r/AITA UPDATE Telling My Mom She Must Have NO SELF-RESPECT To Marry My Dad

[@Emily-ck9ji]

If story 1 is EVER updated, please post it. I really want to know how this story ends. That father is extremely close to losing his daughter for the rest of her life because of his behavior.

[@Canvas-nb]

Seconded!

[@thedestroyasystem]

Thirdeddedd

[@jennilynne1977]

Forth.

[@akatsukilockheart2597]

Fifthed

[@low-keydrama1260]

Sixth-ed

[@karlis9003]

That first story reminds me of when my mother gave me a lecture about not shaving my legs. She said it was disgusting. My father walked by during the conversation and I turned to him and said "hey dad, did you know your legs are disgusting?" He laughed, but my mother was not pleased.

[@s.d.berard7518]

I’m laughing so hard at this!! RLOL 😹😹

[@rogueshark23]

LMFAO

[@kristinewatson3702]

LMFAO

[@MaryTheresa1986]

😂😂😂😂

[@panashemudzudzu9860]

😭😭😭😭

[@aer015]

So, for those new to this video. The first story's OP has posted a 2nd update and another conflict with their father. Basically, the OP came out and is doing well. Their parents are accepting and learning. On the other hand, another conflict happened a month after the story's 2nd update. Basically, the father was demoralizing the wife for being a SAHM, so the OP made a slideshow about the financials that the mother/wife would technically be paid to a nanny/chef/nurse/etc. for the care and work she puts in nonstop while the father is making money. The father and OP got into it arguing, the father saying the finances are none of OP's business, and OP saying that her mother's work and care deserves appreciation and respect.

[@tara5807]

Thank you for this.

[@toothless3835]

Sounds like once OP's an adult, she's going to do what she can to get her mom out from under her dad and encourage her mother to divorce the ass suit.

[@clarysstoryboard3317]

Goddamn, that's an incredibly shiny spine the OP has got there.

[@LaineyBug2020]

The Army Birthday Story: He's bragging about never having arguments other than this. It's actually really easy not to argue with people you never see. Doesn't actually say that much about his relationship skills.

[@AndyyWithAY]

That's a good point! Wasnt he deployed a whole year i.e half the relationship

[@ronnieman87]

His first mistake is having a girl anything while in the service.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

@@ronnieman87 Er... My dad was already serving in the RAAF when he met my Mum, they're still together 39 or 40 years, married for 38 years. So, it's nothing to do with him being in the services and having a girlfriend while in it.

[@ronnieman87]

@@kerribottriell-baxter7345 well good on him for finding someone to stick with him through thick and thin, however, your Pa is not this guy. This guy seems to not know what he wants.

[@aikikaname6508]

Yeah I guarantee this was not a ‘small argument.’ The one time he’s around he completely misses her birthday (because he didn’t mention it to his brother in the planning stage!) With his attitude his relationship isn’t long for the world

[@weotu]

Op 1 can always tell her father he was such a bad representative of men, he turned her off to the whole gender

[@amelianekomimi1936]

lmfao i love this comment

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@LostSoulchild89 I found the post and her comments and another update. OP is SAVAGE! Here’s one of her comments: “My mom has never been the "shutting down" type with my dad, so I didn't expect that to happen. To be fair, I kind of set him off in the beginning. After he kept insisting on the shotgun thing (saying he was going to go to the dance with it so the boy knows who's dad he's messing with, I asked him: "Do you actually have your own personality, or do you just enjoy being a walking stereotype?" He did not take that well.” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 And here’s the update: “Hi Reddit, A lot of people have been messaging me asking for an update, and first of all, I just want to thank you all for the outpouring of support. I think we can all agree that the internet can bring out the best and worst in people - in this case, wow. Nothing but the best, no hateful DMs whatsoever or weird shit, just genuine people sending love. This could not be more appreciated, trust me. So the first thing I'd like to say is a lot of people were worried for my safety, but rest assured I am 100% fine. Apologies for not updating sooner, but as you can imagine, things got crazy and with a multiple balls in the air (metaphorically, I'm gay lol) I just felt the dust wasn't settled enough to post an update. But we're here now! I want to start by saying that my relationship with my family, especially my dad, is continuously improving. Let's rewind to the return from the trip to Taco Bell. So where we left off, my sister and I went to TB and hung out in the parking lot for a while. She told me that eventually, we would have to go home, and I realized she was right. So I drove us home. Not gonna lie, I was shaking. I didn't know quite what I would be walking into. When I got home, the house was weirdly quiet. I think my mom was in my parents' room, and my dad was out on the back porch with a beer. Not catatonic, exactly, but alarmingly still. I'd gotten him some TB before my sister and I left (it always used to be our thing) - a cruchwrap (or what I call the meat frisbee). I went out on the porch and sat down, asked if we could talk. He said yes, but it was minutes of awkward silence. Eventually he told me he was surprised. I asked why, and he said "well, you just don't look gay". This wasn't surprising. Without revealing details about my appearance or my location, I'm from the suburbs and I look like it. To my dad, he has a very specific idea of what a gay girl looks like, so it just didn't quite compute for him at the time. I kind of said "well, I don't know what to tell you there". There was quite a bit more silence and tension. And, being me, I decided to break the ice by saying something cheeky. I asked him if he had any tips for me from his frat days. When he asked what I meant, I said something along the lines of "oh, you know. For scoring points with the ladies". This was where the mood shifted. He lost it laughing, and I did too. I knew then everything was going to be absolutely fine between us. My parents both have a lot to learn about this stuff. While my parents try to be open-minded, they have a lot of confusion about LGBTQ+ stuff (for example, they're not fully there on understanding pronouns. I'm trying to get them there). But they're more and more on board with what it means to have a gay daughter. And frankly, I'm new here, so I'm figuring out what it means to be gay too. For those wondering, I went to the dance and it was well...a high school dance. A fun time but nothing lifechanging. I've been coming out to my friends slowly but surely, and the reaction has been hilarious. Essentially the overwhelming response is "yeah... this isn't new information". I guess I was the last one to figure it out. Again, TY internet strangers for all the support. Much love to you all.”

[@noxiouschocolate9644]

Story 1: Dad: gives his daughter shit about potentially sleeping around and getting pregnant Op: is gay Dad:👁👄👁

[@andressotil4671]

Probably next: Dad: SLEEP WITH MEN NOW REEEEEEEEEEE

[@Amehtta]

“I picked a whole goddamn bouquet of Whoopsie-Daisies.” I feel bad for laughing but oh my god that is a beautiful line I am going to add to my vocabulary

[@eloraandkhan3288]

I saw that one in the original thread, and I giggled too. Its a lovely phrasing, I had never heard it before either.

