r/AmiTheA**Hole For Denying A Dying Friend's Wish?

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[@56beverley]

Oh the poor wonderful young lady who was planning her funeral. I am crying now. R.I.P. sweetheart. xx

[@sbh2888]

Oh my gosh, me too. I am so sad. My step son died, and while he is buried, I took some of the ground with me in a jar, so that wherever I go, he will be with me and I will always put him in my garden. No wonder her family was so sad to lose her, she is amazing. 😔

[@minagica]

@@sbh2888 I am very sorry for your loss and that's a lovely gesture of you

[@minagica]

Me too, I cried

[@sbh2888]

@@minagica Thank You!

[@MsMolly1988]

Me too... I had to pause the video... 😭

[@janicewilcox8590]

Cancer vs baby announcement - the SIL is insane and whiney and needs a reality check. Also - did anyone point out it was a little bit crappy of the brother to jump the line and ask to go first at something that OP had set up? Sure say we have news too mind if we also pop some news or whatever but asking to go first is kinda douchie imo.

[@partysuvius]

His girlfriend probably got it in his head that the pregnancy announcement was more important

[@janicewilcox8590]

@@partysuvius I'm assuming he got excited and just not thinking. I don't think he was a complete douche at all, just it is a smidge rude to want to go first at someone else's announcement and they probably are so close that she didn't think anything of it but still... just thought I'd point that out haha

[@kirstenornelas881]

The brother did apologize to op for adding his news and for asking to go first and said he thought it would be good news due to the normal personality op has. The brother and op have made up it is just the sil acting like a pos.

[@DemonicGoddess]

if she miscarried and she is this stressed early on in the pregnancy i have worries.. because she seems like a demanding and manipulative witch who lies to get others "hated" on. DISPITE having i think the story was cancer?

[@pollypockets508]

Right. OP set everything up and the brother took over the whole event. I'm gonna be nicegirl right now. How do these horrible women convince a guy to marry them. And OP, it wasn't selfish of you. Not even a little.

[@DespairDoctor]

Oh my god I'm crying about the op planning her own funeral story.

[@kirstenornelas881]

I got through most of it until he started choking up reading the last bit then I lost it ... I tend to get less upset usually, only because I've cried through loss so much in the past 14 years that I just didn't think i had any tears left. I lost my dad on July of 07, my papa in March of 08 and my in laws passed away 8 months apart 7 years ago then lost mama and nana the last 4 I helped take care of 24/7 for years before they passed and was right by their side when they passed. Lost two more ppl in the past year. Idk if I'll ever get to the point where I can properly deal with death cuz I haven't really processed fully the sudden passing of dad and papa much less any of the rest of those I love. It is rough and hearing this really hit me hard. I have a genetic illness that will most likely end my life short as well and thought I don't have a time stamp just yet I do worry how I'm going to get through that and help my surviving family through it too. Just breaks my heart

[@akagamenokyla1042]

@@kirstenornelas881 could you put the time stamp? I listen when I drive, and can't seem to find that story again to listen.

[@kirstenornelas881]

@@akagamenokyla1042 I don't sorry and would have to go back and listen to the whole thing again. I'm sorry.

[@akagamenokyla1042]

@@kirstenornelas881 that's ok. I found it, but thank you!

[@kirstenornelas881]

@@akagamenokyla1042 good deal sorry about that. Been a heck of a week lol. Hope you and yours are well.

[@kellharris2491]

This boyfriend so petty and jealous. Second story "Im sorry my cancer inconveniences you." She is a drama queen.

[@bluepanda5873]

are u saying thre girl with cancer is a drama queen?

[@kellharris2491]

@@bluepanda5873 no I'm talking about sil

[@kristinecollier8113]

Omg! That woman! She sounded lovely and happy until the end! I cried and cried!! Thank you Markee for sharing that with us, for sharing her!

[@martinrusev3502]

The young lass who planned her own funeral......I cried. I bowled my eyes for like 5 minutes. R.I.P, cat crazy wife! I hope the family and the husband can heal from this somehow.

[@sylbarose2488]

That update with the funeral planning just tore me apart. I'm sobbing

[@varalyn9714]

I Am physically sobbing because of the OP planning her own funeral story, NOBODY TOUCH ME IM SO SOFT

[@cheyenneross758]

Did anybody notice the stepdad calling his stepdaughter's sanitary products "unsanitary"

[@TryniaMerin]

Ignorance of periods is ridiculous. Especially when those boys might have girlfriends and daughters who need understanding of periods.

[@amandarose4469]

Cancer beats baby, simple.

[@thatfierytas2699]

Well your not wrong for multiple reasons

[@rollothecat2010]

One of the reasons a pregnant woman may need an abortion is because of a cancer diagnosis. All cancer treatments are incompatible with pregnancy. I had a miscarriage due to an antibiotic given to me for an infection. Illness trumps pregnancy.

[@conner_tides]

Ah yes, the classic Rock, Cancer, Baby

[@lindaraecarter8134]

🐊🐊🦂

[@camsterscool]

Yea

[@kingturtle24k81]

Sooo who else cried to the story of op who was dying after hearing the update

[@SH-qs7ee]

Wasn't crying, eyes were definitely tearing up though.

[@56beverley]

Me. Big time.

[@grayson6327]

me lol

[@charliefinnmichael4770]

I was fucking sobbing! I literally miss someone I never met.

[@ShiftingFixations]

Yeah, definitely sniffling! But, well, she’s living on through the post! I only just heard it for the first time and it’s like she, a random stranger, is here with us all through her words. In a way, that’s less sad and maybe bittersweet, I guess? We get one life. Live it well. Humans survived the way we have because we learned from the young, the elderly, and developed ways of learning from those who came before. I say, take her words as a lesson, learn from it to be with the people who make you happy, do fun things (no matter how small - can’t afford the everglades? Dance in your room like an idiot to upbeat music instead!), snuggle your pets, talk to the people you’re in minor conflicts with (so long as it’s not an abuse/dangerous/bad situation) to see what can be resolved, and live life to the fullest of your ability. Without learning from those who came before, like this OP, we lose a lot. Those who are dying have a different way of thinking that prioritizes things differently... and it’ll be worth it to try to start thinking like that more often now... instead of in our own final moments. Don’t wanna be out here leaving “Dear Reddit, I regret 90% of my life” posts when you’re gone, you’d wanna be able to leave “Dear Reddit, I’m in a better place and had a great life” posts instead, right? I’m not as sad as I thought I’d be after hearing that. If there is an afterlife or a way for the dead to be aware of us now, hope OP knows she’s inspiring me to live better.

[@SeraphsGenisis]

I'm glad that the OP who had to plan her Funeral is resting well... it's really sad that she had to pass, but I'm happy that her last moments were so positive. She took it with so much grace and happiness. I hope she rests easy in whatever afterlife she may believe in.

