r/AITA UPDATE Family Insisting I Invite My Sister To My Wedding Despite How's She's Treated Me

[@Emily-ck9ji]

It REALLY sounds like the mother is purposely manipulating the daughters into fighting. The fact that the mother passes "messages" back and forth and they're just discovering now that they are things neither said to begin with .. that's really bad.

[@joaolima7131]

Parents who throw their children against each other are disgusting, it's like a passive agressive way to show you don't like one or both of them, it's cowardly, some people should be sterile and/or disowned from their children for this disgusting behaviour

[@rylashadow18]

They both need to sit her down and lay into her about this. Making them fight for whatever her warped ideals are is just insane. Let her know that any form of attempt to continue on with her toxic behavior will lead her to being cut out of both of their lives for good. Further more she'll be kept on a need to know basis until she can prove that she's remorseful for her actions as well as her uncalled for behavior. They've learned to talk with each other so that's what they'll do from now on. Confirm with each other on whatever lies come flying from that things mouth and stick to cutting her out if she can't comply or respect their boundaries.

[@joaolima7131]

@@rylashadow18 unfortunately it's really hard to make a narcisist change their ways

[@pippo17173]

Honestly it sounds like she is the punching bag and are mad she isnt letting it taking it.

[@kaykay8855]

That does make sense.

[@tarotinthekichen1831]

My roommate always says “be the bigger person really means, make yourself smaller”

[@gaxalee7392]

I like that.

[@davidkermes393]

Why make yourself a bigger target?

[@emeraldsword4528]

Story 1 update: Okay, so it's the parents that need to be cut out. Especially the mom. She DELIBERATELY caused the sister to be toxic with her idiotic meddling. I'm glad the mother free conversation started steering their relationship in the right direction.

[@evil_katil]

My family forced me to invite my deadbeat dad to the wedding. I still regret him being there as he was nothing but incredibly abusive to me my entire life.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA "be the bigger person" is code for " we don't want to deal with her attitude so you do it". Fuck that. She wasn't there when OP needed her the most and in fact has let her down or actively tried to use OP's health as an advantage to herself. Just because she's OP's sister doesn't mean OP has any obligation to keep her in her life. Also, you don't invite the person who tried to get your husband to leave you to your wedding. Edit after edit: " She's stressed because she's moving." Yeah? Well Op was PREGNANT amd that is way more a priority in the stress department. Stress can literally kill the child and the woman. Fucking bullshit. Update better be good Edit after update: I'm OK with this. Its great to see them figure out mom us the issue and take her out of the equation. Mom is probably a narcissist who kept her kids fighting so as to not see her negativity. I'm hoping this can be going forward in a positive manner.

[@paden1865able]

Or mummy dearest kept them fighting for her own sick amusement. It feeds their desire to be needed and their sense of being important.

[@darkshadow5581]

Story 3 NTA. Whether a scam or an accident, she over-charged OP, refused to get the manager for 30 minutes and then blamed OP for wanting their money?

[@mk_gamíng0609]

Dude 2:80 for two Pints at a Bowling alley in Brighton? Na, wont be that cheap OP is leaving something out. Most likely it was a service charge and he just ignored it or was ignorant about it

[@brigidtheirish]

Exactly. I get the impression that the YTA commenters didn't actually *read* the post.

[@darkshadow5581]

@@mk_gamíng0609 my guess is it's not a charge for the pints, but a balance between enough to be worth stealing a bit from most who come, and small enough most won't bother bringing it back up by the time they've noticed. Anyways, the specific doesn't matter, because she claims it didn't go through the first time anyways, so either 1) it did go through and it was purposely much cheaper for some reason and she lied about it, 2) it charged a random $2.80 purchase for 2 pints and the bartender lied about it succeeding, or 3) the second time OP used their phone to buy pints, it randomly added another $2.80 purchase and re-charged that card fast enough for it to appear as a single purchase, and it truly failed the first time. Between those three choices, its more likely that the Bartender was acting, in some way, in bad faith.

[@donniejefferson9554]

@@mk_gamíng0609 If it is just a service charge then the person working the bar should have no problem informing op of that or getting the manager in a timely manner. They definitely seem like they were trying to pull some shit and assume no one will notice.

[@Kairos_Akuma]

@@mk_gamíng0609 might have been a special night. And if it's a service charge...why not say it? "Oh yeah it's our service charge - it works like this, sorry sir."