[@charityquill4965]

@@eloraandkhan3288 honorable mention to the "he looked at me, and I looked at him" bit lmao

[@josephbrown9665]

Her mother probably knew that she was not interested in boys.

[@Alissandre_Iskander]

Story 1: the dad is in real danger of losing his kids because of his bs. The mom may one day decide she's had enough and walk away, too.

[@bethotoole6569]

The wife is also in that boat,, she may loose them too if she doesn’t start standing up for them….

[@TheCentralScrutinizerAgain]

nah he`s learnt his lesson he`ll leave her to the gutter.

[@minagica]

Yep!

[@minagica]

@@TheCentralScrutinizerAgain ?

[@bellarose-au]

I'm curious about the cultural heritage and ages of the parents. My extended family (of mixed European heritage) has a couple of females who came out as gay 30 plus years ago. There are many more who waited until all the elders (born pre-WWII) had passed away. Those who came out in the 1980's and 1990's were exiled from the family. To the point like they never existed. The ones who waited did so to make sure they weren't disowned and disinherited like the others. I'm not saying either way is right or wrong. Also, the mother being perceived as having no self-esteem to marry her husband, I see this in some of the more traditionally conservative branches of my extended family. The wife goes along with everything her husband wants. So, I'm curious if the OP's cultural background is similar to mine.

[@ComaLies225]

Story 1: I'm 31, and I wish I was as confident and badass as OP. Holy crap I'm going blind from her shiny freaking spine

[@als2480]

My generation may not be able to make our own phone calls, or ask for extra ketchup but holy shit will we rain hellfire if we see injustice.

[@ComaLies225]

@@melodyharpole8272 “people like you are lying your heads off” So I’m lying for saying I wished I had more confidence at at age? I’m really confused 😐

[@als2480]

@@melodyharpole8272 omg citation needed.

[@paigemosher8697]

@@melodyharpole8272 You sound delusional. Get your issues sorted before you come back on the internet, and don't come back without a documented clean bill of health from the local inpatient clinic. Your type of crazy is not one that's easy to treat, but I'm sure if you work for it, you can be fixed in no time.

[@AndyyWithAY]

The military OP is absolutely the AH. Seems like he's the only one who thinks this is a great relationship. Going to the Bachelor party on her bday isn't what makes him the AH, it's his reaction to her telling him what is important to her and him completely disregarding all her feelings. They can celebrate before or after. It's how dismissive he is to her feelings. I'd bounce

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. First sentence after the title and I was already going, "here come the donkeys." I mean, he gets back from deployment and takes a bunch of vacations *without her* and he thought she'd be okay with him skipping her birthday? Sure, she couldn't go on those vacations because of work, but that just makes it *worse!*

[@hyperplaguerat]

I hope she dumps OP lmao. He is so dismissive of her feelings and is barely around. It's better to be single than to put more effort into a relationship with someone than they do for you.

[@randombuildsman9742]

@@hyperplaguerat woah chill, maybe he is an AH for disregarding her feelings but maybe he just needs to understand it a bit more I mean maybe he doesn’t realize he made a mistake I think he should be given a chance still to make up and learn the mistake and if he doesn’t then it makes sense to leave him

[@aikikaname6508]

@@randombuildsman9742 No, he’s not getting judged this hard for making a mistake. He’s getting judged for his piss poor attitude (lol) and not giving a damn even though he KNOWS how important birthdays are to his girlfriend and was TOLD how important they are and yet he keeps downplaying. He knows but doesn’t care. She’s put up with a lot for his career but he can’t even summon the energy to care about one small things that matter to her and after the update, he’s still downplaying. He should be single so he only has to worry about himself.

[@randombuildsman9742]

@@aikikaname6508 makes sense ig

[@marybrown6756]

Story number 1: I would love to give OP a big hug. That girls got game.

[@iceheap9422]

@UCcBsf4godPQf5qjBS1X0Wqg not everyone has a political agenda. She mentioned she doesn't like guys. She said she doesn't like guys, theb she doesn't like guys. Screw off.

[@marybean2231]

@@melodyharpole8272 Ah yes, a teen being slut shamed, calling out misogyny and coming out as gay, means she's got an agenda. No caring person would say something like this in any way whatsoever. You'd have "the talk" and treat them like a person, not make a sexist joke about hormones. I'd say I feel sorry for your future children, but any sane person hearing this would run for the hills before there would even be a chance.

[@cheetos_and_kilos]

@@melodyharpole8272 seriously get some help

[@owl7072]

Story 1: _Man._ I get that parents want to make sure their kids don't get hurt but can we _please_ drop the whole "Oh I'll meet them with my shotgun" or "I'll kill anyone who asks out my kid without my permission" or whatever other variation there is? I'm so tired of it, I'm 20 and my mom _still_ jokes about "getting rid of" or interrogating anyone I end up dating and all it's teaching people is to not tell their parents about any relationships they have out of fear that their parents might do something to hurt the person at worst or utterly humiliate their kid at best. "Good then my kid won't date anyone without my permission" and they'll also most likely _resent_ you for not letting them figure things out while still safely at home rather than when they're on their own and don't have that safety net anymore.

[@als2480]

I swear if some asshole pulls that on my son, he'll be real surprised when I show up on his doorstep with a gun of my own. Shit ain't cute and both of our kids deserve better

[@boydmccollum692]

@@als2480 You realize dads say shit like that about "meeting the boy with a shotgun" but don't actually do it. It's a stupid cultural thing that is slow to die, but it's also driven out of concern for the daughter (as if no girl ever has been hurt/assaulted or worse). It's the same shit as saying what you just did. It some hypothetical situation that has close to zero chance of happening. Yeah, and for reference, I have a 21 yo son, so not speaking out my ass.

