Queer Sex Advice with Casey Tanner

[@riiissaaa]

the fact that the gambling ads were removed by the time I finished the episode.. ty shannon for listening to your community and taking action. ❤

[@ITZAKY-o6x]

Yes. Shannon❤

[@kathiateran5826]

Although I haven’t followed Shannon throughout her entire career, I can see such growth in her! Shannon you’ve become an excellent host, so empathetic and respectful, yet speaks her mind and what she stands for 👏🫶

[@3Oh3metrostation]

I am genuinely impressed by the woman she is and what she stands for. Specifically how she is acknowledging and using her white privilege to platform minority voices and perspectives. Its honestly rare... I know many creators who were loud in 2020 during the blm movement but did not keep up with any of their promises to continually advocate for the black community. It was disheartening but an unfortunate reality. Doing the right thing is not always the easy thing. Shannon has been an ally to the indigenous community, Palestinians, bisexuals, the trans community, and other persons of color. She is a person of principle. Much respect for that and I hope it continues.

[@intrepid_astronaut]

"If I know that I can apologize well, then I can take the risk to make the mistake." - such beautiful and brilliant words of wisdom, truly!! I so deeply appreciate Casey's candidness and vulnerability, she's so intentional and her kindness really shines through. This was an excellent episode, Shannon, grateful to you for creating space for these meaningful and necessary conversations.

[@ITZAKY-o6x]

Thank you Shannon for listening to our feedback. 💙 I've been waiting for Casey to be on your podcast! Finally!

[@NazaninHasannejad]

I am SO happy to have Casey on another podcast. Always amazing to hear her thoughts

[@rachelizabeth_]

Loved this episode and this conversation!! Happy to see you getting more comfy talking about seggs on the pod. We need more of these conversations in the queer community 🙌🏼

[@Jecko2401]

The shift into patient/therapist is so sweet to see

[@lsutherland1028]

This episode was so relatable and validating and helpful. Thank you, Shannon and Casey!! ❤

[@rileyjin707]

Great episode Shannon! The conversation was very candid and refreshing. I really liked that you put an emphasis on local voting as well. Sorry that most of the comments are about an ad and not the actual episode.

[@3Oh3metrostation]

This was an interesting episode. The questions were diverse and the answers got vulnerable and thought out. I've only ever seen casey on the WHGS podcast but this was entirely different energy. Another great episode!

[@lisacorr]

"Is she married?" "No she's gay" I'm crying 😂😂😂😂😂

[@taylorswifty131]

This episode definitely helped me, I’m like you sm in the pleasing and the in my head aspect when it comes to making sure the other person is satisfied. Well done Shannon, amazing guest!👏🏾♥️

[@eggs1249]

i relate so much to shannon about the guilty sleeping schedule thing.. and i am in my 20s, feeling guilty as heck about it every day, but hearing you talk about it makes me feel so much better!

[@Isthisit201]

If you’re promoting a product while also listing the resources that people might need for help after using it, then that already tells you everything you need to know about it.

[@FCsoccer521]

Casey is AMAZING!! So glad Shannon introduced her to me!

[@gumsguey]

Loved this interview! Thanks so much for having Casey on

[@marinadellanina9162]

Hi Shannon! I'm reading the book you mentioned, Sunburn, and it’s sooooo good! You should recommend more books! As soon as I finish what I'm reading now, I'll read Casey's book as well. I love your podcast! Kisses from Brazil!

[@MatthewArangatta]

I'm not too sure about the draft kings ad. I know you have to make money, but there's a lot of addiction issues in the LGBT community, and society in general. I feel like there are other amazing brands and companies who would sponsor you! And yes! Please vote! Let's keep our rights and love our neighbours. We don't stand for hate.

[@nowthisisliving]

I hear your feedback and we're in the process of removing the ad!

