Q&A | Why We Got Divorced

Answering some of your questions about my divorce and what life looks like now! Please keep in mind that my answers are from my own perspective and there is always more than one side to a story. Relationships and marriages are complicated but I'll always be grateful for the years Corbin and I spent together.
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Hi, I'm Kelsey! This channel has gone through all kinds of phases. But, for its newest chapter, I would love to share with you all my journey of self-discovery, healing, and rebuilding my life to be one that feels absolutely aligned and authentic. As a mama, I hope to teach by example that it's a gift to the world to truly be ourselves, mistakes are really just lessons, love and gratitude are superpowers, and the answers we seek are already inside of all of us.
I believe life truly is what we make it and I want to make the most of it!
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Kelsey Selene

[@blancaschintu604]

I'm speechless. I can only thank you for being so open and brave, and for having shared this with us. I hope you can heal fully (I know you will, you've always been so strong). I love watching you videos, and this one feels extra personal. Thank you again for sharing everything, for setting your own boundaries with the information you share and for always being who you are. I love every version of you, but this new one feels special, glad to see you back Kelsey Selene ❤❤

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much. This definitely was an extra personal one, but if felt right to share not just for myself but for others who might be going through similar things. Your support means so much 💕

[@ABCpdc]

Well done, Kelsey. I think you have been very open but also very considerate of your entire family. My favorite videos have always been you just sharing your day as it unfolded (think: up in the morning, drink coffee, let out Paris, plan your routine…) I know so much has changed and bless you as you grow into your new life. I look forward to what you have to share.

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much! I have a vlog coming next :)

[@KellieRudd1]

You are such a beautiful soul. I hope Corbin knows what a gem you are. Love and prayers from Tennessee!

[@janetdamboise6225]

That was a beautiful Q & A and you did a wonderful job! I'm so looking forward to watching your new videos. You are so special God has your back just keep the faith! Love you bunches!!!

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much! Means a lot 💕

[@cmtb8202]

Thank you for your open and honest response. I think you have a good mindset going forward and I wish you both the best!

[@JanaD1985]

Kelsea I’m so proud of you. I think your life is going to be 1000% better moving forward ❤. You’re a wonderful mother and person and I have no doubt you will succeed with whatever it is you want in life.

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you thank you! That means so much ❤️

[@louise8752]

That was a beautiful description of the answer to the "big" question. Much appreciative of your thoughts and self-awareness. Much love to you both

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you, I was very intentional with what I felt was called for and respectful to share

[@mariahancock8468]

Wishing you all the best! Love seeing you so open. You seem more comfortable now. Keep being you and live and love life to the fullest! Life is too short to be awful! ❤

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much!!

[@connie2264]

I’ve followed you and your family since before your van trip and I have to say over the last several months your soul feels at peace. While separation/divorce is so hard I feel like you two took your time and did what was best. I hope you two at some point in the future after you heal can find a friendship again. Thank you for sharing what you felt you could.

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much ❤️ I've still got a lot to process and move through, but yes, overall I do feel at peace.

[@haleyglover2242]

Hey Kelsey! I've been watching you guys since the van trip and I stopped a while back and just found your new channel as I am currently going through my own separation and soon divorce. I'm excited to see you go through this new phase of life 🥰

[@KelseySelene]

Sorry you're going through the same thing! Sending so much love and strength to you! ❤️ New chapters together!

[@kimrothe]

I married my high school sweetheart at age 18 (met at age 15). We will celebrate our 39 year anniversary in May. We had some rough patches in our marriage (more than I care to admit), and contemplated splitting up, but ultimately we decided we were better together than apart. We have 3 adult children, and I hope we were able to show them how to get through difficult situations. We did what we thought was best for us and our family, and you and Corbin did what was best for you and your family. I hope that you two will be able to become friends again in the future. And who knows, maybe someday in the future you two will find your way back together as new and improved versions of yourself. May you find the love and happiness you deserve.