[@aikikaname6508]

Ironically he’s making sure she will be in MORE danger. He’s guaranteed she can’t talk to him about relationship stuff, so if bf starts pressuring her she isn’t going to feel comfortable about talking to the parents because no matter what the issue he’s gonna go berserk and probably up the parental controls. If he successfully scares off boys when she’s younger (let’s say she’s straight in this hypothetical situation), then she’s going to lose out on low pressure dating experiences when she’s 14 with less expectations sexually and her first relationship experiences will be when she’s older with more sexual expectations and she’ll have less experience than her partner

[@ezyo1000]

@@boydmccollum692 That's not true, I have 2 different occasions with two different girls who's dads did that to me, granted he wasn't pointing it at me but he had it out with him and cracking those stupid ass "joking threats" first I was scared then It was replaced with anger. And I called them out for it I said "is it really okay to be joking about murdering a minor? I don't think my parents would find it very funny" the first one was just straight adrenaline and he played it off. The second guy... Was actually crazy abusive and I don't think it would of been put of the realm of possibility for him given what I later found out about him. But yeah, if my either of my son's told me someone's dad threatened him like that, I would NOT take that shit as a joke. It's teaching a weird possessive behavior whole also teaching young boys/ men that their life isn't valuable

[@TheCentralScrutinizerAgain]

@northern_skies nice little buzzwords, this is why the story is fake

[@stephenlundy5082]

Story 2: NTA: Although there is a lot of context missing here, on the face of it I would have to say that the wife was behaving incredibility selfishly. Reminds me a of a story from a cruise ship we were on. My wife was waiting in line at the buffet table for some creme de caramel. There were 3 pieces left and my wife was 5th or 6th in line, everyone else was skipping over these, until the woman in front of my wife took all three pieces and walked off with them. Later on way out of the dining area, we passed the table where the woman was sitting. The other woman and her party had left, she ate one corner off one piece, and left the rest. My wife was so mad... :)

[@rabeaw6646]

I like it a lot when restaurants charge for uneaten items. Most of the time they are very sensible about that. I never payed extra if i took a piece of something and just didnt like it. I suppose they so many ppl who abuse the ayca system that they can differarte between greedy and dislike of one item. And the edit made it so much worse, wife doesnt do chores because she dont want to get her hands dirty? She isnt paying for livingexpences in the family? Is it was a guy everyone would be screaming abuse and red flag and divorce

[@umbranassassin8372]

@@rabeaw6646 From my experience its kind of spotty in Chinese buffets and more often than not it isn't present as a rule afaik in America but every single Korean barbeque I've been too has this rule for this exact reason.

[@miaikonteras4006]

@@rabeaw6646 Same. I mostly see it with Japanese places here, and also never had an issue having taken a small piece and disliking it. Some places here outright state that you are allowed one or two leftover pieces for free to allow for tasting and disliking. If you have more than that, you pay.

[@natmickan]

I’m all for restaurants charging for food wastage, but this story didn’t scream selfishness to me, so much as a disordered relationship with food. It wouldn’t surprise me in the slightest if OPs wife had food security issues when she was younger, and doesn’t even realise/know why she does it. It’s an incredibly hard subconscious behaviour to break, even once you learn it’s an issue; I’m surprised this wasn’t mentioned in any of the comments that got read out ETA: Expecting her husband to do/provide everything for her is clearly BS behaviour; I’m not defending that at all

[@RosesTeaAndASD]

Story2: Being excited doesn't excuse gluttony. We teach kids self restraint don't we?

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

I also couldn't help but notice the bit where he says he provides for them both and she doesn't even clean the house because she "doesn't like getting her hands dirty." This broad is a child in an adult's body.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

I am now overly worried for OP in story 1, I bloody hope that she is okay at the end of this.

[@als2480]

Right?! Homophobic misogynistic shot gun dad with a temper makes me worried

[@groofromtheup5719]

I am am so right wing that I think felons should be allowed to own guns after they are off probation. I found out my eldest daughter was a lesbian in a very angry confrontation over something else and it really didn't phase me beyond feeling pity because I know it is making her life harder. She still got punished for the other things.

[@als2480]

@@groofromtheup5719 You're a terrible person....

[@groofromtheup5719]

@@als2480 for what exactly?

[@GMAMEC]

@@als2480 Pity may have been the wrong word, but she will have to face obstacles, especially if she lives in a small town.

[@damien678]

S1, if I ever have a daughter, I hope she turns out like OP. I'm so proud of her

[@maddy8328]

Same, I personally don't want kids, but if I have a niece like that, I would be so proud

[@a.u.t.057]

I would be more then proud

[@damien678]

@@melodyharpole8272 wtf are you on about? also I made my comment before hearing the update. I was originally proud af for her being so fierce against the misogyny her father was spouting

[@lisakaz35]

Yeah, I like her moxie.

[@minagica]

Ditto, but her dad would be bi and not a homophobic slut shamer

[@illiwd]

Story 1: no OP wasn't wrong. Her father, who jokes about his own promiscuity in college, was bashing her in from of her mom. Her mom was just sitting there, letting him. All the best to OP. Nice clap back. Mom will be fine, somebody has to stand up for OP. Sad that it wasn't them. Also wanna say both parents are the AH. Glad she kinda made up with mom, but mom owes her Daughter a huge apology. OP is being failed by both of them, imo

[@biggysmallz40]

How was he bashing his daughter when he said he wanted to meet the guy she's going to the dance with and how it's important to know who his daught is with. That's not shaming that's being a concerned parent. And the "I don't want to to be like those slutty girls" that was harsh I'm not gonna lie that was bad for him to say. Now where I having a problem with in this comment section is people are acting like if she was into guys and was hiding guys from her dad that would be bad for her as her dad more than likely knows how dirty and manipulative some guys can be ( him being a former fraternity member). And with him joking with his nephew vs being cautious about his daughter is Massively different as for his nephew he not concerned with him being taken advantage of or peer pressured into doing something that could damage him in the future. He's scared of those happening to his daughter as every father ( that's a real father) should be.

[@jeffdredd1172]

Even the slutty girls line although not phrased well at all is not a terrible message. It's not a reputation you want as a young girl whether you think it's right or wrong the double standard that exists around male and female promiscuity.

[@willj24]

Story 2: Wait, so when it comes to PAYING for things, the wife believes in stereotypical gender roles, but when it comes to keeping the house, suddenly she thinks it's beneath her? What exactly does she bring to this marriage, other than a uterus to incubate their child? That job was complete after 9 months, does she do ANYTHING? Or does she honestly think she's a princess, who can't be told what to do, shouldn't be held responsible for anything financial (even so much as not costing the family extra), and should have all of the house work done for her? Holy crap, you do not need that in your life, OP. Document document document, so you can prove which of you is actually raising and supporting your child and then kick her to the curb. If she makes more, she'll have to pay you child support as well. I honestly do not see what this wife brings to the table.

[@stonefox2546]

The leftovers.

[@nightmare_jeanie]

​@@stonefox2546roflmao 🤣🤣🤣

[@msredux]

Doesn't do chores at home, doesn't pay for anything, why are you still married to her?

[@desireeloveros1055]

Sounds like he only married her cuz she was pregnant honestly

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Good question.

[@mariem8705]

S1-I have sympathy for the mom due to having a husband like that. Op even said that her mom is a doormat. I wonder how op’s mom is treated behind closed doors.

