When are men and women MOST ATTRACTIVE?: peak sexual marketplace value by age

[@psychacks]

In this episode, I'll be unpacking some of the results of the peer-reviewed research described in the article, "Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets" (link below). After analyzing the private, anonymous behavior of hundreds of thousands of heterosexual men and women on a popular dating app across four independent metropolitan areas, the researchers discovered a number of surprising (but consistent) findings. Today I'll be talking about one of them: desirability as a function of age. Apparently, women were most desirable to men at 18 years-old, and men were most desirable to women at 50 years-old. It turns out that men like younger women in large part because women like older men. "Aspirational pursuit of mates in online dating markets": www.science.org/doi/10.1126/sciadv.aap9815 Orion is a licensed psychologist in the state of California. Podcast available of Spotify, Instagram, Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts and others. See the "About" tab for more information on donations and consultations. Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com

[@carlosdixan112]

Would you mind answering my question sir ??

[@dontfeelcold]

@@carlosdixan112 no

[@NickM_FirstofHisName]

Don't you think men like younger mates for youth? Looks?

[@Unvaccinatedpureblood]

I can see a huge problem with this study and with the conclusion you drew in another video. It’s problematic to compute a single attractive score across the age groups. There are many desperate professional women in their late 20’s and 30’s. Their standards are (unreasonably) high. It is very possible that they select established men in their 40’s and 50’s. The younger women probably care less and probably pick guys for fun. So men’s attractiveness peaks at 50 possibly for only women older than 28. But since there are so many of them clicking on tinder, even though their average attractiveness is lower than that of 18 year olds, their number skews the result in favor of the 50 year old established males.

[@Unvaccinatedpureblood]

It would be great to compute a pair wise score between age groups.

[@bdgregorybd]

Rollo Tomassi breaks this down pretty effectively in my opinion. But it’s worth noting that women of different age ranges value different things, whereas men of all age ranges consistently value two things: 1. Youthful looks and 2. Loyalty/fidelity. Women aged 15-23 typically value physicality and looks in men more than anything else which is why the first guys they go for are douchey jock types. Women 24-30 go for guys that have a mix of looks, status, and game. Women 30+ go for men with status and money so it’s not surprise that age 50 was listed as the peak attraction period for women as women 30+ are a majority of the population. I promise you that an attractive 18 year old girl will pick the starting quarterback at her college over a 50 year old billionaire nine times out of 10.

[@don_juan_demarrco]

Good breakdown My thing is with men is why do we always start with the 18 year ago female? 18 year olds are too young for 30+ men. The starting point should be 20 to 21 in my opinion. What are we going to do with a 16,17 or 18?

[@MDCigan]

Great comment! Very accurate. Women in their early 20s do NOT find 50 year old men the most desirable

[@colbalt95]

​@@MDCigan Generally you would be correct in America because people have been conditioned to dates similar age is because of patriarchy accelerating men into their Prime earlier however a forty-year-old accomplished man can easily pull 20 year olds all day outside of the West where age Gap is more commonplace

[@theskyizblue2day431]

@@don_juan_demarrcointeresting take. What about in porn? Or why not just move the age of consent to 21? 18 is apparently not an adult so let’s move it up

[@ichigotheg.o.a.t]

@Flyzel.... yeah, hut the thing is it depends on the age a 20 something year should and could definitely sate an 18 year I would say 31+ would be a problem but that's just me if someone isbattracted to an 18 year old just leave them alone just leave them bebits their decision and its their feeling ( s ), don't invalidate it that's why we have so many mad people across the us now,,,,. today,,,,.

[@jrjacobsil]

A man walks into a gym and asks the woman at the desk which machine he should use to impress the ladies. The woman said use the ATM that is just outside the door.

[@Kenny-Ross]

My buddy's dad says it's not true that women want money. "That's not true!"...he said.

[@SunRise-ul7ko]

​​@@Kenny-Ross They want it all. Money assets, your house, car, the kids, financial suppory, alimony. I found this out when I got taken to the cleaners in divorce. My advice, just don't get married. That way you will not end up as someone else's slave & you will be happy.

[@Kenny-Ross]

@@SunRise-ul7ko Marriage is risky. And statistics show women leave way more than men. They’re quicker to bail in relationships. It’s not being pessimistic but accepting reality. Then they’re rewarded for it.

[@JohnSmith-ct5jd]

Exactly! I start out with a few checkbook squats, follow up with a credit card roll. Then for a climax, the homeowner's deed curl! That last really makes their mouths water!

[@JohnSmith-ct5jd]

@@SunRise-ul7ko Exactly. You will end up getting divorce raped, which is worse than prison rape because you don't even get a kiss!

[@idlehourlinda6476]

What we say we want, even what we think we want; the truth lies in what we actually DO. Actions, not words.

[@wisdomandy9361]

Yes. It's odd that it seems so many people are hard struck on this idea that what they think is ideologically correct to them is somehow in alignment to what they want through their actions and behaviors. When it's very rarely in alignment at all.

[@ichigotheg.o.a.t]

But that doesn't mean that's necessarily what we want,.

[@ichigotheg.o.a.t]

@wisdomandy9361 but that doesn't mean that that's necessarily what we want, people who do actions and not words are not necessarily doing what they want actions doesn't mean any thingnif that's what they were told to do all their lives if it is a case of mass hysteria like whatnis going on with a lot of people jow adays with mass psychogenic illness, it doesn't mean that's what they want that is just what they're told they want it is not thatbsimple and it is not thus simple people are fed lies they're entire life yet they do what they were told especially agreeable people especially really agreeable people and so on people only know what they truly want when they're dopamine is firing on all cylinders when they're doing it not when they're not doing it when it comes to people when its not very in alignment at all that could come from many factors it just depends on the situation it does not depend on the entire idea of the situation it depends on the person if you don't have any thing to strive for you're never gonna do it really even if you want to do really it people are attracted to ideas nothing else thatbis what keeps us going nothing else our actionsbare a different totally thing you can't compare that and say actions don't alignment with what I say and or think we'll its like who are what do you want what ideas do you have it is not the thought process and the thinking that doesn't align with the actions that is the most accurate it is the thought process and the thinking that doesnt align with the ideas that is the case,,,,,. ,,,,,.

[@ichigotheg.o.a.t]

@@wisdomandy9361 a lot of people are a lso talking about what they want long term but for now they'll just do whatever until they get there that is what they're talking about a lso,,,,,. ,,,,,.

[@ichigotheg.o.a.t]

@@wisdomandy9361 people a lso do what they want out of fear because they have to in that moment or out of acceptance or whatever and they do what theybhave to in that moment and people a lso do thing in the subconscious and the conscious thosebare two different things by the way what your subconscious wants and what are conscious wants are two different things by the way which in fact if you figure out what they both want then you can figure what you want then people can figure it out in the sense that sense that that you youncan balance them out and figure out something good for yourself people's wants can conflict action trying to make it simple to put a complicated issue in to something with a simple simplicity mindset mindset eill keep you not from seeing the whole picture and messing you up,,,,,. ,,,,,.

[@don_juan_demarrco]

As a 49 year old man thats about to turn 50 my options and access to women are almost unlimited. Guys, life is about standing the test of time so if you take care of yourselves, dont work yourselves to death and learn from other men's mistakes so you dont repeat those then when you get to middle age you will see how calming, peaceful, easy and freeing your life will be. Not giving a fuck is so liberating 💯

[@ThePompeii]

Probably you are somewhere in the Western world, correct? Plenty of divorcees and second-divorcees. Go to Eastern Europe, for example - and dating options for a 50 year-old are very close to zero - ALL women are hitched at that age, married with children. I don't think I've ever met a 50 year-old single woman of Eastern-European origin. Other ages women - you might think? Sure...usually women in this region get married towards the end of University [which virtually ALL of them attend] or just after - meaning around the age of 23-25. So any women older than that - is already taken. The "leftovers" - trust me - are leftovers for "a" reason [actually many, many reasons, speaking from personal experience]. Women under 25? If you are 50? Don't be silly...they see you as a father-figure at best, or "creepy old man" at worse :)

[@OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOq]

Don’t do work that ruins your back, and you will be blessed in the sack.

