The COMPLAINT of modern WOMEN: the downside of being high-value

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Modern women seem to be on the horns of a two-pronged dilemma. On the one hand, they lament the diminishing pool of high-value men with whom they might satisfy their hypergamy. And on the other hand, they reject the distasteful possibility that they might partner with a lower-value man. "If I provide the money and the lifestyle and the responsibility and the competence," they might think, "then why bother with relationships at all? What do I get out of it?" When I hear this complaint, I can't help but smile, because they are on the cusp of understanding.
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Modern women seem to be on the horns of a two-pronged dilemma. On the one hand, they lament the diminishing pool of high-value men with whom they might satisfy their hypergamy. And on the other hand, they reject the distasteful possibility that they might partner with a lower-value man. "If I provide the money and the lifestyle and the responsibility and the competence," they might think, "then why bother with relationships at all? What do I get out of it?" When I hear this complaint, I can't help but smile, because they are on the cusp of understanding. Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzbin.info/door/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Sponsor an episode: oriontarabanpsyd.com/sponsor-an-episode Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #women #relationship #psychology

[@josealexi5141]

They may _SEE_ the dilemma, but will change NOTHING! They'll go to their death-beds blaming the men.

[@anthonyzullo]

Trying to explain anything to women now is impossible. They have MORE than enough information and examples proving that what feminism taught them is wrong and backwards and 100% counter intuitive to their entire biological nature. A woman asked me recently WHY men want traditional women and traditional roles, she claimed that men just want control or something, I replied very simply. "No, because the roles WORKED, for all of time. Now, because women do not want to be in their role, there are no relationships that work. You women have broken the cycle that literally got humans to where they are today." She just scoffed at me and dismissed what I was saying. Explaining simple thigns to women today is impossible because they cannot break out of their cognitive dissonance that feminism has brain washed into them. Its simple if your objective in your thinking. Women are losing, not men. Men, for all of time, have died without procreating. Women though, women need men. If men do not validate women, they start losing their mental illness and I mean, just the data on womens mental health nowadays is, fucking tragic at best. Idk, women have dervalued themselves by becomming high value. They became men and now are upset to find out that men arnt attracted to that.

[@anthonyzullo]

The fact that women basically fought tooth and nail to become men just astounds me. Like, us men are kind of bamboozled by this. Women basically had a free ride. Im a single man, 33, my house is spotless, my fridge is stocked, my house looks like a woman may have decorated it because a woman sort of did. What im saying here is simple. Being a house wife is extremely easy to do and the fact that women are on mass choosing to NOT have such a simple existence is beyond me. Men have always had the short end of the stick and as a man, I honestly didnt mind. It was nice knowing im providing for more than myself for a bigger cause. What personally bothers me is that my mother is a true feminist woman. She received 2 senatorial recommendations to officers scool during her enlistment. Was the first female mechanic int he marines to lead the maintenance teams for fighter jets. She then tackled corporate america in the 80s and ended up starting her own company in the 90s that turns 26 this May. In 1997 my mother was the only woman in America that was leading the charge on advewrtisments on the internet, the creators of Google called her in 97 and she turned them down(it took all of us over a decade to stop shitting on her for that, probably her biuggest regret in life, can see it on her face, sad) She raised 4 kids by herself. She is a remarkable woman indeed. She, HATES these women. She despises them. She doesnt understand why they are so bad. My mom had the saddest thing to say to me in my mid 20s. She said "Im sorry tony, but I pray you never get any of these women knocked up. Im glad your brothers gave me grand kids but I am happy you didnt. Youre a good one, they would destroy you." These women today, (i always forget mto say this, western american women.) are just a complete waste on men. Women, through feminism, have totally ruined any tangible value to have at all. I told a woman I dont date women with social media and she wouldnt leave me alone about it. I asked her would she date a man that used to do heroine and she said if he made enough moeny and im like, bruh, are you women just fucking retarded or what?!

[@SquarishLink]

its funny women of yesteryear used to know this, or it was passed down. It wasn't until the age of resentment and hatred towards men that this valuable life lesson was lost. I do wonder if the study that pointed out over half of women over 30 will have no children and never have been married will come true. Sad if you ask me, but this isn't the future i asked for its the one that has been presented before me.

[@centurion8446]

Don't forget the flip side of "quotas" is tearing down men in high status jobs (or getting prospectively promoted to them) to make way for a female (who may or may not be up to the task at this stage of career) which aside from the usual issues has an impact on the dating pool....

[@ShonnMorris]

I am so glad you made this video! "Welcome to being a man". Perfectly said. Women have become the men they want to date ~ Rollo Tomassi

[@josealexi5141]

Exactly! Women want an educated, intelligent, high-status, high-earning man. Instead of being fit, feminine and friendly to attract that man (because that's what *HE* wants), they get their degrees, work their careers and become boss-babes never realizing this TURNS. MEN. OFF. (i.e.: repulses men)

[@rejectionistmanifesto8836]

Never EVER be in a relationship with a woman who even hints or you suspect feels that she is superior or the breadwinner or the alpha in a relationship. It will lead to disaster and millions of children born to such relationships have their life ruined when it eventually breaks up or end in constant fights.

[@steve3131]

Gloria Steinem said much the same, only she saw it as progress.

[@whocarescrapsa]

Imagine, due to their solipsism, working their butt off for 20-30 years to suddenly realize there are two people in a relationship. The other person also has needs and they are not the same as yours. To find out our needs, all they had to do was ask (and listen to the answer) without the predictable shaming tactics of "who hurt you, small dick energy, live in your mothers basement". The fact that men communicate overtly, they would get the answer with no word salad and riddles. And it is usually these women that want to lead!? Where the hell are you going to lead me when you have taken yourself on a 30 year detour.

[@anisenkrill6179]

@@steve3131 "We have become the men we wanted to marry" Rollo usually credits Steinem when he says it.

[@GameMusingsWithRaziel]

I am a 40 year old man, 6'1, in shape, make six figures, look young and divorced with no kids. I have had this exact same conversation in my head several times. Every relationship save one that I have been in with a woman has always made my life worse off. Instead of appreciation, respect, admiration and love I received complaints, controlling behavior, jealously and other behaviors that completely destroyed my peace. It's why I've resolved to just stay single with my dog and watch the world burn. In the old days women were the soft spot to land, peaceful, non-combative, supportive and gave you children which made the transaction somewhat worth it. Nowadays they just bring children from other relationships and expect you to bail them out of their poor choices all whilst treating you like shit. No thanks. Great video.

[@williambaldwin9346]

"Nowadays they just bring children from other relationships and expect you to bail them out of their poor choices all whilst treating you like shit." Yep... never date single mommies. They ALWAYS have problems.

[@CilbraxGaming]

My gf is peaceful. But she's from Vietnam. Look out of the country my guy.

[@SquarishLink]

I am in a similar boat only younger, i swore off dating for a while when i was un uni and a few years in the field. I had my exes in my 20s cheat for a "better deal" so i became a better deal now most of the women on the market are really messed up. last one was a complete lunitic reading into everything i did assuming the worst and demanding i "remain on call for her" - answer phone at 2am on a work night.... what the fuck is going on? is it just me? i see some family and friends with women but even they have issues. Like my best friend now any time we wanna chill he has to "GET PERMISSION" before we go to the gym/rock climb. wtf.

[@GameMusingsWithRaziel]

@@CilbraxGaming Two of the women I dated were Vietnamese though Americanized. Problem with going out of the country is you have to STAY there or the western mind virus will infect them when you bring them back.

[@CilbraxGaming]

@@GameMusingsWithRaziel oh god you speak truth, the mind virus is after them, when i met her i tried my best to inoculate her, i think it worked but you have to remain vigilant. shes about to finish college but very early on i laid down the ground work. listen if your a feminist or a democrat or whatever, break up with me, then i tried to make sure she understood her college isnt really trying to educate her in her field only in feminism and in hating straight white men. then she was able to see it before she took certain classes. i showed her all kinds of things kevin samuels included and talked to her alot. im sorry to hear they got infected but if you're very assertive about it, as in you wont accept any of that shit in your house. maybe it can work.

