Passing | Trans | One Word | Cut

[@samuelcombs7933]

okay but as a young trans teen who can't take t or get surgery, every day that I go into public I'm filled with anxiety about passing. it consumes me and it's terrible but all I want is to pass and be happy

[@silver4831]

Its normal to want to pass, one day you will get teh HRT you need to help towards it. Good luck!

[@algriffin7630]

@Hunter but I love bread

[@matheus_ooliv]

Please, be patient. Don't do any procedure before you are 30. Maybe you find the joy of being your sex.

[@algriffin7630]

@@matheus_ooliv stfu

[@naanbread4523]

Matheus Oliveira I used to agree that you shouldn’t do it before your teen years are over. But I just realized that I’m 15 years old and I get to be openly gay without people questioning if I’m really sure about it (and we’re not even talking about all the straight cis ppl who got to do that since their BIRTH). So if I’m open to live a gay live, why wouldn’t trans teens be allowed to live their live as the gender they identify with?

[@andrewentwistle3386]

As a trans guy, I want to pass, I need to pass. Passing makes me feel good, when I'm seen as a cis-male it makes my day so much better. Please note that this is only one side, and that a lot of trans people try really hard to pass and the word is a positive thing for them

[@lilpizzy8696]

@@TheBigMclargehuge you don't even know what he looks like tho

[@seb.is.missing]

TheBigMclargehuge don't always assume you can tell of someone's trans. Ever heard of testosterone? Or estrogen? There are so many trans people out there that are on hormones and you would never be able to tell. There are also surgeries to reassign sex, or get rid of breasts. So stop harrasing us and calling us "trannies" because you know nothing about us or what we go through or feel. Don't try to educate us on something you are not. It's honestly so sad that people like you have nothing better to do with your time then critize and bully innocent people just trying to live our lives

[@seb.is.missing]

TheBigMclargehuge also, I doubt you would be able to tell Jamie's trans. Because he definitely doesn't sound like a girl to me kzbin.info

[@sierrabrown4725]

TheBigMclargehuge lmao your so mad for no reason. You have probably talked to a trans person this passed week without even knowing 💀

[@Jinxed_Starbyte]

Me too, Andrew. I always try my hardest to pass and isually feel like I'm succeeding when I leave in the morning but I go through my entire day getting misgendered. It's so debilitating for me not to pass

[@funkin-fungoid]

XD I didn't know my friend was trans so he went "wait I passed?"

[@sga8240]

Precious

[@subliminals5825]

lmfaooooo

[@yarkn3791]

That made me cry

[@electricearth1101]

Hardly anyone in this video passes.

[@Alsexaren]

@@electricearth1101 especially not the person in the hat

[@lomouche]

I really dont understand this, at all. Im transgender myself and I want to pass for MYSELF, not to obey what society wants me to do or something. I want to pass because i have very shit dysphoria and it effects every aspect of my life negatively and i want to have as much less of that as possible.

[@jwjackson4805]

same here , society needs to respect everyone

[@gustavocastro4313]

Me too, don't see anything wrong with that either!!

[@petthejambo6700]

thinking the exact same thing

[@bingbong502]

Are you guys confused of what you really are im just curious sorry no disrespect. But there so many trans documentary ive red and watched and most of them wanted to go back to their original gender when they got old. And there's only one word they say is confusion. What can you say about that?

[@l.aliascy]

bing bong Source? I’ve only ever heard of a handful of people ever detransitioning voluntarily (ie, because they realize they don’t experience gender dysphoria, as opposed to being pressured to detransition); the actual number of those who do is around 0.4% (www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/media-s-detransition-narrative-fueling-misconceptions-trans-advocates-say-n1102686), but the stories of the few that do tend to get a lot of attention because they’re more controversial.

[@Pocketdaemon]

I'm sick of explaining that my existence isn't a political statement.

[@jordanharnden6096]

I'm saddened that we live in a world where trans people have to "pass" in order to get certain privileges.

[@anayahardy4714]

Monte ???

[@adamfreak477]

Privileges are earned, moron. Nobody's entitled to anything.

[@succme1229]

that literally makes no sense... u dont understand wht the original poster said lmao.

[@lordnibbler3195]

Uh no, they have all the privileges legally as everyone else does. "Passing" gives them self validation and confidence, which is not a legal right.

[@mel-fc3cr]

Stop the bullying and you can save another's life

[@teresedrew9540]

Okay but some of us just want to pass and alleviate dysphoria without the identity politics or other things

[@felix-hm9jn]

Yeah like I want pass because uhh I want strangers to see me as male so I don't get dysphoric ?

[@gustavocastro4313]

Yeah me too, and I don't see anything wrong with that either!!

[@jamesalexander7098]

Yeah exactly. I basically came to say the same. I don’t want to pass as cis, I just want to pass as my gender; male. And me wanting to pass does not mean I think everyone must pass to be valid or must have that as an end goal. Passing is for myself. What’s not okay is those people who say you must pass or cis people who think you must only follow gender stereotypes of the gender you’re identifying as and be as cis like as possible to be valid as transgender.

[@oliverlehmann3750]

Jeaa i love to pass I love when peaple see me as the man i see myself

[@aya123444]

Bingo!

[@er3n54]

People want to pass to feel less dysphoric , not to have "cis privilege" or whatever

[@thedukeofweasels6870]

yeah I want pass not because I'm ashamed of being trans or want privileges but because most of my gender dysphoria is social. even if it is just a random person in a brief encounter knowing that they think I'm a girl makes me really fucking anxious and will bug me all day!

[@er3n54]

theduke ofweasels exactly how I feel

[@drnecro1086]

I think they're not ignoring the dysphoria factor; at least I'm not. I do feel pretty fucking dysphoric and passing alleviates that immensely, but the thing is: where does dysphoria comes from? I doubt that the right answer is a completely medical one. My dysphoria makes me feel like shit for not looking (and being) a "real man", but who says being a trans man is not being a real man? My very own existence defies that notion! I'm a guy despite what my body looks like, despite what people tell me I am. And passing, at least in my understanding, is just looking cisgender - which is society's notion of a "real man". I don't want to conform to that because *I know* I'm not less of a man for having a high-pitched voice or a "feminine face";I know men like me are men, and I want that notion to be more mainstream, I want people to not see me as less of a men because I'm not cis - and passing ain't gonna help me with that. In this context, passing is conforming, agreeing with society's notion that trans men aren't real men. I wanna be seen for who I am and without having to choose between looking like a man and not looking like myself.

