How to be a better person: the unexpected driver of kindness

[@psychacks]

Many people want to know how to be a better person. In today's episode, I discuss the implications from one of my favorite psychological studies, which reveals an unexpected driver of kindness. In general, it is those with some measure of prosperity -- of having an abundance of resources above and beyond what they need for their own personal use -- who are most likely to actually be of service to others. Ultimately, one of the best ways to help others is -- paradoxically -- to first help yourself. Altruism study: psycnet.apa.org/record/1973-31215-001 Join my community: the-captains-quarters.mn.co Buy my book, "The Value of Others" Ebook: amzn.to/460uGrA Audiobook: amzn.to/3YfFwbx Paperback: amzn.to/3xQuIFK Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@oriontaraban Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jaO7c62HZ613e7M Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: kzbin.info/door/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #kindness #selfimprovement

[@chepeocampo3909]

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[@ernestocolosimo6634]

@@psychacks i bought your book

[@SH1V13]

Hi Dr Taraban, fantastic content as always. This one in particular got me questioning then - how can we judge kindness? I have in the past been quick to expel unkind people from my life, however, upon listening to this I realise I may have been wrong! They may not have been truly unkind, perhaps just too busy..

[@Mary_QQQ]

I disagree. Poor people are just as likely if not more likely to be generous with financial and non financial acts of kindness. Paradoxically, many wealthy people feel financially lacking, are greedy, and don't give to those in need, using victim blaming as an excuse

[@5metoo]

@@Mary_QQQ - He's talking about general tendencies, not exceptions or absolutes. Are you sure poor people are just as likely if not more to be generous with financial and non financial acts of kindness? I'd say some are just as likely, but as a group I highly doubt it.

[@GLDn1]

"Help yourself so that you can help others."

[@muffemod]

Yep!

[@thenewbohemian5779]

Ayn Rand?

[@QWERT-xp3qt]

exactly

[@rayg.2431]

"Put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others" - flight attendants. And they're right.

[@fateunreal]

My cousin was in a nasty motorcycle accident. He rear-ended a semi truck and He lost his arm. He was saved by a former army medic who was late for work. I am so thankful that he stopped even though he was late for work. There is no doubt my cousin wouldn't have made it if it wasn't for him!

[@dificulttocure]

The sense of urgency also has a big role here. Your cousin was in life or death situation so thinking that "other person may come to help him" is not really realistic. That same medic may have not stoped to help if the accident had been less severe, or to help someone in need in the streets.

[@user-dj4fd5vc6c]

The perfect excuse for being late for work, lol!

[@thenewbohemian5779]

Hoorah

[@robertvitalee7456]

He is a special 10% in the world

[@chevychelios4672]

He probably thought that since he was already late so why not helping him then; he would be still late anyway.

[@catielove5096]

"So much easier to help others if you have enough yourself." Truth. Appreciating your work and videos!

[@Mereologist]

It would be argued, ethically, that putting yourself in trouble to help someone else isn't SOLVING anything... it's just moving the trouble around. And while that is altruistic, I think we all can agree that rationally it would be much better if a person with SURPLUS didn't put themselves in trouble and helped the person who needed help. Assuming that person is around.

[@dekev7503]

@@MereologistI agree. Unfortunately when a loved one is in need you very often have no option.

[@hotdogflavoureddrink]

I disagree, you can do something right now with little.

[@joeg4466]

Spot on. I work about 13 days a month. When I got a 90%raise two years ago, I was finally able to be of great service to charity, friends, extended family. I didn't by a bunch of "things" to clutter my life. I have improved my mood (keeps the depression away) by active altruism. Helping others with money to progress in their goals has an altruistic multiplier effect. All this isn't possible without my 90% raise. The trick is to not want extravagant material things!

[@lindsayhooper2937]

How in the heck did you finagle a 90% raise?

[@StephenAR]

@@lindsayhooper2937 possibly a fifo mines worker - 90% is realistic in that sector

[@Free-Palestine170]

what job do you do

[@MaxScheibenpflug]

My goodness, do I agree with you. As for my part, yes, I also achieved this with the help of (inherited) money, but more so by simply switching to part-time and following your trick (no unnecessary material things) - I found this really suffices for most of the time, even more than having enough wealth.

[@FixNightimeGERD-e1k]

So true, that Llambo is really not going to be as great as you think.

