r/AmiTheA**Hole For Feeding My Starving Nephew?

[@joyceneal6169]

So if you take your sleeping baby into a restaurant and the sound of silverware on plates wakes your baby and makes her cry, is everyone else supposed to put down their utensils and stop eating until you leave? Seriously? Coffee shops grind coffee. Coffee grinders are loud. That was in play before covid and it's still in play today. If the environment you're in is upsetting your child, then you remove your child from that environment. YTA

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

Of course they are. Don't you know. Karen's angel needs quiet to sleep even in public. So you must be quite for queen Karen's angel. The coffee shop should have known they were in the presence of a Karen. Then she comes home hoping to be rewarded for her Karen ways only to have her husband reject her Karen ways.

[@kathybouziane5269]

You have a sleeping baby and the world has to come to a halt ? People have work to do.

[@Mew_Mokuba_Akari]

@@kathybouziane5269 Don't tell that to Karen. Her angel's needs come first

[@stephanien6237]

Delusional, entitled “Karen”

[@cynthiarothrock4255]

If its angel naptime KEEP THE CHILD AT HOME IN THEIR OWN CRIB!

[@rosesinamber]

Dear Karens: Managers only agree with you so you’ll leave them alone and they don’t get a bad review. They’ll gossip about you after

[@robinburk9901]

Sounds like niece uninvited the aunt for the wedding too..... Forgot did I just miss hear?

[@amusing4me257]

Can confirm. I know about Karens from jobs I’ve never worked because as someone in the service industry, we all have at least one story and it’s almost like our universal bonding thing as we share our trauma. and I’m not using trauma lightly. I still remember the girl sharing her story while shaking.

[@yukineko5613]

True. I once served a customer as a Karen came to me. Almost immediately she started a fight with the first customer for not keeping distance. I told her to keep distance herself and wait in line and therefore got reported to the manager. My manager agreed to her and apologised, but came to me eventually and we had a laugh about that stupid b****

[@josephbrown9665]

I had one curse my daughter out in my shop office. My daughter was picking up her car and she was behind the desk getting her keys. It was after we had closed the shop for the Day already but the small gate was open and the shop was still open. She started telling her that she needs to get her car back and she had to take care of it now. My daughter said sorry I don’t work here I was just getting my keys out of the desk so I can go home. Karen started yelling at her again so when she finished and gave her a chance to talk my daughter said that it’s my father’s business and my sister in law’s desk who is my next door neighbor. So she gave me her car and her keys so I could get my car.. Karen went off again about getting her car keys and getting her car back. She started calling me after telling her 5 times that we were closed and she had to come back tomorrow morning. I answered my phone and I could hear my daughter getting yelled at. So I got my golf cart and took off to the front office. I got there and the Karen just shut up when I walked into the office. I. Was a little loud when I asked wtf is going on. Why are you not gone yet? My daughter just pointed at my Karen and said she would not believe I don’t work for you. I was like scrubs and a hospital ID badge then looked at the Karen and she looked at the picture on the wall behind the desk and there was a couple pictures of me and my daughter in her white coat. I told Karen that she is my baby girl and she is a surgery resident in her 3rd year. Karen’s jaw was on the floor. She then said that my daughter in law had called her and said that we were going to start charging storage fees on her car if they didn’t come pick it up. I asked her again for her name. She looked mad but I said the name on her car . Oh she said Karen Jackdone . I almost laughed in her face. I pulled up her car and I started looking at her file for her car. My daughter in law had called her but her car was totaled out and she should have been paid off for her car. I told her that she should have been paid for her car and they were responsible for the car now. She said that she didn’t get a check from them and they told her that they were getting her car fixed. I kissed my daughter and let her leave. Karen stayed red faced and gave her a big apology. My daughter was just like no worries she is a doctor and she sees it all every single day as she is still a resident. So Karen’s car was totaled and the insurance company had not told her yet because she didn’t have a rental car. I took her back to my yard to show her the car and show her what I found when I got it into the shop for a look to order parts for it. She asked me if I could fix it and what would it cost over what the insurance company was willing to pay. Explaining to her that it would be a salvage title and that she would have to buy it from the insurance company. She was like I still own it they have not paid me anything. I told her that she needs to get a rental car and make them get off their buts . She picked up her rental car this morning when I got to my shop. I had to pick her up from her house. Now waiting on the insurance company to get on the ball and make a deal with her. I even told her what they should be paying her for her car. Now more waiting for Karen but she has their car and they are paying for it so they will get it done soon.

[@lisar6453]

That's exactly what I was about to comment. Getting a gift card isn't validation for bad behavior; it's a deterrent of a possible bad review. OP was in the wrong in this one. Her husband was right to say so. The baristas were just doing their jobs and may have been working in whatever time they had to do prep before they got too busy to do it.

[@potatodar]

12:50 “That quote, 'the only disability in life is a bad attitude', the reason that's bullshit is ... No amount of smiling at a flight of stairs has ever made it turn into a ramp. No amount of standing in the middle of a bookshelf and radiating a positive attitude is going to turn all those books into braille.” - Stella Young

[@moon-pw1bi]

ok that isnt really the quote but sure

[@rora9553]

@@moon-pw1bi It is now.

[@livewellwitheds6885]

@@moon-pw1bi so, what is the real quote? do you even know who Stella young is?

[@WBLJohnny]

Nah. A good attitude would find other solutions and innovation.

[@OriginalAsherella]

Starving a kid is 100% child abuse. She wasn’t withholding dessert or his favorite snack for a day or two. You cannot starve a seven-year-old child.

[@jaykneegarner2479]

Someone in a relatively large college town near me did! The kid died locked in a closet so painfully thin that he at 8 years old weighed less than 30 pounds! They sat around stuffing their fat faces while the kid slowly and painfully starved to death!

