PLOT TWIST?! How we Really Feel about Becoming Parents, Fun Weekend in Nash! | Julia & Hunter Havens

[@rebeccagraham6554]

I love that Hunter said seeing you as a mom will be a new attraction he has for you. It is so important to remember how much your woman goes through to bring that baby into this world and reminding her how beautiful she is, is so precious. I’m so happy for you two ❤

[@theawukufamily]

My first baby is 19 months and just got pregnant with baby #2… one thing I will say is, don’t listen to people that make the newborn stage sound miserable 😂 every experience is different but my son has actually been super easy and it truly is a precious time! I hate the mindset people try to throw at new parents where they tell you you’ll never sleep again haha it is a beautiful journey!

[@Erin_29]

Love this comment!🤍

[@ColbiBooks]

The sleep is definitely a hard adjustment, especially if baby will be breastfed. Every kiddo is so different and you never know how it will be until he is here. It is definitely instinct and you will know what to do right off the bat. That is the biggest thing that I realized within myself, is that I have good instincts especially when it comes to my son. Asking for help is the main thing especially Julia, for the sake of your mental and physical health, it’s important.

[@blkemerone4099]

Real words 🤝🏽

[@MultiHotmess101]

Your face Julia when Hunter made that sweet comment about you being the coolest mom was so heartfelt and priceless I’m beyond happy for the two of you! You both are going to be such great parents that precious boy is blessed already and so are the two of you!!

[@georgiasutterlin5038]

You should press some of the flowers, if you still have them! They would be so cute for a baby book! 💙💙💙💙

[@tiaratran]

That’s a great idea!! And/or get them Framed 🥹😍

[@earth2megg]

That would be super cute nursery decor with an ultrasound photo 🥹

[@ashleysandquist9092]

I don’t know if I’m the only one that feels this way, but I definitely don’t think you can prepare for the sleep deprivation. It will be tough, but you can do it and we’re all here for you! Once baby comes you guys will get in a rhythm and it will come naturally. Especially for momma, you’ll never fully be asleep pretty much ever again and that’s just our instinct, we hear everything! Love you guys so much, can’t wait to meet baby boy 🫶🏻✨

[@karaselpm2345]

“You’ll never be fully asleep ever again” THAT PART 🫶🏼🤞🏼

[@Kiera_R]

Totally AGREE!!

[@aestheticabandonment7330]

You guys seem like such solid people with great communication, a big love, considerate of each other’s well-being. You’ll be amazing parents to your baby boy! The truly worst thing about having a newborn is being overtired and therefore irritable and stressed(aside from the hormonal shifts and healing your body after delivery.) Finding shortcuts like securing yourselves ready-to-eat balanced meals and having people to help clean/do laundry. Do not underestimate the amount of laundry with all kinds of leaking that happens from mom and baby 😅 ESSENTIAL: always asking for help whenever possible: even if it’s a family member or well rested friend to just sit and watch the sleeping baby/the monitor while you catch up on sleep without panicking to check on your baby every second.(maybe that was just me! But like they’re a miracle you’re obsessed with them and worry all the time to make sure they’re good!) Like you, Julia, I was blessed with a supportive partner and he really stepped up from minute 1. Don’t overthink anything and enjoy every second of the newborn bliss when the time comes ❤

[@ArleneMartizzle]

I know this is a tip for a little bit closer to the due date but I wish we had prepped healthy meals like things we could freeze and throw in a crockpot/oven for a couple weeks while we adjust! Sending you guys so much love, patience and confidence in your new journey as parents! It’s such a fun new chapter! 🤍💙

[@archeresthetics]

I became a mom at 23 and the biggest thing for me was being a team with your partner. It’s easier said than done. Mom will make a ton of sacrifices but so does Dad so it has to be equal. Remember to take turns doing things, not just one person doing everything. Don’t forget to take of yourselves. 1000% finding a good healthy balance. ❤

[@kaylap5553]

I think the biggest adjustment is the newborn stage when you’re stressed and overwhelmed and happy and exhausted. That is the biggest time of change and adjustment. It’s hard but it’s so good. Just make meals in the freezer to have when you need them, sleep when you can, naps are wonderful, and make mental health a priority. So excited for you guys!

[@aestheticabandonment7330]

Literally all this! When I was expecting I thought these things were cliche but really they’re the ONLY thing we can have control over in the newborn stage. Resting ourselves and having meals ready because otherwise there are just not enough hours in the day, are there 😅

[@glamlife8059]

The number one tip I would give for new patents is go with your instincts. If you want to cuddle your baby to sleep. Then do it in the safest way of course. Get a very comfortable recliner/recliner/ rotating chair and your are set! Human babies are totally helpless. None of that crying out stupid mentality is gonna “spoil” your baby. They need love. And mamas always know best!! Never doubt that instinct with your baby. Even when experts tell you other wise. Everything else will be depending of your baby’s temperament and then you’ll adjust accordingly. You’ll probably have a very calm baby. I have that feeling! ❤

[@thebasicaquarius1392]

Love this advice, I wish I had followed this advice when my baby was born. I love co sleeping but was so scared to. I wish I could go back and sleep next to my tiny baby.

