r/AmITheA**Hole For Not Paying To Change My Father's Insulting Gravestone?

[@ZombieSazza]

“If they’re gunna be clapping cheeks you might as well be clapping hands” DYING LMFAO

[@rosegirlz88]

An OSCILLOSCOPE wtf !

[@jen6893]

I don't know why anyone would think drinking at work is acceptable, and saying that to your boss, he's all but asking to be sacked

[@groofromtheup5719]

"And none of them ever accepted" that is all he needed to know.

[@trevanminnig3499]

I originally was on his side, just by the “drinking whiskey in the office at 10:30 am” thing, because I was thinking home office, working night shift, and so, yeah, of COURSE you’re allowed to do that, he would be at work when most people would be drinking. However… it’s at work, during work hours, and so of course it’s a problem. Heck, I’d have even given him a pass for having a decanter of whiskey in his work office, depending on the situation (ie work parties are always at work, he’s got it there for the parties specifically, or I’d even give a pass if he often works long late nights of overtime, and has a glass or two after hours), or even a “whiskey” decanter for decoration, to feel like you’re living the thing you dream about, but in reality only have a decanter full of brown-dyed water. Having good whiskey at work just to sip on throughout the day though… never a good idea. I know there’s a ton of stigmas around certain alcohol and alcohol-related items (like a flask), but most, if not all, whiskey drinkers I’ve met would only drink whiskey at work on-the-clock if that was specifically their job, never outside of that.

[@___LC___]

The damage to the medical tools makes me LIVID! As a lab tech, we rely on calling those engineers at a moment’s notice when an analyzer goes down. This has happened in the middle of a surgery that required taking specimens and running them immediately. As the engineer was an hour away, due to traffic, the patient was closed and airlifted to the large main hospital for the system. These engineers are becoming rare and they HAVE to have their tools, that yes, must be the precise tools provided by the maker of the instruments (we are talking $250k to $1m analyzers, depending on the type and size.) They are essential to the function of the hospital, as technicians produce most of the diagnoses via testing and analysis, and are used to monitor progress in surgery and diagnose patients in the ED asap. Having an engineer unavailable due to damaged tools, even for the days it takes to ship the items, results in lives being at risk. That entitled man-child could be responsible for lives and the engineer would never be told. Who knows what happened as a result of his actions.

[@fytrndm]

Man, I remember reading the first story and laughing my arse off. What did anyone expected from OP? His dad was exactly what the gravestone stated and not like he cared either. Plus, the cheating didn't just hurt the mother, the dad implode his family too, so, you expect a child who saw his parent who got cheated on to side with the cheater? Really?

[@harrydresden4661]

Yea but the mom isnt punishing the cheating husband. He is dead. Gone. No longer here. She is punishing his family. Graves arent for the dead. They are dead. Dont care. They are for the living. She is TA. Its 100% understandable why she did it and i cant help but chuckle, but shes still TA. Not majorly, like 1/5

[@pamelalaub6204]

My niece had just turned 10 when she found her father dead in a ski resort bathroom. She designed his headstone for the grave. One side was cut was and the other.side was raw, organic stone. It simply gave his name and dates, nothing like "loving husband and father". There were etchings, like emojis, showing his favorite sports: A man running, a man on a bicycle and a man on skis. It was the oddest stone I've ever seen. Expecting a grieving child design it was odd. His daughter was the only person he loved and I think she was the only person who loved him. He'd left his first wife and 4 little kids long before he met my sister. None of those 4 young adults seemed upset by his passing as they'd had little contact after the turned 18. I'm told they all were amused by the headstone.

[@KellyLoom1s]

0:01 AITA for not paying to change my father’s gravely insulting gravestone? 3:54 AITA for telling my in-laws exactly where my husband was while I was in labor 10:48 AITA for drinking whiskey in the office at 1030 in the morning? 14:44 AITA for applauding my neighbor’s “night time activities”? 17:33 AITA for signing off on a professional email with “As-Salaam-Alaikum” 23:53 AITA for billing my BF and not caring if the providers sue him if he doesn’t pay? 30:51 AITA for kicking my husband’s sister out for leaving a fake pregnancy test in my bedroom? 38:09 AITA for telling my daughter the truth about why I wasn’t in her life? 44:59 UPDATE AITA for telling my daughter the truth about why I wasn’t in her life? 49:42 AITA for refusing to cook for my stepchildren anymore. 54:28 UPDATE AITA for refusing to cook for my stepchildren anymore. 59:16 AITA for not helping my ex after he left our business? 1:05:09 UPDATE AITA for not helping my ex after he left our business? 1:07:55 AITA for not giving back my cousin’s dog after babysitting it? 1:14:35 UPDATE AITA for not giving back my cousin’s dog after babysitting it? 1:18:53 AITA for not helping my brother after he broke his leg? 1:20:47 UPDATE AITA for not helping my brother after he broke his leg? 1:27:15 AITA for giving away money set aside for my education to my step sister? 1:37:08 WIBTA if I told my coworker I’m keeping the snail I “fostered” for her daughter? 1:43:12 UPDATE WIBTA if I told my coworker I’m keeping the snail I “fostered” for her daughter?