[@OriginalAsherella]

Jayknee Garner oh god damn that make me want to crawl under a table and hide away from a world that is capable of producing “people” that could do that.

[@redsoulheart5040]

If you can’t take care of your kids, love them unconditionally then don’t fucking have them. The amount of times idiots don’t know when to stop fucking is amazing. If your going to abuse your kids DONT HAVE THEM.

[@melkiorwiseman5234]

Technically, it's criminal neglect of a minor (at least it would be if it was in Australia) and at the very least, it would earn the mother some court-mandated parenting classes along with strict supervision. At worst, it can result in a few years in prison along with the child being permanently removed from the parent's custody.

[@renoloverxoxo]

Someone tell 8 passengers that

[@sabrinamoore8806]

If she uses the denial of food as a punishment she is unfit, she needs to clean up her act or she needs to lose custody of the child.

[@TheFlamingoBird]

Yes , this is the only correct answer

[@franl155]

I was forced to miss a meal as a punishment when I was a child, but it was only one meal. That was bad enough. ps - it happened several times, but I meant, only one meal was missed each time.

[@AllenTax]

Doing something like that can actually kill. Diabetic.

[@NekoYuki]

Honestly, everything I've heard from that post actually SCREAMS narcissistic parent. Those people are incapable of real love.

[@rileystewart9927]

my mom did this when i was a kid, i ended up sneaking food, even go as far as putting frozen corndogs in my bra and go to bathroom and wait a bit for it to be soft enough to eat (started doing that at 10) DONT DO THIS TO KIDS you dont fucking do that, thats abusive af, let alone to a growing child, this is how bad habits is formed, such as sneaking food, ive seen stories where kids end up either digging in the trash, or stealing from stores just to eat, stuff like that shouldnt happen

[@CrussoFang]

the post about the nephew not getting dinner genuinely makes me upset. i just cant see any scenario where i would be able to be as calm as op about it. hands would be thrown. cps would be called. it wouldn't be pretty

[@dominiquehebert4903]

Yeah you don't deprive a child of an entire meal. You remove dessert or treats.

[@nerdygeekgamer5528]

@@dominiquehebert4903 I agree so he broke a vase on accident all she had to say was NO ICE CREAM tonight and that's it I've gotten plenty of punishments like no dessert after dinner before or my video game system and video games taken away for a day or two but my parents never once deprived me of eating a meal for braking something

[@cynthiarothrock4255]

I NEVER MISSED A MEAL. ( unless I had measles or chicken pox) Getting in trouble ment standing in the corner till dad walked in and then doing chores or working in the garden till dinner ( and dishes after) homework and STRAIGHT TO BED. ( no playtime the rest of THAT DAY) when I got up the next day it was never mentioned again. ( unless it was my report card then I was stuck with dad checking homework every night and recoping it untill my grades came up)

[@mekaplush2148]

N my fam... My kids r my sisters kids n vices versa... We will fight each other if we feel we doin r babies wrong

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

Wow, and the grandparents backed up that mother?! No, no, no! I would have done the same as Aunt and fed him but probably a PB&J and glass of milk....something quiet that he could take to his room.

[@moritzmonaghan9421]

When a child misbehaves you take away their nintendo switch. Not the essentials needed to live. Food, water, oxygen. The 3 things we need to not die. You don't mess with those. That is one horrid parent.

[@thedogfromstartrek3204]

And even then, you don’t punish mistakes.

[@ajb7530]

Exactly. I think your sister is abusive to your nephew. It is cruel and down right wrong not to feed her child his dinner. If CPS found out about that, they may take away her child for neglect.

[@ajb7530]

@@thedogfromstartrek3204, exactly. You encourage them to get better and learn from mistakes. We are all human!

[@bluedragonfly8139]

Like, to bed without *dessert*, sure. Bed without *dinner*? Noooooo.

[@Neku628]

That type of thing sounds like something parents in the 19th century would do.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

The sheer audacity of grinding coffee beans in a coffee shop! Lol

[@geurgecrawford8844]

starving a child is called child abuse

[@danacarter9147]

Right about that.

[@justinpettenuzzo8210]

I hate it when teachers don't do anything when someone is being bullied, but when the victim does something the teacher scowls them.

[@jadebolt4416]

I remember when I was 11 and I stuck up for a friend facing racial hate- the teachers told her to toughen up and get thicker skin because that was how her life would work. I stuck up for her, got thrown down a flight of stairs by her bullies, then the school told me it was my own fault for getting involved.

[@amusing4me257]

Yeah it seems to be a really issue. Don’t have kids but I hear about it super often. Always different schools always different ages always different states. You would think schools would have a code of conduct and how to handle it if it happens the much.

[@hwiley8141]

When i was 9 or 10, I was being bullied at school. My parents were going through a rough patch, and we were food insecure. I put my lunch on a table, went to get milk and came back to find my lunch on the floor, stomped on. I started bawling and went to the teacher. She scolded me, saying this was why I was picked on. No offer of lets buy you a new lunch, nothing.

[@toyairy7612]

I was severely bullied in school. When i heard about the anti bully initiative i know this is not going to work. I know your daughter isn't alone in this kind of treatment. They have sources and methods that the kids are taught to prevent bullying that screams for the bully to take advantage of the system to make their victims far more victimized. I just know little popular girls are raising their hands saying "she is bullying me" with convincing fake tears to convince the staff that the victim is the bully. and look at the responses in this thread. A truly bullied kid would never raise her hand and announce to the teacher in front of everyone that she is being victimized. its such an easy avenue to intensify the horrible treatment and get the staff to join in.

[@KashyaCharsi]

In general, it's easier to punish the one who rocks the boat.

