Plus-Size People Answer Questions You're Too Afraid To Ask

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[@danielleperryman7238]

Joyce the 'learning to be the main character' statement hit my whole soul. It took a long time for me to realize I deserve a plotline too...

[@mokachan3988]

Dear people... if a fat person said they want to be skinny, THAT DOESN'T MEAN THEY'RE INSECURE:') Like whenever i said i want to go on a diet, at least one person always say "NO don't do it, you're pretty" bish i know! I'm just tired of climing 3 stairs, and felt like i just run a marathon

[@pk4ng]

This too, also wanting to make changes for yourself isn’t fatphobic! Do whatever makes you happy as long as it’s for YOU!

[@beccabutterfly892]

just a tip, diets are not sustainable for the long run. you'll have to change your lifestyle and find healthy foods you'll love to eat in the future too

[@abbeyv4148]

**claps** I FINALLY found a partner who understands this and praises me in the right way: for gaining ability rather than losing inches when I work out. (Cuz let’s be honest, these inches ain’t going NOWHERE! There’s just more muscle meat underneath🤣)

[@rabbitabeth6807]

Same lol! If I'm working out it isn't for the inches, it's for me. I hope you're doing great! ☺️

[@theghasynchroduck]

I have two minds on this. All people, regardless of size deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Concern trolling does nothing to improve people's lives (let the person's doctor give the health advice). I also know that obesity can be dangerous to health. I'm watching my mother die due to complications from obesity caused medical conditions. I am also morbidly obese and have chosen to reduce my size in order to become healthier and prevent the same future my mom is living with. I have been able to lose 20 pounds in two months and have not felt deprived, starved, or harmed in any way in the process because I am focusing on doing this in a healthy and gradual way. I agree that being a fat person doesn't mean you are lazy or that you don't care about yourself. I do know that long-term morbid obesity can lead to negative health consequences and a shorter life and it's important that we don't ignore that truth.

[@izzie.bellie]

preach 👏🏼 congrats on your weight loss- you are killing it! ✨

[@rustyriot526]

I don’t think it could be worded any better.

[@q9327]

I hope you are doing great, sending you love and strength on your journey!!

[@rabbitabeth6807]

You are amazing! I'm so happy for the progress you've already made and I wish you a long, happy, and healthy future! 😊

[@lilyscarisbrick9633]

I completely see where you're coming from. The only problem I believe is that fat people have become the 'poster child' for being unhealthy. Whereas, I do exercises and eat better than most of my smaller-bodied friends in terms of fresh and nutrition. It's just that I am not interested any longer in being a 'straight size', I can still do my yoga, boxing 12 hour shifts standing on my feet etc. There are so many factors that tie into health and well-being, if you are going to outline fat as being problematic you need to outline all of them; mental health, drugs and alcohol. Over-eating comes from an emotional place for many people, yet the shame and stigma affects millions of people to not get help or think about their life differently. Those individuals need kindness & support that is otherwise lacking for many people with emotional or mental health deficits of any kind. Shame isn't the way forwards, but balance & awareness is. I hope you continue to be passionate about taking care of yourself any which way!!

[@BeeinTX]

I used to be obese. I lost 120 pounds. I wish I loved myself when I was heavier, but I am so glad that I lost the weight. I sleep better, I can move better, and I am healthier. I’m not “skinny” but I am definitely healthier. I am so glad these women are happy because that’s a good mental health space.

[@izzie.bellie]

you are glowing girl ✨ health is beautiful 🙆🏻‍♀️

[@sytharsenal]

YOU GO GIRL

[@debapriyasanyal438]

Please share how you lost it... I need it 🥲🥲🥲

[@rabbitabeth6807]

Mental health is extremely important. I'm so happy you found your own happier and healthier space!♥️

[@GreySystem1997]

I just want to add that not all the people in this video are women.

[@xiosvault8481]

Okay but can we talk.about how most plus size representation are small waist big booty girls!! And don't get me wrong they are queens and beautiful women!!! But alot of us girls that don't have that small waist and big butt need more representation!!!

[@jordallenhall]

All 4 of us have different body types! And you’re so right. We need more diversified fat representation ❤️

[@itmeee7169]

That part💯

[@f.michaelis5253]

I've always thought of this, despite seeing plus size girls modeling bikinis for example, they have a small waist and it still makes me feel bad because I don't have that small waist, I'd love seeing different body types honestly but I'm glad we do are making progress

[@msthemar11]

I was just talking to my friend about this. Its great that plus size is getting more and more representation, but i feel like now there is such a thing as "pretty fat." I see all these gorgeous plus size women who look magnificent in everything they wear. I could attempt to wear the exact same thing and it would NOT look the same way. I love seeing these women in bodycon, or crop tops, or bikinis and looking amazing, but I still look at them and think about how I will never look like that.

[@wicked_deftlady]

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@mayurid3]

Happy at every size - yesss, healthy at every size - no. Is it my business to tell someone if they are unhealthy or fat -NO. Does everyone have the right to be happy however they are - YES.

[@andrewmccool5923]

It might not be your business, but it’s definitely your right

[@rabbitabeth6807]

You are right, people can be happy, healthy, and unhealthy at ALL sizes big, small, and everything in between. Weight doesn't always define one's health. There are plus-sized athletes, plenty of bigger people are perfectly healthy and the same goes for small or thin people. It is no one's business or right to tell someone how to live based on their weight unless someone is actually unhealthy or their weight is harming them and that is ONLY if you are medical personnel and have the right credentials or the license to give that sort of advice. Everyone deserves to be happy and healthy, no matter their size. ❤️

[@andrewmccool5923]

@@rabbitabeth6807 Incorrect, it is absolutely someone’s right to tell fat people how to live. And it’s the fat person’s right not to listen or care if he/she so chooses.

[@rabbitabeth6807]

@@andrewmccool5923 then it should be everyone's right to tell anyone else how to live, not just fat people.

[@andrewmccool5923]

@@rabbitabeth6807 I agree

[@etak666]

we should normalize being a decent human being; being kind, compassionate and empathetic to everyone around us regardless of what they look like without being so judgemental.

[@keranni]

The worst is "you're not fat! You're so beautiful." How do these correlate?

[@skinny_chick_admirer958]

fat is not beautiful. being fat is unattractive. being slim is more beautiful than being fat.

[@KellyShouldice3]

Look. I'm a fat woman. I am morbidly obese. I have health problems that have appeared because of my size. They would be alleviated or eliminated if I lost weight. It's not about beauty, it's about reality.

[@kumarules118]

Righttt I am so confused they are talking about "beauty standard" like gurl, u can be skinny and not even the close to the standard.

[@Damien773]

@@kumarules118 skinny is not even the standard for women in 2021. It is being thick only in the right places, and being skinny only in the right places, aka slimthicc

[@ravenwalter8727]

Can we stop bothering people about the ways they're different? Every person here is incredible inside and out!

[@izzie.bellie]

it’s not a topic of beauty (whether it be personality or physique). beauty is subjective. this is a topic of health. encouraging obesity is encouraging death. death is not cute.

[@kuromi3z]

@@izzie.bellie as far as i’m concerned these people are very much living :) nobody here is a necrophile

[@rabbitabeth6807]

@@kuromi3z Ooga booga the zombies are here lol 🧟‍♀️ I completely agree tho, everyone is amazing and beautiful. I hope everyone else can see that one day too ♥️

[@kuromi3z]

@L Costa you are a sad sad little man

[@kuromi3z]

@L Costa rlly? bc by the way you talk about women, you seem like you live in your mother's basement 💀

[@livelyfinnesse4477]

When will people realize none of normalizing fat people promotes people to be fat. It’s not going to increase the number of people who are fat. Alot of fat people spend their whole lives going on and off diets and working out and it’s just not mentally healthy for them to continue that. Chasing beauty standards like that is toxic. There’s a difference between working out and dieting to be healthy and doing it to not look fat. Being body positive does not mean praising being fat. Being body positive means you are secure enough to love yourself no matter what body size or shape you are.