[@chriiiiis]

I love you

[@harley5.7bviews5secondsago6]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS

[@WardenSpectreCommander]

You're a legend for this. Thanks‼‼

[@KellyLoom1s]

@@WardenSpectreCommander 💜

[@imdone9967]

Thank you

[@tegantalks9612]

Damn, mama at 6:30 is the kind of mom I aspire to be. If I found out my son was being selfish while his poor partner was in labour, I would scold him like he was a child too because that’s such a childish thing to do.

[@professorrosenstock5026]

My thoughts exactly

[@britvica]

It is just too late...he is a manchild

[@sharonconnolly3820]

Peace be with you is not a religious statement, God bless you is. Everyone assumed incorrectly the translation. Is the person placing his religious epitaph on emails to clients?

[@mrs.h2725]

As someone who grew up in a southern church constantly having entitled christian bs shoved in my face, I applaud OP for getting that crap out of the workplace. Cults (and yes all religions are just culturally normalized cults) always have a toxic influence if they’re allowed in work, school or politics.

[@kathrynkelly9955]

Pregnancy test story: please get out Please please please get out

[@dallezzra8063]

He definitely knew. Screaming at someone ISNT funny. Completely absurd behavior 😐

[@lyndatuttle]

Alcoholics always think they function as well, if not better, after drinking. My father did. Lost his job, lost his second wife, lost me. Hit bottom, quit drinking, was working his way up and was killed in an auto accident. I have never drank alcohol. He was a good example of a bad example.

[@rayblacksmith8738]

To the op who gave birth 10 weeks ago. First of all congratulations to you and your family. Second of all I am glad that you spoke up at your in- laws house and ur mother in law tore him a new one. Now that he is a father his priority needs to be you and us son. Keep on speaking up if he continues to lie.

[@nursebetsy5205]

What exactly are the “Rituals” does he do with his buddies that he doesn’t feel comfortable at home! Do they have other girls over for their “rituals”? That’s what came to my mind.

[@theducklinghomesteadandgar6639]

@@nursebetsy5205 ​ IKR??? IF a spouse is doing anything with a group of friends/collogues/"brothers/sisters"/ whatever and the spouse is either embarrassed, ashamed, secretive, etc., about what is done/said while together then that should throw up red flag the size of a naval carrier ship for both the spouse and the participant. The spouse for obvious reasons, the participant because things that are immoral, illegal, etc., can be propagandized, manipulated, misinformed/mislead and indoctrinated in small increments over time so it seems they are correct in their thinking that the whatever isn't immoral and/or isn't illegal, or if it is, it shouldn't be and therefore should not be followed or recognized as such. As a part of the group misleading, they can/will offer up such an awe-inspiring testimony/lecture/ as to why the something isn't wrong. Just NO!!!! I knew someone who is a mason. They have a lot of crap they "can't" tell anyone "Without severe consequences" or death Depending on how you interpret something sharp and pointy being pressed into your chest while blindfolded and pledging or whatever to not divulge what they will learn!!?????? JUST crazy, and then they tell you anything they do or know is not dangerous, wrong or evil. IF that is the case, again why keep from spouses, and why men exclusive???? From what I've researched and heard basically if you're a mason you're pretty well off, and they have a network that goes around the world. IF someone is before a judge and a mason wants a certain outcome it is practically guaranteed the outcome. I think a lot of the people are kind of targeted when they show certain initiatives and certain courses while in school. They are loyal to the wives though if one of them does go ape shit on the wife, the wedding vows and/or their mason vows, as they believe a vow is sacred and must be kept. I had a great aunt who recently pass who was the best ever who had married someone who was or became a mason and did that. The men/organization helped her get herself and children back on her feet and helped her with college she became an RN. Masons do really great things, but that weigh out if they do bad things?? Because they are so secretive it makes one question if they do bad stuff...like the judge thing, that could be a good thing if the person really is guilty, but what if it's the other way around? Nowadays evidence can be manufactured so easily and realistically!!! A very scary thought. There are people who are definitely set up. Are they masons? A doc locked up for seeing drugs and money were being transported in chest cavities of deceased coming home from the middle east war.