[@rannvamacdonaldarnskov4794]

The "make the boys apologise" comment actually made me change my mind. I was on "don't tell the neighbour" until that, but it made me see it serves two good purposes: 1) strong formative and humbling experience for the boys facing their actions. 2) establishing for the neighbour that her neighbours is on her side if the kids ever cause trouble again, whichs makes it known that she won't end up dealing with a Karen if the neighbour discovers this kind of problem herself.

[@DyaniRivers9008]

In most US states, regardless if the person is trespassing on your property or not, the indecent person can be charged with a sex offense. If it was a minor child that saw someone naked, and the parent called the police, the naked person could and most likely would be charged. I don't agree with this but it has been a hot button topic for many decades.

[@bipolarrrbear8797]

@@DyaniRivers9008 even while breastfeeding?

[@katwiltz1134]

Exposing yourself to children for any reason ​@@DyaniRivers9008

[@jamesbeard5513]

1st story: YTA. Karen, stay out of coffee shops from now on. 2nd story: NTA. CALL CPS NOW! 3rd story: NTA sorry you had a s***** friend. 4th story: Can't actually say what is what. OP wasn't cheating on what was, essentially, an Ex at the time and the (now)wife's best friend and soon to be ex-husband split, and wouldn't be surprised if the guy hadn't slept around as well. And OP didn't know the child was his, maybe the wife bf didn't either. 5th story: No, ruin their little power trip. 6th story: YTA. She may be like one of those unpopular cars that are boring/bland on the outside but can go the distance, but you are one of those vehicles everyone wants until they drive it. And that man is better than most men that qualify as 'gorgeous', stereotypically as shallow as you. 7th story: NTA. They should leave neighbors alone. 8th story: Split. On one hand it implies forcing your values on another, but they did the same to you by saying they don't agree with gay marriage and implying you need to cancel. The biggest part of me though says to do it, and who care if TAH or not. 9th story: NTA, you wouldn't be blamed in the least for not wanting to talk to your ex-husband. Besides not your fault. He played around, got played, got burned. 10th story: YTA, think she is going overboard to avoid over-snacking, but hey do you. 11th story: Staying out, this has too much family drama for my tastes 12th story: Already commented on another vid but NTA. 13th story: YTA, one nice gift after years, if not decades, of cheap ones wouldn't kill you, and removing the old gazebo is a necessary step when putting in the new one. 14th story: YTA, kids fix nothing, they just make problems even more pronounced. You two don't want the same out of life, so may as well get divorced. 15th story: NTA for wanting what is best for son. 16th story: YTA and the idiot 17th story: NTA 18th story: NTA, but your sis and mom are. I do not know if you have been, but I recommend going to a grief counselor as it sounds you may need it, though I could be wrong. 19th story: Well, don't have to say one way or the other, but glad daughter is going to get help 20th story: YTA, knowing the basics about something, doesn't mean you know anything as some common 'facts' are myths 21st story: NTA, it is good support for her and her mothers. Girlfriend is the 'me first' type or the dreaded 'me only' type. 22nd story: YTA taking money out of daughter's college fund and you have the nerve to ask that? 23rd story: YTA, if they worked it out, stay out of it 24th story: NTA, he needs to grow up 25th story: NTA, we really need to end that Great Depression tradition. Raise prices enough to pay and inform guests that tipping is no longer needed/required. 26th story: NTA, tell me you got her ice cream after this. I know what it feels like to be bullied by one individual above all others (though mine was from the 6th-12th) but I was never attacked by the teachers (many knew my bully was real, but with school rules, little they could do though they did try to distance us best as they could and keep an eye on the situation) 27th story: Guys yelling at each other occurs everywhere. We joke loud, smack talk each other loud, and are loud in competition, even without video games. While I don't have this problem as I am single, I can now understand why many guys turn their garage into a man cave (have a coworker that has his gaming system and gym equipment set up in there as well as tools) as a garage muffles much of the noise. If you have that option, might I recommend it? NTA, but you need to break it off or find a solution. 28th story: YTA, sleeping in a bed was one thing not cleaning up the vomit from your bed or the sheets you slept in? WTF wrong with you

[@DrFate-vy1yh]

That is a very long comment

[@carolb3122]

🇦🇺🐊. Sister that was starving her child? Accidents happen. That’s why they call them accidents. Punishment was way too harsh.

[@geraldgrenier8132]

The broken vase is an accident, but that doesn't mean the wasn't an underling misbehavior, such as breaking rules about running inside or throwing a ball inside. However using Food as a punishment encourages an unhealthy long lasting outlook with food.

[@ginathecookie]

@@geraldgrenier8132 agreed

[@michaelplunkett8059]

And grandparents agree with Sis? That it is not disproportionSis, What are these people? Tell sis, You said no dinner. He didn't have any. I'm sharing my midnight snack with my nephew.

[@amandarose4469]

Grinder is waking baby, leave with the baby. People gotta work, they gotta get a lot done.

[@pixibelle3282]

yes, don't take your baby to the coffee shop if it needs to have a sleep.

[@erynwells2463]

I was hoping for this comment.

[@nevaehlumiere5418]

Pixiebelle...I was lucky enough when I was a new mother to have older ladies give me advice, which I appreciated. One piece of advice was "make all the noise you want! Have the TV on, run the vacuum when you want. The baby learns to sleep through noise. Best advice I ever got!

[@Ash-kp8rt]

Second story: That mom is abusive, CPS needs to be called, and sister needs parenting classes. If she doesn't change then that child will want nothing to do with her when he's 18.

[@danacarter9147]

Ditto.

[@gregoryzn87]

This is the start of an eating disorder

[@kerryday]

If three of the four adults in the house think it's appropriate to withhold food in order to punish a small child, Children's Aid Services need to be called.

