Questions on Sexual Abuse | Q&A | Shaykh Dr. Yasir Qadhi

[@randomabd2798]

Dear parents, don't let your children be alone with other relatives like uncles, cousins etc. Never ever let them sleep near them, especially boys. Don't allow any elder male relative to sleep with your male child, this is often taken lightly but boys also get sexually abused. Teach them about good and bad touch. Encourage children to open up.

[@YZ4hunnid]

exactly, when things like this go down you just ask yourself where are the parents? especially the fathers? #1 rule as a man is to protect your family and being unaware is not an excuse.. my parents never let me do sleep overs and what not and alhumdulilah they did not because I most definitely will pay that forward if Allah blesses me with children.

[@MD-ok2oo]

No- dear parents, raise your boys to not be violent, or rapists. Educate your boys on how to better manage their emotions, educate your girls on being fierce, confident, physically and mentally.

[@anewno6240]

Sometimes it’s parents and classmates molesting the kids. school or Allah can help these.

[@Punicia]

It’s sad how this wisdom continues to go past the heads of current and new parents. Especially in this filthy era we live in. People are so caught up in the rat race that they have no time to supervise their children, but even worse are the school systems that encourage degeneracy

[@BLACKPANTHER-m1h]

Bro what's wrong with you? Uncles are mahrams. Of course you can leave your daughters in your brother's house. What you're saying is just a stupid amount of suspicion. By your logic, a mother shouldn't let her child near his/her father as he might rape. You're being more careful than Allah wants. You And your point about boys is also totally stupid. You want to raise them like babies. Of course they can be alone in their cousins' or friends' houses. Thats just how life works. You don't need to be this careful. Boys are boys and they need to live like boys not like cowards.

[@MrDigit885]

Oh my sister :( it breaks my heart to hear this. May Allah reward you in Jannah and in this dunya. No one should go through this

[@yasminmohammed8752]

Ameen

[@fari9986]

To my sister who submitted the question - I don’t know you but I love you! You are my sister and I pray with all my heart that Allah grants you the strength to get through this. Your courage to reach out to Sheikh has probably benefitted so many others who needed to hear this. I wish that I could hug you and comfort you but since I can’t I hope that Allah showers you with His love and mercy in this world and the next ❤️

[@abdulwaheedrashid]

This was just too sad. I can't even imagine how hard it will be for her to listen to this lecture and to decide on a way to move forward. I can only pray to Allah that He gives her and all victims of all types of dhulmah/oppression the highest level of sabr and strength and may He reward them fully with Jannatul Firdaus. May Allah instill calmness in their hearts and minds. Aamiin

[@yasminmohammed8752]

Ameen

[@bintasad6856]

In Desi households it's more common...like very much... and the child starts to think that it is normal and it is what every uncle does and they start to think that they're meant to be allowing and loving everybody..اوزوباللہ...There are kids who think its okay to let uncles place hands on their private area and scroll through phones, watch tv,read etc in private....اوزوباللہ...May Allah give strength to all of us and Help us... Remember Allah is always with us and he in his Majesty is ENOUGH for us...Hasbunallahu wa niamal wakeel Thank you Shaikh Yassir Qadhi...You lecture have helped me a lot of time.... Alhamdulillah... Jazakallah hu khair brother

[@mikk3150]

This is a topic that needs to be discussed more. It happens within the Muslim community, but given the stigma that often exists around this, especially if you're a female, who'd probably end up being blamed for it or accused of lying etc it just gets brushed under the carpet.

[@Hayatt1]

You are a legend for speaking up about this topic. May Allah swt reward you.

[@NaeemIbnYusuf]

Dear Sister, our hearts are with you and we have confidence that you (and all of our brothers and sisters who have gone through these trials) will get through this bi-ithnillah. SubhanAllah, your strength and courage, even in just asking about this, is amazing! MashaAllah, you are strong and capable (may Allah bless you). Hang in there and get that counselling because things will get better inshaAllah. Allah will not abandon His slaves who make an effort and turn to Him (Subhanahu wa Ta'aala). SubhanAllah, I ask Allah to grant you relief and to remove all pain from your life and bless you with the very best in both this life and the next, wassalaat wassalaam 'alaa RasoolAllah. Ameen

[@lightman2258]

Thank you for giving this topic the space, which it needs. This topic is not something what can be explained in just few minutes. The damages are to big and the wounds are to deep. Dark Memories can be a companion for the rest of the lifes of the victims.