[@Gyp6yMike]

When I met my ex-wife, she was making minimum wage, and I was making three times as much as her. I told her she should quit her job and I’d help her start her own business. So I did all the legal paperwork, to get the business formed, her tax ID, built her webpage for her, basically laid the foundation. In a year she was making five times as much money as me, she began to get resentful and was throwing it in my face. Even though I helped her, it didn’t matter. She ended up asking for a divorce and since I loved her, I gave it to her and didn’t fight for anything . so beware of guys, it doesn’t matter how she gets ahead of you or where she started with you.

[@aramisy.cajigas744]

Wao, what a sad story. If it was like you said, she'll have her consequences and won't be good for her, but you will be blessed. Forgive that unthankful woman and enjoy your life, brother. Jah bless!

[@sebastiandiaz-yu1ir]

well, he LOVED that woman@thezoldics7648

[@YoungDirtyMexicanOfficially]

@thezoldics7648 on some real shit. 48 laws of power my dude...

[@intreuefestundlachen1883]

Hope you're doing okay.

[@clauaome25]

I am so sorry this happened to you. As a man you did your job and I commend you for it.

[@SourceLeadership]

As a very successful female I approve this message and have come to love the idea even more of a man who is honest, humorous, easy to talk to, with chemistry... a good man with zero judgment about his status. Ladies if you are competitive you better leave it out of the relationship. You cannot have it both ways.

[@jenniferlee7167]

I more than agree with this. Zero judgment about status, and a man who is kind in character and not just superficially "nice".

[@joaquin67]

I listened to women my entire life, now at 31 I feel so betrayed and lied to by modern women/feminism.. Now I just plan on playing it safe by going with a woman who is lower socioeconomically than me. I still want her to have a job, but I lost a good chunk of my life being alone.

[@brianmeen2158]

@@jenniferlee7167but are you truly willing to support a man like that forever? I just think on paper this looks good for some women but in reality it really isn’t .. we shall see though

[@brianmeen2158]

@@joaquin67women and men have both been lied to

[@andrewmackenzie325]

Laughing hysterically at the female commentary. Ladies, it’s your actions we assess, not your cliched words.

[@blah163]

Historically, a good marriage provided a lot of value to both men and women. We needed each other. That is less true today.

[@jayc342009]

This is why i'm single as a man, i don't need a woman and i am not sacrificing my peaceful life for some sex.

[@Flomcy]

Exactly... all the time, I thought the same

[@roses6564]

Yes, that was called co-dependency, not love. People had no choice but stick with whomever they were able to find fast and early. Some got lucky, many didn’t.

[@joygibbons5482]

@@jayc342009 Yes as a divorced single woman that’s exactly how I feel.

[@mokadelic4037]

I used to be so confused about the phoenomenon of herbivore men in Asia, and was unable to understand. Now I fully understand why a man would want to spend his life without a woman. Modern society is an absolute nightmare for us.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Nothing to gain but everything to lose (money, child support, house and kids).

[@M0viLover]

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 "Nothing to gain .." Well .. access to a warm hole when she grants it. But, yeah - that's about it!

[@uhnborhn5032]

@@M0viLover when she feels like upholding her end of the bargain. don't worry, if she never does she'll take half!

[@JadeSune]

Modern society is an absolute nightmare for not just us.

[@JasonlaroseLaRose]

Proverbs 21:9

[@timgibney5590]

Women do not care about a man's struggles. They hang out at the finish line and pick the winners -Richard Cooper FACTS

[@GreatRetro]

Now let's turn that shit around, m8! ;))

[@timgibney5590]

@@GreatRetro I do not know if we can? It is embedded in all animals long before we evolved into humans. The buck that wins the horn butt wins the mate. The bird with the best dance wins. The alpha pack wolf mates with multiple females, etc. As a man the only thing we can do is win. I am fat and I realized as it crept up it it was not female nature but the fact she can do better why I am single on these dumb channels. Time for me to fast and do lap band and hit the gym. I already took care of the career a year ago for 23% more pay and left my former employer. I got a newer car and house comes next. Once I lose 90 pounds I will be a good option for my future gf as who is not obesse, owns a house, and earns 100k. Not many guys meet that. You do the same sir and good luck!

[@timgibney5590]

@Pawwel Mussial No need to type that. So what if she is? She maybe one of the few who love her man which I commend.

[@Ace.0.0.0.]

​​@@00000kll I concur. The best ever GF I had did anything I asked her to do for me. She even rode a greyhound bus for two days, something I never asked her to do, so she could be with me. She also jumped from a plane at 10,000ft to impress me. Her actions told me she was willing to go the distance (horizontal & vertical) to be with me.😊

[@carlospita6442]

But what do they offer ??

[@prettyboyjeremy]

Dr. The short answer is no. They believe her money is her money A man's money and resources should be shared between the both of them for the betterment of her life and children. Double standard - cognitive dissonance Thousands of years of social-cultural reinforcement won't go away overnight.

[@manumaster1990]

exactly. radical problems requires radical solutions.

[@pointblank5398]

Well, who is having the child?! Why are all the men in the comment section forgetting that men cannot make life? Men these days have seriously deteriorated into feminine men. The so-called doctor running this dumb channel is a feminine man.

[@1Plebeian]

I'm looking forward to evolutionary pressures resetting the dynamic. Guess what happens when healthy family units aren't the staple of society? Gynocentrisim is self-defeating.

[@1Plebeian]

I'm looking forward to evolutionary pressures resetting the dynamic. Guess what happens when healthy family units aren't the staple of society? Gynocentrisim is self-defeating.

[@Hari983]

"Welcome to being a man" What a line! Even after I "been there, done that got the t-shirt".. the realization still struck me deep. Great video as always!

[@commonsense3921]

Yeah but…..Women brains don’t work like that.

[@esteban1487]

Martied at 28 for love and kids. She started cheating on me 10 years later while not working and me effectively financially subsidizing her behavior. Divorced her with a monster financial hit of course. Now 60, single, financially independent with peace of mind. Priceless.

[@walkonearthofficial]

This needs to go on national television

[@timgibney5590]

I have met so many women who fell out of love with their husbands not because he is a jerk or doesn't listen, but rather she got a promotion or lost weight after lap band surgury and she came home one day and looked at him and thought "Why am I with him? Is he really the best I can do?". He is gone at this point. I do not mean to sound msygonistic but it is like women are still wired like it is 1000 BC to have her husband do everything. What happened to being a team?

[@thebesttheworst2277]

Yip and that day can come out the blue even without a weight loss or a salary increase, at any given day. Best to just assume the Woman you are with is capable of anything at any given moment and live accordingly.

[@timgibney5590]

@@thebesttheworst2277 My exwife dated me after she got her teaching credential and bachelors and left her other husband because she didn't want to be dragged down by him as lower middle class. ... not before. The last gf I had dated me and dumped her exbf when she got the lap band and lost 175 pounds ... not before. I met one girl at Bumble which I fooled around with. She left her husband after she got a promotion to a VP and told me I can't be with a man still making 13.50/hr who is not at the same level. ... not before the promotion. I see a pattern if you ask me? The last girl I mentioned dumped me for a guy who owned his own company even though my salary was not that much different from hers because she deserved better. She even told me she makes plenty of dough to not have a man take care of her but she still left him and me because he had to out earn her. Oh and I had a flight tire on new years and she deamed me incompenent because my loaner tire is only good for 25 miles and didn't get that changing the tire is not a solution until a tire place was opened. Idiot.

[@mrguiltyfool]

Because females are constantly being fed they deserve better. Men are also waking and demanding better deals.

[@patrickhall6627]

I'd have to argue, we are ALL still wired like it's 1000 BC, metaphorically. And that perfectly explains why this experience is so difficult for women to go through. Men are programmed to want to provide and protect their family, as those behaviors gave them the best chance at securing mates and continuing their genetic line. Men feel personal fulfillment doing these things, for this reason. Women are not fulfilled in the same way doing those things, so it is much more challenging for them to do so. Western society in general, and feminism in particular, has been telling women they can have it all, they can be a girl boss, they can have kids whenever they are ready, and they will be able to find a partner that checks all their boxes. At best, this is a fantasy, and I think it's more accurate to say this is a lie. Men and women prefer certain qualities in each other for very good reason, gender roles evolved for very good reason, and pretending like those things aren't true isn't helping anyone, especially the future generations. I would also remind you that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. The loudest complaints are heard the most, but they are not necessarily representative of whole. There are lots of women out there (and men!) who very much see relationships as a team, and value loyalty and fidelity. They just aren't shouting it from the rooftops on social media, so it's not nearly as visible as say, 35-year-old women complaining they can't find a good man.