[@kassyg1456]

Yes❤ ive co slept with borh my babies and its the best decision ever. I feel their warm and you have that mother instinct that they are next to you and wont even move a bit lol

[@MamaIsles]

So happy for y’all. In my experience you cannot really prepare but I will say in these last months, enjoy quiet time, EAT OUT, hang out with friends. I always said I’ll just take the baby with me … but it’s not the same.

[@briannamunday3671]

Congrats! I am 31 with an 11 month old. My advice for going through that first year… Everything is SO temporary, that includes the bad/hard. Enjoy each other the most you can, and individually. Your life won’t end and you’ll still get time, but it will be different. Enjoy the get up and go at your leisure❤ try not to listen to the “just wait” comments… I was terrified of losing sleep and the struggle of being tired…and then my baby came out sleeping through the night since a month old 😂 also, getting yourself new treats for in the hospital and postpartum (favorite lotion, new comfy clothes, any type of mood booster) is helpful and fun for YOU, since life is about the baby so much that first 1-2 months. It’s such a beautiful experience, and the love you have for that tiny human is unlike anything you’ll ever know. Enjoy it ❤ congrats again!

[@marybuck5946]

YES!! I totally second what you said about each stage being so temporary (good & bad). And the stuff you’re so freaked out about (what bottles, then how to wean, etc) will come & go so fast. My kids are now 5, 4 & 3 yrs and I STILL remind myself of this.

[@ashtonphillips2934]

Yes!!! I agree. When i get frustrated at night because mine has woken up , I just remember everything is temporary and these times go by so fast!!!

[@kendallcurtis5593]

Loved that you talked about your goals for the week! Thanks for including us! It has motivated me for the week! WOOO! Hope you guys give us an update on how you did next vlog! Cheers!

[@kelsie3799]

I swear nothing can truly prepare you pre baby. When the baby comes being sleep deprived is so common and all of the things you planned on doing may not even work for you. Don’t beat yourself up. Taking care of yourself is first priority, take all the help you can get and enjoy those baby snuggles! Excited for you guys❤

[@alisontice6173]

I just had my first baby in December the one thing that you can do now is prep freezer meals!! Having food prepared is legit the most helpful thing in the first couple of months and I wish I spent more time doing it.

[@martymcgrady5535]

My husband and I are also eating really clean and laser focused on health. We have been most of our lives but now really focused. We just turned 60 and living our best life. I have been watching Bobby Parrish's channel FlavCity and he is awesome with all the clean eating videos. congratulations on your baby boy. We have five grown children and the number one thing you have to do is take care of yourselves. Do not give up the self-care, but cherish every minute because is goes soooo fast. You are entering the best part of life. We are now empty nesters and loving our new found freedom but miss our kiddos everyday! BTW...Sleep when baby sleeps!

[@cindygiesregen4467]

I have 3 adult married children that have young kids, so I’ve been there when grandbabies were newborns. Plus I can clearly remember bringing home my babies. So I just want to pass along some new parent “hacks”. You’ve got time to complete the baby’s nursery. Having a changing station in your bedroom for the first few months while baby sleeps in your room with you is nice of course but having a nightlight that you use in the middle of the night is wonderful. A device of some sort that rocks baby that is plugged in so it keeps going without stopping until you stop it. Since nursing a baby is an ‘art’ it’s important to be calm, relaxed and comfy when baby is nursing. Have daddy bring you a nice beverage and put your feet up. Enjoy bonding and try to stay in the moment. Drinking a lot of fluid helps prime your body to make milk. One of my babies wouldn’t latch on because he was distracted by every little thing. I finally took off my nightie, turned the lights down low and laid down on my side to nurse him without any distractions. Only had to do that a few times until baby caught on and didn’t want to miss out on a drop of milk. Then I could nurse him in any position I liked. The best advice I got from my husband’s grandmother on nursing successfully in the beginning was to not introduce any nipple other then your own and don’t give up. You have everything your baby needs in your milk, it’s the right temperature, it’s convenient, no bottles to wash. Once nursing is fully established after 6 weeks, then you can introduce an occasional bottle of your milk that you pumped. A good breast pump is important. Make up your mind that you are going to nurse your baby and don’t listen to people saying he’s not getting enough milk or he needs some water or a pacifier. Those actions will deplete your supply. Mother’s milk doesn’t usually ‘come in’ until day 3. So baby will be fine with just your colostrum (liquid gold)until then. Read now about how to successfully nurse a baby. SLEEP as much as you can because you’ll wish you had once baby arrives. You’ll do great Julia because when you make up your mind something is important to you, you get it done. Nothing is more important than giving your baby the most nutrient rich start in life that only you can give him. 💙

[@brittanysmith5620]

So excited for you guys 🥰 My tips as an almost 30 year old with a 3 year old boy: as much as you want to give up your selfishness and care for someone else, make sure you don’t give up your own self care and the things that bring you joy. It may be hard to see in the moment but it’s so important. It’s natural for your whole life to be consumed by a new little one but it can be hard sometimes to find yourself again in parenthood. Also, the perspective that has helped me the most through parenthood, is on the super hard days with lack of sleep or an upset baby, just remember that whatever you’re going through is only temporary and things will get better ❤️ you guys are going to be amazing parents!!