[@Andomosity]

This leads me to believe that one of the biggest reasons we see less acts of kindness and less of people lending a hand to strangers today is because so many people "have no time" to try to help a stranger. This is super interesting because it makes you ask "why do so many people have no time to help a stranger?" And the answer is most likely because they are trying to get more money to ease the feelings of economic hardship. And getting more money requires more of your time (for regular W2 americans like myself). I try to do something nice to someone everyday so that I make it a habit. It could be as simple as letting the UPS driver pull out in front of you in heavy traffic. We are all going through our own struggles together. Kind actions create chain reactions of good, and the world has been missing a lot of that lately.

[@GhostRider-un9gm]

Interesting or obvious

[@Mereologist]

That's curious because I immediately went the other way with it. My first thought was, "So it's easier for me to be nice to people if I arrange to have more slack in my schedule. That's a thing I can do!" And I think it's a think MOST people can do if they only have a mind to do it. It's been said that productive people are ones who MAKE time instead of FINDING time. Your schedule is your own to do with as you please, if you are only motivated enough to do it! Who among us can not say that we waste ten minutes here or there that could be inserted into our schedule so we don't have to ignore sick people on the street?

[@ccrider8483]

This excuse that, I don't have the time, is pure BS in my opinion. Everyone has time for there cell phone.

[@gregbatchelor9205]

I think "I don't have enough time" is a highly understandable and justifiable shield mechanism that conceals the real sentiment: "I don't fully trust that you are deserving of help, and as such I don't wish to use my energy to help you in what I know is ultimately a zero sum game". There are so many, SO MANY liars, scammers, fake victims, people begging on the streets who aren't actually homeless, and parasitic predators sprinkled throughout the world, and the immediacy of communication through the internet and smart phones has only served to make this fact ever more apparent. Once burned, twice shy as the saying goes. Kindness may be given once, and if the only response is one that exploits and abuses the generosity of the giver, it is unlikely to ever be repeated. That's classic operant conditioning. Nobody wishes to be taken for a fool, and the world is currently grinding agonisingly through a realm of deep cynicism and selfishness, the likes of which even the baby boomer generation could not have foreseen. There will still be some selfless individuals here and there, and they will overwhelmingly be exploited for their kindness wherever such malevolence lurks. But that is the fundamental essence of being a good person: opening yourself up to injury again and again, and trusting that the other person will not injure you. As Jesus told his own disciples, "Take up your cross and follow me."

[@MarquosXoloVanda]

Unfortunately, in a diverse society where strangers are not from the same background, will breed distrust and unfamiliarity turns to hostility.

[@MVProfits]

The people I've encountered that were just "oozing goodness", seemed at peace, and friendly to others, were usually very successful people, that came from middle class or poor backgrounds. Those born rich usually are condescending, they just can't relate to "normal people". As you say, those stressed out with money and other issues are rarely in a mood to be exuding positivity and caring. Hence, if we go back to our favorite topic, ha ha, hypergamy, women sense this instinctively. They seek not only men with money, but with time too. That's probably less than 2% of men, probably less than 0.5% for men in their 20s and 30s. It's also why so many women with hard working men complain that "he doesn't take care of me" while he's working his butt off for her and the kids.

[@Shanieceflordi]

I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended few month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex boyfriend, and I can't seem to get him out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win him back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss him deeply and can't stop thinking about him

[@Mia1827]

I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.

[@Shanieceflordi]

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[@Mia1827]

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I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤

[@eliterun6214]

Heads up to those 10% who stopped to help! No matter what, there are always people who in whatever situation will still do the right thing.

[@logicaestrex2278]

I was gonna say, 10% are gonna be great priests lol

[@Timeismoney102]

Facts​@@logicaestrex2278

[@Jamesgarethmorgan]

But was that the right thing? Isn't that what he was pointing to? Executing your own promises - your own commitments - why should that be less important than helping out somebody else? How badly was the person hurting? Who knows. Then of course - we could get into the whole free-will conversation. Which would take things in an entirely other direction. Plot spoiler - you don't have any.

[@deded1057]

I agree wholeheartedly that we need to deal with our own s**t before we can be of service to others. Being married to a substance abuser - you clearly explained what life is like ...... now think about those of us living with someone without the skills to deal with life - and unwilling to reach out for the help they need.

[@rogerbartlet5720]

Bringing yourself up will bring those around you up.

[@IfSemper]

"Blessed to be a blessing"

[@JakeSpadely]

Thank you, Orion, for letting me know I’m on the right path. By solving problems for ourselves, we inadvertently solve problems for others.