[@angelsweet9611]

I don’t she chose to marry him and doesn’t stick up for the daughter

[@hotjanuary]

Story 1: you know what? Although OP lashed out at mom too, but I feel it is deserved. Mom is letting all these misogynistic comments slide by. She might not be the one saying them, but she’s not protecting OP, a dependent mind you, from these abusive remarks. Parents are supposed to be the ones protecting their children. Children shouldn’t have to stand up for themselves in adult situations. Mom is absent so OP has to defend herself against dad who not only has authority over her but a power dynamic as well. This is not right. OP was right in her assessment. Mom doesn’t have self-respect and it’s leading to her contributing to OP’s abuse through emotional neglect on mom’s part. We can’t force you to leave toxic people, but when you bring children into the equation, YOU become part of the problem. So the anger is justified.

[@DrownedInExile]

Agreed. I'm surprised people were telling OP to apologize to mom. OP did nothing wrong, and mom had an obligation to put her jerk husband in his place. She failed.

[@builtontherockhomestead9390]

I went to an Indian buffet on a trip once. There was a sign under the register saying you will be charged for wasting food. The owner told me people would fill up a 2nd or 3rd plate full of food and barely touch the plate. After he put up the sign, the blatant wasting stopped.

[@mercyjokes2d696]

I'm really glad the business owner put that sign up. Food waste is one of my pet peeves as it's so destructive and needless. Hope you gave the restaurant a 5* review for how they handled the situation.

[@sixfeetundertheradar6080]

I’m so used to Texas buffets where you pay before getting the food. The average buffet place is $25 and there’s no carry out boxes so it encourages you to overeat as to not waste the money spent. Definitely quantity over quality at most buffets here

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 1.) NTA! *After Update* I would have said “Oh no, your prayers have been answered! I won’t get pregnant ever! You got what you wanted. I’m not straight. You’re welcome. Problem solved! *Then walk out with a smile* 😁😁😁 Story 3.) His brother might never get a divorce but I sure know someone who will.

[@suzieseabee]

Divorce in the military is very high and that story is one reason.

[@teresadurham8828]

His edit suggests that he still doesn't get what's wrong. It's not "one minor conflict" - they value different things and he's not willing to treat topics with the same value for her like she does him.

[@suzieseabee]

@@teresadurham8828 the military is a different environment and it takes a lot to adjust to civilization things sometimes when away for awhile. Different priorities there.

[@willGObye]

The Army Birthday story: He wasn't looking for perspective; he was looking for validation. Judging from his comments, he doesn't give a crap about his girlfriend or what other people think because he is massively self-centered. I would call him an AH, but he is not worth the time!

[@CooperGal24]

Story One: So, being asked by a guy to go to a school dance instantly makes you look like a "Slutty Girl" in the eyes of your parents? Wow, they're real charming people... NTA The Dad just basically acted like a misogynistic POS. What did he expect the boy to do? Approach the Dad and prove why he deserves to take OP to a dance? This is 2021, and he thinks everyone should still follow the "Traditional ways" from the 1950's! The Dad even went as far as to deem his Daughter a "Slutty Girl" and disrespects the female members of his family? Yeah, he deserved to have his ego deflated. EDIT: Didn’t finish the sentence two months ago, so I finished it. Sorry for the confusion!

[@jesserdan8544]

Haha. imagine they judt saw you standing next to a guy and then BAM!! You're suddenly a whore and will get pregnant. Ugh

[@owl7072]

Story 3: It doesn't matter if you personally don't give a damn about birthdays, if it means a lot to your partner it should mean a lot to you. Don't expect her to do _anything_ for yours since you "don't care" about them.

[@simonO712]

I agree with you but I also really don't think he _would_ care if she didn't do anything for his.

[@michellekercy4430]

I personally don’t care about birthdays and haven’t done anything for mine for years but my husband enjoys them so we celebrate his and he always does something for mine.

[@iwantsifegold]

S2 OP got married to a dependent, not a partner. She makes more than him, and she makes him pay. This is crazy. She is toxic

[@katfig8926]

She doesn’t work. She makes no money to contribute. She’s a SAHM. What irks me is that OP states she doesn’t like to get her hands dirty. So she’s completely useless, gluttonous, lazy, and a leech. An 11 year old does not need a SAHM while they’re at school all day.

[@jennifersilves4195]

He's full of it.

[@tosinakin2508]

Army Boyfriend Story: The most infuriating (and telling) thing is how he keeps treating the situation as though it's not important when it's clearly a *huge* deal to his partner. Even when admitting he's wrong, he fails to acknowledge how meaningful the entire situation was to his girlfriend. He doesn't have to fully understand it, but he does have to acknowledge it. He can't even do that.

[@michellekercy4430]

Maybe he doesn’t realize because as someone who doesn’t care about birthdays I would have to be explained why or what it would relate to. Since he celebrated her birthday just earlier. And spent time with her and still went to the bachelor party.

[@cheskydivision]

Ok op apologizes to mom yet missed another chance to stand up for op.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: YTA Not for going after it was booked, but for forgetting something that was super important his girlfriend. He KNOWS birthdays are important to her, and when you're with a partner you make the things important to them important to you despise how little you might actually care. He didn't do that and forgot her birthday. This was after already being gone the birthday before. So yeah, going once it was booked doesn't mean him an asshole. Forgetting it and having it booked on that date without even talking to his girlfiend beforehand is what makes him an asshole especially since she's been unable to do other things with him thay she wanted. His total lack of care and consideration for her is what makes him an asshole.

[@Cell287]

This is way more fair. Other’s just telling them to break up is stupid, they don’t know how they’re relationship works. I respect this comment and agree with it. 😊

[@pinkielie1113]

Here’s the thing he could have bad memory, I forget MY birthday and age a lot and I have forgotten others birthdays as well unless I’m reminded or have an alarm set for that day but even then I do sometimes forget to set reminders when I’m told and have to be reminded again so that I can put those alarms in place, so the forgetting part I can forgive it’s the dismissive part that I can’t, even if I do forgot someone’s b-day i usually apologize the moment I realize I fucked up from the sounds of it he didn’t really do that, also I can get why he doesn’t value b-days I personally hate them (cause my family sucks) but I make it a point to celebrate if the people I care about want to and that’s where he’s the a-hole

[@Mewse1203]

@Wendy Darling you're kidding, right? You don't know the exact date of your significant other's birthday? That is not unreasonable *in general* let alone when it was something she told him was *important* .