[@susankaempfer8427]

Oh PERFECT! Be the bigger person = “Lay flatter doormat, so we don’t have to be uncomfortable.” What a perfect way to express it. So many times I’ve seen a situation where the abused is expected to just keep taking it because it’s convenient for everyone else.

[@StilltheAp0llyon]

Beers at the bowling alley: Contact the bank through the app. Dispute the charge. Have them charge back the bowling alley. Keep bowling.

[@jemase7931]

The mother interfering and passing distorted messages back and forth. Hah! My mother did this. It was deliberate. She loved being in the center of drama and chaos.

[@LaineyBug2020]

This is what I say now when my mom tells me to be the bigger person with my older psychotic sister: I'm done being the bigger person, if I get any bigger, I'm going to start attracting satellites. Her sister will be ok for a while, but she's going to revert back to her true character soon enough.

[@lucaswinsor4469]

It honestly seems like that may have never been her true character at all. The mother apparently spent a long time telling lies about each one to the the other. It'd be enough to make anyone bitter.

[@toysruskid5074]

My mother caused problems between us, but my sister reveled in it because she got to be the golden child. My sister has always been lazy and selfish, and she lacks compassion, morals and a sense of right and wrong.

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

The thing that really tips the scale to NTA for me with the bowling story is that OP made an attempt to rectify the situation EXACTLY as the manager suggested. He asked the girl behind the counter to give him an item worth roughly the £2.85 and call it square. She told him that she wouldn't do that and that he had to see a manager. She said that one would be over and then neglected to send one. Only then did OP create a situation that warrants a manager to intervene. I bet that it's a scam like Mark outlined. She makes a small transaction that she's adding to the system as a tip out to her, then rushing back all flustered to tell the customer that they didn't actually pay. She's hoping that in this case she can either wait it out and he'll forget to rectify it, or she can get him removed so that he can't come back to question it for future visits. I have an inkling that the Security guard-cum-manager doesn't really have that kind of authority either.

[@milieg3309]

Exactly. Trying to keep him out of the place so they wouldn't talk to the real manager and rat his friend out. I would be petty enough to go back to talk to the manager

[@simsgirlgem]

Or leave a bad review online outlining what happened

[@gregbasore2108]

Yeah, that second guy is definitely in on it, manager or not. Maybe he even has her doing the dirty work so he can throw her under the bus if they get caught.

[@Val_Benko]

For story 3, if it was a service charge, the server should have known that and be able to easily explain it. Also, service charges are usually mentioned beforehand. In fact, mentioning service fees before the transaction is completed is required by Visa, MasterCard, and American Express (at least in Canada)

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey Nerd, how's it going? I just had to message you today as I was browsing the channel and noticed you've been a member for 18months! Thank you so much for everything you do and still sticking with me. Means the world!

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA I absolutely agree she did that on purpose. She never sent the manager and acted very rude when he asked about it. It's like she tipped herself or something similar. She told him to see a manager and then refused to send one for an unreasonable period of time. He told her "here's your reason to send the manager." He DID pay for the drinks, but she reacted badly the whole way around.

[@reneemanning8935]

Story 3: NTA he didn't completely leave. Left his stuff inside.. Maybe a little wrong for going out for a smoke. Bartender never got the manager as she thought she could keep that money for herself. Crying over something so ridiculous. If she can't do what she's supposed to do then she shouldn't work there

[@emilybarclay8831]

Yeah I’m from the U.K. and only 2hrs from Brighton and not only ate service charges almost unheard of in chains, but they absolutely have to tell you ip front. She was stealing from him

[@sephiroth661]

It’s not a bar it’s a bowling ally why is there a bouncer at a bowling ally I live in the US and I’ve never heard of a bowling ally having a bouncer plus I am a mouthy person I’d have had some choice words for the manager that appeared out of thin air

[@sashamorgan893]

She gave herself a tip

[@Woodie-xq1ew]

@@sephiroth661probably because of all the people kicking off at this bartender for stealing from them

[@dianemartel5205]

Story 2: Time for one of three easy solutions-hubby gets off his ass and gets a job, hubby gets himself some heavy equipment hearing protectors, or OP kicks his lazy ass out.

[@andyshepherd700]

Yeah the zoom baby freeloader struck a nerve with me too. If it were me I would make a list of times that my SO would have to leave the house, because if they did not have a job they could, and then withhold money from them if they failed to give me space for my meetings. Some people just do not understand working from home and it is annoying.