[@JavedKhan-ve7iy]

ASA. Jazak Allah Khairun Sheikh Yaseer Qadhi, May Allah reward you for choosing this type of Questions which normally does not picked up. Also very informative, comprehensive, well prepared and emotionally presented. This session of today Q & A must be listened and to be followed by all parents. May Allah accept your efforts and reward you, your family, friends and all those participated in this series in this world and hereafter. Ameen.

[@yasminmohammed8752]

Ameen

[@DakDKDani]

Kudos to you for being so open and honest about this sensitive topic!!

[@user-pf7gw1jq1v]

Whats it called when a boy that's 5-6 years old was pressured by another kid the same age into doing sexual things?

[@desonmonde4086]

@@user-pf7gw1jq1v it's still sexual abuse. It doesn't matter if the abuser was a child.

[@alib7489]

Jazakallah Shaykh for speaking with so much knowledge, wisdom, skill, and clarity about such an awkward, difficult topic. May Allah reward you for raising awareness among the Ummah.

[@nadines6344]

Hamdellah we have a Sheikh that feels our pain and suffering while giving realistic advices. I can confirm that counselling helps a lot. Faith does go up and down. It takes time but unfortunately I will always have PTSD.

[@HasanKhan-zv8kj]

My respect to him has increased even more after seeing this response ❤

[@walidahmed286]

I am listening the entire video. And I do not know why it did not get million views. May Allah give Hidayat to that man

[@sadianafees8388]

May Allah Swt keeps all our children safe from these kinds of devils. My dear sister ❤ have trust in Allah. you have been through difficult circumstances ..may Allah SWT gives you loads of sabr and peace at your ❤ Ameen

[@sadianafees8388]

Salam ya Sheikh!!! Iam so fond of your lectures full of wisdom. MashaAllah wa tabarakAllah!! Jazakallah khairun kaseera for putting up such difficult topics and explaining them in such a humble manner🥺. May Allah Swt protect you and family from evil eyes and devils of all kinds .ameen

[@chehrazadeesmey8399]

Some Shaykh had to dare. No surprise, Shaykh Yasir Qadhi, you did. We are grateful to you and are confident your lecture benefit the victims and, actually, everyone. Our heart goes out to the victims who need strong faith in the justice of The Just 3azza wa jal, who need much love and support from family and friends. Unfortunately, confinding in someone is not, i guess, an easy step to take in such a case. I really hope that after listening to this lecture, they can find the necessary strength to seek help and take the right decision. Sisters and brothers who are going through this suffering, may Allah 3azza wa jal be your best wakiil and best friend. Ameen.

[@SAK1912]

Masha Allah thank you for opening this taboo subject. I think we can do more. We need to put out there for the parents to believe their child if they complain. Most of the times either the parents deny it or they shame the child for this. Wallahi please help the ummah to open our eyes and help all the innocent children out there. Amin

[@Mehereeny]

Thank you for making this video. This topic is not nearly covered enough by our Islamic scholars and speakers.

[@fa-cx7qz]

Wallahi one cannot express the hatred for this filthy crime and still it is faced by neumorous innocent soals every day...may Allah protect all and guide all parents to carve islamic values and eticates in their children and seek refuge with dhikr and duas .

[@KamranSher]

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم لَا يُحِبُّ اللَّهُ الْجَهْرَ بِالسُّوءِ مِنَ الْقَوْلِ إِلَّا مَنْ ظُلِمَ ۚ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ سَمِيعًا عَلِيمًا Allah does not like the public mention of evil except by one who has been wronged. And ever is Allah Hearing and Knowing. An-Nisa Aya 148

[@Qadiii.804]

Only way to get an indefinite peace of mind n soul is to forgive. One of the hardest thing to do but forgiving is the ultimate revenge. Forgive, keeping Allah as witness, and leave it to Him to do justice.

[@Sana_Mushtaq___1]

Thank you so much for answering. جزاک اللہ it really helped ❤️

[@sssppp1773]

Jazakallah Khair Sheikh Yasir Qadhi, your answer helped others who went through similar experiences. May Allah SWT bless you and your family with every good in dunya and a huge palace and beautiful garden in Firdaus near Rasullulah SAW. I benefit a lot from your lectures.

[@aminaismail5849]

It's my story too , we need to talk about it coz we are tired wallahi

[@justsayalhamdulillaah9720]

In my story. Yes.