[@jasontang6725]

Paraphrasing: "Before you point out the speck in someone else’s eye, first remove the plank from your own."

[@Pumiki]

The king of practical psychology.

[@miovicdina7706]

Yes, yes, yes, and YES. All true. ❤

[@dificulttocure]

I've developed a personal theory regarding morality and this study seems to be in line with it. Here it is: People essentially fall into one of three cathegories when it comes to morality: There are good people (around 10% of population). these are people who almost always will do the right thing and act altruistic regardless of circumstance. There are also bad people (again around 10% of population), which are people that will always look for personal gain in everything they do and don't care at all how it affects others. And then there is 80% of people who are in a moral grey area, and who's actions are determined by their environment and the context.

[@jamillawebb3567]

Doc this was a great video! I tell people all the time the best way to be an asset to others is by being an asset to myself. When I am financially stable, secure, and resourceful, I am better able to show up strongly for others. Also, I am a nurse by trade. I have a brother with special needs and my dad is legally blind - I’ve been a care giver and support person in my family for a long time. I have a HUGE heart and am driven to help others when I can. One external factor that greatly impacts my choice to help others is safety. Assault, identity theft, being robbed, etc are very real and if I am in a deserted area, it’s dark outside, or my intuition tells me something is a red flag, I will not go out of my way to help someone. Also society has changed. I remember my mom telling me in the 1970s she used to help and pick up hitchhikers all the time. I would NEVER do that today for a stranger. That is one of my safety boundaries.

[@perpetualprocrastinator]

💯

[@kentgibson]

Someone will notice your kindness, treat it as a weakness, and abuse you until your heart is a cold dark stone.

[@TimJohnston911]

True for you?

[@PublicScrutiny]

Thats why you need to sus them out early when they pull manipulation tactics on you. Just smile and ignore them. They will know that you also know who they really are.

[@balkh2769]

Things that helped me improve my life: Started cold approaches (even when I was scared). Watched videos like this one to get inspired. Read the book Celestial Soulmate by Lentlish (it helped me understand women better). Worked on my social skills by talking to everyone, not just girls. Focused on my career to feel more secure about myself.

[@astralisodyssey-i9n]

I also practice martial arts and never had a problem with confidence, but right now I'm reading the book you recommended, and I can tell you it's really good!

[@sandyovals]

Orion taraban with another banger, this guy doesn’t miss!

[@goonerash]

Pure fire...🔥

[@ernestocolosimo6634]

It's common sense, but not thought about much: People who can't help themselves certainly can't help other people. People who don't have abundance themselves don't have much to give to others.

[@adebowalegbenga4316]

I am lost for words for this guy... Orion Just a phenomenal person all round. You deserve all the accolades...

[@dauphinviennois]

Another out of the ordinary Gem 💎

[@ChristnThms]

I'll agree with you as far as you go, and then point out that you don't go far enough in two directions at once. 1. In a society that has idolized victim status, we can no longer assume that anyone is a victim of happenstance. It is FAR more likely that they've played a significant role in their own misfortune, and even fairly likely they've specifically orchestrated the situation for an expected indirect benefit. In either of these cases, any "help" does nothing to solve the real problem and potentially makes it worse. 2. The amazing comfort, security and abundance of the world we live in today is the result of lots of people working really hard over many generations. Any decisions that put this productivity behind other concerns is robbing future generations of these benefits. If you genuinely want to do the most good for the most people, work hard in a field that produces intrinsic value. That is: grow it, build it, fix it, or protect it. Everything else is bullshit.

[@Mereologist]

To your first point, I would argue that this is why no one should behave in any way unthinkingly. You don't JUST give a person who claims to be suffering what they're asking for... sometimes what a person is asking for is only going to harm them further. A prime example would be your average addict. Try to give someone what they NEED instead. You can fund shelters instead of handing money to beggars on streetcorners, and give out cards with the address on it. And honestly we all probably know someone who MOST needs a swift kick in the backside rather than a sympathy for a made-up problem.

[@ChristnThms]

@Mereologist hehe, I was trying to be a little gentler. But yes, 100%.

[@juanpedro5579]

I agree, doc. Been living like a monk (reduce unnecessary wants, commitments, busyness of me me me). Getting abundance of time, money, peace, and emotional bandwidth (and boredom). Used them to help others. Been helpful a lot throughout the year. Life is good.