[@edwardmorris8465]

Nobody said he didn't make money or have savings maybe even unemployment would it be the same if it was a woman also is she messy is he always cleaning up behind her cause it sounds like he likes things clean and organized I'd like to know the whole story both sides

[@sleepingbee5748]

I would give him noise cancelling headphones as a leaving present with card saying goodluck ie looking for new job

[@mikea491]

​@@edwardmorris8465My thoughts too

[@judelbugsrutter6727]

💯

[@CharlesGriswold]

Story 2: "Tell him to go to the library if he wants to read." I say you should tell him to pound sand if he doesn't like your lifestyle.

[@emeraldsword4528]

Story three: That girl was doing something shady, likely encouraged by the supervisor based on his actions. I would avoid that place anyway.

[@owenfautley]

Not really I currently work part time as a cashier whilst studying and there has been many cases where the transaction went through on the app but not the till. In these cases the payment would be pending until the shop confirms the transaction at the end of the day allowing the money to be moved, if this does not take place it will be returned to the bank account. Also with cashback it has to be a pin transaction and the customer has to accept it on the card reader, if they tap (like many do because they don't listen) it will go through as a normal transaction without the cashback.

[@colleencook382]

Bowling alley overcharge. I would make a Facebook post warning other patrons to check their bank statements. It may not be anything but it also may be a scam. Just state facts.

[@krazycats564]

I wonder what the correct amount was? Like was it 28.50? I had that happen to me before. You gotta press the 0 on the machine

[@davidmahoney9877]

Story 2: Working from home is an amazing QOL improvement in so many areas, especially if you have family. Husband is being a tool, from the sound of things. Don't give up the ability to work from a home office under any circumstances. NTA.

[@brigidtheirish]

No kidding. I'm on the autism spectrum and am quite sensitive to noise. I'm also the oldest of four and currently live in my sister's basement with *no* sound proofing between me and my niece impersonating a herd of elephants. As a kid, I had to do homework with piano lessons and a screaming infant in the background. This guy can live with OP *talking* in *another room.*

[@mbyerly9680]

How dare she mess with his gaming and porn time by staying away from possible Covid! Go away and earn the money he can spend! What a useless pile of poop.

[@Nerdificent]

"Be the bigger person = Lie flatter, doormat so we don't have to feel uncomfortable." Truer words have rarely been spoken.

[@mothertrucker936]

Wedding cake: my own cake went airborne when some elderly woman was spun and knocked the table. After inquiring if she was okay, I burst out laughing. That poor MC was sweating bullets expecting a full on tantrum. The relief on his face though 😂

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

Story 3, NTA. As someone who works, not quite at a bowling alley but at retail, you DO NOT DO THIS TO A CUSTOMER, this most definitely is a scam! It's BS that all the YTA commenters refuse to acknowledge OP tried to make it right by saying "alright then give me something for that amount" but she refused to then refused to get a manager, instead having a security guard fake being a manager!

[@RekiTheRyvian]

I love how OP said they wanted the charge taken offand the person behind the counter said "can't do that without a manager, you'll have to wait a really long period of time before they are free and then they will be right there" and then the manager never appeared. But the moment they went outside with the drinks they obviously weren't stealing, the manager was suddenly free and available to hunt them down and ban OP from reentering. Honestly I'd say NTA because they clearly weren't stealing their drinks, never did anything to reduce the worker to tears, and the whole thing reeks of a collaborative effort between the worker and manager to skim small amounts from many people, since most people would likely not even bother trying to fix the charge or to dispute it at their bank.

[@bluebeanie561]

Story 2, either he's the biggest manipulative loser or he wants her out to do as he "wishes"

[@darkshadow5581]

Technicality on story 3, OP didn't steal anything, since they didn't leave the bowling alley. It's weird, but I've seen it first hand

[@stirlingarcher7972]

They were outside smoking when the manager confronted them

[@darkshadow5581]

@@stirlingarcher7972 I'm no lawyer, so I may be incorrect, but this technicality is what I was told by an officer. When I worked at Dunkin, I had a extremely high customer attempt to steal a cup, and accidently leave the bag with the cup in it in the store. I was told "because they didn't leave the property with it, we can't charge them with anything". While it admittedly is very likely the theft laws are different from my state to UK, where I'm from, OP didnt steal anything.

[@benry007]

@@darkshadow5581 in the UK I'm pretty sure this wouldn't count as theft as OP had the intention of paying and had asked to see a manager to resolve the issue.