[@davepazz580]

@@ThePompeii The problem is you're looking at the *average* 50-year old man in such situations, and you have to keep in mind that the largest majority of men do *not* actively do (or have done) anything to fully maximize their potential... Just like if all you do is look at current statistics, you'd find the large majority of the population is overweight, not physically fit and on very bad diets... so mortality rates will reflect this directly. But what of the people who decides to exercise regularly and follow a heathy diet? Do they not stand a better chance at overcoming those stats on health and mortality? It's really the same exact thing here... those men who work hard to improve themselves financially, physically and socially *always* stand a much better chance at a successful dating life than *most* men who take very little to no action in these areas of life.

[@levimachado]

@@ThePompeii he is dating 25-29 year olds friend

[@zeppkfw]

@@davepazz580Spot on. average 50 year old person looks like trash. They never built their life and themselves

[@FreedomRider-id6yv]

Still depends on the overall attractiveness of a man when he hits 50. Guys that have taken care of themselves (no alcohol, good diet, rest, exercise, emotional maturity) are killing it these days with women in their 20’s. My advice to guys in their 30’s, start NOW in regards to taking care of yourself. It will pay off when you hit your 50’s.

[@FreedomRider-id6yv]

@@js77z I agree, majority have not taken care of themselves. They don’t exercise, eat like crap and get no rest. However, there are exceptions.

[@FreedomRider-id6yv]

@@js77z a 57 year old was just named the “Sexiest Man Alive” by People Magazine.

[@sigmundfreud4618]

The question is: will you still need this shit at 50?

[@rhyon8530]

That is the most surprising and encouraging thing I've heard in the last ten years. A game changer for me. I had no idea.

[@ashleyy8724]

This data was collected by analyzing data apps. The reality is a lot of women between the ages of 18 -25, honestly even late 20's will use these dating apps as tools to find a sugar daddy. If I were looking for a sugar daddy, I would focus my attention on men between the ages 40 - 55 because I am aware I have more power over those men due to my looks and youth in comparison to them being old and financially stable.

[@ReasonAboveEverything]

☝️This here. There is no way woman thinks 54 year old Erik is more attractive than Charlie in his late 20s. Unless Erik can make shit loads of money he will be behind Charlie.

[@lechatnoir7062]

Truth

[@yasserbostan7156]

You have power over them? This is a typical example of a modern woman whose delusion is insane. You're giving your box to him and you exchange it for money. Your value goes down as well as your mental health. His value stays the same and even increases. How exactly is that more power for you? Enjoy your cats and box wine because nobodies gonna want that used hole after it's had its best years.

[@diononeofyourbusiness8634]

And??? Yes, the 18-25s are looking like mad for suggar daddies. They are still off the dating market looking for their daddies. And you know what? That is cheap and easy sex. It is their problem that they are wrecking themselves completely and that they will be completely incapable of ever having a stable relationship.

[@prenomnom6203]

yep there is something wrong with his quick conclusion because IRL you never see 30 years of age difference in couples.

[@trqster]

From my own personal experience being in my late 40s, good looking for my age, fit, succesfull (not rich though) , I still get the attention of younger women. That being said they believe I'm younger by my looks (usually I get 35), and when I say my real age things get weird/awkward a lot of times tbh - so saying that you're the most attractive to women when you're 50 (assuming you look that age) it's a far stretch imo, unless you're a very high status/millionaire man ...

[@trqster]

@@js77z So you'd never give a chance to a guy like Bradley Cooper or Jared Leto? I'm sure they're gonna be crushed 😁

[@trqster]

@@js77z So it's about personality or a number that's a deal breaker then? Brad is turning 49 this year as I am, so not really far off from 50 right

[@bob15479]

It could be that 50 is “where peak attraction occurs” not “where peak attraction is for MOST men”

[@trqster]

@@bob15479 I mean I've read about different studies that say that men peak at around 35 from an overall attraction point of view, like they're still not old and they should have figured out their lives by then. That being said I'm almost 50 but because I look quite a bit younger I stil get to enjoy the gaze of younger women and some, not knowing my real age, have actually told me that they'd never date a guy in his 40s even because it's kind of gross and he's an old man (their words) hahah

[@davepazz580]

It's important to never take any woman's words so literally, as they say a lot of things out of momentary emotion or simply to sound "proper" among people... If these women saw you with an actual young 20-something girlfriend having a great time (i.e. her status getting a boost from being your partner), trust me, they'd all quickly start re-evaluating this idea...

[@rizalukman7982]

Thank you sir.This explained the phenomenon why people in a developing country a 50 year old rich man married an 18 years old beatiful girl

[@JezaLoki]

Age has little do do with it. If you’re not in the top 10% of good looking men, you’re gonna be unattractive and invisible at any age. The only exception is wealth or fame.

[@ThePompeii]

Agreed, if the 50 year old dude is low on the socio-economic scale, overweight, bald, with no swagger, no social-awareness, awqward, went through bad times that left a mark on him psychologically [1-2 divorces, and stuff like that] - not necessarily all at once or all of the above, but SOME - he won't be attractive to women

[@DimitriTheBarbarian]

99% of men are unattractive to average woman. Women reject ALL men at first glance. It’s evolutionary and survival tactic

[@sleepinggorilla]

Sadly. I dont drink, don’t eat meat. Somehow I am fat any way (I am Polynesian). Balding. Had one disasterous relationship. I have become that creepy loser that scares women. So I just leave them alone know.

[@theeater8906]

@@sleepinggorilla If this doesn't bother you, just keep leaving them alone. It's not the worst one can do. If this does bother you, change it. Nothing is hard in life with discipline and the right mindset. Losing weight is fairly simple and can be easily reached within a few months or years. Getting women might be harder or easier, dependent on your current assets (wealth, confidence, humour, knowledge, listening skills, Game skills, style and looks, ...). However, it will get easier with every experience you make. I had to learn it from 0 and tbh, I probably wouldn't have started if I knew how often my feelings would be hurt and how harsh this whole experience would become. But I kept going, learned from every experience and it became easier. After my last breakup it took me between one to two months to find an other woman with whom I could replace the regular sex. And I am certain that it will get even easier than that, as long as I keep moving forward. You shouldn't look at "the creepy loser" as a set state of yourself. We all change with every day and it is your responsibility to control the direction of this change.

[@BruceJohnston-jw5tt]

@@JezaLoki I am 6’2” great health, full head of hair, and I can grow a very decent beard as well. As far as genetic lottery I have it all, my family and friends remind me all the time. I have been chronically single for the last 5 years (I am 24). I have seen so many objectively unattractive men (I was in a fraternity in college) bag the most beautiful women and I felt like I was getting robbed. Looks mean nothing.

[@MrDanielhendrix]

Thanks!

[@jaime4290]

Please Mr. Taraban, as your popularity and influence grows, don't change your message! Please don't sell out, the pressure to censor the truth in these messages is going to be immense when your channel blows up. Please Mr. Taraban, humanity needs this, humanity needs you.

[@georgeelder8415]

There's another way to look at this. A stunning woman in her early 20's might want a mature man who looks past her physical attributes, which is rare, in any case. If she's a hard working person, she may want his love and knowledge more than his money... To make this work, gentlemen, you must have a great body and personality + be on point in every way. Pass all her tests and with patience the two of you have a chance.

[@farscape1975]

Dang! You just made my day! I'm 48 and single and reasonably well-off. I thought I would not be desirable at all. But perhaps there is some hope!

[@veetour]

Female attractiveness is not limited by legal bounds. It's just no man will publicly admit to being attracted to underaged girls below 18.

[@oberleutnant4013]

Truth is that men find 15-17 year old females the most attractive.

[@waysofzen]

Maybe perhaps... but even so, u can't date someone that young... too immature... too unbearable at that age... not worth the trouble or time... 20s!

[@thedarkstar7045]

Thank you for pointing this out.

[@Stoicsaiyan]

There’s a difference between being attracted and acknowledging it’s wrong. Only weak men act on those feelings

[@nilighosh158]

Thank you. Women aren't looking for guys who are younger or the same age as themselves, with one exception : social value. In other words many young women are attracted to alpha men who have high social value. The more mature and masculine a man is the more attracted she is to the guy. Physicality is an important trait, but not the only one.