[@beastshawnee]

Just get a divorce from the man baby already -that’s all.

[@ruthhenderson5413]

@@nursebetsy5205: Or even a S-L group of buddies?

[@ruthhenderson5413]

Sorry, i meant D-L.

[@mrsunderstood8141]

In the religious emails story- he is not a hypocrite because "peace be unto you" isn't really a religious sentiment. They are judging the sentiment based on the language it was presented in. NTA, and I would have made another comment wishing peace upon him in the text too, since he clearly needs a lesson on how christian live is supposed to work

[@hugdispenser5627]

Exactly. If he put “peace be upon you” in English. No one would bat an eye. But they saw Arabic and were like “Islam = bad”. Ans I agree with the person who said it’s suspicious how they only reacted with the “Islamic” greeting rather than years of Christian propaganda in work emails

[@squirrel670]

@@hugdispenser5627 straight up racist and Google translate exists.

[@cheallaigh]

that story really pissed me off, i am relgious, but not christian. businesses shouldn't be allowing someone to have emails like that period. the OP i hope reported that personal text as well. when i am at someone's house and they want to pray, i am polite and respect their view and say nothing, this is their home and their place of personal worship... but at work? oh hell NO. most businesses are not afiliated with a relgion, their workers might have a variety of relgious views, allowing the scriptures etc... isn't good business.

[@hugdispenser5627]

@@squirrel670 exactly. Racist and shitty.

[@carolgibson-wilson4354]

Pax vobisbim. Peace be with you. Et tu. And you. Or and also with you. Latin or church language used by priests, monks and friars upon greeting people on paths or streets. It is very Christian in origin.

[@Emily-ck9ji]

I have always loved the first story. Lol.

[@MadameRaven1]

A classic!

[@bethking9830]

I agree! The comments are classic!

[@Maya-iz9fx]

Me too

[@genesisshort3097]

Am I the only one that accidentally laughed loudly when they heard how the cheating father died? I swear I didn't mean to laugh.

[@alana.dyer.author]

Perfect Karma TBH death by cheating lmao

[@williethomas6388]

He’s TA.Maybe he was at a side dish delivery .

[@williethomas6388]

Dude why didn’t you store it in your desk drawer and realize that you you’re in the workplace not at home, YTA.

[@williethomas6388]

What ,that dude sounds like he’s short of a few screws, NTA, dump that creep.

[@williethomas6388]

NTA but your SIL and your husband are, heck you should dump that entire family because they are nuts he’ll they’ll probably applaud and cover up for him if he decides to murder you.

[@chloecook4511]

I lived in an old house that was divided into apartments. My kitchen was next to the newly weds bedroom. It was disconcerting to listen to them going at it while I was eating my cornflakes. The next day I audio recorded them and when they finished I played it back at full volume. They moved their bedroom. :)

[@marybean2231]

Now *that* is fucking weird.

[@secret3957]

21:58 "and to cheer all the sad people up, I saw a butterfly today." That made me laugh :)

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

Story #1 I love this! If you don’t want the bad truth shared, then don’t do the bad stuff in the first place!

[@TheGreatPresenter]

Thoroughly enjoyable stories. The Mad Men story had me laughing and I burst out laughing at the following story who played an applause after bedroom gymnastics.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

Keep the bottle on the desk? The y kept the bar set in a bookcase or cabinet. Usually for clients or end of day socializing with co workers. Sipping alone at 10:30 was never cool. Even the al alcoholics would keep the bottle out of sight and use a coffee mug.

[@Allenluvable]

For the story where the husband locked the door so OPs family could not get in when he was yelling at her.... If any of my family members were om the other side of that door, I would have tried my damned hardest to break it down.

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

In regards to the OP with the pranking sister in law, good guests don't invade your private space. She would have been out of my house as soon as she admitted to placing it in OP's sock drawer. Going in OP'S sock drawer was a violation.