[@KelseySelene]

Absolutely, no marriage is easy and I’m so happy you and your husband are celebrating and incredible 39 years together. Truly amazing 💕

[@AatikaJabeenAbdul-Khaliq-ko9xn]

​@@KelseySelene make a pizza home and make a morning routine and weekend routine l say this message from aatika aabdulkhaliq please thanks you 👍

[@stephaniehastings6364]

You are an AMAZING woman Kelsey!!!! Getting a divorce is VERY traumatic, especially from your standpoint as high school sweethearts. But you are definitely a STRONG woman and you will persevere through all of this and get stronger with every passing moment. Something my dad used to always tell me during difficult times I faced was "Don't sweat the small stuff, and it's all small stuff"!!!! And also " One second, One minute, One hour, One day at a time"!!!! Love you, and am so happy to see you back here posting. BIG hugs to you and Juniper and Tabor as well. ❤❤❤❤

[@KelseySelene]

Love those words of wisdom from your dad 💕 thanks for sharing and for your support

[@tealpolaroid]

So much love for you Kelsey 💓 your answer to each question was so thoughtful and intentional. Thank you for setting boundaries with yourself and the public on what you want to share right now. Sending you big hugs and patience and prayers for all the moments that you ache to see your children. Whether this be birthdays or bed time, I hope God gives you strength to get through it. I know its easier said than done, but try not to torment yourself by analyzing everything that could have resulted in the shift. You may never know, there might not even be a reason that makes sense. If it was something you did, know the version of yourself during that time was doing their best. But also, it might not be a you thing so dont punish your past self for things she didn't do. The way things unfold sometimes are so frustrating. You are handling a very hard chapter in your life with so much grace. You are stronger than you can even fathom right now. But I am excited when you get to the other side and are like "damn... I really got through all that and am better because of it". Thought of this quote while you were talking about growth: "something very beautiful happens to people when their world has fallen apart: a humility, a nobility, a higher intelligence emerges at just the point our knees hit the floor" - Marianne Williamson

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much for your beautiful words- they mean so much to me ❤️

[@livinglifeforward4560]

This video was so good. I am also a people pleaser and i am working to not always be that. Counseling has helped me.

[@Jackert86]

Just halfway through this video - but wow, and yes. Very inspiring. Thank you so much❤ all the very best for all of you and your Journey to find what you're meant to find🙏🏻❤️

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much! Really means alot!

[@Jackert86]

@@KelseySelene 🙏🏻❤️

[@Jasminerainl]

I’ve watched you for so long and used to make KZbin videos of family content as well. I also married my highschool sweetheart and got a divorce last year. I have a 6 & 4 year old and I am so empathetic toward your emotions surrounding less time with the kids. We’ve been separated for two years and it’s STILL hard. But I do feel the pros out weight the cons and I’ve truly never been happier or felt more fulfilled in my entire life now that I’m on my feet more.

[@KelseySelene]

Exactly- it’s SO hard, but still feels like the right decision. So sorry to hear you’re going through something similar. Sending so much love

[@eijaj5997]

I dont know how to really convey this, but I HEAR everything you are saying in this video. I sense it. And I love what you have found for yourself, the conviction in your inne self somehow! It is so powerful.

[@KelseySelene]

Wow, thank you! Thank you for hearing me 💕

[@heathersoper5491]

This is perfecting timing! I used to watch you all the time and have always thought you had such a beautiful soul. I’m sorry to hear your going through divorce. I’m also going through a divorce from my sweetheart after 10 years. We will be okay.

[@KelseySelene]

So sorry to hear you’re going through it as well 💕 sending lots of love and yes, we will be ok

[@gracerequa7663]

Wow you guys will be my favorite youtubers, and my heart go out to you! When is the next video?

[@KelseySelene]

Im posting weekly videos on Wednesdays for now 💕

[@Hebrews123]

I remember when my daughter was in high school she was struggling she was talking with me about a problem she had, I by nature am a fixer, I immediately wanted to fix the problem to please her, she looked at me with frustration to declare stop she said “mom you have to let me figure this out otherwise I can’t grow” You are grounded you are growing you are such a beautiful better Kelsey

[@KelseySelene]

Wow! What a strong and wise teenager she was! Amazing

[@kellymalnar]

I really enjoyed this Q&A! Good luck to you in this new chapter.

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much!