[@scotteklof5082]

For the most part I agree. However some controlling ladies want a younger man so they can controll him, and some older ladies want a younger man so they can get There back blown out

[@sfrealestatedealmaker6001]

It took me years to learn and accept this. Good thing I’m older now (much older) 😂

[@js9273]

I've always gone for men my own age, as have most women I know.

[@nilighosh158]

@@js9273 What makes a better relationship is compatibility and work.

[@js9273]

@@nilighosh158 big age gaps are not typically compatible - and the idea that women are at their most attractive at 18 and men at 50 is for the birds.

[@joshevans2391]

Men most popular at 50 is pressumably due to "left over" women in their late 30s, early 40s dating up. Women most popular at 18 is due to men dating down and the legal age for using the app being 18. To be useful, data would need to be presented by age range. i.e. what do women 20-24 go after, etc

[@mbg9650]

Women in their 20-24 are in their party phase. They're looking for "experiences" to populate their IG account to get r exposure and more "experiences". Not the same with left overs, they want long term "security".

[@stefanmatton8778]

@@mbg9650 leftovers are the result of what you said at the beginning

[@GGWP-nx3kn]

Bruh, you still believe underage girls are celibate? You‘re in for a rude awakening, because they‘re getting tossed around by the same men most women go for anyway. 😂

[@XAUCADTrader]

Yeah, they really should have calibrated that model to see who the 18-25 women were messaging. I got my hopes up at 50, but if it's just 35+ then pointless. I'd rather stay single and not risk the wealth I've accumulated for sloppy second-thousandth...

[@t1m3l0rd]

I think that would have been a very defined point if that was the case.

[@mysterio1570]

I am turning 52 on March 11. I have no desire for any 18 yr old woman. If anything I like women between 27 to 60 in looks. I am all about face more than anything.

[@thedarkstar7045]

Finally a man with moral character.

[@yalrdyknow]

Just say you can't pull them. Lmfao why are ancient females always mad at this.

[@MaxIsBackInTown]

This man’s channel has grown by 5k in less than 24hours. He’s going to be huge.

[@tonyawilhour3284]

Of course it’s grown. He’s exactly like a career politician that’s been trained to lie or spin facts and promises things that won’t come to be real in the real would. Take a look around the next time you’re out. Do you see a world where 50 year old men have 18-24 year old females on their arm? I highly doubt it because young females don’t want old men. They want attractive guys around their own age. If you want facts, then look out in the real world. His data, his ga to only tell me, in mens private lives, they WANT females that are barely legal age for them but wanting and getting are two different things. If an old man is with a young girl, more than likely it’s for money but he’s gonna get dumped as soon as his age starts showing up with health problems. I’m not trying to burst any bubbles of hope but that all that this guy is doing… is selling hope. Selling his channel for profit. Sorry but the real world tells the real truth. Look and see for yourself

[@diogobz5348]

I used to listen while driving from and to work. Told some of mates who liked the idea of the content as well.

[@WojciechowskaAnna]

on youtube even mudbang videos have 10K subscribers. Even Andrew Tate has followers.

[@rajatkumthekar94]

Thank you from India. You are doing great job. Just please inject these doses in small amount ; sometimes medicine has bad reaction 😅

[@TM-tw1py]

As a 50-year old man - I could not agree more with this incredibly accurate study!!

[@ThomasFoolery8]

Yeah it’s clearly nonsense. I could understand 40, but 50? Nah bro.

[@fabrizi7362]

Next year, the lake dries up

[@bigneiltoo]

@@ThomasFoolery8 I'm 52. In the past week I had dates with women who are 21, 26, 27, and 46. The 46 year old is crazy. I'm sure old ladies would recommend her.

[@bigneiltoo]

@@ThomasFoolery8 In the year 2000 my girlfriend explained that age 50 is the peak for a man because we must consider his increasing salary and fading looks. 35-55 is prime for a man.

[@ThomasFoolery8]

@@bigneiltoo you’re lying and delusional. I’m 40 and still have a full head of hair with some grays on the side, but otherwise in shape, and I make $434k/yr now, and the quality of girls I get has dropped steadily from around age 33 when I was only making $150k/yr. Age 33ish (depending on how fast you age) is the peak for most men. Young pretty girls (which I assume we are all chasing) want a man who still looks like he can perform well in bed, that still has some money to spoil her. So even at $150k, she’ll date you if you spend most of your paycheck wining and dining her and you’re still somewhat young (early 30s). By 40, you’re literally trying to bribe them into sleeping with you since you look older and there is a smaller class of women who may go for that, but it isn’t many.

[@chevy2583]

Very accurate, but sadly if you share this publicly you will be called sexist!

[@larryrobx]

As a long-time viewer of this PsycHacks series, I can attest that Dr. Taraban has grown pretty fearless in his truth-telling here, in the name of science. Kudos to him.

[@chevy2583]

@@larryrobx Agree!

[@goodlyantics.5243]

@@larryrobx I agree, but I do not believe he will be able to keep it up. I’m an academic partially destroyed by truth-telling myself, so I’m skeptical. I have been enjoying the videos, though.

[@joseph6243]

@@goodlyantics.5243 That is quite unfortunate and disheartening to hear, but we need people like you and him to keep telling the truth. We cannot surrender to the idealogues.

[@goodlyantics.5243]

@@joseph6243 Thank you

[@romeobodeodo]

Age is just one factor in a decision regarding what may be attractive to any one person. That said, an 18 year old woman may view a 50 year old man as being old as her dad (eww), and a 50 year old man may view an 18 year old woman as a sexual conquest, but not someone he'd seriously consider spending time with because of a lack of common interests and experience. So the respective ages of maximum attraction don't meet up in the real world.

[@tonyawilhour3284]

I couldn’t agree more!!! These men touting this stuff on utube about women actually really wanting a man that’s much older is only for ratings! It’s like a trained politician that knows lies gets you votes! In my opinion, it’s only encouraging perverts to have a green light to go after 18 year olds. In my world, my husband wouldn’t let a 40 year old come near his daughter without repercussions! Let alone some old 50 year old man. JUST YUCK’🤢

[@asiadp]

He said it starts to decline when a woman reaches 18 which means it’s at its peak when she’s underage therefore most men like children basically that’s grimy and sad asf. Being sexually attracted to minors is just too Normalized. Too many young girls deal with SA by the hands of a grown man that knows better because things like this being seen as ok

[@davepazz580]

*it’s at its peak when she’s underage therefore most men like children basically that’s grimy and sad asf.* Complete bullsh*t and you know it...

[@ClellBiggs]

This explains a lot. When I was younger women wouldn't give me a second look. I'm almost 44 now and they go out of their way to talk to me and are very flirty. I'm not really interested in having relationships anymore, but I can't deny that it's a nice selfesteme booster. It's funny that it's only now that I'm no longer looking that they start showing interest.

[@ams6454]

If they're over 30, don't look too deep into it bro, it's usually because at that age the clock starts ticking down for them and they get desperate

[@OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOq]

@@ams6454yup, they are trying to secure the bag as they say. They are looking for a retirement plan, and they know older men usually have assets and their finances in check.

[@frankdavf4599]

Women are like Banks, they ll give you credit when you dont need it

[@aszahala]

I have somewhat similar experiences. I had always trouble finding girlfriends in my teens and early 20s, and it only changed after I became a fairly well known music artist in my country that brought be most of my girlfriends. Now as a 40 year old, I still get matches (and dates) in dating apps with women from 20 to 35.

[@reinotsurugi]

There's a third path here. Not just what men want in private and what men say, but what men take action on in social settings. Maybe a 50 year old man is privately attracted to an 18 year old, but in an actual marketplace, he'll feel awkward about pursuing her. So an interesting study would be how social factors shape our choices even when they may be against our ultimate desires.

[@Ascension_3030]

at 47 I dont feel awkward about any of my preferences. Men mature as they age

[@najeegilani]

After reading "The Alabaster Girl" by Zan Perrrion, one thing I understood is the essence of masculinity is to: • Be absolutely ruthless & unapologetic • Send invitations and not permissions • Fuck everyone & the world

[@witchywoman737]

Another interesting study would be how the fathers of 18 yr old girls feel about old men wanting to get inside their daughters 🤔

[@georgedang449]

@@gabbsdy8741 That's not what the study says. It says that 18 years old girls and 50 years old men receives the most messages from opposite sex, of all ages, asking to go out with them. It does not say 50 years old men are messaging 18 yo girls. In fact, it says 50 years old men are the ones receiving messages, instead of the ones sending them.