[@pepsi5572]

It not about "not looking fat" it's about being healthy and being able to walk without constant panting and many other healthy issues. What the women in this video Don't tell you is they can barely walk , can't run, reaching for their toes is nearly impossible etc

[@breew1702]

Normalizing being fat promotes people to stay fat...which is an issue because they might die from that

[@JaimeLyerly]

I'm a plus size woman who is about to turn 44. The confidence this group of people have is beyond my wildest dreams. It's good.

[@thedesiresystem715]

Your profile pic made me 🤮🤮🤮

[@lobke_anna5437]

You look lovely! So happy you are feeling more confident!🤞🏻🌸

[@thedesiresystem715]

@@lobke_anna5437 no she doesn't

[@thedesiresystem715]

@@lobke_anna5437 I can't lie. Women love honesty.

[@sarahr.925]

@@thedesiresystem715 sir I'm sorry for whatever insecurities you're struggling with; she's beautiful & you don't have to comment on her appearance

[@Barbs_Collectibles]

Let's just not be a$$holes to each other! And always be prepared to speak up for those who don't feel like they can.

[@docmc6557]

If your doctor says your body is unhealthy wether you’re thin or fat, take that into consideration. Other than that be happy with your body as long as you’re not harming yourself.

[@Bushwhacker-so4yk]

Yeah, but some doctors will just look at people who look like Jessica, Joyce, Jordan, and Jazz, and go “you probably have diabetes/joint pain/heart disease, you need to lose weight.” Jessica has talked in another video about going in for pinkeye and the doctor going “it’s because you’re fat.”

[@tsumugikotobuki8947]

@@Bushwhacker-so4yk i hate those kind of doctor who just immediately conclude everything just because they’re fat, BUT being obese does bring some other diseases. If any doctor refuse to do medical check up on you guys just because you’re fat, find another doctor and stick with the one who took you seriously 🥺🙏🏽

[@kb01999]

@@Bushwhacker-so4yk Exactly! and the BMI scale is absolutely terrible and doesn't take into consideration a lot of things it should. As someone who works in medical care, I've seen incredibly unhealthy people that nobody would consider 'fat' and incredibly healthy people that some would consider 'fat'.

[@martamaj2178]

@@Bushwhacker-so4yk But the thing is that fat causes clogging of arteries and its mass strains your skeleton

[@agd6590]

@@Bushwhacker-so4yk yeah like I'll have like a headache thats been going on for a week or really severe hand pain and someone will say "its because you're over ___ pounds" or tell me to lose weight.

[@melanyxace]

The comments on this video are EXACTLY why this video should exist.

[@davidpar2]

That makes zero sense, but if that belief helps you,sleep at night...

[@craigime]

that makes no sense

[@ichomej3837]

I like to keep things simple - other people's bodies are none of your business period. Worry about yourself and do what makes you happy and feels good.

[@karstelobster8203]

“Obesity-related medical care costs in the United States, in 2008 dollars, were an estimated $147 billion” Source: CDC

[@ichomej3837]

@no way yep, it's none of your business. You plan on walking around asking people to stop smoking everywhere you go?.. where do you draw the line? Going to parties preaching the side effects of alcohol? Lol 😆

[@Princemercury90]

Ima big guy and I've gotta photo shoot THIS weekend that I've been soooooo nervous about. This just made me feel so awesome. Thanks guys. I needed this🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

[@lindzexposure9347]

What’s your IG? You’re gonna kill it! ❤️

[@anahivictoria1154]

You’ve got this, you’re gonna be fabulous

[@lobke_anna5437]

You’ve got this!!

[@YouTubeReady]

You don’t look big at all...

[@Princemercury90]

@@lindzexposure9347 it's @mattachine 🖤🖤 don't mind my old picture. Lol idk how to change it. It's been the same for years

[@ashlee9650]

I'm a plus size woman having hard time accepting my size. Whenever I watch your videos I feel more confident about my body, and wish my mom could understand that what she says about my weight really does hurt.

[@khuloodabdulla6912]

I’m so sorry you are going through this, honey don’t let her affect you, I really hope one day she will realize that every type of body is beautiful, and I wish you happiness❤️❤️

[@pk4ng]

Parents often have a tough time with this, they can say it comes from love/ concern but it’s most hurtful from the ones you love. you should have a real talk about how it makes you feel and how she can better support you xx

[@lesliejohnson7247]

Can you show her this video??

[@KatesEaves]

If you ever need a fat friend, ill be your girl. Okay might be more like a fat momma cuz I'm almost 40 but whatever support you need, come find me.

[@annaschmidt2212]

You can be all confident and happy about being fat, and that's great, but the truth is that it will often shorten your life and brings myriads of health problems. And you can't run away from that.

[@sint8880]

Some of these comments are outright cruel. As someone who suffers with severe mental health and is currently struggling to lose weight so I can be healthy for my kids and not look in the mirror and hate myself. Seeing that this is what people on the street must think when they look at me, does not help anyone. Yes a lot of these comments have a point about health. I’ll admit while my weight gain is my fault because I allowed myself to get where I was by not seeking help sooner, at the same time there is nothing wrong with trying to find love for yourself. Most big people know that they need to lose weight, know that it’s not healthy and don’t like the way they look. But as someone who came on here to try to feel a little better before heading out in the world for physiotherapy and now feels 10x worse and just wants to hide, believe me when I say that being cruel does not help anyone.

[@snap9342]

Hey! Realizing the fact that you need to change is a big step, so good luck in your journey and I wish you the best!

[@mariaontaneda7302]

As long as your health isn’t suffering because of your weight.... size really shouldn’t matter at all 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@melanyxace]

Even if a fat person is unhealthy it's still none of your damn business to comment. It's between them and their doctor. Skinny isn't healthy but you don't see CONSTANT comments on their existence worried about them. In fact, skinny people get PRAISE for it.

[@Really_Roby]

Yes!

[@Really_Roby]

@@melanyxace Lots of skinny people get told they're too thin and must eat. What world do you live in?

[@mariaontaneda7302]

@@melanyxace girl I was just trying to find some middle ground between the negative comments and this video. No malice intended

[@mayamuller7671]

@@melanyxace that's not true. There is such a thing as skinny shaming and some people experience it every day

[@its_me_bree]

Powerful positivity. I always used to tell friends "if they don't like it, they don't gotta look". Also, I can't get over how gorgeous Jessica is. Love that colour on her.

[@Beazis]

I eat a health diet of 1300kcal/day and do physical exercises 3 times a week, but I have a problematic metabolism and hormonal disorder. I'm 28, 5'5ft and 198lbs but I constantly feel ashamed and sad about myself. They r not talking that ppl should be fat, they r just saying that fat ppl exist and that is not wrong to be happy and feel pretty and comfortable about yourself. I wish I can accomplish this inner peace and self love one day 💕

[@lauens]

you should work out daily and no cravings

[@Beazis]

@@lauens I can't exercise everyday because of some health issues and I do remember saying that I eat healthy food, so don't know where did u took the "craving" stuff from. I don't have eating disorder, I have hormonal disorder. You could have the best intentions saying this but it was not very nice cus as I said, I'm fat but that doesn't mean that I'm a lazy glutton. This whole video is about being more empathic with fat ppl and your comment is exactly what we hear every single day from ppl who don't know a thing about ur lives. I'm going to give u an advice too: let this prejudice of yours go and respect people who r different from u. I'm not capable of being slim and have a healthy body (at least not without ps), so I would rather learn how to love myself than put my body under the knife just to have the weigth some stranger think that I should have to be happy.

[@Monika-hp9dp]

Hey Beatriz, I hope you're doing great or at least good. I don't know your medical condition exactly, but haven't you considered to up your daily calories intake? I think 1300 kcal for someone your height is kinda low. I would suggest to watch some of Natacha Oceane's videos on metabolism, they're really interesting and helped me a lot. Have a wonderfull day. ❤️

[@Beazis]

@@Monika-hp9dp Hi, Monika. I'm doing fine and I appreciate your concern. You r such a sweetheart. About my diet, all my food intake was decided by my nutritionist (to be honest, I do have to go there again cus it's being a while now) so all I did was eat what/when he told me to. I will take a look at this channel about metabolism, maybe next time I can have a conversation with my nutritionist about it. Thank u for your advice and I hope u have an amazing day too!