[@Kiera_R]

Totally AGREE!! ❤

[@martiebrown7080]

These guys are my fav!! Who else hits that 👍 button before the video gets started?!?! Put out literally the best quality content and put so much work into them! And can we say how awesome they always deliver by adding links to so many products and clothing?!?! Which is such a huge help! ❤

[@tiaratran]

Completely agree and I always like before watching too 🤩

[@jerrihanson3823]

You can get advice but it’s true every body with new baby is different. I had 3 boys and not one slept thru the night. That changes soon, but it’s overwhelming going thru it. I thought it was so sweet when Hunter said he’d see you in a new way when the baby comes. Neither of you have seen the love you’ll have for your baby and the love you’ll have for each other will be awesome to see. Also the love you have for your dogs is a good sign of what good parents you’ll be. Plus you both have amazing parents and families, I’m so happy for both of you.

[@KaseyGall]

ALWAYS give juj the 4-7am sleep stretch. It’s invaluable ❤

[@vaneeda1538]

we knew we wouldn’t be able to workout together anymore (except weekends if grandma comes over or something) but it’s been an adjustment to lose my gym partner and have almost separate routines in a sense. We now have to compromise who goes in the AM vs PM. It’s more so tough for me bc I feel like I don’t push myself as hard without him 🥲😂 just something random I don’t hear a lot of ppl saying. As for prepping, making dinners or even just pre chopping sides + blanching veggies and freezing them is super helpful when you want to avoid eating poorly bc it’s so easy to get everything cooked up super quick. Congrats you guys!

[@ElinaG85]

Just like another person said, you can prep and prep and you just don’t know until baby comes because they truly are all so different. I think it’s good to try to be go with the flow mentality. Sleep deprivation is hardest to adjust to. Maybe taking shifts with waking with baby. With the first we took baby everywhere and tried to be out of the house. With the second, I’ve tried to keep more of a routine with naps and keeping to a schedule.

[@ebonienyc1342]

When I had my twin daughters at the age of 26 my husband and I swore that we’d had our baby plan/schedule figured out. We were so, so wrong! My best advice is to prepare to go with the flow and gently transition so that you can actually enjoy the time of new change and live in the moment with your new life and family ❤

[@emg5659]

I knew it was a boy from the get go!! Booker is going to be the sweetest big brudder 💙🐶💙

[@Swaystheway]

Things that helped me (I’m 31 and my son is 21 months old) I was done with the nursery before he came (I know people say it’s not important but it made it so much easier because I felt like I had no time after he was here to do it) preparing my hospital bag was major by the time I was 33 weeks. I’m anal retentive 😂 also we took the taking cara babies sleep class (this was the biggest thing I would recommend, it helped us create a proper schedule for us and our son. This class helped us figure out how to get him to soothe himself to sleep and he’s been sleeping through the night ever since which is a dreammmmm come true) having everything setup and prepared helped ease my mind. I had my bedside table prepped with a diaper caddy. I had the bassinet setup next to our bed. So when we got home with him that first day it felt weird but also calm because we had setup and prepared before hand. Honestly it felt like a little vacation because my husband was home for 5 weeks with me and we created such a beautiful time together. Enjoy it for everything it brings! 🤍🤍

[@Erin_29]

You sound like me! I'm 36 weeks💝

[@deborah5578]

I disagree i had my last one in 1985 my grandmother came for a few days and it was a time i will cherish forever. She’s been gone at least 15 years. Plenty of time to bond, years. My grandparents, mom, and husband are gone. I wish i had more pictures of everyone that came over. All the love for a beautiful child. I was there for my grandchildren as well. It’s a special time when your own children have children. Words can’t describe.

[@Swaystheway]

Totally agree family being around was beautiful!

[@reneerussell5866]

Great advice 👍😃

[@daniellea629]

Continue to be the great team you seem to be! It’s VERY important for the dad to step up and support mom, especially during the breast feeding journey - if it doesn’t go to plan. My husband was instrumental in my mental health during the hard newborn phase. You lose a lot of sleep, but, if you’re a team, you can incorporate breaks amongst each other, to a certain extent. Be mentally ready for things to NOT go to plan, don’t get hung up on a plan. My baby just turned 2 months and I’m just starting to feel like myself again bc she’s sleeping really well (I’m lucky) so I have much more energy to workout etc. If your baby is happy and healthy, newborns do sleep a lot so it’s just a lot of sleeping and eating. You can feel like you’re in a hamster wheel for a bit but remember it’s temporary. You both will be excellent parents and you’ll find your way quicker than you think - a lot of child care is very instinctual. You can research all you want but the main thing is the experience and your instincts will kick in. Best of luck ❤❤❤

[@ninaroseee6286]

-Really lean into your new instincts as parents (gut feelings) -STAY OFF SOCIAL MEDIA for mainstream parenting advice (it rarely is catered to babies actual biological needs, especially baby sleep..babies just want to sleep on mom and dad instinctuall and our culture doesn’t get that) -you can’t spoil a baby/toddler with too much love -it can be an emotional rollercoaster for all but the mom mainly, just prepare for all the emotions and hold space. -DON’T TRY TO DO TOO MUCH EXTRA- all babies truly need is to be fed and cuddled in a safe space with loving parents (sunlight in the morning helps them too❤) Excited for your journey!! You guys got this.

