Trauma Dumping and Whoopi Goldberg

[@hope.0oo]

0:29 Trauma Dumping 5:29 Psychology and the Internet 10:23 St. Patrick’s Day Stories ☘️ 12:31 Whoopi Goldberg 14:16 The Holocaust 18:19 What Whoopi Said 24:47 Anna Delvey Show 32:30 Prejudice in Public 35:40 Racist and Hurtful Comments 42:22 Racist Grandma and Cutting Parent Off 47:40 Tip for Tough Conversations 50:10 Friendship breakup and Trans hate 53:42 Free Speech 55:44 Comparing Self to Other Women 1:00:06 Radical Self Love 1:02:01 Art Challenge, Inner Critic

[@victormartinezv2716]

Gang

[@janicehussock7735]

Thank you!

[@lydiaxnc]

A few years back I was going through a rough patch and finally gathered the courage to sign up for teletherapy. The therapist dropped me after 2 months becuase I "had too many problems and crisis." On the bright side, I told her that I felt her comments were hurtful and she apologised said she coulda worded that better. It's very validating to hear the "trauma dumping" discussion. Thanks Dr Honda!!

[@Sarah-mh5ez]

I'm just a stranger but wow, so sorry to hear this. I didn't even know a therapist could do that, but I guess, it's within their rights/rules (idk?) to do so. But that must have been really hard on you after working up that courage, so I am sorry you experienced that!

[@lydiaxnc]

@@Sarah-mh5ez Thank you very much for your kind words and support 😊

[@KimiSapphire]

I think in North America racism can be predominately viewed between POCs and White people. Sometimes it can be an American-centered construct. We forget that racism looks different in different places around the world and classification is different. So Whoopi might perceive it as not racist because her innate view of racism is between black and white people. That's how I took it anyway.

[@webbess1]

I think that's exactly it.

[@ACiDiCAnGeL]

This exactly!!!

[@deezname6417]

Yep! I had similar views when I was younger until I realized there were nuisances and that American racism is different than the rest of the world. Like the N word doesn't have any historical weight in S. Korea for instance. Humans are complicated, man

[@Gopher5000]

I'm Native on my mom's side, and she would always tell me, when asked where I was from, to ask the same question back in a curious non aggressive way. People have often seemed surprised and a little confused if they are white, but I try to find out where in Europe their ancestors are from and when did they come to North America. It's all about the power balance.

[@Gokce-Aysun]

I am pretty sure Jewish people originate from the Middle East. That is in Asia. It's strange how Americans define us as "white." But in Europe- we are not white at all. No one considers us white. I mean, my daughter is half Arab is not treated like white at all. Neither was her Moroccan father. He does not look white. My daughter kind of does, but as soon as people hear her name and get wind she is Arab- they treat her very differently. Romani have Asian ancestry too- they originate from India. I am part Central Asian- I look white- but I am not 100% white/European. Skin color should not define people- It's annoying it still does. Race should not define people either. Ethnicity defines us more than race does, but it mostly because ethnicity is more akin to our culture. Hitler was after Jewish people because they come from another ethnic group and culture. Not because they necessarily looked different. Because many f them were whiter looking than he was lol. And yeah... He needed a target to whip up a frenzy- that sounds about right. Actually interesting your mention that about acting like other people. My paternal great-grandfather immigrated here from Germany. He was supposedly Jewish. But my Grandmother never practiced Judaism. I think they dropped their religion all together. my paternal grandmother's grandfather came into the US around WWII era. I think she accepted my paternal grandfather's religion (he was an Irish Catholic). She allowed her children to all be baptized Catholics and attend Catholic Church anyway.

[@sugaredyoongi]

I remember when that trauma dumping video came out so many people around me where like "man I'm already paranoid about being too much in therapy, maybe I should really hold back more" and I'm just like nooooo

[@ltuerk]

“Trauma dumping” sounds like the trauma response attach/cry for help. It can go on the list with fight, flight, freeze, etc. If I understand it, my feelings of attachment to the therapist or person I’m confiding in can trigger this response in me- to cry and cry with desperation, and tell my story over and over. It pours out of me and I can’t stop. I wail. It’s Iike I’m drowning, and wrapping around my rescuer and pulling them down too. This behavior can easily overwhelm the other person, and they just want to get away. It can bring them to disgust or revulsion. In this state, I either drove people away, or they wanted to soothe and comfort me, and increase our attachment, which triggered me even more. It is not a state that makes it easy to get help, or register support when it is there. Part of the surreal nature of trauma.

[@mipsimips5627]

I honestly think that her opinion needs a lot more differentiation when talking about the Holocaust. :/ I mean Rebecca

[@a_Cynthia_Main]

"the radical act of self love"...never heard it phrased like that. As a reflexive critical thinker, that may actually work for me. Zip and Lock! Thank you! 😸

[@hunter_gt]

"When I'm having a really bad day I joke to myself I'm a monthly guest on Dr. Kirk Hondas podcast. You can't even touch that" 😂😂😂😂😆

[@bcoull290]

Lol Perfect.