[@kristinwiebold2433]

From the sounds of it the 7yr didn't purposefully brake the vase. It was an accident. The no dinner for 2 days was too extreme. I would have probably fed him too, though I know that it isnt good to undermine parent's rules.

[@SH-qs7ee]

screw the parents rules in a case like this, if they have an issue with you feeding a starving child, offer to ring CPS and ask their view on it.

[@mandacole8703]

I'd probably slap my sister the face for trying to justify acting like that twords her children. The moment she opened her mouth to make some excuse 👋

[@j.c.2240]

In this case, the parents' rules can deep throat a cactus. Basic needs like food trump the consequences of undermining a parents' rule.

[@toxicginger9936]

"The no dinner for 2 days was too extreme." That's not "extreme". That's *neglect*. That would be mandatory for a teacher to report that to CPS if they every heard about it from the child.

[@cynthiarothrock4255]

@@mandacole8703 I would have beaten the crap out of the adult and fed the adults dinner to the child.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Anyone who takes food and uses it as punishment should NOT have custody of their kids. Food is necessary to survive its not a want but a NEED

[@lorettaposey3327]

When you're a parent to an infant that's sleeping, you should've known better than to take them to a busy business. If you're wanting your baby to sleep either stay home or wait until the baby's awake or make coffee at home. Plus your baby should be used to loud noises

[@ThePinkBinks]

Go to your room with no food for x days! Yeah I've had that. You know what it causes? Eating disorders, tired children who can't concentrate, grumpiness, pain, and eventually distrust and hatred over your useless guardian (parent or not).

[@clfisher10]

First story: the manager only apologized and offered a gift card because he wanted to shut her up and not deal w her anymore.

[@TrishDigginsDesign]

This

[@annaorbanes5070]

The bride that was embarrassed her MOH would be in a wheelchair- omg. What’s wrong with her? I would be so proud to have my best friend there. I would ask the florist to make special wheel chair decorations for her and be thrilled that she could be there.

[@tiffanyc566]

Yes exactly! Some ppl are ridiculous

[@claudeyaz]

TV shows and social media have literally turned weddings into circuses

[@petitmains]

Like I can't think of anything I'd love more than making sure a treasured friend going through rapid physical degeneration and pain felt special and glamorous and amazing at my wedding to celebrate with me. Exactly as you say - let's deck that chair out with flowers and pick out a banging dress and the *fanciest* shoes and someone to help her all day because *why the fuck not?!?* Shit even if they're callously chasing clout online with their "aesthetic" pics trying to go viral...you dumb bitch everyone fucking loves stories of inclusivity and kindness. Ya coulda had it all you fucking mook.

[@tharbeapancake]

“ he knows avocados give him migranes which sucks because he loves guac” wait does he just love guac so much that he just doesnt care lmao legend

[@livewellwitheds6885]

withholding food from a child is not punishment, it's abuse. the "perfectionist" mindset the sister has will do nothing but ruin her child's mental health! honestly I would call CPS over this. that mother doesn't deserve respect if she parents that way.

[@bernvlogs7391]

I can't freaking stand it when parents punish their children with food deprivation. Thats a one way ticket to having a poor relationship with food and a broken self image.

[@staylor3483]

There is absolutely nothing that a child can do that would call for withholding food. Call CPS IMMEDIATELY!!!

[@michaelmorris8302]

Is the starving nephew fake because if it's not than sister and parents need to be turned in

[@debdoug4136]

I don't even like kids and I would never withhold food. Jesus people.

[@MINGIRL1979]

@@debdoug4136 It is child abuse to with hold food from a child for any reason!

[@debdoug4136]

@@MINGIRL1979 yup that's my point

[@lizgawin899]

@@debdoug4136 it's an extremely archaic method of punishment that sadly still exists even though we know today that it is unnecessarily cruel to the child and, given the right medical conditions, like type 1 diabetics, fatal.

[@SkylerLydia-25]

It’s not uncommon practice, my mom threatened to do that to me for so long....then she got fed up and sent me to bed without dinner one night and it wasn’t the last time she did it...I didn’t realize how abusive my mom and stepdad were still just recently after my stepdad slapped me hence I was 20 at the time and wasn’t living under there roof...and I was dealing with a bad Lupus Flare up and couldn’t stand on my food.

[@schimpletin8423]

Imagine using a noisy coffee grinder in a COFFEE SHOP? The horror🙄

[@juliemcgugan1244]

I’ve got to turn one of the scenarios around and ask, “my son started to behave weird towards my girlfriend (in similar ways to the story) and then tried to sit on her lap, she got angry and then suggested that he find somewhere else to stay because she felt uncomfortable with his behaviour towards her. I suggested that maybe he would not behave that way if she dressed ‘normal’ and didn’t wear skirts, dresses and tops that showed her shoulders, legs or any of her cleavage.” Would there be any doubt that the OP in this story was the AH? OP’s daughter is a teenager (albeit it an emotionally immature one) They need to sit her down and explain exactly why her behaviour is inappropriate and that if this does not stop, that you all might have to rethink the living arrangement, because everybody deserves to be comfortable in their own home. It truly should have been done before now.

[@Draggonny]

I was genuinely concerned that the guy was grooming his partner's kid. Like if they were having an affair and the daughter was trying to subtly flaunt it. I'm glad that wasn't the case and the poor guy was a freaked out about it as the mom was. It sucks for him obviously but it was just super awkward as opposed to outright sick and evil. I'm glad the girl is in therapy for her daddy issues.

[@jameswatson9338]

You know...a "clean start" requires honesty. That's the whole point of it being a "clean" start. Otherwise, there's a chance your partner will find out--like she did in this story--and it will be so much worse. Sleeping with your partner's best friend is pretty significant. Probably not something to do in the first place, really. Even if you agreed not to discuss who you slept with, maybe that one in particular is something to mention? Especially if there's the potential that you have a new child with the friend?