[@Ashleysrus]

My biggest prep is having TWO changing stations. One in the parents bedroom & one in the living room. Since those were the main rooms.. & it’s in a basket.

[@jessahmarie818]

hi! i’m 23 and my daughter just turned 1! just wanna start by saying becoming a parent is the most amazing thing and biggest accomplishment! the beginning is very hard but so amazing. sleep deprivation is real, i was awake for the first 3 days of her life. it’s so important to ask for help because that first week is just a rollercoaster of emotions that i wasn’t prepared for. no one told me how emotional it is to birth your baby and feel like you can’t protect them as well when they are out of your belly. i had the baby blues and had never heard of them before. these things are so common for postpartum. having a supportive partner and sticking together is how you will get through it but it’s so beyond worth it, happy for you all 💖

[@sammimata]

We’re 26 and have an almost 4 month old. I have just a few tips! 1. Give yourself lots of grace for the first month. 2. Play to each others strengths. Who’s a morning person? Who is a night person? Choose someone to feed in morning or night including diaper changes ect. 3. Make it a goal to each shower once a day😅 it’s nice alone time in the beginning and a time to take deep breaths. 4. Look into if you want to “sleep train”. We do baby wise sleep/ feed training and our baby sleeps through the night and both get to workout multiple days a week and get back into the hobbies we have ❤ we have a boy too! Excited for y’all. ALSO meal prepping and freezing food!!!!

[@rwhite3119]

Congratulations to the both of you! I am so excited that you’re having a baby boy. May the good Lord continue to bless and keep you in His care.

[@exploringespadrilles6803]

Set up everything before. Have stations around the house, stock up on everything. Diapers, wipes and everything like TP, paper towels, etc...and the food I think is the hardest. If you can prep before great but I know that you want to cook food fresh and I think that is going to be the hardest for yall. BC we just stayed cozy and relaxed and rested during the day BC the nights were a bit rough at times. It does go SO fast and then you blink and they are eating solids and they are 1. ENJOY it. SOAK up the cuddles they are the best!!! Excited for yall!!

[@Alison_Nicolexo]

Absolutely love that mind set. I’m 26 and I have always gone back and forth with having kids, but you both opened up my perspective. Especially you Julia bc I’m around your height and always feared carrying a baby, but you make me feel more comfortable about it one day. Love y’all xoxo

[@TheRachelSarah]

Number 1 thing I wish we did was just spend more time doing things the two of us. And now that having a daughter for a year, I’m really happy we set up healthy sleep habits because she’s a great sleeper! I, excited for you guys because you are already such a great team and I know you guys will do amazing ❤ very excited to see you guys in your parenting journey

[@ashtinhenderson8545]

29 year old mom to 1.5 year old, and I’ve been watching you guys since before I was even pregnant, I’m so excited y’all are entering this phase of life! Tips - be patient with eachother and support eachother through the breakdowns (they will happen😅), look into taking cara babies for sleep tips and tricks, go on as many date nights as possible before baby comes!!, & even though the newborn phase is hard it’s also a time where their schedule is actually flexible so don’t be afraid to leave the house! I also had a boy, you’re both going to be obsessed❤❤

[@lisbety100]

Congratulations on the baby boy! New mom over here, and I would say the hardest adjustment was the sleep… it’s tough!! Just hang in there! and honestly shocked how much babies eat and how quickly the amount jumps from month to month! As much as you can try to prepare you can’t, however as long as you have a supportive partner you guys got this! Love your videos!

[@michelleallen4245]

Mom of two little blessings, and honestly, every experience is so different. Get ready to take a couple of lines or chapters from everyone and write your own book. Baby H will create an entirely new routine for you all. "Let's Go"🙏🏾🥳

[@alliebjames]

I’m 28 with 2 littles (4yrs & 2yrs) and I wish I slept more in the last trimester and rested during the days with the naps before the babies came! I woke up early and stayed up late naturally because my body towards the end was preparing for the wake ups 🥲 it’s the hardest adjustment but it’s just a season ❤️ the best part is having a husband whose super supportive and hands on!

[@heatherlivingood5326]

I cannot get wait to see you both flourish as parents!!! Your lives are about to be rocked for the BETTER!!! God is good!!! Sending love and peace your way!!! ❤ XO

[@janellalarid9678]

The biggest support from my husband was that he made sure every morning he made coffee and breakfast. He also tried his best to give me 30 minutes a day to shower or just unwind. #teamwork and just remember it's the first time you're both parents give yourselves grace.

