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[@gracecrazysong]

"What's more important: how you see me, or respecting how I see me?" Wow that's good

[@mikeysenpai2870]

Wise people go through a lot

[@fluffydisgrace1317]

That had an impact on me, that's for sure.

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

But what the person said before saying that made me not like them

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

But what the person said before saying that made me not like them

[@devonmerriman5874]

That Thing You See At The Corner Of Your Eye Why?

[@UnoMeeh]

If you look like a female I will address you as such, if you look like a male I will address you as such. BUT if you correct me and say, "I would like to be addressed as..." then I will gladly correct myself. But it is not my responsibility to somehow figure out what you want to be called, especially if I don't know you. For example some of the people in this video were clearly male, but were wearing female clothing or lipstick etc. (Items that are worn mostly by women) I am now confused on what to address you as and IT IS NOT MY FAULT. You have no right to be angry, just as I have no right to judge. Politely explain to me what you wish to be called and it shall be that way. and to the woman at the end with the "actually guilty of sexual harassment". fuck off. That is the most ass backwards thing I have ever heard. "I am not sure what gender you are so I will take my best guess and if I am wrong it is sexual harassment" I think not.

[@killjoy811]

UnoMeeh You literally are an example as to why this video was made to begin with.

[@UnoMeeh]

RoyalChai YOU ARE LITERALLY TELLING ME THAT IT IS RUDE TO NOT BE A PHYSIC MIND READER WHO KNOWS SOMEONES PREFERENCE JUST BY LOOKING AT THEM All I am saying is you cant get mad at me for calling you what you look like. If I call you the wrong thing, fucking correct me politely and then we go on with our day. If you have a problem with that, there needs to be a video made for you

[@nashwa7039]

I think they were referring to repeatedly and purposely misusing pronouns in such a way to harass a transgender person

[@UnoMeeh]

AISHA V if that is what they were referring to then I agree, but I would't call that sexual harassment, nor do I think that is what they were referring to.

[@nashwa7039]

+UnoMeeh if you replay the video from 3:09, they are referring specifically to people who "persistently misgender" others. they are not referring to those who do so by accident. sexual harassment may be defined in the way that you did, or simply by "the harassment of a person due to their sex"; in this case, persistently misgendering a transgender person because of their biological sex (or more specifically, because their biological sex does not "match up" with their gender) can fall under this category.

[@smabrielle]

To all the folks getting up in arms about the sexual harassment comment: In a workplace environment, if there is a trans employee you haven't met before and you guess their pronouns incorrectly, and then you are informed what their correct pronouns are, and then you start using those pronouns, everything is A-OKAY. But if you CONTINUE to use the person's incorrect pronouns (not occasional slip-ups. Persistent use), even after being corrected, you are being careless and disrespectful and yes, it is harassment.

[@1608Nikolai]

Gabrielle Smith But not sexual

[@segamai]

Brian Peppers It's a miracle you managed to type that comment AND press "reply", when you are obviously in the possession of barely more than three brain cells...

[@1608Nikolai]

Its a miracle you haven't told me your pronouns yet

[@segamai]

Brian Peppers Thanks for proving my point :)

[@1608Nikolai]

I don't see a point. If you care to add to your comment and tell me why it is sexual harassment, i would happliy explain why you are wrong.

[@stephanielfagan]

I'm from the Philippines and the language over there doesn't have gender pronouns. We only have "this person", "that person", etc... I feel like that's how it should be everywhere.

[@urbanaminoa]

Stephanie Wong That's lovely. English is a little better than languages that gender everything, but many struggle with the gender-neutral pronoun "they" because it's double-tasked with gender-neutral singular and third-person plural. Oy. I would love to see a study on how these things in language influence culture. I've known a disproportionate number of trans women from the Philippines relative to other countries, and I always wondered if there was something behind that or if it was just a coincidence.

[@mayellee]

I agree. we just basically use "sya", "Nya" etc and that's like for everybody. "tawagan mo sya" "ano Pangalan nya" I just realized that. wow

[@mayellee]

I agree. we just basically use "sya", "Nya" etc and that's like for everybody. "tawagan mo sya" "ano Pangalan nya" I just realized that. wow

[@ruedelta]

+Stephanie Wong Same with Chinese. Written it can be differentiated but the third person pronoun is always pronounced "ta". That includes things as well.

[@nallekarkki87]

+Stephanie Wong Same here in Finland. We use "hän".

[@roofoochoo]

Can you make more videos with trans people please?

[@TheMCGamer2012]

You appear to have misspelled "less".

[@StarBunny550]

+TheMCGamer2012 Asking for less still means you're asking for more videos, just not as much. You might as well say you don't want to see any at all. .-.

[@TheMCGamer2012]

StarBunny550 What if that is what I mean? :)

[@CptMacaroni]

There isn't enough. They off themselves to frequently..

[@LiveTilliDie]

Love all of you! I actually learned something when the one woman mentioned how being a woman isn't a wish or something that she longed to be, it is just who she is.

[@seranine3000]

Live Till I Die That's me! :> facebook.com/seraseraseraseraseraseraseraserasera

[@seranine3000]

*****​ thank you!!

[@xXmojodojocasahouseXx]

@adam zarbon bro, just shut up.

[@HSdirectioner5]

adam zarbon shut the fuck up transphobe

[@daspiri6523]

Then allow others to call you who you are - she

[@EC-yw5hg]

This is a religion. Which, at least in the US, we’re told we have the freedom to practice our own religions (and NOT force them on others). Compelled speech is becoming more and more common; in some countries, it is even a criminally punishable offense to opt out of such. But this is a violation of religious freedom. The existence of gender separate from the physical body is not a proven fact. It is entirely subjective. Thus, it is part of religious belief. No one should be forced to engage in this.

[@halinaskywalker5242]

so whenever I am unsure all I have to do is ask? but what if someone isn't transgender and I ask them - won't they be offended?

[@cAkasha]

Johnny Skywalker You're supposed to read their minds, obviously. It's not like they should be the ones letting you know if they want to be called in a specific way. :^)

[@Cuix]

Johnny Skywalker People who are trans or allies are totally cool with being asked about pronouns. What you really need to worry about is getting thanked half a dozen times for caring lol. As a non-binary person, I really wish I could get this question more often instead of being guessed at.