[@bmccuan]

The moment that changed my life: When I realized even skinny people are out of breath at the top of a large staircase. Been feelin' fabulous ever since. 😎

[@martamaj2178]

Skinny people who have a bad physical condition. But most don't, so I advise rethinking your opinion

[@gisellekirby3352]

@@martamaj2178 why do u speak

[@Ceciaguilr]

What! No we're not. Being skinny is great!

[@asmrdaily8235]

@@Ceciaguilr ur uglt ahahha

[@livinghoomanbean4803]

Being skinny doesn't mean you're fit. Trust me, my BMI is around 19 but I'm "skinny fat" and I feel like I'm going to die when I run for more than ten seconds.

[@kingst0n25]

People need to realize that health is what we need to focus on as a society...not weight? Skinny ppl can be unhealthy and around the corner from a heart attack so why as society do we "pity" over sized people for this reason!? Are you healthy? Yes? Then move on!

[@ava1266]

Because being obese is an illness, and are illnesses healthy? Its not about skinny people.

[@rabbitabeth6807]

I completely agree! There are plenty of bigger individuals who are not only healthy but are also athletic, eat healthy well-balanced meals, and take good care of themselves! Weight is not the defining measure for health, although weight can affect health it does not define it! I hope you are doing wonderful 😊

[@skinny_chick_admirer958]

@@rabbitabeth6807 but there are even more of them who are unhealthy, eat wrong and don't take care of themselves. If most did, then most wouldn't be bigger.

[@adwaitab.3622]

Because there are lots of risks associated with being obese. This is something which even doctors say as well. Skinny people in the healthy bmi range don't face body issues due to their weight. Health issues can range from many factors such as environment, genetics, etc.

[@savannahs8914]

Literally as a thin person, I found out once I got over "fat" as a bad word and focused on fatphobia itself, I was able to get to the point on the problems.

[@emmacheeseman5440]

I'm a plus size woman and just seeing these wonderful people on a regular basis loving themselves and being fashionable just has made me feel so much less disgusted by what I see in the mirror and I'm so grateful xxxxx

[@Luckcat16]

I've been specifically trying to follow big people on ig to help normalize my size in my own brain and its really helped me! I remember seeing Lizzo's album cover the first time and thinking how stunning she looked and having the realization that I look like that too (a lot less melanin, but similar body type at least 😂). It's so much easier for me to be positive about other people's big bodies, but eventually you can't help but have that positivity seep into your own self-image.

[@nicksimpson88]

everyone should feel like the main charachter

[@Blu_wafflez88]

But yet I'm just the sarcastic funny friend who would probably be the main character in reality IF I was skinny.

[@maleknbiba8946]

Yeeeeeees

[@mykaylanoble1994]

right

[@craigbaker593]

@@Blu_wafflez88 no

[@Blu_wafflez88]

@@craigbaker593 You have your opinion & I have Mine. I think my opinion about myself is better than a strangers

[@LizzieDahlin]

A few thoughts: 1. JAZZ - You straight 🔥 from day 1!!!!! 2. JOYCE - You are beautiful with that velvet skin!! 3. JESSICA- Your smile is 😍 4. JORDAN - You are hotter than hot!!! 4 J's seems like a dream squad to me!

[@rabbitabeth6807]

I'm considered a plus sized woman, I wear a 2x or a woman's 18/20 (currently closer to 20). I struggle with a lot of body confidence especially with comments made by my own family but as I've been able to interact with the world more I am told that I am beautiful. I'm curvy, I'm chunky, and I'm learning how to be me and love myself no matter my size. Seeing such amazing people who are so confident and happy with themselves is truly inspiring and gives me hope for my future. Thank you so much for having the confidence I'm still learning. Thank you for being some of the amazing people who are teaching me to love myself for me. No matter my size or yours, big or small, short or tall, seeing this sort of confidence and positivity is amazing. I work harder for a happy and healthy life thanks to people like you all. Whether I lose the weight or not, no matter how I am shamed by haters, this is truly comforting. Thank you ❤️ Edit/P.S.: If anyone has any questions I can help by trying to answer to the best of my ability or if you just want to chat. I'm an open and safe space and can talk about whatever you'd like. I do still have much to learn so if you have anything you'd like to share with me or teach me about I'd be more than happy to listen ☺️.

[@jayleejeez3621]

Being fat is alright and I support it if anything. I’m fat, and I think that If you’re fat and don’t want to be skinner then don’t let the toxic beauty standards of todays modern world hold you down. I think you should be able to love yourself and show off the belly or big thighs you have proudly. The stretch marks and other things you might feel are insecurities. You should love yourself fat or skinny, but my problem lies in the normalization of obesity, obesity is not cute, its not okay. So many people die because of it, and to sit here and pretend like you can be obese and healthy is straight up a lie. My grandpa nearly died of a heart attack a few years back because he was overweight, I can’t imagine he’d be alive today if he had taken on the lifestyle that “health at every size” people are trying to normalize. Love yourself but realize, if doctors are telling you that you need to loose weight its not because their fatphobic, its because you’re obese and are making yourself more prone to life threatening diseases.

[@jayleejeez3621]

I also wanted to add onto this statement, I’m in no way saying I think it’s okay to go and harass any plus sized individuals for living their lives. I frankly have no problem with any plus sized, obese people. If you know the risks and other things and you still want to continue the “plus sized” lifestyle and post cute pictures on instagram or model, by all means I hope you’re happy and living your best life. I hope that you’re feeling amazing and I have no problem with people loving themselves and simply living. My problem is with people who support and push this “health at every size” agenda. People who normalize obesity, just because someone is obese doesn’t mean they’re supporting and glamorizing it. To all their own, really. Like I said, I’m fat myself so I know some of the struggles and the way people will go out of their way to poke at you for the sole purpose that you’re not skinny. I just wanted to make it clear, I didn’t want any misunderstanding.

[@nekokuma800]

You've stated it much better than I would ever have. Agree. I'm fat but since I was able to buy cheap exercise machines. I exercise it 20-60mins a day(introvert I don't fancy going out). Doing this wont really make me lose weight but I feel happier and energized. Respecting people no matter the size is ideal and should be normalized but obesity no. I am obese my BMI says so but it's not healthy. I eat salad because I love it. It's sad that people think it's a chore but it never made me thin. And this is the truth people think when I eat salad I'm on a diet and that's a big no. I eat what I like but I still eat healthy. I just hope people just don't say passive aggressive comments and pushing their opinions does sometimes hurt.

[@PeonysAndMacarons]

"You are a work of art, and treat yourself as such" PREACH

[@andreahopeorg]

I think we focus on the body far too much in American culture - this need for everyone to show that they are sexy rather than kind, trustworthy, loving.

[@cannedsalsa2]

*on the female body* in particular!

[@Fox250R]

@@cannedsalsa2 lol

[@anonimus8375]

Exactly, their appearance is just one small part of who they are but people judge their entire worth on whether they find them attractive or not.

[@kristalynnharris398]

“Fat is NOT a feeling” That hit me deep. I respect you guys so much and appreciate this

[@sarahmerino5131]

I wish I had HALF the confidence they have

[@MrsTrafford]

Same. Even a third. For real.

[@emmajanemarsh9405]

Same

[@NeverSilenceLove]

Wish I could hug all you!! All women are beauty 🥰🥰😘😘

[@Th3Snipe]

I rather have a healthy body so that I don't die before the age of 50 instead of some confidence. She can keep her fake confidence. It's cringy to me seeing "confident" people who have nothing to be confident about. Kinda delusional.