[@zensvlognotapro]

I read something : our gift to humanity is our success . I agree because I, we experienced because I'm/we're blessed and abundant I , we helped more ,we give more literally . During pandemics we experienced abundance we gave basic goods to our family and others . I remember one boy told me he said to me in Tagalog " di ba binigyan mo kami dati ng milo " 😊 he remembered when we gave them milo and other basic needs because we have lots during that time.

[@anjunatuna]

You can't pour from an empty cup 🥛Great video today. Thank you for your wisdom. 🕊

[@humlakullen]

I think most of us are going through the same phases in our lives. When we are younger, we are more self absorbed, materialistic, and egoistic. The older we get, the more altruistic, humble and helpful we become. It’s a lot easier helping someone if/when you have the means to do it.

[@matthewbisso8852]

I agree with the basic premise of the video that you can't help others until you take care of yourself first. I also like the idea that discharging your responsibilities in the world is in itself an act of kindness to yourself and your community. I think you can always find time to be of service to others, even if you don't have a lot of time or money-there are always opportunities to help people around you and even small acts of kindness can have a large impact. Becoming more prosperous only puts you in a position to help others on a larger scale, but I have a hunch that a lot of successful people are prosperous, in large part, because they had a passion for being of service to others and found an avenue that utilized their natural talents and abilities to do so.

[@rawlanis]

Perhaps the most insightful takeaway for this year. Also puts having meaning and purpose into perspective. "Life is long if you know how to use it" - Seneca. Fully agree Dr Orion.

[@dont6441]

I've always felt that taking care of myself and not being a burden to others should be my first priority. There is a large and growing number of charities asking for donations but what good does it do if I don't have my own house in order. Take care of yourself, your family and the ones you love first, then help others if you have anything left.

[@yodurk21]

This is your single most important video you've done!

[@Luis913Barroeta]

I truly believe Orion is the modern Freud, mark my words he will be remembered long after we are all gone, absolute genius 💯

[@edheldude]

@@knowledgeispower200 You don't know Freud. It's like saying Newton was full of s because he didn't invent general relativity.

[@smg1707]

Agreed. He’s opened my eyes to many things.

[@alejandrowarrez7445]

I am not sure that I would be as altruistic of a person if I didn't go through the hardships I have endured. Just an idea, thank you for your insight Dr. Taraban.

[@dreambeam4735]

Wow, look at your growth! I knew you’d blow up quickly, fantastic content and consistency! I’m sure all the collaborations helped as well. Great job 👍🏼 A+

[@fliiguy247]

I like to be very intentional about the way I live my life and try to show people kindness despite my economic status in life and this lesson was so poignant because sometimes trying to be kind can be conditional based on my circumstance, running late was an excellent example. The good Doc just explained a major revelation I experienced in my 30s - 40s. You can show people kindness by being a shoulder to cry on or being there for them while they are going through the loss of a parent, or any of lifes other hardships and they will appreciate you, but someone could come along and give them $1,000 and they will show waaay more appreciation to that person. Kindness is not often recognized in its purest forms.

[@Thedeviousinalltheland]

The key to success in all areas of life lies in "the value for others". Become more valuable, and more useful, the more you have to offer. This channel taught me that, and it helped me build the mindset i do now. I appreciate all your videos orion, but this one is a great one.

[@josephoduor2358]

One can even feel irritated if for example a beggar on the street tries to beg you for spare change when you yourself barely have enough to pay the bills without going into debt.

[@disheveling]

As the body strives to mend itself, so too does the heart

[@Omniwoof]

"I haven't heard anyone else talking about this" I found this interesting because this exact concept is core to Libertarian philosophy. Charity is a personal responsibility. You can't effectively outsource it to governments - even corporations really struggle to be effective charities. Your personal success lifts up every else, too. Without perverse incentives, businesses that make money tend to so because they are efficient allocators of capital. This results in increased productivity, more employment, hire wages, and more free time. The best ways to help others is to be productive, be honest, and be kind.

[@jm7974]

While true, this breaks down because most people are completely unable to appreciate what "enough" actually is. They are completely unable to differentiate between want and need, running like squirrels chasing things they want but don't need, never clearing any head space to actually live.

[@zoraster3749]

Dave Ramsey talks about this. “If you will live like no one else, later you can live and give like no one else.”

[@munchingsquirrel5067]

I volunteer with a charity and sometimes I remark on the expensive cars owned by quite a few volunteers. It makes sense that those who have an abundance of money and time (many are also retired) are more likely to be in a position to volunteer.

