Understanding Gender & The Gender Spectrum

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[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

A SOLID SIDE NOTE! Gender can be discovered later in life, you don't have to know your gender when you are very little to be trans. You can discover yourself at anytime.

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@@zantasyy agreed, that's why I mentioned it here in the comments

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@Jack Not quite, for some people they know young, but for others it takes a lot longer to figure out and that can be caused by external pressures that give people the idea that they can only behave a certain way, or the way that a large chunk of society deems "acceptable" and therefore pushing them into a box that they don't feel fits them but because they were forced to act that way their whole life they didn't really know any different until they may have started doing some self exploration away from said external pressures.

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@Jack also i forgot to mention, gender identity, who you see yourself as, can change over time and develope into something different, this is why it can take people years of questioning to figure out what suites them best

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@Jack From what I understood of your paragraph that seems correct, and I personally dont see why we should impose old-fashioned gender roles to our modern society, in all honesty it just holds back progression and feeds into toxic gendered standards that are completly unnecessary. And the work of the past LGBTQ+ members was certainly not for nothing, they started paving the way for a newer better place and we as a community have made strides of improvement thus far, even though of course we've still got a long way to go as a whole.

[@En_chonky_fuzzy_bee]

@Jack whoa ok that went off the rails quick. Are you referring to my original comment?

[@lemon8283]

Gender expression and gender identity are different things, remember that!

[@randommeowthekitty6482]

Thank you, I was waiting for him to bring this up and he never did

[@neezv9224]

PERIOD !!🌈

[@yordle_chan2519]

I'm still trying to learn about everything. What do you mean by that? I don't really understand, aren't gender expression and gender identity the same thing?

[@riverbed590]

@@yordle_chan2519 No ,gender identity is who u are inside and your gender expression is what others percieve you as. Eg. Gender identity will be non binary ,boy ,girl,agender ect. Gender expresion will be masculine ,femnine, androginouse.

[@lemon8283]

@@yordle_chan2519 I'm no where near an expert on this, so I suggest you do more research beyond this comment, but I think gender expression is how you express yourself physically, through makeup, clothes, etc. Gender identity is more complicated, kinda just what gender you feel you are. I myself am still struggling with that definition, but it is something more mental than gender expression. Anyways, have a good day!

[@TurtleProphet73]

“And honestly because I’m gay and I like rainbows and colors” (4:32) I love this. I don’t know what I identify as yet, and I’m still trying to figure myself out myself, and this video is really helpful

[@Noct343]

If you're a biological male, or a biological female, that's what you identify as. Just like if you're a human, obviously you're going to identify as a human not as a parrot. You're deluded.

[@tsumugishirogane2300]

For everyone, an agender can indentify non-binary, it depends on the individual, I am agender and identify as non-binary too, but some individual who identify agender do not identify as non-binary too because they perceive non-binary as another gender, and since agender do not identify in any gender they do not see themselves as non-binary, however it all depends on the person

[@elishaheetebrij3681]

So do you use they/them pronous for them or does it depend on the person?

[@tsumugishirogane2300]

@@elishaheetebrij3681 it depends on the person

[@tsumugishirogane2300]

@@elishaheetebrij3681 however most people do include they/them in their pronouns, it isn’t always like that, for an example I got by he/them (+ my neo pronouns)

[@StarField369]

i’m agender and don’t identify as non-binary, because i don’t really have a gender at all, so i don’t feel i’m inside or outside of the gender binary. it’s different for everyone, this is just how i feel about it. edit: i accept any pronouns. i don’t use pronouns myself, people use pronouns for me, and i’m fine with any of them. i’ve told people to just use whatever they’re comfortable using (so they don’t feel like they’re misgendering, since i’m afab a lot of people feel weird about using she/her for me in case it makes me uncomfortable. it doesn’t, but it’s a kind thought.), and some people try out using pronouns they’re not used to on me, such as neopronouns or it/its. most commonly people just use they/them for me anyway, since i present as trans-neutral and it’s easier to see me and neutral than masculine or feminine, that’s apparently just how i look.

[@meandmeyt4503]

I identify myself as agender, but i dont see myself as non-binary. For some reason i just dont feel comfortable being male, female, non-binary or any other gender other than agender. Ive recently discovered agender, and ive found that it fits me so much better. I dont just use they/them pronouns, i also use he/him, it/its and any neopronouns. Ive never felt comfortable with she/her pronouns, mostly she more than her for some reason.

[@diamondblade3490]

One thing I want to point out: from what I understand, agender and pangender would be placed on the same spot on the spectrum. Bigender and Demigender would also likely have this problem. Could someone clarify this?

[@rivn1855]

pangender from what i assume, would have points in all corners, because they experience multiple genders simultaneously, and bigender would two points i assume? and demi gender i would assume would be half way been two points🤔

[@rivn1855]

i dunno if that helps :)

[@rivn1855]

(or for pangender, maybe just multiple points 🤔im not sure)

[@Soph_252]

Pangender would have a pin on every single point in the spectrum, because they feel every gender. Bigender (if someone felt like a man and a woman) would have 2 points, one on male and one on female. hope this helps :)

[@Soph_252]

@@rivn1855 pangender means feeling like you are every gender at the same time, so it would technically have millions of points all across the gender spectrum circle

[@sirdavidoftor3413]

This week is Trans awareness week in Canada. Kraft Canada has a limited edition book for sale for kids, and parents. It is called His, Hers, Them and Theirs: Learning Pronouns with the Bears. It features the two Kraft Bears, Smoothy and Crunchy learning about pronouns. It is written by a Canadian Trans male, Nick North, who lives with 5 kids and a partner in Vancouver. I put this out for information, I don’t receive anything from it, only to hope to inform of its availability and existence. I have not read it, though. I am a boomer gay, who is learning about pronouns, so I can offer the same respect that I get from my family to others. Your channel and this video is part of my education. Thank you for doing what you do. We are all different is so many ways, but we all deserve the same dignity and respect just for being human, no matter those differences. ( if you want me to delete the part half, let me know) Stay safe, stay sane, be well

[@SourSalty]

Don't call ppl male, it's cringe, a trans man, is a men.

[@Kai_The_Kai]

I’m genderfluid :) I go by any pronouns but dyshphoria is *BIG*

[@Freaklex737]

@@SourSalty let people call themselves what they want, if theyre comfortable with calling themselves a trans male, so be it, and if someone want yo he called a man, so be it. and no. no label is ‘cringe’. man, women, trans male, trans women, let people be called what they want, alright?

[@kite_was_here9351]

Man is relating to one men is relating to many so if he is referring to himself as a trans male he is talking about himself if he is relating multiple he would say trans men

[@parkerburr9556]

i'm a fluxuating enby and wearing my first super masc outfit from stuff i found in my dads closet, the gender euphoria is high :D

[@rugby-freak69]

I really enjoyed this and i hope it helps some people understand more sadly too many people seem incapable of learning new for them information. 🇨🇦🌈🇨🇦🌈

[@gloriatg100]

Bigotry is a terrible thing. Ignorance only breeds more ignorance. 🇺🇸🏳️‍🌈💄💋💅😁

[@theevilbean]

@Jack they're not saying that it's new they're saying it's not a good thing.

[@theevilbean]

@Jack bigotry?

[@aquavertihama7367]

@@theevilbean thats completely false either way and kinda dumb in my opinion, yes, let’s just not respect people because we don’t understand them.

[@TheCrazyGhost72]

Travis Yelland, why did you use the Canadian flag? That's not a pride flag, that's a flag of a country. I wasn't sure if you did that in purpose or not. But, I wanted to inform you just in case.

[@ratmanbruno5916]

I read this as 'speedrun' instead of 'spectrum' and was really confused for a couple seconds

[@cassidy1768]

Gender Any% WR (15:42)

[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

As an trans person who is just starting to be trans i feel like this might be usefull. I don't know if it will tough. Edit:it is usefull

[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

@bill stanley okay. Thanks for the correction :3

[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

@bill stanley were is that emoji from?