[@mrguiltyfool]

@@patrickhall6627 While a lot of women might still see relationship as teamwork, the legal framework is not really on the male side in general. She can on a flick of the switch changed her mind and you are screw due to the western legal framework

[@SS-jl2cx]

When I was in college, i had professors unsympathetically tell me "you should know the material. Change your major" despite my having to take care of sick family members. I had two women who were classmates that Im still friends with who also struggled with the material, the same professor gave them mentoring even though they were partying a lot.

[@thecurrentmoment]

That professor sounds like they had higher standards, and thus more respect, for you than for the girls, who he probably thought were less capable. Maybe. That's my I tuition on reading your comment. It's not the obvious answer but seems like it makes more sense (because I agree that what you described about the professors actions doesn't make a lot of sense)

[@Willie_Wahzoo]

There is no such thing as "equal." Whamin have ALWAYS been spoiled and privileged and they will ALWAYS want MORE privilege and complain about being "oppressed." There is nothing more two-faced, pathetic and lacking in integrity than a whamin.

[@lorrilewis2178]

Well, good for you for taking care of sick family members, but statistically that thankless task usually falls on women. And there's a study that shows more husbands leave their wives when they become seriously sick (cancer) than vice versa.

[@seancooper5140]

@@lorrilewis2178 Using unsourced unvalidated statistical claims on the internet to downplay the relevance of someone else's lived experience is an interesting choice. I can't say I see the merit, but maybe I missed something?

[@markaurelius61]

@@lorrilewis2178 I'm not sure those stats tell the whole story. I have heard that women will wait out the period of sickness till the man gets better, then divorce him, so they don't appear to be heartlessly abandoning the man in his time of need. The wife of the guy who does the Dad Starting Over podcast is a doctor, and when she was working in an oncology ward she noticed that the husbands of women with cancer were very solicitous, while the wives were less so, and seemed to be working out who to move on to when the man passed. Since women are hypergamous and look to a man for strength, a man who is sick and dying will lose most of his appeal.

[@moderndaymerchant]

Man finally reaches success: "Great, I can now provide for my woman and for my family." Woman finally reaches success: Why the f am I even with this guy? I don't need no man.

[@seeker4wisdom]

The good news is, there are still those of us who enter into relationships for companionship and building a family, not just because we "need" a man.

[@futureofmoney3527]

@@seeker4wisdomight? Only seeing a relationship from a purely selfish perspective is doomed to failure. Clearly, such a person doesn’t want children (after all, children don’t provide “value” 🙄). If someone is purely selfish, of course they should remain single and childless and advocate for themselves to live the most materially secure life possible via their own efforts.

[@Cyberpunker1088]

Women in that situation need men in the same way men in that situation need women. People will get lonely.

[@im1who84u]

@@seeker4wisdom "The good news is, there are still those of us who enter into relationships for companionship and building a family, not just because we "need" a man." From the man's point of view, even if he finds a woman like this and marries her. She could change on a dime and screw the hell out of him and don't mean in the bedroom... and he is helpless do anything about it or to stop it. He's into her with a mortgage and two kids which she will soon be taking all from him and using the kids as leverage to get everything else she wants from him and to get him to bend over and take it. Even if she doesn't do it.......... She can..... and what man wants to put himself into that position?

[@eQuariuz]

@@Cyberpunker1088 Women need the cooperation of men period. There would be no "successful" women if it weren't for the men keeping the economy, infrastructure..etc. going. Oddly enough, even OnlyFans "models" who get paid tons of money and have cars and homes still NEED men provide to these things, including keeping OnlyFans running so she can charge for pictures of her azz.

[@lesterdiamond6190]

I can’t believe how lucky I got in this racket. Married 35 years next month. We feel like these are the happiest days we’ve ever spent together. Clearly defined roles/partnership. It just works.

[@ze_kangz932]

U à lucky specimen, fella!

[@jasonolinger7585]

Then why are you on this channel? Just curious.

[@jamest2861]

Bet she's fat, bald with hairy legs. All you say is...yes dear! Lol.

[@Remianen]

In modern terms, 35 years ago, you bought a winning $50.4 billion dollar Powerball ticket and have been reaping the rewards ever since.

[@brianbachmeier34]

Good for you!

[@debayanghosh9228]

I think if all of us stopped thinking about what we get, and started to think what we can give being a partner in a relationship, problems will start solving themselves.

[@adamjuneau6287]

Oh, she"ll take it all, allright

[@thevisitor1012]

@@adamjuneau6287 Yep, and what she'll give back will be something superficial, like her "pretty face(which is basically a canvas for all sorts of cosmetics)"

[@Avogadros_number]

Not in our nature. You’re asking people to somehow shut off millions of years of evolution.

[@MN-wg7ul]

As a successful 6 figures income woman, I am just so grateful that I found love young. My husband and I have grown our empire together through our own careers (with him at the helm). Mine has taken a back seat to my role as mother though. This did not alter the course of my success, just changed how fast I got there. Ladies remember the tortoise beat the hare in the race. My advice to ladies is first, never put career success above your families success. No amount of money or fame will make up for the loss of your family. Second, and this is really important pick a man you can trust to be a good "old fashion man". Men are great when they are in their masculine energy and women are great when they are in their feminine energy That doesn't mean a girl has to be uneducated or give up on a career. Just keep your priorities straight. As women we do not have to try to be men in order to be happy. We do not have to compete with our boyfriends or husbands. Third, take advice from older women who have the life you want. Maybe your grandma or great-grandma. They are wiser than you and they probably have been more successful than you in finding and keeping love.

[@ze_kangz932]

Great advice madam. We the manosphere approve!

[@gladiatiger8978]

unfortunately i think many of the so called "boss babes" will take your advice and label it as "misogyny"

[@ArmyWolves]

" Take advice *from the women who have the life that you want* " 🔺💯

[@sergeykruglikov6059]

❤

[@dumbphonemom]

This has to be the best advice of the topic I’ve ever read. I’m someone with a high paid career as background, but have paused it for motherhood, yet I haven’t been completely disconnected from the career world and my husband and I are building our little empire together. Our family has the best of both worlds.

[@ACruz-kq9di]

“Being the higher status person in the relationship is very expensive. While women traditionally have been trying to secure the best deal, men have resigned themselves to minimizing loss’

[@letsjava]

"the juice isn't worth the squeeze" DAMN! That is ringing in my ears ... could be applied to a lot of situations. Thank you for the video 😄

[@joncarbone]

You're killin it lately. Very well said.

[@TheChowTimePod]

Love your content Doc... I will keep making videos of these amazing lessons and supporting you! hope my supporters been supporting you!

[@booneguy]

Indeed, as someone who makes six figures but I still do feel like I'm an average guy, I was sooooo tremendously happy to part my ways with my ex who had no respect for me who have had permission to share my resources. Now, I'm the happiest man on Earth with a traditional woman.

[@gnarfgnarf4004]

Happily married 37 years to an attractive, affectionate, intelligent and educated woman. Our secret? I was her first...

[@jamesclab1]

Excellent!!!

[@Dacrada]

Women: "We have standards, preferences and deal-breaker terms in mates." Men: "Cool. Good luck finding a guy." Men: "We have standards, preferences and deal-breaker terms in mates." Women: "That's sexist and misogynist, and mean." ?

[@shawnhampshirehick101]

An issue that women created for themselves.

[@fromgermany271]

@@shawnhampshirehick101 is that news?

[@arewestilldoingphrasing6490]

You forgot to add Women: Men and women should be treated equal

[@Outlier999]

@@arewestilldoingphrasing6490 Women: Unless we can be treated better.