[@alanathomson6329]

People who are Cis and are offended need to get over themselves.I'm a female and identity as a woman and use she/her pronouns and if you asked me what pronouns I use I would just say I use she/her and I shouldn't be offended nor question why you asked me that.

[@ilovemiffy888]

Tell them to calm down because being mistaken for a trans person isn't an insult

[@halinaskywalker5242]

I hope so, but I guess some people still would be. it's so hard to please everyone and be polite and stuff. but I'll keep trying :)

[@colleenbehring9680]

the person with the purple hair. omg I loved their hair so much

[@CatElectraa]

great video, just next time put their preferred pronouns next to their names in the description. i don't like feeling like i'm disrespecting someone because i'm unsure of what they identify as.

[@casey8950]

c Great point

[@thatoneuser8347]

shut up

[@HSdirectioner5]

That One User ??

[@HSdirectioner5]

That One User was there any reason to be rude?

[@Reddog5546]

@@HSdirectioner5 shut up

[@GalliumEnergy]

Should I ask the pronouns of every customer I see at work? How would that work? Please explain.

[@mutantbrain92]

Keep it mutual. Just say thank you instead of adding a gender to it. (Thank you, sir or ma'am.) You can still be polite without having to add a pronoun.

[@mutantbrain92]

@@Yourwifesbf458 what does keeping it mutual have to do with children? I'm gonna know what my kids are. If you don't know a strangers, keep it mutual. Not hard.

[@helix1234]

the last one was extremely ignorant. I think respect goes both ways and you should be understanding of/patient with those who are unaware of your preferences. sexual harassment!? kiss my ass... pronouns are simply pronouns. I understand it's a touchy subject but you don't see anyone outside the trans community suing if they are addressed with the incorrect pronoun.

[@titusorelius9458]

bloodyironist Why don't you try responding to what Helix1234 actually said instead of responding to the boogeyman in your head?

[@bloodyironist]

Titus Orelius I did. They said respect goes both ways. But I have no obligation to respect someone who is deliberately staying ignorant. However, I am going to backtrack a bit and say, alright, yes, when someone is unaware of a person being trans and accidentally misgenders them or even after learning accidentally misgenders then but is open to correction that's a genuine mistake. But someone who deliberately stays ignorant deserves no mutual respect!

[@titusorelius9458]

bloodyironist Well at least you responded to him AND your boogeyman this time. Thanks for that at least.

[@DavidJohnson-ww3ko]

helix1234 "in the workplace, people who persistently misgender you are actually guilty of sexual harassment." Keywords are "workplace" and "persistent". Mistakes happen. Not trying to correct yourself over time is something completely different, especially in a work environment.

[@Rishro29]

David Johnson I don't know if that would be called sexual harassment though. Just harassment in general.

[@damienscullytoo]

i don't understand why people don't use the pronouns they wish to be called. Its not like it takes longer or waste more oxygen just to say he instead of a she or vice versa.

[@TyLee96]

True. I find it difficult with bigender / genderfluid persons though. 'They' is confusing as it is gramatically incorrect.

[@DrumeMoment]

TyLee96 The majority of people who complain about it being incorrect grammar usage wouldn't know correct grammar usage if it hit them in the skull with a brick.

[@TyLee96]

+octocats 'They' -> multiple persons I'm confused :D

[@mouseshrooms]

***** But you're referring to that person as a single object, "they" refers to more than one. "They is..." is not correct so it'll be confusing i suppose. If i'm wrong please correct me.

[@s.m7859]

TyLee96 And what's about "you"? It has a plural and singular meaning. Do you feel confused when you use "you" pronoun? I don't think so. "They" is the same. plural and singular pronoun for the "third person". (instead the "second person" like "you")

[@tylersharp1377]

Can't wait for the INEVITABLE Trans-Racial debate to Start! 😭🤣😁

[@Animoshun]

This is what happens when you run out of problems to solve. You create your own.

[@Lucky-ei6yh]

The 2nd last person (2.47) seemed quite reasonable, saying they have patience explaining to people. Then it went straight to the last person (3.04) lol "sexual harassment" are you kidding me 😂

[@Lavender_Louis]

I'm a non-binary person living in Austria. So I speak german. We don't really have a gender neutral pronon in german so I choose the less wrong one.

[@urbanaminoa]

PX Xaver Excellent point. Chantell Scherer mentioned similar; it can be hard in English where we actually have a gender neutral (that coincides with our third person plural) and don't gender all of ours words ... so many languages where it's even harder!

[@MikaruXDenka]

+PX Xaver It's so hard to find gender neutral pronouns in german, and believe me, I've tried to find some that aren't "it" or "es"... I feel you...

[@mellamanelizabeth8317]

In spanish too. In spanish is: Ella (Her/She) or Él (Him/He), but not neutral. btw i prefer her/she pronouns (i'm women), but i want to comment. (Sorry for my bad english)

[@river3495]

jana b 'es' wird aber für gegenstände verwendet und ist deswegen respektlos jemanden gegenüber zu benutzen (ausser diese person wünscht das). und ja, non binary ist kein geschlecht sondern ein gender, du musst aufpassen wenn du zwischen den begriffen 'sex' und 'gender' unterscheidest, da es im deutschen ja nur das wort geschlecht gibt. während sex das biologische geschlecht bezeichnet, geht es bei dem begriff gender um das soziale konstrukt mit was man sich identifizieren kann und wie man sich präsentiert. ich kann dir artikel von wissenschaftlichen quellen schicken wenn du mehr über biologie erfahren willst xoxo

[@dummysick_8117]

odetojay Gender = Geschlecht = Sex = (Alles Biologisch) ... Naja Dieser Bullshit mit sozialem Konstrukt ist halt so erst seit SJWs ein ding.

[@arneanka6777]

What i find amazing is how "People who use pronouns" think other people care about them. I can say that most of the people at a normal jobb don´t care about your prefered sex. They want a workday free of drama. Equality in work done. And fare pay. They DON´T want to hear about your sex and how discriminated you feel. All people have their own problems to deal with. I threat everyone the same at work. Whatever sex they have. Just get the job done. At my freetime i´ll just ignore your excistence. Becouse i don´t care.