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[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

@bill stanley oh... okay

[@Liliana_the_ghost_cat]

@@PoweredByRainbows understandable. Hava great day and thank you for making this wonderfull content

[@mylorph]

Okay I'm tempted to send this to my family... I'm out but they never take me being non binary seriously, it wasn't until I asked if I could change some stuff in my school that my mum actually took a little notice...

[@mylife-23]

I feel that....

[@Kichimeza空虚]

Same, my parents perceive LGBT+ as both a waste of time and a trend, and a way to "get attention". So, just _thinking_ about telling them to stop calling me a goddamn girl and see me as non-binary is basically a daydream. Luckily, I have my wonderful friends that do see me the right way, as non-binary, kudos to them they're amazing :)

[@scootermcpeanuts6699]

The concept of gender has always bothered me. I just flatout don’t understand why we as humans even bother keeping the concept of gender around instead of just ditching it. When I talked to people about my perspective on gender, I was told I was “gender apathetic”. My main question, I guess, is “why is gender apathy so uncommon? Why do people even care about pronouns?” I come to videos like this hoping I’ll finally be able to find a solid answer for this question, but most either don’t give me an actual answer, or just reaffirm the idea that gender as a concept just shouldn’t even exist. If it IS a social construct, why should anyone even care, if it’s essentially just made up labels? I genuinely think the world would be a better place if everybody just used the same pronouns and the concept of gender was simply non existent. If anyone has an argument against this, by all means, please share it! I really want to finally get a decent answer to make me question my perspective, but I’ve never been able to find an argument that could actually do that.

[@WolfSyndrome]

Basically no one can argue because you are 100% correct.

[@holyheckinheckohheck]

To answer your question, one kind of has to work backwards. "If it IS a social construct, why should anyone even care, if it’s essentially just made up labels?" I think the term "social construct" gets thrown around so much that it's lost some of it's weight. By definition, "A social construct is something that exists not in objective reality, but as a result of human interaction. It exists because humans agree that it exists." [1] In order for a social construct to exist, people have to believe that it exists. People care about it because it exists in their minds and it exists because people care about it. Dismantling a social construct requires the full cooperation of a societal majority to not only stop believing in it, but to remove its influence from the basic functions of society. With that understanding, it's important to understand why that occurs in the first place. A social construct as a concept is just the observable effects of humans attempting to categorize and distinguish between differences in the natural world in order to make sense of our surroundings. "why is gender apathy so uncommon? Why do people even care about pronouns?" The difference between gender and sex comes down to sex being an objective reality, while gender is the belief that physical sex holds more weight and deeper meaning than reproductive function. Gender apathy is so uncommon because it requires the human brain to halt processing the world in terms of masculine and feminine. The biggest challenge there is that gender exists in our languages, an extreme example being Romance languages where even inanimate objects are ascribed gender. It's difficult to change the way you think when the language your thoughts are in is gendered. That's the reason people care about pronouns. The language exists as it is, and the most you can do is use in in the way it's most comfortable for you. I agree, it would be easier if everyone used the same pronouns, but I wish you luck in challenging an entire language! tl;dr: Your question is a paradox and so is the answer. It exists because people care and people care because it exists. In order for it to stop existing, the entirety of society has to believe in an alternative way of thinking and processing the world. [1] Why Social Constructs Are Created, Carol Bainbridge

[@scootermcpeanuts6699]

@@holyheckinheckohheck Oh my god, thank you so much! And, yeah. That actually makes a lot of sense. It was just a question that always bothered me, because all I could think was ¨I never see anyone with this mindset, it must be wrong, I just need to figure out what I´m wrong about.¨ The answer, obviously is not that simple. I see it now. It´s moreso a matter of different perspectives than correct opinions. Thank you for opening my eyes to this!

[@holyheckinheckohheck]

@@scootermcpeanuts6699 Of course! Sorry if I came off super academic, I've taken a lot of high level English classes lol. This subject is really interesting to me and I love getting to share my own perspective on it, so thank you for giving me the opportunity to talk about it!

[@scootermcpeanuts6699]

@@holyheckinheckohheck I find it very interesting too! The topic of social constructs in general is quite a beast of a topic, but I´m slowly trying to get at least a half decent understanding of it.

[@michellestrange3188]

I really enjoyed this video. Especially being a teen questioning my gender. I think I may be agender but I never can find a video talking about it to much so it was very great finding a video talking about different genders on the gender spectrum. And also talking about different ways to transition like wearing a binder or at appropriate age getting a surgery. Thank you!

[@spongeimebob]

In so glad that you made this. I'm soon planning to show this to my Father so he can actually understand my feelings for being trans. Instead of him thinking gender and sex are the same.

[@izthistle6196]

Identifying as non-binary is the most liberating thing I could’ve done. It’s like I’ve been pushed down under the water for all my life and finally getting a breath of air. People kept telling me that I’m confused and I need to “get over” it but I know I can’t because I will never go back to drowning again

[@LawCJ]

I think this is because now you don’t feel society’s pressure anymore to be a girl/boy.

[@happytortoisee]

That's such a perfect way to describe it. I'm genderfluid and have always felt pressure to change pronouns and presentation when my gender changes like everyone else that's genderfluid (that I saw, it's mostly just bad representation online) and to know exactly what gender I was every day, but when I let go of that and when I allowed myself to dress how I wanted, use the pronouns I want to, and remember that I don't have to always know my gender. (I mostly dress masculine/androgynous and I use all pronouns but prefer he/him and it/its) but I've also had the sane experience when I identify as non-binary, agender, or cassgender it's so nice not having that itching feeling that you shouldn't be dressing that way because you're (insert other gender here). There. My genderfluid rant is over lol. Definitions: Genderfluid: a gender that shifts and changes Non-binary: someone that has a gender that is not male of female Agender: someone without a gender Cassgender: for people who think their gender identity is of no importance and thus don't identify with one

[@vNill]

​@@LawCJ can you please explain this pressure to me?

[@YourfavLynnieWinnie]

This is one of the best descriptions of transgender people I've ever heard! It explains both transitions from mtf ftm and transitioning to non-binary!

[@SourSalty]

3:57 their is an infinity of gender identities. But I'll explain the basic ones. In the binary you got the well known male and female. I personally am female. But outside of this spectrum you got agender and genderfluid. Agender is when you litterally do not identify to any gender what so ever. And genderfluid is when you identify to multiple gender based on time or events, your gender with be constantly changing. Since genderfluid is multiple at once, it would be too complicated to place it precisely in a spectrum like the conventional spectrums you know. Than in between male and female you got the non binary spectrum. With demi boy and demi girl being two of the multiple identities present in it. If you are curious about this, you can alwase ask the non binary community questions about the spectrum. Just make sure that your questions are not invasive and that they are respectful, as some subjects like physical appearance are a bit to touchy to touch upon.

[@orion3threat]

Nonbinary can be between make and female but in other cases it can just be doing it's own thing giving a couple miles away.

[@FieldOfHats3]

Don't forget deminonbinary lol

[@toyloliSpare]

I feel like the two circles is a really messy and not helpful graph. I would instinctively prefer a cross-graph with the X axis being perceived -(m) to +(f), and the Y being identifying -(f) to +(m), you would then mark your gender as a shape (a line, triangle or square) of your birth gender, perceived gender and how you personally identifi giving you a rough blob of your overall gender identity. Maybe even put a clear marker specifically where you want to be in that blob as well.

[@rayhatter8315]

A hundred years ago or so the colours were the opposite. Blue for girls because it was soft and delicate. Pink for boys because it was a lighter shade of red and red is masculine. In addition to that the binary of just boy/girl is actually raciest. Many cultures have more then just two and dismissing all the others is dismissing part of the cultures, thus raciest.