[@stevelemur6113]

I can't imagine asking a woman, in the presence of her HUSBAND and witnesses (!) to testify to the quality of my sexual skills. "Kiss and tell" is rude and "* and tell" is immensely worse. There is simply NOTHING you could have done to Jack (including stabbing) that he didn't richly deserve. Your response was spot on what he was asking for. I am a 60+ year old male who has had some experience. I ask if there is something in particular the Lady would like, do the best I can, accept instructions happily, and NEVER ask for a critique. If she comes back for more, then THAT is my testimonial. And it is between the two of us, PERIOD. Jack is a Jack Ass and deserves worse than he got.

[@LordGertz]

She should have mentioned the fact he has a high number count only because he isn't able to get repeat customers.

[@MaggieTheCat01]

To be honest, if my partner had a dog, I’d probably make more fuss of the dog that I would him. No way would I ask him to get rid of it. Nosireebob! The godparent title is largely symbolic nowadays. And besides, a child can have three godparents.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

He can ask the girlfriend to get rid of the dog, but you might as well say bye-bye to her, too.

[@TeenyTheOne]

@@juliemcgugan1244 People that get jealous of dogs anger me so bad, like they will outlive that dog, it wont be there forever, suck it the hell up.

[@WobblesandBean]

TBH, I don't think the OP is wrong for simply not wanting the dawg in his home. Not liking dogs doesn't make someone a bad person, even though dawg people seem to think so (even though they see nothing wrong with hating cats). His reasons and jealousy are what make him TA, though. Sorry for the awkward spelling by the way, youtube is getting even more ridiculous, and is deleting comments of mine that have animal names in them because in one highly specific context, the word is used as a very mild insult. THAT'S how low this website has sunk.

[@MaggieTheCat01]

@@WobblesandBean I tried to post a comment containing the word _chimpanzee_ yesterday, and it just vanished. I wonder if it’ll happen today ...

[@MaggieTheCat01]

@@WobblesandBean Yeah, you can’t comment about c*h*i*m*p*a*n*z*e*e*s any more. It just vanishes. As a fan of Jane Goodall’s work, I’m feeling a bit peeved about it.

[@krystalfloods6197]

So the mom literally knew having a child would bring the possibility of that child having a horrible sickness but did it anyways! What a selfish person! If I knew I had something that could be passed down to a potential child I would not have a child. I would not risk making an innocent child suffer.

[@wrgirlie86]

Oh I’m crying, bless OP, may she be happy in what ever afterlife she has

[@klcampy]

2 weeks is waaaaayyyy too long to board a dog. He will think you are gone forever, and that’s not fair to anyone involved.

[@katwiltz1134]

Oh yes the Dog Whisperer what you know what we do we Skype but when I was little I remember my mom and talking on the phone to her dogs and they getting so excited they would act just as if they did when she was around of course it wasn't the same but please don't assume you know what dogs are thinking they're more adaptable than you think except when it comes to confining them

[@WobblesandBean]

Ummm....no it's not. It's just 2 weeks, ffs. So, what, do you think that all pet owners should never take a vacation ever for the 15-20 years their pet lives? I've seen both dogs AND cats be boarded for two weeks, and they don't get depressed, they don't have any issues when their owners come get them, nothing. When moving from another country here to the US, they must be quarantined at the animal import center in New York for 30 days, and guess what, they get through it just fine. You are being ridiculous.

[@TryniaMerin]

That dog is her family as much as the husband, and was around before he was.

[@esteveval3522]

@@WobblesandBean my cat would be on every furniture when we got him back from quarantine and would scratch us if we tried to pick him up. He would hide if he saw his cage. He was traumatised

[@pollypockets508]

Poor doggie

[@selinakyle_]

Take a deep breath, stop and listen to yourself... You're jealous of a dog...

[@audiobooksworm]

Yes, seems ridiculous that he is jealous of a dog but I know myself perfectly capable of loving an animal more that a human being so...I kinda see his point of view.

[@duchesseebene1273]

It's not abnormal to be jealous of a pet or even a future child they may have. OP feels neglected and needs to communicate his wants & needs to his partner. They can figure out together if OP's feelings are valid and how to resolve this problem.

[@Harrier42861]

He's jealous of a dog that she seems to be neglecting him in favor of. This is not unreasonable. Did you notice the part where she'll bring it along on errands and then send him off to do them alone while he sits in the car? I love my brother's dog, as does he, but the dog stays home while we go grocery shopping. Gonna second the above. He needs to sit down with her and explain that she seems to be neglecting her relationship with HIM for her relationship with her dog and why he feels that way.

[@s0lar.ecl1pse83]

Take a deep breath, Stop and listen to yourself... Your nephew is called Chaos you want to change it and your wondering if your a asshole...

[@kixi8033]

Well, she clearly gives the dog more attention. If someone is feeling neglected, of course they'd become jealous. If you have a pet and a s/o, you need to divide your attention equally. If you can't, then you probably shouldn't be in a relationship with another person.

[@keepdancingmaria]

Hey, Dad... Have "The Talk" with your sons again, and include the menstruation side this time. It is YOUR job to ensure your sons aren't uncomfortable with biology.

[@TwistedKayn]

This is a parent thing, not just a dad thing.

[@sharolynwells]

When my sister and I were "old enough" for the talk, Mom waited until I was 13 and had already started having my periods. Same with my sister, who was 3 years younger than me. Mother would NEVER have told my brothers (between my sister and i) anything like that. When my youngest was 6, I let her watch a series of programs on a man's and a woman's sexuality. My mom threw an enormous hissy fit. "You're going to have that baby pregnant before she's 16 years old." Meg didn't have her children until she was 24 & 26. Wish my mom had lived to see them. She died when Meg was 12.

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

I never got why parents refuse to teach their kids about periods and their bodies. I understand it can be awkward but if I had a son I’d make sure it understood menstruation in the event he ever had sister/gf/wife.

[@nationalinstituteofcheese3012]

@@sharolynwells If kids are more knowledgeable about sex and their bodies they’ll be more understanding of the consequences of teen pregnancy and STDs and want to be safer. It’s like owning a car. If I know how to drive and be safe I’ll make sure to wear a seatbelt and be safer knowing what’ll happens if I don’t.

[@ResidentMilf]

@@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 Also, if kids can't name their body parts and don't understand what is and is not appropriate for their age (in terms of sexuality), how will they know if they're being abused?

[@DarqueQueen7]

I love how we hardly ever get an update from the people that are declared You Are The A**hole.

[@gigidodson]

When we adopted my grand daughter, she had a ridiculously misspelled name that she hated. Older child adoption. She wanted to change her name. So we did. She picked her own name from a list we as a family compiled. She tried out a few, ending up with an original first name and a family middle. We love it. She loves it and it works. Change his name. It will he fine.

[@everymoviehero9248]

Also pretty sure the anti gay parts of the Bible were in the old testament not the new testament

[@rollothecat2010]

I have read the whole Bible and the only "anti-gay" part is the story of Lot. Actually, it is not specifically anti-gay so much as anti-licentiousness (not necessarily gay licentiousness) and also anti-materialism. The people who were punished were greedy and lustful. When I read it, that is the way it came across to me. To me it is a story about not behaving with licentiousness and not being overly materialistic (people who love money too much).