[@nstar1372]

@@georgedang449 that is very unlikely. Only way I could think of is thought of security that older man may provide. Even in that case I'd still never initiate contact overtly with an older man. I'm 22.

[@Ferrari_champ]

There's a great book titled "The Evolution of Desire" by David Buss that explains all of this perfectly. Long story short, men value traits associated with fertility, including beauty (hence why women wear makeup), youthfulness, and feminine personality traits. Since a woman's biological clock typically expires in her mid 30s, men want a woman that has a high probability of giving him offspring, hence why they're attracted to younger women. On the flip side, women are attracted to a man's height and physical stature, his resources (mainly his finances), and where he stands on the totem pole. With the exception of his height, all of those things increase as a man ages up until hes roughly 50, hence why women are attracted to older men.

[@Brenda-ny1gw]

You must be out of your mind. Dunno about men, but as a woman I look for a friend and a mate, not a leader, not a boss, not someone to support me, because I make my own money, and a man that'll choose me just because of ME, not because of my capacity to give him children

[@rwentfordable]

​@@Brenda-ny1gwif you aren't willing to give him children that's a deal breaker for a lot of men. Men just don't care about your education or career accomplishments. That's a masculine trait.

[@Brenda-ny1gw]

@@rwentfordable There's no woman or man in the Lord

[@victormiranda4664]

A man once decided to settle down, and choose to marry one of his 3 girlfriends. He gave them each $100. The first one spent it and gave him thanks. The second one bought food for him, and made him a nice meal. The third one, invested the money, gave him his money back, and also made him a nice meal. Which girlfriend did he choose? The one with the biggest as 😂😂😭😭😭

[@Brenda-ny1gw]

HAHAHAHA

[@midascaps6921]

I am a physicist and I loved your comment..

[@stefanmatton8778]

women will always have preferences but will hate that a mans preference disqualifies them. Can dish out the truth but never handle it themselves

[@nstar1372]

Men are upset when they disqualify as well. even resort to physical violence & force.

[@ams6454]

​@@nstar1372I don't think using a very small and psycopathic part of the population like rapists is a genuine argument for the way most men react to rejection. Try again

[@EC-yl7xk]

Just because men want a young beautiful girl, doesn't mean she wants you. Most of the time it's about money for these young girls. I date younger men and they spoil me and have long-term relationships with them. Many women like me are killing it and we don't have to pay for it. But men can keep dreaming. My nieces are in this age of 18-25, they don't want to date their fathers, they crush on young boys and date only 1 or 2 years older.

[@doffmoffin]

I'm a 55 YO man, and this gels with my life experiences (in my case I think the fact I've continued to body build consistently since I was 19 helps a lot, but older body builder me is more successful than younger body builder me).

[@Billy-bc8pk]

What's the youngest woman you've managed to pull?

[@ariatamar2706]

Women don't give a sh!t about body building. Do you pay attention to them? Pay for dinners? Buy gifts?

[@thedarkstar7045]

​@@Billy-bc8pk How much you want to bet its a minor?

[@OBWIZZY]

50 yrs is a long time reaching that age is a blessing of its own

[@OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOq]

Men age like wine, and women age like milk.

[@ArnoldsDesign]

I think this goes along with, at least in part, women looking for financial stability.

[@jlprescott7243]

The older I got I started to care less about how I look, impressing people, going out, and meeting women. Cheers!

[@voiceofexperience]

It's nature: Men value fertility; women value survivors.

[@WojciechowskaAnna]

In nature: women value men who treat them with respect and have great life together.

[@bsbsvvsshvshs]

But peak fertility for women is from 18-22,23 and then drops. Not just 18

[@WojciechowskaAnna]

@@bsbsvvsshvshsyou talk about averaged value, fertility of particular women may huuugely vary, some men and women are sterile and it's not visible. Men and women e unable to asses fertility if othés just sing naked eye and senses without deep medical exams and actual attempts

[@prashant10.]

@@WojciechowskaAnnaLol how would a woman that has never dated a woman know how to attract a woman.Unless you are a lebian who has been with multiple women your response is invalid. As a wise man once said “Don’t take advice from a fish on how to catch a fish go ask a fisherman!” Good day!

[@Stoicsaiyan]

@@bsbsvvsshvshsit drops at 30. Not after 23. So woman peak fertility is 18-29

[@jamalmcdaniel3339]

This sounds wierd but understanding that I have no sexual market value has made my confidence go through the roof and a much happier and engaged person

[@y_limit_yourself]

Is it because you feel like a huge weights been lifted off your back? Like no more pressure, time or energy wasted on a futile game that’s yielded no results?

[@jamalmcdaniel3339]

@@y_limit_yourself yes exactly

[@edenartgardenamusementmuse7253]

Youre the REAL Top G! Thank you Bro!!

[@connorduke4619]

Hillarious, so basically 50 year old men are bombarding 18 year old women every day on Tinder and getting positive responses from them. And everyone else is pretty much wasting their time. ;)

[@jarichards99utube]

Fascinating Study. I was SURPRISED by the Men At Age 50 Result. I would have expected a handsome, wealthy, 35 Yr Old male would receive preferential attention verse any "Older" male. -cheers... -70SomethingGuy

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

as a 26 year old woman, I hardly disagree on his take. Men in their mid 20s to mid 30s are at their peak

[@aszahala]

One important thing to understand is, that the gender demographics change drasticly around 40 years of age. Where only 25% of the users are female among younger users, the gender distribution evens out at older ages and as far as I know can even reverse in some dating sites and apps.

[@saifshaikh3191]

True well said

[@yacovmitchenko1490]

They're most attractive when they don't try hard, or when they're not self-conscious about it. In the case of men, a strong sense of purpose and inner stability, calm, and confidence are all key factors. While a high salary and respectable career can help a great deal, bear in mind that sages (who often have very few possessions) can still attract a big following. As for women, good looks, devotion, understanding are important to men. Still, if she's self-conscious of her physical beauty, that in my view makes her kind of ugly. Speaking personally, too much makeup, I think, detracts from whatever beauty she has. In short, the combination of inner wealth, an interesting mind, decent appearance and naturalism amount to the peak of attractiveness.

[@kebman]

I'm 45 and my upper limit for a woman is 35. Because that's the cut-off date for any woman who wants to start a family with children. That means that women who are older than that, are completely worthless to me, because the chance of a woman older than 35 being able to bare me a child are almost zero. If you don't like that, then too bad. You should have started a family while you could. I think that's a valuable lesson for all young women. Your family-starting expiry date is by 35. Mine is 85.

[@Jooo923]

You're the man

[@GaryAJMartin]

I feel the same way. 35 is the limit. I’m 54, by the way.

[@ana-pq3cs]

You’re lacking education in that matter and are showing your misogyny. Women can have children after 35. Most women I know gave birth in their 30s where they were more stable. However, men have a risk of birth defects increase after 30. This means even if your wife is younger, you still have a higher chance to have a child with autism and other disorders and diseases and if you started your family late, you won’t even have the energy or enough years left to take care of the kid. Your family-starting expiry date isn’t 85. That’s delusional and selfish to the poor children. Please learn modern medicine before listening to Andrew Tate style podcasts.