[@tanfrederika2123]

This is actually funny but true.. Im insecure about being a single mom.. Because guy standarts in dating is like i text.. you meet me..we have sex. Then im gone.. Maybe im not good enough for men standarts hehe cos I cant take those one night offer

[@MartialistKS]

Wow, great insight. I used to watch Kevin Samuels listen to women list off all their accolades and wish he would reply "Sounds like you'd make a great husband" but I never fully put together that women were complaining about being in men's traditional role in such an overt way as you explained here.

[@marcusmcgraw3519]

It’s cuz most men are cucks and allow it to happen. This generation fucking sucks so bad. They ruined the damn world and now we have to live in it

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Some women are just not 50 year marriage material and will divorce regardless. The wives of billionaires (Elon Musk, Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos), the wives of Chads (Tom Brady, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp), the wives of funny men (Chris Rock, Robin Williams, Russell Peters) find a reason to divorce their husbands even if they themselves bring nothing to the table.

[@boyantrifonov]

Before there was a fair value exchange. The man is a protector and provider and equal or higher status than the female. The female was an EXCLUSIVE sexual partner, a MOTHER and a HOME MAKER. The man and the woman TOGETHER were a family. Now a lot of women "Don't need no man" and a lot of men are responding that they "Don't need no relationship"

[@EmeliaSings]

men got more out of it a 100 years ago because women didn't work and did stay all day at home, with the kids, making sure everything at home is looking good. while he had a fulltime job, she had a 24/7 job. the problem today, a lot of women still do more of the housework, and have a higher mental load, in relationships with a man. as soon as a man moves in with a woman, a lot of men (not all) expect for probably different reasons, but that the woman does more at home. because "she cares more", "she's better at it" "i don't care or know how to do the things she does". so I would say. that is what a man gets, often regardless of her "value" in society, regardless of how highly educated and great job she has. she is working the same hours as the men, but does more at home. it then makes sense why women ask what do I get out of that situation? another kid that just complains when I ask him to do simple things around the house? When what she wants is a partner that treats their home as his responsibility as well. not just "him helping her out around the house". It is his house as well. they share the responsibility. just had to get that off my chest.

[@NelsonGuedes]

Btw, all of society pretty much reinforces this. When I got together with my wife a bunch of people pressured her to break up with me because she was "way out of my league". Society hasn't been kind to us.

[@docsavage8640]

Push men out of the workplace, then complain how hard it is to find a man who makes more money than you. Smart.

[@normangoldstuck8107]

AI will soon do most of their jobs but I don't see it cleaning sewers and unblocking drains and making things -at least not in the immediate future.

[@cobrakaiisback4709]

​@@normangoldstuck8107robots doing that will still need raw materials. My guess is eventually within 10 years the shat will hit the fan.

[@LisaCulton]

Nobody's pushing anyone out of the workplace. There are vacancies all over the world in high-paying jobs requiring skills and expertise. The question is: what sort of skills and expertise do you have?

[@masterblaster1502]

Men are also being removed from higher education. No fee male wants a blue collar man, even if he makes 150k a year. Oh well, the west brought this buffoonery on themselves.

[@sergiom9958]

@@LisaCulton no men on Earth ask to receive high paying jobs just because they are men. And if you are gonna answer that women were banned from voting or working without their fathers/husbands approval for many years I will answer with: “how many decades have passed since that?” And you could continue with: “but some “experts” see some gender differences in mean-median salaries or sex ratios in certain jobs”. And I would argue that is due to biological preferences and you would argue that they are social constructs… etc. and we would reach no conclusion

[@gregdroid1969]

Great video. Such truth. I have a 16 year old son and 13 year old daughter. I have told them both, times are exactly the opposite of what they have been for centuries... So... daughter, get ready to go out there and compete against all these high achieving women. Son, workout, be hot and find yourself a rich woman to marry. Good luck.😅

[@jlecampana]

Do you really tell them that?? That’s being realistic, and hilarious 😂 😂

[@lightworker2956]

The son probably isn't going to find a rich woman to marry, unless he's high status or very hot or something. Just because women have the wealth, doesn't mean they'll date down. They'll just all chase after the incredibly small group of top guys, and cope with their loneliness via wine and cats.

[@benscampers1818]

I know you were joking but a better message would be to preserve your value to your daughter and create value to your son.

[@throwacnt7603]

@Greg Samurovich No, no, no, tell your son to get rich as well. Seriously, selection for women is based on height and wealth. If your son is underperforming in height consider asking a doctor if growth hormone therapy could help. Women are turning down men under 6'2'' (not even 6'). Look at "The Economist" article from March of this year. Seriously do NOT slack on height and wealth. Redpill/Blackpill are wrong when it comes to facial looks, they place too much value on it. They are right when it comes to height though. Get your son to get Wealthy / Tall > Fit (under 20% body fat) in that order. Even good looking men are getting scraps on dating apps, the ones who aren't are the tall/wealthy. Good luck to your progeny! And even if he isn't good looking the only way he can change that is through surgery if he is desperate enough and surgery costs money and time.

[@throwacnt7603]

​@@lightworker2956 Exactly. There's a study showing which wage brackets of women vs men pick of the opposing sex. What happens is NOT that women pick hot guys, is that the wealthy women become EVEN MORE voracious for the top earning men. So everyone wants wealthy men but the ones who want them EVEN MORE are WEALTHY women.

[@SukhoiGC]

Well said! Perfectly encompasses the struggles of modern dating, especially for men. Being in IT, I don't see the benefit of courting chicks that see me as a bank.

[@tomaszsosnowski9279]

You can fake being poor or in debt.

[@brianmeen2158]

Tbh modern dating isn’t great for women either. The ones I talk to don’t seem to like the current dating landscape

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Not just a bank/financial security, they also see you as a way to make cute babies who they will get custody of (but you get to pay for them and her via child support).

[@M0viLover]

@@tomaszsosnowski9279 Yup. My cars are 2008 and 2004, and both paid for over a decade ago.

[@brianperry4815]

@Brien Meen Boo hoo they created the modern dating culture just like the mee too movement and believe all women. They are reaping what they have sowed over the decades. Maybe in 50 years or so when we Men are appreciated and alot less humans are here then things may reset by I'm not optimistic about it.

[@NelsonGuedes]

The problem isn't even the real value, it's the perceived value. A lot of men are perceived to be far less valuable than we are because the measures of value are largely superficial and cultural. For example, why is a taller man more valuable than a shorter man? What difference does that really make? Even with money, if you actually care about the person, the REAL person, with their thoughts, their feelings, and the experiences you have with them, then who cares they earn less money than you!? Women just often value the wrong shit, then complain they ended up with an asshole and divorce them.

[@NelsonGuedes]

LOL! Yeah... the other side of the patriarchy...

[@rue883]

After a divorce many years ago, and before it was a thing, I solved the problem by getting my passport. 16 years and 2 girls later, my wife and I are very happy. My wife has 2 degrees and speaks English + 4 dialects. I take care of the big heavy rocks outside the home, she deals with the piles of pebble inside the home. Best decision of my life. I would recommend it to any man.

[@nico3641]

What country are you talking about. I’m asking for a friend.

[@ArmyWolves]

Passport -Bros- *Kings* finding true companionship and happiness really warms my heart. 💯

[@sleepyzano]

Women’s innate solipsism prevents them from seeing the issue and understanding men

[@RitaMcCloud]

Once it's seen and understood it can never be unseen. I had a fight with mom today. The only solution is don't show any emotion that causes her stress.

[@TJ_Travels1]

I think it’s the way many are socialised

[@RitaMcCloud]

@@TJ_Travels1 it has to do with the mother and father and what they NOT telling the daughter

[@TJ_Travels1]

@@RitaMcCloud and how the mother publicly treats him in front of her as well as how she talks about him behind his back

[@RitaMcCloud]

@@TJ_Travels1 my parents are nothing but ashamed of me and my life. Mom probably avoids talking about me at all costs. My dad tells everytime we talk that he talks to psychologists about me and he tells me that they say to him don't talk to your son, it's not good for you. Isn't having thought police disguised as the mental industry perfect cover?