[@KL-zq1dq]

passing is about social acceptance. dysphoria is about how our internal and external forms relate. of course, our bodies are always in conversation with the world around us. its a privilege to pass because one does not have to deal with the negative impacts of being understood by the outside world as trans, which may alleviate dysphoria. we can also feel euphoria about our non-binary gender without passing :)

[@GalaxyGal-]

@@thedukeofweasels6870 Same here. I just want to be like any other woman. I don't want the baggage that comes with being visibly trans. But I've put in the work to voice train, get better at hair and makeup, and improve my overall appearance.

[@kaitlinbrowell8903]

They all seem to be stating the same opinion. I think that's only one side. We don't try to pass in order to embrace cisnormativity, or cling to the gender binary or gender roles.. Some of us try to "blend in" so we don't stick out like a sore thumb. I do it so I don't get harassed on the street. So I don't get embarrassed when someone walks up and asks intrusive questions when i'm in a large group of my friends. I am all for visibility of trans issues, I sort of wear it on my face, but don't tell everyone that trying to pass is evil. Some of us do it to survive.

[@kelp9742]

yES! i couldn't have explained it better myself

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

so are you trans ? Kaitlin ?

[@k.-flynn]

Kaitlin Browell 1:04

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

who is that at 2: 20 ?

[@MikaTepes]

i dont think they think that wanting to pass is evil, but that they wish they didnt have to pass. that they WOULDNT get harassed on the street if they CHOSE not to pass. they feel like theyre forced to, if that makes sense.

[@llewballantine6678]

You have that moment when you are like "Hey, more representation is cropping up, this is good. I feel like some real process is being made." And then you read the comments.

[@InkSplatter]

Llew Ballantine tell me about it.

[@daeguboy8136]

Everytime😞

[@davidfisher5045]

Or listen to comments like “Cis people in their tiny little brains.” If a white person said that about a black person??

[@leesnyder1112]

@@TheBigMclargehuge It really sounds like you're whining.

[@drnecro1086]

@@davidfisher5045 I think that comment was poorly phrased. What I understood is that, generally speaking, cisgender people notions of gender do not include trans people and our gigantic variety of appearances, gender expressions, identities, so on and so forth. I don't think they meant to come off as "omg cis people are stupid" but that the majority of cis people (specially straight) view of gender and how they perceive other people's gender don't usually include and embrace trans identities. Their perception is often just "men" or "women" which (even for some binary trans people) is kinda exclusionary.

[@NoTimeToExplain-]

"passing" and transitioning alleviates gender disforia for *a lot* of trans people. Why do they act like its the worst thing in the world? This video is *very* one-sided.

[@gav6168]

NoTimeToExplain yeah, this video definitely focuses on non binary trans people rather than binary trans people.

[@gustavocastro4313]

I agree 100% with you, I don't see anything wrong with passing for me It's all good i like!!

[@kaydenmarlow2674]

Dysphoria*

[@Queen-rl2uo]

People get murdered for not "passing"

[@gustavocastro4313]

@@Queen-rl2uo Truth!!

[@calistabraeburn4228]

I'm not the first to say this, but when trans women talk about passing, we're not just talking about looking like cis women in some abstract way, we're talking about passing a brutally violent, nearly impossible rigorous test that literally never ends. We're talking about being allowed to pass through public space and take part in social interactions without having our humanity refuted, interrogated or held under suspicion because of the lies projected onto our bodies. We're talking about being casually, thoughtlessly expected to compress, conceal, remove, reshape and constantly monitor countless aspects of our physical appearance, countenance, comportment and voice (seemingly every last detail of all self-expression) to an utter extreme, just for the hope that we can literally mind our own business. These expectations go well beyond those held for cis women and virtually none if literally any of us pass 100% of the time, which the cost of failing this test is immediate, repeated, indefinite, and ranges from simple social alienation and rejection to full out physical violence and death. Never forget who is administering this test, and don't blame us for trying to pass when our safety literally depends on it.

[@electricearth1101]

No one in this video is passing.

[@quirkyhonor3427]

Also, I think it varies by location and individual. People always exist on a spectrum.

[@spook6394]

@@electricearth1101it seems like most of them aren’t trying, according to them at least.

[@alexrety1977]

I'm a transgender man who has never fully passed, I'm starting hormones soon, I would definitely enjoy passing and it physically hurts sometimes to get misgendered every single day

[@pru666]

Hope you’re in a comfortable place now with yourself and your body hun!

[@bluetoyota921]

Just be who you were born to be, sister.

[@forest487]

People shouldn’t assume your gender anyways, cis people are the people not you

[@forest487]

@@bluetoyota921 your disgusting

[@electricearth1101]

No one in this video is passing.

[@rorysmith7187]

As a trans person, it's almost never a good idea to read the comment section on anything trans related. Example: this comment section

[@shutin3529]

it'sMe TheHerpes clearly the herpes, you don't have to put it in your name, we know. seriously, it's none of your business, there's no need; you see, there's something called ignoring people, something you don't seem to be capable of.

[@shutin3529]

oof my feelings lol can't really "insemenate" females since I'm a transguy. Also, please fuck off you lil egg shit with all your threats, I'm so happy I'm nowhere near Islam. I like your insults: s t u p i d , f r e a k, e m o. so creative

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

yeah, "troll" keep telling you that, while i bring justice to you. i wonder, as you are being thrown of a building, is that what you'll say to me ? "troll" lol

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

yes, i think we should just... lock them in a looney asylum

[@cameronk6335]

As another trans I agree but I do it anyway

[@marlowpop]

"I don't want to pass, I want to be seen for who I am." DUDE THAT'S WHAT PASSING IS. When you have dysphoria, you are happy when you ARE passing.