[@kebman]

​@@ana-pq3cs I’m lacking education? Girl, you just picked a fight with the wrong scholar… Clearly you’re the one lacking education in the matter and showing your hysteric misandry. So yes, _please_ get educated! Or, you know… Just stop spreading anti-family lies because your claims are based on exactly ZERO evidence. Normally I would attribute such woefully bad interpretation of “science” to misunderstanding, but you clearly have ill faith, and so I can only conclude that you’re lying. Perhaps because you’re a bitter, middle aged woman who never settled for the man she really deserves? Meanwhile I was out partying with 20-somethings yesterday and had great fun. So, please allow me to mansplain this for you in detail! The surveys and tests done say nothing about the health of the male sperm. Instead they only take account of the father’s age-without even mentioning the age of the mothers-which is already a dubious reason for making such surveys in the first place. Instead you made the cardinal mistake of ASSUMING that the women in those studies are necessarily 35 years or younger, which there is ZERO proof of. So, please get your facts straight! If the studies also took account of the age of women, which tends to be older when the father also gets older, then the whole study would fall apart. Why? _Because the adverse causational correlation between female age and disorders and birth defects in new-born babies is already PROVEN._ (!) This means that the papers made on the fathers age are at best a victim of _cum hoc ergo propter hoc._ I mean, you’re so educated, so you already know what that means without googling right? For everyone else, It means that the studies on men’s age in relation to birth defects in babies is completely bunk and bs. Your entire claim is resting on the false assumption that there’s a higher chance of genetic defects in older men’s sperm, except there’s no proof of that. The only thing those “scientific” surveys desperately try to hide, is the fact that older _women_ tend to have more complications during and after birth than men. So, here’s a pepper grinder for you. Now go tend to your cats.

[@cevanille1104]

Actually menopause hits when andropause hits, around 45 which is your age. After age 35 quality of eggs declines, just like men 's sperm quality declines; men older than 35 carry a higher risk of giving the woman kids with autism, schizophrenia, bipolar disorders. Sperm banks usually refuse men sperm when it's older than 35... Also chronological age is different than biological age, and women tend to age better than men, because women are on top of the anti aging game. Think nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, no smoking, no alcohol. Men have a lot of addictions, porn, alcohol, bad life hygiene. Finally, women freeze their eggs and can use sperm banks - men can't raise kids without a woman. And if you remain resentful, and act shitty to her, she can divorce you and you end up in a worst situation.

[@LisaMarie-eh7up]

Well, I’m in my fifties with a lifetime of relationship experience and I’m glad to hear that men’s attractiveness is better with age. I have this ability to look into a man’s eyes and really see him - I’m attracted to most men. What I see most of the time is a lot of pain. Men are lonely. And they work so hard to get even a little physical contact. Women, we’re usually fine as we’ve aged; at least all my friends are. We’re at peace with whatever life gives us.

[@Vkob]

I guess this is why Sex and the City shows women not pursing marriage and being happy as spinsters to their grave, right?

[@LisaMarie-eh7up]

@@Vkob Hi! Well, I don’t know too much about that show but one thing I’ve observed: by the time a woman is old, she’s taken care of a husband, children, her own parents, her husband’s parents, and usually some neighbors or friends of her parents. No regrets, of course it feels good to take care of others but when we’re old it’s finally time to do some things for ourselves. I love everyone I’ve helped but it sure is nice to finally have my life back and I can do things I’ve always wanted to do.

[@asura8495]

the least happy demographic is actually middle aged single women. so your anecdotes dont represent the population

[@melenico4512]

Yes and No. Some older single women don't appear very happy and don't adjust for age or attitudes. Some of course are happy and content. Comes to down to perspective and mindset.

[@throbbinwoodofcoxley6830]

@@LisaMarie-eh7upyou’re far overvaluing your contributions.

[@davidmills2900]

seriously? 18 yrs old women are considered most attractive? There is no maturity at that age. Id want nothing to do with 18 yr olds.

[@bigneiltoo]

Try learning basic punctuation before lecturing us on maturity.

[@ThePompeii]

what's maturity got to do with attractiveness, exactly?

[@ana-pq3cs]

@@ThePompeiiand what’s money got to do with attractiveness? Attractiveness is a whole package. If you can’t form an emotional connection, which requires maturity compatibility, you will be turned off. Same for a rich man that lacks in looks, personality or whatever matters to the woman he deals with.

[@thedarkstar7045]

​@@bigneiltoo You admitted that you were preying on a 16 year old girl, even gave her aunt a gift to give to her once she turned 18. You're only proving our point, that if you could go lower, you would. And you have.

[@rbg01]

major flaw of this is study is that there are 2 different attractions. there is Sexual attraction and relationship attraction especially on the women side. so when women like an older men they're looking for relationship while they want sex from another kind of men.

[@davepazz580]

For the older man, as long as he's getting sex there is no practical difference between the two...

[@yourfavoriteentertainment]

18 was not surprising. 50 was. Expected the guy's age to be around 40.

[@c4blew]

I actually thought 30 was the most attractive age, especially for yougner women

[@sfrealestatedealmaker6001]

@@c4blew I’m a old fart who takes good care of himself. Trust me, I get way more attention now, than when I was in my 20’s and 30’s 😂

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

@@sfrealestatedealmaker6001 But are you more attractive or just attracting more from larger pools?

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

As in older women can only go for older men anyway.

[@carloferretti8956]

It is 38-40.

[@thepointlesswords290]

I think i am a women who is attracted to men of same age.

[@exodia_2299]

The minority

[@silverchairsg]

Noted. When I'm 50 I'll go after 18 year olds.

[@bigneiltoo]

They didn't say 50 year old men pair up with 18 year old women. They said those are the years when we have the most options. And if Leonardo DiCaprio asked out an 18 year old woman in her prime she would jump at the chance. Personally, I think age 21 is prime for a woman.

[@silverchairsg]

​@@bigneiltoo joke /dʒəʊk/ noun a thing that someone says to cause amusement or laughter, especially a story with a funny punchline.

[@Imyourhuckle6erry]

Spot on no joke. Nu Nu Nu N.W.O

[@handsomeX]

I'm 49 and I'm dating a 22yr old. I look considerably younger than my age, therefore, people have NO idea that there's such a large age gap between us 🤣

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

@@handsomeX Can you actually have stimulating conversation?

[@JP-gf3fs]

Thanks for making a content on peer-reviewed research on dating topics. It's easy to generalize observations by common sense but it's always refreshing when content creators back them up with actual data. One takeaway though: could the nature of engagement in these dating apps act as an extraneous variable in the study? I.e. People could have various motives for dating online. Hookup culture as a motive is quite prevalent in these apps. Is there a significant difference between men and women's motivations? If so, can we say that men are more interested in looking for younger sexual partners among females but would prefer to have older females as relationship partners? On the contrary, are women more interested in looking for older men as relationship partners as they are more stable and can provide for long term needs? I think sexual desirability connotes a myriad of underlying motivations, not just physical in nature.

[@bryceherring946]

I found those results for the women's side to be pretty much in line with what I would have guessed as men view women in terms of beauty and youth so it makes sense, also sadly for alot of women in today's modern day world of dating, so many women are unaware of this and don't realize how staying single well into their late 20s and 30s doing their own girl boss thing can end up having devastating long term implications because as the data for guys show, men actually get more preferred as they get older and the women are on the opposite trajectory so the men in their 30s, 40s and 50s who are single, can and often do look for younger women. That same attractive 30 year old women.who remains single is loosing her sexual marketplace value all while the next generation of younger girls are available for the older guys to select from... I was also really amazed and shocked at mens peak age being 50, I found that pretty incredible just how inversely correlated the trajectories of the two differ. This is also why today so many younger guys [teens, 20s and even into early 30s] often struggle to gain approval from women their own age because women prefer older guys, it's harder and harder to date nowadays at the same age, you are seeing more early 20s girls dating guys in their 30s, women can easily jump up a decade or two or even three and that leaves alot of younger guys struggling to find that age bracket where they can date.

[@istoppedcaring6209]

to simplistic however, you can't forget that there is a taboo here, these girls have families and friends who talk, people wil see the older man as a groomer and the girl as a golddigger or in the best case as a victim. girls also realize that an older man wil also give them fewer years,... essentially yes men wil have most options when they are (fit and succesfull) 35+ .... for girls that fall within their age group or are at least over 25, an 18yo might want to taste the grey fox in the club but dating one is a whole other story

[@TDOTSE1]

Spot on

[@zensleep2321]

I am 40 years old woman no kids. I never had so many 20 years old guys chase me in my life. Nowadays younger guys are completely going for older women especially if she actually doesn’t look like witch is my case. So today I can date guys in my age and younger and even 50wish because I am still young for them. On top of that I speak Portuguese (I am Brazilian) Spanish and English. The only thing we need to have when dating is not a scarcity mindset. There are fucking 7 billion people in this planet man and women are capable to find one for themselves.