[@ln5466]

I find it so weird women are still seen as the "prize" in most relationships

[@LisaCulton]

We are the prize, though. That's why there's so many videos like this.

[@ready2]

@@LisaCulton Not really. These vids are for men most of you deem not good enough. The ones "high value" do not need these and they are the prize most women go for (and end up getting used by). It is pretty simple: the scarcer is the prize. Which is more rare? A good looking woman or a man who is: tall, handsome, has style, has confidence, has success, has money, has ambition, is intelligent, is adventurous, is fun, is charming, in good shape and the myriad of other attributes women come up with? Don't delude yourself: you are not the prize, that is the high value men you all go for.

[@LisaCulton]

@@ready2 These videos are for "better living through Psychology". The creator of the videos says it himself. Women have been the prize throughout history and nothing has changed about that. The only thing different in the past 50 years or so is that the prize can decide who wins and gets to go home with it. 😂 Good looking available women are extremely rare.

[@ready2]

@@LisaCulton That would only be true if modern women would be capable of lowering their ridiculous standards and go with the average Joe. Until then they will have to be content with sharing those rare men. Good looking women are a hell of a lot more common than men with all the traits I mentioned. Women only have their looks and that fades away with age. All the crap modern women do that they think matter to men? Men with options (precisely the ones women are after) don't give a damn about those. As long as women's standards are so much higher than men's they will artificially create scarcity of men and thus ultimately making them the prize. Simple as that.

[@JoseDiaz-rd9fh]

Because of the pathetic thirst of far too many men. Many of us have been there putting up with drama and toxic behaviour from a woman who was a raging bitch bought a total smokeshow so we put up it. Of course this never ends well but dick thinking rarely does end well

[@camilob1881]

The analagy you give isnt really the whole story. Its different for women who are leaders in relationship. Because they are forced to wear that hat IN ADDITION TO providing the emotional support. Emotional support isnt something men can bring to the table, regardless if man is low value or high value.

[@rome6872]

06:15 😂

[@immortaljanus]

Well spoken. This is recurring problem of mine. As a more cerebral male, physical beauty is often not enough to get me interested in a woman. If I notice she has no intellectual ability, I will more than likely lose interest, no matter how intrigued she might be. Sure, I can have a one night stand with them, but that is boring by now (I'm no longer in my 20s). Naturally I look for more intellectual women. Trouble is, they are focused on their careers, believing "there will be a time for a family later". Hate to break it to you, ladies, but biology doesn't care about career choices and I'm not sticking around to find out. If your answer is "No" now, it will also be my answer 10 years from now.

[@ericlarousse1149]

Same. I find women so boring and banal.

[@kimberlyb6522]

@@ericlarousse1149 go date a man then. Problem solved 😁

[@ampa4989]

I hate to break it to ya, but women always are ready to settle down with the right man. If she says no, it's because she thinks something better might come along.

[@canelareina3795]

This sounds like a mix of a 1.cope 2.male-feminist, humble-brag 3. virtue signal "One-night stands with beautiful women bore me. I want a woman so we can TALK about deep issues. I can't find a woman intelectual enough to talk to." 💀

[@immortaljanus]

@@canelareina3795 That's exactly what a normie would say.

[@theman2017inc]

This probably the first non “red pill” platform that’s touched upon MGTOW Men Going Their Own Way scenario from a psychological perspective Many thanks for sharing, sir

[@chrishaywood]

We must protect this man at all costs

[@stephanledford9792]

A segment of women will end up "settling" with a "lower value" man, and the problem with this is that they will resent this man, essentially "blame" him for the situation. Also, if a "higher value" man shows her some attention, then she is more vulnerable to having an affair or end up leaving her spouse.

[@liamqueen5471]

Then in turn women these days even if they work a low income job consider most men in the median income range say 60-80 thousand aren't good enough for them or they will entertain them if they can be selfish with what they have as well

[@kylemitchell3154]

This channel is really good. Everything he says is well thought out and I enjoy his perspective.

[@kaizenexcellens]

Great video, thank you. Usually the man, if a decent human, not only looks at the love aspect of the relationship which INCLUDES feelings, but is likely to consider the DUTY that comes from a committed relationship. Alas, it appears the world has gone mad.

[@new_game2589]

It's also frustrating how so many only perceive value based on material possessions, bank accounts and status. As someone who values self sufficiency and loves learning yet doesn't want to grind myself to a paste climbing a corporate ladder I've spent years learning trades and how to build, repair and maintain just about anything I need and troubleshoot problems as they arise. Some things can't be solved by simply throwing money at it, and it's harder to quantify money and time saved vs earned. Currently learning to be a better cook too, it's fun, cheaper and definitely healthier. Sadly, I'm usually invisible until my skills are needed.

[@spikeprotien9023]

Blue collar skills are very underrated! An office worker will scream when a mechanic charges to fix a wheel bearing, why don't they do it themselves?

[@mynameisjeff9560]

A week ago I had an argument with my girlfriend of 3 months, or maybe she is ex girlfriend now, we have a pause or something. She said that my life is monotonous and that it is one of the reasons she is not attracted to me anymore. I can cook, work with wood, I can repair electrical stuff, build computers, I know farming, I do sports. But she felt like that is monotonous because most of the time I don't need to do all this stuff and instead I work at MY OWN company and also play volleyball. She only saw that I do those two things. I even repaired electricity ar her house and she wasn't impressed by it. Her mother loved it though 😅 She is also still a student without a car license and mostly works student jobs like hostess work or coloring her hair for hair dye testing. My life looks boring to her because she is doing a different job every week and has time to do other stuff meanwhile I have responsibility of keeping a good buisness at my woodworking company. I can't understand her. Apparently we meet again in a week for a concert that we wanted to go at before the argument.

[@new_game2589]

@@mynameisjeff9560 I feel for you man, been through similar experiences. I think when they're younger they equate stability = boring. They haven't had enough life happen to them to know just how precious stability is, and get their ideas based on their single friends and social media highlight reels. Flash over substance.

[@mynameisjeff9560]

@@new_game2589 yeah she is 21 and I'm 25. She is not a spoiled girl by any means though. Always paid for herself wherever we went, even on the first date. I never felt like she was expecting me to pay for her even though I make more money. She even helped me at my company a few times when she wasn't able to get her own work. But I can see that she always wants to do things and go somewhere and my work doesn't allow me to just leave for 2 weeks and go on holiday. Maybe once a year. I'll see how it will go next saturday. How she will feel about us

[@MrMatthewhg]

@@mynameisjeff9560 I would suggest you start seeing other people!

[@alexnordh]

Assuming we actually give a shit about women.

[@dominiknewfolder2196]

Those complaining women have contempt towards weakness. Its that simple. Thats why they cannot handle weaker men in relationship. It's major element of female part of culture behind which there is hugh level of cruelty. I know this dynamic of relationship feom reading about pre-revolutionary Russia. The same situation. Moms showing their daughters how their weak dads are worthless. Isn't it major part of feminism. "Men are in reality weaker than women" said with contemptuous flavor? Its all about emotional signaling behind this sentence. I told my former wife that she sacrificed all what was valuable for me in pursuit of carrier. It her choice but please go away. 🙂 Good for her. Go girl. But also go away girl.

[@AdrienMelody]

I know I’m not a high-value man yet, so I don’t even bother with dating. I used to hate being alone, but I don’t mind it much anymore. I’m content to work on myself and my career prospects during the rest of my 20s. However, after I’ve put in the work and made myself someone who’s actually attractive, I don’t have any intention of settling down for a long-term relationship-at least, not for a long time. I just don’t see any advantage to it. If I’m unwanted while I’m at the bottom of the hierarchy, why would I stoop to being someone’s provider for the rest of my life after doing all the work? It would be one thing if I was working up the hierarchy WITH someone, in a partnership of sorts. When I was a teenager, that’s what I wanted-to find a genuine life partner; to build a life WITH someone, and not just FOR them. But young women don’t seem interested in that. And why should they be? I know they have better options. It kinda takes all the romance out of relationships, though. My childhood self would be mortified if he’d known I’d eventually come to this conclusion.