[@slicedbutterflies]

this guy at my school recently came out as trans and people continue to call him "she". it frustrates me (I don't even know him really) but I correct people if I get the chance. I've explained what transgender is to a lot of people now and they seem to understand! a lot of weirdness around transgender is simply misinformation. ❤️

[@TheMCGamer2012]

Calling opposing views "misinformation" is literally ignorance to what may be the truth.

[@sucram1015]

It's because those students know surgery doesn't change your biological sex.

[@HSdirectioner5]

Marcus Melton obviously not, you completely missed the point. The point is to respect other people’s gender identity and pronouns

[@hooligan7574]

Damn dont listen to these weirdos, you're doing good work. Im sure if he knew what you're doing hed appreciate it.

[@pple1]

Whats wrong in choosing wrong pronouns

[@shapay199]

I think that you should obviously use the pronoun the person wishes to use as soon as you know about it, but what wasn't talked about was that if you know a person before coming out or transitioning, it can be hard to automatically switch pronouns, without wanting to be offensive at all. Someone in my high school transitioned and wanted to be called she from then on which I was happy to do and now she is completely female in my mind, but I does happen that a he escapes me very rarely, and it sucks, but I am trying.

[@antoniauri]

Stop messing with my childrens' heads. Those kids don't even know what hormones are and you're trying to sway them toward switching up.

[@workinggarlic]

Kids dont transition, especially not with hormones or surgeries

[@emyliafoxy]

Sounds like you need to educate your children then.

[@noble09]

I just call everyone “Dude” to avoid awkward conversations

[@soulure]

They don't allow that anymore. There's no safe neutral word

[@sugonmad2402]

@@soulure Dude or bro is pretty gender neutral to be honest. I don't like being called any of it, but I do notice a lot of people using for everybody.

[@lordpunriq]

Miss pronouncing someone's gender isn't sexual harassment. Sexual Harassment definition: unwelcome sexual advances made by an employer or superior, especially when compliance is made a condition of continued employment or advancement. That's just someone making a mistake....

[@DrumeMoment]

The refusal to learn somebody's pronouns is the equivalent of refusing to respect them regardless of how nice they are.

[@aftrdrk7263]

Victoria bullshit..

[@k.-flynn]

warren n/a fuck you

[@aftrdrk7263]

K. Flynn Go fuck yourself and your bullshit pronouns.

[@k.-flynn]

Lonley Q-tip you ask for the same thing, shitstain

[@WolfataDoor]

No it isn’t. How far do I have to be involved in your self identity? Be whatever the hell you want, just don’t expect society to abide by someone calling you “Ze/Zer/Zey.”

[@0P9ine]

No its not an act of violent or sexual harassment to misgender someone.

[@FemboyLevi]

it is, fuck off buddy

[@larsswig912]

@@FemboyLevi how is it violence to call someone "he"?

[@FemboyLevi]

@@larsswig912 Because not everyone is a 'he'. Since you comment in English I assume you know enough English .. so you should be aware of 'they/them'.

[@larsswig912]

@@FemboyLevi i am aware of "they/them". and you're right, not everyone is "he". only men and boys are. :)

[@larsswig912]

@@FemboyLevi but how is it violence to call a "transwoman" he?

[@cameronhoward99]

This while argument is silly for two reasons. One, no one uses someone's in their presence. Gendered pronouns are only used in the third person, i.e. when you're talking about someone to a third person. Otherwise the word "you" is used, or the person's given name. Two, pronouns are a way for the speaker, and only the speaker, to classify people according to how the appear, either more masculine or feminine. Using he or she isn't a personal insult but rather an expression of how the speaker believes someone appears. Literally no reason to be upset or offended by this. Also that last person that said using the wrong pronouns is akin to workplace sexual harrassment, I don't know if people have actually been prosecuted for this or not but it's total BS. Sexual harrassment is when someone makes a repeated sexual "advance" toward another person when it's been told to the harrasser that it's unwanted. "Misgendering" someone is obviously not a sexual advance. In fact it's likely the opposite, i.e. the person would rather jump off a bridge than sleep with you. So clearly not sexual harrassment. Now repeatedly, purposefully, using the wrong pronouns when referring to someone makes you a jerk, but it's nothing more than that. Last time I checked being a jerk isn't illegal.

[@cameronhoward99]

Correction - Someone's pronouns* in their presence...

[@susantully1533]

I worked for Amazon briefly. They actually had buttons with preferred pronouns on them. In some ways I felt it was positive because it removed any chance of accidentally misgendering someone. But in other ways I felt it was detrimental because people were literally wearing a sign to describe themselves. It feels like we're just creating more and more labels to separate ourselves from each other. I always try to respect people's decisions about their own bodies. I do find it hard to tell if someone is a they them or one of the many other pronouns without either asking them, which feels awkward, or having someone tell me. It's a hard line to walk. Also what do I do if someone identifies is female one day and male the next day? Do I make assumptions based off the way they dress? Do I ask them everyday which pronoun I should use? I'm being serious when asking these questions. I never want to cause harm to anyone. I do feel anxious in these situations though bc I feel if I get something wrong I could loose my job or be blasted on social media bc I was not made aware of someone's gender pronouns. I also feel it is not fair to judge a book by its cover. Just bc someone is wearing makeup doesn't mean they identify as female. Just bc someone is wearing a short haircut doesn't mean they identify as male. Do I just stop using gendered pronouns? Is it fair to ask someone to explain themselves several times a day to everyone they interact with? I really feel that most ppl want to respect others but it's getting harder to do that without making someone feel singled out or confused.

[@sugonmad2402]

You do not have to fear misgendering someone. Being online makes the whole debate out to be so overblown. On one hand people get super offended by things they would probably not have the courage to stand up for offline. On the other hand people make it seem like you can't say anything anymore and as soon as you do something wrong, you get fired or thrown in jail. Transgender people who don't pass know they don't, they aren't delusional. So if you call them by their wrong pronouns most will probably expect it. If they correct you, just try your best to gender them correctly. As long you take them for full and respect their identity nobody will have ANY problem, trust me. The legal problems in a job mostly arise, because people purposefully misgender someone and then tell them they are wrong/ reality bending/ stupid, when being corrected. In the end pronouns aren't really labels, they are more like a tool, if you feel gendered pronouns are restricting just call everyone they, since the English language gladly has that feature. Labels are more like calling yourself a trans man or gay or whatever.

[@chellya2004]

This is a great question but I feel sad no one (few) is here to reply you :/ i dont have an answer for you myself.