[@dudenamedzelda3179]

Fun Fact: The anti gay passages in The Bible are mistranslations they were actually supposed to be against Pedophila

[@chloecook4511]

I wonder if she plans to stone adulterers too?

[@badkitty4922]

@@dudenamedzelda3179 yes siree, baby!

[@pollypockets508]

No, they're in the new testament too. Paul is the only one who banned lesbians. However, Jesus never said anything about sexual orientation.

[@everymoviehero9248]

I like that character in the Bible, he would go on about loving thy neighbor, think his name was Jesus or something, I heard he was a pretty big deal No but seriously, Catholicism in my perception encourages love, we believe hate is not the way of a Catholic parishioner

[@kirstenornelas881]

Until you actually listen to how hateful the preaching is, everyone outside of your specific religion will be destroyed simply because they don't believe in your brand of Christianity. Sadly, this is common in almost every single religion in existence. All think they are the one true religion, they are the only ones who "god" loved, accepts and will "save" in the "end of the system of things". Religion breeds hate, ignorance, racism, sexism, a huge since of entitlement and creates an egotistical personality. While yes, in general ppl who are religious can be kind and believe themselves to be caring and loving humans there is so much that is horrifically negative in all religion that it truly is sad. You may not realize it but those who believe in religion esp Christianity have an extremely dangerous and harmful view of women, children, those who believe and those who live their lives in any way the religion teaches is "sinful" even when those choices or just their lives are not harming anyone. I was born into one of the extremist Christian religions and through leaving that and researching , really researching not just looking into, other religions i have seen that this is one of the most common similarities in each religion. It is sad that a book was written with the intent, it seems the original intent was to keep the masses under a structure that would create a more peaceful and more cooperative general public, the thing is it actually had served throughout history to create more hate than love, war, hurtful behaviors and thoughts towards those who don't share your brand of beliefs. It has caused pain, death and destruction in the name of pleasing an invisible entity who, if the Bible is correct, can be summed up in this manner. God created angels, God created earth, God made a bet with an angel, God loses bet, God takes his anger and hurt ego out on the humans he had not even equipped to win the bet in the first place, ie the Bible states that sin was an unknown concept until AFTER eve ate the apple and they did not even realize they were naked until after the fact, how is that a fare bet or the humans downfall? Seems like the creator failed in this scenario. If you built a robot and didn't design the robot to not kill humans and did not put a failsafe in place where nobody else could program the robot to kill humans then the failure would not be the robots fault it would be yours. Humans are much more important than metal and electronics and it seems pretty crappy to create something then blame it and make it suffer for your own failures.

[@everymoviehero9248]

@@kirstenornelas881 I'm thinking of starting an offshoot of christianity that focuses on being compassionate, whether that's directed at lgbt, agnostic, or even people of other religions, my god is one of forgiveness, tolerance, and unconditional love, because let's be real, if we all are as God intended us to be, how can he condemn someone that is a good person, if he's all knowing, then he knows/knew that someone is a homosexual My point being that Christianity and Catholicism have allowed evil sentiments toward those who are others, and I don't think that's what it's really supposed to stand for, at least this is my current spiritual state

[@kirstenornelas881]

@@everymoviehero9248 I can understand why you would want to do this and think it is a pretty amazing thing to do. Sadly, I lost all faith through my experiences I cannot logically make the Bible make since. Many stories are so unbelievably impossible it is crazy and to think I actually believed them to be real at one point truly is embarrassing to be honest. I know many believe and that's ok too but what I see when I read the Bible was the hate, unloving illogical actions taken by those claiming to be pleasing to God or claiming to have done whatever action in the name of God. Things such as the flood, which was basically Armageddon if you really think about it. Yes, it might have been before the promise of Armageddon was made but why would God have needed a second Armageddon? He had just performed a do over if you logically look at it, he destroyed everyone outside of his "true followers" and the sick part is it is said that babies drown for their parents sin. What kind of loving God kills innocent babies for their parents sin? That never felt right for me. The story about the village that God supposedly told his ppl to go destroy it was so specific, leave nothing alive "kill even the children, the infants, the newborns, the animals and only keep for yourselves the women and Virgin female children" how sick is that?! Reading that story made my stomach churn as those around me celebrated the fact that these "true believers" had wiped out an entire group of ppl. I cannot imagine that being a loving way for a creator to be. Also, the entire Bible and theory of a God is based on this being true , God created angels, God creates earth and man, God makes a bet (which we are told in the Bible betting us a sin) with an angel and loses that bet. Then God blamed the two humans who, the Bible states right away did not even know what sin was until AFTER the bet was lost and they ate the fruit. So how on earth was a bet between an angel who did understand what sin and manipulation is and two humans who basically had an toddlers understanding of the life they now had and had no understanding of what lies, sin and bad actually is fair? How does that logic work? Honestly, like I told my mother after leaving the religion I was born into, I live my life to be a decent, kind and loving human because I want to be that way. I want to live to help those around me and be a good person because that's right. Not because I can win some prize at the end or am afraid of some punishment if I don't. Living for prize vs punishment isn't real, it isn't true or real. You're living for selfish reasons at that point and I refuse to live to a selfish gain or selfish fear of punishment. I truly believe the Bible and religion is toxic and evil and if you really read all of the Bible, not just cherry pick a scripture here and there to fit a specific rhetoric, but instead read things in context.... it is actually very obvious the hate, sexism, prejudices and selfishness being pushed for "true followers" to agree with and live by. It is truly disgusting when you actually read these things in context using logic and reasoning. Sorry for going on a rant, just wanted to share my thoughts and get your feelings and thoughts I'm not trying to hurt anyone's feelings or upset you in any way and like I said I appreciate that you want to create a religion that isn't this way but I do feel that as long as religion includes the Bible, it is still relying on these basic hateful views and teachings. The ego alone in every religion claiming to be the only true religion feels awkward and wrong. Anyways, thank you for reading my thoughts and I do wish the best for you in your endeavor and hope you succeed. You seem like a very kind person.

[@WobblesandBean]

Gee, that's funny, considering how hateful Catholics are towards so, so many things. I've never seem a more judgmental religion.

[@gregoryzn87]

"If anyone says, "I love God," yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen." 1 John 3:15

[@ZombieSazza]

“Reddit, if you’re reading this, I’m dead!” I’m actually bawling my eyes out

[@gloriagloria716]

Hi, it's June 15th. It's my birthday. I am now officially a pensioner. During covid You Tube, especially you Markee, have kept me amused. thanks xxx

[@katwiltz1134]

Perfectly said marKee the right amount of logic and compassion

[@WobblesandBean]

It's almost that time of year again, so let me give you a preemptive happy birthday!

[@gloriagloria716]

@@WobblesandBean Thankyou so much! you are the first this year! We are going to Scotland, near Loch Ness, for my birthday.