[@janeentumbao8690]

This is excellent preaching you're doing here man! Now is the perfect time to see true human behavior. Thousands of people have been laid off, or have gone through a natural disaster, or lost a loved one or two. But that hasn't slowed down the crowds at the mall none, nor online shopping. People that were stingy all year long are now opening up their wallets because it's the holiday season and it's a tax write off. This is part of the reason I don't get people. 😂

[@0bsolet]

Best content on tube. Hands down. Blessed be Doctor!

[@chriscardwell3495]

Yes an extrordinary insight, really hepful. The people on their own treadmill don't realise, they cannot understand or want a different world. Obviously the people with more time - may also accept less perfection in their own lives - rather than having everything completely sorted.

[@ac4uv]

Ryan, This topic you've selected today is one that I've organically come to understand by the virtue of living on this Earth for 55 years and having enough TIME to think about how reality actually is. Something that was I was speaking to others about recently too. Having an abundance of time and capitol enables me to actually be a BETTER person. Your work is always a treat and I've learned much from you my para social friend. I'm cheering you on in your extremely helpful to humanity work. THANK YOU.

[@edmilsoncarvalho646]

God I love this guy content... Being struggling with this feeling of not doing enough for others but I look around and I've been barely able to stay afloat myself...

[@BentDog305]

7:06 oh my goodness you snapped right here Doc. The bandwidth is TAXXXXED 😅. thank you again

[@deannaphillips3177]

You’re 100% accurate on this. In fact the teachings of Christ prove exactly that as well. The more you give more will be given unto you.

[@ASTROJJEN]

Another banger. This is 100✨️ I think about this daily.

[@wchimesjim]

Brilliant ! That’s exactly what happened in my life . 🎉

[@AnonymousAccount514]

Awesome…I’ve always observed this in my own behavior…I’m glad to hear it has been studied and confirmed

[@michaelwilliams853]

This lesson ties into the lesson of getting the beam out of your eye before speaking the twig in our neighbor’s. ❤️✌🏾✊🏾

[@deded1057]

Living in a small community, I've seen it all.....the wealthiest fearing they might lose their money and become "poor" and so being miserly in their giving. I've seen some who have enough to get by give generously of their time and resources. I believe it has a lot to do with how people see the world.

[@mistercrinkles]

More flawlessness here. Great insight!

[@ash-shakirwhitaker7008]

You really jogged my memory (to a number of situations). One of them being when I witnessed a car veer out of control and I didn't have time to stop & help them. I called 911 WHILE DRIVING (with my phone on speaker of course). (So that I wouldn't be too late for work)

[@julianterris]

This maps with me Captain. The answer is not: "smaller slices of pie" it is "bake more pie" 🥧

[@tlz8884]

Thanks for this upload. I needed this perspective to solve a dilemma of the societal expectation of being always kind to others and the other side of being drained and empty. I realized the 80|20 rule is a good rule of thumb. 20% kindness and 80% putting oneself first. 100% is being kind all the time, which totally drains oneself.

[@shun2240]

The book scarcity brain dives into great detail on this, there’s the phrase help yourself before you help others

[@MatthewSmith-cp3hu]

chasing joy is often the fastest way to create problems, when i started spending my time and money on my problems changed everything in terms of working on my problems

[@DV-vn8rj]

Love this episode. Thanks for keeping variety of topics!

[@smithalan4267]

George Bernard Shaw addressed this contrarian view in his play Major Barbara i.e. become prosperous so that you may share prosperity. Keep up the good work Doc!

[@rockonhero3611]

I trusted your content before. But citing Seneca in the same way i would made me feel connected. ❤

[@natasza.mroczek]

Amazing!!! It is a thing I was noticing lately. When I'm late, I'm so stressed that any laws, people, don't move me - I just want to finish my goal, so egoistically!

[@bobhouse9331]

amen, another example of hitting the nail on the head!

[@Dustradio]

Well said, and timely for our day and age.

[@justinraymund]

This was awesome. Something’s clicked for me, and I feel I have a much clearer understanding of some things that went awry in a relationship that just ended, AND a deeper understanding of myself and human nature. And it’s so simple, and rational. Thank you!

[@JimBillyRayBob]

Yes, the best gift you can give to others is your own growth, and this is why. You require less of your own time and attention, so you have more to give to others.

