficking scheme and they need to call the police” 😅

[@angelita98gaby]

I was thinking the same thing!!! I was yelling “DONT PICK THEM UP, RUN INSIDE AND HAVE THE BUILDING STAFF CALL THE COPS” 🗣️ Ever since that honey bottle car thing on TikTok a few years ago I’m always wary when I see something that looks weirdly left behind - a van with covered windows might be lurking waiting for you to be distracted by inspecting the oddity.

[@a1yssaa]

Miles I love this pod!! A few months ago i found ur podcast but was a fan thru trypod, i binged watched every ep and am always excited each week for a new one!! i also make a playlist every night of like 2-3 eps to fall asleep to (which i end up staying up longer and laughing in bed @3 am lol)

[@kraftsmacaroni]

need an ID on sarah’s sweater it’s soooo cute

[@MissGhostface]

My three year old daughter made up her own cuss word. She gets mad at us and calls us a "bitchhead". Valid. Honestly, I AM a bitchhead! 😂😂

[@justsophia22]

NO WAY ITS SARAH 💜 love these eps!!

[@SweetCarolineBAMBAMBAM]

Same. She just...gets it!

[@iIichiI]

can’t wait to play this while i clean later 🙂‍↕️

[@jenhuffine7030]

The dollar thing makes me think of my friend and I hiding tiny ducks all over our work to entertain ourselves and confuse and amuse our coworkers and customers

[@monyx2926]

Oh my! I have a rare (for adults) blood disorder, ITP , Idiopathic Thrombocytopenia Purpura (Idiopathic= no known cause and no known cure.). It was Genentech that, many years ago, came up with a medication for it called NPlate. (It was marketed to cancer patients who needed to bump platelet counts after chemo treatments since the market for a rare disease is low I guess.) I was in the second round of clinical trials. It bumped me into remission. It has been over 22 years now! I do not love big pharma, but I am so grateful for this! I, also, did not have to pay for it since it was a clinical trial. Everybody else who got the drug and not the placebo also went into remission. (Yes, we all chatted in the waiting room.)

[@silvermoon808]

these episodes make my day every week, I look forward to them every time! Thank you for doing what you do Miles!! 😊

[@hannahcorcoran7513]

Every episode with Sarah is the best episode 🫶🏻

[@JerseyQuinn]

I love their matching outfits ❤❤

[@mariellinda8624]

I cannot believe this. I literally just put ice on my shoulder because arthritis and picked up my phone to watch my third episode ever. I just picked randomly. Now we are connected by red string theory lmao. Shout out to Angela.

[@catlover4319]

absolutely love love love seeing sarah here. wished there were more places to see sarah content. also sarah post more!!!! miles youre doing so great you are truly doing the thing ❤❤

[@robnyyy]

the one about the random money pinned around- ive definitely heard this can be a trafficking tactic!!

[@michellemarlin1424]

Holy hell the baby bib mix up is the most hilariously relatable relationship thing- just laughing at each others goof ups can be some of the best moments

[@allbeastudies]

After the vibes of the last episode, seeing Sarah feels like a blessing

[@PokhrajRoy.]

This is one of the best podcast pairings ever ❤

[@Emmysn0w]

Yay Sarah our mother

[@itsme_taylorlee]

Miles, if you ever are feeling down or need validation, come to your comments! We all love your content. You are a true entertainer. If I see you involved in any project, I immediately click. You are my favorite KZbinr for sure!!

[@M-Joy]

audiobooks are reading too! accessibility is important! But also, I'm really enjoying the audiobooks of ACOTAR

[@spiercephotography]

I love the podcasts with you and Sarah! You're just so much fun together

[@allison4025]

lol I also liked my fiancé’s Old Spice deodorant so much I stole it for myself

[@elliottsalibi]

as you should

[@SweetCarolineBAMBAMBAM]

I love the idea of small problems!❤

[@melbapeach162]

The "money prank" call reminds me of when I got given a pack of 100 little pipe cleaner easter chicks so i started hiding them all around work.. nobody knew who was doing it lol i hope they are still finding them years later. There is even one behind a panel in the wall from before a hole was fixed 😅

[@emms-700]

Miles, your pod is now part of my work from home survival kit! You bring so much joy! Also, whenever Sarah is on I know it’s gonna be 🔥🔥🔥

[@charlotteheckathorn]

the last segment made me cry. as all Sarah and Miles episodes do

[@_karlavane_]

A new Sarah episode! Let’s goooo!!