[@istoppedcaring6209]

@@zensleep2321 oh sure, few of them want anything serious though

[@angelika87]

@@istoppedcaring6209 I think if women know this and don't take younger men seriously it can be a lot of fun...women's libido goes up in their 40s while men's go down (we gain testosterone while men start losing it). Realistically, not many people are fit for anything serious in this day and age...not the 18 year old girl nor the 30 year old woman. So why shame people for not being in one and just let people live.

[@becca53444]

I’ve never been attracted to older men. As a teen, I liked my age group and maybe celebrities in their early 20s. Now as someone in their late twenties, I don’t find any guy above 35 attractive unless they’re insanely handsome and don’t look their age. Women who claim to like older guys like their money and stability. They are not more physically attracted to a balding 50 year old guy than a 25-30 year old guy in his physical prime. Period.

[@davepazz580]

Women are well-known for saying such things *before* making exceptions for themselves later... these generalized statements are pretty meaningless in the real world.

[@simonettavespucci727]

every woman like a young man,but they make a compromise for money and security,They afraid to be with younger man,its risky ,Women like financial security and emotional too.But 59 year old man is not on peak,for sure

[@jamesrick7351]

good for you. I have personally known many 20s women who liked older men.

[@healthguy79]

I'm 44 and prefer women mid 30s, not younger

[@WhateverWhateverwtghvh]

this study doesnt make sense, you dont need studies to know that 50 year olds are not the most desirable, 40 maybe, def men over 30, I would say 35 year olds. When compared to the other tinder study that only rated people on attractiveness it was found older women prefer men 3-5 years younger once the women are over 40, and around 5 years older when they are under 40. and all men wanted 18-21 year olds, physically speaking. This study needs to go into more detail, it just doesnt make sense, maybe its just purely sex based, women assume 50 year olds have the most experience in the bedroom (but what about their bodies and t levels? I guess experience trumps everything and women are not as shallow) and 18 year old are obv the hottest. I mean I know 21 year old guys who dont want to deal with 18 year old kids, why in the world would older men want to other then for quick sex? Then again tinder is mainly about sex, right? Lets just be realistic, who do you see with the hottest partners usually? its guys 28-45. and the girls are usually 16-24. I think another point that we miss is that women dont like younger guys, so all the women around 40 and up will not date down so the 50 years old get all of those.

[@Xxxxxrrr6464]

Gotta consider golddigger/user types. Specifically what women attracted too, sexual reasons, relationship, men to use

[@carlosdixan112]

What is the difference between a prostitute and a regular women if the men pays directly or indirectly for her services ??

[@Jeniffer61867]

Not much except that one doesn't sleep with multiple men and one does. One doesn't belong to a red light district and one does.

[@psychacks]

You can make that argument. However, it's probably more true (and less inflammatory) to argue that there's a transactional element to all relationships. Selling your time for sex is just a different flavor of "prostitution" than selling your sex for money.

[@modickens1272]

You answered your own question. One is direct the other indirect. Do you know why other women refer to a regular woman who has frequent and many partners as " cheap"? Because even they, perhaps consciously know they're all selling the same thing. So if one waits for an expensive diamond ring and multiple dates and dinners she's not considered cheap, yet the one that does it for fun or after a McDonald's meal and a walk through the park is. They're all selling, just some ask for a higher price, some are direct and indirect, but they're all selling.

[@carlosdixan112]

@@psychacks I agree with you my only problem is that when you point this out most women get upset . Great video anyways!

[@carlosdixan112]

@@modickens1272 great comment

[@brianrobinson3311]

I was already feeling pretty good as a 50 year old guy but now I’m flying high like a parade float.

[@mizravenkustoms]

I don’t know any young woman interested in going out with a 50 year old guy.

[@davepazz580]

It depends which 50-year-old guy... they're not all the same.

[@kurtvanluven9351]

I've been told that for me, 2AM is my peak attractiveness.

[@fxtrdr4]

Happy Birthday ladies!! 😄

[@goodlyantics.5243]

😂

[@lasvegasplease]

😂😂😂😂

[@cturdo]

Good to see data on what we already know.

[@VastChoirs]

holy christ, 50!? That's unexpected. I would have expected maybe around 32-35. This is some hopefuel; I'm 34 years old and feeling very good about the women I'm able to date but also feel pressured into finding a partner fairly soon. Maybe there's really no rush if I'm still basically on an upward trajectory.

[@agotahorvath]

Only if you are loaded and want to be a gold digger magnet !

[@angelika87]

yes, there is no rush for a man at 34. but like Agotha said you want a woman who likes YOU not just your money. so please stay fit, energetic and youthful as you age or you will just attract scumbag women.

[@bijoubijoux5185]

I think it's 30 for men. To say it's 50 is nonsense. I think this study is misleading. And the reason I say it's 30 and not 25 is simply because 25 year olds can get younger girls than 30 year olds but there is simply a larger population share of women past 22 than below within the population of women that take part in adult dating and women always want a woman who is a couple years older. In a 30 year old man's case, there are a lot of hot women in their 20s for that 30 year old man to date, even though they will be less hot than the 25 year old's options, though the 25 year old man has such a narrow slice of the population that want him. Most 19 year olds won't date a man who's 30 but 25 is fine. Most 18 year olds want a guy usually no older than 21. Most 20 year old women want a guy up to about 30 maybe. As for the 50 year old man, he's sought after most probably by women 35-50 years old, and this is an even wider age range, but who the fuck wants them? For that reason, I say it's 30 for most men. The reason I say most men is because most men never strike it rich. If they do, their options in non-sugar baby women will skyrocket but the only super young ones who will date them will be status obsessed/party girls who are more prone to using men, rather than old-fashioned romantic girls. In order to get girls romantically, even if you are rich, I think you need to meet a minimum looks threshold for women.

[@VastChoirs]

@@bijoubijoux5185 good analysis and i agree.

[@GearZNet]

@@bijoubijoux5185 I'm seeing a trend of men believing women want younger men and women saying they always had a preference for older men. 30 is too young as it doesn't account for the natural increase in mens wealth in their later 30s to mid 50s. Look around and you'll be shocked how many young women are into older men.

[@brianingram74]

To each other , it would have to be when their eyes are shut , or the lights are off .

[@MountainBlade]

This is cope. The peak attractive female is by and large not going to be interested in “peak” attractive 50 year old males. Women 30-60 sure, but 18-25 nope, why would they, they can find an attractive and accomplished man aged 25-40.

[@davepazz580]

It's all relative anyway...

[@OOCASHFLOW]

Great video. Any chance we could get higher volume in the future? Thanks

[@wepopew]

Does this apply to all age groups? I.E. do women in the range of 18-24 also consider 50 year old men to be more attractive on average?

[@mentoriii3475]

In rare cases i would say +7 years is the highest most women would date

[@js9273]

Hell no.

[@becca53444]

No they do not. I wouldn’t want a 50 year old even if I were 30.

[@OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOq]

It depends on the age of the women. They want two things: security and fun. Younger women prioritize fun. Older women prioritize security. Security = a provider, someone she knows will take care of her needs. Fun = someone who can fulfill her lust, need for experiences and adventure. Since women can’t always find the full package in one man, they attempt the following: Young women keep a main sexual relationship with the fun man, and have multiple provider orbiters on the side to string along for security. If we are talking about older women, chances are she is in a “committed” relationship with an older man, yet goes out on girls night for fun hookups to fulfill her need of fun. If you did a good job at screening women, shouldn’t worry about your partner engaging in this type of repulsive behaviors. Even though all women are capable, doesn’t mean they will all engage in repulsive behaviors, but if they, you can expect it to be one of these two. Millennia old wisdom says that all women have one hair of the devil. So one never knows really how a person might be or change. So to answer your question: Not likely at that age unless they have a kink.

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

Women here. Definitely not

[@Letsplay222]

A 50-year-old man might be most desirable by the totality of women, but I bet the 38-year-old man is most desired by the high-SMV women. And really that is what matters.

[@davepazz580]

Not all 50-year-old men are the same...

[@Letsplay222]

@@davepazz580 Ok, so you are 50 lol

[@davepazz580]

I'm not, but it doesn't matter... not all 50-year-old men are the same regardless. Some have kept themselves very well physically, some have not... some have progressed far in their careers and others have not... some look 60 or 70 at 50, others look much younger. Also depends what type of people you have around you or are fortunate enough to find... all these factors will vary and result in different outcomes for different men of that age range.