[@judyjohnson9610]

They agreed to no disclosure. OP should get a paternity test before saying anything to his wife.

[@ianna3276]

Yeah, first, the best friend of ur now again partner, who recently had a baby who could potentially be ur kid is definitely something to disclose. No matter that agreement. Second, anyone else feel it's sus that he 'forgot' to add this significant details until people started calling him out for not telling her?

[@OfficiallyKateandFree]

Agreed. He also could have used protection if he cared about anyone at all. Regardless of WHO he slept with, he SHOULD have used protection! You only guarantee not becoming a father by doing that or not having sex....smh....some folks should not be in relationships if they're willing to sleep with their ex's friends? Out of all the fish in the sea....🤦‍♀️

[@Over_It]

Would have agreed to the NDA part of it BUT... Sleeping with The Best Friend is pretty much never acceptable in almost any circumstance. That's relationship 101, lol. If this had been an acquaintance or a coworker or something? Different. But going for The Best Friend (of any girl OR guy) is just not a good idea. It makes things personal.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

He wanted a clean start means he told his wife he did not wanted to talk about who he slept with. If you sleep with a best friend you need to tell this.

[@anastasiabeaverhausen8652]

So NOT the a**hole in the 'starving the child to make him perfect' story; going to bed hungry is NOT an acceptable way to be 'punished'. Call CPS and shame on your parents!!!

[@curlykoala696]

You get so much more respect as a parent for the times you admit you were in the wrong. Doubling down will only lead to resentment

[@gcarr1089]

Loved how OP was blocked by the pregnant womens husband after her awful "what do you see in her" remark, seems he has had others like OP who are so full of themselves flinging themselves at him, his wife is a very lucky woman to have such an amazing man as her husband

[@wwondertwin]

Holy crap the story in which the sister is denying food as punishment. That's brutal child abuse and if it's a common punishment that happens often it will stunt both the physical and the intellectual growth of the child and will absolutely cause psychological issues later in life. I hope OP reported it to the CPS, poor kiddo!

[@evecampbell3069]

I'd definitely call CPS on the Second Story! Does anybody have a link to the Story?

[@susettegoudeau1155]

I agree CPS needs to be called.

[@jimmiedmc1]

That's abuse omg, if it was candy I'd understand but its dinner you can't do that

[@lindahoward7309]

I would want to talk to CPS too! You have to feed them something! When my son was being punished, staying in his room, he got basic food. Oatmeal for breakfast, pb&j and an orange for lunch and bologna and cheese w/ raw veggies for dinner. Beverage was milk or water.

[@danacarter9147]

@@susettegoudeau1155 I'm with you on that 💯%. And his mother should face jail time for child abuse.

[@jaggirl]

@@lindahoward7309 lol..👏👏👏 That's funny. Is that the menu of preference, for children who are being punished and who must stay in their room?

[@Songinmyheart9398]

Food should NEVER be a punishment. I would be calling CPS

[@charana8267]

For: AITA for not telling wife that her friends daughter might be his. 14:59 Yes, he is the Ahole. even tho they agreed to not talk about who they slept with, that agreement does not include 'there might be a child' Also, her friend is the Ahole as well. Worse, perhaps. Because she slept with her best friends ex with no protection (since it was just sex between them O.o )(u never know what will happen, people do get back together/have some kind of feelings. things to consider if you're keeping your friendship. quality of life for you and those around you) and for letting her husband go through all those years thinking that her daughter was his. So she is a twofer! letting a man think its his child and not letting the other man know its his child.

[@billy9144]

Yeah, how can she just tell her friend that his wife is ugly and expect him to not be offended? She sounds like a jealous stalker. Obviously he loves his wife and looks beyond superficial appearance traits that you don't like.

[@heidimelendez5623]

The Aunt having a fit about her sons being not accepted at a wedding, is selfish and rude.

[@ladyblakeney]

Withholding food is abuse, not punishment. Period.

[@mezzokitty247]

The story where the ahole is basically calling their friend’s wife ugly, I’m just thinking, wow, jealous much? Especially when they said “even I’m open to dating him” and calling him “gorgeous” and all that stuff. To me there is no way this person isn’t jealous of the friend’s wife lol

[@bcase5328]

She trying to date a married man and wonders why he doesn't give her his attention?

[@debl3063]

She's such a good friend that she's willing to date him if he will come to his senses and dump that wife and kid. That had to be fake.

[@trish7048]

Yeah as soon as she said "I'd date him," I immediately knew this was an issue of jealously. She wants the wife gone so she can have him. Fucking awful. Especially since she put the wife down. Also a bit of pudge is KIIIINDA normal for a pregnant lady.

[@KashyaCharsi]

Especially when she says "gorgeous" way too many times. All about his looks, her looks, looks, looks, looks.

[@nadinenone4761]

@@KashyaCharsi Yeah, OP is waaaay too focused on physical appearance only. She doesn't see what friend sees in his wife because she can't see past the woman's outsides. Sounds like the wife has a lot of great qualities that husband can see and loves where OP is judging a book by its cover.

[@kentuckywildcatgobigblue7190]

"My son was bad so I'm gonna starve him." What a forking idiot. I hope CPS got involved.

[@Adameia_]

On the peeping storg, while as an introvert i would find approaching the mother discomfiting, i still agree letting her know that people can/have been circumventing the privacy barriers to look at her is something that should be said.

[@DyaniRivers9008]

In most US states, regardless if the person is trespassing on your property or not, the indecent person can be charged with a sex offense. If it was a minor child that saw someone naked, and the parent called the police, the naked person could and most likely would be charged. I don't agree with this but it has been a hot button topic for many decades

[@ladyv5655]

That poor boy. I'm glad he has one adult in his life who has his back. That boy is going to go NC with his mother as soon as he turns 18 and he's going to reject just about everything she's making him do now.

