so curious how you got from experiencing aesthetic attraction to identifying as bi/panromantic? i might be in a similar boat

only crushes on guys but romantic attraction to other genders, what is romantic attraction without a crush?

Thank you,I know this is 11 years later. But I never see people talking about Neutrois.

This is wildly inappropriate questioning. And not judge but feel bad? That’s judgement you (him) sanctimonious bellend.

The idea of ethnicity is a similar grouping of people that culturally and historicaly were around each other Race is throwing feces on a wall and seeing what sticks.

looks like he was attracted to one of you guys. what a weirdo, you can tell he has no boundaries.

It’s really screwed up that the community we go hard for doesn’t accept us. They fight for acceptance, yet reject us. I’m 59. I get mad at younger asexuals when they say the “A” in LGBTQIA always stood for asexuals. It didn’t. It first stood for “Ally”, and for some it will always be that. I used to say that I was okay with that. I didn’t want to go to a party I wasn’t invited to. And now I go back and forth with whether or not do I feel included. For the most part, I’m an ally of just for equality issues. Being a 59 year old ace has not been fun. There were times I thought about ending everything. I’m pretty sure I will feel that way again. Right now I’m in a good place and dgaf about belonging to a group that rejects me. I dgaf if I am accepted because to me, the loneliness is a part of being ace. I hate that part.

why does this guy even care?

2024 14 year old here. I told my best friend I was lesbian, asexual and non binary. She told me I'm too young to know I'm ace. I found this video and seeing all those comments of ace young people around my age makes my heart melt. I love this community ♥

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It is extremely ironic how white people are offended by this term in these comments not realizing their ancestors programmed this idea and isolated every other race just to treat us like animals, as an East Asian if you look at our history from a while back involving whites non of it is positive and I’m pretty sure the rest of poc’s can agree 😂

Condescension embodied. The way he spoke over all of you and as if he knew more about your physical and emotional feelings than you did. Questions asked respectfully with listening would have gone a long way for me, because I know a lot of people don’t know what asexuality is - or aromanticism, though I myself am not aromantic - and they tie all the attractions under sexual attraction. But he didn’t listen when you tried to answer his questions, just immediately spoke uneducated judgments.

I find it hard to believe he is this ignorant. He just wants to be a jerk.

When first learning about asexuality and acephobia, my initial reaction was "This is comically untrue, who tf thinks about sex that way and makes it other peoples' problem?". As more footage like yours came up, that initial thought morphed into "wait, this is something real people do? What on Earth?". I don't get why being ace is seen as so provocative to other allos.

came to this video in 2024 because i’m having trouble with my gender. (i am a minor) so last year in school when i was starting to question my gender, i had a “crush” on a new guy like every week or so. now that i’m starting to question my gender more i’m trying to figure out if it was actually feelings or gender envy

fuck off! ..... Go seek therapy!

This guy needs to keep his words of "wisdom" off people's penises and vaginas.

Oh, a cis het white man harassing lgbt people and making them extremely uncomfortable by constantly shoving the idea of sex down their throats? Unfortunately that’s incredibly commonplace.. these men are disgusting..

I never felt so uncomfortable by a person before & I've had people try to verbally pressure bad things onto me & have been in abusive situations. He has the most uncomfortable energy 1 could ever have.

Guys like this are very sad. Thank you QueerAsCat for being a voice for the community. It helped a lot on figuring out who I am in the 2010s. I still come back to watch your videos ten years later.

You try so hard to be unique. It's quite derpessing tbh

Baby you want to cut your hair because you yourself believe long hair is associated with femininity and short hair with associated with masculinity also lastly because you believe all or most people share this same belief of yours and maybe you are wrong and maybe you are right so you should either think logically and make a decision to cut your hair based what you see or cut hair without thinking about it and giving a second thought to whether or not you should cut or just simply change your belief about your hair so you want have to or feel the need to cut it beause the way you feel and about yourself shows and is sensed by people. You welcome I love you and good bye a thanks will suffice.

(im not ace btw) That guy was being a jerk but I feel like if he cares enough, he seems like he might put in the effort to actually educate himself. There could have been a lot worse interactions with a lot more hateful people, I hope he changes. In his case its his blatant ignorance and own obsession eith sex reinforced by others' own that blocks him from unferstanding asexuality. He also seems to mix romantic and sexual attraction and cant wrap his brain around the difference between those, and also the difference between sexual gratification (having sex for pleasure) and sexual attraction (wanting to have sex with someone). Im a straight guy who doesn't like his sexual attraction but still has to live with with it, and I find it crazy how he doesnt think a fulfilling life can be lived without sex. That's his own character flaw that says a lot about him and his relationship security.

Thank you so much for sharing this lovely conversation. I came out as asexual in the 1995 but nobody knew anything about it, still asexual in 2024. Solidarity to all of my asexual friends both here in America and in Japan 🤍🩶💜🖤

Congratulations on not punching that guy, I would have been telling him to eff off.

