DBT Skills Checking The Facts (Emotion Regulation)

[@come.tothinkoffit]

Oh wow. Another fantastic video. I really enjoy these weekly uploads with my morning coffee so i've went ahead and bought you one too as a wee thanks for the great content 😊. Cheers ☕️.

[@LewisPsychology]

It's great to hear you enjoy my videos and so kind of you to buy me a coffee. Thanks for your continued support, it's greatly appreciated. Wishing you well, Teresa.

[@kalileokalilei]

It sometimes helps to have someone trustworthy to facts check with. Unfortunately, some of us don’t have anyone around, or worst, have people who are trying to help but are actually making it worse. It took me a lifetime to learn to facts check by myself and it is still hard because the process takes time, only because at first, my emotions are in the way of my reasoning. Once the emotions have clear themselves up, then I can assess what the situation is, and why I am being emotional about it.

[@faithn7320]

01:21​ - Step One: WHAT IS THE EMOTION YOU ARE TRYING TO CHANGE? 02:00​ - Step Two: WHAT IS THE EVENT THAT TRIGGERED THE EMOTION? 02:53​ - Step Three: WHAT ARE YOUR INTERPRETATIONS, THOUGHTS AND ASSUMPTIONS ABOUT THE EVENT? 03:54​ - Step Four: ARE YOU ASSUMING A THREAT? 04:35​ - Step Five: WHAT IS THE CATASTROPHE/Worst possible outcome? 05:27​ - Step Six: DOES YOUR EMOTION AND/OR ITS INTENSITY FIT THE FACTS?

[@musically3626]

Needed it,Love it..thanks from India

[@LewisPsychology]

Thanks for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@mfrancisco_850]

i love you so much thank you .

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you so much. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@come.tothinkoffit]

I'm also just wondering why does Simon think this way to begin with? Is there something deeper going on with Simon that a therapist would look into?

[@LewisPsychology]

Good questions. Yes, if this is a pattern of thinking I would certainly be delving deeper. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@ryanellis2197]

I think the problem is that it is very hard to ever fully "know" why someone thinks they way they do. For me, therapy is about how to deal with the here and now, rather than endlessly talk about what has happened in the past. As for potential reasons. It may be that Simon grew up in an invalidating environment where he was told one thing and then let down, told he was wrong or often made to question whether what he was thinking or feeling was accurate. It may be that he makes assumptions about whether people are being honest because its safer to think negatively and be prepped for being let down than to get your hopes up and get dreams shattered. There are any number of reasons and its not always that productive to go over the issues repeatedly. Regardless of the reasons, he thinks as he thinks. Lets deal with that.

[@russellbyrne376]

Great vids

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you Russell. Best wishes.