[@angieskidney]

1:19:00 When my mom put my brother up for adoption (before I was born) the necklace she gave for him as she loved him and would have preferred to keep him and wanted him to have the necklace to know he was loved, the adoption agency never gave it with him so he never got it. The agency even lied afterwards when my dad asked what kind of family he was with and if he was doing well. Turns out he died but the agency lied to my dad.

[@Queenofthatank]

Omg I feel so much pain reading this in so sorry. N I normally don't channel in the comment section on youtube but your big brother wants to know he doesn't hold your parents responsible he knows he is very loved he is always with you guys and loves you all very much.

[@trish7048]

Your poor brother. That agency should be shut down for this

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

After apologizing this woman kept complaining no kids because of a head count. Most have to cut cousins . When I was growing up only cousins above 16 got invited to weddings unless the parents ,bride and groom saved for 5 years there were over 125 people on just one side of the family. And that’s no second cousins. But this woman kept pushing and pushing. What an A..

[@nancywallingford956]

God I love this site, and my pretend Aussie husband! Just don't tell my real huband...

[@EzrasWriter]

Second story: you do not use food as a punishment. As a parent sister is required to feed her child. Its abuse and CPS needs involment

[@redconvoy]

the first one, she is in the wrong. Bring the child home and use a delivery service! If she were in her home and put on the door to not ring or knock, then she would be well within her rights.

[@skyelindsey687]

Story 1: NTA. It doesn’t say they didn’t use protection. Also how was he supposed to know that the child was his if the girl never said “hey it might be yours.” Either way, the friend’s ex took on the father role so if they’re in the US he will still be held liable for child support. The guy should’ve insisted on a paternity test before agreeing to a parental role since there was that break where she slept around.

[@susanlosey9511]

OP, you and your partner have “ Found the Truth”. The truth is you have found the “ truth “ that you two are in love with each other and want to spend your life with each other! Screw them, who you want to be with is you and your partners business. No one else’s! Congratulations to the two of you! Have a wonderful life together. You deserve it!

[@BrownBoy02]

While true, but OP would be an AH if they go ahead with it.

[@KashyaCharsi]

Still, unless the bigots go out of their way to harass them, they should just leave each other alone.

[@TheTiggerpoo1]

You've GOT TO CALL CPS!!!! The mother is cruel and will mentally/physically destroy her kid if not stopped. SHE MUST BE STOPPED IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!

[@jenniferhersey4980]

The first story seems like trolling- even entitled people- especially ones that like coffee- understand that in order to serve you coffee- they have to brew it. Coffee plants don't grow perfectly roasted/ground coffee- they grow coffee beans that have to be processed.

[@caitd348]

For the peeping kids story DO tell if you can see into their apartment if those boys are doing it whose to say someone else isn't? At least if you tell her she can get some curtains or something so she can feel comfortable in her own home but not telling her opens up the possibility of some other creeps looking in and possibly recording her or taking pictures.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

One of those lines sounds like a Beastie Boys rap song: "When in reality, your mamma lied about your allergies" LMAO

[@kristinwiebold2433]

Truly, I think OP is YTA for getting with his wife's best friend. It is so messed up. But the best friend is YTA for not making sure she knew which man was her child's father.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

If a teacher screamed at my child like that, she’d have been picking her teeth up off the floor. Would be so worth any jail time.

[@minagica]

Parents with kids need to stop trying to force their children on child-free weddings, there is nothing unreasonable about it and OP is the one missing the point and she should not have promised her kids that they could go 🤷‍♀️

[@lianabaddley8217]

I have 3 kids. I think I've taken them to maybe 4 weddings. The first, my girl's were Invited to be flower girls. The next 3 have all been in the recent years when they are now older. Like adult age. Oldest is 22, 20 and 14. I always figured if my kids weren't specifically invited they'd stay home. They really didn't want to have to just sit there and be totally quiet. Why make everyone miserable?

[@tarilwright9242]

Regarding the situation of the mother who lied to her child about life threatening allergies, this sounds like a version of munchausen by proxy. If you have children, or have nieces or nephews, please watch closely so she doesn't pull something similar.

[@aleisterlavey9716]

To be fair, some of those coffee grinder are loud af. I once wanted to order a coffee while an employee was grinding. I left without buying anything because I couldn't communicate what I wanted.

[@mindyenglish5305]

That can't be real. The one about the jealous friend and ugly wife. No one is that clueless.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

He sees wife through eyes of love. Especially after she risked all to bring his child into world. You exposed your pettiness and cruelty of heart to him. Result was a foregone conclusion. Go lust after another married man.

[@robbiprendergast7759]

Every American knows that waitresses/waiters make a lower wage because they are expected to make tips. The customers would complain if the food prices were high enough to pay employees a proper wage. If they can't afford to tip, then they can't afford to eat out. I always tip well, I taught my children to tip well too.

[@trish7048]

My mom used to work as a waitress and my dad worked as a casino dealer. They both emphasize leaving tips. I leave 20% usually, and 15% if it's bad service. And I sometimes tip higher than 20% if I'm really happy with the service. I think it's a good guideline to follow.

[@tungdil]

In the last story, what bothers me even more than her biological experiment with the vomit in her own bed, is thinking she could sleep in someone else's bed without their permission for a week and then refusing to wash the sheets because their "not mine"

[@michaelplunkett8059]

They became yours who when you slept on them. Give them back as you found them before - clean.

[@littlestrawberryfaery]

" two days without food " Nah nah Please call cps. Get the sister on text or recording of her admitting it. That's abuse

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

That wedding one was a trip. Op is the AH. Her "logic" was a roller coast ride into a mountain side. She's the epitome of an Entitled Auntie Karen.