[@LadyTarasque]

I'm so happy that things worked out between OP and her parents in regards to her funeral.. grief does make people do crazy things.. like in this case, they forgot that it's also about OP, not just them o-o

[@lpm67]

To cat lady. Blessings to you wherever you are now. My hubby wants a viking funeral and I've figured out a legal way that is part compromise to make it happen. But I also made another suggestion and he LOVES it. Think ashes going up in a weather balloon, the balloon bursts in the stratosphere and there he is drifting all over the world and burning even further on reentry

[@AppalachianLady]

Please do not release any balloons unless you can find balloons that rapidly decompose. I've had the worst time dealing with animals choking on and dying from balloon litter falling from the sky.

[@lpm67]

@@AppalachianLady I appreciate your feedback, but we would be using a weather balloon, with permits (as it can also be an aviation safety concern) and with a locator beacon for recovery of debri. It's not a cheap option and there are businesses that specialise in this. I certainly would not do it any other way.

[@stevelemur6113]

That is a very good solution. Doing a Viking funeral is not all that hard. You work out a deal with one of the cremains disposal-at-sea boats to tow a small flammable boat with the deceased in it out past the 3 mile limit. Do the blot (Scandinavian religious ceremony) and then toss a torch into the fire boat and cut the tow rope. All done. No fuss, no cleanup, but stay up wind because there is a ton of smoke and aroma. I presume you are not strangling any young women to accompany him to Valhalla or Vanaheim. You aren't, are you? A Wiccan Church in California had a member who wanted his ashes dispersed into a forest. So they arranged for a boat captain to swear he took his boat 8 miles from the coast and dispersed the ashes. The only detail is that the boat was being towed behind a pick-up in a forest 8 miles INLAND from the coast. I guess that is the crafty part of Witchcraft. In my experience the drinks are good at lots, but the food is a smidge better at Wiccan and Hindu events. I confess that I find the animal slaughter at Santeria events to be a bit off putting and the food to hotly spiced for me, but the drinks and music are great (I hate the cigars). If you are friendly and adventurous, I recommend attending all the foregoing. Polytheists think you can't have too many friends in very high places.

[@WobblesandBean]

2:04 Uhhhh...Mark, having an emotional affair still means she's his mistress. You don't have to be f,,,ing to be an affair partner.

[@keepdancingmaria]

Gang tats are different, and the consequences DO follow you. If you love Mia, don't soil her with tats that don't fit you anymore. She didn't ask you to ejaculate...

[@colleencook382]

As a single mom of 6 my saying for my children and anyone who came in our home is this: I don't care if you are pink, purple, polka dotted or zebra striped. How you are treated by me solely depends on how you treat me and mine-period! My children had many friends stay at our house in times of need (family trouble-unaccepting parents) and they knew I had an open door policy. I just do not understand why ppl cannot be understanding and non-judgemental of any differences! So happy to see you and your husband supportive of your son!

[@krazycats564]

The most my dad has "interfered" with my period is, buying me tampons, getting me birth control if I need it and getting my painkillers

[@SpIderm4an]

RIP to the beautiful lady who planned her own funeral ♡

[@DawnSuttonfabfour]

1:22.30 - I'm not crying, it's the onions is all. Yes damn you, you sad onions, why you do that? What a nice person she sounded; I hope her send off was a riot and exactly what she wanted. Tears AND laughter. RIP

[@velmasparksmayall6496]

It be one thing if the mom was allergic or the dog was not trained to be around people or behave. But trying to strongarm a good dog out of not even your own house is too far. I myself have friends that have/had big dogs even my grandparents have had big dogs. They are the sweetest things I ever met. Personally it’s the little dogs that are bad. I myself have had a dog and she was great and I felt horrible whenever I had to leave her at a dog sitters when we had to leave state or town.

[@Draggonny]

Even if the mum had an allergy, the answer would be for her to stay in a hotel. Letting someone stay in your home is doing them a favour. It's overstepping for them to invite themselves and it's double overstepping for them to make conditions on the favour they have asked for. The mother is asking them to save her the cost of a hotel while given them the unnecessary cost of boarding for the dog. I have friend that I can only see outside of my home because he is allergic to dogs and I have 2 huskies. You would have to deep clean everything including carpets and curtains to make a home safe for an allergy sufferer for a 2 week stay.

[@draumpje]

If it where an allergy request Boarding would be useless Deepcleaning after boarding prolly still give a reaction

[@rebekahjo1234]

I can kind of understand both sides in the story about the friend wanting to be a writer. If only because I want to be a writer and I know how critical people can be when you tell them that. I, unlike her friend, have won a few competitions for writing and I've received pretty good feedback on my stories so far. OP is definitely NTA there because writers need to know how to take criticism on their work. I've actually had my sisters and teachers help me with my writing because I know that my sisters at least won't hold back with their criticism. If something about it sucks, they'll tell me, and I think that's actually really helpful. If that friend can't take the criticism on her work now, I doubt she'll be able to actually make it as a writer. She might be able to self publish her work but I doubt it'll become her full time career.

[@thegoodkelly]

People won't consider you a "real" writer until you have been paid for it. I know this from experience.

[@WobblesandBean]

^ This. Plus, as sad as it is, and like everything else in the art/creative world, the fact that you've won writing awards means nothing. Most writers have won awards. Talent means very little, the only thing that matters to publishers is marketability. Even the New Yorl Times bestsellers list is 100% phony; much like the Oscars, it is wholly made up. The people making the list decide who gets to be on it, not the actual numbers of books sold at any given time. And again, much like the rest of the art world, it's not how good you are, or what you know. It's all about WHO you know. Without blatant nepotism, it is nearly impossible to get anywhere as a professional writer. Not to say you shouldn't try, only that you should have a backup career at the ready and work on your novel/manuscript/play/etc in your off time until you can get established. Otherwise, I promise you, you will suffer for it.

[@propio2957]

Speaking as someone who's far more on the editing side than the creating side of the industry (though I have done both), I agree, you absolutely HAVE to be able to accept criticism. Fortunately, that's something that can be worked on, but it's still a pretty big red flag

[@theshortone1959]

Ive heard this video several times and the goodbye note update gets me every time. I am not normally one to cry but this makes me every time.

[@rollothecat2010]

Mother in law and BF of OP who owns Tank the dog story: MIL and BF are the aholes. Boarding pets is very expensive and not the ideal situation for pets. The pets hate it. They feel abandoned. They really do. They feel like they have lost their home. It is very sad. The older I get, the more unpleasant I find having people, even family, staying in my home. I also feel unconfortable staying in other people's homes unless I am staying to take care of a sick/recovering family member. Polite considerate people do not ask to stay in your home. They get a hotel room nearby or a bed and breakfast reservation.