How the heck does he not understand, ace people don't get aroused by other humans. That is it, that's all there is to being ace, it doesn't mean you don't want to hug/kiss someone. Just means your body is not turned on by anyone. Just as a homosexual is only able to be aroused by people of the same gender. You tried to explain and he wouldn't let you. Also he said you didn't find the right person yet, and you didn't have a strong enough connection spiritually, or what-not, he was describing a demisexual person. That is what I am, and it's almost like being ace, just with the smallest chance of having sexual attraction to a very minute amount of humans. As a demisexual, while other people my age have had countless crushes and sexual interests, I've had two, and only one of those was a real person and not a video game character. Now sexual attraction and romantic attraction are different, aces can feel romantic attraction while those that cant are aro. You're romantic attraction has to do with you're desire beyond platonic, but not sexually, aka you want to kiss, hug, go on dates, be partners. I don't fully have a definite was of describing the difference between platonic and romantic love, but I do know that they are unrelated to sexual attraction entirely. Oh wait, this was 6 years ago, I thought this was from this year, sucks that this still occurs... also to think I've found people that target demisexuals specifically as well as aces, pans, and bis. Like, how can you believe that someone is lying about never/almost never having sexual attraction to a person, but believe that a man can be sexually attracted to another man? It's all about the body, no one can control what makes it aroused or what they like, they just do. I don't see why it's such a large issue, so what if some people don't desire to do the deed, it's one less person for you to worry about lmao. They ain't gonna steal ya eventual girl/guy, they arent gonna want ya no matter what you do, they are just gonna vibe and eat some garlic bread. How the heck is that bad? Did he just find yall attractive, if so that's really gross...

Y'all are so strong and way nicer than I would have be to him 😅

To me, this guy sounds like some sex addict I am a asexual person from Europe I personally feel icky about Demisexual being included in the asexual spectrum I see them like a form of allosexual personally

So we all agree but what do we do

Thank you for sharing this and standing up for yourselves and the rest of us. FYI: I am married, I love my wife. We have sex once in a while. . . And (drum roll) I am an ace ✊️

Painful to watch. Some people are just not willing to listen. This guy is an absolute ass.

Im still a virgin myself im a csa survivor and sprinkle on a little bit a anxiety medication and antidepressant and i have no interest in sex or a relationship im just enjoying my life now don't get me wrong i still love hugs and kisses and holding hands but i can get affection from family members or close friends. I feel like i don't need a partner to get affection hell i can even get affection from my cat 😂I don't understand why people feel like they can't live without it which is sad. Also this guy gives me the creeps.

this exchange makes me want to roll up in a ball and cry

Honestly my internalized mysoginy just makes me more confused about my gender. It’s like I’m constantly having to check when my feelings of gender are coming from a place of self hate or self affirmation. Constantly invalidating myself and wondering if I want to be something I’m not.

"i won't judge you" but the guy is already doing it lol

Blud had sex for the first time and became all wise and started flexing lol.

"Sad and lonely"? Whos the person on their own and whos the person sat with 2 friends? Lol.

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nHKym3h6ltmjiJY he looks exactly like this lmao

He literally came up JUST to shit on and criticize these ladies and it's bs! He's not being an adult. He's being AN ASS! Like if you wouldn't ask a straight person how many times they have sex...how is it okay to ask an ace person how many time's they have sex?! Hello?! I can't stand eraser like this! There's nothing wrong with us...we don't "need help" and we don't need to be infantilized.

JUST FOUND THIS CHANNEL YOU ARE AN ICON!🤍🤍🤍

Sometimes it hurts, sometimes it's funny, this is a bit of both for me

onyx sounds like a beautiful, unique gender neural name go for it.

I agree with you. I prefer to use the words feminine-male masculine-female, and for gender non-binary identities, I prefer to use the words feminine-gender-fluid, masculine-gender-fluid, and neutral-gender-fluid rather than the words transfeminine, transmasculine, gender-neutral, and bigender because, in my opinion, the words transfeminine and transmasculine sound too much like someone changed their gender or is least trying to change their gender or like someone is trying to change someone's gender to fit their particular preference to what they want it to be or believe it should be. As for the words gender-neutral and bi-gender, to me, the word gender-neutral sounds like someone saying for a person to be simultaneously masculine and feminine, they have both a male and female because they are convinced someone can't be both masculine and feminine, and their gender still be fluid. As for the word bi-gender, I don't like it because, to me, it's too similar and too closely related to the words bisexual, gay-male, gay-boy, and gay-man, and the word bigender to me sounds like someone saying that a person can be a female and male part-time but if so they can't both masculine and feminine full time; this is why I identify as neutral-gender-fluid instead of male or female or any of the other gender identities I mention earlier except for neutral-gender-fluid to let people know that I simultaneously identify as being both masculine and feminine and gender-fluid all at the same time.

Bro doesnt understand that ace-ppl can still be romantic and have intimacy and connection

I am coming here very late so you're probably not gonna read it, but it is interesting to watch this shortly after Doja Cat shaved her head and the internet went mad... Some people will just always feel entitled to opinions on other people's hair, especially when the hair belongs to someone they perceive as female. As if their preferred hairstyle for that person was some universal, objective good.

Damn, I need to rewatch Black Panther. I felt very conflicted during the movie because the classic Marvel good guy - bad guy dichotomy was like scrambled eggs... I want to see Africa take back what they had lost to colonization. We can't reset the history, BUT what the next generation makes of the world has not been decided. I am East-Eurpean btw.

Oh nooo, I don't think their channels are up anymore 🥲

Honestly, had to laugh at that video, it was just so ridiculous.

That dude was such a fucking creep.

y'all have more restraint than me, i would've lost my mind at this guy