[@cameronwallace5425]

My number one tip, I had 2 under 2 is to go with your instincts as a mother. Do less prep and research. Don’t worry about what the “experts” say you should be doing with your baby. Respond to love, love them, hold them, sleep with them, rock them, kiss them etc. do what feels right to you. It’s your baby and no one else will know them better 🤍 soak it all in bc they grow up so fast. They’re only little for so long

[@kaylaanderson6343]

I think you you guys have a great mindset going into it! It’s definitely different when your in the driver seat! How much love your going to feel for this child is goin to flood in and you will do anything for that baby doesn’t matter how exhausted you are. You both will fall into a deeper love when you see each other as parents its so amazing! give yourself grace the first couple of weeks and be in the moment which I think you guys are good at, just enjoy it because he’ll never be that little again! It’s hard to see past the sleep deprivation, take help when needed and if you can do night shifts! There’s no reason that both parents should be sleep deprived! 💙💙💙

[@edieh6792]

A baby boy.. Congratulations.. Your love and excitement is precious..😀😀

[@Blue42kangaroo]

You guys might have mentioned it already but where is Bookers Collar from???? I LOVE IT! I’m struggling to find a decent collar for my doggos active energy 🥰

[@crystalherrera2071]

Love your videos! ❤ please do an updated morning routine and more grocery/what we eat for the week videos! I run out of ideas 😅

[@lanerossetti]

We’re both 33 with one heavenly three year old, and an earthly 19 month old and here are some of the best tips I’ve received or would give - 1 Enjoy your baby - don’t view them as something you have to be doing but instead a nugget you get to be loving on . Such a gift, obviously, but being sure to do things with them that you’ll enjoy doing too. 2 Kind of hand in hand with 1, but putting your baby into your life rather than changing everything about your life to fit your baby (obviously not talking about eating or sleeping schedules). Use your baby as weight when working out, take them on hikes, let them drop the fruit in the blender, etc… 3 Remember that everything is new to them so what feels like monotonous daily life for you is a whole adventure for them. Going on Starbucks dates (we love these), grocery store outings, trying new parks - these are all brand new for your baby. 4 Sleep. Sleep. Sleep some more. Getting on a schedule is admirable and i totally get where y’all are coming from, but schedules/habits are formed and then your brand new nugget comes and you’re up throughout the night and just sleeping when you can, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself to get on a good schedule yet. That’ll happen naturally in the first few months. 5 Cuddle that puppy! We love our first baby little pup Pepper, but she definitely gets less attention these days. 6 Accept help from any family or friends who want to watch your baby. Even if that just means you going to take a nap. So happy for your guys, sending all our love and prayers and good energy to y’all! Such an exciting new chapter!

[@domoniquenavas2508]

So beautiful! I said boy the whole time! 🎉💙 yay! Also- I love your friendship with TT. You’re so cute & sweet together.

[@With.Love.Chris.]

Trout salad 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥. Baby Havens is so blessed and lucky to have you two as parents. ❤❤❤ Praying for full protection over you mama!

[@Sweetsumlertime]

IM SO HAPPY FOR YALL!!! I love you so much 💙💙💙💙💙 y’all are going to be the best parents!

[@t.spencer7176]

Taking a prenatal class really helped me feel more at ease. My nursery wasn’t 100% ready before my twins were born because they arrived early and that stressed me out so if you can get it ready early and stocked with all the necessities. Also, if it’s important to maintain your healthy eating lifestyle, I would prepare a simple menu to get you through the first couple weeks, otherwise it will be tempting to order via meal delivery services. Y’all have got this!

[@chrisses99]

Congratulations on baby boy!😌💙 I'm excited for you both to share, if y'all decide to, this part of y'all, as I'm a mom of two and its always great to have community in that. Becoming parents will definitely be humbling and change your hearts in a good way. You'll love in a way you never have to your significant other and love for the baby. Remember you can't take care of baby if you aren't taking care of yourself first! Also, use your resources, if you have friends/family or those medical emergency hot lines!

[@stephanied1810]

The one thing I would change is having frozen meals ready for the newborn stage. Make meals and freeze them because it is so hard to cook when you are exhausted plus needing to tend to a newborn 24/7 for the first couple of weeks.

[@kyleeryan4993]

3 words. Moms On Call. Buy the books. Game changer. Gave us a routine, taught us all the little things no one teaches you how to do & makes you feel like you’ve got a grip on things being new parents. Their sleep tips WORK

[@AlyssaLeiann]

It’s so fun to get to watch you guys become parents 🥰 at the same time that my husband and I are just starting the same phase of life. Never feel bad about baby content cuz I’m eatin it uppppp

[@coolpuppygirl199]

Omg so happy for y’all! Cannot wait to see this next chapter of your lives unfold! You are truly going to be incredible parents! 💕 PS I love when Hunter wipes the camera & makes that sound - makes me laugh every time, brings me back to quarantine!

[@georgiavarrelmann]

My parents ate super clean growing up and obviously fed us the same. No junk. At times it was frustrating because being a kid you see your friends eating doritos and other "yummies" for lunch, but I am so so thankful now. I am in college and home cook almost all of my meals and eat clean. They also workout every single day which definitely motivates the whole family. I couldn't be more thankful for them raising us that way, so I really respect and encourage putting that at the top!

[@Lauzip]

*i'm 29 y old, i have a 7 months old. I loved my sleep ins and ability to just pick up and go without thinking of a sitter/working around the babys schedule so for me i took advantage of those things. Biggest take away is think of what you cherish most in your routine now whether it be sleep/lounging on a couch/watching movies/working out/adventures/travel whatever, and do lots that! Personally, i knew my schedule would change drastically when bebe boy was born regardless, so i took advantage of going out for dinners on dates/with friends and out to the movies, also took advantage of sleep ins. your sleep schedule will be messed anyways from getting up every few hours with the baby so unless youre currently doing that, anything will be a change.