[@darlenesmith7680]

Hey Kelsey! I am so sorry this special relationship ended in such a heartbreaking way. Let me say I admire your honesty and I admire your trying to respect what "was" and what could one day be. Your kids will love both your devotion to them despite your personal heartbreak. It will teach them more than you can begin to know-and you'll be happy for your choices. You do however deserve to live in YOUR TRUTH and YOUR JOY! Life is too short to not live each day as happy as you possibly can. I am blessed to be a part of a 47 yr marriage that began as high school sweethearts. We have a daughter..a son and 7 beautiful grand babies. FOREVER LOVE and FAITHFUL DEVOTION is very possible. Don't stop looking for your love Kels. I have followed yours and Corbins lives from DAY 1. I pray you both hold onto the best memories shared and build a life long bonded friendship from those times. Have a really great day! And by the way-- you look gorgeous! 🤗

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much! Yes, I still believe in love and I’m excited for whatever life will bring me along this journey

[@joane.3533]

How did it end? What happened?

[@audreyweaver7691]

I'm so happy your doing well I was so excited to see you uploaded a video😊

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much!! And thanks for watching 🫶🏻

[@libbygarcia6354]

You worded this all so beautifully. Growth is so wonderful to watch. 💚

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you! I tried my best to be honest and considerate

[@nakiasmith4086]

I will Pray for you guys 🙏🏽

[@meortiz23]

i also wanted to add I understand your POV. My mom always said that she always wanted to be a mother a full time mom (now I know it was because of past traumas) and that made me idealize the idea of being a mom. Now, me a 30+ year with 3 kids resent my mom for idealizing it. She never made it realistic to me. I grew up feeling like I needed to be a mom in order to feel fulfilled and while I love my kids more than anything I am not passing that to my girls. I want them to know that there is so much other things that can fulfill you in life!! also I married my actual middle school sweetheart and after we almost divorce we realized that we needed to prioritize our individuality. Our marriage cannot survive without it. There is so much that comes with it from dividing the finances (we each pay separete house bills and still control our own paychecks), having our own alone-friends time, etc. We are separate individuals that chose to be together. Autonomy is super important! But there is also so much that you have to know about yourself, be confident on your decisions, etc. If you are a people pleaser, emotionally dependent on someone is practically impossible to do it. So i get it, understand it and respect your decision ❤

[@KelseySelene]

I’m so glad you found a way to make it work! Thank you for sharing your story 💕

[@spiraledbeing13]

I'm so glad you're continuing with YT! Can't wait to cheer on your journey of self discovery. How fun ☺️ Perhaps a PNW meetup sometime?! Much love! 💜✨

[@KelseySelene]

That's a great idea! 🌲🌲

[@starshine3248]

I used to follow the wander family channel whenever I could, but after you moved back to Idaho, things seemed different. I think a big shift happened around the Mexico trip. Wishing healing blessings to you all...and don't forget to be where your feet are ❤

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you for your love and support 💕

[@unique45]

All the best on your journey. You made a tough but necessary decision. PS: I miss seeing little Juni

[@shinewithheart]

I know this was hard. You gave a beautiful explanation. Sending love.

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much! 💕

[@dannydanny9875]

I'm glad you found happiness in your future vlogs

[@aqz-xx5hq]

We’re you and Corbin separated during the road trip to Grand Teton NP? Just wondering since you said you and Corbin were separated for a year before divorcing and the video was posted in May of 2022. Also, as a viewer since the van times - I am very proud of you for doing what was right for you even though it was hard. Divorce is never easy but you and Corbin seem to be handling it with incredibly maturity and care for your children’s well being. You seem much more sure of yourself and your needs and desires. Thank you for keeping us updated even though it is never expected. You are wonderful, Kelsey! 💛

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you so much! It’s definitely hard but I know we’re both moving in directions that are better aligned for each of us.

[@SimpleSpaces]

I married my high school boyfriend when I was 21 we had been together since I was 16 and we had 3 kids together. We divorced about 5 years ago after 10 years of marriage. I have grown so much as a person since we separated. I have truly never been a happier person, never grown so much but also never been in so much pain. It was a really hard time in my life. But today I am in a new wonderful relationship that is healthy and I went into knowing who I was. I am also 30 weeks pregnant and it’s such a different and wonderful experience. Also PS I think we live in the save town if I remember correctly ❤ hope all the best for you and your kids and this new and wonderful journey.

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you for sharing ❤️ I’m so glad you’re in such a loving and beautiful relationship now

[@livinglifeforward4560]

Hey I am in Nampa!