[@brianmeen2158]

It’s a super power to learn how to enjoy sitting in a room Alone! Very few people will ever learn this

[@holo406]

Exactly bro. Im in my late 30s and still experiencing this same challenge. There arent women who want to be with US and to climb together the hurdless of life together WITH us. And even less for men who don't feel to have childrean, I just want a loving partner as I can be to a woman. I battle between the loneliness of not being loved and chosen and the peace and freedom of not being with the wrong woman

[@celaeno919]

No such thing as "romance" except as a pie in the sky beta male fantasy. No woman is looking for "romance." It's fairytale nonsense.

[@laraschoff]

Marriage used to be seen as a cornerstone of life, now it is seen as a capstone.

[@sameerpandya1947]

Yup. If she didn't want you in her prime, don't take her in her decline. Good luck brother.

[@dserebrennikov]

That "no shit" remark was right to the point 😂😂😂

[@lfisher4539]

Yea loved the realness of that

[@Zayelion]

Matches my experience for women making under a certain amount per year and under about 28. Above that, it gets more complex because if she is making it even if the man provides a lifestyle uptick, the emotional burden and increased chores does not offset it. Sex, better food, nicer car, nicer home, it doesn't offset less alone time, less autonomy, the physicality of pregnancy, lost of income from pregnancy, child rearing expenses, etc. She basically is always interacting with someone unless she is sleeping. The value of peace is immense.

[@private-private]

agreed. Peace is simply too valuable to men.

[@johnsnow6098]

Offset what?

[@andyrwebman]

" it doesn't offset less alone time, less autonomy, the physicality of pregnancy, lost of income from pregnancy, child rearing expenses, etc" Correct me if I'm wrong, but most of these are all things that women WANT rather than dread - at least up to a certain point. Less alone time - if you don't want less alone time, you shouldn't be in a relationship at all. You should instead be blissfully single. Pregnancy - this is seldom a case of "I didn't want to be a mum but it was necessary so I could be in a relationship". If you really don't want kids, there are plenty of like minded men. Child rearing expenses - again, given the previous statement this would apply anyway to any woman who wants children. They don't grow larger just because you have a partner - actually, they're larger for a single mum putting children in a nursery. These should not be thought of as "the price of being with a man" - rather, these are the motivations that make women (and men) make an effort to have a relationship in the first place.

[@brianmeen2158]

I’ve always said to most men in serious relationship if it’s really worth the immense amount of effort to keep her happy? I see in most cases it’s not even close to being worth it because the effort/reward ratio is so lopsided in favor of effort .. most men need female validation though - the thought of being a bachelor just doesn’t sit well with them

[@fromgermany271]

I am divorced 2 times, 1st when she finally had paid her debt and 2nd when the house she now lives in was fully payed. I‘m not done with women, but the future ones will gave to blame some of my boundaries to their predecessors.

[@azenkwed]

7:01 Do you seriously believe that women are capable of introspection?

[@Toyos-yk3ri]

Ironically Most men are actually turned off by “power women” and women are turned on by power men.

[@stevemamooshka3425]

THANK YOU ! It's a problem I've heard several women mention, and I never had any idea what to tell them. But once you "Flip the Script", it becomes 100% obvious. Thanks again !

[@j.k5654]

Saying women are selfish without saying women are selfish 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Great Video Dr.

[@jhylton4274]

This man is a lawyer

[@ze_kangz932]

​@@jhylton4274 A doctor could be a mathematician or physicist. It is an honorary title.

[@rayrwyr]

In 10 years, men will prefer AI-powered robot girlfriends.

[@shawnhampshirehick101]

I tell people this all the time. An eternal 22 year old Asain that has the Best option. A on/OFF button. She can be customized, the 😽 can be Replaced in some models. Women have made themselves "unavailable" and in the near future obsolete. When animatronic woman are available in mass production & available for $10,000$ then it's Game on.

[@lightworker2956]

Well, if you're a 10/10 guy, you'll probably still want a real girlfriend. Because if you're a 10/10, she probably does want to sleep with you all the time, and she probably is kind and feminine and pleasant to be around. Or at least, you can pick a woman who is. It's more like the 7/10 and lower guys, with whom women aren't completely happy and so they withhold sex or they nag. It's those kind of guys who may go for the AI girlfriend.

[@MrMatthewhg]

@@lightworker2956 Nobody stays 10/10 for very long. Man or woman.

[@godleveleldritchblast5257]

Most modern women aren't high value women. I've met some high value women and they are actually the opposite of modern women and the reason I've come to is that when a woman's value goes down she instinctively knows it and so will lash out at potentially long term partners due to her wanting to restore her value and so she becomes hyper selective in order to find a man that will restore her value. So most modern women are in fact well aware of their value and so lash out as a way of trying to retake control. I call it's nature's fail safe. Basically if nature wanted women to go out and do things that would damage their value she would have given them systems that allowed that without damaging themselves. Remember lads, if you woman is hyper disrespectful and only cares about herself, she is low value not high value.

[@joenemeth9606]

I don't want "MODERN WOMEN" to have anything and I am delighted to hear their problems. I SAVOR their tears like sake.

[@fatbastard51]

women can embrace masculine roles, but for a man to embrace a feminine role they get called a loser. exception being the culture of dating.

[@AliMacAzz]

@Carl women who take on masculine characteristics are rarely attractive & rarely make good partners….the feminine virtues (among women) have fallen out of favor….but this makes it easy for many men to stay single & stay sane.

[@rednebula2233]

Great video. I would like to see the women’s faces when he says “Welcome to being a man.”

[@dwightbrown]

I'm glad these concepts are finally breaking out into the mainstream. We've been inculcated with the 'happy wife, happy life' ism for decades. Men are finally waking up and the women are a bit lost at what is actually happening. The jig is up ladies.

[@chrisgodfrey6742]

It needs to get out there more

[@supremereader7614]

That was an incredible video, if the relationship doesn't seem worth it we might not want to do it what a wild concept, especially when as you pointed out in another video, most women have the ability to psychologically "mop the floor with most men." Thanks. 🙏

[@conte1989]

First time I pay for a super thanks. You put the situation so clear that made it simple to understand my whole last realtionship. Thank you much for the videos!

[@Mariashahid17]

Guys, while I agree and see the merit in this point of view to a large extent. What I seem to get from the comments section here is many men who require therapy for their bad experiences. You gave and gave that’s your damn mistake. You have to take ownership of your part of the relationship, instead of just ranting on women. I have to say that this explanation is missing some nuances- for example while in this explanation the woman will be shorter, earning less than a man etc - she provides value in terms of sex, emotional comfort which is of value to many men and in fact for human survival and feeling connection. Which is something men need to get so they don’t become depressed and have human contact. I think we all know that men are more likely to die of depression,suicide , loneliness world because they don’t have strong social networks etc in comparison to women. Women are not evil nor are men. We are complex and different to each other, both have our traumas and limitations as a gender.

[@AstonMartinStig]

Thanks for the hard work, doc. Your vids has helped me view things in a different and more logical way.

[@markadams9946]

You have made my day! One of those rare moments in recent memory where I feel vindicated and empowered as a man. Thank you! I don't wish unhappiness on anyone and I love women. But for too long our society has dumped on men and raised up women.

[@markadams9946]

I've had friends with young daughters who have told me that their is a high percentage that identify as bisexual. They said that it's considered the cool thing to do. I guess that's one way to get around the hypergamy problem.

[@garcher2]

@@markadams9946 Unfortunately the rate of domestic violence among women partners is higher than heterosexual partners. They also divorce more frequently than married heterosexual couples. And most interesting, married gay men have a lower rate of divorce than all other gendered paired couples.

[@vecter]

Your problem is that you care about your feelings… or that you need vindication at all. Masculine men develop and internal locus of control. They do not rely on others for validation

[@philliplockhart5853]

With great power comes great responsibility.

[@gustavomiranda5954]

I loved this one!!! woman welcome to the world of men..hohohoho. I do think i was really lucky that I married when I was in early 30´s, I would be in big trouble in this world of today. Good luck to all that are on this dating battleground.

[@GLDn1]

Without a higher abstract, there is only transactional narcissism. Putting the team first is becoming a lost concept.