[@seb.is.missing]

Don't tell him what passing is to him. It's different for everyone

[@horsegirlb7120]

...did, did you watch the same video I did?

[@frogchair]

I think they are just saying there is a difference between passing and being respected no matter how you look. It shouldn’t matter if you can pass or not, you should still be treated the same.

[@marlowpop]

@@frogchair woah I don't remember this comment at all, I'm sorry if what i said a year ago came off as harsh, I still kind of agree but I would never say it like that at all. I understand your explanation actually, and if that's the case I totally support that!

[@lucas_chet1789]

I don’t understand trans people who don’t want to pass. I get to each their own, but I wanted everything so much to pass, now that I finally do I finally feel happy and comfortable.

[@Yoshi_Badd]

🗣 Preach ! Life is easier. Those people who say they don’t wish to pass. Only say that because the reality is. They can’t. I’m sorry but I’m not taking hormones laser hair removal getting NUTS removed. To still be called a man and clocked. Bottom line. Passable trans can accomplish a lot more things in life.

[@b.mcknight8686]

For me as a trans woman "passing" is something I need to feel safe, but the effort I feel like I have to put into it just to walk out of my house is crazy. I wish people could just treat me like a person, whether I look like their idea of a female, or something they can't figure out. Just because you can't immediately fit me into a category shouldn't matter.

[@frufrujaben]

Formerly transphobic cis-het male, here's my takeaway: What replaced my fear of trans bodies was Joy in the form of acceptance. When I see you as you see yourself, you don't have to change or look different, at the same time you are changing and we all are! So I want you all to pass, It feels great to pass as yourself! I'm neurodivergent, and sometimes very strange to people. I found that kindness is contagious, I hope It finds you! Live long and prosper.

[@Itsprobablyraining]

This is a really interesting episode. "Passing" is an issue that rarely meets the public eye, especially when now people are familiar with Caitlyn Jenner and other people with the privilege of "passing". It is a shame that society only looks at the surface of people rather than really seeing who they are, and deserve to be regarded as.

[@MultiEquations]

The person at 2:07 looks like an Edwardian era beauty.

[@julianjaffe8739]

It's the Gibson Girl hair! She's got it down

[@markcarat4000]

The comments make me sick, but I'm so glad you made time for a video addressing the struggles of such a complicated subject for us trans people! Definitely subscribing!

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

at 0: 03 "this is my hat pf passing, when i wear this i pass as a boy" 😂😂😂 REALLY ?! if you don't see what's wrong with this statement, then you're either under 16, or you belong in a looney asylum yourself. tho i have to admit, yes, 2: 24, that girl is cute af. even if she dresses like a boy, she still looks like sweet nectar. that is one pretty lady.

[@WowThisIsBetter]

This one really opened some stuff up for me. I would have thought that transgender people would have positive feeling towards the word "passing". I never thought about the fact that "passing" implies that the only way to be is either "female" or "male" (whatever those mean) and diminishes those who don't fit in the gender binary. Thank you for all of these videos. I like to think I'm an evolved human but until recently I'd never thought too much about what gender is and what it means to myself and others.

[@electricearth1101]

No one in this video is passing.

[@thatoneepicenealex7432]

comfortable. it makes me feel comfortable. i want to look cis and be perceived as a cis man, and when that is possible, i feel comfortable

[@gregorypic1947]

I just love that kids who think they may be trans, nonbinary, etc. Can watch a video like this and see "themselves" on video discussing a topic like this. Videos like this help so many feel seen

[@atransfemale4910]

I want to pass and be respected as a transwomen. Thank you for making this video

[@akirubamiru6700]

Well, I hope all the best for you.

[@mercyritz1311]

Sex - determined by what reproductive parts you've been assigned at birth. These are, decidedly, binary. Gender - what you identify as i.e., male/female. You can also refuse to conform to the binary gender identity system. Cisgender: Your sex matches your gender identity. (Fe)male parts - (Fe)male gender identity. A large population of the world is cisgendered. Transgender: Your sex does NOT match your gender identity. Fe(male) parts - whatever you identify as. "Passing", correct me if I'm wrong, is to be discernibly appear as male/female to other people - whether that is in line with your sex/gender. Passing is a problematic concept because it 1) Perpetuates a standard/(s) of appearance for either genders. 2) Does not recognise those people who do not conform to a gender-binary. 3) Discriminatory, imo, against those who cannot be able to transition (as yet) and still want to be themselves and be treated as the gender they identify with, rather than what they appear/"pass" as. 4) Passing is "cis-privilege" because not passing means being recognized as a trans person and facing potential harrassment, violence, humiliation etc. To conform to "pass" means to become complicit, in some sense, in the discrimination against trans people. That's what I got from the video.

[@EJ-jc2oj]

I am pretty sure you got that right. also there is more then two physical sexes, it's called "intersex" I believe. it is very rare those.

[@EJ-jc2oj]

it exists so how could it not be an "actual" sex? yes, these people have to choose a gender/ are assigned to one, but they are not necissarily that gender forever or in their hearts. It is a fault in our society. i mean, that's the same "issue" as trans then, you have the "other genders" sex. also i agree, some trans people are definitly female or male. i think we are still refering to different things here, seeing that you probably mean sex (which can be changed) and i mean gender (which is a social construct, and thus decided by you and only you) i would also ask you not to refer to someones sex/ physical (or even mental) features as a "defect" it sounds very offensive *****

[@EJ-jc2oj]

***** the first result if you google the term "gender" is: "gender ˈdʒɛndə/ noun noun: gender; plural noun: genders 1. the state of being male or female (typically used with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones)." it clearly definies gender as a social construct, that can however still include ones sex. so that is why some trans people feel they have to have their sex changed. however lots of them just have secondary features changed or undergo hormone therapy, because they feel better like that or for society to except them as their gender. and you are not the one paying for it, if that were the case there wouldnt be so many people asking for money online (for example in funds) to pay for surgery etc this is not only about bathrooms. our society sadly tells us how a man and a woman are supposed to look and behave, but that does not make any sense. there is a spectrum of genders and every person is an individual, thus making their behaviour and looks just as individual and not able to be catagoriesed. some trans people still feel better with surgery and that is their right