[@nakiasmith4086]

0:01 Welcome Back Kelsey, We miss you!❤

[@Louise-zs9rl]

Seems like it was both amicable and mutual. All the best Kelsey

[@brielizabeth3986]

I 100% feel your pain in your divorce. 3 weeks ago, I officially got divorced, for the 2nd time, but it was really good because he almost beat me to death while I was pregnant with our daughter and he now denies it. He also was a manipulative narcissist. But just because he was all that and did horrible things, it doesn't mean we didn't have great times together and thinking about those times after separating, was tough. My kids definitely helped me through it and my Twin in Heaven who passed 12.3.2017. I believe you'll find someone better. I know having everyone together like it should be in the future sounds nice but you never know that you'll find someone better. After 2.5 years of arguing and everything with my exhusband, I found someone who is the definition of a dream man and I'm blessed beyond words to call him mine. One thing I learned through the 2 divorces, was never let anyone tell you to stop crying or when/where to cry. They don't know what you've been through, what you guys shared and the memories you guys made. Keep strong because you're doing an amazing job. It will be super tough, feeling like you wanna give up, but you got this!! ❤❤

[@KelseySelene]

I’m so sorry for all that you’ve gone through ❤️ I’m so glad you’ve found peace and love now

[@Maddieeyounggg]

hey mama! i just watched ur vid and i loved it. new subbie!

[@KelseySelene]

Thanks for subbing! Welcome and hello!

[@tinatijerina-ch2ev]

I never thought this would ever happen I'm sorry but u both are both great people god bless u

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you ❤️

[@anirishlass1222]

Delighted your back ☺️

[@KelseySelene]

Thank you! 😊

[@trishab2147]

You've grown exponentially in the last couple of years

[@stephaniemoore7889]

I love watching your KZbin channel

[@SykesFam]

This was beautiful. ❤

[@KelseySelene]

💞💞

[@meortiz23]

well this is how I see it from the outside and im probably wrong but i feel like you outgrown him and he just have a lot of resentment. And thats okay. one day you'll guys will past that and figure it out. He needs more time healing, not that you don't, of course you need time but in a different way. You wanted and need it the change, and even when he new and maybe agree it had to happened he probably didn't actually wanted it. I really hope you guys can move past that soon for the kids. ❤

[@dearleah7299]

Not knowing them personally, how do you think it’s even appropriate to make these assumptions? I guarantee you don’t know facts of the matter and their real feelings.

[@valerydrobny2126]

where's your dress from?

[@KelseySelene]

It's actually a velvet cami paired with velvet pants, and it's a fully thrifted outfit form the lacy jacket to the belt. Thrift stores are treasure chests! lol

[@AatikaJabeenAbdul-Khaliq-ko9xn]

why are you not doing morning routines from aabdukhaliq

[@lindyque]

Your art♥️your jewelry ♥️

[@dearleah7299]

Why would anyone think it’s their decision why you and Corbin divorced? I’m so sorry people are nosy.

[@SamTravels]

Wish you both the best ❤

[@KelseySelene]

Thanks so much

[@heleneolsenthunem307]

What a great video ❤️

[@KelseySelene]

Glad you liked it!! 💞

[@tealpolaroid]