[@em8066]

This discussion of differentiation and testing spaces for safety / corrective experiences after trauma was extremely fruitful for me to listen to. I wish goal-setting discussions involved specific therapy language and explanations rather than just listening to the wandering processing of trauma by the most confused person in the room - the traumatized. I also appreciate the discussion on distinguishing gaslighting (which I grew up with) from more mundane (but not necessarily benign) lying, manipulation, or avoidance that are popularly mis-labeled as gaslighting on the interwebs.

[@rw9707]

It doesn't bother me when people ask me where I am from. I just tell them where in US and then they ask me where my parents are from. I just think people are genuinely curious, or they are trying to make conversation. I also think what they actually want to know is my ethnicity, but they don't know how to ask.

[@rw9707]

@@annieclarf5367 I have heard Asian people say that when they give an answer like, lets say, 'I'm from Ohio', people ask back, 'where are you really from?.' Implying that a person who looks Asian is always an outsider and not an American. I understand it can be insensitive. But I don't take it personally because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. But if a person continues to say rude or disrespectful things, then I'd back off, but that has not happened to me. Also if you ask this question from my parents, they would be more than happy to tell you where they are from, although they are American Citizens now, because they aren't very sensitive to these subtle details and they take pride in their culture/nationality.

[@sB-wt5ov]

@@annieclarf5367 I am a 2nd gen immigrant and I find it othering most of the times because of how it is repeatedly asked. It almost always goes "Where are you from? No, but where are your parents from? But you are born here? Okay, well then you are from here." As if my first answer wasn't correct, and I need their apporval from being where Im from. The fact where I grew up it not something to have an opinion about. It is a fact. Like what school did you go to. It's not debatable. It is othering to assume I am not from here or being confused about it and not accepting Im from here. It doesn't mean I don't pride in my heritage and my parents culture, I just also am proud of myself and I just am not from where my parents are from. Im not an illusion, a liar or weird. Its just reality for many people around the world to be from somewhere where their parents are not from. That is especially true for Americans.

[@Authentistic-ism]

I thought "trauma dumping" referred to oversharing with someone who ISN'T your therapist (even if they are "a" therapist on social media). Your own provider is the one to talk about the trauma in depth and I understand "trauma dumping" to be a term social media content providers, who are often therapists and counselors themselves, are describing how their commenters and fans will over-share trauma stories on social media. So I understand it to be sort of a new term for a boundary a content provider must set about the replies they receive.

[@baintreachas]

also w strangers who tell you all their trauma, which is especially common even between non content creators online

[@Starme92]

Wow, Rebbeca’s comments about the holocaust and and the internalized antisemitism is painful to listen to.

[@suras8984]

I caught it too but Im hoping that she was just trying to elaborate what Whoopi meant and isnt necessarily what she thinks.

[@Xengaa]

I'm a first-gen Canadian, My parents and relatives all immigrated to Canada in the late 70's from South Asia. I was a chubby kid, and my weight has always fluxuated over the years. About 6 years ago, I decided to take on a healtheir diet and worked out. My parents didn't think I was gonna keep up with it, but I handled it for 2 years straight. My parents and relatives made me SUPER paranoid about gaining weight cause they would always compliment that I was at my "skinniest" they had ever seen me at. Once I started gaining due to stress from a hectic university schedule and then depression/ anxiety, I hid from everyone, especially in 2020-21, including friends, because I was ashamed to show them that i had "let myself go", and talk about it behind my back.Their words/ comments really got ingrained in my head over the years, and I still feel embarassed to this day about my body.

[@abandonablesnowman]

Kirk yelling at potential body shamers 😂 I love him

[@teta6244]

she uses a Jewish Stage name to make her millions but doesn't have respect for the culture or history. she literally said it's just white people fighting white people it's not about race. I seen the original before they edited that out .... How limited is her empathy, Caryn Elaine Johnson is a smart woman but her ignorance was shown

[@tulip5210]

8:30 yeah we had a bunch of therapy memes on Facebook that promoted that concept, thank you for explaining i learned it from that and i appreciate being corrected.

[@kate4biglittlevoices]

Trauma dumping ime can look like and present in many circumstances and examples - It can be the general misplaced expression of grief , wether the mis placement be in the form of the wrong way or form for example poor coping skills or acting out as a cry for help, To inappropriate environment, such as asking for a cashier in public to listen to details of a particularly sensitive tragedy and make a weigh in Or lack of recognizing boundaries which is super common , for example, at your work, you need to have a conversation in private w a supervisor to explain the nature of your upcoming off work request and privacy concerns over a private or legal matter , and not knowing where the lines are of communicating for therapy and support emotionally vs strictly speaking about particular off days needed

[@janicehussock7735]

I suffered domestic violence growing up. Did very well. Then was in agony for 25 years with neuralgia. One said I was too complex. Only one. I am glad bc I knew to run. But I had years of private therapy. I do like gauging a therapist before details.