[@Jack-kx5rf]

I read a story about a girl who was asked o a date and when the guy showed up her dad answered the door with a shotgun. The guy said “cool, you carry too?”(abbreviating) and pulled out a 9mm from his waist. The Dad started screaming about him being a thug with a gun and the boyfriend was like “I carry this for self defence for occasions when a crazy person answers the door with a gun”.

[@TisOnlyAScratch]

YES! That would be a great ice breaker for me as the mom cleaning my gun while we talk rules and boundaries (my daughter is a minor. If daughter gives me permission as an adult, I'd discuss her boundaries with boy and be very clear I'm in support of them). If boy has a gun, I'd invite him in talk guns first. No gun, he comes in and talks interests and hobbies. Daughter suggests, instead of cleaning the gun, just have it mounted on wall in clear view. (She claims she's not getting married anyway even though we joke about it and the fictional rich guy we have set up as an arranged marriage.)

[@canadalovesanime3137]

story 1: Yeah; "dad" has no respect for women. The mother has serious issues as well. My father was exactly like this. He didn't even allow us to hang out with friends, because they would 'have a bad influence on us'. He wanted us isolated and and to only share his beliefs. My mother mindlessly did as she was told for years, until his behaviour got so bad even the town couldn't ignore him. She was threatened with losing my younger siblings if she stayed. I had already refused to return from my grandparents at the end of summer. This OP's father is projecting. He thinks because he treats women like garbage that all other men do to. Daddy needs counseling. NTA x 1000 story 2: OP needs to stop taking her out. If she wants to waste food and money, she can do it on her own dime. Op needs to stop enabling this behaviour. Make her do her own cleaning, and food shopping. I would have insisted SHE pay the extra bill at the restaurant, since she wasted the food. NTA

[@anarchylove92]

Story 2: usually Japanese all you can eat buffets do that. I went to one with my wife and they told us about the policy. Thankfully we don't have to worry about it as leftovers are nonexistent for us lol

[@Misspellednumbers]

Story 3: "From day one I accepted that I messed up...but please stop telling people to break up over a single conflict in their relationship *lol* . So we can conclude that OP didn't learn and didn't accept that they messed up. Each of their "lol" got more and more annoying because you realize that OP is _still_ downplaying his girlfriend's feelings. OP says "she's still with me," but that's because some people try to make their relationship work. I really feel bad for OP's girlfriend, it sounds like she's trying so hard to be a good girlfriend. :(

[@teresadurham8828]

💯

[@BriarCraft74]

This. I was getting so annoyed hearing each one, and OP going, "Oh, it's just one conflict, it's not that serious lol lol lol lol" forgetting about the date in the moment, alright fine, but OP had time to make sure it was fine with his girlfriend, but never did until it was too late. Honestly I hope the girlfriend sees him as the dismissive ah he is and walk away. Just because he didn't celebrate his birthday being in the army for five years, which was his choice to be presumably, doesn't mean birthdays are suddenly not important. Grow the fuck up, apologize sincerely, and give the GF a chance to leave or work on the relationship with her.

[@Cell287]

Reddit isn’t a good place for relationship advice. They only wanted to confirm they messed up. They may have a strong relationship besides the birthday thing.

[@teresadurham8828]

@@Cell287 Fair enough but we have to go with what he put in his post. What he put paints a very negative picture for him to empathize and that he refuses care about what she values. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@wkl3281]

I love the op in the first story of how she stand up for herself

[@champslim]

Birthday one: Homie do you want a girlfriend?? Because holy crap.

[@teresadurham8828]

💯

[@Woodie-xq1ew]

Story 2: can’t seem to control herself and thinks that OP should pay for everything even though she earns more. Is OP living with 2 children rather than a wife and a child?

[@MizTameRumors]

Story 3 annoys me so much. How often does he call it a minor issue? Whole thing is just Small issue lol. Not important lol. My brother bought her a gift because I'm too sh*t to know I SHOULD lol. I hope this girl does actually leave this dude, he's never there anyway and when he is she's not a priority so why bother.

[@michellekercy4430]

But he did give her a gift and took her out to eat at a nice place. Like just because birthdays are important to you doesn’t mean it’s important to everyone.

[@colleencook382]

As a single mom that knows her way around cars, I despise this BS tactic. I will put the dealership or garage on blast for these crap tactics. I want to warn others, not just females, so they dont get railroaded into a crappy deal.

[@placateddoll]

The Chinese buffet in my little town charges $8.50/lb of food waste in addition to having raised their buffet price, in general, in response to rising food prices. . . or at least I'm assuming that is what spurred it.

[@laraq07]

MY AYCE sushi restaurant charges take out price for anything ordered and not eaten.

[@philtrumble]

@@laraq07 same system here

[@thedestroyasystem]

we need another update on that first story oml

[@WhiteWolf-lm7gj]

Yeah, I'll be honest, good for the first OP, but I'm worried for her. Dad doesn't seem like the most stable person

[@brandi5126]

S1: NTA. All you did was best your dad at his own archaic logic.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I respectfully disagree. Hear me out. I think it's ESH. Her father has a right and a responsibility to meet the people his daughter (or any of his children) are spending time with. And she immediately jumped the gun and got angry he made a common protective father joke. She is very very lucky she 1. Has parents that are still married 2. Has parents who deeply care about her and her well-being. Yes the father went about it in the wrong (hence ESH) but so did she. She immediately threatened to not introduce him to her father after he made a joke and then dragged her mom into it. She had some good points but she stated them so aggressively she guaranteed they would not hear her. AND she hurt her parents who just love her and want the best for her. The fact she has a loving father in the home who cares about who she's spending time with makes her a very privileged and lucky person. Studies show time and time again that children have a father who cares about them in the home do far better and live far happier lives than those who don't. She's just being a rebellious teenager bucking her parents rules. Plus we all know date r*pe is a serious thing that happens all too often and having a father "jokingly" threaten the date makes it far more likely he won't try anything. We all know r*pists are cowards so it just might save her. Remember she's still a child legally. And as such her father has a responsibility to protect her

[@despinasgarden.4100]

@@WhitneyDahlin uhhhhh.... Having married parents is a privilege now? I mean i agree with what she said and i honestly don't find the shotgun joke funny at all, also the dad literally told her that she better not become a slutty girl when he was a womanizer.

[@simonO712]

@@WhitneyDahlin I really wouldn't call what he did "being a loving father"...

[@brandi5126]

@@WhitneyDahlin Respectfully, no thanks.

[@thetokenwon506]

Story 2: why is he married to someone who's an obvious leech? She believes he should pay for everything even though she makes more?

[@TheAzynder]

Why is anyone married to abusive or sexist spouses? Sometimes leaving is not so easy.

[@carolroberts4614]

No, if he's tied up paying all his money out, that can't help either.