Cross posted under the goodbye announcement on family channel but wanted to up the chance that you got to read it ❤ Cheers to both of you. Thank you for the parts of your life that you shared publicly. I must have started watching around the time Corbin proposed? Just woke up from a nap and thought to search up the channel. I haven't watched for a few years but these must be my favourite moments you shared with us since they're the ones that have stuck around. 1. When Kelsey got to meet Ollie for the first time. The way you sobbed so genuinely. Pure love. Ahaha this one has got me teary eyed even now. Seeing you guys as parents even now brings me back to that moment. Every moment of your pregnancy with Juniper I was so grateful that you got to be parents. 2. When Corbin proposed. 3. Some giant statue you saw in Italy? Maybe David? I don't recall. You never showed us on the vlog but when you were telling us after the fact, you said it surprised you for some reason. I literally cannot remember why this one has stuck with me. In my minds eye I see Kelsey vlogging while walking down a street talking about it. I wonder what it was she said that has made me keep this memory. 4. The wedding channel. This is where my love for thrifting must have started. All the things you collected to decorate the tables. Im glad you kept "Wandering to a Wedding"?? Only for that specific time and didn't overdo it. I remember the burlap and silver dishes and the wonder of all these "found" things that worked together beautifully. 5. Juniper's change table in the closet. Did it have green walls? You guys made the smallest space so functional and special. 6. When Corbin got his tree tattoo. My sister had done a very similar henna tattoo on my hand that was still there when you revealed the tattoo. I thought it was the absolute coolest thing and like I was connected to y'all. 7. This one I actually need to go look for now. Some video where you were uplifting us and accepting us and showing that good people still exist. You gave love in a time it was very much needed. You talked about Muslims or maybe Hijabis specifically? I felt so genuinely seen and safe. Anyways, thank you for these moments my brain has kept and for all the rest that brought me joy while originally watching. You enjoyed life for what it was, and were not consumed by capitalism and living disingenuously. You really lived in the moment. The parts we got to see were so healthy and wonderful. Like that real fairytale love that you don't think is possible but makes you feel so soft and squishy on the inside. Highschool sweet hearts, traveling the world, having the cutest babies and living in a small space with enough kindness and compassion to fill a mansion. I only saw a tiny part of your lives but it was parts that made me so happy and healed some of those inner child wounds. I'm glad you're privatizing those special moments and not deleting them. I wish your guys' family all the best things the world has to offer as the kids get older. 🥰

[@sheilamataraza1297]

Can you do a video on ecstatic dance? What is it? How is it done? Can kids be involved etc. ?

[@KelseySelene]

Yes! Absolutely!

[@KellieRudd1]

@@KelseySelene I would like to learn more about ecstatic dance too!!!

[@bjmehl2009]

Have your religious beliefs changed? Ecstatic dance seems to be related to pagan rituals.

[@ashleighdogs6161]

@@KelseySelene would you ever get back to get together with your ex husband

[@kellyjardine4856]

😊

[@Sassygrannyvlogs]

💟

[@thebusinessplanheavilin2341]

To be 100% honest I always had the thought that you were some crunchy granola tree hugging hippie wanna be but I saw a venerability in you this video that made me recognize you in such a different light. You are strong. You are brave. You are being true to yourself in a way so many others just couldn’t. I apologize for my uninformed opinion. You really are going to help a lot of women.

[@KelseySelene]

I am definitely a crunchy granola tree hugging hippie wannabe- but also so much more than that. Thank you 💕

[@rt3156]

Thank you.

[@KelseySelene]

❤️❤️

[@DBE62610]

Your speaking to me as my husband wants a divorce

[@DBE62610]

And we share a daughter

[@KelseySelene]

Sending you love and strength- no matter the situation you'll make it through

[@suethort]

You’re adorable and beautiful

[@KelseySelene]

😊 thank you

[@leahh2654]

🥱🥱🥱

[@MePreeta]

Hello from India .... U r brave n beautiful

[@KelseySelene]

😊 thank you

[@DewberryCream]

New sub 👍

[@KelseySelene]

Awesome thank you! 💕

[@bkang]

This video was so beautiful…..it’s lovely to be able to listen to your open heart and wisdom for longer than an Instastory! Sending my love and support to your heart from mine, as always……I’m so glad our paths have crossed 💖 You are a constant inspiration to me, my pregnancy twin lol 🥹💖 I really resonate with what you said about losing autonomy of yourself in the early years of parenting and marriage…..I have been feeling a similar way for a while now. My marriage is good, but I do feel I have lost sight of who I am in a big way, almost without realising until it was done? I find myself low or anxious quite a lot these days, and I don’t feel like I even have the time or space to really work out why 💔 I’m not sure how to find the time or space to work myself out again if that makes sense. It feels lovely to know that a fellow Mama with a baby my girlie’s age (Tabor and Kitty-Rose are just a week apart in age!) has been going through the same thing and is beginning to thrive. Thank you for your openness, and for having the courage to share your beautiful heart so publicly 🙏🏼💖💖

[@KelseySelene]

❤️❤️ i know many women who resonate with it- that’s why it feels so important to share and talk about.

[@bkang]

@@KelseySelene Definitely 🥹🙏🏼💖