[@HMV5274]

@L Costa wait..ohhhh ok like that...i apologise for being inconsiderate to this person's feeling and i genuinely pray they get proper help in time and move on in life...sorry once again if i offended or hurt anyone's feelings😣😣😣

[@aspenmargaret1881]

I am chronically ill and my illnesses and medications along with poor coping skills caused me to gain a significant amount of weight. I am now learning to love my body and through loving it I am losing fat and gaining muscle! I had to stop hating my body and decide that I am worthy of love, respect, and HEALTHCARE regardless of my weight or physical ability level. I am a complete person. I want to be healthy and what that looks like won’t be a size 00 since I am 6’ tall 😅 People like those in this video help remind me I am valuable when I start to forget 🖤 thank you!

[@foxwoodjones9831]

I am in the same boat. Medication & out of control hormones caused me to gain 100 lbs. I’m miserable at this size, but I try to do my best not to blame myself bc all of this happening was out of my control. Sending love you & support to you, Aspen. You are very valuable! ❤️

[@MahaAbdulaziz]

Same here. Sending love ❤

[@bj.reo87]

You hit the nail on the head! Respecting yourself being consciously healthy.

[@05Gigi]

‘My skin is like velvet’ I LOVE this! The pinnacle of self-love!

[@Sinedu95]

I swear I love Joyce.. She's just a whole mood. A whole vibe ✨

[@heyummrandommuch]

alright so i'm crying. i've been struggling w myself lately. have always been fat but am currently the biggest i've ever been. was fine all quarantine but reeentering society as an even fatter person has been so tough, literally just because of other people and their fatphobia. seeing you ladies love eachother, support eachother, and live in pride and happiness as fat people hit me deep and i'm so appreciative of all of you.

[@joylox]

Yes, shame is never the way to get anywhere. I've been on both sides of the weight scale, and shamed greatly. Being able to realize that size isn't everything is important, and we don't need to compare ourselves. Even when I was underweight to the point of being sick, I still would have been seen as too big to model, or be popular, even though I wasn't able to function, and that opened my eyes to a lot of the issues in society. I had medical issues causing my weight to change like that, but the stuff people go through is sad. Everyone should be allowed to exist without shame and fear, regardless of where they're at. I know with me, whenever people bullied me for any of the things I was bullied for, it often pushed me into it further, making myself feel worse physically and mentally, and big or small, no one should have to face that.

[@booperdooper9762]

Hurt people hurt people.. That puts stuff in perspective for me.

[@maryam01]

I Have been diagnosed with PCOS. I gain weight very fast but losing those fat is the most difficult thing ever, so I did gain a lot of weight because of that. I eat how normal people usually eat and I take care of myself by exercising and everything else. I am still fat and I can’t do anything about it. I am starting to love myself and accept the fact that I might never lose weight. I take care of my body and my health and that is what matters the most to me

[@pratyashanandy3301]

Me too ✋ I hope we both achieve our goals of loving ourselves. All the best

[@maryam01]

@@pratyashanandy3301 One day we will. 💙💙

[@electricbop]

I have hypothyroidism, and yes the struggle is real

[@jemabe7223]

I have pcos as well and cutting down the amount of sugar really helped a lot I have a normal period now n increased my fertility from 5 to 50%.

[@maryam01]

@@jemabe7223 thank you so much for telling me that. My period is not at all normal. I either get really really long ones or none for 2-3 months

[@emmyazlan]

regardless of size and shape, as long as you’re healthy and that’s all that matter, point blank

[@kiro6188]

you can’t be obese and healthy

[@isabel-qs6lf]

What if you're disabled

[@kiro6188]

@@isabel-qs6lf what

[@isabel-qs6lf]

@@kiro6188 u shouldn't have to be healthy to be respected

[@kiro6188]

@@isabel-qs6lf u shouldn’t have to brag and make ur health ur entire personality to be valid u know that right and i never said ur health declines ur validity as a human i don’t care about ur health that’s ur problem not mine

[@annafelka4042]

Being plus sized will never define your beauty. Any woman, large or small can be absolutely stunning and should feel confident in their beauty. Although, being plus sized is not healthy and can be hard on the body. No one wants to see their loved ones struggle with health complications at any point in their life for any reason. It’s important to never shame, remind any beautiful people in your life that hey are beautiful and you love them, but also encourage them to be the best and healthiest version that they can be

[@echastee]

And I don't care if u r unhealthy or not. Self care comes from love, not shame.

[@cosettelewallen4281]

The person with the lime green top, you straight up look like a bright pretty princess. Seriously you look really nice and beautiful.

[@jordanrichmond6861]

You are the representation for these young girls. I have a 5 year old daughter. My sister and I are tall and plus size. No matter what my daughter grows up to be I want her to see you beautiful people and know that it’s ok for her to look the way she does and be confident in herself. Thank you for being the representation we never had growing up

[@tayatrisha11]

This is obesity.

[@tayatrisha11]

Ask your little 5 yo to eat healthy and spend time with nature. And you too try to be healthy so that she can take you as her example.

[@whitney32592]

Let me tell you I needed this video. I've been fat since the day I was born and I will probably always be fat. I've also hated myself pretty much my entire life. Seeing you beautiful people so happy in your bodies has really helped me see that I need to work harder, not on getting skinny, but on loving myself no matter what size I am. Thank you.

[@skinny_chick_admirer958]

i mean you could work on getting skinny too if it means you're more healthy 😊 that is part of being positive towards your body

[@claireleblond2220]

Please I pray that people watch this all the way through before commenting

[@Deustux]

@@RagingFireFart2000 okay Karen 😒😒😒

[@bananaboeh9641]

@@RagingFireFart2000 you should really stfu

[@bananaboeh9641]

@@RagingFireFart2000 they are attractive and you arent

[@agd6590]

@@RagingFireFart2000 you're just jealous you can't match their beauty but it's okay you'll learn to love yourself :)

[@anonymoususer3888]

@@RagingFireFart2000 maybe you just feel threatened

[@kaylacarter8351]

I’m not plus sized but have struggled to be confident in my body for the past 10 years. All the advice and commentary here was really insightful and helpful to me in the journey to loving my body and myself❤️

[@MK-pj8wr]

I was fat at the beginning of the subscription lmfaooo

[@amiya05]

hey guys this comment section is really triggering for anyone with eds like me , so please don't scroll down any further because there are horrible comments down there , i love all of you beautiful people

[@Autumleaf826]

Your comment should really be pinned. These kinds of comments are what causes people to go back to their ED.

[@lesleyzavala900]

Being honest I used to feel ashamed to called “curvy” when I used to go to the gym because my family my whole life have told me that I’m a pig, I’m fat etc. Looking back I was not overweight or anything and now I gained 50lbs and I praise myself for being curvy 😂

[@almostangel4759]

1:19 fat is literally bad tho, there are so many scientific researches that show connections with being morbidly obese an heart diseases and cancer and if one person claims they don’t want to be fat that’s not fat phobia, they are simply looking out for their health. Treating someone as lesser than you because they are fat of course that’s wrong and it’s awful, no one should be bullied or discriminated however there’s a massive difference between “it’s ok that you’re fat” and “it’s ok to be fat”.

[@JawharahS2]

If you want to talk about “fat being bad” why don’t you change your angle and talk about how our healthcare system is so trash that people aren’t being treated for their health concerns or can’t afford their medicine. Or how about the fact there are food deserts throughout the US leaving people with poor accessibility of fresh fruits and vegetables. These two things particularly impact black and brown people.

[@spinachbinch4467]

@@JawharahS2 two things can be factual at once. Being fat can lead to many health issues and death and being fat can cause a doctor to discriminate against you. The difference between being fat and being a poc is ONE IS A CHOICE. Never equate fat to being a poc. It’s honestly insulting. And no matter where you live in the US you can always get dried rice/beans, frozen vegetables, or soup. 1 meal at Mcdonald’s is more expensive than a few pounds of beans that would feed for 3 meals.

[@klf20]

@@JawharahS2 Stop equating being black to being fat. Fat people aren't treated nearly as bad as black people are. They never have been.