[@MayW15663]

I believe these are valid questions, but where you’re coming from misses the purpose, and a lot of your fears are exaggerated. People do not create labels for the sole purpose of separating themselves from each other. The way anyone presents and wants to be addressed reflects their internal sense of identity. It’s understandably difficult to know someone’s pronouns without asking, and most people who do use pronouns other than the binary he/she to my knowledge do not expect people to know their exact pronouns. A good compromise is to just use gender neutral they/them for everyone until told otherwise. If someone does express that they want you to use different pronouns, then just be respectful. But they will tell you. As a Trans person, trust me when I say nobody will be upset if you’re respectful and are willing to learn. I hope this helps.

[@blakebunch4485]

Anyone so focused on a pronoun isn't thinking about anything of importance so just pass and let them be. If you buy in it will suck the life from you and you'll become just as bitter and resentful. If this is the trench they choose to stand in and fight just respectfully pass.

[@keirorin]

2:38 is very patient and respectable. Some people don't understand being trans yet, and unless they're rude about pronouns, should be corrected and educated politely.

[@Rekaert]

There's only one problem. I don't use pronouns to refer to gender. I use them to refer to what I perceive as biological sex, which is very much binary. Where do we go from there?

[@quiqui6424]

sex isn't binary either, intersex also exists. plus, the world isn't limited to one person's perception

[@cryocriminal_1019]

@@quiqui6424 intersex is a very small percentage of the world. We can't change the language to fit 2 percent of the entire population, globally at that. Second, how is saying there are only two sexes "one person's perception?" What else is there? Quit acting like a goofball. Unless we discover a new sex that isn't intersex, it will always be binary.

[@sugonmad2402]

You don't really do that. If you saw a passing trans person, you wouldn't call them by their assigned birth gender, because you don't have X-Ray-vision. Sex characteristics have nothing to do with how you actually view people, they have to do with how you view bodies, which are just the material form of the person standing in front of you. And even that body can be changed or its characteristics hidden. You might say you refer to someone based on their biology, but pronouns have nothing to do with biology, since they are social and even if you were a doctor, you couldn't have insight into every tiny part of their body.

[@cryocriminal_1019]

@@sugonmad2402 ur right I would use their preferred pronouns. I'm saying if I don't know imma use ur pronouns that match ur sex. Simple.

[@Rekaert]

@@sugonmad2402 The way 'you' use pronouns might have nothing to do with biology, but biology is intrinsic to how I use them, and how I've always used them. Biology is also intrinsic to whether I consider someone a man or woman, boy or girl. Can I be deceived by a person having their appearance surgically altered? Sure. But that just means I've been deceived. It doesn't change anything, because being a man or woman is more than some superficial veneer or affected way of acting.

[@HelloThereIAmAlice]

Thank you so much for making this video and understanding the importance of making it. My eyes reared up and I got chills. It's so important to listen to people and respect them.

[@David-tf2wx]

@3:04 "Identity, and you better get it right. In the workplace, people who persistently misgender you, are actually guilty of sexual harassment" Years ago, you could of called me an ally for the transgender community. But over the past few years, because of statements and ideas like this, I lost all support and care. Are you really going to claim sexual harassment towards someone because they didn't want to use YOUR pronouns? Seriously? People aren't always going to see things your way, the fact that you want to condemn and demonize people who don't use your pronouns and don't agree with you is absolutely appalling.

[@YCHumanities]

How many people agree with David and think her point is valid? Should she have to care if people misgender her or if she misgenders others? Should her allyship depend on making her not feel uncomfortable? Should she only consider herself an ally if there are no consequences when she chooses NOT to respect the pronouns of her coworkers?

[@keirorin]

I have a question for non-binary people, and I hope I don't sound ignorant! I would like to educate myself properly, and I hope you can help. If you use a language like Thai, where you end your sentences differently based on your gender ("ka" for women and "krap" for men), how do you speak? Or like in French, where words are spelt differently for men and women (new = "nouveau" for men and "nouvelle" for women)... Basically for languages with gender-specific grammar, what do you do?

[@keirorin]

Actually this question is for anyone who prefers they-pronouns over he's or she's.

[@keirorin]

***** So if they are saying "They are new" then they would just use "Ils sont nouveaux"? Like in English?

[@s.m7859]

bee syrup Good question. In spanish we have the "-a" for females and "-o" for males. There are people that use "-e" as a gender neutral option (however it's not "official", huh)

[@keirorin]

***** I as wondering about Spanish too! That should be official, the "-e" sounds like a good option ^^

[@mikebrownbassist802]

Forcing the majority to use your "preferred" pronouns is a form of thought control. We still live in a free county. You can call yourself whatever you want but I won't be told what I can and can't say.

[@purpleperson7514]

I could say the same things with names, then. Your username is Mike so say you were my coworker and you said “hi I’m Mike” and then I only call you John for the entire conversation because you “look like a John.” You ask me to stop calling you John and I say it’s thought control. It’s the exact same situation.

[@SansAppellation]

Not quite in his example he is relieving himself of a cognitive burden that you are trying to place on him. In your example you are placing a cognitive burden upon yourself.

[@purpleperson7514]

@@SansAppellation it’s not a “cognitive burden” it takes two seconds to remember. Say someone has a really unique name. For example my sisters name is Xiomara (have fun pronouncing that one) but people still take the time to learn and remember her name. You could argue her name is a “cognitive burden”. It’s not, just learn to pronounce it and respect her.

[@professoralpha6239]

@@purpleperson7514 Mate you are such a weirdo.

[@purpleperson7514]

@@MHS-ql7ee wtf does feeling discriminated against have to do with just respecting someone’s pronouns the same way you’d respect their name

[@sophia6955]

Okay now do one where you ask kids from Yemen how they feel about the word food

[@KCM1]

I understand the he/she um they/them pronouns but when people tell me that their pronouns are like xia/plant or some weird tumblr shit. I'm not doing that and I'm not calling those people that.

[@octopuss1918]

Eeyono Oh Shut up!

[@jude4291]

Carly Kennedy I can guarantee you that no one seriously identified themselves as an object that isn't a gender.