[@mablebartlett]

Bam once again you hit the nail on the head. So impressed with your videos. Always looking forward to the next one. I’ve learned so much and greatly appreciate your insight and expertise. I bought your book, paperback, Kindle and audio so I can experience it all three ways. Through the audio twice now, but I only have paying attention while I was driving and falling asleep. My boyfriend listened to more of it than me, he likes it too ❤ amazing content, so glad I found you

[@Kristy_not_Kristine]

I have heard others speak about this, and I totally agree and we are working on getting to this point. Dr. Shanon Brooks at Monticello College in Monticello, Utah, talks about this.

[@Tiosh]

"Live like no one else so later you can live and give like no one else."

[@Abelius]

It wasn't counterintuitive at all. And man, this is so much bigger than just about helping people... Saving in the Hall of Fame of insightful videos.

[@Avoid_Low_Frequency]

Wow!!! What a difference things make when you look at life from this perspective

[@Aimlos]

Good video, it's why they tell you on an airplane to put your mask on first before helping others.

[@dont6441]

Good point

[@wulinwilliam8005]

謝謝！

[@johnneely9097]

Hello Doc, that was so good. Thank you so much.

[@FulvioGa]

Yes, that does fit with my own experience.

[@bryanbradford2742]

Excellent video!! Thanks for putting it out there Dr. Taraban🙏🏻🌞

[@robertohernansheridan]

Great content as usual!

[@der8984]

Imagine your Dad us Dr Orian❤

[@christian-s1i1w]

Yes yes yes! That's exactly my experience and my roadmap, thanks for phrasing it so eloquently.

[@kimberlysilveira7686]

Super interesting point that I've never thought about before! I love it when you make me think

[@stevehancock7925]

This is often spoken about by Dave Ramsey. In fact, giving from abundance is part of his debt free plan. You can't give what you don't have.

[@musicbrazilian7065]

You are hilarious and it make sense the most generous people I have met were free from psychological and material constrais.

[@mystykalmn4434]

Life is long if you know how to use it Stay focus and grounded KINGS

[@DavideMasserini]

Well said Doc!

[@SRL1996]

Most needed video in my life so far ❤❤

[@WORNTUXEDO]

Good advice, thank you

[@gordonosmundson3413]

Yes, I always used to be on a tight budget. Now that I'm past that I find myself being generous.

[@Pjm-028]

The only person I’ve ever heard merely mention this is Dave Ramsey, his step 7 of his “baby steps” - “build wealth and give”

[@aminaadam3617]

If you don't mind me asking,please what are the other 6 steps? I watch some of his shows.Good man

[@Pjm-028]

@@aminaadam3617 1. Save $1,000 for a Starter Emergency Fund 2. Pay Off All Debt (Except the Mortgage) Using the Debt Snowball 3. Save 3-6 Months of Expenses in a Fully Funded Emergency Fund 4. Invest 15% of Your Household Income in Retirement 5. Save for Your Children’s College Education 6. Pay Off Your Home Early 7. Build Wealth and Give

[@Pjm-028]

@ 1. Save $1,000 for a starter emergency fund. 2. Pay off all debt (except the mortgage) using the debt snowball. 3. Save 3-6 months of expenses in a fully funded emergency fund. 4. Invest 15% of your household income in retirement. 5. Save for your children’s college education. 6. Pay off your home early. 7. Build wealth and give.

[@danielwatkins6425]

Orion channelling his inner Jordan Peterson 👊🏻

[@megancyloneight9822]

💯

[@Sloby2023]

Other interviewers are very very average compared to Orion Teraban.

[@MarquosXoloVanda]

Eww

[@Doncold316]

such a good message!

[@willemvanriet7160]

Just finished your book. Technical and accurate description of the emotional environment we navigate when entering relationships. Well done! SO technical but I was able to follow and understand. Learnt a lot about myself and my current and future options in the sexual marketplace.

[@stean90]

Great episode thank you for your service.

[@davidwhyman1189]

Good one. At least, the start. I really haven't got the time to watch till the end.

[@luismendez3090]

great comment specially for xmas...... when people seem to think they help others

[@LeoTheIronLion]

I’ve never heard this perspective before. Another great video with a unique perspective on a common issue. We appreciate you Orion :)

[@DawnFromNZ]

Love your perspective on things. 😊

[@t23001]

Thank you. This is mind blowing.

[@Opaque.2theeye]

Thank you so much Orion, I have managed to become the best version of myself by enriching my inner circle before I manage to find my true calling. It is hard not to feel exploited when acting utilitarian tho.. I guess what I lack as a student is wisdom..