[@JawharahS2]

@@spinachbinch4467 and here you are missing the point. The point is our systems are racists and rather than targeting the individual, target what causes the individual to be “unhealthy”

[@spinachbinch4467]

@@JawharahS2 You didn’t address one point I made. Have a good day.

[@trinayo1434]

Im concerned about YoUr HeAlTh....wheres your degree......that had me ddyyyiinngg

[@rsannie1]

@@Tinin592 Yes that is very true but that's the same of being overly skinny 😭😭

[@lobke_anna5437]

@@Tinin592 let their health be a conversation between them and their doctor, as it has nothing to do with you. Do you tell extremely thin people or people who smoke/drink they are at risk for developing chronic illnesses? I understand that you might be well intended and don’t mean to be rude, but comments like these are very unnecessary, even coming from someone with a degree

[@Tinin592]

@@rsannie1 Of course, the same goes with smoking, and drinking alcool. People that are too thin may develop chronic illnesses as well, due to low calories and lack of nutrients.

[@Tinin592]

@@lobke_anna5437 Yes I do tell people with unhealthy habits the risks correlated with their lifestyles. Everyone can decide what to do with their bodies, it is right to accept ourselves, but this must not be an excuse to ignore possibile future problems, totally avoidable if taken in time.

[@rsannie1]

@@Tinin592 Yesssss and omg smoking and drinking can cause nearly every type of cancer possible can make you obese and can make you have chronic heart disease and like tooth decay and like 30 years less of life and kids who have health issues 😭😭

[@kaypop9666]

I do like the growing diversity of size in the media and online shopping websites. And I’m not even a fat person, just not a sample size person… like most people.

[@mysteriousangioletta]

I’m glad for them that they feel so confident in their skin

[@thai9503]

It's allot of skin and I mean allot

[@sorellasistersasmr7333]

@@thai9503 so if they are happy why does it matter and don’t be like well your probably saying that cause your fat no I’m not im skinny but I think they should be able to be comfortable in their own skin without stupid and ignorant people like you

[@craigime]

@@sorellasistersasmr7333 when you're morbidly obese, it's not gonna be a comfortable experience... and do you think you're better than him by calling him stupid? very nice

[@eggsbenedict4287]

As a very young person suffering with anorexia I love this so much, how you just accept your bodies, for me I know I'm sick, I know I could be healthier if I was bigger but the overwhelming feeling of "being skinny" is to much and just seeing plus size people loving their bodies is just amazing and inspiring to me :)

[@bri8634]

I’m plus size and trying to lose weight because my health is awful. Being fat is NOT good for your health. You can be successful at a healthy weight where you have more chance of living with less health complications

[@t.c.9029]

But that's just your INDIVIDUAL story. You cannot assume it is true for everyone. I'm fat too, but I eat right and exercise daily and I do regular check ups and everything is great. You cannot generalize all fat people as unhealthy. It isn't that black or white.

[@theghasynchroduck]

@@t.c.9029 I used to think that way too. My mother has been morbidly obese my entire life. She was morbidly obese and healthy for decades...until she wasn't. First type 2 diabetes. Roughly a decade after that she got gastroperesis (common complication of type 2 diabetes and morbid obesity). Then fatty liver disease kicked in. Her body produced too much ammonia and she ended up with brain damage. Now she's terminal due to liver failure. Yes, many people can be morbidly obese and healthy in that moment. That would describe me right now. But the long-term complications do shorten life significantly. I never thought I would lose my Mom when she isn't even old enough to be considered retired but here we are.

[@prabhnoor_gill]

Being comfortable in your skin is a good thing but obesity can lead to many problems like thyroid, PCOD, disc herniation and prone to diabetes. Yes, I’ve all of the above. I’m working on myself... it takes time but slowly you can make a big change.

[@riawilli1837]

Comment section did not pass the vibe check

[@em-54321]

i feel awful that people cant keep their mouth shut about things. I agree with you. i have not had half the opportunities other people have had. UUUggggggg i hate this society. :,-(

[@b1njjj95]

It pisses me off when people say that featuring fat characters in shows is promoting obesity. Huh???? Are we supposed to pretend like people don't come in many different shapes and sizes? Fat people have exsisted for centuries, just because shows are becoming more inclusive and that animation has become more advanced with better budgets that companies can afford to have more than one character model doesn't mean that there's something sinister about featuring non skinny characters. Fat people exist and deserve to have their stories told. Get over it!

[@PeonysAndMacarons]

Exactly this!!!!! Showing that people excist isn't promoting anything. People who say stuff like that have to take a long hard look at themselves and ask themselves why they think showing a fat character living life is promoting something while a straight sized or skinny character is "just a character". People are people, and they've always come in all shapes and sizes. And if that is a strange notion to you, then that's a you problem.

[@uperiju]

There is one thing though - they are young. I see how weight makes people who are getting older less and less capable of things. To squat to pick up something, to bend, get up from the chair etc. So from a health perspective if we're not gonna do lose some weight then it really impacts peoples life later. In their 60ies their knees will have over 40 years of carrying excessive weight, and so on, so that's kinda a promoting obesity, I really don't mean it in a bad way, I just see how this impacts people later in life

[@b1njjj95]

@@uperiju But we're not talking about being morbidly obese or having severe health problems. We're talking about proper representation for people with larger body figures. There are a lot of fat people that are healthy and a lot of skinny people that are unhealthy. You can't tell what someone's medical history is just by looking at them and that's why it's frustrating to see people complain about fat characters in shows and immediately make assumptions that their mere presence is promoting obesity. Fat people existing isn't promoting obesity, but complaining about their existence is promoting fat phobia.

[@uperiju]

@@b1njjj95 I agree with you and I also think there should be representation of bigger bodies. I'm just seeing how, over the years, this 50-60 pounds of over weight (probably around what this girls are) makes a difference and how heart has harder job to pump blood, how knees have to carry all this excess weight all this years, how there's shortness of breath etc. I'm not saying healthy weight people can't experience that - of course! And of course fit overweight people can be in better shape then unfit skinny people, but generally, the same heart, the same knees, hip bones, etc.have to carry 50-60 pounds more for 30-40 years

[@imanepink]

@@b1njjj95 but they are not fat though they are obese. We shouldn't be promoting obesity (this video) or unhealthiness (me) we should be encouraging people to be both happy and healthy, that doesn't mean being skinny because they are plenty of overweight healthy people that are healthy or there's me who isn't I overweight but not healthy.

[@emir5009]

You guys bring light and comfort to people who have been made to feel shame that they maybe suppress. Like u are the voice for people that may be crippled by shame. This such a positive movement

[@pamelahenriquez989]

I always feel really out of place because im not a size that's "skinny" but im not plussize either im in the middle ground qhere like my bones are larger than skinny people so i always look weird in "skinny" clothes, but im too small to be able to buy clothes in plussize stores. It's like "oh you're kind of big, but if u lose weight you'd be average". i hate it and honestly just feel really out of place all the time

[@annegoldenstien6252]

Girl Im a 28/29 US 8! I get it. I am 5'8 and totally not skinny but not fat. Some say were midsize others say were too small

[@diamondust2054]

straight size: up to a US size 14 plus size: US size 16 and up

[@MonkeyDLuffy-rr3wl]

I wear EU 36 size clothes, S & M if we're talking about that kind of stuff. My problem is, that my shoulders are big, my arms are kinda muscular (from literally nothing), I have little boobs, really small waist, wide hips, hip dips, big, round butt and thick thighs. My calfs, however, aren't so big in proportion to my thighs, but aren't small enough to make me be able to wear knee high sexy boots😫 If I wear bodycon, it howering around my waist, hardly show my boobs and it really makes my hips-butts stand out, which I hate. I wanna wear clothes, what show my full shape sometimes, the way I see it in the mirror, but every clothes I happened to buy, since I happened to lose weight, is not capable of that. Gaining is a no go either, cuz I disliked my body that way even more, now I have some "good days" when I love myself.