[@KCM1]

Trust me there is, this girl at my school would get mad at everyone because they wouldn't say her pronouns and it was "Xha". And she would start world war if anyone accidentally calls XHA by XHA wrong name or doesn't know

[@jude4291]

Carly Kennedy I'm actually curious what she means when she identifies by that. What I'm kind of saying is when someone identifies as a toaster or something that is an obvious joke.

[@aahpuuh]

Eeyono _the difference is obviously that it confuses ppl _*_sigh_*

[@mythbusterslover14]

i really don't understand why people have a hard time with knowing what to call someone. if i tell you to call me he then call me he, if i tell you to call me she then call me she and if i tell you that it doesn't matter then they can call me he or she or whatever! like it's not that fucking hard.

[@AlejandroRodriguez-wx4kb]

what if i just dont give 3 fucks?

[@cAkasha]

Alex Rodriguez Then you'll be called a transphobe or something.

[@TheMCGamer2012]

That's still 2 too many.

[@nik12224]

My policy is to call them what they call themselves. Works in any context.

[@opctpos.]

These people are truly self absorbed and ridiculous.

[@larsswig912]

especially that last idiot comparing "misgendering" to actual sex ual harrassment with that smug ass smile. "respect how you see me or how I see myself" lol. you're a man and everyone can tell. it's not "how I see you" it's your very obvious biological sex. and reality always trumps feelings.

[@KewlDude123]

People always run towards respecting sexuality but lots of people choose not to respect peoples' faith, beliefs and backgrounds

[@stormfur19]

As a victim of rape, it is insulting that being misgendered at work would be sexual harassment. When I was early in transition I had managers who would misgender me often and I would NEVER call that sexual harassment.

[@urbanaminoa]

0:33 1:31 2:47 ... so much grace in these words. I really appreciate 0:51 1:05 and 2:22 pointing out that it's not always so simple. Retraining our brains to use they/them for non-binary gender from its more dominant plural use can cause some language-based hiccups. Thanks for staying patient, non-binaries :)

[@OfficialJacksonFox]

Gender roles are a societal concept. They aren't real. Your voice does not change how you see yourself. And that's what makes you yourself, no one on the outside can ever truly know who you are. So if someone, regardless of how they look, speak, walk, or dress, feels to themselves a "he" or "she" or "them" then that's what I am going to refer to them as. It's not my job to dictate who a person is. But it is my job to respect who a person is. As someone who has been bullied and hurt by people who weren't aware of how they were bullying or hurting me, I go out of my way to become aware of how I can not only not hurt someone, but how I can make that person feel more accepted, more comfortable, and more loved.

[@TheMCGamer2012]

Great way to look at it.

[@kevinfox298]

+Jack Montoya Exactly. Just because something is a social concept/construct doesn't mean it has no impact. Just because it's 'social' doesn't mean it's not 'real'. The economy is a social construct, yet it impacts everyone. University and higher education in general is a social construct, yet every day people are judged based on whether they had that opportunity or not. Race is a social construct, but the system of oppression known as racism still cuts people down every single day. Gender is a mish-mash of self concept and social concept, but whether you respect it or not has a huge real-life impact.

[@CocaineDragon]

Kevin Fox These social constructs gain power if you give them power.

[@CocaineDragon]

Lonley Q-tip Good. That means society can get around to calling me a girl, bro.

[@SergeantMark]

I will decide myself whatever words I roll of my tongue

[@tierracaccitolo]

powerful. my favorite quote from this is "I don't stand myself in the leg with testosterone everyday for you to call me a she."

[@daspiri6523]

Until testosterone jabs changes your chromosomes to XY, you are still a she

[@DeadEndScreamer]

So by that logic you're not allowed to call someone with diabetes a diabetic because he would inject himself with insulin every day, do you people ever think about the nonsense you're spouting.

[@cockoffgewgle4993]

He could put something else in the needle and then I'd happily call her a he-roin user.

[@butterfingersman]

wow, these comments are kinda awful

[@zayzanotti1399]

butterfingersman exactly too much people supporting this retardedness

[@butterfingersman]

naw bitch. just want to make it clear that im not on that side of this issue.

[@mohammedali-rs9nx]

FlyBoyZay FlyBoyZay ong bro 🤣🤣😂🤣 dumb ass niggas 🤣

[@realpianaomi]

Gerri (if that is the one with the sword or whatever in the ear) is quite good-looking

[@LindaZoheetik]

Is Aneesh, the second to last talent, also the producer of this clip? I noticed two Aneeshes in the description.

[@evil_regal]

We have so much issue with this and we're dealing with English, which hangs much less on gender then the other Western languages. German and French assign gender to EVERYTHING. Folks going through this deserve the same respect as anyone else. People going through this should not believe that everyone they encounter somehow know their very personal story. If they are getting called the "wrong" pronoun in general society, out and about, then they are doing a poor job as presenting as their chosen gender. That is on them. That does not mean those that very well know the person and are purposely using the "wrong" pronoun to make a statement, belittle the person, or in general be an ass. That is a different story altogether. There are parts of everyone that don't fit "polite" society's little box. Some of us have it a bit more out in the open then others. Don't expect every person you pass on the street to know enough about you individually to treat you perfectly. All they know about you is what they see, your preferences can't be seen. So like anyone, take care in how you present yourself, whether you're trans or not. A person's choices in how they present themselves goes a long way.

[@cAkasha]

Chantell Scherer Well said.

[@killjoy811]

Chantell Scherer Give all the people who cant afford feminine or masculine clothing, hormone treatments and surgery money then if you think they need to present themselves a certain way to get the same basic respect you do as a cisgendered individual.

[@evil_regal]

Most transgendered never go for the surgery, or hormone treatment. As far as money for clothes; everyone spends money on clothes, whether you by a dress for $35 or jeans and collared shirt for $35, it still $35, so that's a bad argument. The way a person does their hair costs nothing to very little. And makeup is variable by choice too. These things are choices that every person makes whether they are transgendered or not. Those that are transgendered just need a little more skill and practice to pull off the look they are going for. Most "pass" without medical intervention.

[@segamai]

Chantell Scherer The fact that you decide if they are worth being called the correct pronouns on wether they pass or not shows how incredibly ignorant you are. Being transgender is not validated on how much you pass for one gender OR the other, that's extremely limiting and erases many other people that are on the spectrum; non-op or pre-op people, hermaphrodites, genderqueer and genderfluid individuals, etc. You clearly didn't care about that when you watched the video either, because they showed more than one person who mentioned using multiple pronouns or "they".