[@emilian7052]

@@EJ-jc2oj intersex isn't a third sex. It's literally a combo of already existing male and female traits

[@kylie.palmer]

Umm ur wrong

[@rinickulous5181]

This is indeed coming from a cisgender boy who supports the LGBTQ community and hopes for full equality one day. Really appreciate these videos from Cut. They are potentially educating the audience that needs to be aware most of these issues and no matter the hate received please continue to put out this content. It is truly enlightening and important. However, something is to be said about the tone used when the cisgender population is discussed about in this video (at 3:16 calling them "feeble minded"). I initially felt offended. I was hurt that I was being generalized as a group that hates so heavily on individual freedom. While I am not denying the fact that there are a lot of Bigot cisgenders and angry uneducated people out there who will use an even more harsh tone with the word "transgender/sexual" than they do with "cis", is it beneficial for the community that is oppressed to fight fire with fire? Now I rapidly realized that this was not a matter of terrible people representing the trans community. Rather this was an outcry of anger that seems to be the only thing some people take away from this video because it personally offends them. We have oppressed these groups for years and it is unfair that some people will only take away that "they hate us how I hate them" mentality from hearing the anger, instead of realizing that "us" is the group that is angering these souls. It really does not speaks a lot about the people in this video, but about how heavy the oppression has affected them. I doubt any of them would be as angry and upset if they didn't suffer from this extensive discrimination and that is something a lot of people should take away. Hopefully this sparks some discussion that can help those who haven't realized what they go through. Keep fighting and I hope for this group to reach equality.

[@kamillaelisabethengebretse350]

That was well written and interesting. Hmm. I like you.

[@gabesmith2463]

I hate when some transgender people group all cis people and say they are the worst thing in their lives. It's annoying.

[@jaseharper944]

I agree that that person's attitude and the attitude of a lot of trans people towards cis people is pretty shitty. I don't feel the need to create that divide and patronise - at times, bully - cis people when we're all striving for equality. We need cis people to be on our side if we want acceptance, and the vast majority of my friends are cisgender and totally accepting of the trans community. I think when I see trans people talking shit about "the cis" as if they're some foreign group of bigots instead of, y'know, our friends/family/99.99% of society, it's just kinda saddening. It feels like a step backwards.

[@haleigh5340]

RiNickulous You are a wise and amazing person. We need more allies like you. Thank you so much for your support.

[@Liyaxs]

I was looking for this comment. I felt so offended as an ally here is what he actually said at 3:06 “I try not to think about what cis people think of me...in their tiny mind” the question was about passing, this includes ALL people. I get passing offends some, and no one should feel they need to adhere to society’s norms or the binary but this is the type of language that supports this “them vs us” rhetoric helps no one and only divided us.

[@caseycreationsofficial]

I'm a 16 yr old...pre-E trans woman. I'm in the closet to all my fam but all my friends know. I don't pass as a woman and I'm not looking to pass until I feel its safe to change up my looks to feel/look more fem. As of late I've woren a mask everywhere i went. Every one I come into contact with calls me "ma'am" or says..."are you ladies....". I'm usually with my mom or grandma when this happens. I always get A burst of happiest for a few seconds when someone does that. I don't know when I'll be ready to come out to my family or extended family. But, I really hope that every other guy, gal and enby pal has a gr8 day. Thankyou for reading my ted-talk :,)

[@dalal1603]

Trans rights are human rights period

[@lizzyrose6494]

@catgirl gf but aren't trans people human? Seeing as any sane person would call them human, that must mean trans rights are human rights.

[@ellabooxo]

2:13 has the prettiest hair 😍

[@ca6592]

One word: Amazing.

[@kevinblack1089]

I’ve embraced that no one knows what they are missing when they don’t take the time to understand you 🤍

[@Howdy_Its_Ash]

The hat of passing sounds like item is a lgbt themed rpg. "You have acquired the hat of passing!! You have..... mixed feelings on this"

[@Bostik13]

Brilliant points that really capture the struggle of both disliking the whole idea of 'passing' whilst simutaneously relying on it to feel validated or even safe. Also, 2:36 person's eyes are amazing that is all

[@minty.bliss.]

Okay thank you so much for educating me more with this video. I had seen "passing" as a goal for binary people previously, and I'm so glad you've allowed me to see otherwise ❤️

[@zeldahylianfantage]

Its my goal for me because when I pass it helps my self confidence. My dysphoria is the worst and passing takes the edge off of it. A huge edge, actually.

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

this video was a disgusting display of sick individuals

[@Partyarti_23]

+it'sMe TheHerpes I find you disgusting just based on what you said.

[@Maria-zs3by]

same

[@Partyarti_23]

it'sMe TheHerpes Lol, grow up. You must have a pretty easy life since this is the thing you choose to spend you're time on. You're not edgy enough to be shocking nor funny. Your name is spelled terribly. Being gay and being trans is different, get your insults straight (pun intended).

[@ziggydustin1495]

Passing to me is everything. I don't feel human without passing

[@beepbeepeddie8010]

I was just kinda watching this in the background and then he said he has a passing hat. I freaked out because I have a passing hat too!

[@chewy6964]

1:30 holy shit this person is a frigging queen

[@yulpiewsert1520]

i pass really easily and im not even out yet i feel really bad for those who can't pass no matter how hard they try

[@silver4831]

As long as you don't feel bad because you can.

[@GalaxyGal-]

I don't feel bad about "passing" pre hormones. I just wish it wasn't something that was imposed as a pre-requisite to transition.

[@silver4831]

If you ever want to bee seen as the gender you feel, you need to pass its that simple. The harsh truth.

[@GalaxyGal-]

Silver Not always. I’ve lived in places that are very accepting of gender identities and don’t care if you “pass.” Harsh truth: you don’t get to decide someone else’s gender.