[@Sams911]

I'm 53 now and over the past 4 years have dated 19,21,24,29 and 33... I refuse to date women anywhere near my age... I take care of myself, stay fit and earn a top 1% salary.. that helps too.

[@nameless.greyceo]

Do you have any special diet to make you look young? Congrats champion

[@Sams911]

@@nameless.greyceo I don't man.. I hate to say it, but it's all genetics.. I smoked for 30 years, still use nicotine... I drink socially, and I eat everything including fast food.... just moderation .. I also work out every other day with weights ..

[@nameless.greyceo]

@@Sams911 that's great news to all that you still pulls those girls but aren't on anything strict cool man.

[@23DanielVincent]

Excellent video doc.

[@lillyhu7399]

Usually, desirable remains desirable over time. This study has only short term mating people in its sample so it is not a reliable assessment of desirability.

[@js9273]

Some people are at their peak in their early twenties (for a multitude of reasons they suit youth) and then go to pieces - but this is equally true of both sexes. Slightly more for men, if anything, because they are less likely to look after themselves.

[@ag1now]

Fabulous information! Thank you

[@billyb4790]

well as someone who just turned 50 this is the best news I've heard all year lol

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

as a woman, don’t be so gullible. It’s good that you feel well about your age but men’s peak is late 20s to mid 30s

[@sashangovender5327]

The generalisation about age decreasing a woman's attractiveness is only true within that woman's timeline. When compared between woman then it breaks down. There are plenty of twenty year old woman who are less attractive than 30 or 40 year old woman. In fact if a woman is deemed attractive in her 20's, say she's a 10/10, then in her 30's and 40's if she looks after herself, she can still be roughly at 10/9 or 8. A woman who is a 6 in her 20's if she looks after herself isn't going to be more than a 6 in her 40's.

[@davepazz580]

All that is true about attractiveness, but keep in mind that even the most unattractive woman in her 20's will *still* have that edge of having her reproductive "energy" on her side... a 30's or 40's super-hot woman just isn't going to have that.

[@MCharlerySmith]

Hey Dr Taraban, this is really surprising info. I expected the perceived desirability of men and women to be closer. Maybe that men are seen as most desirable at 40 and women around 25. Do you think this data is very US-centric? In parts of Europe, like the Balkans (Greece, Serbia, Bulgaria, Albania etc.) men often marry women who are significantly younger but they are usually quite well established by their mid 30's so they can support a young woman and a family. They are also usually still quite healthy. The 50-60 year old Western man is generally not that attractive; usually with a beer gut, bald spots, weather worn skin and yellower teeth. Does a woman *really* love a man like that or is it something else. Additionally, an 18 year old woman is *really* young. Can a 50 year old man enjoy any degree of stimulating conversation with her? Is she a gold-digger who will divorce him in 5-10 years? Can her body endure the rigours of regular sexual intercourse and even childbirth? Is such an age gap wise?

[@hathwayh3209]

Yea an 18 yea role can, in facts it optimum

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

an 18 year old is a baby.

[@GearZNet]

@@dr.jenniferma3914 Nope. Older women need to stop trying to infantilize the competition. 😂

[@b4vcu687]

you talk on womans behalf. you have no manhood . you are lowering your own values

[@aaronosborn7395]

Very well said. 👍

[@peakoilnews868]

I think the problem her is the word 'attractive.' A man might be more attractive when he is 50 because of the money and experience he has- but general attraction is a lot different than carnal attraction. Also- one has to wonder if this increase in metrics for attraction that happen to men in their middle ages has more to do with women's depleting value than a man's increasing value. In other words, because the amount of men a woman will attract at 35 is so much lower than it is at 21- she is forced to consider men that are older. Therefore men in their 40's and 50's get swiped on a lot.

[@peakoilnews868]

Think of it as the nursing home effect- because there are so many more women in a nursing home typically than men (women live longer) a man who barely ever got noticed back in his 20s might be getting more female attention than in his whole life before. That doesn't mean he is really his most attractive.

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

Excellent points!

[@JT-rx1eo]

It sounded to me like those types of variables were controlled for in these studies.

[@Ascension_3030]

No, the problem here is that facts dont align with your politically correct preconceived notions

[@JT-rx1eo]

@@dr.jenniferma3914 It should be rather obvious that mature male attractiveness is due primarily to the strength of the hypergamy instinct in women, not anything like "depleting female attractiveness". Lol. If so, older women would still IDEALLY prefer younger men. So why was the OP "excellent points"? Lol. Don't overthink it Dr., or skew the interpretation due to ideological bias.

[@MackDaddyVic]

I’m 29. So you’re telling me I will be desirable to younger women for another 21 years? Sweet.

[@thedarkstar7045]

Depends on your income.

[@adamd9166]

Very interesting! And I agree, this is probably much more accurate than a typical poll because it is pretty much anonymous so people have no incentive to lie. I'm not sure if you follow up in a later video, but do you mention which factors they tracked in terms of "attractiveness" for men and women? Other than age, of course.

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

Has to be financial success because that's what eliminates the young men most of the time. They don't demonstrate competence so they aren't appealing.

[@georgedang449]

Ppl actually lie on anonymous polls, because they try to convince themselves they're moral citizens. This is hard data points, not poll. It's actual messages asking someone out. The walk, not the talk.

[@don_e_b3233]

I'm 42 and can't imagine being any sexier

[@DaveNarn]

Woman jogging on the trail ahead of me stopped to chat me up as I was passing by her. I’ve got grey hair, she’s 20 years younger than me - so I was both surprised and a little suspicious. Even more surprised by her annoyance when after few polite words, I turned and continued moving on.

[@bigneiltoo]

Let young women tell you when you're too old, not women your age.

[@kevinlow69420]

Did you bang

[@frankdavf4599]

she needed help of some kind

[@edwardyoutube]

I believe the study may be slightly off due to the tendency of many really young and attractive women to go for sugar daddies. However, in the woman's eye, purely from a personal preference perspective, a man is probably most attractive around his mid thirties on average, when he retains most of his youthful look but also has more experience and better access to resources. And from the men's perspective the most attractive women would be at the peak of their fertility and youth, so around 20. Based on observation, we could pretty safely conclude that, all things being equal, a man's peak is about 15 years delayed compared to a woman's.

[@js9273]

Lol - I'm laughing at this idea that all women are at their most beautiful at 20 and all 20 year old women are more attractive than all 40 year old women. Sorry, but that's ridiculous. A 40 year old model will beat a 20 year old munter any time.

[@edwardyoutube]

@@js9273 That's why, if you actually had read, I clearly stated "all things being equal" exactly for the reason that I expected people like you trying to use extreme case scenarios to disprove the argument. We are talking "in general" and "on average" if it wasn't clear, just chill.

[@js9273]

@@edwardyoutube It's not that extreme - there are plenty of attractive 40 year old women and plenty of 20 year old women who are munters.

[@OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOq]

@@js9273nah I agree more with the other guy. His person experiences also match mine, and those in my life.

[@js9273]

@clipped6946 40 isn't "menopausal" and not all 40 year olds have baggage or a "high body count" (by they way, women don't want men who have been mad shaggers either - hate to break it to you). You just sound like a creep with comments like that (and no none likes creeps).

[@CheckYourPremises]

The most attractive age for men is when you make six/seven figures...

[@LemurKrazy]

That’s really what this study is saying.

[@bigneiltoo]

@@LemurKrazy It's also pointing out men never care about a woman making more money. Single moms send their girls off to college so mommy can be a Cougar with the 30 something guys who traditionally would have married her daughter.

[@WhateverWhateverwtghvh]

waht about sexual experience, leadership role, life experience?

[@dr.jenniferma3914]

@@WhateverWhateverwtghvh Yes, those are definitely high up there.

[@WhateverWhateverwtghvh]

@@dr.jenniferma3914 yes so its not just money, a 20 year old that makes 6/7 figures still aint shi**.

[@lonelyplanet2021]

We definitely don't live on the same continent and I would say we don't live in the same world either 😂😂😂. Good luck to both men and women from that research and dating apps 🖐️

[@FulvioGa]

WOW, as a man I watched this video just in time, as I am 58 years old, so I have still more than year of possibility to find a wife!