[@LEIsen-le3no]

Thank you for listening to your community Shannon

[@3Oh3metrostation]

@@nowthisisliving Idk much about this issue but much respect for caring about your audience. ❤

[@MatthewArangatta]

@@nowthisisliving Thank you, Shannon

[@3Oh3metrostation]

it is true that we queer people hold each other to a higher standard. Sometime it can be helpful to learn and motivate us to better people but sometimes it can be too much and we need to give each other some grace. I also try to take criticism or disagreements as an opportunity to either learn or see things from an unknown perspective. I am less ignorant than I used to be but still ignorant about many things in the world. Its important to try and its okay to mess up or feel dumb sometimes.

[@Vauchignon]

I totally respect Shannon’s right to promote whatever she wants as social media is such hard work for so little financial benefits. Personally I forward to skip the read ads and use the Brave browser to skip the KZbin ads. Win win for everyone.

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

This was a amazing conversation , Casey is so smart I have to read this book 👏 great job 🏳️‍🌈

[@ohnowwa]

In my 40s fyi, Shannon and now a client of The Expansion Group!! Hopeful. Love this chat.

[@ariavolta9567]

Loved this episode !

[@bridgette2163]

I really appreciated this conversation especially for the bit about having sex with trans people --- I feel like even when there's an effort to get the words right with other conversations there's not an effort to really explore what a relationship or sexual encounter would actually be like and this ep went there! As a cis woman who has dated a few trans femmes and always struggles to introduce them to the cis lesbian influencers I have followed since I was a teen ( because I don't see that effort ) I really truly loved that this was addressed and spoken about with curiosity and care 💖

[@boaf_7]

I loved this so much xx

[@courtneykaylor5092]

Need more of this duo ❤

[@hmmcms1]

33:00 Something I struggled with in my relationship early on! Placed a date, it was gross neither of us liked it and it really messed with my head. Relatable

[@lisacorr]

*immediately buys Casey's book*

[@marisaarmendariz2600]

Great episode!

[@kirbycook1571]

Best of luck meeting Becca's family.

[@loriescobar9682]

I love all you guests. How do you get your guests to be on your podcast? Also, what is the author of the book you are reading, "Sunburn?". Is that the title? Also, what is the name of the book about lesbian nuns?

[@keatonmask1918]

I’ll never understand the “top” and “bottom” thing, so odd tbh.

[@juliamcelroyart]

yipppppeeeee fav day of the week

[@Jordan-jag06]

if ur name is Casey do u have to become a therapist??

[@NordicFireDKK]

People need to chill the fk out. If an add about gambling sends you spiraling u need a therapist.

[@BritJohnson-n8w]

Tuning out of this one as I can't support the promotion of gambling due to personal reasons. I’m sorry, I’m sure the conversation is great.

[@JennSarracenia]

The ad is gone now

[@3Oh3metrostation]

Don't know much about gambling but I'm glad shannon's audience has been so respectful about sharing their thoughts. Also amazing that she not only listened to the feedback but actually went out of her way to act and have it removed. That's such a healthy internet type relationship.

[@BritJohnson-n8w]

@@3Oh3metrostation thanks so much for letting me know the ad is gone

[@jessicalenz435]

babes you do not live in a two party world just in a two party nation. sending love from Europe❤

[@goldbluetiger]

But promoting a gambling app? 😮

[@sophiawells2005]

as well as giving websites and phone numbers to reach out to if you have an issue w gambling? 😱 she’s not saying everyone should go gamble all the time- she promoted draft kings and then linked many ways to get help if you need it.

[@goldbluetiger]

​@@sophiawells2005I understand that resources for help were provided, which is great, but the core issue remains that promoting gambling can lead to serious addiction. Just because there are phone numbers for assistance doesn’t negate the potential harm caused by encouraging gambling.

[@sophiawells2005]

@ promoting gambling does not lead to someone being addicted. the person and the gambling itself would be at fault for that. gambling isnt a bad thing, it’s not an awful thing to promote. if you know you have an addictive personality or that you have a problem w gambling then dont gamble. some ppl can gamble without becoming “seriously addicted”

[@Isthisit201]

​@@sophiawells2005This comment validates the point of why it is dangerous and potentially harmful to promote such products.