[@yukitenchi1513]

So. . . My father and the other men in my life are the reason why I've been going more toward the lesbian side of my bi/pan sexual nature. I feel op in story 1 all too well. When my dad gets drunk, he likes to make special comments. He hasn't drank for about a month and is trying, but our damage is beyond repairable. I'll let him walk me down the aisle (if he lives long enough) to appease the family, but that's it.

[@teresadurham8828]

I'm sorry to hear that about your dad. That's extremely unfortunate. I don't know your circumstances but I do want to caution you about having your dad walk you down the aisle. My sister was basically forced to allow her dad (whom she absolutely hated) walk her down the aisle instead of our much loved grandfather. She regrets that decision SO MUCH. The jerk is in a lot of wedding photos and he got a place of honor on her and her new husband's special day. Best wishes to you 🌅

[@yukitenchi1513]

@@teresadurham8828 thank you. Alcoholism runs deep in the family and we have had many deaths within the past 4 years (his sister, step dad, and my mom's sister) that are most likely contributions to his issues. He has said things that I can never forgive and laughs at things that are awkward for everyone else around him. Mom has been threatening him with divorce, and it only recently hit home to him. The only reason I brought up the aisle is because it's for my mother more than anything. I personally don't think I'll regret it if it even happens because to me it will be a symbol of finally letting him go from my life if, beyond now, we never reconnected. I do miss my father that I saw as prince Charming, but I've notice like with a lot of other men around that it was a facade all along. Once they let go, they gave up trying to regain their image. I hate that I think this way, especially with random men at this point when I don't know anything about them, but sometimes these things happen. Thank you for your concern and love.

[@teresadurham8828]

@@yukitenchi1513 Of course! Thanks for sharing your story. You've shown a lot more genuine consideration and compassion than a lot of people I've dealt with lately. It's refreshing. I'm so sorry to hear about your family losses. I wish you and your mom the best in life!

[@yukitenchi1513]

@@teresadurham8828 thank you and wish you all the best as well. Stay safe and healthy love.

[@eloraandkhan3288]

Its ok to not forgive someone, even if they become a better person later. When you break a plate, even if you repair it, the cracks might remain.

[@CharlesGriswold]

Story 2: All you can eat buffets DO NOT allow you to take food home. Taking your own food containers doesn't change that.

[@brigidtheirish]

He was talking about regular restaurants. He was taking her to the buffet because the portions were too big at regular places and they didn't allow doggy bags for some inexplicable reason.

[@Cell287]

@@brigidtheirish might be high class restaurants.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@Cell287 Ah. The sort that don't print the price of items because if you have to ask, you can't afford it?

[@MaryJane-zw5pv]

Some places like the golden corral buffet have the option to get buy a take home container (as opposed to sitting in the restaurant and eating) so you can through the buffet and eat it elsewhere. This was a few years ago though.. not sure if they still do this. I was in line with my family to eat there and saw them selling the to go boxes for people to fill up how they wanted.

[@brigidtheirish]

@@MaryJane-zw5pv Sounds like it was a 'one or the other' option. Like, you could take your food to go *or* eat in the restaurant but not both.

[@mchris1379]

Story 1 OP's father kinda remind me of a friend. He was panicking on both of his wife's pregnancy. He's afraid of having a daughter simply because he'll never be able to deal with the possibility of his daughter getting screwed by men in the future. He said he screwed a lot of girl when he was younger and scared of karma catching up to him. A twisted logic i know, but oh well 😂

[@DemonicAngle15]

I probably would have thrown a punch at my dad when I was the same age as first OP, but then again I did get piss at my dad once and told him just cause he was out slutting it up when he was my age didn't mean I was planning on it, the difference was my mom told my dad to shut up cause he had deserved it and I may have been his daughter in temperament and mood but I had a good head on my shoulders (we had a wild time in my teens cause I was more mature then my dad for alot of things)

[@s.d.berard7518]

I would LOVE to hear more stories about that!! LOL 💚😺

[@phoenixsky6124]

Where I go for buffet they added a sushi bar. You are charged $1 for every piece left on the plate. I think it’s a great idea. The last couple times I went the signs were down so I’m not sure they still do it.

[@TheOtherSideoftheLookingGlass]

*Story 1 is the perfect example of, ‘be careful what you wish for because you just might get it’.* 😏

[@stuporspoon]

OP has one of those glorious tempers that makes her an absolute comeback genius. OMG I love watching people like that get mad when it's not at me.

[@kbf9644]

Military BF still doesn’t get it. Maybe when she leaves his ass he’ll learn that what he dismissed as a little problem wasn’t so little to her. Wow.

[@fhuber7507]

1... NTA. That dad is a waste of O2.

[@fhuber7507]

2... NTA. And may as well get a divorce. That wife is toxic.

[@fhuber7507]

3... YTA every time you choose a bachelor party over GF's birthday. That's a relationship ender.

[@fhuber7507]

4... NTA. A$$hat salesman using manipulative tactics blew the sale. I go in,make an offer leave my phone number when they refuse .. and if they don't come down to my offer I don't buy it. This is part of making sure you get a good deal.

[@storyjumper]

That first story made me laugh. I did something similar to my stepmother before her and my dad were married. We had been in a car for 6-7 hours and finally reached a hotel. We (my dad, two younger sisters, step mom, and myself) were heading to a restaurant. My stepmother looks over her shoulder and me and me younger sister and sees We are texting. Then she has the nerve to ask, "Can't you stop texting your boyfriends for a few minutes?" I pop my head up look her dead in the eyes and reply, "No, we don't get to come home and sleep with our boyfriends." Dropped head back to continue texting. Got in zero trouble for it. I think my dad might have thought it was funny or acknowledged the truth

[@serpentinewolf7085]

Story One: Nta Mom is just as much to blame, she should have had your back. Her silence made her equally guilty.

[@quaruke9489]

Story 3. I think the comment from op about birthdays not being important to him was an explanation as to why it didn't cross his mind and less complete dismissal of her feelings. Still YTA mainly because he didn't buy the wine

[@KittenUndercover]

Can we please stop saying ‘traditional’ when it comes to marriages where the man is dominant? Call it what it is - misogyny.

[@nixxyhasthoughts]

Cos sweet little euphemisms make the sting out of it and helps people get away with their misogyny.