[@alenasenie6928]

To be clear, they stole from him, even if it was a charge from the transaction, they never told him, when I buy anything the amount I have in the ticket is the amount charged, I have never see a transaction that goes over that, sometimes small charges are made for online transactions to prove that the card is valid, and those charges are immediately returned, in this case they stole, because they didn't tell him the correct amount being charged, and it is likely they do this a lot, otherwise I dont see why a manager would not be available for an hour to solve a high priority payment problem.

[@niyablake]

@@darkshadow5581 In the US that is theft. In the UK you have prove the intend to permanently deprive the owner of the object. The cop is lazy. In the US you just have to prove the person intends to steal. They don't have to leave the building. All you have to do is observe them walking in with nothing, select the item, conceal the item and walk by and open till and you can stop them, even if they are still in the store

[@alyzu4755]

Story 4: I'm betting that when hubby gets a cold, the entire world has to stop because he's sick. 😂

[@MeekoButterbean]

I hate it so much when people tell someone who’s been mistreated for years to be “the bigger person” as if that means accepting abuse, that’s not what it means!

[@owl7072]

The cake: **melting slowly** Mark and everyone else: 👁👄👁💧 I've never personally seen any wedding cake mishaps but I watch Cake Boss sometimes and there's quite a few disasters on there that had even me panicking and almost sweating

[@colleencook382]

I seem to recall a part of wedding vows that states, in sickness and in health? His lack of empathy for the person he is supposed to love is quite concerning.

[@FlamesofJagger]

Last two weddings I went to had unique cakes. The first chose to do a variety of cupcakes that formed the cake. The second had Gomez and Morticia as the topper to a black /star filled frosted cake.

[@ScooterBond1970]

I'm a bit of a traditionalist myself, but that second one sounds hilarious and awesome.

[@Becks-and-books]

Bowling story is a NTA for me. Going outside with drinks where it's not allowed is not okay, but it doesn't push OP into AH territory for me. But the transaction being wrong should be a priority for the people working there, and the cashier should've made more of an effort to get the manager to help OP, and manager should've showed up. They could be understaffed, but again... priority to correct things. It's alarming that people accept random transactions on their card as "service charge" when that hasn't been advertised. I would be pissed off if I saw this and a lot more agitated than OP. Though, I would've called my bank in front of the cashier and told the bank about a fraudulent charge that they've not provided a reciept for, and refuse to give back. That'd surely have them working harder to give the money back. I've worked in banking and you should always be mindful of small charges on your account, and call your bank immediately. It can be tedious and I get why you'd like to avoid it but....

[@torahammas6722]

This is it exactly. The bowling alley isn't doing anything to correct what at this point looks like literal theft, even after OP was really understanding about it, and OP is supposed to be the AH? Yeah, no. He had every right to be miffed.

[@KBAILEYinMS]

Did I miss something or didn't they say all of their stuff was still in the bowling alley? That should have been a good sign that they were not going anywhere.

[@SheenaReine]

My sister is an addict. Always must be the centre of attention. Did it at my moms vow renewal. I didn’t invite her to my wedding. I didn’t want or need that stress on my day.

[@fairly-celestial4715]

1st story: my sister and I have an excellent relationship with my cousin but this wasn’t always the case. We never had a bad relationship with her but due to family problems we didn’t talk for a while. Main problem is my grandfather and deceased grandmother where there was a lot of miscommunication because mu grampa was the middle person. We now talk openly about all the issues and realize my grampa has created a lot of the problems.

[@cv8167]

Never saw a cake mishap, but I did see a fistfight start at my sister's wedding. Between the groom's brother, and his ex's new boyfriend. All of whom (brother, brother's ex, and ex's boyfriend) were invited against common sense.

[@TryniaMerin]

Another case in story 1 of a person whining about the OP being "selfish" because the person doesn't get their way.

[@melissaisloud7404]

Story 1: here’s what I’d say to my mother … “she is not my sister. She is your daughter. There’s a stark difference”.

[@toddhanzlik1516]

For my wife and I, we didn't have a cake at our wedding at all. We had heard too many bad tales of fallen cakes and decided not to spend hundreds of dollars to have that happen. Instead, her mom and another lady from church got together and baked 35 or 40 different kinds of pies for us. Best wedding reception ever. 😍

[@AndyyWithAY]

What is up waffle gang?? Off today. Watching while I get ready to get Japanese food. I tried the place last week, and it was so good I had to go back. I'm buying for my mom and brother too cuz I guess I like them 😜😂

[@MarkNarrations]

Ooooo what you having 😁

[@badkitty4922]

Awww, you're so sweet to treat your mom and brother, too! The Japanese restaurant by me does an AWESOME Chicken Shogoaiki(sp?), and a Chicken and Duck stir fry that I'm completely addicted to!