[@GalaxyGal-]

Silver Some people cannot physically “pass,” whether it be due to intense body hair growth rates in trans women or large breasts in trans men. Likewise, for some of us, we don’t have immediate access to hormones. I’m lucky that I do, and that I get to start hormones in a month, but a lot of us just don’t have access like that.

[@judim5379]

My friend during his “A” phase used to get so excited when he would be “mistaken” for a male. I’m so glad he doesn’t struggle with that being missing in his life daily, I hopper he still gets that high point of t the feelings I saw in him in what to me appeared to be happiness. I wish him so much happiness!!!

[@allenhamming3356]

I’m not gonna fuck around this kinda frustrates me. I love passing, and several of the friends I have who are also trans work so hard for it. I don’t understand why they’re responding like it’s so bad or that cis people are evil and that just confuses the crap out of me. I work so hard to pass constantly and it brings me great comfort. I want to understand why there seems to be an air of disgust from the people talking about this when it isn’t anything bad.

[@rhimanorangeley4083]

Allen Hamming check out the meaning of tucute and truscum. I find that knowledge makes the video a bit clearer to understand

[@raspberrytoffee]

This was really beautiful. I struggle to "pass" every day, and sometimes its so hard I don't even leave the house. I wish we lived in a society where we could all just accept and love one another for who we are, inside and out.

[@toribracco167]

Coming from a trans girl from FL so I'm gonna be brutally honest. We live in a 2 gender society...if youre non-binary wear whatever you want that's on you. But if you're FTM or MTF, dont complain when people "misgender" you when you do absolutely nothing to try to pass. Obviously if you have a beard and dress like a guy...people are think you're a guy... And then they get offended but like??? Idk if you look like a man people are gonna call you a man

[@bostonvontugeln7325]

Tori Bracco facts

[@Liyaxs]

PREACH!

[@myredpencil]

That last one made me say, "Oh honey"😢 I have a trans sister-to-brother and my family has been real enough to have a lot of hard conversations. Ya'll are great big loved right now!! Thanks for sharing this short beauty.

[@LifesNeverHumDrum]

I'm very glad to hear from the nonbinary person at 1:28, because that's exactly how i feel about it, being agender. You don't get to "pass" as your gender when you're nonbinary. You can pass as a DIFFERENT gender than what people would normally percieve, but it's also passing as a different gender from who you are. If you try to go out representing your gender, there is no passing as that. People will always ask questions, or you will always have to explain yourself, because people will always see you as one of two things. Sometimes, at least just speaking for myself, it can feel nice to be mistaken as a different gender - but it's not yours, its what people perceive as the "opposite" gender of what you were assigned at birth. It's still wrong, and it's still..painful.

[@hippogriffgrrl10]

Same... One time one of my guy friends at college momentarily forgot I wasn't ALSO a guy (before I had ever come out about my nb stuff to anyone, and actually before I had even FOUND "non-binary"), and it felt really, really awesome, but still... awkward. And right after, he was like, "oh--ha--no: you have a vagina," and I was like, "blehhhhbhhhbbhhhh..."

[@esmeraldacatano7562]

Passing has always meant safety for me.

[@silver4831]

Passing is vastly important to deal with social encounters, as unfortunate as it is. Its stupid to think people don't judge by appearance. We even judge ourselves.

[@abcdefg54321x]

The person at 0:56 was like watching a dubsmash

[@thebarbiediaries]

it would be interesting if you had people with diagnosed Anxiety disorders come in and do the one word series, since I have diagnosed GAD myself

[@sierralvx]

This is a little mixed for me. When they said outdated here 2:18 I get that it's outdated for all of them who are educated on gender roles, binaries, and identities, but many people, in fact, the *MAJORITY OF PEOPLE* are still catching up! There is still a lot of progress to be made on educating people on what it means to break these stereotypes, and you can't just look down on them because all they think is you have to *pass* as either a man or a woman! Give them some grace and don't let other's judgements of you make you feel less great than you are! We never understand people's personalities to begin with, so there needs to be a lot more patience with people understanding something that's just becoming mainstream. I just felt this video came from a pious place and I needed to say this!

[@gee.ttoo.9887]

This video was incredibly eye opening for me. From the little exposure I’ve had, I’ve always thought that this idea of “passing” was a goal for transgender individuals. I was very wrong. Thank you for changing my perspective.

[@hexonxonx]

it's still a goal. just not for these particular people.

[@nostalgicfragments]

I’m currently dating a trans woman and a cis female, I feel like I need to be more aware things like this. What people feel when certain topics come up. Also, if anyone reading this also has a trans partner, I highly recommend “The Trans Partner Handbook” by Jo Green.

[@Ilovemahmochi]

Quick reminder that being fine with your assigned gender is OK too! I was iffy about their reference to cis people having tiny minds. There are certainly cis people who undertand the idea of gender identity but simply don't find the need to transition or want any different pronouns or anything. Whithin the choices of trans, non binary, cis, etc, there is no better or worse identity, just identities. It's who you are.

[@Ilovemahmochi]

eiffel65isawesome It's obvious that trans people face oppression but that's not the point of this comment. It's not meant to trivialize trans people's struggles. This was directed towards people struggling with their identity or thinking about it. The emphasis was that there is no right or wrong identity and that who you are is who you are trans, cis or anything else on the spectrum. NOT that cis people are oppressed for being cis.

[@Miayi12]

+eiffel65isawesome beeing called tiny minded is an opression, and why you need to divide people into cis, trans or whatever? Cant you see that stigmas never help?

[@TigerPrawn_]

+CocoaCoffin Love AMEN SISTA!

[@ThatWeirdo04]

+Miayi12 Do you know even know what opression is?

[@kaitlynparker8480]

they weren't saying literally all cis people are tiny minded, but if they said "some cis people are tiny minded" (and some/many are i.e. transphobia) then that would have given any cis person room to say "oh they said 'some', now I don't have to consider my actions towards anything revoloving the trans community:)))". instead of getting mad at cis people being called tiny minded, why not try to work against transphobia. there will never be "cisphobia" but there sure as HELL is opression against trans ppl.