[@evil_regal]

segamai spend your life looking for ways to hold others accountable for you instead of you living your life and working toward what you want to be. sounds like fun.

[@kirikei]

I just ask them. Communication people, communication!

[@merrimentunderground4381]

The person with the purple head wrap is just too great for me to ever possibly get over.

[@ricardocastillo5485]

I'm not your enemy. I have no intention or desire to be your enemy, nor force you to adapt to my ways. May you live your life in peace your own way. But, I'm not converting to the culture and speech that you order me to. I'm just going to mind my own business and do my thing. So if you try to force me, you're making an enemy of someone who does not want to be enemies, that's on you.

[@bea2661]

someone introduced themself to me the other day as “my name is christian and my pronouns are they/them” and my brain’s automatic response was just “okay cool got it” and i just wish everyone’s brain did that instead of fighting it 🥺

[@tjohns7470]

So we just have to cater to the .6 percent of the population

[@muffineck9890]

I will not be reduced as a person by someone else having a ready-made script within the infinity of my moments, telling me whom they are. I will love people from the identity birthed from inside of them not a fckin label

[@cubanref9670]

You're an idiot.

[@sugonmad2402]

@@tjohns7470 You don't have to cater to anything. When a man comes to you and tells you his name is Peter you don't call him Nathan with no reasoning behind it, do you? This is the same, you don't have to anything than just not call them by their pronouns. It's pretty easy once you done it.

[@deanadema1329]

I honestly don't think real constructive discussion for the betterment of society can come out of a KZbin comments section. I mean in the end it seems like nobody is accepting of other points of view, no matter how they feel on the topic being discussed. If I hypothetically thought that taking the usage of pronouns and using that usage to assume what other people thought of your character or personality as a whole was an oversensitive or unrealistic point of view of others, no matter how I posted it in the comments there would be a line of people not just trying to debunk my own opinion but insult my knowledge or view of the world in the process. Even to this relatively unbiased comment I am sure there will be comments that will do the same. That's just my opinion.

[@TheMCGamer2012]

How dare you insult the KZbin gods! You should recognize the power of trampling over someone else's opinion and broadcasting your own! Loved the comment btw.

[@ravenrazor1130]

I find it annoying if someone gets angry because a stranger used the wrong pronouns. The starbucks barista is going to call you he/she depending on how you look, you have no right to get defensive, you know?

[@k.-flynn]

Raven Razor they put your name on Starbucks cups

[@S.M.9]

Raven Razor it’s okay to get upset cause it does hurt , but i agree i mean how are they supposed to know ?

[@WeddingxPeach97]

I have a question what if u don't know they're trans at all then how would you go about using correct pronouns because you don't just go up to someone and ask are u trans if you don't know right? Like u don't want to disrespect them but what if u just didn't know and don't know how to ask

[@emerythul4531]

WeddingxPeach97 It's just like asking someone their name. If you asked me my pronouns, I wouldn't be offended. I generally find when I'm going about asking someone their pronouns, the only people who are offended are cis.

[@justin_grindley]

It is deeply concerning that this dumbass video doesn't have more dislikes.

[@tylergnosis2581]

Agreed

[@beatrixlivesey-stephens1892]

Where can I find the playlist used in all the one word videos?

[@laylasmith168]

Notice how none of these people look normal lmao

[@FemboyLevi]

so what is "normal" for you?

[@ethanvaneck2971]

@@FemboyLevi Not looking like a crossdresser

[@larsswig912]

@@FemboyLevi not injecting yourself with cross-sex hormones.

[@antaresortelli2156]

I, as a non-binary trans person, never really get mad at people who mess up my pronouns, especially if they don't really know me. We should all be a little more patient and kind, I feel like one of the reasons why so many people are transphobic it's because they see as a bunch of people who get triggered for the smallest things. And by this I don't mean that you should be okay with people you know calling you with the wrong pronouns on purpose (those people are dicks, you should really let them out of your life), but I think we should all try to be more respectful towards one another.

[@Veldvrouw]

The woman at 2:00 is so gorgious!

[@liampatrick3110]

That's a man

[@mateopeltier767]

Liam Patrick omggggg get the fuck out of here

[@larsswig912]

@@mateopeltier767 that's a man.

[@KevZen2000]

Me: I identify as a non tax payer, who has diplomatic immunity from all international laws. Government: Don't try that. Me: Taxes are a social construction Government: So is your freedom Me: My pronouns say I am free Government: our pronouns say you will enjoy the 5x8 prison cell Me: I am Zee Zod, so therefore non binary of being guilty or innocent Government: we are wack wack you with knight stick pronouns. Now you go to jail. That's our pronouns Me: now I identify as not getting my cheeks spilt Bubba: You identify with letting me in The end... Will the trans make it. Stay tuned.

[@e.t.291]

This is the first time I've had difficulties digesting the message behind these Cut videos. I'm not going to start asking every new person I meet about their preferred pronouns. Who knows if it's the 'how do you do' of the future, but right now it's such a new concept that people shouldn't be expected to ask that. Throwing a hissy fit over such 'disrespect' will only hurt the cause of these 'genderfluid' people. And wtf, misusing pronouns is sexual harassment? Really? More like innocent obliviousness or just stupidity at worst.

[@mushroomking987]

Keikaku means plan what Is like asking someones name if you don't know a pronoun, no one is going to beat you or curse at you, but if you continue to use them, is harassment

[@TheMCGamer2012]

+Juliana Van Loving all people regardless of gender is a great idea.

[@mushroomking987]

TheMCGamer2012 omg No it' isn't

[@Hetaliae]

+ᛁᚼᛁ Hail Winter-chan ᛁᚼᛁ jw why are you trash?

[@Jamie-ro6sx]

The TN (Transgender and non binary) alliance corporation would approve of this video. Well done cut.

[@gaiaformentin7394]

i support all rights, to include trans rights i want equality and shared equal opportunities for everyone. be who you want to be

[@aaronfantasia4189]

softnpeachyg well yo just don’t believe in science.

[@jkm9332]

"be who you want to be" does this include transphobes?

[@DeadEndScreamer]

I doubt you support the right of anyone who refuses to call these people by their preferred, often made up, pronoun to refer to them by whatever they want, and that would make you a liar.