[@A.x3]

Buy me some too! 😭💕

[@ButchPleaseImFabulous]

Story 2: NTA that is such clear cut and dry emotional abuse. If he was disabled or something him not working would make sense, but he can at least look for a work from home job. Protect yourself and get out. You can’t fix him. He needs time alone to fix himself and you need some time with a therapist who specializes in abuse victims. You will find real love but this isn’t love. It’s control. You deserve to be loved without abuse. You deserve happiness and peace of mind. It might be hard to leave right now but the heartache will end. I wish all the healing and happiness for you and I hope your partner has the day he deserves.

[@fcold9402]

2. NTA. The unemployeed person sitting at home doing nothing but complaining to the employed person, needs to leave the house and go find a job. If they were both working from home and maybe he was there first and it was causing issues then i could see an actual conflict. In this case there is no conflict and the person paying bills wins. He just doesn't want her seeing him being lazy instead of job hunting.

[@shannansmith2188]

Story 1, I like the update! It would not be the first time that a Mum caused drama or tension between her kids as a way to keep involved in their lives and their personal relationships, unfortunately.

[@andrediamond4374]

To be the bigger person is to not stoop to the level of those treating you poorly, it doesn't mean to be a doormat

[@cynicalrabbit915]

Story 1) OP's sister is Toxic Why in the world would a mother want to cause drama between her daughters? The only thing I can think of is that by causing drama, she can take her favorite daughter's side, to reinforce that she is ger favorite and don't you forget it.

[@justinecorrington4106]

Story 3: nta. The staff member is incompetent

[@secretskull21]

“You should be the bigger person!” “I AM the bigger person, because instead of rightfully kicking her ass for the shit she’s pulled, I’m only ignoring her.”

[@jacquelinewithac8668]

Just got home from work and going on a little day trip with the fiancé! This will be perfect for us to listen to on the drive over. Much love Mark!

[@susanlosey9511]

Why is it, that the person who is being put up on and beaten down always has to “ be the bigger person” why the bully gets by with that crap? NTA! Go no with that toxic person. She will bully your girls.

[@tegantalks9612]

Story 3- NTA and if it is a chain I would be contacted corporate and letting them know what happened and how you were not happy with how it was handled and don’t feel you deserve this ban. I would also leave a negative review on their Google or Yelp page to warn other guests to check their cards if they chose to buy drinks and stuff here. This seems really sketchy to me and whose to say that the waitress and “manager” aren’t in on some sort of scam together.

[@greeneyelove2003]

OP's sister isn't blameless, but it sounds like to me that their mother gets even more blame. Sounds like she's feeding off the drama of pitting her daughters against one another which is twisted. Maybe the mother did all she could to keep them from bonding because she was afraid their bond would be stronger than the one she shared with her. OP should make sure she and sis talk and spend time together without telling their mother when they have plans.

[@sammyk.6457]

I hope story 2 gets an update I’m really worried about that woman

[@clemjoke7609]

2nd story, he inspects her room? What, is he a wannabe drill sergeant?

[@Habitarse]

Cakes mishaps… at my wedding, my sister gifted us the cake. It was from a great patisserie and the guy had been in France, all the just… So, I’m very allergic to strawberries 🍓(it’s a kind of nut) so we explained the baker all my allergies and thought it would be OK. We had our wedding with the Officiant and we went to celebrate, the cake had arrived and was in the walk in cooler. Great!! So we got the cake out and the was strawberries on top of it! I couldn’t touch the cake, but everybody enjoyed it. That was a sad part. I was really waiting to have a piece of cake… 😢

[@susankaempfer8427]

15:06 To the husband who is unemployed, complaining you’re working at home during covid… He inspects your room for cleanliness? He’s unemployed, why can’t he do the housework? This is bonkers and he’s putting you down to make his worthless self feel better about the fact that he’s a moocher.

[@joshmcatee689]

Mark... I loooove when you sing the word "butthole". i always smile

[@gretchenmyers1279]

story 2 op needs to be child-free---by getting a divorce

[@moonyollie6977]

Story 2: Get him a pair of noise- cancelling earphones and tell him to shadafackap. During Covid I didn't have a job and my spouse was working from home in a thin walled place. Guess what, I got off my ass and went for a long healthy walk when he was in zoom meetings. Also tell him to get off the couch and do some housework. Better yet, punt him out

[@helstok178]

Hang on, the SICK person is sleeping on the sofa?? How the hell does that help them?!