[@gorkemaykut5230]

I'm not saying it's not misogyny but have you ever seen a woman dominant traditional marriage

[@GinHindew110]

yeah, the same applies to marriages where the man is the sole/main provider, men should realize they need to abandon the traditional power, and they get to abandon the traditional duties

[@groofromtheup5719]

Traditional marriages work because it plays to human nature. Men tend to be more aggressive and Women tend to be more passive. That comes from millions of years of evolution. It means that by their natures, the man will be the head of the household. Bra burning and the pill doesn't change millions of years of evolution.That is coming from someone that did the Mr. Mom thing for a couple of years. We are both happier with me "bringing home the bacon" and her being a SAH Mom.

[@Snowshowslow]

To be fair, misogyny is sort of a long-standing tradition XD But yeah, this dad definitely fits the bill...

[@cynicalrabbit915]

Story 1 OPs father is TAH. He's the type I've met that claimed to having setup a date for Saturday night with a virgin and openly state they're going to PHC. Then in the next breath state they'd only marry a virgin. My thoughts have always been, then maybe instead of PHC you ought to marry her. A male gets patted on the back for sowing his oats. A female gets shamed and called a slet. In my book gender doesn't enter the equation. Indiscriminately engaging in intimacy makes you a person who doesn't care except for your own pleasure. People complain about people complaining about toxic masculinity basically calling them man haters and etc. I was raised to be a gentleman, my father was raised by a very religious mother and even though his misogyny related more to keeping to victorian gender roles and social appearances. I've never agreed with any of this type of BS. Toxic masculinity is just as ingrained in our society as systemic racism and the perps need to called out for their emotionally damaging remarks not that someone with her father's views would recognize any emotion/s other than anger and that only from another male. Nope the only thing he thinks about any outburst from a female HAS to be hormone driven. He would deny any such explaination for his outburst/s.

[@mothertrucker936]

S1: NTA Finally people saying it like it is. Wife is effectively being a glutton. What is this nonsense if she gets to keep her money and op pays for everything. This couple is in trouble. Wife may be purposely wasting food to antagonize op as it seems to be his trigger.

[@cheskydivision]

Good on you I’ve had car dealers waste so much of my time and not listen to a word I said. Hate car dealers

[@Vipre-]

Story 2 question, it depends on the restaurant whether they charge for leftovers or not. It's a way of discouraging exactly this scenario because that's extra food the restaurant now has to cook to feed other customers thus less profit. I've only ever been to places that charge a flat fee. Story 3: Funny part is he says he doesn't think his brother will get divorced because he can't think of anyone in his family who has, I'd suggest he doesn't try marriage himself.

[@stephanien6237]

I guess most people would think that wasting so much food is just wrong-whether you were charged extra or not. And her response “I just couldn’t control myself!” is a child’s excuse!

[@tooblessed8815]

As we have a food shortage, they have been charging if you waste. There’s been new signs that say “It’s all you can eat, NOT all you can waste!”

[@katie6731]

OP 1 is *AWESOME!* The world would be a better place if more people were like her. I'm terrible at thinking up comebacks in the middle of an argument, so I'm in awe of the way OP addressed the misogyny in her father's comments. When she's ready for a relationship, I hope she finds someone who fully appreciates her quick wit, sense of justice, healthy self-confidence, and her ability to hold herself accountable and follow through with an apology when she feels she's in the wrong. She accepts criticism from others. She knows herself well enough to acknowledge elements that will result in people--including her family--rejecting her. She's got moxie. Those qualities are nearly impossible to find in adults, so, to see a teenager who already has a good handle on them is amazing.

[@tomsautocadstudio6446]

story 1 update you just outed yourself without financial stability which means you need to take these steps right now 1 go to where they keep your documents and take your birth certificate and if you have them your learners permit and passport. 2 go online and make a bank account with a bank that is not your parents and transfer all your funds into said account. 4 find a mate to room with and move out.

[@HardcoreLevelingBaka]

Story 2: NTA Buffets will definitely charge you extra for wasted food to discourage behavior like Op’s wife’s because it loses them money, also, every buffet I have ever been to charges you for To-go plates (because seriously if they were free them every one would take one) so either way op would have had to pay for the wasted food. The person that suggested bringing in a Tupperware container obviously has no Idea how a buffet works, because that is a great way to get banned

[@Flakey101]

I know it came in the edit but wow every one including Mark ignored the fact that the wife not only doesnt work but doesnt do any chores either.

[@jp-fk5ke]

@@Flakey101 I think she does and she makes more I think but he has to pay for everything. This feels like some sort of abuse by her and nobody ever brought up the fact that they had a kid when OP was 18 and his wife was 22. And nobody ask when this relationship actually started. Since she was maybe a college graduate at the time and he was just out of high school

[@LocalQuentin]

Story one’s update was bloody powermove Im baffled. Wow

[@helenafarkas4534]

story one: tbh I had no idea that mom was even THERE until you unloaded on her. and from your later comments, mom has always been a doormat. she needed to get slapped out of that complacency. from the sound of it, she has NEVER had your back and needs consequences for that. because if your comment was in any way inaccurate, she would have been there for you. but she wasn't. NTA

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@susanminer2088]

Are you the witch in Hansel and Gretl?

[@queen_of_flatulence]

Hello beautiful person!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@susanminer2088 no lol I think I'm to young

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@donnamichelerichey2878]

What country charges you for food you don't eat at an "all you can eat?" That's insane. Do they walk around with a scale when you are done and weigh your plate to see how much extra they should charge? I 100% never heard of this.

[@BigFishSmolPond]

We HAVE to retire ‘traditional’ as a synonym for misogynist, racist or just bloody toxic. If calling people what they are upsets them, good. Traditional and old fashioned just shield people from the consequences of their actions because they’re not held accountable.

[@digitalharmony26]

Story one is serious, but damn her writing style made me laugh a few times. The bouquet of whoopsie daisies is brilliant. I’m totally stealing that 😂 Edit: please read the update if and when there is one. I’m terrified the father will come home and kick that beautiful soul out.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope you are taking your own advice Broken! Hugs and love to you!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@jennilynne1977 thanks and I'm trying to 🤗🤗💜💜

[@FlamesofJagger]

Thanks for the good vibes Broken. Take care and much love ❤ 😍 💖 ❣ 💕 💘 ❤

[@jennilynne1977]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 make sure you take time for yourself too. 🤗🤗❤❤🤗🤗❤❤

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@FlamesofJagger you too m8 and thanks 🤗🤗💜💜

[@Vesperity82]

The buffet where I am. Doesn’t charge extra. They offer doggie bags. So you can bring what you can’t finish home. So I thought it was odd, but I guess it’s different in other areas. Story 1: My dad is the same way. It use to make me so angry, but I wasn’t allowed to say anything to "keep peace" according to my mom who was just as bad. He still has those views to this day. It still irritates me.