[@matheust.2717]

Does that include man's right too?

[@faIIenskys]

So real question why is there some tran people developed country then non?, why are there more trans people now then when we had to fight to stay alive? Is it due to the fact that we are at a point in history where we have the luxury of be able to do so?(or just the country) when you don't have to fight to stay alive then you have time to explore these ideas then just reproducing and pasting down your jeans to the next generation. Not try to put down any one just ask a question about this.

[@lennonshay4619]

This video touches my soul.

[@michaelanderson7715]

define 'soul' and demonstrate it exists

[@cubanref9670]

You have none.

[@astrid340]

You guys are so violent. xDD

[@julianascimento1644]

i always try to use the correct pronouns with people but i get really nervous when i dont know the person and i dont know what they identify as, like if they are in the process of transitioning i cant tell which would be the right one to use just by their looks

[@Dhalgrim]

"simple" as long as we stick to he, she, they, and the equivalents in other languages obviously (my native language german for example still has no gender neutral pronoun -.-). the moment we let bored white, high income, starbucks slurping, 13 year olds decide each and every of their pronouns so that we would need to learn 60+ pronouns, then i hope everyone can agree that that is just ridiculous and attention seeking and it shines a bad light on people who really deal with hardships based on the wrong pronoun used for them, because it makes it seem like a joke for a lot of not so open minded people.

[@mushroomking987]

Dhalgrim what the fuck that means cisgender people are funny

[@mushroomking987]

***** sure because if a cisgender people say that a pronoun is not ok and a gender doesn't exist i should shut up seriously cisgender people are really really strange

[@Dhalgrim]

***** thank you for being a level-headed person =)

[@Dhalgrim]

Juliana Van sure go for it, if you believe you are a nebula in a human body and need to eat spaceships then that is fine but you can't expect people to learn new pronouns (and often really hard to pronounce ones because self-created) for every person they meat. plus you sound like a person that even if i would first meat you and say "hey what are your pronouns?" you would instantly freak the fuck out and call me a cisgender pig, because i wasn't able to grab your pronouns out of your mind or am not already following you on tumblr and did not instantly whip out my phone and use a face recognition to find said tumblr site

[@mushroomking987]

Dhalgrim what we want you guys to ask and seriously, i never met a person that used difficult pronouns, and i know a lot of transgender people

[@AiikoRoka]

imma ask smth far from the topic of the video but can anyone tell me what's the song/music played at the end of the video?

[@baylarubin8754]

I am totally libertarian on this. Do what ever you want. But it’s hard to deny this is an amazing portrayal of the privilege we have here in the west. #firstworldproblems

[@ladyair23]

I totally get the woman who said she doesn't like being called a "he" considering she definitely is a woman regardless of if she was born one or not.

[@MyUploadedLifeJD]

I'm gonna share the crap out of this video.. The tears in their eyes are the tears in mine.. It's not easy being transgender.. Society can be so mean.. I'm happy that people are educating themselves and helping us feel normal.. We matter, we should all be equal. Thank you to whoever created this video.. I needed it, we needed it.

[@aspartame13]

❤❤❤

[@juliewie2252]

Yes yes yes!!! Thx watchCUT and more power to you and all your generous and courageous participants. Much respect from Berlin, Germany!

[@MarielAbella]

all these people are beautiful

[@neisuken]

Leiram Aellba nope

[@MarielAbella]

Rizuke they love themselves, or trying to love all of themselves and i think that's absolutely beautiful.

[@Anna-fh8eh]

Some support; for anyone The crisis lines are on google. Maybe search up the instructions to. The instructions for Canada: just text the word text or Text or TEXT I'm not sure which one. They are also on Quora (the phone numbers) if you search up something bad mental health related. They show up at the top if you click on the page from the website. Numbers that you can call are on google, as well as su1c1de prevention lines. Make sure it's the right one for your country.

[@cool9378]

Cis people who are confused: think of asking for pronouns like asking for someone's name. In fact, they can be done in the same breath. You wouldn't assume you know someone's name before you meet them, and you wouldn't know their pronouns until you meet them either. It's not quite on the same level, but being misgendered is somewhat similar to me insisting someone's name is Bob when that person's name is Steve.

[@xxSammxxxx]

Cool I am so happy to use correct pronouns and make anyone I interact with feel comfortable. I am definitely an ally as much as I can be. However, as someone who is very socially anxious I would never ask someone for a preferred pronoun like I ask their name. The reason isn't because I am uncomfortable with trans people, it is because it would feel like I was outing them if they didn't want others to know they were trans or I would be afraid to offend them if they weren't trans and they just like to dress non-conventionally for their gender. I am genuinely scouring these comments to try and find a solution to this problem because as I mentioned, I really would hate to make someone uncomfortable. I would probably just avoid using pronouns if I was unsure. Is there a delicate way to ask??

[@cool9378]

I definitely recommend offering yours first when you introduce yourself. "My name is Samantha and my pronouns are [pronouns]." If the person you meet doesn't understand, they might just give you a funny look and move on. If someone isn't comfortable being out they'll let you know. And I recommend practicing this with everyone, because you can never know someone's pronouns and gender just by looking at them. And just to clarify, I'm cis, and I'm not purporting to speak on the behalf of trans or gender non-conforming people. This is just something I've learned over the years.

[@1608Nikolai]

Cool I get your point, but it isn't the same is it? If i saw many of the people in this video, i would assume they were men, some of them have beards. And, if i am being blunt, they were born male, that happened, just because you feel like a female, which i completely respect, doesn't mean that anybody should assume that any person they meet could identify as a female. My girlfriend is half black half white and she gets people asking if shes indian or mexican, is that not the same? I don't see any video for people who are misracialled (made it up. I understand and completely support these people, but at the same time how can you blame anyone for seeing someone who looks like a man, as a man.

[@cool9378]

Brian Peppers That's like me seeing you and saying, "You look just like my cousin Susan. I'm going to call you Susan." "Looking like a man" is a culturally-based perception, it's not based in reality. I could wear clothing of a gender to which I don't belong, but I would still be my gender. My point being, don't assume anything and you will be respectful to anyone. It takes about three seconds to say "These are my pronouns, what are yours?"