[@nomen_est_pluto]

it's not racist. it's just our culture. we are not dismissing other cultures, this is just how we were raised. same as other cultures.

[@twylenb]

@@nomen_est_pluto I think what they meant is that it's racist and diminishing other cultures and ethnicities to deny the existence of other genders. Why would European view of gender be more correct than Indian or Polynesian view of gender?

[@phunkyphreshphrog3528]

By your logic, the entire spanish language would be racist because most words are gendered such as “la” “el” two forms of the english word “the” that are tailored to 2 genders. Nothing about the binary of a boy or girl is racist. 4000 languages or 99 percent of languages are gendered. So if I go by the hoops you jumped, 99 percent of cultures are racist.

[@twylenb]

@@phunkyphreshphrog3528 What's racist is to assume that the binary is the only and most authentic way, as stated in my comment above. Just because Europe assumed a binary, doesn't mean everywhere else did. There are plenty of examples of cultures where there are more than 2 genders. People who say 'there are only 2 genders' are ignorant or purposefully bigots. It's not wrong that Spanish, German, French, etc are highly gendered. It's just different. As long as people recognize other options and don't claim supremacy, that's fine.

[@beewillow6089]

every day im so thankful my mom has always been an ally since before i was born. i never felt unsafe to come out as a nonbinary lesbian and its helped me realize this so early in life. im only 15 and ive been out for a few years thanks to my mom. shes super supportive and calls herself a mama bear lol. i just wish everyone could have a mom like her. i have now decided to become the parent of all gay children...well as soon as im 18 lol >:)

[@DannTheMann0912]

Everyone needs to see this video!!! I’m tired of the people who are hateful and who refuse to learn! If you won’t treat your child with love and respect, then you shouldn’t have children!!

[@firevoid7211]

the biggest trouble is that you can be one gender but dress or preform opposite gender roles. for example, masculine afabs (a female at birth). their gender is cis, but they are manly. I feel like a lot of people struggle with telling the difference between being masculine/feminine and their gender. cuz you can be enby and femme, enby and masc, male and femme, female and masc, ect. my cis mother says that she is masculine and has more masculine gender roles because she has always supported the family and done all the "male" jobs but she is still female. it is very important that we teach that. just because you are masculine doesn't make you a boy or vice versa. just because a little boy plays with pink dolls doesn't make him trans, maybe he is just gay and feminine.

[@_i489]

Hey. I am also transgender and this helped a lot but is it ok or possible for some trans people to discover, question, and explore their gender a little late?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Of course that’s okay. Lots of great people I know explore their gender in their 80s because those around them didn’t accept them until they got educated recently. So you can explore your gender at any age.

[@zhangwei5176]

Ofcourse, people even find out their gender at 70 or older!

[@phantomhowlett9355]

Hey, fellow trans here. I didn't discover that I was trans until around 17 (almost 22 now). Though I guess there were signs (didn't realize because I was raised by people who didn't push the gender "norms" all that much), I never really went "I feel like a boy instead of a girl" until I became a teen. When I eventually brought up the feelings I had to a friend, they ended up telling me about the possibility of me being transgender and experiencing dysphoria. So it is possible to discover or question if you're trans later on, rather straight into childhood, but a lot do discover themselves as trans pretty young, even if they don't know the word itself.

[@monicakislo7845]

I didn't realize I was trans until my 30's I only knew I was different from my male friends

[@eethvamp]

@@phantomhowlett9355 I realized when I was nonbinary when I was 18, almost 19. Then, a few months ago, I realized tht I'm trans. And just recently, I changed my name to a masc one; Eithan. I'll be 19.5 in 1 day.

[@harasen_haras5]

Sometimes I wonder to myself how someone feels like they fit a certain gender. I don't know if that says something about me, or if I'm missing something.

[@barrylangille3523]

What it says about you is that you're probably cisgender. That feels totally natural and so there's no confusion. I'm cis myself but maybe I can tell you a little story. When I was young and reaching puberty I started feeling attraction for men. I grew up in a family that never talked about homosexuality (it wasn't gay yet!) except that those people Aren't Normal, so it was confusing and upsetting. But here's the thing. I remember that I took comfort in realizing that in spite of not being attracted to girls, I was still male. Being cisgender and gay can have it's own kind of disphoria when you know your sexuality won't be accepted. But at least my basic identity was in line with my biology. If someone felt attracted to men, but didn't feel attracted as a man, but that they should be a woman, it would be a transgender trait, although that's only one aspect. Imagine seeing yourself in a mirror and it's not you. That's partly how people know the gender they are. I don't know if that helps, but my own realization that my gender was okay but I was gay helps me see how transgender works.

[@harasen_haras5]

@@barrylangille3523 Thanks for taking your time to tell me your story. It was interesting to read. I'm still not certain about it, but I appreciate you taking your time to try and help. My view on it is that since I've only been inside my own head and haven't experienced being other genders, I can't compare and figure out what thoughts and feelings may be determining one's gender. Fortunately it isn't a big issue for me not to know but more a matter of curiosity and interest in figuring out more about myself.

[@ambie7437]

I'm gender apathetic, but alot of gender non conforming people are Non binary or don't go by a label, don't stress to find a label if you don't want one!

[@regularly_priced]

Hey! Hopefully this helps: Imagine yourself in the body of the opposite sex. (If you’re male, imagine yourself in a female body. If you’re female, imagine yourself in a male body.) Or maybe imagine people referring to you with different pronouns. You’ll probably feel a sense of wrongness or even feel nauseated. It’s a horrible feeling, right? Imagine if that was a reality. Imagine feeling that way all the time. This is exactly how transgender people feel(the condition is called gender dysphoria-you might know that already) and it can lead to depression and even suicide. Now on to how people can “fit” a certain gender: Whatever label relieves the person of this dysphoria or makes them feel the most comfortable is the label for them. There are many genders on the spectrum, but I will show you the most basic ones so you can understand this. Usually people feel like they are male or female, which are the first two basic genders here. But sometimes someone can feel uncomfortable with both these labels and may feel like they are in between male and female-let’s say this person we’re talking about is neutrois, or gender-neutral. Both the labels “male” and “female” makes this person uncomfortable, so they decide to go with another label in the middle of the two. Someone may feel like they don’t have a gender at all, which means they have no sense of their gender identity. This means they are agender; they don’t have a gender. Then the last basic gender identity I’d like to explain is aporagender. This one is rare. It means you have a gender identity that’s neither male nor female, but it’s not anywhere in between either. Basically, when someone is aporagender, it means they do have a gender identity, but they don’t feel comfortable being labeled as male, female, or anything in between. These are the five most basic gender identities, and everything else is somewhere between these five points. I used to be transphobic and it was mostly because I didn’t understand the discomfort with one’s body. (At the time I was bigender and didn’t know it.) I didn’t understand how other people could be uncomfortable, because I would have been fine being a boy, and I would have been fine being a girl. I didn’t realize that most people don’t feel this way. I was bigender; I was both a boy and a girl. Later when I became less transphobic and I understood the community more, I realized this label described me the best and it made me the most comfortable. Now I’m not bigender anymore and I understand the discomfort that some people feel, because I(someone who was born biologically female) feel uncomfortable imagining myself in a male body-this is because I know that I’m not male. My point is, even if you put my mind in a male body, I still know what I am-I still know I’m not a boy. So trans people know who they are even if their body doesn’t correspond with who they feel they are. Sorry this was so long. Tell me if you need any clarification.

[@barrylangille3523]

@Jack I just mean I'm cis. My attraction for men made me question that for a while, since I grew up when things like that weren't talked about. But I realized that in spite of that I was male gender in a male body, even if that concept was unknown at the time

[@tmaxim2651]

I think it would be nice if children were raised without a specific gender, until they decide.

[@lokal_agenda]

ive thought about doing this when i have/get kids.. good to know someone else thinks its a good idea, too!

