Problems with a Widower's Adult Children, Part 1

[@DatingaWidower]

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[@marymccormack2317]

I was dating a widower for 18 months and he didn't put me first and I got out of it. He regrets it now and I have moved on. 😜

[@DatingaWidower]

This is the way.

[@CB-wg4lq]

How long do you think you should have given him? 18 months is a long time and I'm 5 months into it now and do not want to give up much more of my life.

[@SandyBrookover]

18 months for me…..😢…our only argument is his grown kids & grandkids…..it’s like a roller coaster ride & I want out….

[@dlundy9662]

This is really helping me. (I'm not sure it will help us, but it helps me) I wish I would have had the brains to look at dating a widower when we first started dating. Thank you Abel.

[@sammyjo2852]

Maybe the adult kids need to feel assured that the new woman in Dad’s life is not a predator out to take financial advantage of him.

[@domoarigato5132]

Exactly...in my case, my dad died a year ago...this guy now has only hung out with my mom 5 times out of church and they have wedding plans...i mean...seems too soon and i am worried about his motives. My mom also has just been diagnosed with 7....yes, 7...brain aneurysms...so...ya i'm really freaked he's some kind of predator.

[@avaelizabeth4808]

on every holiday as well as my birthday he i already has made plans for vacation with his kids without ever asking me .I try to be thoughtful and understanding and say it is good he is spending time with them.But every single time for three years ...it begins to hurt deeply.

[@DatingaWidower]

Would you tolerate this behavior form a single or divorced man?

[@maridevipam1554]

I’m going thru a situation..I was out on a short vacay with my aunts .. and the next day my man called me .. he said Hi .. I have a good news for u .. I said yea .. He said daughter and I are going out for vacay to a country .. I was like okay .. but the way he put it .. it’s a movie shooting group .. they r going and I’m following along with my girl .. they r going for shoot while I’m going for holiday .. ok .. I felt like ok alright .. I had this little feel in me .. how come .. he never stood beside me .. during my bad days .. and he has plans for his path alone .. I don’t know how to explain .. I felt a little hurt .. but I kept it in me .. I stay away.. distance myself..just basic text .. but then he asked me I saw changes in u ..after I said we r going ..out .. the way he sound it’s like I’m jealous of his happiness .. but the actual was .. deep in me .. how can he close his eyes when it comes to me .. been in relationships for 3 years .. when I actualy explain everything with proper words .. that I don’t feel I have a man .. beside me .. the next day he said I’m heartless ... can anyone advice

[@terrybrauning6488]

TY so much for your advice, it's really making a difference in my relationship

[@ashleywright3190]

your videos are very insightful and helpful by the way!

[@ashleywright3190]

3 years, just newly engaged...the adult daughter is manipulating dad. He rarely puts me first. Its been a rollercoaster of emotions. he says he's willing to consider moving in together and marriage, but not until my daughter graduates from high school next year and he finds a new home. (He s still living in the marital home, so consequently, we spend all of our time at my place.) He did not have a wonderful relationship with his late wife, and he blames that on his being afraid to move forward. wonderful, wonderful man everyone around me adores him-Even my mother, who hates everyone lol I just feel like it's a double edged sword.

[@ChristinaOstil115]

I am a widow who is dating a widower and he has his own adult children just like me. I am very patient with him as he understand me my situation too. I tell him that Its okay take your time for us to be together as a widow and widower.

[@honeypath]

Applies equally to divorced men. Mine still supports his 30 some year old daughter and serms to jump when she ‘needs’ him. Hope i can bring this up in a way he can understand so this can work. Otherwise, not being #1 jist won’t work. Thanks for the spot on thoughts.

[@avaelizabeth4808]

interesting how he is busy watching his adult daughters tiny dog Louie on valentines day ....

[@patriciajohnson5237]

Abel I am currently engaged to a widower. His wife died over a year ago. We have been seeing each other over 5 months now and we have been engaged for about a month. My problem is that he has not told his adult children that his is engaged. (I know they know) His oldest is over 60th. She over heard a comment about her where he said that she really didn't need anything financially. This was over 2 months ago and she has not spoken to father nor has she returned any of his calls. And he wants someone else to tell them that he is engaged not wanting to make things worst. Also he wants to get married 6 months from now because of the weather since we are going into the winter months living in the Midwest. (weather?) Also he still has his deceased wife pictures around. He still wears his wedding band And he still mention her when talking about other things such as , her car etc. He is not in the best of health. He spoiled his children and now there is no appreciation/respect directed to him. And he still trying to make things work which is one sided. I don't like the space I'm in.

[@DatingaWidower]

Patricia Johnson I don’t like the place you’re in either. Why haven’t you called off the engagement?

[@mellissiad7281]

Can u link the Fb group please

[@DatingaWidower]

Here you go facebook.com/groups/datingawidower

[@BeauSC4Ever]

My mother died January 18 last year, having succumbed to a long illness. My problem is pretty much opposite; Although, vocally shared that he and mother decided he should wait until a year after her death before he was to start dating. He started dating last month. Now, I have no problem with him dating, but I worry due to the fact that his behavior since had been SO childish! Twice now, he has met a woman and, either before their first date or after the first date , he started talking marriage with these women. The first woman he showed interest in was my age (~25 younger than him), her father was a friend of our family and she and I played as children. Dad spoke to her briefly before her dad got home, but when her dad did get home, Dad told him that he.just wanted him to know that he had “good intentions”; that he planned on marrying her and not “just screwing her” (his words, not mine). The second woman he met at church. She had been married 5 times and lived with her Ill father. Dad has been lying to both myself and sister about the details of this new relationship. At first I wasn’t worried, because I knew she does t know dad’s real personality, and I thought there was a low chance of a “love match”. That was until dad tried to gift our mother’s car to her and they announced their engagement after their first date....

[@DatingaWidower]

Sounds like he's not ready for any kind of relationship right now.

[@JanicePariza]

Absolutely right on, I will always be # 176, ugh...

[@mammamia8882]

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