[@bonniebaldridge1248]

Toxic Sister: NTA. 'Be the bigger person?' Why?! "She's FAMMMMILEEEE!" So? Worse luck.

[@owl7072]

Story 3: NTA. OP did everything he was supposed to and nothing happened. Tried to ask for his money back, asked if he could get something worth the money taken, asked for the manager, _waited for the manager,_ and nothing happened. But the second he goes and does something else, the manager magically appears and he's banned from the establishment just like that? Sounds like a scam, but I don't know if it's just the bartender scamming them or the establishment as a whole. I don't know where the YTA votes are coming from.

[@milieg3309]

both the bartender and security are involved for sure. 10 bucks says she cried to him that these customers were gonna get her fired and he went and "fixed things" for her

[@Flakey101]

He did not do everything he was supposed to. He was a moron for not checking the amount on the first transaction.

[@nilianstroy]

the yta votes come from americans...

[@nilianstroy]

@@Flakey101 1) sometimes transactions take long, 2) what would happen if he didn't have a phone app to check straight away?

[@Flakey101]

@@nilianstroy neither of those apply, the amount is displayed before the card is even used, he even checked the second time.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: NTA. You want people who love and respect you at your wedding; your sister isn’t either of them. Be the bigger person is code for be a doormat and deal with it. Story 1 Update: knowing that your mother is behind you and your sister’s relationship is more f*cked up. Still keep your sister at arms length in case she regress. Story 2: NTA. You are only one who’s earning money, he refuses to work. He’s being abusive while you work to support both of you. Dump him.

[@leesnow5859]

Story two. Husband is unemployed and not looking for work? So the wife is supporting the family? Then he can clean the house, do the laundry and the cooking just like he would expect you to if situation was reversed!

[@Barghaest]

His behavior seems like he’s insecure about not being the breadwinner. It’s her zoom meetings that bother him… not because of the noise like he claims, it’s reminding him she’s the one working. I am wondering why he’s unemployed. Regardless, he’s lashing out at her because he’s insecure in his manhood over the situation which is why he brings up traditional housewife things like cleaning. He sounds like he doesn’t know how to deal with being unemployed and isn’t very mature… I forgot what she said their ages were but he really didn’t handle the pandemic well.

[@krafka]

Bowling alley charge: NTA - it's actually a pretty standard fraud practice to add a tiny bit extra on to charges or do multiple charges. While £2.85 sounds insignificant, if she does it on 50 transactions, she pockets a nice chunk of change at the end of the evening. NTA because she never intended to tell the manager because her scheme would have been discovered or the manager was in on it and this is how they make some extra cash.

[@swisstroll3]

Story 1: About the cake problem at the wedding. In premarital counseling, I told couples that something almost always goes wrong at a wedding. Just roll with the punches. It will make the wedding more memorable and give the people there something to talk about in the future. I also warn them that about 40% of the time one or both of them will get sick on the honeymoon. Think of it as a test of the vows “in sickness and in health.”

[@Steampunkkids]

@Mark Narrations At 27:01 is why we all adore you and your channel. You bring so much empathy and compassion to these posts. Please, keep being you :)

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: OP uses headphones for her meetings to help block out noise. The husband is annoyed at her for annoying him when he chooses to be in the room next to her workspace (literally annoyed at her voice? Tf?). How about instead of wanting to guilt her into doing something she is uncomfortable doing, OP’s husband gets a pair of headphones to listen to music, go to another room or leave the house entirely for the duration of her meetings? The guy is toxic

[@gaxalee7392]

The realization of him hating the “noise” is heartbreaking. He hates her voice so much that he bitches and moans and insults her over it.

[@chelyfranco5037]

I saw a picture of a messed up cake than was handled jokingly by adding toy dinosaures put on it. 😄

[@hojmatros5102]

Why do victims always have to be "the bigger person", while the perpetrators always gets away with everything? It's bullshit.

[@milieg3309]

So many red flags in s4. He let his sick gf sleep on the couch for over a week. Doesn't want to help and is downplaying something like an illness. This man will end up emotionally abusing his gf

[@danilapetrova1178]

Last story..NTA I recently got sick from a similar terrible cold that would only get worse for 3 weeks. My sister flew two thousand kilometers just to come look after me, make me soup and be a support system to lean on when I was week. She got sick and then I did the same for her (luckily she was well in just a few days). That's how people show support and care and it's the absolutely basic requirement for a relationship.