[@briannamichelledavis9138]

Well im a married 27 year old boy mom they are 7 and 5....I think the sleep deprivation was difficult for me. Congratulations again so excited for this new journey for you two!💙

[@ReinekeRobin]

Can we take a sec to admire how BEAUTIFUL Julia looks! Are you joking me!!!!!!!!! STUNNING! Congratulations, y’all!

[@JuJuBee223]

Ok congratulations on baby boy Havens .. !! 😊 I know you will have a baby shower but I’m so excited for you all to buy the baby a few little outfits. Take us with you shopping!!

[@Ceecee0311]

I just love y’all!! Congratulations on baby boy 🤍 The gender reveal shoot was everythingggg! 😍 Tip for new parents, routine and schedule!! My son is 3 and we’ve kept a sleep schedule since the beginning! It’s important. Some may disagree but I do not break my sons schedule for many things if any at all. Those quiet times while they nap, or bed time, are important for parents too 🫶🏼

[@luisjana00]

Ahhhhhhhhhh I loved seeing the behind the scenes of the gender reveal it was INKREDIBLE as Julia would say💙 I can totally relate on the healthy snacks topic, and I would say check our Costcos freezer aisle. They have good little things you could put in the air fryer for 10 minutes and go.

[@Nicholeheartzu]

I'm obsessed with plain Greek yogurt with ranch seasoning. I like to use it to make a chicken salad or as a dip with some veggies and sometimes salt and vinegar chips .. so yum

[@Janay_12]

Congrats again ! Love the blue top. Where is it from ?

[@lindsayflynn]

Take it easy the last few months! After that your whole mindset changes. You always have a little one you're thinking about/worrying about/taking care of. Also, mentally prepare for your own journey with it! Every single baby is different, so don't have any expectations!!!

[@ngrandinette]

Hi!! My best advise would be to prepare as if you have a 3 month old or even a 6 month old in the house. Time goes by quick and you’ll have a lot on your plate, you don’t want to be preparing/buying things for your growing baby- you should just have it all ready. Set up the camera, have the playpen ready, wash the 3/6 month outfits- anything you’d want for your baby when they’re a little bigger, set it up! It’ll make life so much easier, your mental load will be crazy, you don’t want to add to it as your baby grows. Stay ahead of the game. ❤️❤️❤️

[@ashtonphillips2934]

I’m a new mom! My baby girl is turning 8 months next week & the one thing I would tell all new parents is do what you believe is best for your child. I know people have a lot of opinions and “advice” but you can respectfully not take it. 😂 if you want to cuddle your baby to sleep, have contact naps, hold him, and not let your baby cry his eyes out , then do it. Babies need love and want to feel safe so do you mama! I’m a breastfeeding mama & people tell me not to nurse her to sleep and I still do it because it’s what my baby’s loves and wants at night. You’re gonna do great as parents!!! 💙

[@judyrivait2020]

You two will be the best parents for sure ❤️

[@shelbyleathompson]

Like so many people have said below, it’s something you truly can’t prepare for. We have a 15 month old and are both 31! Someone below said to give Julia the 4-7am sleep and I 100% agree with that! I breastfed so I was the one up during the night for feedings. My husband would take our son after the 4am feed and let me sleep uninterrupted for several hours and it was life changing. Another suggestion would be to prep some frozen casseroles or frozen dinners that you can just pop in the oven during the first couple months of figuring things out.

[@Aimeeeee09]

Taking Cara Babies was key! You’ll hear that you’ll never be able to sleep again but you will def adjust and lean on each other to switch off w/ baby so y’all can each rest. Schedule a newborn shoot when baby is 3 weeks old Meal train with friends/fam for first couple of weeks was so nice. We did a huge Costco & TJs run before baby was here too🤍

[@antionetteholland3727]

I understand how you feel regarding your eye issues. It takes time to process it. I went to the eye doctor for contacts and left with a prescription for eye drops which I have to take everyday for the rest of my life. I have good days and bad days. a total lifestyle change….Stay positive !!!

[@cayceefairbanks]

Hunter missed the perfect opportunity for another nickname for Booker with the red collar…PAWtrick Mahomes 🤣

[@patricia0909ify]

Honest tip is just enjoying each other so much just you two go on dates and have fun. Everything will flow once baby gets here. ☺️

[@kimesser2318]

Tips from this 65 mother of 3…….. sleep schedules are important as they get older, newborns obviously are different, when feeding in middle of night , try not to stimulate baby with bright light or talking. It will help them go back to sleep. Those are 2 tips I learned and prepared better with kid 2,3.