[@shawncross9582]

You articulated this perfectly. As a 55yo lifelong bachelor with a doctorate who retired early to travel. I can say this was always my take on 99% of relationships. I like women and I’ve always done ok in that Department. Nevertheless, I knew I could go further and faster without a relationship to shoulder . I have been lonely at times for sure but I always recovered faster and resumed the grind earlier without negotiating the whims of a significant other. Now, that I will soon be ready to settle down, it Will likely include a nurturing and appreciative women that can compliment the stage of my life or nothing. This video should be required viewing for all women of all ages!

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Guys in terrible marriages are lonely as are divorced guys who just see their kids every other weekend or who barely see their teenage kids as they are too busy or have been turned against the father. I think being alone is actually quite common regardless of relationship status.

[@SEVENTHREEANDNINE]

As a woman I absolutely agree. I have gone further and become more successful without a man’s shenanigans and energy drain. Depends on the guy for sure. But men aren’t really showing up as the men of my Dads era. That’s for sure!

[@markaurelius61]

@@SEVENTHREEANDNINE I think the men are responding to changes in women.

[@davidehl323]

Don't do it. You marry now and she'll clean out your retirement money.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

@@davidehl323 It is great to hear that very slowly, more and more guys are finally realizing the juice isn't worth the squeeze, and that marriage is a horrifically biased and one-sided contract that rewards one party while financially ruining the other party.

[@RPMentorTokyoChannel]

This is what I wrote about in the “Where Have All the Good Men Gone?” Hypothesis, and in considering how discontent women can become when they don’t receive the most benefits, it is better for them to remain single. Otherwise, she’ll likely make the man’s life miserable.

[@mark9294]

Yep. Been there, she really did make my life miserable.

[@OthelloBlaq]

😲.... "And then the lights turned on." As a younger man I never really thought about this. As an older man, I get to see things take shape and realize these are all the changes everyone around me were referring that they wanted at the time. Now that I see them in real time they are beginning to understand they were unprepared, and the "side effects" of those changes will also need time to adjust to. To be honest, these issues are above my literal "pay grade". I take small lesson that apply and try to behave in a way that is conducive to my lifestyle, but most of theses are problems of the wealthy. The rest of us are sharing a limited wealth and an abundance of social/relational anxiety that keeps us stuck. (Common Man shit.) These status games are another level. However watching women come to the same conclusion as we did is more than a little hilarious! 😂 Thanks Doc. Keep up the excellent job. 🍻

[@robertbrandywine]

One thing he leaves out of the equation is the fact that men are more domineering than women, in general. So when a man is higher value than a woman he gets to be in charge. But a higher value woman will also have to put up with a man who wants to dominate *her*.

[@jamesreeve7]

Thanks!

[@chiriviscospower]

The women in my life were always the biggest jerks and opportunistic as heck. The most ruthless family members were my mother sister and handful of aunts 😂😂 I have low upside expectations when dealing with the opposite sector.

[@lightworker2956]

Yep. I've gotten more support from the men in my life, while the women in my life were often the "deal with it" / "man up" types.

[@bluebutterfly5062]

I think this video is a great example of why empathy is so important. We need to value both men and women for what they can uniquely provide to each other. If we deem one "lesser" than the other, we are just asking for resentment and her surprised when things change

[@256shadesofgrey]

>women feeling empathy for men That is wishful thinking. Women are incapable of that.

[@brianmeen2158]

Agree but I do struggle with the recent desire to smash gender roles. It’s really messing up modern dating dynamics

[@bluebutterfly5062]

@@brianmeen2158 the changing of gender roles are related to all the other changes in society. The greater reliance on technology and living in bustling cities inevitably changes up dynamics in our social lives as well.

[@GermanTaffer]

I can't agree even more. But humans have vast, vast empathy holes, and don't wonder about it. Some examples. The Christians, who read the bible, and gave those bibles to slaves thinking of themself, they are good people. Talking to a feminist about self-destruction rate of men, seeing their very predictable reaction, while they are thinking for themself , they wanna get equality regarding both sexes. And finally what people are thinking about, if they should remember about most terrible times in history. I bet almost no-one is thinking about the Belgians in the Kongo then.

[@yourgooglemeister6745]

We found the simp!

[@EllaChinois]

Recently I came across a Chinese expression 队友 (which is used when someone is addressing their partner in a casual occasion) . It can be translated in English as "Teammate". My idea of dating or marriage is...you find someone who can make you a better person and you partner for life. Life can be quite tiring when you are single and you are trying you best to date up...then you keep looking down on everybody and complain the dating pool is too small...Life is too short. Meet a good one and partner with them. If that person earns less than you, live with it.

[@brunobasil6864]

Easier said than done.

[@schlauspieler1991]

Well,either we agree to settle with a lower-value woman than us, or we ll have to live with the idea that there is a taller ,stronger ,smarter or higher earning woman than me and that is hurting your ego and masculinity much more than being with a lower-value woman.

[@ivonneramirez9013]

It is disappointing that you failed to mention the obvious. That, yes, historically men provided the responsibility and the resources to the relationship with women “and in exchange women provided the submission, the child bearing and raising, the keeping of the home, and nurtured the family and social relationships,” no inferior task whatsoever. Today in a reversal of roles, the problem is that men are not adapting to make a comparable contribution as women did in the past. And they did it with dignity, pride and joy. They made do given the circumstances.

[@philsmith7398]

You should go on tour as a stand-up with these observations! Just brilliant! I'm going to start taking notes for future convos with women 🤣

[@castiel4746]

60% of men never reproduced while 80% of women did, men are used to be alone and die alone, on the other hand women dont, for men being along is not "optimal" but is "ok" for women being alone is completely misery, that's why women are nowadays more unhappy on average than men;therefore women have more to lose than men in the current situation.

[@joyandpeacefullaughter5307]

You lie. Many women choose to have babies outside wedlock and share a higher value male while the lower values ones will die out

[@ashok.vardhan.g]

There is a price for success. Let them pay it with their loneliness.

[@lorrilewis2178]

Pure baloney. Many many many women have zero problems being alone. We have more friends on average.

[@lightworker2956]

@@lorrilewis2178 Being a single woman in your 20s and 30s is pretty fun. But being a single woman in your 40s isn't for most women. Let alone being single in your 50s. Or 60s. Or 70s. The average woman may say that she's fine with that, but then the average woman is either lying or not realizing what life is like as a 60-something single childless woman. I don't deny that there's a couple of women who probably will be genuinely happy at 60 without a partner or kids. But that's not the average woman. Meanwhile a married woman in her 60s may very well be happily looking after her grandchildren.

[@lorrilewis2178]

@@lightworker2956 Why do you think a 60-year-old woman can't have fun in life? That's really weird.

[@rickhewitt1417]

Hey Doc, you had me laughing out loud,remember hope can be a dangerous thing.

[@daveshore8671]

So this is another red pill complaint channel ???

[@cosmicprison9819]

If feminism would actually spark an increase in female empathy towards men, via the detour of the girlboss leading to a collective perspective change, as you propose here, that would be one hell of a plot twist. 😅 But so far, I wouldn’t hold my breath.

[@alexp7274]

Pure gold. Well reasoned and rationally articulated. Modern w0men need to wake up to the realities of what it actually means to be a high status man, and the reason most of us now feel that the juice is simply not worth the squeeze with what we're getting in return. And as for w0men's reaction to now being faced with what men have had to deal with by being expected to hand over their resources, and saying "I prefer not to", the perfect response at 6:15: "Well, no s***"

[@user-dj4fd5vc6c]

Darwin is gonna do a number on this generation.

[@cosmicprison9819]

If a man asks “What the f*ck am I getting out of this situation?”, he’s already answered his own question: The f*ck. 😂

[@spocktiberius2456]

It seems like more and more women are seeking to embody what many consider to be traditional male characteristics. This is having a negative impact on relationships as men are becoming increasingly irritated with this situation because men rarely want to date women who behave like men but rather prefer women who behave more like traditional women.

