QAC 19 - Asexuality: An FAQ

[@artsynerdsycallie5629]

Oh, hey, we have almost the same icon! As an ace, I agree with everything you said 100%. Thank you for helping to make this information accessible to the non-asexual community.

[@ConejitoPequenito]

Im just starting to label myself as asexual, and your video gave such great advise; everyone should see it (youre explaining really well and the exact things no one understands)... also those are good comebacks for coming out as ace

[@QueerAsCat]

thank you so much for watching! i'm glad you like them. :)

[@tazatiger1995]

You are such great speaker. I've just checked out your channel and you do such a great job of explaining asexuality in a way that is all inclusive. As an asexual I resonate with the videos you make, and thank you so much for making them, it means the world.

[@sunmarsh]

Off-topic, but from the moment I saw you I was completely captivated by your natural beauty. And you're so well-spoken and informed... just a delight to watch. You had me completely enthralled. I know that may may seem counter-intuitive to some, because compared to many of the (almost) hyperactive overenthusiastic people here on youtube you might seem rather dull... but I felt a different kind of intensity in your personality that really resonated with me. Anyways, enough of my blathering... off to watch more of your videos. ;P

[@Webkinztori]

Perfect

[@AutumnCzun]

I disagree that somebody who desires sex is asexual. But this is a question of definition. The both of us use different definitions. (You will find that the asexual community, even only in the English speaking community, discusses different definitions and there is disagreement.)

[@Jules-qz7es]

Me too. The whole reason I understood that I was asexual was because I had no desire for sex or intimacy. People who desire sex or intimacy are not asexual, it doesn't make sense.

[@QueerAsCat]

D: ...that really makes me mad (and sad) because that video was/is absolutely awesome. :/ this copyright stuff is why i keep my videos musicless.... thanks for the heads up. :(

[@annievautour9069]

I like that example A LOT, especially if a college girl asks me questions about asexuality... If SHE identifies as heterosexual but has had sex/ fooled around with a female... Then there you go. Doesn't mean she isn't straight anymore. Just like if an ace decides they want to have sex for whatever reason... It doesn't suddenly erase their orientation AT ALL!!

[@caadam87]

When someone says to you, "asexuality is unnatural," dismiss it. That's called an appeal to nature, which is a commonly used fallacy against many orientations outside of heterosexuality. Humans do many unnatural things in everyday life that are considered acceptable, harmless, and even encouraged. I just hate the "this is unnatural, thus wrong!" arguments, lol. They lead to lots of contradictions.

[@caadam87]

Agh, the gray-a/demisexual video is blocked due to copyright issues. At least that's the message it gave me. Just fyi.

[@CatBarefield]

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[@linas8489]

I always think it's HILARIOUS when people say things (I've usually heard it about homosexuality) are unnatural, for exactly that reason. I actually read this in a manga, but I heard about it again elsewhere: if you separate certain species of birds by sex, the males will start trying to court/bang each other while the females are like "Whatevs, this is cool." That alone blows plenty of stereotypes about what's "natural" out of the water.

[@Cat-oo5bv]

Can you turn asexual over a period of time, or are you born with the sexuality?

[@QueerAsCat]

Amber Umbridge just like with any other sexuality, people are often born as one thing or another. that said, for some people sexuality is a fluid thing that changes throughout their life. so yes, someone may find that they have *become* (not "turned") asexual even though their sexuality may have been something else previously.

[@Cat-oo5bv]

Oh ok thank you

[@caadam87]

Let me say, though--I am not trying to insinuate that asexuality is unnatural yet harmless. Just clearing that up, lol. I think it's natural AND harmless. :-)

[@mastro718]

I love all of your videos! Keep on doing what you're doing!

[@janeensmith2382]

Question do you think I'm asexual if I like doing things to people above the waist and things done to me above the waist , ? My friend still considers that sex even though I have no interest in actual below the waist activities. ?!? I do consider my self BiRomantic but am I asexual?!? So confused? Btw love your videos.

[@QueerAsCat]

if you feel like your asexual, then you're asexual. no questions asked! if you don't consider something to be sex for you personally, then it isn't sex for you personally. no questions asked! you and only you get to decide what you are (or aren't). you and only you get to decide what constitutes sex for you personally. both of these things are something that a person has to decide for themself and others cannot decide for someone else. your friend may consider something to be sex and she's entitled to her opinion, but her opinion doesn't get to decide your opinion for you. you get to have your own opinion and feelings about things-- especially when it's about you and not her. also note that anyone can have sex, including an asexual, so whether or not what you do with people counts as sex or not is beside the point! an asexual is someone who experiences sexual attraction to no one, but that doesn't mean they can't still have sex. sexual attraction is not required to have sex. some people have sex for reasons that don't involve sexual attraction. hope this helps...! p.s. thanks for watching! :)

[@Jules-qz7es]

Asexuality is completely natural and I agree with some of this video. I'm sure some asexuals are married and have kids but that could be cause they choose to and if we can avoid marriage and children we probably will. We don't masterbate or fantasize cause that requires sex drive and it is not there for most asexuals. I don't know about falling inlove for asexuals, I'm not gay and I don't really feel sexual attraction to the opposite sex and now I know it's normal.

[@abigailwheat5321]

what do you do when you have a crush on an asexual girl?

[@QueerAsCat]

+Abigail Wheat ...the same thing you'd do when you have a crush on any other girl? a person's sexuality doesn't mean you have to treat them any certain way nor does it mean that that person automatically feels any certain way about you. talk to her. see how she feels about you. be respectful.

[@sammieboyd6348]

Respect them

[@Vincisomething]

Wait, you're 28? I thought you were younger than me... but then again people generally think I'm younger than I actually am.

[@ekadria-bo4962]

Asexuality is not about hormone, because hormone is just a "sexual ignition".. Asexuality is about don't have "direction" of libido.

[@ShrutiSurl31415]

THANK YOU!

[@amalaudeh7246]

Thank you for the video, it is very informative.

[@QueerAsCat]

Amal Audeh thanks for watching. :)

[@jackieananian]

super great vid :)

[@apkTopi]

6.9k views

[@AcaJudiJudiJudiJudi]

No big deal...

[@blue-pt9jc]

Lmao ur shirt