[@munaluula1529]

My sister may ALLAH heals you Be strong ,be happy,live wonderful life

[@adamhome7448]

Thank you so much sk YQ for this long over due subject. One imam (Wali Muhammed from Belgravia) managed Manipulate local Bangali mosque rivalry against each other to keep him as imam for years even after him being exposed nationally in daily mail online! Going into alliance with a group of cheats and rival community members organising eid salah and in 4 years managed to build influence and attract popular sheik like Alomgir Ali to join the alliance up-till most recent Eid jamat where the local hall management (church) finally distant them self and stoped the event on Eid day leaving their 300+ traitors walking tail between their legs to the actual mosque (5mins walk) whom they have rivalry with!! Unfortunately problem isn’t so much the perpetrator, it is people allowing business as usual with the perpetrator, because as saying goes “it a mans world”!!

[@sachleather]

This is sad reality :( be strong sister!

[@adamhome7448]

I’d like to ask sk Yasir Qadi, if the perpetrator is a local imam and never regretted his action and goes on further manipulate locals saying 13yr old victim was lying and mosque committee just take his word without making any effort to find out victims side, is it halal for victim or her family to ask Allah to remove him from leading any future jamah.or teaching Quran in any masjid (or from in his home)??? What if he is a good reciter and that’s all he knows? My argument is, generally if think of an evil person then we can hope (and make dua ) one day he may find deen he will change, but when someone is already is in knowledge of Islam and it wasn’t enough to change him, but made him more arrogant (doing what he did), better for them to be removed from position of power!!

[@mnizam84]

Jazakallahu khair

[@fatoujagne1764]

Alhamdululah Alhamdululah thank you may Allah bless you 💚💚💚

[@Nene-mb5ln]

May Allah reward you immensely ya sheikh this is so important.

[@felreizmeshinca7459]

Jazakallahu khayran sheikh Yasir Qadhi. I'm not sure on the scholar landscape there but I feel Sheikh Yasir Qadhi does carry a huge burden for his people. In a Muslim country we have different people of different experiences focusing on different issues. It has its pros and cons of having too many sheikhs. I personally am more inclined to have only one sheikh that is just in his views and not have all these internal fightings on trivial matters to be frank.

[@newbieinvestor8761]

Just want to add this could happen to boys as well. Growing up heard stories about young boys being exploited.

[@user-pf7gw1jq1v]

I'm asking you because I'm never going to talk about this in person. But what's it called when a boy that's 5-6 years old was pressures by another kid Into doing sexual acts?

[@anewno6240]

Any rapist or molesters should be punished whether they are a minor or adult, criminal is a criminal

[@Punicia]

This could happen to anyone at any age we need stop being so ignorant about this as a community especially in this modern era of rat race and deception

[@asharmin100]

May Allah reward you Ya Shiekh.

[@KamranSher]

جزاكم الله خيرا كثيرأ يا شيخ يا اخي

[@marzanapark3244]

Is dealing with sexual abuse trauma, linked to black magic?

[@sacaadaaadan363]

Jazakallahu khayran Shaikh

[@peacenow6618]

Jazakallahu Khayran Ahsanul Jaza

[@aaishaaa76]

Thank you 🙏

[@bellah09]

How do you send a question to the Shaykh?

[@ekramrahmeto6025]

Aselamu aleykum shek if u see this i want to ask u is it permiseble to work at conventional bank who also give islamic banking separetly to serve islamic community only

[@bigfish819]

Salaam brother Yasir, can I break kinship with my cousin who is in prison for abusing his own daughter? I really need to know this, please help before he comes out. Jazak Allah Khair

[@ALLAHSHAHAADA]

Islam is very strong on not breaking ties of kinship because family is family and you never know you can help them on the deen. I will advise you to continue to talk to him if he is remorseful and you can use that time to give him Da’wah, he really commit a BIG sin but Allah is the FORGIVER. If it happen that he is not remorseful in that case I will stay away from him until he comes around. While you’re taking to him even if he is remorseful you can’t NEVER EVER leave your children or someone else children around him. Even if he became an imam one day. Shaytan is working full time so you never know it can happen again. PS: I’m not a Scholar I’m just a servant of Allah that have children of my own. May Allah forgive us.

[@bigfish819]

@@ALLAHSHAHAADA Jazak Allah Khair for your time to answer my question. What if he keeps on saying I'm innocent but every one knows his guilty and the UK courts found him guilty with all the evidence?

[@ALLAHSHAHAADA]

@@bigfish819 I will still give him Salam but I don’t have to be around him unless I don’t have a choice

[@ALLAHSHAHAADA]

@Chimbli Billy First of all who are you calling an idiot? What did I say for you to call me idiot. You should fear Allah even though nobody’s sees you but Allah sees you. It’s just my opinion she or he doesn’t have to take my opinion into consideration . We all know that the victims of sexual abuse goes through a lot that no one or unless you been through understand. Please carefully when you’re talking to people on the internet. You don’t know if I hve been through sexual abuse or not so please be careful of what you’re writing. May Allah forgive us

[@ALLAHSHAHAADA]

@Chimbli Billy are you a Muslim?

