The Truth About Dissociation And Trauma

[@nekosmentalspace]

This is so me. When I talk about my trauma, especially CSA trauma, I talk about it as if I'm talking about a movie or documentary that happens to have me as the main role. I have no emotions when talking about the events. I can sometimes feel tears escaping my eyes, zone out or feel some kind of physical pain, but I don't feel the emotions.

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you for sharing your experience. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@andrewrees8749]

What is CSA trauma ?

[@abigailgonzalez6078]

@@andrewrees8749look it up, love. It’s censored for trigger warnings. I’d type it but I want to respect op. 🫶🏼💖💕

[@lisacouture4124]

This was probably one of the clearest explanation of what I’ve experienced! So clear it brought me some peace cause it’s so scary.

[@spctvl03]

Thank you for including daydreaming on that spectrum, I have ADHD and C-PTSD and dissociations either way can be exhausting, the time blindness and "coming back" feelings are the worst, but my therapist uses similar grounding techniques you explained here. Thank you for this!

[@avihalberthal3898]

As a counselling student, i am so glad i found your channel, it's so informative and yet pleasant and reassuring. Thank you

[@LewisPsychology]

That’s great to hear, thanks for your support. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@cappokenneth]

I suffered as a child I don't know when it started but checking my medical records I was diagnosed with Schizophrenia in 1961 when I was 11 years old, this proved to be a miss diagnosis, I found whole days with no memory, I would go to bed and wake up the next morning only to find a day or two had gone by and sometimes 4 or 5 days, I would have no memory of anything that had happened during this time, I had no idea what I had done, it was a total blank, words can't describe the fear of things I could have done, I made arrangements and appointments without any knowledge and never turned up, I would go to work to find the job I was working on was finished and I had no idea what I was meant to be doing, I was fired a couple of times for things I knew nothing about, it gradually got less and less as the years went by and stopped when I was about 25, I'm 72 now and still have a fear of it starting up again, I was never diagnosed, there was very little information back then in the 50s and 60s, so I just learned to live with it... Ken

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you for sharing your story Ken. I'm really sorry to hear what you have been through. With best wishes, Teresa.

[@cappokenneth]

@@LewisPsychology I hope this gives hope to anyone who is suffering from this kind of illness, time can cure this even without any treatment, have faith.

[@kimberlytrent5245]

@@cappokenneth that has not been my experience.

[@kimberlytrent5245]

Ken, I am sorry you have suffered so much in your life. I'm sorry for the things that happened that cause you to dissociate. I relate to your pain. The dissociative symptoms I experience are not exactly the same, but I understand childhood trauma is the catalyst for this as it is a survival mechanism. We deserved so much more. ❣️😕

[@Michelle-mu2ux]

I wonder if you had a head injury or if it was something you ate? Maybe something in your house?

[@Meowthmeow]

I just got diagnosed with childhood dissociation and this makes so much sense

[@weightlossandwellness]

After losing a lot of weight (because I turned to food for comfort due to childhood trauma) I am working through trauma and what I always called my "unreal feeling" (dissociation). Your videos are helpful!

[@LewisPsychology]

I’m pleased to hear my videos are helpful. Thank you for sharing your journey. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@aysekahraman5489]

This is great. You are very articulate and can explain difficult concepts easily. I will be using this tool with my clients.

[@LewisPsychology]

That’s great to hear. Glad it was helpful! Best wishes, Teresa.

[@ShintogaDeathAngel]

One of the scariest ways I (apparently) dissociate is suddenly (mostly temporarily, however) losing interest in people I've been getting closer to, or want to be closer to. I can really like them and be 'into' them (platonically, or romantically, but romantic is worse) then suddenly there's little to no interest. This can happen whether the interest on their part is mutual or not (and also happens with hobbies - I can have done something and derived pleasure from it for years, or start something new and be intensely interested for a while then I'll suddenly go cold towards it and can't get away from it fast enough. Last time it happened was after a martial arts session - I carried on for a few weeks after that, but it was physically painful forcing myself through the sessions). There never seems to be an actual trigger. I'm always left wondering what happened! I've started to dislike trying new hobbies as a result, and it makes me a little iffy about meeting new people, especially men who could potentially become romantic partners, though it isn't going to stop me trying to build connections. I daydream and fantasise a lot, too, which is relatively harmless in comparison to the above, still not great but at least it's not something I risk having to explain to another person.