[@shawn-oldaccountl6748]

If I ever adopt kids this is how I am going to raise them

[@wesleasmith1491]

i love the idea of that. i'm never going to have children of my own and will never be in the position to adopt, but if i was, i would raise the child as gender neutral as possible until they are able to decide what makes them the most comfortable

[@FieldOfHats3]

Yes please!!! Please I just want to be an uncloseted enby Please

[@Player-p4k]

Child abuse

[@amundaahh9473]

I don't understand why people are so obsessed with putting people into boxes, personally I think the whole gender system should be eradicated. The best way to identify people is simply by not putting any labels on them and instead just look at that person as someone completely new. If someone with a penis wants to wear "girl clothes" sure let them why not, but that's just their style, why classify that style as a "girlish style". Anyways this video helped clarify a lot thank you!

[@ambie7437]

While I do agree, I think labels should stick around. Some people feel more.comfortable with them. However back to what I agree with, I feel like no one should be conformed to a box and I feel like everyone needs to have an open mind. However, that being said, people shouldn't get offended by a preference (Like a preference towards male identifying people, or nb people)

[@amundaahh9473]

@@ambie7437 I fully agree sexuality is not something anyone can control and should be respected no matter what they're into, I just don't agree that we should have genders at all. I think it'd be better if we have just sex and then people can evolve from there. Also I see what you mean by some people being more comfortable with a label, but stepping out of your comfort zone is a big part of growing as a person, I don't think being uncomfortable is always necessarily a bad thing.

[@APitchOfSalt]

some basic definitions for you guys! :D (Correct me on any if im wrong ^^ Masc: Masculine presenting. Fem: Feminine presenting Pronouns: What is used to refer to a person when not talking directly to that person (I.e: He/She/They/It/Ze/Ve etc) a person can use multiple! (I.e: He/they, They/it, She/He) Neo's/Neo pronouns: Using an object, or item as a pronoun (I.e: Teddy/Teddyself, It/its, Ghost/Ghostself) (Example: Teddy went to the store to get us grapes, isn't Teddy just so nice? Gosh I love Teddyself.) Cisgender: Identifies and is comfortable with this birth sex Transgender: Gender is the opposite of their birth sex/ does not identify with birth sex(Spectrum) Non-Binary: Not male or female, but not outside of the gender circle(Transgender spectrum) Agender: No gender at all, but can choose to present masc or fem or use masc or fem pronouns. Bigender: Two or more genders at one time. Pangender: All genders(Except for agender) at once. Demi-girl: Half female, half Male/NB/Agender/Etc Demi-boy: Half male, half female/NB/Agender/Etc Tri-gender: Three or more genders at one time. Side note: Gender can be discovered at any time in your life! I didn't(And still dont) Fully have a label that fits (Going back and forth between NB and Agender) And you dont need to have dysphoria to be Transgender, you can be completely comfortable with your body and be trans! (This also means on/off dysphoria or dysphoria to certain bits only!) :D

[@gnomeperson3149]

adding on to this (yes the comments old but whatever) you described pronouns in a sense, but pronouns are a lot more complicated then just he, she, it, they, etc. i’m not english teacher so take this with a grain of salt, but there’s many different types of pronouns the ones you described are only one type (i believe). pronouns are also things like: my, we, us, you, mine, this, that, nobody, and more. in this i didn’t separate the different types of pronouns nor explain them so if you want more information you can research it yourself.

[@APitchOfSalt]

@@gnomeperson3149 I only explained it that way since i was doing definitions of sigular pronouns, so i didnt bother to include those that you listed ^^ /nm

[@gnomeperson3149]

@@APitchOfSalt i assumed so but thought it might teach someone something (not specificity you just anyone who could have read it i suppose)

[@Hoeausderlobby]

I wouldnt describe demigenders as "half that gender" but more "part that gender/not fully that gender" since not all demigender people feel like they are 50% of whatever gender (if that made any sense)

[@YAWTon]

At around 2:30 "often they realize that their gender is the sane as their sex assigned at birth". On the otherhand: sex is completely different from sex (one is based on biology, the other is a social construct). Am i confused, or is the confusion in the definition of the terms that are used by the person presenting this clip?

[@hybridized-skycotl1672]

when you used the name Andy my mind immidietly went to one of my trans male friends

[@Chancelot]

A fellow sky kid 👉😎👉

[@claudioelgueta5722]

I am an adult male and so is my cousin, who's gay. When it comes to love and sex, I like women and he likes men. Nothing wrong with that. He's happy with being a man and so am I. I believe the overwhelming majority of those who feel they don't fit in either category has been influenced by a misguided level of tolerance and acceptance that will only make them into people that migrate from self-doubt to conflict when facing the world outside their bubble. Most people who seek help need more than sexual orientation. They need wise advice and affection. Your children, if you manage to have any, will laugh at your lack of common sense. Tolerance is one thing. Child abuse is another.

[@KMILLER1181]

I'm so glad u did this. Nina/mamabear here and I'm so glad you keep me educated so I can help and learn to be a better ally, friend mother, etc. You are doing amazing things and am so glad I can be apart of it.

[@aristocat3012]

Oh hi Nina!! Happy Thanksgiving! Love your work! -!frog lord! (from the Discord server)

[@KMILLER1181]

@@aristocat3012 happy Thanksgiving

[@SourSalty]

9:20 gender therapists have been renowned as being an unhealthy method to transition as the single instance of including someone else in the discussion makes it gate keeping and hard for someone to transition. This is why we tend to go towards informed consent clinics to get our hormones, as it's way faster and easier to do so, and it's more respectful, minus the misgendering in front of other ppl.

[@moonbowcraze1632]

Gender is a tricky thing, I tell ya.

[@omnisystem6030]

@Jack Gender is real

[@no0dle_child558]

I wish my parents could understand this video, but sadly they are too stubborn in their ways.

[@corpsestars]

same, when i told my dad about my transgender friend sky he started laughing and saying your either a girl or a boy

[@corpsestars]

@⸙ ¦ Moth ❞ sure, i’d gladly do it

[@resijade4342]

first comes the sexuality crisis then the gender crisis then the second sexuality crisis *then the second gender crisis*

[@happytortoisee]

This. Is. MEEEEEEEEEEEE

[@zagyex]

There is a big problem with your explanation. Why do I have to define myself as some kind of minority if I like to behave as I wish? Liking pink, dolls and tea parties make me female? Why can't boys like tea parties or pink? I like both, I'm skinny and have long blond curvy hair. But this doesn't mean I'm a different "gender". This only means social norms are just large averages and you can behave differently if you like. I identify as me and really dislike the idea that social norms prescribe my gender.

[@shewolfblacklink1062]

I like being a girl but sometimes I want to have a masculine voice and wear a suit... But I'm still a girl... So this makes me feel happy.

[@shawn-oldaccountl6748]

Lmao, I’m a man but sometimes I just want breasts and a period, but I am still a man

[@alextheconfuddled8983]

@@shawn-oldaccountl6748 ayo you want periods 🤨 dafuq

[@shawn-oldaccountl6748]

@@alextheconfuddled8983 yup

[@squidge4728]

Gender expression and gender identity can definitely be linked but are ultimately different things. I feel the same way often.

[@meepthescorpio6367]

I AM LEARNING MORE EVERY DAY, AAAAA-!

[@DAZanimations]

i want to break these circles, I hate the idea of societal norms for female/ male, I think gender should be fluid and anyone should be free to like, wear, or act however is most comfortable to themselves without putting a label to it

[@Metruzanca]

So whats the science behind non-binary? In an earlier video & in the sources you show that brains are associated with gender identity and not sex. However I'm struggling to find any source that talks about how non-binary brains are different from male/female brains or mentions any scientific backing to the existence of non-binary. Got any good scientific sources?

[@Alcor-wf8gc]

For some reason I get the feeling my brain is just like: I PAID FOR THE WHOLE GENDER SPECTRUM, *I'M GONNA USE THE WHOLE GENDER SPECTRUM*

[@foxstorm2920]

Pangneder?