[@harleens6506]

it really depresses me tha the first thing the first trans women they asked said in response to "passing" was "survival"

[@snail5945]

isn't the point of being trans to pass and live their life as the gender that they are. I understand not being able to pass, but most of those people want to pass. maybe not to society but at least to themselves. Im pre testosterone and I pass 100% and im happy that I look masculine enough and that im young enough to do that. Passing isn't a terrible problematic thing, its honestly just a word that means you look cis. and that's what most trans people strive for anyway. its not that they hate being trans, they just dont want it to be the first thing people notice or the center of their lives.

[@thedukeofweasels6870]

"to themselves" yes! people don't get how much that can mean

[@rhimanorangeley4083]

I wish I could ignore how other people see me too. I'm trans ftm and pre everything. Very occasionally I pass as a male but most of the time I don't. Literally today my dad told me I don't need to focus on passing because then I'm not focusing on myself, I'm focusing on other people. Well it's kind of hard trying to focus on getting myself to a comfortable position when everybody around me (apart from a select few) keep misgendering me. I had an accident the other day in the supermarket and nearly broke my finger and the attendant that came to help me (because the pain was nearly making me pass out) kept saying things when people tried to talk to her like "let me just help this lady, she's actually injured." Passing for me isn't just a thing that doesn't really matter, passing is whether I can survive against my own mind. I go too long not passing, I'm falling into ugly mental places. I don't live with my mum and I am so thankful for that because she says to me when I go and visit her "you know I can't call you he because you don't look like a he right?" I moved out of hers before I came out but I can honestly say that if I was still there falling into ugly mental places wouldn't be a worry, I'd spend my time trying to figure out how to escape, no matter the cost. It's 21 weeks until I get my first appointment to medically transition and honestly it's becoming agony. So yeah, for me passing isn't unfortunate or unnecessary, for me it's mental stability, it's a relationship with my parents, it's everything.

[@rhimanorangeley4083]

@Tewdy Quew please then, tell me what I should be focusing on in this life. Tell me how to live my life after reading a single comment I wrote on a video. Heads up (since it's been a while since I wrote it,) I've still not been seen by the clinic, not long after this I nearly killed myself because of the pressure of college ignoring my issues, my toxic ass mother trying use pull me back to the years of abuse she gave me and the fact that the clinic have now set me back 4 times because they are underfunded. So please tell this stranger on the internet how to live a life you know nothing about. The only thing I was wrong about was needing a relationship with both my parents. Passing for me still makes it a lot easier for my mind to stay stable.

[@rhimanorangeley4083]

@5,ooo LightYears Away thanks for your kind words, luckily I've grown a lot stronger since writing this comment but inlucky for me I've not got any closer to transitioning medically because the clinic is underfunded and the government is a piece of ass. For me I think I had passing so high in my priorities because my abusive ass mother (which I'm happy to say I don't talk to anymore) kept telling me that as long as I don't look masculine nobody will take me seriously. She was feeding my lies about how I'd be perceived but because she's done that from the day I was born I was just too used to internalizing them. Thankfully I'm moving past that now and as much as I do still try to pass when I'm out, it doesn't feel as dire as it did before. (Not to say now my dysphoria is nothing, it's just not clouded in lies anymore)

[@georgannenelson105]

If you want to use the restroom of your choice without harassmrnt , I would think you would want to pass.

[@hufflebuffben]

I aim to "pass" especially in everyday public. It isn't always safe right now. A lot of people don't know that being LGBTQ+ is not a personality trait. It's just a state of being, just living our lives.

[@TigerPrawn_]

2:31 I am very surprised, she said 'transgenders' I'vealways been told that this is a stigmatising and incorrect term, and instead it should be 'transgender people'. Even if you say to a trans person 'Oh I would never have known [that you were trans]' that's still offensive even though you are seemingly complimenting them. It enforces the idea that you have to pass (appear to be stereotypically male/female) when you may not look that way naturally. Passing is also what a lot of cis people judge trans people on, trying to work out 'how trans' they really are. Which is bullsh*t. If someone is trans(*) they are trans! Here's the gender binary again,passing is about fitting into society's flawed gender binary. If no one conformed to it, and were just themselves, and accepted for that, this would even be a problem! Rant over.

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

Well they don't accept their bodies do they? They try to look cis right? Other wise they would stay in the body they have and call themselves what they want. How is calling them what they are offensive? "I would have never know you were transgendered" mean you did a good job of changing your body.

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

Also people say "whites" and "blacks" and "Asians" is there something wrong with that too?

[@johannschiel6734]

+That Thing You See At The Corner Of Your Eye They don't necessarily want to look cis. I assume, not few of transgender people are aware of the non-binary gender-"system" and so don't try to fit perfectly in either male or female role. But for me it was also a little surprising, that most of the people in the video reacted quite negative to the word "Passing".

[@thatthingyouseeatthecorner5249]

Johann Schiel Exactly they don't fit the criteria for either male or female so someone should create a gender that houses transgender people, hermaphrodites and everything else like that. So no one would have to change themselves and everyone can get over it

[@johannschiel6734]

That Thing You See At The Corner Of Your Eye The better way is to get used to the idea, that every single person has his/her own gender (identity and orientation). Of course there are several typical roles (in german we say "Schubladen", which means drawers) that people can fit in or not but in the end, we are individuals with our own individual gender.

[@elenna_alexia]

Thank you for making these videos. I think it's immensely important that trans and non-binary persons as a marginallized group can have their voices heard and that others are able to learn about them and challenge their stereotypes. Also thanks to everyone appearing in these videos for speaking up in the face of adversity.

[@SpanishPandaHero]

I really like these videos! Keep up the good work! :D

[@lijjja8184]

The last one hit me hard. I've dealt with my fair share of people who don't listen. My assigned gender is one of the obstacles that prevents me from being heard, mainly because I live in a still very sexist country, where some if not most women are still underpaid. I was denied employment and belittled because of my assigned gender. Treated as if I was weak, when I am very physically strong. Told that I can't do this and that because of what I am assigned to. That kind of dehumanization I do not wish upon anyone. For anyone who has struggled with what I have, or similar.. Things will get better for us. Be patient, not quiet.