[@fibienn250]

When I was 18, I bought my boyfriend home to meet my mum. She hated him. He was a struggling student with divorced parents. He was scruffy, smoked and lacked the refined social skills that she preferred. He played rugby, drove a beat up car and was dragging me down to his level. My sister, on the other hand, had more genteel taste. Her boyfriends were from well off, well educated, world travelling backgrounds. They were artists and urbane in manner and tastes. As far as my mum was concerned, they were perfect. 30 years on, I am happily married to that boy. He kind and loving and faithful. He has a successful career, is liked and respected and very well paid. I have also enjoyed great success (though much less money). We have a great relationship with our grown up child, own our home outright and are even in the position to retire early if we with. We have travelled extensively and have a loyal social group. My sister has never married, enjoyed a long term relationship or had kids. She has a decent job and is well liked but both she and our mother are disappointed in her live. They both resent me and still dislike my husband. I think that my situation really highlights that fitting in with the girl’s family isn’t actually the key to happiness.

[@laurenmentink7401]

I was asked to watch my brother and get paid then I would do it. She only has to do it for one or two hours. I was told I HAD to watch an eleven year old and not paid for it for many hours on end. My brother later married the girl's mom. The same thing happened with my another brother (I have 3 brothers). I was told I HAD to watch their daughter with no pay. When I one time refused to watch her because I wanted to see Christmas lights in a different town my brother and his wife got angry. They accused me of eating their food and drinking their pop. I was livid and no one cared. No one in my family have ever apologized to me for anything. I am Very Very Low Contact. When my mom dies I will go No Contact.

[@sebastianhopkins7322]

The story of the Dying OP, She was amazing from I could tell from listening to the joy in her words. I get why her Family did what they did and I am glad they got the chance to have some, even the smallest amount, of control on the aspect of their girl dying. I am sitting here crying while writing this. Rest Well OP.

[@ladytenor9876]

Thank you MarKEE for a bushel of great stories. Stay safe and get some rest. 🇦🇺♥️🇦🇺🌈🇦🇺♥️🇦🇺♥️

[@klcampy]

If waitress isn’t paying rent, she needs to go. Husband was wrong to fall for her manipulation, but it’s time for her to go when she causes problems in their marriage

[@AngelaVEdwards]

Here's where so many go wrong about Christianity (including Catholicism). It's about _us,_ the condition of our hearts. Have we repented and attempted to walk right with God? If someone asks me about my belief system, I'll tell them about it in a non judgemental way. If they don't ask, I'm not going to preach to them. Trying to be some other adult's conscience is not our job. That job belongs to the Holy Spirit who is perfectly capable of wooing people into God's grace when the timing is right for that person. The sister should lay off her adult brother; he and his boyfriend are consenting adults and she has no business trying to tell them how to live their lives.

[@rachelcrawford1977]

I find people who behave like that are hiding something and the bigger sinners.

[@lindahoward7309]

@@rachelcrawford1977 Yes, they generally have hidden agendas and sins that don't show!! I have some relatives that deny Jesus and others that are agnostic. Our mother was a faithful Christian. 4 of her 7 are not. I don’t try to convert them. I've shown myself to them, they know me my heart and beliefs. We don't live in close states so we don't see each other anymore. I pray for Jesus to lead them to him. I can witness, that's about all I can do.

[@amandasundwall4171]

@Angela Edwards I like the way you think and this is the way I feel and try to live my life

[@hoodiegal]

The woman in the last story is an absolute savage, love her :'D

[@bdhu2001]

Yeah and since her parents helped with the funds for him to start the restaurant and she supported him so he could get the restaurant viable, she would have been owed quite a bit of it’s worth in a divorce settlement.

[@iwannabeyahtzee8056]

With the godmother story I thought that the OP was going to say something like she didn't want to put her child through that kind of loss so early in their life and if that was the case I would be more conflicted. But the actual reasons they gave were so selfish and hurtful theres no doubt they're the asshole.

[@michellemartinov6267]

“I’m going to make her eat that cake”. Also maybe the daughter is actually eating healthy and the family is obese.

[@burstmedia1829]

Tears spilling down my face whilst I laugh. What a beautiful yet sad story.

[@davidmope6324]

I remember reading. Story where the catholic converted sister did the same to the gay brother so the agnostic parents left her a 1 dollar bill which a card that read something about you will get your riches in heaven 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤞

[@keepdancingmaria]

Fiance=male=groom Fiancee=female=bride Why is this so difficult, Redditors?

[@eleanoraddy4683]

Thats frickin terrible! My son is disabled and i would be MORTIFIED if he behaved any less than chivalrous with a girl he fancied. Good lord

[@elsadakota1021]

Certain tats CAN BE DANGROUS! I’ve heard of whole families being targeted/ wiped out for associations.

[@venatic1581]

if someone told me to leave my brother's funeral lets just say we'd have another funeral very soon

[@kkalabrezos]

My❤ is broken from reading that post mortem letter,rest in peace beautiful cat lady😿

[@nabbichilcott9541]

I had someone grab my steering wheel one time trying to honk the horn. I pulled over as soon as I was able and told her that if she ever touched my steering wheel again not only would I kick her out of the car but I would wipe my hands of her. She never did it again.

[@keepdancingmaria]

Are you using the Godparent label as it used to be used... responsible for the child in a legal and binding way if something happened to you, the parents? If so, then you should not ask a dying person to be this legally and binding agreement to be used with a dying person.... However, who really uses that label in that particular way nowadays? Just be honest here how you are using the Godparent label. As it was originally intended and used? or the more modern feel-good, honorific usage.?

[@CalamityM]

Yeah I always thought that asking someone to be the godparent of your children was asking them to legally commit themselves to raising your children should something happen to you and your spouse. It's not something to take lightly. For a _dying_ person to ask to become a godparent is on a level of dumbness that I just can't fathom.

[@audiobooksworm]

The breed of parents who still take the role of godparent seriously is a dying breed but regardless of how they see the role it's their right to choose the person. This story is ridiculous. If a boy were to make you a promise in kindergarten ''when I will be grown up I will marry you'' will you keep him to this promise? I mean, if he grows up handsome and becomes rich. Will you place yourself between him and his fiance because ''you promised me that role!!!''? Well, OP best friend is doing this.

[@paden1865able]

I was taught that a godparent was to teach the ways of religion and such.

[@duchesseebene1273]

@@paden1865able That's the religious aspect. The social and sometimes cultural aspect is to care for your children should they become orphans.

[@riverlady982]

I was raised that Godparents are a Catholic thing but have had, for some reason, friends mostly from Catholic families. I am a curious person but as me and most of my friends don't practice the religions were raised with I've gotten varying answers on what a Godparent is. I don't know what Country it was posted from but I do know in America a Godparent has no legal rights to a child. So why not let her have the title as a bright spot in life.

[@VaBeachBeach2971]

The one with the waitress taking advantage of men for a place to live I have to 100% disagree with you. This lady is not the asshole. The waitress is a scammer she’s not a family member or a close friend. They owe her nothing. She’s a fucking scammer for crying out loud. Hell, am I crazy for thinking this way?

[@lancelotwhitford6516]

The wonderful woman with cystic fibrosis - rip Cat-crazy lady, Reddit and YT will remember you just as you are

[@SB-ym3nt]

The cake story at 1:33... "I made the cake even though she asked me not to and I planned to make her eat it"...the mum in this story is disgusting. Is it any wonder her kids have a bad relationship with food!?