[@fantasii2802]

Once my friend called me she in front of the whole class at school even though he knows I go by he

[@SqueamishNerd]

It's good to know that puberty blockers should only be taken for a couple of years, not as long as 5-6 years (as in the example with Larry), such a long treatment with puberty blockers can lead to osteoporosis, this is because both oestrogen and testosterone protect against osteoporosis.

[@subtality9616]

what if gender identity is a biproduct of social labels? I've lost count of how many times I've heard "He/she/they look weird when you do (insert body language)" or "-when you say (insert phrase usually unsaid by gender)". It really wouldn't surprise me if this were the case, given how we visually treat each others bodies sometimes

[@Veltorb]

Where I'm from the hard medical transitioning is completely free

[@knospace4744]

the trans community would like to know your location

[@AIenSmithee]

Why is gender theory so backward. I played with dolls as a child and wore dresses. I’m not a woman, I was not a girl. I thought we were supposed to breaking down gender stereotypes? Why does this sounds like they are being reinforced to support the idea that gender is separate to sex.

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Gender identity is a scientific law, not a theory.

[@AIenSmithee]

@@PoweredByRainbows Here is the definition of Scientific Law: Scientific laws or laws of science are statements, based on repeated experiments or observations, that describe or predict a range of natural phenomena. Considering gender identity can only be identified by the individual, what experiment or test could you run to determine someone's gender without them telling you?

[@cherkovision]

@@AIenSmithee This isn't science at all. It's sociology at best and pseudo-science at worst.

[@WhiteCloudProductions]

​@@cherkovision ​sociology is a field of study in science. The literal definition of science is the systematic study of the structure and behavior of the physical and natural world through observation, experimentation, and the testing of theories against the evidence obtained. This includes the study of the mind a.k.a psychology and study of human society a.k.a sociology. Just because certain fields of study is difficult for you to grasp doesn’t make that field unscientific.

[@wadd8813]

When Andy changed their name to ash (the same nb name I chose) my brain filled wish endorphins

[@starchildvampz]

SIDE NOTE: during the Ash (formally known as andy) discussion he mentions that ash is in no harm doing these things. While this would be true, binder is on there and if a child or anyone is using a binder they need to be educated on how to use it to not be harmed

[@slepylynx]

i have a question, i dont label myself but i like to say that im all genders. what would that label be?

[@riverbed590]

gender fluid probably if u fluctuate between them

[@mjnhrndz]

gender ultimate

[@slepylynx]

@@riverbed590 ah i see

[@slepylynx]

@@mjnhrndz YESSS sounds about right i am the ultimate person >:)

[@SilentAsriel]

Pangender can also be a label that can fit, I guess

[@cherkovision]

There are so many things about this video that make no sense: 1) 1:05 "If a person likes pink dolls and tea parties, their gender would be, in theory, female". According to whose theory? Why can't boys like pink dolls and tea parties? And what about things like sports? Are those, in theory, for boys? Is this the theory of sexism? 2) 1:12 "When a person is born, the doctor will look at the child and call them either a boy or a girl based solely on the genitals they have". Actually, about 6 months BEFORE the person is born, the SONOGRAPHER will OBSERVE the sex based on the CAUDAL NOTCH they have. 3) 1:22 "They will write this on their birth certificate which is unfortunate". If gender is completely separate from sex, then what's wrong with having one's sex on their birth certificate? That doesn't affect their gender. Do you change your birth certificate if you change your gender? 4) 1:46 "When a child is taken home, they are put in a nursery with pink or blue paint on the walls and girls are given pink dolls and boys are given blue trucks". First off, if sex is assigned AT BIRTH, then how did the walls get painted so fast? Second, you must live in a hyper-gendered world, because in my experience (and confirmed by a google-image search for "baby nursery") the walls are usually neutral-toned and newborn babies typically have teddy bears, jungle mats, and rattles. Don't misrepresent the opposition. 5) 3:51 "there are literally millions of gender identities". Then why even bother to classify individuals by it, if you'll probably never meet two people with the same gender identity? 6) 4:43. To give me an example of how the gender spectrum works, he first gives the example of a boy...then the example of a girl. Those are literally the two simplest examples. I want to know what an agender baby might look like (middle of the spectrum), and how that would be different from a non-binary baby (bottom of the spectrum) or a baby that straddles the male/female (top of the spectrum)? 7) 6:19 "their true gender was, and will forever be non-binary". I have a feeling that he's going to contradict this later in the video. 8) 6:34 "in order to help people understand that they are non-binary, Andy decides to let their hair grow out longer". I thought that Andy was a female? Don't females usually have long hair, and thus if Andy doesn't want to be mistaken for a girl, they should cut it shorter? 9) 6:56 "Andy is going to wear more neutral clothing instead of wearing dresses all the time. Andy will now wear jeans on some days and skirts on other days". Is this the 1950s? Since when do women wear dresses all the time? Lots of women wear jeans! Alternating between jeans and skirts is still more effeminate than most women! 10) 7:19 "Andy decides to change their name to Ash". How is Ash more gender-neutral than Andy? Andy is typically short for Andrew, but can also be short for Andrea. Ash sounds like it's short for Ashley. If this female is trying to seem less feminine, they're going in the wrong direction. 11) 7:45. "All these are completely reversible if needed". There's that contradiction that I anticipated. I mean if their true gender will forever be non-binary, so why might Ash ever need to reverse any of these? 12) 8:53. I still have no idea what the difference between agender and non-binary is. 13) 9:45. "You can only transition with parent/guardian permission, consent from a licensed psychiatrist, and consent from their doctor." Right, but if your psychiatrist and/or doctor doesn't give consent, you can just give them a bad google review, tell everyone that they're transphobic, and go find one who WILL give consent, right? And what if it's the parent/guardian who doesn't give permission? 17:07. Oh. 14) 10:20. "She was born with female genitals so her doctor assigned her "female", thus her family and friends perceived her as female". Again, misrepresenting the opposition. When I see someone who I perceive as "female", it's not because I somehow know what some doctor said at her birth. 15) 10:38. "At four-years-old, Leslie started to not want to wear dresses all the time and wanted to play with the boys on the playground". Again with this hypothetical hyper-gendered world! Why are girls being forced to wear dresses all the time and not play with boys?! 16) Got to the end...still have no idea what the difference is between the top, middle, and bottom of the spectrum of perceived gender.

[@AIDENo_o]

He said in theory because it's wrong that's not how gender works and I do not have enough time or brain power to go through this all and correct it so I'm just going to correct the second one

[@cherkovision]

@@AIDENo_o But that's what he IS saying. He says "you can think of gender like this..." Are you disagreeing with him? Because it sounds like you're disagreeing with my objections.

[@AIDENo_o]

@@cherkovision it is an easy way to describe somebody who knows nothing about the differences between gender and sex a societal idea of gender that is not based off of your biological sex which again is why in theory he says that because gender is a lot more complex than that

[@WhiteCloudProductions]

How tf did you watch the entire video and not understand a single thing. Did you not pay attention? Did you hate to watch just be because you are axinous to disagree with the idea of gender spectrum. You've must've watched this close-minded cause everything you pointed out was blatant bad-faith interpretations of what was carefully explained in the video.

[@cherkovision]

@@WhiteCloudProductions my mind was open, but also skeptical. If these ideas aren't immune to skepticism, then they aren't good ones. I think that my doubts are valid.