[@emibaka309]

Commenting what im doing while listening: I am cleaning my apartment! My parents are coming to visit my place tomorrow 🥶 So i need to hide this mess I have created

[@StilltheAp0llyon]

If someone had an animal that was in the habit of attacking and injuring people, you wouldn't say "That's just how Kujo is" and let it keep attacking you, right? Do why would you put up with being attacked and hurt by a person that *chooses* to hurt you?

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@MarkNarrations]

Thanks as always Broken 😁

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MarkNarrations np I hope you have had a great day so far m8🤗🤗💜💜

[@FlamesofJagger]

Take care as always Broken. Much love 💘 ❤ 💗 💕 💛 💙 💘

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@FlamesofJagger thanks m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@rgfsufan5048]

Story 4: He can't love her, best thing for her is a divorce.

[@dancing0nthe3dge]

For the first story, this is so similar to my life it's shocking. But I found out early that even when my sister and I "reconciled" after realizing my mom was always meddling.... It didn't take long for her to go back to her old ways.. and an entire year later I learned that from the beginning of the said reconciliation she was feeding my mom information and meddling but now two against one. I hope that she cuts contact with at least one of them.

[@Silence-1170]

Happy Wednesday guys! Me and my mom have been enjoying these stories thank you for reading them Mark!

[@justinecorrington4106]

Be the bigger person should be don’t stoop to their level. But as reviewer said; its become a weapon to use against the victim, don’t bring attention to the abuse; because then we have to accept our own culpability and complacency. She stressed about moving?! Seriously high risk pregnancy trumps moving stress. Tell your husband to get a job or wear headphones to block the noise. And since he doesn’t have a job, he can clean if he’s unhappy

[@heatherv3417]

Not a cake mishap but a memory bowl mishap. My husband and I were both in the party of one of our best friends in our tight knit group. we’ve all known each other since 2nd grade, some of us since kindergarten (6 years old) The bride had a memory bowl with a candle that was supposed to hold the candle, some fake flowers and greens, and a picture of her grandfather. So my (then boyfriend, now husband) and the best man (his best friend josh) were helping set up in the church while I (maid of honor) am helping the bride get ready. Apparently josh didn’t realize that the glass had been packed loose from the candle, and so when he went to pick up the candle CRASH went the glass bowl all over the parking lot. My husband described the sense of dread that they both felt looking at each other, and they very quickly went to my husbands car and started driving to hobby lobby to grab another glass bowl. Mind you they’re both in full tuxedoes. They run in and grab a bowl that looked basically identical and run to the checkout with it. The cashier asks why they’re dressed up and when they say they’re going to a wedding and the memory bowl shattered she says ‘omg congratulations!’ Thinking it was them getting married. Josh, being josh, doesn’t miss a beat and grins. “Thanks! Hopefully butterfingers here won’t drop the ring either!’ And gave my husband a big air kiss which likely turned him bright red They left and returned to the wedding with no one the wiser until after the ceremony was finished. Brian told me aaaaaall about it 😂 they still joke around about being fake married lmao

[@katherineburton1766]

You talk about your waffles like we don't like them. I personally love your waffles, and I know I'm not the only one. Lotsa love to you, Mark, your voice always brings a huge grin to my face.

[@MarkNarrations]

Haha thank you so much Katherine, sometimes I get emails and comments basically telling me to shut it so sometimes it puts me on edge :)

[@arrowhart2008]

Story #3 nta I'm in America and I would do the same thing and paying that much for bowling to me is crazy. The bowling alleys we have at least in my area are about 8$ a game. Seems like a rip off to me.

[@xgi5670]

Welcome to Brighton lol

[@sandrabrogdon3784]

You even spoke to vows of sickness and health I don't think there's a stipulation on what type of sickness you have to have for them to still be there for you. Apparently with your husband it's only the life-threatening ones

[@karendaniel620]

I needed you today, Mark. Needed the whole Waffle Gang.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I hope you're doing okay. I don't know what's wrong but I know you can get through it. You got this :)

[@bloonh8tr619]

Never feel bad about waffling, it's always great listening to your additions to the stories!

[@ericaallisonc]

I always giggle when Mark calls his tangents a "waffle".

[@paden1865able]

Stayed in bed most of the day not moving at all. Pain is going down but I will say, I hate having a cyst. It did finally break, though. Ugh.