[@cheallaigh]

that deliah one... babysitting a pet is one thing... looking after, paying all bills including vet etc for MONTHS... the cousin might have adopted the dog, but it's not actually her dog, even legally in a lot of places. she's paid for everything involving the dog, including vet etc, most courts will look at the whole thing and say the dog belongs to the OP.

[@judevalentine1487]

The labour story: love it! That husband deserved everything he got.

[@mandylloyd]

If they are going to be clapping etc.......is an award worthy one liner. You made my day & made me lol wearing listening with headphones waiting for tram. Currently enjoying being the token crazy lady on the tram lol

[@gottathinkupanewone]

Whether in a private office or not, drinking on the job is a firing offense in most companies. Get rid of the booze, and get yourself to rehab if you can't give it up easily.

[@standinthegsp6858]

He basically stole tools from you that you use on lifesaving machines? I’d get the money, then report him for theft & destruction of property. Your employer should do the same. He told his mommy in you? She took his side? Get your money, then change your locks, lock down all your personal info & dump him. It might also be worth it to put the incident on social media where his employer can see it. But wait until you get rid of him.

[@Lady.B0420]

Story one...you chose a winner there dollface. I left my first serious BF after he missed the birth of our child for basketball. I don't regret it at all. He had his priorities and I had mine.

[@semideadnat]

Isn’t there laws and rules in certain places where you aren’t even allowed to bring alcohol in the work place?

[@Jack-kx5rf]

Drinking while at work is completely legal. The only laws that could be applied to drinking at work are regular drinking laws such as not operating heavy machinery or driving.

[@semideadnat]

@@Jack-kx5rf the heavy machinery part and other dangerous jobs make sense but I think in general drawing in an office work place (as long as it's not home) alcohol consumption is a bad idea given drunk driving is an issue. But that's just my take.

[@Jack-kx5rf]

@@semideadnat I agree that drinking at work is a bad idea and completely immoral. I even think that we should have legislation that makes it illegal to be drunk at work but sadly we aren't there yet and I don't think we will be for another few decades. Sadly, drinking is too socially acceptable at the moment.

[@semideadnat]

@@Jack-kx5rf we need a little more restrictions (not too strict, too many cases where that was a terrible idea) on alcohol because I don't think we should ban it. Learned from history that banning alcohol lead to an increase in crime back when the government was still new.

[@vernonwillis1324]

About the co-worker who called you the a-hole, report that now to the manager..NOW!!

[@ShakedownDreams]

I DESPERATELY need an update to the pregnancy test prank holy hell OP needs to run from that man

[@tcrpgfan]

I actually find it hard to believe the husband wasn't angry. Think about it, it's HIS OWN infertility issues on display here, not his wife's, OP is fully capable and functioning from what she said. Now imagine being in his shoes, he's trying for a kid with his wife, but he's shooting blanks. While he is a prankster, I don't think making light of an issue that originates from him would be a good prank for him to even try to pull as he would actually stand to hurt from it just as much as his wife would.

[@ladylilith06]

Can't find anything looks like she deleted or never updated

[@nightdweller6446]

1st NTA. That's perfection in memoriam. 50 years in the future, a visitor to the cemetery is totally going to lol to peeing pants. Mom is a rock star. Good on her. 2nd NTA. Hubby is on thin ice and lying to his parents, OP was just completely honest. Mil is the MVP. He was a neglectful, bad father. He gets the AH hat. Omd, this is the second time he's pulled the AH card. Dump him, keep the MIL. 3rd YTA. It's incredibly ridiculous to imbibe in alcohol at the workplace and during work time. OP kiss your job goodbye , modelling your work ethic on a TV show based in the 50's. Hope OP has some massive savings. Buh-bye to that office. 4th NTA. Rofl...that is hysterical 🤣. They should have been mindful of others in the apartments.

[@stanmckinley764]

To the guy who said ESH in the religious coworker story, story 3 I believe, here’s the thing: OP DIDNT do it back to the coworker. “Peace be unto you.” Is just wishing someone well in his language. It’s not religious, no God was brought up in that sentence so it’s not the same thing as what the coworker was doing

[@missybuchanan9631]

I was my sister-in-law’s delivery partner for her and my brother’s youngest, but that was decided well before the date! And my brother had their older child, he wasn’t at his mate’s place. That is beyond disrespectful.