[@dumbkid4ever224]

My mom said I'm too young to think about my gender yet she still referrs to me as cis, this video proves everything she said wrong, what a *****

[@AVIANAESMERALDASZISTENNO]

As someone who is visibly androgynous and I identify as Androgyne, a nonbinary identity, it’s important more people ALLOW US TO EXPLAIN WHO WE ARE AND LET OTHER QUEER PEOPLE STEP IN TO HELP EXPLAIN IF PEOPLE DON’T UNDERSTAND. I’m glad to see other queer people not put up with abuse and bullying for gender identity, sex, & expression

[@ChristopherWadsworth_]

This should be put up in health classes

[@hunty12we12]

My gender is like randomly throwing darts at the wall

[@bats1312]

no same

[@Trinimp]

please Forgive my spelling and poncuation mistakes if there are any mistakes i rather the coments stay on topic. if you are confused by what i mean just ask about the specific part. So before i say anything, I am a Cis-gender heterosexual man. Meaning i was born a Phyiscal male and social intentifiy as a man, Im attracted to phyiscal females and prefer feminine traits although all humans are a collective of both masculine and feminine traits and im a avid believer in that. i notice in myself that i have on average more feminine traits (mentally and emotionally) then the average male although i mostly see myself as masculine. Now i agree with everything stated here with some concerns of binding simply out of concern for compressing apart of their body for an extended period of time, until the 9:00 mark. How in any way does medical treatment have to do with your own self being. for example hormone blockers. hormones are a natraul process in the human body and is a part of who you are, at that point wouldnt the person in question blocking their hormones be denying who they are and who they are becoming. lets lets use this as an example for another point, people who take testosterone. Testosterone is not only affecting the physical appearance of the person and other actual phyical traits but can also effect the mind of the individual and make them think differently. at that point your mind has been altered by a 3rd party and you are no longer behaving how you would of before. a perfect example of this is puberty and why i cause such mental strife for some people. Then their are physical sex change refered to as hard medical transition in this video. now before i make this next point i want to make it clear that i respeact the right to want to do anything with your body and i am not saying people shouldn't be allowed to do so, i believe if you literally just want a penis or vigina and or breast no other reason and you have the money and you can not force anyone to do the operation i say go stright for it. Where my issue lies with is that a Physical transtions is not who you are, you are yourself including the parts you were born with and the idea that you are something that requires science to change who you are on a physical, emotion, mentally change who you are. that is no longer you but an ideal that your striving to be based on your surroundings. If our gender is not determined by our sex why are we then coralating the 2 with a physical sex change. A physical sex change, IS NOT A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT. it is a physical modification. to me it seems like people are forcing their own bodys to fit the gender that they identifiy with that way they can in someway meet society standards. medical transtions shouldnt be what you want it seems more as a compermise because society is not allowing you to be what you beleive you are so you force society to beleive by changing yourself to meet that standard. but in my mind this is counter productive and defeats the point of trying to be yourself. cultural transtions are what we need not medical ones. please leave me a comment if you aggree or disagree and if you disagree please explain why you disagree other wise i can not learn your perspective.

[@AviKats66]

Quick correction on intersex: intersex people don’t have two complete separate sets of genitalia and/or reproductive tract, one male and one female. Instead they have one set of genitals and reproductive tract (just like non-intersex people) which has developed to have both male and female parts and/or ambiguous/in between parts. Very vague sum up there but check out places like Wikipedia and InterACT for a better understanding.

[@indigo9329]

Is it ok to start having dysphoria later in life? My journey to discovery of my gender didn't start till last year. You say in alot of your videos it starts in childhood but that isn't that case for me. Help?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

I meant for most people it begins while younger but it can certainly begin when you’re older too.

[@indigo9329]

@@PoweredByRainbows that make sense to thx for clarifying. Have a good day😊

[@j4jsk902]

Thank you! Okay so that means, if gender wouldnt exist and we all would be equal without any stereotypes between the (fe)male sex, a such thing as non binary, agender or genderfluid wouldnt exist, right? But due to the existence of stereotypes, people who dont fall into the stereotypes are automatically part of the non binary umbrella term, right?

[@nunyadambidniss]

ROFLLMAO !!! WHY are you even attempting to engage with this inanity ???

[@MsTeapot11]

I wish I could get some people to listen to and believe the part of this where you explain, legally, what has to happen in order for a person to even have soft medical transition. I have attempted to explain it before, and am convinced some people just don't want to listen.

[@complicatrix7602]

Gender expression and identity are two different things! Someone who likes pink and dolls would not by default have a female gender identity just because their expression is feminine. Gender identity isn't a social construct, gender expression is. Gender identity is a part of someone's brain, they're born that way - similar to sexuality.

[@DatHombre]

So there is something observable in the brain that would show when someone is nonbinary? Or any of the 3572932 genders? Can we observe brains in caskets and see what their gender identity was? Source?

[@ash_afk1270]

"And Andy decides to change their name to Ash," Welcome, new Ash, there's many of us, so brace yourself. 7:20

[@necromanzer52]

It feels like the way you use the word, 'gender', is synonymous with how I would use the word, 'personality'. What would you say is the difference? and if there are millions of different gender identities, then is it even a useful concept anymore?

[@theviewer6889]

So what if there are a million genders? There are a million colours but we still have names for them. Colours are still a useful concept despite the fact there are a ridiculous amount of them.

[@necromanzer52]

@@theviewer6889 But there's no equivalent to sex when it comes to colours. Which is a much more useful concept than what specific label someone feels truly expresses their exact relationship towards masculinity and femininity.

[@tr3nch_712]

Hello! I'd like to show this to my parents so they can understand better what im going through but they don't speak english, could you add the option of submitting subtitle please?

[@johnrm9]

Your sex is NOT assigned at birth. Your sex is established at conception and recognized at birth if not earlier.

[@luni_yk]

I’m going to send this to my parents 🤪✋

[@SourSalty]

2:54 this is fake in most male to female cases, because toxic masculinity is constantly forced down upon us, we are forced to present as manly and be strong and show no emotions. Despite those traits clearly being stereotypical. I rather you ask the Transgender community for info by doing survey about our past, than you litterally invent events that never happened for the majority of us. Also when you got to explain gender, you gotta have to explain gender Dysphoria at some point, it's inevitable and it avoids a lot of confusion. But basically gender is your deep felt identity, it has nothing to do with your gender expression. And gender should never, ever be associated with a colour.

[@nattiberrington]

It really isn't wrong in most mtf cases and you don't need gender dysphoria to be trans. Society just tells mtf's they're wrong, so more feel like they are wrong when they say that they're mtf. And as a trans person myself, I've never really experienced dysphoria, I mean I don't like the size of my boobs, but I don't necessarily want them fully gone, and I've never had the feeling of not liking them in reference to my gender (grey agender). I've only really felt gender euphoria. Studies have actually found that euphoria is a really big indicator that somebody's trans (binary or non-binary), and dysphoria is not necessary to he trans.

[@thisisanaltchannelp7594]

When your actual gender is non-binary but most people still perceive you as female even after telling them many times your non-binary :,D

[@clizbot]

Because you ARE female. You’ve just convinced yourself you aren’t. I can promise the reasons are insignificant… Take some time to watch videos that debunk videos like this one. This man, like most other “queer people” are taking gender norms too seriously. And are the ones who are ACTUALLY reinforcing these norms they’re supposedly against. He literally thinks all girls should wear dresses all the time. He’s just a special kind of stupid.. Free yourself from this garbage. I promise you can be yourself at 1000% without it.

[@MintSoda_Soul]

I still don't really know about my gender. I was born a guy but sometimes I feel like a girl, sometimes I feel like a guy, and sometimes I feel like neither. Does that make Gender Fluid or does that make me something else?

[@PalmRiot360]

Genderfluid means that ur gender variates over time. So, yea. You could be genderfluid. Eventually, its up to you if you'd like to call urself that. It's okay to question these things :)

[@PalmRiot360]

@@Woldmord yes.

[@kanutaro3426]

Feelings are fleeting. You're still a guy regardless of how you feel

[@Cahrssomething]

@@kanutaro3426 typo

[@bats1312]

@@kanutaro3426 lmao did you even watch the video?