[@kaitlinf6929]

On the rental property guy... good riddance to an apparent gold digger! I just got out of a gold digger relationship and left him homeless while i moved

[@gr8kat1]

The OP with the brother with Duchenne's made me realize something: OP probably also carries the gene for DMD, so if she has kids, she may well be in the same situation as her parents. So far as I know (in my experience living in the MD sphere), women carry the gene for DMD and rarely suffer symptoms, while men rarely live passed their teens (though new therapies to extend mobility and life span are being tested to good result). If OP is a guy, the universe smiled on him because he doesn't have the genes so his kids likely won't be afflicted.

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

Op has a 50% chance of being a carrier

[@hugdispenser5627]

Honestly here my take I feel a combination ESH but not the brother. Hear me out. My mom’s friend has a daughter around my sister’s age (14). And for years she was an only child. Later on she had two consecutive boys (one is currently 3 I think and the other turned one not too long ago). That poor girl’s life changed drastically. OP is a massive AH for the embarrassment and that joke. But when OP said “it’s not like you’d notice since you never talk to me” that one hurt. Any child at any age getting a new sibling is a huge change. So getting a sibling right around your teen years is definitely hard. I can only imagine. It must’ve been a pain adjusting to it. Add on that that it doesn’t seem like the parents had the “this baby will need a lot more time and attention from us but we still love you and are here for you talk” at any point in the pregnancy or after. And at 13 that was a bad call on the parents part. That age is fragile, due to everything that happens then. When I was 13-14 I was pissed that my dad went from an ex-smoker to smoking “occasionally” again. I still think about that day 4 years later and absolutely despise it. A simple accommodation of therapy for OP would’ve gone a long way. And while OP was harsh the “I don’t like you comment” was in some ways, predictable. But that’s because when he came into her life that’s when she was supposed to start learning to study and understand her feelings so she can understand them and words them well. I get having a disabled child is a lot, but it’s still something that isn’t an excuse to neglect your other child especially if it’s a teen. Now OP needs to definitely apologize to the brother for the harsh words and the lashing out. Go to therapy and manage her emotions and bind with her brother until his passing. And the parents definitely also owe OP an apology. Cause it sounds like at the very least emotional neglect and family therapy should be looked at ASAP. I get kids and teens say it a lot out of anger; but when your child feels like you won’t care or notice if they were absent immediate red flag if mental health issues. It can be a gateway drug to suicidal thoughts and it can happen even unconsciously in that child’s head. So don’t berate them and make it about you. Take them to therapy. ASAP.

[@oilybohunk7]

When I was 16 I had three friends in my car, the two in the back started screwing around when I was on the highway and they kicked my car into neutral. I pulled over and screamed at them to sit in their seats, have their seat belts on and don't even look at each other or I won't move.

[@jemase7931]

If SIL wanted to announce a pregnancy at OP's party, she needed to ask what OP was going to announce. Maybe she should have thrown her own party.

[@MARSHAO1946]

RIP to the lady planning her own funeral. God now has another special Angel. 🕊

[@soniaalexander277]

I am confused by these wishy washy comments. In another story OP asked his daughter if she wanted a birthday cake and she insisted no. But OP got reprimanded by his wife and the uncle who showed up with a cake making OP feeling bad.

[@krismartikris4834]

I travel for work and boarded my cat once. She was a wreck when I got back; very clingy, and that is not her! The kennel treated her very well, but she hated every second. I found a cat sitting service and they are amazing. They even asked if she had issues with dogs, to make sure they didn't send a sitter who was around dogs. *Though they specialize in cats, the service will also care for other pets in the family. It's a relief to know my girl is calm and happy while I'm away.

[@lenamarist574]

When I was 2 yo my godmother got sick. At the time she told my parents it was fine if they wanted someone else to fill that role in case something happened to her. My parents told her that in no way they would choose anyone else. 20 Years later she's still around and healthy and for that I'm happy. In no way would I want anyone else as my godmother.

[@simsgirlgem]

The funeral one my wishes is I want my remains to grow a tree and I’ll haunt my family if I am not a tree

[@prettygreenmaiden8793]

Sorry I'm about to rant... I think the father is well within his authority to tell his older daughter to move out. I would take that part time job of watching a baby a couple hours a day in a heartbeat (and I'm really awkward around kids). Especially when you consider what a lot of people have to go through while going to college (working multiple sucky jobs, horrible roommates, being a caregiver, not having money for basic needs, working around other family or personal challenges, etc.). She's entitled to the max because there are worse jobs in the world and apparently the younger daughter is smart enough to realize that. The older daughter could be working at a fast-food joint getting cursed out by Karens like any other person her age, but no, in the comfort of her own home she can't babysit her little brother?...for money?!! The dad isn't demanding her to raise the baby either but to help her own sick mother while he is away. Most family would do this without kicking up a fuss or getting $$$ (grandparents anyone?). It's like a story I heard where a wife got a cat, but due to her pregnancy was encouraged not to clean the cat's waste. Her husband refused to care for the cat while she was pregnant because he was holding her to the agreement that she would take care of the cat... and everyone called him TA because their unborn baby could've literally suffered badly due to the cat bacteria. In this case we have a situation where an unforeseen health situation came up and the father asked for *some* help from his teenage daughters (a whole year later) but was reasonable enough to pay them unlike what some parents wouldn't have done. And seeing as there are two daughters and one baby they can easily work in a reasonable schedule as well as put this experience on a resume and learn some life lessons. Sorry but I would've kicked out that ungrateful daughter and see if she would rather help take care of a baby for a couple hours a day or take care of herself full time. You get free room, food, no bills, modern conveinces, with the only expectation being higher education (not even a job so she's probably getting spending money). She needs to learn consideration, humility and cooperation to keep from getting sucker popped in the face by the real world. Her principle of trying to be right but privileged without consequence will not pay off in the end. Sorry, rant over

[@SH-qs7ee]

They're both assholes; yes it doesn't take much to look after a kid that age; basically just keep him fed, changed and alive. I mean, if the brother was special needs I might understand, but from what I can tell, he was a normal, healthy baby boy; the kind you could put in a play pen and sit nearby while you did your homework. But it is also a dick move to suddenly change the rules and hold people accountable for their actions before the rule change comes into place. And there are other ways you could've punished her before the nuclear solution. I mean, maybe he should think about hiring a neighbor to babysit the baby, give the money that was meant to be the older sisters to them. Let the older sister watch her younger sister by new things with the money while she cant afford anything.

[@jacienz]

Some of these mothers are plain enablers. Imagine your son sexually harassing someone who removes themselves from dealing with the said son, then you go and arrange for the said son to work at the girls job but then on top of that want the girl that is harassed to drive that same guy to and from work. Imagine the entitlement, trying to make use of someones time without their knowledge, to force them to be with their son; when they cant stand him.I would refuse to leave the job complain to HR about the situation and if hes hired let them know to keep him away from me and if anything happens i would sue both mother and son. I would take them to the cleaners.