[@mariamaples7492]

@@diamondust2054 yes but it’s hard to find a lot of 12-14 sixes in ether stores which most places say they carry so that’s why it’s hard

[@nisreenal-zahrooni772]

I look up to all of these four. I hope one day I will look back at myself and describe my body with a lot of positivity and love, just like them. I hope one day I can keep my head up and be confident as much as the the less “big-sided” people. I know I have a long road to go before I can achieve that and I know there are a lot of people talking about this, but these confident plus size women is my role models that helped me a lot.

[@notonfire7318]

As a plus sized woman as much as I admire their confidence, self lovr and beauty, no 250 pound woman is healthy (unless you're a body builder, which these women are not). You're allowed to model as fat women because I do believe that you should be able to feel sexy and pretty at whatever state you're in but at the same time obesity is very highly linked to cardiac diseases. So you should try to lose weight. And it may take time for you to adopt a healthier lifestyle. Some lose 50 pounds in a year while some lose it in 5 years but the point is it IS possible. I've been trying to lose weight and by getting into a healthier lifestyle and nourishing my body and I've lose more than 25 pounds in 6 months. It's hard but it feels so much better being in a healthier body. Please, love your body and yourself at every stage but if you truly love your body you should nourish it and exercise it properly. Not to fit into some idealistic beauty standard but because we're beautiful and we all deserve to live LONG healthy lives, and that's hard to do when you're overweight

[@t.c.9029]

I'm fat, obese even. But I eat right and I exercise everyday and go for regular check ups. Everything is in top condition. Please dont make general statements like no plus size woman is healthy. You don't get to define and determine what "healthy" is. In any case, people's health is none of your concern

[@notonfire7318]

@@t.c.9029 I do think that your health is none of my concern. I don't come up to fat people in person and say you need to change because in the end it's not my business. However every single doctor would say that every obese person in unhealthy (unless their body is madly made of muscle) I look at it the same way I look at smoking. We should treat smokers the same as we treat everyone else. But we need to at least acknowledge the risk between smoking and lung cancer, and thus we need to acknowledge that if youre obese the chances of you living a LONG life are low. Now it's none of my business if you don't want to live above 65 but we still should acknowledge the risk of obesity and call it unhealthy coz that's what it is. You would say the same for someone who weight 40 pounds. We would tell that person that if they want to live a long life then they need to get to a healthy weight.

[@echastee]

People who actually care about your health don't reduce it to a discussion about your size. People who really care understand that every body is different and worth loving. Don't let that negativity get you down. You can't shame people into healthier lifestyle. And you have no idea what their circumstances are. But people who truly care don't pretend to care about your health so they can judge you and make assumptions. That's not true concern.

[@dianalove539]

Ya, it’s definitely not all about size! The focus on size in this society is very concerning, no wonder so many people hate their bodies and have eating disorders. Why don’t we focus on eating healthy, and working out and being the best we can be rather than peoples sizes? I notice how many skinny people think that they can pass on eating healthy just because they’re skinny... that’s not how that works 🤥 But because we have such a focus on body size I don’t think the realize the other dangerous side effects frim eating that way (such as metabolic syndrome) you know, if your eating healthy, enough (not too much not too little), and working out, most likely you will be at the healthy weight for you (not fat, not too skinny, just healthy)

[@shellie904]

I wish your voices were around when I was a girl. Thank you, keep it up... you're saving young lives!

[@thedesiresystem715]

Obesity doesn't save lives. What are you talking about?

[@heathercrosby770]

Shellie, I feel the same way. I wish I'd had confident people who looked like me to look up to when I was growing up. It's so important to realize that you don't have to apologize for your existence because you don't look a certain way. Jazzmyne in particular has really helped me accept myself

[@shellie904]

@@heathercrosby770 hugs to our beautiful selves!

[@Jah14549]

Every single hateful commenter needs to realize that what they say may cause a little boy or girl to grow up HATING themselves. It's hard enough to love yourself try doing so when so much of the world is telling you that you're only worthy of love if you change something. Spread more love because we ALL deserve to love and cherish ourselves.

[@talpatv512]

We all deserve support not blind love, support to lose weight and get past your 50s

[@Jah14549]

@@talpatv512 People live shorter lives due to stress and suicide too. A person knows what they look like you constantly criticizing doesn't fix anything. It creates an unhealthy relationship with food and makes people or children less likely to lead active lives because they don't want to draw anyone's attention. It causes people to dislike themselves. If you don't love yourself you definitely won't properly take care of yourself. People act like it's love but it's not it's judgement.

[@imanepink]

We need to be supporting healthiness and love not obesity.

[@imanepink]

@@Jah14549 stress and suicide arguably are not preventable, obesity (not fatness but obesity like the women in the video) is.

[@kolonizednetworks]

Ok Fatty its changeable lmao just some damn 🤣🤣

[@LBrant-bd8yp]

i can guarantee that the people leaving hate comments did not watch the video,,,, some of y'all really need to get a hobby other than hating on women 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@lunamoth6]

Lmao apparently you didn’t watch the video either because one of them doesn’t even identify as a women. How woke are you now huh?

[@orionxox9425]

Yes! We can just exist and not have our health and entire life story critiqued just bc of our size! You guys are so inspiring and I hope your having a wonderful day!

[@Gobbersmack]

You do more than exist. You ruin our airplane and health care systems.

[@idk-mn9ls]

Thank u! Finally someone in this comment section understands!

[@idk-mn9ls]

@@Gobbersmack Being skinny isn’t healthy sometimes either and society is promoting it and it’s causing a LOT of young ppl to comite $uicide thinking they’re not good enough. And others don’t coz they have ppl and youtubers like these ppl. So think ab it. Who’s really the idiot here?

[@t.c.9029]

I'm adding a positive comment because I'm so sick of these fat phobes who are everywhere. These women are beautiful and confident and this video is amazing. People really should mind their own business

[@t.c.9029]

@@cutethingsonly9174 i agree with you 100%

[@johnguy8571]

Once you've freely taken a public stance, you also accept that you are now open to criticism. As far as people minding their own business, you simply commenting would make you a hypocrite.

[@t.c.9029]

@@johnguy8571 look man, idk what your deal is. This guy apparently seems like someone who passionate about the food insecurity issues in the world so I simply told him to get off his phone and go participate in food donation drives or something. Do something more meaningful rather than send hate comments on youtube and then talk about how "in a world where people are starving, being fat is a display of greed". I have never read a more illogical comment in my life lmao. So I was just responding to that. If you have a problem with that you can simply turn off the video and go do whatever else you want

[@artastic_23]

A LOT of medical conditions can make you gain weight! A lot of mental health conditions can affect your weight! But it’s when people who are 30+ pounds overweight that use a medical condition as the ONLY REASON for their obesity that are the problem. Everyone has different metabolisms. BUT EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER THEIR RACE, SHAPE, OR SIZE. However, beauty does not equal health. I have PCOS and part of my weight gain is due to that but part of it is because of ME! I went through a period of time where I ate too much and now I don’t eat that much. I’m still about the same weight and that’s because of PCOS. My medical condition makes it easier to gain weight and harder to lose weight. I want to lose about 50 pounds. Only half of that would be from PCOS. So obesity is not healthy, but it doesn’t mean that someone who has obesity isn’t beautiful.

[@skinny_chick_admirer958]

I mean, sorry but someone with obesity is really unatractive and not beautiful. fat is not beautiful. You can have a pretty face and be cute for sure but most people won't look at an obese person's body and think it's beautiful compared to a slim body

[@user-xg4cu6cq2p]

i think it’s okay to acknowledge that yes people can be plus sized but really i don’t like all the fat is good thing they’re preaching and all. it’s important to love yourself in your own body but there’s really a fine line between what’s good for you and at what point does it become unhealthy. also i feel like it has to do a lot with where you grow up in. as someone who’s been to western countries and is currently living in asia, there’s a lot more people who are plus sized in western countries than in asia. there is just a stereotype around me that pressures me into keeping fit and in a “normal body size” i really don’t want and mean to be fatphobic. but in the end acknowledgement doesn’t equal support.