[@coffe_and_tv]

my gender is *no*

[@rainbow_angel8225]

Should I tell my therapist about what I feel my gender is Im terrified that she will tell my mom I know my mom probably accept me but I don’t quite like knowing she might not accept me

[@happytortoisee]

A therapist should never tell anyone else about what you discuss with them unless you tell them too. I've been in that situation before when I was little where my therapist pretty much forced me to tell my parents something I didn't want to. That's not ok. As long as you trust your therapist and they haven't told anyone before, I'd give it a try.

[@rainbow_angel8225]

I told her she was ok with it she also said that she won’t say anything to my parents unless it involves safety which makes sense

[@hi-mh5iu]

as a trans/Demiboy this is really helpful for me Thank you

[@moxieguerrero9494]

Kinda sad because the background is so colorful but his tie is gray

[@Fy0z_]

i'm pans and genderqueer and my parents ship me with a boy whom i hate...i just can't come out to them..what should i do? heck

[@that_forest_fae]

I always just felt like I'm human, I just existed

[@itz_bobin3525]

anyone know how u can figure out your lable? ive been struggling for a few years and i cand find one that fits :( ty to anyone who can help :)

[@Miles_G_Morales]

I tried being like a different gender for abit kinda like trying it out until i felt comfortable! It took me a few years and i now identity as non binary!

[@abunchofrandomnumbers]

the gender wiki

[@blueangel6781]

Well what do you mean by that? Maybe I can help, what don't you under stand?

[@Potatoes654]

Can you tell me what you feel like? I can try to find one that fits. :))

[@koi9723]

Having my bf watch this. He still thinks there are two genders and I'm tired of him disrespecting my friends genders, even if he thinks he's not. I love him and I tried to explain to him (I use any pronouns) that its not a choice and its who we are.

[@koi9723]

he got mad and said i was drilling it into his head like a religion when i was trying to make him understand how i felt.

[@abunchofrandomnumbers]

Girl throw the whole boyfriend away

[@Darkmatter2721]

@@NationalismDjazair it’s not a different mindset it’s bigotry and transphobia.

[@abunchofrandomnumbers]

@@NationalismDjazair It isn’t a different mindset it’s being a transphobic piece of shit 😭

[@abunchofrandomnumbers]

@@NationalismDjazair Luckily my boyfriend is actually a functioning human being and doesn’t throw temper tantrums over pronouns like this persons boyfriend does

[@booksaltmightturnintoanima610]

as soon as i come out i'm sending this to my parents, thank you for helping btw i currently have no idea what i am

[@Noonoo10]

a tip to help with that is try out a few diffrent things and see what your most comftorble with

[@chrissyweikoop7931]

Professor, one question. If gender is a spectrum, shouldn't we consider gay people also to be on that spectrum? I feel like, we should as a community distance ourselfs from being about "sexualities", and i feel like, being gay is like being on a different point on that gender spectrum. What do you think?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Well gender is it’s own spectrum. Gay is a sexuality not a gender. But for sexualities, we have 7 spectrums to describe our sexuality which we cover in other episodes. So really who we are is defined in 9 spectrums…perceived and actual gender, then 7 sexual orientation spectrums to define who we love.

[@chrissyweikoop7931]

@@PoweredByRainbows Oh i see, thank you. I was just thinking about how being gay, at least to me, isn't only restricted to the sexuality, but also the behaviour and how one likes to express themselfes. Guess there is so much more to learn, so thanks for your answer! :)

[@barrylangille3523]

@@PoweredByRainbows 9 specrums? Wow. I don't know if I'll ever get this right, as someone who came out at 60 it's all still new. Not to mention that society still avoids the subject. Do you have a video that gives an overview of how those all work?

[@moonbowcraze1632]

@@PoweredByRainbows Dang, 7?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

@@barrylangille3523 Sure thing we have videos on that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hnbalHZolqyZea8

[@ruinerfeeling2032]

any sources to those statements?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

All of our sources are always listed in the description of each episode.

[@problemchild8531]

This is so helpful!!! I learned some new stuff here today thanks for that :D Personally I feel like I am gender fluid or gender queer. Bc some days I feel feminine, and some I feel masculine, and some I feel like I’m in between. But sometimes it’s hard for me bc I’ve never felt the sort of depression over my body that I hear so much about. For me it’s more like I wake up one morning and want to express myself in a more masculine way and I go “you know what, I feel masculine, let’s put on the one outfit I have that I like on my masculine days” And honestly sometimes I feel like I’m a liar or something bc of this. Which can really be hurtful for me. Then I have that one memory from my childhood when I thought “there’s no way there can only be man and woman, there must be people who are in between or none at all” I was like five years old and had never heard of lgbtq+ Then I get back some of my confidence bc I have a lot of those sort of memories. Also once I dressed up as a fairy warrior princess, and there’s a picture of that and it’s very much giving of gender neutral energy. And I haven’t really come out to my parents yet, and I don’t have a binder (although I really want one) and I haven’t thought of any names for myself yet. Edit: might be non-binary, and I’m currently looking around for a new name. I’m gonna ask my god father to help me :) Anyone whit any suggestions?

[@foxstorm2920]

You don't need gender disforia to be trans, euforai should be the identifer of the gender spectrum

[@jasonm2245]

Spectrum is not inclusive enough, it says you can only draw a line between male and female. why not a plane? Or an n dimension tetrahedron? Much more inclusive you know.

[@kaiyodei]

i don;t know. I have people tell me some genders are "outside the spectrum" so, some genders are outside that circle. your enby character, just they and them pronoun? not Xhyr Xhym Xhys type pronoun? is 99.9% woman when afab still transgender?

[@mylife-23]

@nikolas the bumblebee some people don't consider themselves on the spectrum like some agender people for example.

[@mylife-23]

Some people might identify outside of it but not everyone with that identity does. No matter the gender you can use whatever pronouns you want for you or a character your making. I'm not 100% sure what the last question means but, Being trans is simply not identifying with the " gender " assigned at birth. (Used gender because KZbin is sensitive now when I say the other word) - ps: I'm Bigender 🌻

[@mylife-23]

@nikolas the bumblebee still thou, I used agender as an example. It's all upto the individual on if they consider themselves on it or not. By technicality the definition is still in the gender spectrum but how someone identifies with it may not feel it's within the gender spectrum. I've run into enbys that don't consider themselves on the spectrum while others do.

[@kaiyodei]

@nikolas the bumblebee so xenogenders are just "special" nonbinary? and not how I assume people think they are beyond?

[@gretelspitzer9565]

A clear and well put together presentation. More straightforward than most presentations on this topic. However, I don’t agree with some of the base definitions and that makes the entire argument flimsy to me. The way I understand it, these are my general definitions Sex is biological. Sex (male vs female) is determined by genes and named or ‘assigned’ at birth based on the presence of secondary sex characteristics (ie penis, vagina,etc). For the sake of this argument, we are going to ignore any intersex persons. Doctors do not assign gender at birth, they identify the sex of an individual. Gender ( man…woman…boy…girl…non-binary…etc) is entirely socially constructed. It is determined by the roles you fill in your environment and the way your society sees you. Sex is not gender, but the two are linked. Society will tend to place a person in a specific gender category and try to allocate them to certain gender roles based on the person’s sex. However, we are not obligated to stay in these roles or limit ourselves to these categories. Because gender is based on how society views a person, how we are viewed ultimately identifies what gender we are. The gender we feel ourselves to be is irrelevant. There is no ‘true’ gender. From this viewpoint, gender is a category placed on us by society. It is not an identity. It’s clear to me that many people feel strongly about what gender they should belong to and how they would like others to view them. It can certainly cause anxiety, frustration and dysphoria when the people around us do not see us in the same way we see ourselves. However, I don’t fundamentally understand why the gender labels matter so much.

[@sinjisbetterthanyou]

Is it okay that I’m still trying to figure myself out in middle school?