[@FlamesofJagger]

🎶 Am I the buuuuuttthhhoooolllleeee 🎶 always signifies that a good half-hour is ahead. Thanks for the daily uploads Mark. Waffle 🧇 on and stay chill. Much love 💘 ❤ 💗 💕 💛 💙 💘. Waffle 🧇 Gaaannnnggggg!!!

[@jerriewyatt905]

I hope that OP has another update! Her comeback to her dad was brilliant..

[@joskubl6017]

Story 2: would the wife do the same if she paid for the dinner?

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Probably not.

[@Salazarsalsa]

When my husband and I were dating, he was deployed in South Korea for six months. He picked up a bunch of cute things from local shops and sent me an amazing package for my birthday. This guy is such a selfish ass. That poor girl shouldn't deal with that BS. Especially from a dude in the national guard lmfao

[@khaleesireyna731]

OPs response to her dad's nasty comment (a la coming out) is right up there with the time I heard a story about someone accidentally coming out after an older family member ranted about how "the gays" are "going to hell" and the OP got up and started to leave and when asked where they were going, OP automatically responded with "Hell apparently". Some of the greats right there!

[@ivy4104]

Obligatory comment for the algorithm, exhausted my creativity for today already xD (Still, have a good one and such)

[@Orinatl]

Story 1: If I don’t raise a daughter like OP, I’ve failed as a parent.

[@andreawalker8343]

Story 2: charging for uneaten/wasted food at restaurants is a trend from Korea gaining traction in some restaurants in other countries. This is also a common practice in hot pot restaurants.

[@desireeloveros1055]

I exclusively go to Asian buffets and they’ve definitely done that. When my brother was younger (about 12/13ish) my mom had to pay extra because he plopped about 30 pieces of sushi and only ate about 10

[@ChrisHarperBooks]

From some of the things said in story 2, i can't help but wonder if the wife grew up in an environment where food was an issue. I know personally i struggled as an adult with portion control because my whole childhood involved basically taking everything you could get when it was on offer...because it was not guaranteed to be there next time you are hungry. And even when i know now that food is not going to just dissappear i find myself sometimes just loading my plate out of habbit. Something you do for decades can be hard to break even when you are actively trying to stop.

[@runawayfromtoads674]

Story 2: I think it's an Asian buffet. Where I'm from, buffets will charge you for your leftovers. As a child, I learned very quickly to gauge my meals thanks to that 😂 My father would help me finish food. It's also thanks to him, I learned how to enjoy eating buffets to the fullest. Also NTA for Story 2. But it's not going to fix her bad habit. Don't pay for her in meals if she's that entitled. There's no partnership here.

[@jeanied8701]

Car salesmen seem to be the same the world over and as a woman it can be so much worse. I'm not looking forward to making my next car purchase now my Dad has passed. He had such a knack for finding great cars and good deals. Miss you Dad.

[@CreepyBlueAnimals84]

First Story: I hope the father realizes how disturbing, disgusting and arrogant he is. He needs a serious lesson in life and how to be a real husband, father and man. Second Story: The wife wastes food, doesn't work or do chores. She literally serves no purpose in this world. How do people like that live with themselves?!

[@platyadmirer]

Car shopping is fun! So many salesman try to get me to buy the car before I leave, but I like to visit car dealerships and after a few days decide which one I want to buy from. It was especially fun when I had the unexpected pleasure of renting a sports car. When I drove into the dealership all the salesmen booked it for me, but unfortunately for them I was looking for the cheapest car on the lot for even cheaper.

[@vlkafenryka788]

Buffet guy .... when you find your spine start documenting the disparity in care you give your child/house so when you divorce that selfish child you can get custody and child support if she earns so much more than you do

[@matheuslopez578]

Story 1: I look at Mark Mark looks at me I look at Mark Mark looks at me… Me: we need an update… Mark: on it

[@Jack-kx5rf]

Unless it is clearly printed on the menus that you will get charged for “wasted food” the restaurant is committing fraud and it is illegal. It has to be easily visible too, meaning you can’t put it in small print. Has to be roughly the same font size as everything else that is listed. Unless they have time limits/slots you have to follow you can arrive the moment they open and only leave when it’s closing time. If they decide to kick you out you’re not legally required to pay. Yes, a restaurant can refuse you service for any reason, but unless that reason is a criminal action they forfeit their rights to payment. It’s false advertising and depending where you are from such as in the UK it is highly illegal.

[@perrylover99]

I have a pretty small stomach, some days its bigger than others and usually I don't know till its too late but even with that I've never heard that rule at a buffet. Every one I've been to only charges when you walk in like $15 depending on the place and I've never heard of people being charged for waste but maybe I'm better at portioning than I think and haven't wasted enough to have that problem (my family usually does get one plate of something or a few small things and then if you finish it you can get another so maybe the rule helps us not have to pay)

[@rhondacrosswhite8048]

Birthdays have a bad habit of coming around every year but a bachelor party is, or should be, a once-in-a-lifetime event.

[@littleolmee]

S1: NTA OP's dad was out of line with how he was talking to his daughter & mom should have stood up for her to him. Sex doesn't equal someone's worth as a human being. I hope OP is going to be okay. I'm worried about her safety. S2: NTA but the comparison to their child was out of line. S3: YTA OP knows B-days were important to her, OP is acting very dismissive of GF. He F*ed up. S4: NTA those BS sales tactics are stupid.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: NTA You didn't waste enough of his time. IMO. Wasting their time is Fairplay since they wasted yours. All the stuff from the past means nothing and I'd not call you the asshole either way.

[@stephenlundy5082]

Story 1: NTA. One message for OP, not every man out there is your father, so don't equate them all to AHs.

[@ivannatinkle8196]

Finally someone actually makes fun of the fact that any relationship story usually ends with someone saying, Divorce Break Up Find Someone Better ect

[@walle5667]

Restaurant story: The wife needs to pay for her own food. Simple. Watch the wastefulness magically disappear. She is earning more than him, but she pays for nothing at all. Everything is being paid for by him. Of course she feels like wasting money. He is a moron to go along with it. Why would she care that HE had to pay extra for HER food wasting habits? Doesn't hurt her, does it? Shedding a few tears so he feels guilty isn't that hard.

[@HobieInTheBox]

Story 1 (THERE IS AN UPDATE!!) I still don't think the mother deserved an apology. Not ONCE during the update did OP mention their mom also apologising to them or say anything after the pregnancy comment from the dad. These parents are disgusting, I hope OP is okay

[@JRMAV1]

NTA, parents like this deserve and need to be called out for their crap.

[@queen_of_flatulence]

Hello mark! I hope you have a great day! thanks for brightening my day with your video!