[@sam_art21321]

the ATL show was so fun! being jumpscared by Miles appearing out of nowhere frantically handing out bananas was an experience😂

[@naitsumaki]

Sarah is my favorite guest and she needs her own show. 😤❤️

[@merrilymeriadoc]

the perfect people couple ♥️ as an accountant i FEEL the stressing over numbers (lol) but just remember it's all made up mumbo jumbo in the end 😎

[@elisefyhrie6256]

Just want to let Miles know that I loved this episode. One of the only podcasts I actually watch every week.

[@elisefyhrie6256]

Also, sometimes your episodes show up in my podcasts on the KZbin music app and sometimes they don't and I have to go find them on KZbin. Not sure if this could be affecting your view counts.

[@beckmannm]

LOVELY episode as always!!

[@gothicbunny9ify]

Sarah is everything 💎 honestly, nothing but the best for our boi

[@findparadise]

"Numbers are hard, man. 1..2.. 3.. don't even mention 4" Why is this my exact sense of humour lmaoooo

[@CosmicHelm]

Advice that will go for meows

[@MangoMintMickey]

If y’all do an animal episode I absolutely have content for that

[@anonymixx8106]

Its very good for kids to understand as soon as possible that a boundary is a boundary, period. ❤

[@jenniferruiz-o8u]

Loving Sarah’s new hair!!

[@jenniferruiz-o8u]

New hair job or whatever u call it 🤣

[@Cashhhhew]

So now we have two times that Sarah almost flashes the camera 😂 Love her confidence

[@katrinacarlin9634]

My click through speed when I see Sarah on an episode is unreal

[@riribeasley4741]

Sarah you’re never boring for starters, but I felt the EXACT SAME until my kid was about 3. I’m finally interested in my own hobbies again and I don’t think about parenting as much. It will happen! You’ll get back to yourself 🤍

[@TM.BECK14]

I felt a big shift into feeling more like "me" again around when mine turned 3 as well!

[@Mikeobdraws]

And juuuust to be sure, purely for research purposes, that was Old Spice Fiji being discussed here? 📝📝

[@EvWuzhere]

Imagine miles showing the clip of sarah talking about him at the end to his younger self that surely thought he was unloveable

[@Josieeeeeeeeeee]

for the money story, they should NOT pick it up. that sounds like human trafficking.

[@TheShauNanigans]

I always love a Sarah episode so much. I feel like she and I think the same way about a lot of things. Her take on whether her underwear is showing, or anyone's underwear for that matter is my take as well. I hope I never dress my age, which I think is a similar idea.

[@jordynclark444]

Miles. Will you hire me to redesign your set? In my mind I’m seeing a whole wall of vintage phones and it is glorious .

[@a_valentine]

For caller #1, you're doing the Lord's work. I had an ultra rare blood disease as a child (actually caught it twice, which is even RARER) and to this day, doctors don't know the long term affects of it and how it may affect my overall health, but they have a lot of inferences about it being potentially harmful for my heart and lungs - and I'm in a demographic where heart disease is especially prevalent. 🙃 knowledge is power!

[@petravanbommel9877]

I believe that the cologne being referred to at 24:01 is RL Polo lol

[@kelsimorse1909]

Miles if you’re going to react to the ACOTAR audio books you should do the graphic audio versions 👀

[@cleleoleo]

oh miss sarah is SERVING

[@bug.me.with.a.caterpie]

Had to be here early just incase something spicy gets edited out again 💀💀💀

[@sillyghost98]

What happened before?

[@bug.me.with.a.caterpie]

@@sillyghost98 The one time Miles takes a call from a straight cis male and the caller turned out to be a manipulative creep towards his gf. Setting back our progress against toxic masculinity in the straight cis male community.

[@celydejesus4094]

You guys make my day!!!