[@beapurcell]

I agree with everyone in saying Sleep is the hardest adjustment and you really don’t know what it’s like until you experience it. Basically your mind doesn’t shut off. It’s not necessarily that you can’t find time to sleep Because you absolutely can.. but your brain won’t let you…. Constantly thinking about baby even when they’re sound asleep. You’ll wonder if they’re breathing ok, comfortable etc. and eventually you’ll get comfortable with being uncomfortable. I’m 1.5 month postpartum. Also check in with your OB because PPD is a real thing and it’s really hard when you’re not getting sleep. Also if breastfeeding becomes exhausting, don’t feel guilty if you want to switch to bottle feeding. Pumping breast milk.. giving a bottle is perfectly fine and easier for baby 😊 You also can’t know this until you go through it Breast feeding, expressing milk, pumping is EXHAUSTING! It takes 20% of your energy ❤ Congrats on baby boy enjoy the little memories Also BEST thing after you have your baby.. you can basically eat what you couldn’t before(but consider baby food intolerance if breast feeding) I ate salami and deli meat all the time after delivering my baby. It’s all I craved since you can’t eat it during pregnancy And for Hunter… if Julia is breast feeding.. help her around the house! Be there to support her in other ways. There’s a lot you won’t be able to do and that’s ok. But always bring her WATER when she’s feeding/ pumping :) best advice I can give lol

[@racheljackolski5113]

Sleep was one of the hardest adjustments for me 🥺 sleep deprivation can do some wild things to ya 😵‍💫 get your naps and sleep in now! And when baby is here, sleep when baby sleeps 😊 and remember .. it is such a short phase of life. It’s hard to remember that when you’re in the moment, but the newborn phase will pass quickly .. and then you’ll miss it .. and need to make another 🫶🏼😂

[@dayciadukes]

If I could go back I would create AFTERNOON routines for myself. 🌼 I loved my morning routine before a newborn but even now as a stay at home mom my routine happens hours after I wake up during morning nap! 😊

[@dayciadukes]

Also if I could go back I would absolutely hire a lactation consultant and Doula!

[@britanicruz]

To prep: I would get rest now before baby comes! And honestly just enjoy! I absolutely love the new born stage!! It’s a beautiful time and take in every second! Be as present as possible! As a couple just be a team! Be honest when you need something like a nap or a break. I think it’s great idea to get someone to come help clean! Every situation is different so just take note of areas you feel uncomfortable so you can make adjustments! It’s a beautiful time!

[@Jennj29]

Congratulations on baby boy 💙 Accepting help.. because you don’t think you’ll need it until your in it. As a mama especially it’s a 24/7 attachment with you and babes if breastfeeding. And it can be overwhelming at times. Sleep is hard, as a new parents you’ll be hovering over him making sure he is breathing every 20 min. So sleep pretty much doesn’t happen, but my husband and I would be up all night just waiting for our daughter to wake up to eat and it was some of the most fun times we have ever had. We were exhausted but we would watch movies, have snacks lol. It was a blast! It almost doesn’t feel like real life, it takes awhile to set in that your parents!!!! And the after birth hormones are all over the place for awhile, you might feel crazy but I promise you it’s normal 💗 I’m so excited for you three. This is going to be the best journey. Being a mama/dada is honestly the best, exhausting but literally wouldn’t have it any other way.

[@lisasander6902]

Meal prepping! Like freezer meals so it’s easy to eat healthy but you have already got it ready to go. Also having booker around like kids to get him used to a new baby.

[@dreeamari6709]

We just had a baby almost 3 months ago and there is a lot I wish I was more prepared for. The routine is important sure but honestly it all goes out of the window when the baby comes. You are pretty much on their schedule, especially for the first few weeks - newborns are born without a circadian rhythm. Honestly the first few weeks were a challenge but it’s so important to be in tune with your partner so you can both help each other and lean on each other. Another tip is - if baby is crying he is most likely hungry or needs a diaper change. My baby was crying all the time and I was clueless because we just fed and changed him I would literally breastfeed for an hour straight- well turns out my milk supply was very low and the poor guy was not full . This ties into the last thing I wish I was more prepared for is the breastfeeding journey- I really underestimated how much effort and energy goes in to it so I def recommend getting educated before birth and maybe speaking with a lactation consultant especially if you want to breastfeed. I would also recommend having formula on hand just in case- we ordered ours from Europe because they have a large variety of organic brands without the nasty ingredients.

[@janafiorentino8474]

before baby, get sleeeeeeeep you will never get it the same again especially Julia, watch a movie because it will be difficult later, going out to eat for a nice dinner because that will be hard as well. but always trust your mommy instincts when people are giving you advice, you know best.

[@janicewilliams6056]

I am old but I had 3 kids and each of their demeanor was different. I think it's great Julia that you have such a great partner in Hunter and I know you will work together and support each other when needed. You can have a cryin baby or a baby that is content and that you have to wake him up to eat. Just enjoy the infant stage. It's a hard stage because they can't tell you what they want but just know that phase goes by so fast. And that first time he sleeps through the night your like, what just happen. LOL. And then the next night he might not Also what was hard for me is that the grandparents wanted to come and stay as soon as the baby was born to help out and with good intentions but I found out next time I just wanted my husband and I because this was our bonding moment with our baby. You learn as you go and don't be ashame to ask questions for tips.But like the others said every baby is different. One of my children was a crier but would sleep to the sound of the dishwasher, so we taped recorded the dishwasher and would play the tape for her naps. I guess she like the swishing noise. LOL Best wishes for you both.