[@annieclarf5367]

He said he’s reacting to TikTok on KZbin?? Where is this??? 👀

[@carr0760]

I'm only aware of one video from 7 months ago where he talked about people taking DID on TikTok.

[@tulip5210]

13:50 honestly in america people were so mixed in both white sub white looking ethnicities (irish with danish ect) and African sub African ethnicities (Nigerian and Libyan) especially Africans. I don't think they got to have a concept of what nation their ancestry was from due to slavery separating families and they all became one mixtute of several, so i think for many African americans from that origin its harder to seperate color from race/ethnicity bc to them it might all just feel like one. In reality in places that aren't super mixed that concept of race and ethnicity has more sub branches to it like in europe or in asia and is acknowledged more as such.

[@SamaraTrollero]

Hitler's whole thing was that the Arryan race is the superior race (blonde hair blue eyes), so the main drive was race. I think she just sounded uneducated.

[@catifexart274]

0:28 Trauma dumping, burnt out therapists 5:30 SUpervised by the internet 8:00 gaslighting 10:00 St Patricks 12:29 Whoopi Goldberg & the holocaust 24:50 Anna Delvey 32:30 Prejudice, racist comments, inappropriate comments from family 48:55 Homophobic or transphobic comments, free speech 54:50 Feeling inferior to other females, self love, anger, inner critic Thank you Dr Kirk Honda, Rebecca and The Podwife

[@tulip5210]

26:30 oh girl i watched an interview of her and i would of been conned she seemed so legit and like she was telling the truth. And i was like bruuuh the way her tone is feels so honest and authentic but its not 😭

[@meg1955]

"Motivated memory" is what I call "convenient memory."

[@palomamartin6625]

The reason Jewish people has to wear the star in concentration camps was because they were only one of the groups persecuted in the holocaust. Other groups were gays, disabled, Gypsies and each had a different tag to be identified. It seems like Americans are under the impression that Jewish were the only victims of the Nazis, but this is not true. In fact, the concentration camp in Germany, near Berlin only had around 11% of Jewish people there, and the rest belonged to the other persecuted groups. So it was not really about race only, but about the people they consider superior and inferior.

[@suras8984]

Oh wow I did not know about 11% I would have assumed it was more like 80-90%

[@palomamartin6625]

@@suras8984 I read this number when studying about it a few years back but I can’t find it again. But the inmates in Sachsenhausen were political enemies (socialists, communists, anarchists), “asocials” who were seen as work-shy (addicts, alcoholics, Gypsies, lesbians, and those with intellectual or physical disability), and lastly gay men, or anyone who would now be labeled as queer. Most prisoners there were German, with only a small section for imprisoned Jews.

[@Starme92]

Nazi Germany used six extermination camps (German: Vernichtungslager), also called death camps (Todeslager), or killing centers (Tötungszentren), in Central Europe during World War II to systematically murder over 2.7 million people - mostly Jews - in the Holocaust.[1][2][3] The victims of death camps were primarily murdered by gassing, either in permanent installations constructed for this specific purpose, or by means of gas vans.[4] The six extermination camps were Chełmno, Belzec, Sobibor, Treblinka, Majdanek and Auschwitz-Birkenau. Auschwitz and Majdanek death camps also used extermination through labour in order to kill their prisoners.[5][6][4]

[@PranksToYou]

Whoopi Goldberg and other view hosts also have mocked people on tiktok for using gentle parenting methods.

[@ooze8354]

Doc: dont you know who I am? Me: welcome to the internet doc :) but you already know

[@tulip5210]

6:14 bro I so noticed that. I hate misinformation.

[@s.melonita4454]

Oh my gosh, can't wait to hear anything from you about Whoopi Goldberg.

[@Elle-xf8mw]

Ourtext insta account!!!?

[@tomburns5231]

Request: could you put the pronouns of guests in the video description?

[@Elle-xf8mw]

also i missed the Insta page name!!!!

[@suras8984]

Lets not turn this channel into a woke channel. Over 99% of people identify with their assigned sex so the chances of you getting it wrong are slim to none. 99% + accuracy rate is high enough to not have to request this change. The 0.06% will let you know their pronouns without having to ask.

[@Elle-xf8mw]

@@suras8984 It is none of you any business to dictate people what to ask or not! This channel is a "woke" channel, to stupidity! Listen and learn! In case people's communicating with the Dr bothers you go get therapy! Apparently this channel hasn't thought you anything!

[@likeagenieinabottle1591]

First!