[@brainwater176]

3:10 Cis people have tiny minds?

[@b.mcknight8686]

I am trans, and I didn't like that comment either. I know many open minded cis people, if they didn't exist I would be very lonely.

[@naanbread4523]

Yeah that comment really annoyed me, but on the other hand I do get that you might make comments like that to people who have so much privilege when you’ve had to fight so hard for your identity

[@karga7584]

yes.

[@yeahsuredude7082]

@@naanbread4523 it's likely a comment on the fact that cis people, having not gone through the very arduous process of questioning and philosophising on and working on understanding their gender, have a MUCH more limited view on what gender is and how it works as a concept, and it can be hard to explain something to someone at a different level of understanding than you

[@Liyaxs]

@YeaH Sure Dude ..,cause you know what they meant better than Us tiny brained cis people right? Get over yourself, we know what they meant. Don’t transplain it to us.

[@hazelmarieb9934]

This explains why the trans community resents me so much for being so passable. I do it for my own dysphoria and somehow I'm the bad guy for it. I face my own problems too you know. Because of my passability I never fully belong anywhere and to make myself less passable for trans community acceptance makes the trans community no better than their oppressors. I should be accepted for being me plain and simple. How can we expect mainstream society to accept us if we can't even accept ourselves?

[@Killerofsoapbubbles]

The guy at 3:31 is so handsome!

[@히요리日和]

ewww fucking ugly

[@leoheywood2120]

@@히요리日和 are you talking about yourself here?

[@bostonvontugeln7325]

leo heywood his acne makes him look like he was in Chernobyl for to long.

[@marieschockweiler6514]

This. ALWAYS this. This video made me cry. This video is everything I am, and that I stand for.

[@alenomada3222]

I like to watch these videos because I get informed about things I had no idea about. But one thing made me feel weird in 3:09 when this person said something like "cis people in their tiny minds". I am a cis woman and it doesn't mean I have a tiny mind. People cannot attack others for not knowing. Not all cis people are close-minded or against these subjects and people can't put us all in a group of tiny-minded. What the world needs is more information about these subjects. So, thank you for this content :)

[@slaapkaamers3377]

+Ale Nómada You seem like an incredibly understanding and open minded individual. I am trans and I 100% agree to what you are saying. Calling every cis-gender person "tiny minded" is extremely ignorant. It is trans people like this (3:09) who leave a bad taste in the mouth of a general public and/or an uneducated audience. People need to STOP generalizing!!! After all, we are all are own selves, we are all so different and individual, alien from one another... Generalizations like this can ONLY cause harm, positive or negative, coming out of the mouth & mind of a trans person or cis person. Being trans does NOT give anyone the right to degrade others. Classic case of the actual close minded person, a traditional hypocrisy.

[@Liyaxs]

Couldn’t agree more

[@sierralvx]

I do pass as a cis male with no actual biological transition. When people think of me as completely masculine, it's a compliment, because I didn't fit in being feminine/cis when I was younger. The two ways I confuse people is when I walk into a women's washroom and people look at me weird, like 'why'd that guy walk into the girl's washroom?' Where I live, it's really conservative so I definitely have to be careful with that so I don't startle anyone and so I slip into the mens washroom. The other is when I tell people my name is Sierra after they've thought they've been talking to a guy the whole time, which is why I go by the name Alyster sometimes.

[@NycYktv]

Just told one of my friends I'm transgender went well

[@i10v3di1f5]

This really opened my eyes. I always thought the goal for most trans people was to pass as the gender they identify as in terms of society’s standards. Now I get that there are different levels of “passing” that people want to be at and that no everyone’s end goal is to be the epitome of the gender they identify as. And that’s perfectly okay. Do you, be yourself. Beautiful people :)

[@silver4831]

I have never met a trans person (Myself included) who didn't want to pass. Its the whole "gender non comforming" stuff thats getting in the way I feel, its not gender dysphoria.

[@zoezr1]

They are all so beautiful 😍😊❤️

[@saobryn6327]

2:19 the most beautiful person I have ever seen.

[@georgiaderousse760]

I don’t know why they had non binary people on a video about passing. The whole idea of transgender is to pass from one binary to the other. But non-binary say they don’t want to pass for either of the binary literally in the name.

[@lizzyrose6494]

Transgender means to not identify with the gender you were assigned at birth. So Non-binary people are transgender.

[@cameronhines4562]

@@lizzyrose6494 how are they transgender ? What gender are they transitioning into ? Ps non binary isn’t a gender ;)

[@lizzyrose6494]

@@cameronhines4562 well non-binary is an umbrella term for a number of genders. So you are right in a roundabout way that non binary isn't a gender. You also seem to not understand that being trans doesn't require transitioning, or even medical transition. Like me, I'm genderfluid non-binary. I switch between being a girl, a demi-girl, and agender. Honestly I wish I was just a woman, but I can't really control my dysphoria. Being trans is a deeply personal thing that take many forms. I hope that help with the misunderstanding on this ;)

[@henkkahenrik4183]

passing to me means being seen as I am.

[@fridaahhenvymymind2641]

I find the guy from 3:30 really fucking cute 😍😍

[@user-by1df8ok3l]

if you're talking about the brown lady then stfu lmao she's a woman

[@m00ncl0udzzzzz]

The person at 2:06 is absolutely gorgeous!!! I love their hair

[@lilawese7306]

Theyre all so beautiful

[@passerby9991]

^ ^ ^ Your opinion isn't needed. If you dislike what you see, then there's always an option of closing out from the video.

[@xmoonlightchesterx238]

C.U. NextTuesday look at yourself

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

what a horrible display of sick individuals. it's disgusting

[@sweetwater2959]

I am becoming more socially conscious each day and I learned so much from this video - it was great to hear such a variety of perspectives on this idea.

[@BinkieMcFartnuggets]

Sex changes sort of bring a new meaning to the name Cut Video.

