Self soothing is not something you can do instantly in a busy world. I pull my fingers through my hair and rock. Not socially acceptable. Not something done while driving for example.

Thank you very much. Incredibly helpful and have shared your channel with others.

Thanks!

Is IFS based on Freudian psychology?

Subtext of my divorced parents conversation to and about me, "You have to take care of me."

Be Perfect Driver Be Strong Driver Helpless, confused, critical, envious, Catholic single mother.

"Other people have it better than me"

Don't exist Don't be you Don't feel Don't make it Don't be important

one of the best videos on KZbin on ABCDE! Truly helpful for a counselling trainee!

i really like your clear explanations with case examples to illustrate, really helpful reource thank you

This is fantastic! Great presentation!

very useful info.

This is extremely useful and beautifully explained ❤

It's so weird also that I think about a future possible success I might have through my endeavors and I feel guilty about it, like how could I be this rich while my other family members are not. How weird right?

Is it possible to have different responses in varying scenarios?

Parent lol try to whole fake family of human trafficking Darvo their victims evil who the victims btw usually are the empathetic healers and spiritual gifted

I love your meditations or I should say your talks. They are very well informed about things like what happens in the brain, for any number of reasons May i simply askthat you talk about borderline personality disorder? because I hear you saying that you can choose this or choose that and people with bordrlije personality are terrified of abandonment, real or perceived.... and as I speak and for several years now I've been abandoned to awful little boarding homes for lots of money in rent, And the present one is costing me $900 a month and I'm told by the manager that he doesn't need the money when he gets somebody in here fast and they leave almost as fast as they get here because of things that are going on here, verbal abuse and gossip between all of about residents. Plus: same thing from the woman who cooks here. What happens to the mentally ill in mental health awareness month here in the US!! You sound like you might be from the UK, and I don't know , really. Here in America, it's May and May is supposed to be a mental health awareness month I got verbally abused by some overworked nurse in the ER , here in America at most private or public hospitals or in general, all the nurses and psych tecchs, etc... at least in the hospitals where I've been admitted to psych units all over Birmingham Alabama… They want their 12 hour shifts so that they can have three days or four days on and then three or four off and so they get stressed and they take it out on whom? Maybe you guess correctly: the mentally ill?

love your communication style, thank you

When I feel bad I say I’m unwanted and other people have it better than me. Life feels like a cruel game someone set up just to see how much I can take. Saying that out loud it’s so victimy that I can’t certainly believe this logically? But in the heat of the moment all these feelings are so very real I can’t deny them.

I don’t take no medication and I’m trying to prevent all of that. I agree I want to do it naturally I don’t want no prescriptions, so I’m trying to heal my body naturally I subscribe to you I like hearing what you’re saying it’s true.

Yeah you’re absolutely right my gut does affect my brain big time and I’ve had celiac disease I stay away from gluten, but through the years with this immune system that I got, I had adrenal problems thyroid, and now my body has attacked itself with Addison’s disease, and you are absolutely right the gut does affect the brain. It really has messed my life up I am trying to do better with sauerkraut, kimchi and Kiefer yogurt trying to get my gut straightened out because I have diarrhea, which is really messing my life up

This is a great video! I wonder if you have encountered clients who is not comfortable doing the empty chair technique? Does it depend on the personality or culture of the client? Thank you.

really good explanation - short and succinct

What about intuition or gut thoughts

This isn’t a complete representation of the dorsal vagal branch. Yes, it can, in high activation, switch on and take us into a place of “shut down.” It can ALSO be, when supported by ventral vagus activation, helpful for rest, restoration, and regulation. There is such a thing as dorsal rest. In this state, our bodies can allow for integration and healing. It’s not always a bad, “shut down” situation. It’s the body’s natural rest-as-a-means-of-preservation mode. For example, when my body is hormonally affected by my PMDD just before my period, my lower energy is an invitation for me to lean into a slower pace and invite in adequate rest. There’s Dorsal Rest and there’s Dorsal Freeze. Dorsal rest can 100% be experienced from a place of safety in the body. Again, I don’t disagree with any points you made; I’m not arguing these to be inaccurate representations of these branches, just incomplete. And, really, just the dorsal part. I feel you did a solid job with the rest! I just wanted to name that because I feel this is the most commonly missed aspect regarding all things polyvagal theory. Sending love.

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Thank you verry much !

What a great explanation!

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do all parts hold different burdens? if yes how do we identify and differentiate them

Eating is a problem sleeping too, my head feels fuzzy all the time

Do burdens=negative core beliefs? Thank you so much for your videos, they are so helpful.

But neuroception is different for everyone due to life's conditioning processes and genetic variability. Everyone's autonomic system is different. Though neuroplasticity, the autonomic system can also be better regulated. Otherwise psychotherapy would be pointless.

I have learning difficulties and I might have autism the problem I have is I always do something inappropriate at the wrong time and when I'm told off I feel guilty for a long time. How do I fix that and how do I stop doing these things

Love how simply this was explained. So clear! Thank you!

I experienced a loss very recently. I lost about 9 lbs and getting canker sores. Trying to take supplements but I can't eat I usually drink protein shake.

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Very informative video. Thank you madam.

Hello, I appreciate very much your videos. Could you recomend me a link to some articles in the UK about trauma and sexual abuse treated with CFT ? I am a chilean psychologist formed in CFT and ACT therapies. I am working with several clients who suffered from this in their childhood. Thank you!

Πολλά συγχαρητήρια για το βίντεο, καθώς και τα υπόλοιπα με την άδεια καρέκλα. Με βοηθήσατε πάρα πολύ να καταλάβω την Gestalt και τις τεχνικές της τώρα που σαν θεραπευτής σπουδάζω την συνθετική προσέγγιση. Να είστε πάντα καλά, πολλά χαιρετίσματα από Ελλάδα,

Excellent!!! Thank you. Many times I am thinking that I will be sick and nobody around me to call for help because I live alone and especially at night. I am struggling with it and I have high blood pressure. Your video is very helpful for me, and it's my first time to make such a confess.❤

My partner tells me to stop guilt tripping him but i feel like hes guilt tripping me by saying that....

Breathe while crying. Do NOT hold your breath. Nice deep breath. In and out.

I think the problem nobody addresses yet is why some people (for example) get super healthy on a Carnivore diet, whilst others do on a vegan diet, and so on. Different foods affect different people in different ways, it's incredibly complicated. I hope one day we know what's what. But I won't hold my breath.

Extremely helpful - thank you!

I was diagnosed with BPD about 5 years ago. I feel like I am in the state of flight every second of every day but I try to engage in healthy behaviors and I am cautious of my thoughts. This is the first I have heard of this and it makes sense to me. Although I do not have many memories of my childhood my dr’s have mentioned possible trauma. I even have to take medication for night terrors. This “theory” explains a lot. Thank You for sharing.

I wish i could make a Responsibility Pie for my parents making me feel guilty because I no longer follow their religious beliefs.

One one best friend died from suicide in March 2010 my brother was murdered in April 2010 another friend ODd sept 2010 my dad died of suicide in 2018 and my other best friend died from suicide 6 months ago. His brother was the one who died in 2010 and their older brother was stabbed to death in 2001 when we were 13. I feel like death has always followed me and I’ve never been able to grieve properly and always shut down.

Did you train with the BACP ? What do you think of no BACP diploma in counselling such as Chrysalis? I am going to be starting my level 4 Diploma in the autumn but I cannot decide on what course to take . I do not think it is the institute that makes you a good counsellor but more how much emotional "stuff" one has worked on . I do understand that employees might prefer the BACP qualifications but I believe I can sell myself whatever qualification I have .