[@AlyssaHeaster]

I love seeing you with your friends so precious and loving and sweet

[@ashleygoodale9000]

Sleep was really important for us so we wanted to be as prepared as possible to create a great routine for our little one who is 20 months now. I would highly recommend watching/researching feeding sleeping routines (Taking Cara Babies is what we went with). We are so happy we did this to prepare because after she was here we would have hands down not been as successful with all of that and would have just been while losing our minds.

[@Momtingz]

Mom of 3. The newborn sleep is something you cannot prepare for and was the HARDEST thing for my husband and I. I am a person that neeeeeds my sleep. And that newborn sleep phase is hard AF. Literally thought I would loose my mind lol. Mixed with intense post Parton hormones and a completely different body nothing is the same- you start to feel like who am I. It takes time to mentally find yourself again. Something no one ever warned me about❤

[@raemcferrin110]

Practice giving yourself and your body GRACE!! Accept the help, allow yourself to take time for YOU!!

[@geraldinefeind9676]

I love it that you guys are making these changes,, you guys are going to be wonderful parents, I was ready for the changes after baby girl came, the kisses the cuddles, I loved nursing so much, made me eat healthier, for my babies, some advice I took , especially from my Mom and my sister, MY HUSBAND AND I FELL DEEPER IN LOVE HAVING Our BABIES, after my two girls couldn’t have anymore due to complications, so never had my boy until my grandson came along,, we are very close and he’s graduating in May, couldn’t be any prouder,, I’m so happy I had two children, my girls are very close, 34 and 39 I CAN’T WAIT TO SEE BABY BOY HAVENS, ❤❤❤😊👍🏻😌☺️🙃😌😊🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@marybuck5946]

Sleep is the hardest. In the beginning, we had to feed every 2 hrs (then 3 hrs, 4 hrs, etc) whether the baby was awake or not. Not getting a solid chunk of sleep SUCKS. Literally made me sick with each kid just being run down. I would tell any friend with the financial means to look into getting a night nurse, even 1-2 nights a week for the first month or two. Same goes with help during the day if you plan on keeping a similar work schedule. You guys will be fantastic parents regardless!

[@alishasaif1895]

Young mom here (I also breast fed) so it depends on what you choose to do!! - plan to Co- sleep or have a bassinet attached to bed this way you don’t have to leave in the middle of the night -have a mini fridge or microwave in the room temporarily this way if you are pumping or have to store milk or have to make bottles it’s accessible and you won’t have to walk to the kitchen in the middle of the night -have a small basket with all essentials like hair ties, diapers, wipes, baby ointment, water, bottles ect. Changing pad. Ect. This way this small basket you can take with you everywhere around the house and you refill when need to and you have everything in one basket. This way you can carry a small basket with you and it has Everything you need for mom and baby or dad and baby and you won’t have to go grab any essentials when you are on the couch or in bed or outside on the porch relaxing the basket has everything you need to grab. - i didn’t do sleep training because i breast fed on demand but see how the feedings and how your baby does with sleeping before you consider it because sometimes babies sleep for long stretches at night especially if you keep them more awake or entertained during the day. -keep them stimulated a little inbetween naps so they can sleep longer stretches at night - get your mental health ready, make sure you try to decrease your stress before baby comes. - take all the food and help so you can shower and take care of yourself !! Take all the help and meals - most importantly you can take advice all day but you know your baby more then anyone the choices you make for your baby it will literally naturally come to you idk how to explain you’ll seee it literally comes to you and you will know what to do- follow your instinct!

[@odalisvelazquez1871]

One thing I wish I would of done before having my baby was definitely declutter my entire house, kitchen, living room, bedrooms, closets the whole 9 yards!

[@allisonneale2000]

One thing that I did with both of my sons when they were babies I limited my baby talk with them I spoke to them as if they were anybody else I of course did a little baby talk but when I spoke to them it was like they were going to respond back. I've always told my sons that and when my son turned 17 today he thanked me for doing that he says he thinks that's why he's so well-spoken and smart. I always felt that baby talk makes them think that's how they're supposed to speak and may make them have speaking issues. Everyone's always told me that my sons seem very mature from a very young age

[@kelseyminnitti7976]

Read up on babies sleep schedule, awake windows, and sleep training (even though that’s not realistic in the beginning). I would suggest having them nap in their crib from day 1, even though they will sleep anywhere, it gets them use to it for future use.

[@oscaralfredodiaz3543]

Sleep when baby sleeps, accept help of loved ones, meal prep, and get Booker a new toy or favorite treat when you bring baby home. 💙 Congratulations!

[@pamelacooper1122]

I love how you both keep me in check. I'm very healthy continuance most of the time but love hearing you both talk about staying on track. I can't wait for your little baby to arrive. I'm so happy for you both you deserve it. 🫄👶💐💕

[@emmacarlson4285]

chomps beef jerky sticks are great for a grab and go snack! pair that with a piece of fruit to get some carbs too

[@ednareid5315]

Congratulations!!!! The pictures are beautiful ,You guys will be great parents❤

[@breejacques627]

Sleep as much as you can! My boy was and still is a terrible sleeper his now 21 months! Also if you can prep some meals now freezer meals soups curries etc easy things to just heat up when you just can’t be arsed and don’t want to eat crap takeout!