[@ImaginaryCyborg]

Withholding nourishment from a human being as a punitive measure, is inhuman. As someone who experiences severe symptoms in lieu of insufficient food for any amount of time, this enrages me beyond measure. Especially since we're talking about a small child. I don't care about your parenting methods, but if you send away a child on an empty stomach for the day, I will quite literally fight you over it. Physically. Nobody should be subjected to starvation, for any amount of time. Especially a child. And that's that.

[@linkterrain5485]

Second story reminds me of what happened to me. My mom tried to do that to me when I was in 4th grade for getting a D on a English worksheet. But the difference is that everyone in my family got mad at her and she backed down.

[@yadayada752]

Never, ever use food as a punishment. I worked for CPS & this would have gotten mom into trouble. You HAVE to provide; food, clothing & shelter or it is neglect.

[@sketchiscribblr8285]

If the story had been 'he had an appointment the next day so he cant eat until after the appointment' and op fed them, that's the only situation I could see where op was the ahole

[@OfficiallyKateandFree]

NTA with the nephew, but YTA with the friend's kid. You had the responsibility for wrapping it up. If you cared about your GF and then wife, you'd have used protection. Hell, if you cared about YOURSELF, you'd have used protection! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@oceana3070]

First mother is the epitome of entitled. I hope her gift card was made out to ‘Karen’

[@jaycooper2812]

To the aunt who fed her nephew. Good job! Your sister is committing child abuse. To deny him a meal is a crime and tell your sister that if CPS were to find out she could either lose custody of her son or actually spend time in jail. Also if you knew about it you could be charged with neglect yourself.

[@colettelheureux-stevens3826]

I wonder how the husband would feel if two boys from another apartment were leaning over staring at his wife

[@deniseshirley6087]

I used to be a barista. Yes, op is the a-hole. We grind coffee fresh for every drink. This is like asking the cook in a restaurant to stop cooking because it's too loud. SMH.😮

[@jammie7822]

"We agreed not to talk about who we slept with." GEE I wonder who's idea that was 🙄 He slept with her Best Friend, *for a few months*. Agreements aside I feel like that's simply something you'd have to disclose. He says it was only physical, but a few months?? My dude, casual or not, you dated your wife's best friend for a while. "Lie of omission" really is the best term for it. YTA.

[@badtroll4hire146]

So who did she sleep with? What you don't know. It might have been his dad do you know

[@jammie7822]

@@badtroll4hire146 you're so right youtube user badTroll 4hire, his wife's escapades totally absolve him of all responsibility. thread closed, we got her boys.

[@charana8267]

@@badtroll4hire146 the thing is, as we all know, females are the ones that gets preggers. She herself knows that she is not preggers (or aborted if she did and didn't want to deal with a random guys baby in her life) but him... if he got another girl preggers, he wouldn't really know it until/ or if the woman didn't say anything and he so happened to have slept with a (at this point now) family friend with history. As others had said, it's differnt when its your long time friend/best friend.. since now it will cause all kinds of hovic that might get into her mind about what the two has been 'doing' or thinking or flirting this whole time behind their bancks.. secret feelings. The husband of her friend is the one that called her and told her. see, secret out of the bag in a not so good way and now she knows who he slept with and the child that she had spent time with thinking it was her friends and her friends husband turn out it maybe her husbands child instead. *They said they wont talk about who they slept with, that is differnt from, there Might be a child out there. 'let her think on it and marinate on it and accept the consequences with you if there is a child out there... and even if it turns out to be a family friend, maybe it wont hit so hard because she would at least have some kind of preparedness. I might of given him a benefit of a doubt if he hadn't mentioned how the girl was all of a sudden pregnant after she left and him taking notice of this timeline and having doubts if it was her husbands. For me, he is the Ahole. I also think that the mother is an Ahole as well, for sleeping with an ex of her friends with out protection and not making sure who the child really belongs to and letting her husband think its his. I'm sorry if all this in a jumble. xD

[@lauriestlyon8773]

Bullying story: Similar happened to my oldest in UK. School did nothing so I told him to punch the next one who bullied him. He wiped the dial of a kid 3years older! I was in the Principals office next morning. At year end we pulled him and sister out (she was being targeted too) Home schooled them. Both graduated university. Oldest did his masters. The school system has serious issues. 80% is crowd control not education.

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

All the commenters saying it probably wasn't hours that the daughter was being screamed at....really?! That's all you people took from this story? Doesn't matter if it was 2 mins or 2 hours, NONE of them should have been yelling at the girl. They should have sent all kids involved to office, called the parents, then in parents presence asked what happened.

[@kawaiilulu283]

I love your videos so much!! They're so nice to listen too while doing things plus i love hearing your opinion on the stories!

[@cass973]

Making the child think the mom is wrong SHE WAS WRONG!!! Mom is horrible and grandparents too 🤬

[@Nevertoleave]

First story is a Karen, the manager was just shutting her up.

[@Meiiiow]

Dunnu about the coffie story. All places i go to do their coffie grinding before opening and have the grinded in a jar.

[@iwantsifegold]

The moment he’s sed he can’t sleep because his so hungry that’s when I immediately feed him.

[@jenniferlehman2464]

So sorry for your loss of your children in the Tsunami that hit that day. My heart goes out to you. Please stay safe. With deepest condolences, sympathy and prayers. From Ontario, Canada, Jenn. 👼👼💖💖🇨🇦

[@carteradams43]

second story, i would love to see some sort of update to that

[@ladytenor9876]

Make that two who would like to see an update. 🇦🇺🌈♥️🇦🇺♥️🌈 Thank you! 😉

[@ladytenor9876]

The critical OP is the A-hole. I hope her "friend" and his wife block OP in perpetuity.