[@Madeeha_shinkoko]

yessss!

[@anniejay3307]

this just inspires me more to get through medical school more. Being thin does not equal healthy and being heavier does not mean unhealthy. There are so many ways to measure health

[@aliw3149]

THIS ^^^

[@oliviareedking6106]

If anyone is still hanging out in the comments and figuring out how they feel, I highly recommend looking up body neutrality! It has helped me on my health and wellness journey SO MUCH. As someone with body dysmorphia who has been on both extremes of the weight and size spectrum, it has given me a whole new perspective. Body positivity is AMAZING, but for many people it's not as immediately accessible, while body neutrality is something you can carry with you until you reach that point

[@eittodtreppil837]

The moment that changed my life ....when I left my second husband and realized that body positivity is for every size. That ypu can't get the validation from others, you have to get it from yourself. The moment that I realized my bbw body was beautiful was when I was looking in the mirror recently and realized this body has brought children into this world, cared for my loved ones, climbed mountains and kicked serious butt while staying true to my beautiful inner self.

[@talpatv512]

And how is that relevant to you leaveing your husband?

[@shikapooh2287]

I've been plus size for most of my life. Last year my highest weight was 330lbs. I'm down to 237lbs now so I'm still plus size after all that effort, but during this journey I've actually come to love myself more for how I am. All my imperfections, flaws and fluffy belly. Seeing something like this only fuels my current love for myself. I don't think I'll ever be skinny, but I'm okay with that. My family is healthy and alive, partner of 17 years loves me and thinks I'm BEAUTIFUL, I THINK I'M BEAUTIFUL, I'm happy, I'm working towards a new career and I feel great! What more can a girl ask for?

[@4444randomness]

How is there so much hate in the comments for such a positive video???

[@4444randomness]

@@Natg6 I'm glad that you feel comfortable in your own skin but can we let other people have the same thing too

[@craigime]

how is this video positive?

[@lsuzicosbw644]

I’m normal size. And I think these women are beautiful, let them live! These comments are sad

[@johnguy8571]

They can live...for a severely reduced life span and a smorgasbord of health problems.

[@lsuzicosbw644]

@@johnguy8571 that’s their choice

[@theresaoneill6525]

You need to feel it. If you are uncomfortable, unhealthy, risking your life then you need to be healthy. If you are out of breath when walking or can't take care of yourself then it's time to get your health in check. I don't think you need to hate being over weight. You really just have to weigh out the health risks. I'm a diabetic so having to much weight on me can be detrimental to my health. So yes for me I am constantly thinking about my weight and health. I'm also glad to see these women taking what and who they are and proving that it really doesn't matter as long as you are comfortable in your skin...

[@leadingman9322]

Such a lucky group of women to have so much more acceptance and openness than in the past! I was a model. At 13 I hit 6ft and weighed 125 pounds. It was 1982. As I matured I obsessed over my weight. At 17 and 135lbs I was a size 2/4 & thought I was HUGE! My hip bones stuck out and would be rubbed raw from my jeans!🤦‍♀️😥 I got pregnant. I got huge breasts! I got stretch marks! I literally sat pregnant on the floor bawling because "my body was ruined". 35 years...I WASTED 35 YEARS OF MY LIFE being worried about my weight and what my body became. Emme was the FIRST model I saw who looked almost like me! At 49 now, I am so happy that the younger generation has so many GORGEOUS WOMEN to represent ALL bodies! You young ladies make me push my fashion boundries out of leggings and long men's t-shirts. I absolutely love this discussion!❤💜💙💚💛🧡 please don't waste your life worrying about what other people/society thinks you should look like! DON'T SHOULD ON YOURSELF!!!😁👍 P.S. I became SUICIDAL as a young mother because I thought nobody would want me because I was fat. PLEASE reach out if you're feeling these things.

[@imtrying2335]

wow you're really tall and im sorry that you had such insecurities :(

[@youmeteacofeee]

Wow, wasn't expecting the comments to be so toxic.

[@josiebeaudoin8440]

I have been a healthy fat person, and I have seen plenty of skinny unhealthy people in this world. I am not currently healthy, and that is my goal for myself - not weight loss, just health. We are all of us works in progress. Love to all!

[@jayleejeez3621]

You do you!! :)) it’s definitely better to focus on yourself and health rather than the number on the scale. I hope you get somewhere your comfortable and feel healthiest

[@tesshollidayshoof3399]

You were younger then, that's why. Funny how so many body positivity advocates are typically 21-33 and you don't see that many that are over 40 - you know why? Bc sht starts getting real the older you get. That body that you spent all of those years neglecting starts to let you know what you are doing to it. And don't give me that bullsht that you don't care about losing weight - there is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying the results of healthy habits like a slimmer body. No one expects everyone to be skinny - that is YOUR head telling you that, not society. Good luck on your journey, and I hope you do something about your negative views on weightloss as well.

[@MissTK2182]

I can’t with the comments 🤦🏾‍♀️… Although I’m not a “plus-size” person, I understand the struggle of weight and what it does to the psyche. Why does it bother “you” (people commenting negatively) what someone else’s weight/size is?? I’m confused. Be happy with you and keep your eyes on your own 🤬 paper. Sheesh 🙄 And to everyone using the term “healthy”, you do know that skinny people have tendencies to be unhealthy and may not gain a single pound, right?? I know several people with diabetes, high cholesterol, drink alcohol in excess, and they’re SKINNY. As an advanced practice nurse, I know your size does NOT absolutely determine how healthy you are internally. Please stop it. Go 👉🏾have a seat…

[@skinny_chick_admirer958]

saying a small percentage of thin chicks are unhealthy doesn't change anything to the fact that a large percentage of fat/obese people are unhealthy.. it also doesnt change the fact that being fat/obese is generally unhealthy compared to being thin/skinny.. what? You're part of the problem if you just accept and dont question if a 500 pound person is unhealthy..

[@MissTK2182]

@@skinny_chick_admirer958 FIRST of all I said what I said…. Secondly you’re part of an even bigger problem (look at your YT name 😂🙄). The point is…Live YOUR life how YOU want and let others do the same…..period. I’m a “skinny” person but I don’t judge others who aren’t. If you don’t like it, that’s fine but it’s not your place or your business to even open your mouth about. Lastly, I said what I said. Im not going back and forth with you sir/ma’am. Don’t waste your time. Good day.

[@skinny_chick_admirer958]

@@MissTK2182 I agree but these girls aren't just"living their lives", they are promoting their unhealthy lifestyle and saying it's too difficult to be skinny publically, which is why i respond. I don't make these types of comments to people just living their lives.

[@livelyfinnesse4477]

@@skinny_chick_admirer958 when did they ever promote being unhealthy.. they never said being fat is better, they never said don’t try to lose weight, they just said they find themselves attractive and love themselves 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@rikki_25]

Im 30 pounds overweight and I hate it. Being overweight sucks. You can't convince me that being fat is a good thing.

[@courtney7996]

oooookaaaay. what does that have to do with the people in this video?

[@ems7500]

Courtney fat people are what’s dragging this country down

[@mayaturner5369]

@@ems7500 correction idiots is what’s dragging this country down

[@ems7500]

maya turner aye, the ones that eat too much and blame “society” for it

[@epikzeebrahh]

I'm crying at Joyce saying jazzy changed her life when she called her beautiful. I love watching them. Being a plus sized black woman I really love them and relate so well. I wish they were my friends, man. I need support like that.

[@Draculiana]

I have been underweight and now overweight , when i was skinny i was not happier and for sure i was not healthier either. I was chain smoking, eating irregulary and never exercising. Please do not make any comments on the weight gain or loss of other people (unless you are their doctor), it can be hurtfull and can actually make more damage. If we are fat, we know it and you don't have to say it.

[@user-wj3yr7xr2f]

AGREED! I have bin both small and fat too and health is not in corelation to size.