[@ivy4104]

Oy! Its a cheeky Mark! Have a good one as always

[@MarkNarrations]

Yoooooooooooo 😁❤

[@isaiahcameron7897]

Our cake melted before the ceremony even started. Luckily, the photographer and MOH (both besties of my wife) were made aware of it when a five year old decided to lick it and then alert them. They saved the cake, and got some adorable pictures of the kid trying to get more frosting while the venues staff tried desperately to get it into the fridge without it collapsing 😂

[@AllistorMichelle]

story 4: nta is this someone you want to be with? MANY people [mainly guys but not all] want to be taken cared of when sick. he said "you have a cold not cancer" in all honesty i don't think he'd even take care of you even if you DID have cancer

[@edwardmorris8465]

One sided story no one knows the whole story

[@Joyfullscroll]

They should Respect Her choice of blocking a Toxic family member. They probably already Know she's like that and became de- sensitized to the situation. Appearances don't mean nothing at that point.

[@canadalovesanime3137]

story 1: Not their wedding, not their decision. If they put the "If you don't invite her we won't being coming either". Just say, "Oh well more food for everyone else then", and smile. Go LC and let them make the REAL first move, by apologising. This toxic environment isn't good for the kids or OP. They are showing their true colours and favouritism. NTA story 2: He can't bring his girlfriend over if OP works from home. Or he doesn't want OP to see him playing games/watching videos all day. If he doesn't like the noise, he could get a job outside the home. NTA story 4 : I bet he is one of those who expects the world to stop when he's sick. My father used to do this. My mum had to "get your lazy *ss out of bed" when she had a fever of 104F, and go out for a walk with him. She was then expected to make lunch, and dinner after. If he was sick, everyone had to leave him alone and be quiet. This 'husband' won't die from a couple nights on the couch. OP will take longer to heal without proper rest. He is only worried about his health and happiness. So selfish! NTA

[@kixi8033]

1. NTA. Sometimes parents/family don't completely understand how a toxic sibling can affect you. I went no-contact with one of my older brothers and I am slightly in contact with the other. We talk but it's rare. However, my dad doesn't fully understand why. Both of my brothers made my life hell when we were kids but my dad just saw it as sibling rivalry and would tell me to just ignore it. On top of that, I was being bullied at school so I had no safe place to go to get away from the stressors in my life.

[@t1995roger10]

It is Wednesday, my dudes! Hi Mark! Much love to you 😘

[@kellyalves756]

Story 1: my sis and I had a big comparing notes session, and boy did things change after that.

[@laurenmentink7401]

Story 4 = NTA. Husband is TA though. You take care of your SO no matter what. It makes me wonder if OP's husband cares about her. Is this a one time thing or something that happens a lot? If the first then just sleep in your bed and let him have the consequences. If this happens a lot then consider if you really want this man in your life.

[@Musical_Pigeon]

For the last story: My boyfriend and I have been trading illnesses for a lot of October. I start feeling better he gets sick again and gives it to me.

[@crem-crem4070]

Love the fact that Mark’s videos come at just the right time that I can listen to them while cutting up the chicken for my dogs’ dinners

[@warpthumr47]

I think the unemployed hubby is unhappy that his wife is home bc she's interfering with activities he can't do when she's there. And sleeping apart is fine but exactly when did it start & whose idea was it? Sketchy as hell.

[@traceymurphy4804]

Ahhh, at last I get the 'waffle gang' reference. I thought it was a pancake club, not 'I went off on a tangent, or, waffled'. 😂

[@jaredcastro579]

If I was the OP in the last story, I would get the hubby sick on purpose and if he tries to ask me for help, I would just tell him his line back.

[@AndyyWithAY]

With the bowling story YTA. In America it usually takes days to get your refund.

[@tomsautocadstudio6446]

In america this would have been sorted sooner since you guys actually care about customer service.

[@adrianmcbride1666]

The manager should still have been brought within 10 minutes to talk to the op about the situation. They neglected a customer that they had overcharged and showed no intention to rectify the issue either.

[@victoriapyles7752]

Story 2.. are they married, or are they room mates? Like whatever they have separate rooms, but inspecting?? 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩constantly makes her feel guilty for just existing?🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 I typically think Reddit goes over board with the “dump him” but if he can’t drastically pick up some slack, and make an effort, she needs to dip.

[@dionysus_adores]

First story: Wow.... what a "great"(abusive/cruel) sister op has..... wouldn't invite her or talk to her ever again op sis wouldn't come close being an aunt or ever involved in op's life