[@carteradams43]

@@ladytenor9876 why is OP at A-hole? they tried to stop abuse!

[@ladytenor9876]

@@carteradams43 put it down to my antihistamine haze. Oops💧

[@villanousvic323]

Oh fucking same that is just disgusting how she acted toward her kid

[@phoenixsky6124]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you are no longer friends. Leave him alone.

[@phoenixsky6124]

I seriously can’t believe that crap. He met and was with his wife before he knew you. You say he isn’t being adult while you are trying to wedge yourself in their family. I hope he never speaks to you again.

[@eph2vv89only1way]

I actually like eating baby fruits. They taste different than the adult equivalent because of different ingredients and processes. I really enjoy them although I rarely eat them

[@catherinec4947]

I sure did hear the statement "You've become such an asshole since losing your children" with my two working ear drums. SoRRY I'M noT SUcH PLEASANT COMPANY AROuND MY MOTHER WHO KEEPS BRINGING UP MY DEAD CHILDREN, HOW RUdE OF ME

[@forbinproject7174]

Peeping tom story - (first off those kids were in the wrong. No argument) My only bone of contention in these scenarios is the double standard that if a woman can be seen nude in her house the guy is a peeping tom, but when the genders are reversed the man is guilty of indecent exposure.

[@cynicalminion]

lesson one in how to tell if there's a double standard: "my wife and i separated, but were sleeping together and decided to get back together. we agreed not to talk about anyone else we might have slept with while we were separated. she had a kid, and now we're still not getting along, so i got a paternity test done, and it turns out the kid's my best friend's, who she didn't tell me she was sleeping with while we were separated, and who she never contacted as the potential father." as far as i'm concerned here, the only people who AREN'T a-holes in either of these situations are the kids...

[@56beverley]

The one who insisted his wife had the baby. I should imagine being a doctor means she is the biggest wage earner. I would therefore have suggested that he gives up his job to stay at home with it. I wonder how fast he would have changed his mind? Lol

[@garyanthony2440]

1st story. Bet her mother was a real piece of work.

[@zibix4562]

Honestly I believe any parent that withholds normal food from their child as a form of punishment should have cps called on them. Edit: what the jesus freaking christ that the family agreeing with her. Holy hell

[@danacarter9147]

That poor kid SERIOUSLY needs to be rescued.

[@robbiprendergast7759]

Food should never be used as punishment or reward for any reason. This is how eating disorders are formed.

[@lianabaddley8217]

Yes! Exactly! Also. Why Sooo much food just goes to Waist! When you make kids eat everything on their plate ALL the time. How do they know when they're full.

[@CodyJonesXD]

I would like to see an update to the starving child post.

[@chetarisin3035]

There isn't an update. Sadly

[@CodyJonesXD]

😢

[@rebekanickell8451]

@@chetarisin3035 fortunately it's only 9 days old so many the update will come in a month after everything is sorted... Hopefully.

[@SkylerLydia-25]

Yeah me too I would like to see that mother arrested...I dealt with a mother like that and my stepdad was no better...

[@toyairy7612]

my mom said when the baby is sleeping don't change any routine because expecting perfect silence all the time is unrealistic. Well she had 11 kids so her forethought was cool.All of us can sleep through a scream metal concert. Not that the house was that loud it just prepared us to sleep when we need to sleep.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

We grew up lulled to sleep by the vacuum cleaner roar. Housework is eternal, learn to sleep through it.

[@unkowne7913]

The story about how the dad was going to give custody to the aunt is about to make me cry just thinking about both of my parents being dead is so sad, and I just hope the kid will have a good life! And the sunami is just so sad losing a child that you love hopeing they are alive, but there is still a small chance they are alive

[@shellbythesea12]

They agreed to not talk about sexual partners during the break up,not children that may or may not be theirs. He knew there was a possibility this kid was his.

[@yaoiuvurjj]

I always thought that sending a kid to bed without dinner was cruel, heartless, and evil. There are actual kids in the world starving and instead of being grateful every dam day that your kid has food to eat, they starve them. That is child abuse. And this from someone who grew up getting my ass whipped with chanclas from a old fashioned latin mom. A butt whopping taught me a lesson, starvation would have made me see my mom differently, probably not the extreme love and respect I have for her now. She whopped my ass but fed me to my hearts content with love. Love you mom, miss you. Rip.

[@AdorableFloof1999]

Call CPS and video record your nephew during dinner, asking why he isn't at the dinner table and such so there is proof. Offer to foster if you love him and want to keep him in your life, if you have the means to.

[@littlebat4514]

For the starving a 7 year old. I don’t agree that OP should try to explain or wait. The child didn’t argue back and if the parents agreed it fine, it’s probably happened before where the kid wasn’t lucky enough to have OP there to feed them. They should call CPS. You can’t use the first time mother excuse, that kid is 7 years old and anyone that has even owned a pet knows you don’t starve them. The mother seems to care more about how perfect their child is, rather than if the child is happy. Call CPS and maybe get in touch with the school so they can assure when he goes back after the pandemic he has lunch every day so if this abuse continues he is at very least having lunch. It may cause a strain in the family but the health and well-being of that child is more important. Plus he clearly trusts OP since he went to them when they couldn’t sleep due to being hungry.

[@rebecca32602]

I think the husband who didn’t tell his wife about his relationship with her best friend is TA. Everybody knows the length of a pregnancy and there’s no way he did not count how many months it was between the last time he was with the best friend and the birth of her child. He very well had to know it was a possibility

[@michaelplunkett8059]

Only the birth mother has all the facts and dates and never told him. He is supposed to start counting days, make guesses? Early baby? Late baby? Geee? Especially when birth mother was back with husband telling him it was his and long enough to have husband believe it was his till the divorce.