[@crow_face_1251]

For the story about the calling out the bad writing, NTA. As a writer myself, criticism is absolutely essential. The fact this girl won’t take criticism but dares to criticize op’s stories (in a very childish way, may I add.) is ridiculously clear entitled behavior. And also adding in homophobic and anti-Muslim comments? That girl sounds like a terribly immature and frankly toxic person. Writing is hard. I suck at it, and would gladly take criticism for it. Having someone ask you about your backup plan is fricking gift. I don’t write fanfics, but I have respect for people who do. Fanfic writers are writers just as much as people who make their own characters and worlds are. Writing is not a natural talent, it’s something where you start with some ideas and you learn from mistakes and critiques and you build on and get better as you go. If you don’t take critiques and if you don’t learn from your mistakes, you don’t improve and you become a sucky writer.

[@echoarches5484]

"It's just stage 2 cancer?" Yur brother needs to leave her immediately. Like, yesterday.

[@carolgibson-wilson4354]

A healthy godparent could get hit by a truck crossing the street when your daughter is 6 months old. It's a title of affection.

[@mikanoel8406]

That mom found herself staring at a full moon for too long.

[@minagica]

Chaos should indeed be changed. It's important to have continuity but it's also important to not strengthen bad behaviour circuitry in the kid's head by constantly flinging "chaos" their way. Their parents are so irresponsible, it's so sad, I'm glad him and his siblings have a loving aunt

[@camwyn256]

I’m not crying. My eyes are just sweating

[@McBende]

The carer with the disabled child and job situation: The mother's the MASSIVE asshole for MULTIPLE reasons. 1) Just because you hire someone to be a caregiver during specific times does NOT magically mean they're a caregiver 24/7 without you paying for that service. Magically deciding "oh, and she can drive him to work cause they'll work at the same place AND watch out for him at her OTHER JOB, TOO!" is some MAJOR entitled bullshit. She's either getting paid by her OTHER boss to do the job she was hired for OR you can pay her to watch your adult kid 24/7 like a live in CNA or nurse. You don't get to split it both ways. 2) Sexual harassment is sexual harassment, regardless of your adult child's mental status. If he's hired at this job and he sexually harasses any of the female coworkers, it'll be on camera and his ass will be canned regardless, plus probably banned from the store. Because as a minimum wage employ who's "capable of" doing a job that, frankly, robots do in Japan, he is NOT worth the legal liability to keep around. Either teach him to treat others with respect, or he'll end up rotting away in a home regardless of your pathetic excuses. Should others be patient with daily living tasks because of his disability? Yes. Does that mean others have to put up with sexual harassment? Absolutely not, and they wont.

[@rannvamacdonaldarnskov4794]

Restaurant widow: Now, THATS a power move

[@kirstenornelas881]

Omg that woman is more worried about "her other children thinking they are fat" but severely failing to see her oldest child is STRUGGLING WITH AN EATING DISORDER AND WAS ASKING FOR THERAPY! She thought therapy is unneeded because she thinks she looks fine like wtf!?@ Hey OP YOUR CHILD WILL NOT ASK FOR THERAPY FOR FUN THEY WILL ONLY ASK FOR HELP IF THEY ARE STRUGGLING OMFG

[@holydpower131]

There is one and only one person that is allowed to touch the steering wheel of a fit driver and that is a driving instructor.

[@WobblesandBean]

26:00 Ok, since you asked: Since OP's son can hold a job, take direction, speak and understand language perfectly well, and can otherwise act autonomously in many ways, he is clearly capable of learning what consent is and that it's not ok to treat women the way he does. I'm so sick of people treating autistic individuals and people with learning disabilities as if they're helpless animals, incapable of self-control and devoid of any ability to learn at all. Newsflash, ANIMALS ARE CAPABLE OF LEARNING AND BEHAVIORAL MODIFICATION TOO. Even insects can be conditioned this way, so people with that mindset literally regard autistic people as lowlier than a bug. If a 4-year old child can understand the concept of consent and learn to keep their hands to themselves, then so can OP's son. There's no excuse whatsoever for failing to teach him not to treat women this way, she simply doesn't want to, she'd rather enable, coddle, and infantilize him. She thinks it's perfectly okay if her son harasses and even assaults women, because her "pweshus bayyybeeee" doesn't know any better...although he clearly does. See, in the comments she revealed that he will laugh and escalate his behavior if the girls (yes, he's done this to several other caretakers in the past) tell him he's making them uncomfortable. He enjoys their distress. And he doesn't do this to ALL his caretakers either, so he's well aware of what he's doing, at least to an extent, surely. His mother is the one enabling this behavior, she thinks his victims of should just suck it up and let him do whatever he wants to them, because she's paying them to be there. That's right, according to her, he's entitled to their bodies as long as they're on her payroll. That is viIe. The cherry on top is how she's willing to ruin that poor girl's life just to gain something of minimal benefit to her son. It's just a menial job at a pet store, nothing more. I shudder to think how far she'd go to secure him something that actually matters.

[@VelociQueen]

As someone with cystic fibrosis I;m honestly disgusted at the OP. I would be SO excited to be a godmother and my own best friend is planning to make me one. It's symbolic, it's not just about the child being raised if the parents were to die. Her friend sounded so excited for the baby's arrival too. I'm also not going to live much past 30 and having something else I care about taken away from me by my cf is unbearable every time, I've lost SO much already. I seriously hope the OP had some sense knocked in them and at least tries to put herself in her friends shoes. People like us have to cram as much happiness and love and experience into our lives as possible because in the back of our heads, the clock is ticking. Always ticking. And there's one huge thing the OP isn't taking into account: people with cystic fibrosis? Yeah we can't really make our own children. Men are completely infertile, for most women it takes tons of fertility treatment and even then for so many of us our effected organs can barely support our own lives without the strain of pregnancy. If I somehow managed to conceive, I would either miscarry or have to abort or I could just straight up die. When I imagine having a god child, I feel like that's the closest thing I could get to having a real child. If I was in the friend's situation I would be having flashbacks to my genetic counselor when he sat me down and told me I wasn't ever going to be a mother all over again.

[@sharolynwells]

The thing is, on the story of the woman with CF, how does OP know how long SHE will live? I'm the oldest of 4. My youngest brother died when I was 18 and he was 16. My oldest brother died when he was 30 and I was 32. My mom died in 95 at the age of 63. Dad died in 2009 at 79. And my youngest sister died in 2013 at the age of 61. According to the Bible, Death is no respecter of persons.

[@dawnfire1]

It say the damage to her lungs and other organs great reduce her lifespan.

[@sharolynwells]

@@dawnfire1 I understand that. But what's to say OP's CF friend will be in a car accident? Accidents are called accidents because they're unexpected. I expect to live past 80, but I could also know that Death doesn't care how old they are.