[@SSS-ly9el]

So sad...I used to watch Coco because he looks like my cat & I can't keep him with me. At least you did all you could for him & made his life enjoyable & comfortable & he won't be suffering no more ❤

[@divatalk9011]

This is so well put. I went through a very traumatic adolescence and I talk about it like I’m David Attenborough talking about a lion, it’s completely detached from my body.

[@StewartCoad]

Will you stop doing this ... I'm becomming addicted to your videos 😀.. they are Sooooo good. You clearly and susinctly explain things I have been trying to work out for decades. The binge eating is EXACTLY what I go through. As you said "When it hits I eat everyhting I can get my hands on". I've gone to the point of not having much food in the house to try and stop it, but that does not work as when it hits I'm off out down to the shops buying more than ever.

[@andreabroomfiled3244]

Thank you for this wonderfully clear explanation. I love the container exercise and will definitely be using this ☺️🙏.

[@LewisPsychology]

Thanks Andrea. It's great to hear you will use the container exercise with your clients. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@kimberlytrent5245]

Thank you for your videos. They are so clear and easy to understand. Thank you.

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you for your support Kimberly. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@goddessvibes2345]

I haven't experienced any trauma, trauma is a strong word. Yet, I experience dissociation practically every day it's almost like my default state. But no trauma, just stress from experiencing sensory overload from the constant noise, stong smells, and ugly artificial lights. Being bombarded with advertisements and instructions like we can't think for ourselves.

[@NKRAIEM]

Very helpful. How damaging can dissociation be ? I feel I got robbed of being myself for 52 years of life.. pls explain bc this is a very intense realization.

[@janiemiller825]

Me too 🥺

[@BruceWhealton]

Wow. I am so sorry. I can relate. I have had about two decades of problems related to grief and trauma. I thought I was alone in experiencing such detachment from normal life. It's hard to explain this to others and feel normal... to build relationships and find anyone who would understand and accept me.

[@trogdortheburninator3621]

When i was a kid being physically abused i would hard disassociate. Like it was happening there, but my conscience is here. In my adult life i disassociate when theres mad messes around me, the trama excepts a metal bar smacked against my person, and my conscience mind floats off to elsewhere. Eventually i clean up but expect something to happen while im unaware.

[@LewisPsychology]

I'm sorry to hear what you have been through and what you are still going through. Warmest wishes, Teresa.

[@amay167]

Is there a way to reactivate your pre-frontal cortex? I have been psychologically traumatised because I was gaslighted and I think staying in my current call centre job is not healthy for me because I feel disconnected from my former self. I have trouble confidence issues. How do I reconnect with myself with my emotions?

[@LewisPsychology]

Yes, activating your soothing system will be most helpful. Please view this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fomVf2yQa7B-f5osi=idXDgw3zi8IMJ9uV. Best wishers, Teresa.

[@erendiraramirez3159]

Thank you

[@carolemichell5648]

Hello, I appreciate very much your videos. Could you recomend me a link to some articles in the UK about trauma and sexual abuse treated with CFT ? I am a chilean psychologist formed in CFT and ACT therapies. I am working with several clients who suffered from this in their childhood. Thank you!

[@LewisPsychology]

The Compassionate Mind Foundation: www.compassionatemind.co.uk/ Best wishes, Teresa

[@drsandhyathumsikumar4479]

Very helpful . Thanks 🙏

[@LewisPsychology]

That’s great to hear. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@monet4993]

thank you you are amazing

[@LewisPsychology]

Thank you for your kind words. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@mischievousmuffin5568]

I have Amerihealth insurance. Stupid question but do you accept that? Id like to become a client if possible. You seem to have a firm grasp on this discipline. Great videos

[@LewisPsychology]

Thanks for your question. We do accept insurance but you are welcome to attend as a private paying client if you wish. Best wishes, Teresa.

[@Lifeletnothingholdudown]

Is it weird if one thinks this is ok because it is a safe zone, a way to escape? 7 is my first memory of doing it when a babysitter molested my sister and I, though it may be younger. I'm 67 now . I have a lot of trauma in my life from abusive alcoholic parents, and now dealing with an aging abusive parent is reactivating a lot of the trauma. I am doing therapy to help, but I have to wonder if there is really such a thing as complete healing when it's been decades. Reality can really hurt for some people.

[@summerdodson5493]

I'm not diagnosed but I definitely have it 😞

[@leep6279]

Thankyou thankyou thankyou 🙏💜