[@b_itiswhatitisb514]

It’s called being sponsored so we can all listen to this great podcast!!

[@keatonmask1918]

Not the gambling ad, Shannon 😖

[@sophiawells2005]

“please play responsibility” “in CT help is available for problem gambling” etc.. it’s not like she told any of us to go gamble our life away fr 😭

[@marcsanchez1238]

​@@sophiawells2005 gambling companies are required by law to use those taglines, It means nothing. If promoting gambling while saying "gamble responsibly" wasnt profitable, gambling companies would stop paying for these ads.

[@sophiawells2005]

@ of course but no one is saying it isn’t profitable. of course promoting anything basically is going to be profitable but using those “taglines” means she isn’t telling ppl who already have an issue w gambling or are addicted to go gamble their life away. gambling in itself is not bad. it’s only bad if you have a problem w it, otherwise it’s a social gathering of sorts and it’s of personal choice.

[@AnneliesePalaoro]

OMG I am so glad to hear someone talk about having sex with a woman with a penis. SEEN!

[@JennSarracenia]

Funny, I agree with Grandma. I hate the word queer and refuse to use it for self-identification (but I will use it if others identify that way). I much prefer "gay". My reasoning is that queer also means strange or odd, and I think being gay is as normal as being born naked 🤷‍♀ Nothing weird about me being gay.

[@Sky-larkascending7777]

Scissoring is real - edge it and delay the orgasm and scissor. Yes, you can climax or make your girl climax. 🌈 Pandemic positive impact on Queer Self Realization + Boundary Building Quarantine, isolation, and having more time to ourselves did give us space and time for us to be who we really am in the inside. Staying open to relationships is critical in finding the right person because unless you date different kinds of people, you really don't know yourself.

[@barnaliadhikary9421]

Vote for Kamala Harris 💪🏻💪🏻

[@3Oh3metrostation]

7:53 I audibly laughed

[@romancox5386]

Not everyone is a litle bit gay. There are 100% gay people and 100% straight people.

[@Jordan-jag06]

42:47 you know what they say.. that ~worship distortion~ will getchya

[@LEIsen-le3no]

Sorry but promoting a gambling app is a nope from me. Love your podcast but that one was a miss

[@sophiawells2005]

if you like the podcast but don’t like the ad maybe just skip the ad?

[@elizabeth9451]

she does say to play responsibly tho, whats the issue?

[@3Oh3metrostation]

I didn't realize this was so controversial but I'm proud of shannon for being an empathetic listener and removing it for people.

[@daciab]

All I can think about is the spider man meme…

[@suzanirau2470]

You are a Patriot... Yes, to Kamala Harris

[@saratucker9387]

💙💙💙

[@gracey95]

Ok I listened, I loved 🥹 and I also felt like I was in a therapy session with you and Casey throughout. Going to order her book as I also feel like the defensiveness and people pleasing resonates with me and can impact how I’m showing up in relationships. Awesome episode, probably in my top 3 😊

[@sophiawells2005]

she linked phone numbers and websites to help ppl who have a problem w gambling.. gambling isn’t a bad thing unless you’re addicted to it/you have a problem w it so why would that make you not want to watch?

[@Isthisit201]

Same here.

[@fafaszabo]

They have removed the ad, if you wanna come back and watch it.

[@gracey95]

@ aw thank you for the heads up 😊 I was looking forward to this ep so will watch this eve

[@superduper5674]

I hope promoting gambling doesn’t become the norm

[@mistrock322]

Just skip the ad!

[@ltrillium1000]

We don't live in a world with a two party voting system! There are 7 candidates on the Presidential Ballot this year. Yes, encourage people to vote. Yes, be an advocate for your beliefs.

[@nowthisisliving]

I'm aware that there are more than 2 parties. I'm acknowledging that only 2 parties historically win and I don't think that will change this year.

[@ltrillium1000]

@@nowthisisliving Thank you Shannon, I am a long time supporter and maybe I was over the top on my reply - Sorry!!!