[@Promet17]

"Welcome to being a man" was brilliant. Anyway, I think you've done a good job explaining reality to modern women. I wonder how many will still deny reality, though. 03:40 "if you're liking what you're hearing" I can bet most women hate it 😂

[@jeremyayala2947]

It doesn't matter if statistically a high status girl would have to settle with a lower status man. They can still get sex and intimacy from a high value man, but without the long term emotional investment you get from a relationship. Vs as a low status man? Crickets 24/7, there's a reason why women are outperforming men in academics and earning higher wages. You have an entire societal message of women being able to voice their disdain for men and being praised for it. Then you add in all the body positivity movement that being overweight is good and you shouldn't be ashamed for it but praised for being comfortable in your skin. While for men the standards have never changed, it's always been lean muscular men has been seen as attractive and no such thing as body positivity for men will ever come to light in our society. Not to mention if a man ever voices their grievances with the opposite sex or dating, they're labeled as an incel/misogynist. So you have men that need to continue to bottle up their emotions and have society treat them like trash while they have raging hormones craving sex/intimacy but never getting it, which in itself turns a negative loop, as you deem yourself undesirable to the opposite sex. It's no wonder men are doing awful in today's modern world.

[@joyandpeacefullaughter5307]

So you think if someone like Jay Z was a woman he would have gotten with a man as handsome as beyonce even if he was just a college graduate with a job paying $150k? Never ever possible. A man as handsome with such career prospects and income, except he is a shameless gold digger will never sleep with a woman as ugly as Jay z or marry. We see it till today how a man born with nothing exceptional can save himself and his lineage if he works hard or gets status and he can get a very beautiful and well educated while looking like spoilt milk (the owner of bar stool being another example) but for women if you are born ugly your financial success only guarantees you won't die of hunger. You are still shamed for being too successful and your success is seen as something shameful. Plus, No one will help you climb the ladder like they help beautiful women. An ugly woman is the bottom of the barrel.

[@markadams9946]

So true. A man's self-esteem is tied to his sexual success. Even if it's only once. Whats worse is society constantly talking about women's promiscuity and sexual freedom. It gives a young man the false impression that if he's not having sex he's a loser. I've contemplated the idea of the legalization of prostitution. Would that help young sexless men whose hormones are raging? It's a complex question.

[@MrMatthewhg]

@@markadams9946 Prostitution is legal. Soliciting is not.

[@Volkbrecht]

@@markadams9946 I live in a country where prostitution is legal, has always been. But even so, there is a social stigma attached to it, and a few solid reasons for that: - it is considered dirty, which is plausible (and which in turn leads to whores being seen as second class human beings) - it is expensive, so an average earning man whoring regularly will lack the money to impress - you are expected to achieve your sex via "honest competition" on the dating market, paying for it makes you a bit of a loser. Prostitution also has the problem that the kind of women you would want to sleep with tend to have a lot better alternatives in life than offering sex for cash. They could at least offer it for a commitment from a man who can support them. So in order to satisfy the market, you will always need a fair share of relatively unattractive women, as well the modern equivalent of slaves, meaning poor, often foreign girls who are kind of stuck in the situation (for all kinds of reasons, like being illegal, or not having an education or whatever else it would take them to quit and find a regular job). So, no, prostitution is not a solution, or if it is, it apparently does not work for the majority of men.

[@markadams9946]

@@Volkbrecht thank you for sharing that perspective! Interesting. I’m not an advocate, but it sounds very similar to the situation we have where it is illegal. The difference is that prostitutes (men/women) can not elicit help from the police when they are abused because they are considered criminals. It would be interesting to see how it works out for Nevada. I find it ironic that the radical feminists support sex workers. Freedom of choice. It’s never about men though. In some countries men are the criminals and female sex workers are the victims. That’s a perfect example of gynocentrism. Sorry didn’t mean to deviate from the subject of the thread.

[@Fallensky17]

Relationships require sacrifice on both fronts. Women are unwilling to sacrifice at all.

[@shawnhampshirehick101]

Well said & Excllent observation.

[@Nah-ah]

They’ve got nothing else to sacrifice nor offer if they’ve sacrificed their femininity 🤔 Imo. If a woman is gonna date down, she can, but she won’t be faithful. The man won’t be respected! Best leave these types of women alone.

[@ArmyWolves]

May I add that both men and women have proven that they can be selfish but in the west, modern women have *overwhelmingly* proven to be selfish such that it is rare to find a decent human being and to top it off it is celebrated and incentivized socially(friends, family) , culturally (f〰️ism, only▪️fans) and legally (family court, child support etc) for example a wife can cheat on her husband or get pregnant by another man and family and friends will try and convince the one cheated on to 'man up' and not let the innocent child grow up without a father or courts will still make the husband who has not cheated to still pay alimony in a no fault state... 🔺

[@existentiallance6034]

A great job putting this issue in perspective. Thanks!

[@jeanpaul4100]

I was just going to say, sounds like she has the problems of being a man.

[@mathias1dk]

What it all gets down to for both men and women: even if I might never get the partner of my dreams, will my fear of being alone overrule my egoic expectations of the other person? Are you most afraid or most entitled?

[@TheyCalledMeT]

neither nor, most of the time the juice isn't worth the squeeze

[@mathias1dk]

@@TheyCalledMeT Agreed. I'm entitled to my own success and mental stability, which is also why I'm single.

[@TheyCalledMeT]

@@mathias1dk well.. there where times and there are places where you face far less entitlement, more cooperation and appreciation, but those places are extremely rare today in the west

[@masterblaster1502]

Thankfully post nut clarity is a thing for men. After dumpster diving on a slow Tuesday night, they suddenly wake up and leave when they realize what they just did.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Guys in terrible marriages are very lonely as are divorced guys who just see their kids every other weekend or who barely see their teenage kids because they are too busy or have been turned against the father. I think being alone is actually quite common regardless of relationship status.

[@alexanderpons9246]

Oh wow, for sure this is an issues collectively we have in our society. Its not going to be easy but most likely we have to reconfigure it all, the world our grandparents and parents grew up and lived in is gone and so are the rules to live by. Thank you Dr. Orion Taraban for all the topics you discuss in this channel of yours.

[@JoBlakeLisbon]

That world isn't gone at all. It is still how most of the world operates.

[@alexanderpons9246]

@@JoBlakeLisbon Thanks for the correction, the new Western world/America's!

[@vink1547]

Gentlemen, the evidence shows we have been screwed for centuries. Wake up and give them nothing because thats what they have been giving us. Welcome them into adulthood by letting them pay ALL their own bill/expenses. Dont marry or cohabitate. If you have kids, accept the fact that she will take them away whenever she feels. Good luck

[@LisaCulton]

We're already paying for everything and having the babies. LOL

[@garcher2]

@@LisaCulton Unfortunately those babies aren't turning out well adjusted

[@Nah-ah]

Women have been paying for themselves for ages now! Where have you been? The ones complaining are the ones wanting men in their lives JUST TO PAY FOR EVERYTHING

[@LisaCulton]

@@garcher2 Who are you to judge? I also know multiple women (professional women at that) who were dumped and abandoned by their men while they were *pregnant* (!) and ended up raising the child alone and those children turned out to be well-adjusted, successful adults.

[@trshashank4]

​@@LisaCulton well just because you know a few people who haven't grown up to be fuck ups doesn't mean they don't exist lol. The fact is that the majority of the inmates in the US come from single parent households.

[@TheQuixoticRambler]

Very possibly one of your best videos and the best treatment of this topic that I've seen!

[@kada18]

Orion- I enjoy your videos and I share and promote your channel. So thank you. But here’s some feedback- you often sound bitter and like you’ve been burned! You’re focus is so much on what is asked of men, the resources a man has to give up, how spoiled women are, etc. I truly don’t think you’ve considered that in women are giving up their prime years, which are shorter (and consequently more valuable) than a man’s. Her years to reproduce and her years to be attractive enough to compete among other women for a mate is so much shorter than men’s! If women had the same reproductive timeline and requisite sacrifice that men do (meaning contributing sperm and that’s it), we could finally be equal. But we don’t. Women are physiologically disadvantaged to men in so many ways. I don’t expect this to be on the forefront of your mind because your lived experience is in a man’s world, but your videos are very biased toward women being consumers and lazy princesses.