[@1608Nikolai]

Cool If you think that is the same then you have a warped idea of reality. It isn't a culturally based perception, you can tell the people in the video, who are dressed and trying to be women, were born men! That has no bases on what they are wearing! I will call someone whatever pronoun they want me to, but to think people should go around watching there pronouns because someone might be trans, thats completely unreasonable.

[@sierralvx]

My word is reputation. I am genderfluid and I don't care what you call me, because I'm good with both, and it is honestly a good way to see what people think of you, and how they see you. That is what I want to know the most, what is your impression of me? What about me seems feminine, masculine? I think assigning one pronoun to yourself is limiting too, because you then box yourself in one way.

[@cubanref9670]

When one delusion fails just invent another. 🤣😂

[@workinggarlic]

Half this comment section: supportive, wonderful, full of compliments and positivity The other half: rants that make 0 sense, uneducated people, typos, fun to laugh at

[@sugonmad2402]

Totally uneducated. Like literally the education about sociology is just lacking with them. And the rants never make sense, if you think about it for just a little bit.

[@larsswig912]

half of this comments section is braindead blind followers of this gender nonsense, the other half is the sane half which you're covering your eyes and ears and ignoring because you are so scared of your worldview being shaken.

[@allosch9]

1:35 how do you know at a specific moment which preferred pronoun will resonate? I understand that some people's pronouns are he/she/they, but I would assume you don't ask at the beginning of every interaction with that person? Or is that what's best? I have started asking a person's pronouns when I first meet them, but am still confused how to best approach this.

[@sugonmad2402]

I think it is best to just go with, what they last told you. If that isn't right for them that day, they will probably tell you. If not, than you aren't at fault. It is always super nice to be asked about your pronouns, but it really isn't your task to always play the support role, you know? When I don't people, that I use she/they, I could never be mad at them for calling me something else.

[@allosch9]

@@sugonmad2402 thanks for your response! I definitely find it helpful 😊

[@Samuel115s]

if your pronouns are to confusing for me then I will just use your name as a pronoun. trans people are a SUPER minority so I probably won't encounter many anyway.

[@Eeyono]

A study done by Anne Fausto-Sterling estimated that hermaphrodites constitute 1.7% of the population, about as common as redheads. Obviously Trans people aren't hermaphrodites but with non-binary sex being as common as having red hair, then non-binary gender is probably just as common. Not everyone is out, you might already know someone who is trans/non-binary and it just hasn't come up.

[@Samuel115s]

Eeyono I don't believe in none binary. That's a new concept. A few years ago that did not even exist.

[@FemboyLevi]

@@Samuel115s Pluto wasn't discovered until 1960, but it existed before so did being non binary fuck off kiddo

[@arigrubaugh9172]

@@Samuel115s Actually, there have always been non-binary people. See listverse.com/2015/10/21/10-examples-of-nonbinary-genders-throughout-history/ and sites.psu.edu/evolutionofhumansexuality/2014/02/19/third-genders-new-concept-or-old/

[@KingdomUploader]

This is all moot for me. I can go the rest of my life and never have to use any pronouns ever -- in writing and in conversations.

[@indigojohnson6506]

0:54 Everyone is beautiful on this video, but I kind of have a crush on you the most. Lol

[@lexa6434]

JVY SLVRWD do u know who that person is?

[@JoWithTheFro1]

Can we ask straight sis men and women how they feel about pronouns and why? I think that’s also an important discussion because sometimes it’s not coming from a place of disrespect

[@willegard2]

Beautiful. Keep doing this. I love it, and I share it because of that reason.

[@michaelpetros5429]

So, if someone looks like a guy, I refer to them as a male. If someone looks like a girl, I refer to them as female. However, if you correct me, than I will adjust my views on you to respect you. But seriously, sexual harassment for mistaking your gender?! That's taking it too far.

[@StGeorge257]

Mostly men dressing up as women.

[@ish4638]

Nope

[@goosieloosie4350]

Ngl I have to agree

[@Dannyboyy86]

I live in Thailand and have some friends who are transsexuals... but they just dont make a big deal about it. But this is just so over dramatic! Its a hate crime if someone doesnt call you by a pronoun which you just made up?

[@larsswig912]

they think it's "literal violence".

[@JustCallMeGreg0]

Bill klacks

[@maddie5310]

Can I just say that the women at the end said that when people PERSISTENTLY misgender you it is sexual harassment? If she had left out that word it would be a different story, but she obviously meant it as if they are misgendering you while knowing the pronouns you actually use. Which makes sense to me completely. Just thought I put that out there.

[@averyjacobs9844]

This is strong. Love it

[@michaelmurray6351]

Most people don't have a problem with how another person chooses to live their lives and their chosen gender identity. The LQBTQ community needs to show some grace and understanding that perception is mostly visual and is based on years of learning and knowing a thing to be a thing. That instinct does not easily go away, especially for older people.

[@n3117n]

Where do they get all these people from?! Diverse in age, race and culture, wow well done👏

[@JoseHernandez-hb8vf]

Its tough, coming from a lens of a straight male, to have the same wiggle room to mess up on pronouns as others. I remember when I was younger I would mess up a lot on pronouns, not intentionally but I just would. As I grew older I fixed the problem. However, I do recall getting my eyes rolled at and people getting super annoyed when I would mess up. I think it's important to understand that everyone is in different levels of grasping these concepts. Patience is key and being tolerant all around can help a ton.

[@wonderlandnise]

very powerful video :) thank you for making such amazing content!

[@m-491]

2:19 is he a man or a woman? I'm confused, he was a woman and changed his gender to a man or he is still trying to change his body? Man, that's a messed up life!

[@Escekar]

If your a male and want to be female or vice versa. That’s the fact. Just because you want to be something or gender your not, does not mean I have to play along. Human nature will alway state the obvious. No matter how “normal” I act... I will alway be called Black, or Abo or criminal. Nothing I can do will stop people being racist. So if you have a gender issue, join to crew. People Will alway judge you .

[@eaglebreath5]

I wish there were links so I could follow some of these cool people.

[@CRatt-go3rv]

To hell with pronouns!

[@terrificpage347]

Are we just getting rid of English features now

[@pamelus7210]

I always use the pronouns I know people prefer. Sometimes however it is very hard to tell what gender a person is portraying themselves as. So it is tricky when some trangender individuals take great offense or even call it sexual harassment when there really was no malintent :/ Some people just naturally look like the opposite gender without identifying like one...