[@benitasteiner5584]

I am just slightly confused. I myself am overweight with my 200 pounds at 5'8". And even though this isn't as overweight as the women in this video, I still have a higher blood pressure (which is not healthy) becausw of it. So how people at their size are supposed to actually be healthy is a mystery I can't get behind. I really don't want to fat shame because every body is beautiful and deserves to be loved, but beautiful doesn't always equal healthy.

[@chasti5754]

well, you can weigh 50 kg (100 pounds?) and have a very unhealthy lifestyle such as limiting calorie intake, not having enough micronutrients, consuming alcohol, tobacco, soda, whatever, not do physical exercises. The idea is that high weight is a risk factor for diseases, but it is not equal to being unhealthy per se.

[@iatethecrayons]

@@chasti5754 being severely over or under weight is unhealthy.

[@cloudykat04]

high blood pressure isn't just related to weight and can also be due to stress and other factors. i am also fat and my recent blood test says everything is normal. i sincerely wish you the best tho!

[@iatethecrayons]

@@cloudykat04 "isnt just related to weight" but it IS related to weight. thats like a smoker saying "well lung cancer isnt just related to smoking". well yeah but if you smoke you're increasing your chance of getting it. What makes me so mad, as a daughter of a triage end of life care nurse is that the people who are rn asying "well i dont want to live to be 60" are the ones dying in bed with horrible, painful illnesses demanding attention and tons of care because in the end they cant even take responsiblity for their actions that put them there and demand others to pick up their slack. if you want to eat yourself or smoke yourself or drink yourself to death whatever i cant stop you! but youll probably be one of the millions of people who cant accept responsiblity and expect and demand medical professionals to take care of you.

[@krysfjorgyn9494]

I like to come back to this video when I feel that I need a good hype up and a boost of self love. Watching these beautifully complex humans speak so candidly about the fat experience makes me feel so seen 💕

[@marianaortiz5489]

everytime Joyce says something Im like "PREACH" like I swear, no cap

[@juliannecera550]

this comment section is an example of what women go through daily. that people are all for body positivity, but when it's fat women, it's unhealthy and disgusting. i hope you stop projecting your insecurities to these beautiful women!

[@imanepink]

The difference is that obesity can be avoided and this movement was originally meant to be for disabled people, people who suffered with injuries, Dwafts, people being a certain weight due to medical issues etc you know people who *couldn't* change the way that they looked or become healthier but they were still being bullied/not accepted by society for something that they couldn't change. This movement as others have been saying has been hijacked by people who can change the way that they look and become healthier, emphasis on Healthier not skinner. (i.e obese people) in order to justify/promote/accept their unhealthiness and seek external validation.

[@johnguy8571]

Body positivity is for people with actual issues that they have no control over; missing/malformed limbs, burn victims, some genetic abnormalities, etc. As for it being unhealthy, other than being a medical fact that it is, you are correct. As for it being disgusting, well, to most people it is and I would wager most of the activists actually feel that way as well.

[@imanepink]

@@johnguy8571 agreed

[@Dove96]

​@@imanepink Anyone who says obesity can be avoided never had to deal with it over a lifetime. There are medical and scientific facts that prove it is a complex condition for some people - not laziness or overindulgence.

[@imanepink]

@@Dove96 I understand that it's not easy to lose weight but for most people being obese (not fat) can be avoided in most cases unlike having a disablilty, being a certain height, being plus size (not Obese) or having an ED etc. You can't control the fact you are disabled, you can control the fact that you are obese and seek for help and love to become healthier.

[@samanthahodgins1928]

This group needs a podcast or move videos. Their voices are so soothing and I’d love to hear their perspective on everything

[@elyseand]

agreed! the video was 15 minutes long but it felt so short, i’d love to hear more of their thoughts

[@Tuvabrus]

body positivity = feeling comfortable and pretty no matter how big, small or different u are. Everyone has the right to feel beautiful no matter what their health is like. A fat person shouldnt go and hate them self just because they are big. Same with skinny people.

[@amlaaaa479]

Of course, obese people deserve love, respect, etc. But from what we have been told by medical researchers (and why would they all lie), obesity impacts your health. And maybe you don't feel the effect while you're younger. Maybe you exercise and keep your heart fit. But there may come the day that the impact of your weight on your joints have become too much and you cannot exercise anymore. Then your heart health will deteriorate as well. That's why I decided to lose weight. I don't care if people I don't know are thin or obese or anything in between but I don't want it to affect me. And if it means that I don't have much space on the plane or that I have to pay more for a plane ticket because seat sizes are increased which means fewer seats overall (hence, more money for everyone) or I have to pay higher taxes to cover obesity health costs, I'm not ok with that. Mind you, I am mildly obese now. But I'm losing weight for my health and also so people don't have to pay to accommodate me when obesity (just like smoking, alcohol, etc) is most often the result of addictive behaviour that can be changed. Now when it comes to societal standards of beauty - eff them!

[@elladafella]

Bla bla bla, let these people be confident and MIND YA BUSINESS

[@elladafella]

10:34

[@stage4poison]

@@elladafella There's nothing wrong with confidence, they're all stunning, but just because you're beautiful it doesn't mean you're healthy, I think that was amia's point, no need to get so defensive. Health does not equal beauty the same way that body size does not equal beauty, and everyone deserves to feel beautiful and loved.

[@elladafella]

@seth fields I don’t mean to offend anyone but the are making this video to get across a point and it’s clearly not getting across and is getting ignored, I think if we let them take care of themselves, they know what’s best for them and their health. And trust me they’re not gonna let themselves just die and they can fix what needs to be fixed and you don’t know what that is.

[@elladafella]

@@stage4poison I just would stay out of their lives because that!s not your place and I don’t want to start a KZbin fight so I mean this in the nicest way possible

[@uperiju]

I agree with all the girls are saying - but - they are young. I see how weight makes people who are getting older less and less capable of things. To squat to pick up something, to bend, get up from the chair etc. So from a health perspective if we're not gonna do lose some weight then it really impacts peoples life later. In their 60ies their knees will have over 40 years of carrying excessive weight, and so on

[@rocklesson86]

I agree with you. They will have issues down the road.

[@juliac5212]

Yeah it's all good now until they age and the health issues they are ignoring catch up. The body was not made to live with that much extra weight on it. I see it daily in my job. See you on the stroke floor at age 50 ladies.

[@izzie.bellie]

their knees probably hurt now- but they’re too afraid to admit it because of this whole “fat acceptance” facade. yikes.

[@uperiju]

@@izzie.bellie Unfortunatelly you're probably right :(

[@megangibson5170]

I wonder how people will look back on the fat acceptance/body positivity trend in 20-30 years as its proponents get older and start experiencing those health issues. I find it concerning how it’s being glossed over.

[@Anna-hh7td]

as an insecure high schooler i admire their self-love and want to imitate that. im just so confused why everyone cares how someone else lives their life and seems to disregard all of the points that were made in the video.

[@joyousorrow]

because society sucks lol XD but thankfully there are awesome people in society that doesn't

[@Anna-hh7td]

@@joyousorrow

[@Gobbersmack]

You’ve never shared an airplane with these elephants.

[@hannawho9719]

Awww Joyce telling Jazz that her telling Joyce she was beautiful 😫🥰 and how that really stuck with her... so sweet

[@Factacceptancemovement]

Update: Jordan Hall (the bald one) has gained an exorbitant amount since this video, suffers with extreme lymphoedema and mobility issues. Her legs look like elephant’s legs. She claimed she was healthy in this video and despite the fact she’s about to go into surgery for lymphoedema treatment, she still refuses to admit she’s extremely unhealthy and that it’s her fault

[@juliadebbesay9465]

Omg i had no idea

[@savannaoats425]

Being okay with your own body is such a great thing and I applaude these women. But for those who don't want to be larger, and are, it is completely normal and okay for them to want to change. I don't think it's fair to say that accepting being larger is great for all, as some people are not happy the way there are and with their health.