[@malcolmtaylor518]

And how many times do we see 60 year olds in a relationship with 20 year olds. ?

[@Citizen-by9vw]

Ooooooh, I love this. Thank you, sir

[@redrock740]

There is no such thing as "love". We live in a world of opportunists. Old men who prey on young desperate women. Young women who prey on old, desperate men. Good luck to all of you seeking a "real" relationship.

[@DTreatz]

Nobody is 'preying' on anything, these are _biologically_ based things, And 'real' relationships were never to begin with, all relationships all of human history have been transactions for survival and reproduction, love and romance don't exist and would be irrelevant if they did. cope harder

[@redrock740]

@@DTreatz In countries like Afghanistan, a 9 year old girl is sold as a bride to a 50 year old man. Does that mean a 9 year old bride is at her peak sexually? No, it means a poor, uneducated, backward society has created laws to fit the needs of a patriarchal society. Here in America, we have desperate young girls looking for sugar daddies. An 18 year old American woman would never marry and have children with a 50 year old man. However, many young women use old men and vice versa. It doesn't mean the young woman is physically or emotionally attracted to the 50 year old man. It just means a desperate young woman will sell her body to the highest bidder to attain resources.

[@carloferretti8956]

I think the 18 and 50 are the extremes. I think it’s more so ish early 20’s and early 40s.

[@chumleyk]

18 and 50? This probably wasn't Tinder, it was Seeking Arrangements.

[@aenigmatica8]

😂

[@js9273]

Ha ha - 100%!

[@Thoughtatnight]

The video volume are often low. I would recommend increasing it a bit.

[@peterrosqvist2480]

Women like men most when they're 50 years old? That's crazy old! There's no way!

[@Mysteri0usMem0]

i think the take away is: as a man if you apply the concepts of what makes a man attractive then your value goes up as your age up to a certain extent. its going to be different for everyone. the inverse is true for women.

[@josephpasquarella2123]

It’s not true the way people think it is lol. A 40-50 year old man who still has handsome looks, good physique, takes care of himself and makes a ton of money, sure is a magnet for a chunk of 20-40 year old women sure. But an extremely small percentage of men achieve these things at that age. So most 50 year old men are shot out of the market like most 50 year old women. But on average, it’s the handsome 18-25 year old guy who is cleaning up with young women.

[@taylorc2542]

A 50 year old man is attractive to 40 year old women. Not to a 20 year old woman. One 20 year old woman is worth 10 40 year old women.

[@exnihilonihilfit6316]

Yep, ask those peak women (18yo, according to the study) what they think of 50 year olds as BOYFRIENDS, and watch the hilarity that ensues. 😂😂

[@taylorc2542]

@@Rileyed Same. When I was 22 years old all the 22yo girls ignored me. I didn't start getting hot girls until well into my 30s.

[@rue883]

Desirable for what end? When I was looking for a wife, I went looking overseas. That was over 16 years ago, before passport-bro’s was a thing. I was talking to and attracting women 20+ years younger than me, but, frankly I had no desire to be raising my wife. I ultimately found someone 10 years younger, and was able to have a family (two girls). Men will absolutely find 18 yo more beautiful. I think older men, however, would prefer more maturity (say 25-29) women. The problem is the mental baggage. I personally didn’t want to deal with that, which is why I looked overseas.

[@kebman]

What I prefer at 45 becomes moot when priority number one is getting children before I become geriatric. Or well, I do have a clear preference for Western women, but I guess at my age I can't be choosy. On the other hand, it feels like such a cop out to find a wife in Asia. Also due to cultural reasons. I want to be able to enjoy a Western culture with my wife, and preferably a Norwegian one, where we can all be one happy family, enjoying lutefisk and fårikål together, without ever having to question other cultural differences than the strictly political.

[@Jeniffer61867]

My aunt got married at 40 to a millionaire man who is 46 years old . She's beautiful though.

[@bigneiltoo]

When I was 46 I was making $300K and dating a beautiful 20 year old. I'm probably better looking than your uncle.

[@KENZIIE_lol]

@@bigneiltoo Damn, what's your job title?

[@samsamiii509]

@@bigneiltoo ur just looking for a girl to control. Ur probably immature so u can't handle a women over 25 where there frontal cortex is fully developed

[@js9273]

@@bigneiltoo and in the morning you will still be a creep.

[@fast-trackhack6637]

Due to Hypergamy for the most part? 50 year old males are well-established financially compared to their younger competition.

[@Smital8789]

Wow 50 seems a stretch I know very few young women that would want to date a 50 yo old man when all the things the same a younger version is available… have to take this with a grain of salt this isn’t something I would take super seriously… have to consider the source of the data, 40 is more believable

[@gurglejug627]

The answer's easy - after a few beers!

[@itaintobeezy]

50 is cope realistically its somewhere between 25-40 for most men

[@itaintobeezy]

@@Wen6543 yeah that’s why I said most. There’s rare outliers to every rule

[@itaintobeezy]

@clipped6946 sounds reasonable as a general rule, people always want to point out the outliers though haha

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

As a woman (26) I agree with you

[@AtlantaSamurai]

These studies are accurate

[@ms.waterkoker6744]

This study seems very biased. I’m a 32 yo woman and never been attracted men in their 40’s or 50’s. Men are most attractive in their late 20’s or early 30’s and after that it goes downwards.

[@handsomeX]

Not when you're black. I'm 49 and basically stopped aging around 30🤣🤣

[@Ascension_3030]

you just dont like the fact that youre a depreciating asset, Should have gotten off CC a little earlier

[@ms.waterkoker6744]

@@Ascension_3030 men in their 50’s were not attractive even when I was at my prime according to redpillers

[@ericcarson342]

What happens when you turn 40? You won't be attracted to another 40 yo man? Looks wise, a man is probably most attractive in late 20s early 30s. But not necessarily most desirable. In general, women marry across and up in terms of education, social status, financial stability. Many men don't hit their financial stride until early 40s. Women are most attractive in their 20s and early 30s as well. The sneaky part is men don't care about a woman's resources, education, social status as much as women care about a man's. Not even close comparison. 32 is still very desirable for women. If a woman is in her early 30s and she wants marriage and children she shouldn't wait until mid or late thirties to settle down. Men who are in their mid to late 30s who are good looking, financial stable, educated are rare. They have lots of options, including women in their mid to late 20s. 32 yo is still most definitely prime age

[@Xxxxxrrr6464]

Thanks

[@ashleyy8724]

My sister is 20 and I am 29, neither of us would be seriously involved with a man who is 50 years old.

[@ashleyy8724]

@@gabbsdy8741 Right?

[@ericcarson342]

@@gabbsdy8741 A jump from a 37 yo woman to 50 yo is not unheard of. But yeah, probably most women who are 37 would not consider a 50 yo man. On the other hand, while a 50 yo woman would find a 50 yo man desirable. A 50 yo man would not find a 50 yo woman as desirable. Men in their early forties desire women in their mid to late thirties. It usually doesn't work out in the end when the woman is older. Unfortunately this is how men are, it's not going to change as much as women want it to. And women in their 20s dating a 50 yo man is extremely rare. I've only heard of instances never personally known of such cases. Well, most recent example is Marc Anthony, but I guess lots of money boosts a man's attractiveness level.

[@zensleep2321]

The older I get I prefer younger and younger guys. 😂😂😂😂

[@zensleep2321]

The older I get I prefer younger and younger guys. 😂😂😂😂

[@TheMediaMachine]

Not sorry to burst your bubble but the world is bigger than "my sister is 20 and I am 29, neither of us blah blah with a 50 year old." I see women aged 20 in casinos, dating men aged 50. I see them in Monaco and in richest complex, I see them at racing cars debut, I see them abu dubia, I see these women on yatchs with these 50 year old wealthy men, and in racing prix debut. If women in their millions will sell their bodies on onlyfans, on instagram, in porn sites, on god damn everywhere, you really think there are no 20 years ready to open their legs to a 50 year old rich guy with status. The "I'm different to other women, I'd never do that," virtue signalling doesn't take away that it exists and millions of young women are dating, in relationship and having sex with 50 year old men. It's happening.