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Yes of course that’s ok

[@ThatOnePurpleKid]

I'm about to graduate highschool and in still tryna figure myself out Hun ❤️

[@PlatinumDawg99]

In regards to toys, when I was a kid, I played with dolls, and I also played with toy cars and trains. I am cisgender but just wanted to share. Also, you can be a gnc trans person or nonbinary person. If cis people can be gender nonconforming, then so can trans/nonbinary people.

[@freeformlolol1202]

There may be 64 genders (pertaining to how we reference complex personal classifications). The confusion of gender with frameworks of sexual preference is not an appropriate social model. There is no argument on the matter.

[@partypoison8476]

This video is so well done! I didnt even knew about gender therapy!

[@mayathebee3324]

I really enjoyed it, thank you! But please, next time don’t confuse sex and gender (male and female is sex, boy and girl is gender) just noticed that you wrote on the circles male and female. Thank you!

[@lashawnwhite7702]

Now I understand a lot more. Thank you.

[@lemonari8811]

i sent this to my transphobic mom. wish me luck

[@bats1312]

how did it go?

[@almostTOTALLYvix]

you good mate

[@oblyviicn]

I’m a cis female and have never questioned my gender but this video kept showing up in my recommended and I actually found it really educational. I appreciated this really much and I enjoyed the small bits of comedy smacked into the video too (4:32 I think?) I never understood why those who didn’t feel their gender assigned at birth didn’t “stick with” their genders assigned, and I still don’t fully understand but this video gave some genuine insight and I will try to understand it better from now on c: That being said though, I’m also cishet but pretty sure I’m asexual lol, particularly demisexual, bc I don’t find attraction to anyone in general- like at all lol and I’ve joked about it but my pan friend suggested maybe a sexuality and I’ve done research and I think maybe I’m demisexual :>

[@petraflore6667]

What if I came out as trans at 16 (and still have to wait for medical transition) and haven't took the puberty blockers? I have to take them and wait other time?

[@sarahharvey9783]

I’ve been socially transitioned for a bit over a year now and have been questioning my gender since I was in primary school but only properly started realising I was non binary a few years ago and I know I want top surgery and have been on the wait list to see the gender identity clinic for ages but the wait is very long I still have no clue if I want to take testosterone because on one hand I want more of a male physique and deeper voice but I don’t want facial hair or a penis I feel like at the minute I’m kind of passing a lot of people look at me and can’t tell if I’m male or female but in my mind I still feel to feminine with my voice and body I want everyone to look at me and go are they male or female and genuinely have no clue what I am because for me that’s passing I love when peoples if I’m a boy or girl but I still feel like I get called she way more than they or he

[@JanvanOordt]

An excellent video! Thank you!

[@Selrahc123]

I need your guys help. What is more important, gender or sex? Sex is easier to identify, and gender is more subject to change. What I am saying is that one is more rooted in reality and the other is rooted in feelings. Why do human emotions have so much bearing? Please respond to this I must know!!!

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Both are only important if you want them to be. Some people choose to focus on one or the other. Others choose to forget gender and sex exist and just be themselves no matter what clothes, hair, or expression it projects.

[@AIenSmithee]

Sex assigned at birth? I thought gender was different to sex. How can sex be assigned. I thought gender was fluid and sex was biological? This is inconsistent.

[@PoweredByRainbows]

Gender and sex are biological. And we have a very consistent message. I would suggest playing the video again if you’re confused.

[@AIenSmithee]

@@PoweredByRainbows Gender is biological?

[@cherkovision]

@@AIenSmithee Yes, because your gender is something that you become aware of in your brain. And your brain is a biological organism. Get it? Some might say that gender is psychological. But psychology is just applied biology. Therefore, everything psychological is biological. I'm pretty sure that's the implication here.

[@AIenSmithee]

@@cherkovision That would mean that everything is biological. If I was born in Japan and only spoke Japanese and felt as Japanese as anyone else I could say biologically that I am Japanese. My DNA would indicate that I am European however. I don’t think this is what you are saying however. Please correct me if I’m wrong but it sounds like you are saying that if we were all just brains without bodies we would identify as male or female. If then given bodies it wouldn’t matter whether it was biologically male or female we would still feel the same gender. That’s fine but that would still mean that your brain is for example male while your sex is female. This seems consistent biologically. The only issue arises for me when it is said that sex was “assigned” at birth. Surely we can say that we can know sex at birth because if we aren’t then we are saying that there is no basis in biology for sex.

[@AIenSmithee]

@@PoweredByRainbows from 00:36 onwards you say everyone is born with sec characteristics but gender is a social construct. I don’t understand how gender is both innate in our biology and also constructed by society? On gender you say “it is entirely based on the norms, behaviours and expected roles within society”. This is clearly saying that gender is not biological.

[@eyks1]

Bro you explained this so well. It helped my parents understand alot aswell

[@SleepyRacoonYT]

I'm now a bit confused bout myself and my gender identity I'm pretty sure I'm genderfluid but Most of the time i feel neither male or female or only male i don't really want to change that much how i look like i like my hair long but i want a top surgery but i don't want to go on hormones . Is it normal? To feel like that? I'm almost 15 btw

[@theviewer6889]

I'm 22 and also gendefluid (mostly male, occasionally nothing, and sometimes shifting in between the two). You don't need to look a certain way to be trans, you don't need to want/get any medical procedures to be trans either, but if you do want to get medical help/go through physical changes that is also completely fine. What your describing sounds perfectly normal. One thing I will say though is don't feel like you need to put yourself into any specific box. You are allowed to change labels, and that doesn't make how you felt/how you are feeling any less valid (I went from being a cis girl to genderqueer to binary trans man to genderfluid trans masc), however if you spend the whole rest of your life feeling like genderfluid is the right word for you then that is 100% alright as well.

[@vNill]

As someone on the opposite side of the table, (and about to get downvoted to oblivion) l can explain the reason why gender is viewed as it is around the world, and why this video is more harmful than useful, and why the idea of it being a social construct is incorrect, (l will get to this in the last part) first we need to set a couple of things clear: 1. The overwhelming majority of people on earth conform to the idea of gender and sex, while the minority (trans, gays, nonbinaries etc. ) do not, there is a clear reason for this 2. As human beings we are born with all kinds of attributes/conditions and characteristics that make us all different, some are hereditary, others are happenstance, for example: some are born very tall, others very smart, some are born without limbs or an excessive amount of testosterone, down syndrome, 2 twins sharing one body, ugly, pretty etc. and likewise, some are born without recognizing (feeling) the gender they were born under, we call them nonbinary, or their body/mind being switched (a trans) With those points set, we can come to the understanding that people as such are not a new gender, simply someone born differently than the rest, yet deserving the same respect as everyone else, keep in mind that gender exists for the sole purpose of procreating a species as to not go extinct, for which only 2 are required. Now as l pointed above, the reason the majority of people conform to gender is because we were born as nature (or god, whatever you believe in) intended, as male or female, this is not to say that the rest are abnormal, but were simply born different, and for this reason the nonbinary community seem to be trying to make sense in their own mind and reasoning why gender should even exist when it is the reason we still exist at all, male and female, ying and yang, call it what you want, it is the force of attraction that most of us have to the opposite sex by nature Now as for the entire idea of social construct, there is a difference between behavioral conditioning based on our culture/religion/surroundings, and behavior based on our innate human nature, for example, -the japanese bowing to each other is an example of a social construct, there is nothing inherent to male/female involved here -being insulted by someone and instinctly feeling sad/angry, is human nature There is no valid data or result of hundreds of thousands of years of human civilization and observation, that asserts that male and female reactions and emotions are a result of our upbringing, unlike social constructs like law and religion. lm more than open for discussion, l just hope that the non cis community can see it from a different view, as there seems to be so much misconception based on personal perception.

[@LifeGetsMossySomethymes]

If the entire concept of perceived gender revolves around how one appears, is that not already flawed? So why give it time of day? One‘s sex is what it is. One‘s interests and preferences are individually unique beyond that. What is inside one‘s mind is ever-changing with the weather.