[@nowthisisliving]

@@ltrillium1000 It's okay! I appreciate and understand your enthusiasm! it's such a stressful time!

[@3Oh3metrostation]

Its a rough election this year. I respect anyone who is voting green party or for harris this year because I know there's a lot to consider. I struggled with the decision myself.

[@madaleeX]

Go Kamala 💙

[@stephben8042]

29:18 strange for a sex therapist to say

[@twildabuckingham]

Holy crap...the instant hate for promoting a certain type of company. There's like 10 comments and 7 are hate. But hey, you're pumping the algorithm by watching minutes after it going live and commenting, just FYI. Also, I couldn't care less. Get that dough Shannon ❤ Edit: then don't watch, unsub, don't comment, move on

[@keatonmask1918]

I haven’t seen any hate at all, just people voicing concern or saying they can’t support an episode sponsored by gambling. No need for the extra dramatics.

[@marcsanchez1238]

Its not hate, its very valid criticism. Also people posting these comments dont care that they are "pumping the algorithm" because we dont mind supporting Shannon, we just dont like that shes promoting gambling

[@BritJohnson-n8w]

There's a difference between leaving hateful comments in bad faith and people simply expressing their opinion and providing reasons why they didn't like the ad.

[@nkb420]

You don't even watch sports!!!

[@Bella-pe4lc]

Sorry Shannon, I love your podcast but I'm going to have to give this one a miss, I can't support the promotion of an online gambling company that profits from exploiting people's addictions. Gambling has the potential to ruin lives and families, plus addiction is a huge issue in the LGBTQ+ community. You've been sponsored by lots of other more ethical companies in the past, would love to see you stick with them!

[@Bella-pe4lc]

Thank you SO much for taking the ad down!

[@ilseizi]

[@afrancis8941]

The gabling ad is super bad vibes...

[@pammywhammyj]

PLEASE do a pronoun episode!!

[@jessily0425]

Respectfully, maybe don’t accept gambling sponsorships? If you have to give that many disclaimers it might be a sign.

[@shelleyland22]

I'm sorry but the adverts on this make this unwatchable. There has been five minutes of actual interview and two adverts from Shannon already. On top of the KZbin adverts as well, which there's been three of already, one starting in the MIDDLE of Casey's sentence. I was so looking forward to Casey's insights, they are so interesting and I love the work she's doing. This is extremely disappointing.

[@JennSarracenia]

Gambling ad is removed now

[@Sky-larkascending7777]

💚 If you want to end the genocide in Palestine, vote for Jill Stein MD for President of the USA. If you vote for Kamala Harris or Drump, you have Lebanese and Palestinian blood on your hands. Vote green 💚

[@ArtichokeHunter]

i've never seen gambling ads on youtube before but i don't think it's inherently bad. yes there are legal requirements for resources etc., yes it can be triggering for people, but i feel like if the ad was for an alcohol (or even weed) company, it would be as much of a risk for folks in terms of addiction and triggering, but i'm not sure people would react like this? like, lots of youtubers drink on camera. i see ads for weed products and for like weird non-scientific nutritional supplements, and they don't seem to get hate but like. it's all advertising, it's trying to manipulate people, and depending on who you are, those products may be harmful to you. but hopefully you don't do everything an influencer says to do.

[@EmiliaSkade]

Love u and the podcast❤ but i dont think promoting the gambling app is a good idea most of us would rather support u directly rather than download a sketchy app.

[@KaraFrances-d4r]

She seems awesome in general Hope she isnt trendily promoting bdsm kink as nbd though Sadism is a red flag not another casual romance alternative / genre Its exploiting peoples trauma completely So gross how cleverly normalized in recent yrs its been w/ 50 shades bs As a gay mom gotta say no way sorry And its a huge disservice to already vulnerable gay youth esp Mental health matters Hope youll tell yr colleagues in yr industrry to try harder to debunk it Its an v unhealthy relevant issue in our scene Best❤