[@فيصلاحمد-ع7ك]

Thank you I want ask you about your self

[@fatimahbakare7869]

Salam alaykum ww. Jazakallahu khairan for above. May Allah increase you in knowledge. Aamin Pls how does one pose questions to the sheikh. Jazakumullah khairan

[@georginacousins2206]

Jazakallah khair Shekih, Please do not forget to mention the situation generically for reverts: - who have non Muslim family members - family members who’ve stayed from the deen Then, muslim brothers and sisters (reverts or not) with family members who follow culture over deen Insha’Allah I understand the topic you’re describing has touched you dearly but you have advised the sister well so do not need to regurgitate the same elements repeatedly, please focus on the other elements of the topic to enhance overall understanding for the ummah insha’Allah. The power of repetition for the statistics is powerful because those who do not want to listen or turn off: will. Statistics improve efficiently conveying your points of influence alhamdulillah. Ma’assalama

[@unknownrealist5374]

What happened to his general Q&A sessions?

[@latinalife2458]

Reverts deal with that is she a revert ? I have a question; the shiats marry little girls ?? I saw a video but it was a picture only and a voice . I will like to know if they do or not?

[@dilrubabegum19]

Nobody wants to talk about the topic especially elders,

[@shabanaRawoot123]

😞😭😭

[@dilrubabegum19]

What if family don't help you instead they do shir on you to shut your voice

[@Nevebrownie]

What about sexual abuse in marriage? Or is that normal in islam?

[@Ghislaine7]

It is Normal. It has to be consensual no matter what you hear.

[@Nevebrownie]

@@Ghislaine7 so sexual abuse in marriage is ok?

[@saymastein]

​@@Nevebrownie It's not okay, being forceful is against Islam.

[@arkin471]

Not normal, not okay..

[@theinvisible1228]

I am muslim and i have been sexually abused by my older couzins from my age 4 to 13. I was abused by four elder couzins in my family and I was not realizing that what the hell was happening I was told it is a game. Even the labourz who where working in home bullied me. I don't belive in Allah. I hate Allah . I have not shared with anyone in my life . But I am always feeling like a rape wommen walking on a road as I always remain in a thought that might these couzins have told there frendz. What they should been thinking of me ..I am in pain and in a negative world .I hate Allah

[@adamhome7448]

So sorry to read about your incident, the worst thing is the perpetrators carryon as normal, subcontinent people are too busy with home, Village, business politics so their morality is same level as animals (yet human are best of creation), like dr Yasir said, even the angle were complaining to allah “why creat human, they will corrupt the land”, but only thing I can say is Allah’s reply “I know what you know not”, remember Allah didn’t do this, it’s those evil cousin done this! You need to make a plan of action, you need to talk to someone trustworthy, then you need to block this thought temporary (maybe give an exact time period) then focus on improving yours self, learn new skills, then once you’re stronger then you can make better decision what is best action, I hope you find a way to be happier and then one day help others, Please never blame you self, NEVER!!

[@theinvisible1228]

@@adamhome7448 But my soul never comforts if I do anything against my parents . I hate everything. I don't belive in anything .... I am ready to accept hell But I will never accept Allah . After so much of these sufferings he never allow my sufferings to end .... present time I want to be successful and want to give comfort to my mom and dad . And I am only living for my parent,s

[@Qadiii.804]

Although what happened to u is extremely bad but loosing hope n trust in Allah is another extreme. You could be bluffing just to get attention. There are many more who have been treated worst than you. Get up and get help if u r for real

[@theinvisible1228]

@@Qadiii.804 explains how can I get a help ? And what do you mean by if you are real? ..Talking is easy . You will never understands the pain of a particular victim

[@Qadiii.804]

@@theinvisible1228 What happened to "beautiful Kashmir"? Shaikh did a whole lecture on how you can get help. Did you not pay attention? I need not to elaborate any further.

[@thelastlordnazgul47]

I DISAGREE WITH THIS GARBAGE TOTALLY , I AM JUST A PRIEST OF THE GOD SO I BELIEVE WE ALL SHOULD FORGIVE EACH OTHER NO MATTER HOW BAD THINGS WE HAVE DONE WITH EACH OTHER BECAUSE WHEN HE THE DAJJAL WIL ARRIVE WE ALL HUMANS MUST STAY TOGETHER OTHERWISE PURE EVIL SHIT WILL HAPPEN TO ALL OF US !!!!