[@Trinityrants0121]

HAHA I SWEAR HATS ARE LIKE THE #1 OML

[@TigerPrawn_]

So many chills!

[@zoezr1]

Good chills? Happy chills?

[@TigerPrawn_]

+Zoe Z-R Good chills, hit me hard. :)

[@chrazzl]

As a trans person, I was surprised when people saw the word 'passing' as negative when I see it so positively. The end goal for me has always been to look the way I feel I was meant to look like.

[@ajomagurd]

Many of the problems here could be avoided if we dropped genders. We would have sex, but that's it. All these things that are assigned to one sex could be thrown all over the place. It would be shared. And sharing is caring.

[@Departure-yz7ok]

It's not about passing as a man, but passing as a cisman.... Beautifully said. You're right.... This leaves me feeling a bit empty

[@rafaelsoto3758]

how can this video be 4 minutes long when there's only 12 shovels in mars

[@lemmegetuhhharmadillo6203]

I want this comment framed on my wall.

[@rafaelsoto3758]

acoolguyliveson jew whalecum you just found the best KZbin comment in the world.

[@corey5363]

i'm a trans guy and i don't pass. i haven't cut my hair yet and i don't plan to do anything to make me look physically male until i can fully transition. passing to me is living like everyone else. it's not having to live in someone else's skin. when someone finally calls you by what you identify as, it completely makes everything worth it. sometimes i'll look it a guy. one particular event that has stood out ever since it happened was when i put on my uniform for marching band and someone said that i looked like a man. every single time i think of that moment i feel this overwhelming sense of euphoria. it's not about privilege. it's about being seen as who you truly are and it's beautiful.

[@anonmon8550]

I just saw a bunch of really beautiful people

[@kingofthesands]

WE WANT 100 YEARS OF BEAUTY!

[@S34U5]

"in their tiny mind if I pass or not" is a quote that I just can't.. get over. I can't say whether the disgust in their tone was to the term "passing" or not, but it sends chills to my spine either way. If the phrase was meant in the way I think it was, I find that disgusting and horrible, if not than it should have been thought through because it reads as anti-cis, which is the wrong way to go about making people more accepting.

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

yeah, cuz anybody that does not want their kid to be sexually educated at the age of 6, has a "tiny mind"

[@tigerlily0988]

I want sis at 3:29 to drop her makeup routine- her skin is gorgeous.

[@taylorfielding5090]

None of you will ever pass. We can all immediately tell what you were born as

[@BonesofStarlight]

Somewhere along the line, normal was defined. Anything outside of that normal, (which I'll point out changes frequently) was seen as bad, immoral, or disgusting. It was said that there were only two genders and for the longest time, this was accepted. It was said that loving someone of your gender was bad, and this was accepted. But why? Do you know why you hate, or do you just parrot what you've been told? Times change, people change, needs change. I am a cis bi girl, so I'll never know what it feels like for trans people- but I support them, and I support love. It doesn't matter what your gender is when it comes to love. If someone is born in a body they don't feel right in, how does it change your life as an outsider? Love is the most powerful thing we have- and the only thing that lasts forever. (Not lust, which is often mistaken for love.) So please, don't fight against people who use a different word than you've been conditioned to expect when describing themselves. No one should have to hide themselves, least of all those pioneering for acceptance and love.

[@TiaVapes]

This is a new word/term for me!!?

[@redsydevil]

Passing refers to getting recognized as the gender they want to be seen as/they truly are. Like when a trans male get's greeted with sir he is passing

[@redsydevil]

But I guess it has some negativity cause in some peoples mind a trans person is only "real" when they are passing. Like greeting a trans woman that looks like a woman with female pronouns, no problem, but as soon as the trans woman isn't "passing" they refuse to

[@spongebobtrianglepants2081]

Redsy Devil ohh ok. Thank you for the explanation 🤍

[@MrHannahSeven]

So glad you guys made this video! You have my full support!

[@FHIPrincePeter]

The Woman said " Degrading, I don't want to pass, I just want to be accepted for who I am." Oh the irony.

[@offsetproductions2643]

I just never really got how someone who is trans wouldnt want to pass as something that they are working hard to obtain

[@dannyslemonade976]

For me passing is amazing. It means I’m getting to my goal. It means less gender dysphoria

[@syd1760]

I absolutely and fully support the trans community. however being cis gender I was offended that we are stereotyped into being non-supportive or having 'tiny minds' :(

[@sithariswolf]

sydney baskette I'm trans myself and I really dislike the 'tiny-minds' comment. I thought it was petty and bitter. Some of the most supportive people around me have been wonderfully open minded cis friends. Not all cis peeps pigeon hole trans folk, and don't worry, we don't all pigeon hole you either. ❤️

[@MrMidnight1213]

I also found it quite upsetting, I think that to really form equality we need to not treat others as less than but rather rise above. I am cis but have many trans friends and love them no different when they went by their born sex. I hate that cis people are often stereotyped as uncaring, judgmental people with "tiny minds".

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

Antonio Mendez, i would love nothing more than to decapitate them, and play soccer with their heads. preferably in the first 20 seconds so they can still see me kicking them.

[@antoniomendez9808]

You have an unhealthy obsession with hurting a demographic that do not care about you or your existence. Do you feel neglected at home and use trolling as an outlet for attention? Do yourself and society a favor and get some help.

[@itsmetheherpes1750]

Antonio Mendez, actually... i am getting help. i already formed a small group of people that will help me hunt down these freaks, and as you see, i am looking for more helpers on-line. i am talking to people and get them to join me. and we will get read of this pest once and for all. we must hunt them everywhere we see them. for ex: i especially catch them at supermarket parking lots.

[@grossliz1995]

So because I'm "cis" and am comfortable in the body I was born in, that means I have a tiny brain? Those are the types of comments that just shut down the conversation. That in itself is bigotry.

[@RyannStAubin-ru7fq]

I don't think that it's problematic to want to pass I don't think that's problematic to not want to pass but I do think that's problematic to imply that people should not want to pass cuz passing a safe and it's not fair to tell people that they shouldn't want to pass