[@candyroserowe5985]

The dying little brother story broke my heart I have a half brother who I am 16 years older then he was born with a heart condition and was in hospital for around 3 and a half months after he was born he is now 4 years old and not a day has passed that I am not worried about him or I tell him I love him I dont see how people can act that way

[@skyelindsey687]

The learning disability one. That’s not because of the disability, that’s his mother is entitled and raised him to be entitled. I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if it turns out he never had a disability and she just went from doctor to doctor until one decided to give him a diagnosis just to get her off his back

[@Decaying_bacon]

Imagine being the guy that's jealous of a dog 🤡

[@marielenapotts848]

I think it would be an ahole move to call a dying or terminally ill person an ahole

[@Gwenrissler1796]

The first one yes a**hole it is dog most pure and adorable creature I love dog and being jealous of a dog is sad

[@oliviaksiag6163]

That's similar to that post where some woman was getting upset about a guy having a cat, and people started laughing at her for being jealous of a cat.

[@rollothecat2010]

Markee, I love the way you read replies and answers to AITA. It is very well done. 🙋‍♀️🇦🇺🐊🦘🐨🐕🐈

[@cynthiaanderson3340]

I’ve never heard that Godparents are intended to be potential legal guardians! Godparents are to be encouragers to the parents and child to exposing the child to the things of God.

[@karolinapartyka6013]

Thank you for following up the most heartbreaking AITA ever with a post about a buttcrack. Laughing though tears.

[@Heaven69J]

Man the one with the awesome cat lady had me in tears. She sounded great.

[@Darwinsmom]

Admittedly, I am a crazy dog person - I keep dog biscuits in my home for neighbour dogs who use the dog park just off my balcony. But I don't see the situation with the dog, Tank, as any different than the situation of a single parent who future spouse does not want the existing children to live in the marital home after the wedding. People commonly did that in the past - I saw it play out in my own family when I got into genealogy. Animals cannot be reasoned with, and if you have ever visited an animal shelter, you cannot deny that they grieve for their families after they have been dumped there. Since Tank was a rescue, it is reasonable that he has already experienced that trauma once. Warehousing him in a boarding kennel for the ex-future MIL's comfort is just forcing a relapse in all the progress OP has made with him. Kudos to OP for putting a living, loving animal above a human - and I will confidently predict that whatever grief Tank goes through in losing BF when he has bonded with him, she can and will handle.

[@t.ron314]

Oh god the CF one had me absolutely sobbing. There’s no way I’d have been able to read that story out loud. I have/had two step siblings with it. One died over a decade ago after refusing a transplant because “it’ll only prolong my life by a few years, but could save someone else’s.” Luckily, so luckily, a new drug came out just as the other was gearing up for a lung transplant. Due to the efficacy of that drug, they didn’t end up needing the transplant. They got off of disability and are living a (mostly) normal life.

[@Roedygr]

DOG: Neither of you is ever going to find a lasting relationship if all it takes is a trivial dispute like this to split you up. The problem is that dreadful entitled woman you allowed to walk all over you. Tell her she needs to negotiate the time and duration of her visit. Both of you are busy people. Your apartment is way too small to accommodate her. She can stay at the el Cheapo hotel. Tank lives with us, so he will be here when you visit. He has not even growled at anyone in the last five years. Your fears are groundless paranoia. We will be here at all times to "protect" you from Tank. You asked us to put Tank in a kennel. That would cost approximately the same as your hotel bill. That is well outside of our budget. This would also be cruel to Tank. He would have no idea if we were ever coming back. And you demand all this expense and cruelty to calm your completely imaginary fears? What does your BF see in this old witch?

[@raayvenwolfgirl5539]

Omg. This first guy is like.. jealous over a dog. Really!?

[@AtomicPuffin]

Reminds me of the cyanide and happiness animation lmao

[@michaelmorris8302]

She moved with a guy bf so why deal with lack of affection from a live in gf who isn't showing him affection specially in the first 3 months of living together

[@mellvee]

@@michaelmorris8302 - Any boyfriend or girlfriend who acts like this when they move in together needs to be monitored carefully to ensure they're not an abusive, controlling pice of crap. Why not be an asshole who's jealous of a 4 legged fur machine that's been her best friend for years? That question answers itself. HE moved in with HER. The dog is a family member and has been with OP longer than the boyfriend. It's a huge sign of a controlling, jealous nature, and the OP needs to run as fast as possible. If he's that jealous of her attention towards the dog, what do you think he'd do about his children? If he's a jealous prick, he's a jealous prick. I've known people - men and women both - who are literally jealous of their own children and the attention they get from the other parent.

[@raayvenwolfgirl5539]

@@mellvee here here. It is a HUGE red flag.

[@michaelmorris8302]

@@mellvee u move into a house with someone you make plans to be with someone but you are still ignoring the person for a dog she is to co dependent on the animal specially ignoring the bf for the animal something's need to change not sure if he talked to the gf about it but this is an issue that needs to be discussed

[@Roedygr]

OP called the meeting without knowing about the pregnancy, She HAD to announce the cancer, SIL lied, She deserved whatever she got

[@BlankBrain]

Cancer vs. baby announcement. This is exactly why when I had cancer and it metastasized, I didn't tell my family. I knew that my mom would want to help me, and that would cause conflicts with my stepfather. It was less stressful to just keep my mouth shut. I made daily trips to another city for radiation, and it worked!

[@ruthhenderson5413]

If it hadn't worked, and you had died , your mom would have been devastated to learn that you had never given her the opportunity to choose between helping her child or avoiding conflict with her husband. You state that you knew which she would have chosen, so not telling her showed a sad lack of trust and a cruel rejection of her love. It could be considered a sin of omission on your part, and she would have had to deal with it alone after you were gone. Your screen name is well chosen.

[@zukanator3555]

The story about cystic fibrosis really hit home. Lost my aunt to the disease right after her 21rst bday. Good luck in all you do OP

[@adrianmcbride1666]

Which story about cystic vibrousis? There were at least 2.

[@zukanator3555]

@@adrianmcbride1666 not a sure its been a long time since I made that comment will have to watch the video again sorru

[@adrianmcbride1666]

@@zukanator3555 was it the one about the potential godmother with cystic vibrousus or the one with the op who wanted to plan her funeral as she was dying from the same?

[@zukanator3555]

@@adrianmcbride1666 the OP that was planning her funeral.. my aunts both died in their 20's, I couldn't imagine

[@adrianmcbride1666]

@@zukanator3555 yeah, I haven't had anyone with it, but I can imagine the feeling (family diagnosed with potentially fatal ills). That one was at least somewhat of a bitter-sweet ending.

[@littlestrawberryfaery]

Funeral story: " I'm not crying! you're crying!" I am in fact crying

[@Yllania]

That poor friend in the godmother story. My mom made her best friend my godmother, but when she passed I went to my aunt and uncle. My godmother just looked out for me the best she could. You hurt your friend who might not be here much longer for no good reason.

[@ruthhenderson5413]

A godmother in heaven could be considered to be all the more qualified to look out for the godchild.