[@tinyvanuffelen7918]

The story of the brother with the broken leg ; about OP , she said she is sick and often very exhausted .Idon’t know because I’m not a medic , but it sounded she maybe have CF Syndrome? It’s a disease that sounds very familiar with her symptoms . All the best OP ! Hope you are soon be better !

[@eddantonio927]

When I was was in the military I had an XO that was falling down drunk by lunch time every day. Never could pass the PRT test. Was ask if could do a few random drug tests on him! Legally couldn't! So I asked some friends (local Leo's) if could pull him over when he went home at lunch time. For some unknown reason his plates were covered in mud, he got 3 DUI in 1week from city Leo's and 1 from county Leo's ! Failed to be at PRT test. Board of enquiry = loss of 3 months pay and allowances reduced 1pay grade loss of license and 3 months confinement to drug rehabilitation facility! He resigned his commission after rehabilitation.

[@dakotasan8719]

When I punch a wall, it’s because I saw something so goddamn cute that it broke my brain and I had to punch something hard to feel manly again

[@angelyscasanova7229]

Funny how they had no control over him mentioning religion until one Muslim comment was made and suddenly they can ban it 😂he wasn’t the asshole and I’m glad he did it because it showed everyone’s true colors and the way they only defend Christians but a Muslim saying is too much. He didn’t mock anyone he just played the same game and people got offended, maybe refrain from mentioning religion to other people and keep it to yourself specifically at work😊

[@angelicachavez6118]

The whiskey guy needs to drink from a thermos at work like a normal person

[@trevanminnig3499]

Hey, shush, don’t give away our secrets! Seriously though, how did he expect that was going to go? I honestly expected someone having a stick up their rear for him working night shift, drinking during the day (before he goes to sleep), in his home office, due to a story I heard similar to that situation in the past.

[@groofromtheup5719]

S2; In her shoes, I would divorce him if he didn't stop watching the sports all-together.

[@donaldcampbell3043]

Headstone fights can be hard, got a cousin who's parents had had a bitter divorce, he finished with two head stones, neither are very good, more about parental conflict

[@kattiemauvais2373]

Drinking in the office: are you serious?? Copying a FICTIONAL character on a TV SHOW SET IN THE 60S is a comple asshole move. Offering alcohol to clients at 10am is career suicide.

[@carolgibson-wilson4354]

I often cooked dinner once I turned 15. Also did chores since age 4. When Mother went back to work I was 16 and dinner was on me M-F. I also did the laundry from sorting to folding and putting it on their beds. I didn't feel put on. Also from 12 on I fixed anything for breakfast that wasn't cereal. Question for stepmother, did they ever call you? You were sick. Dad was sick. Didn't they care enough to call?

[@melodygrim471]

I can't believe he still has a job!!! HOW did he manage to get THIS FAR in his career? Or in life? I imagine he's going to find himself standing back at the bottom rungs of that ladder, trying to find a way to get back on! HE has gone from aspiring to be a successful businessman, has now begun aspiring to become a FICTIONAL tv CHARACTER, playing a FICTIONAL part, written by FICTION WRITERS, employed due to their abilities as GOOD FICTION WRITERS! He has totally lost his mind! He's living a 15-16 year old's daydream of what life was like in the days of LEAVE IT TO. BEAVER - But EVEN THEN, the drinking HE is practicing was NOT something done on any REGULAR/DAILY BASIS! He needs to grow up and read things besides underground, off-color, adult comic books! Life is REAL! He's NOT "The Truman Show"! SMH UNBELIEVABLE!

[@katrinasamuels-garrison825]

I wonder how long it took for OP to give birth after she arrived at the hospital. Also, the boyfriend who took OP'S tools did this on purpose to hurt OP. He's just butt hurt now because she's suing him and didn't realize she would take that kind of action.

[@One.DeSanctis.]

"Let's start our relationship on a basis of dishonesty, long lost daughter." Nope. OP did the correct thing. He wants to build a relationship and he is going about it the correct way. "Being a father," does not mean OP has to perpetuate the lies her family have told the daughter for 19 years.

[@Tyler171819]

The dog story is literally the reason I have gone NC with my father. He had a dog he picked up off the street for five years and in that time he never took her to a vet or bought her a bed, and would frequently leave her with other relatives to care for when he didn’t feel like it. When I moved to his state and briefly lived with him, the dog was MY responsibility. I cared for her, got her medicinal needs taken care of, and got her registered. I took her with me when I moved out and he was fine with it. Until a few months later, he said he missed her and wanted her to visit him for a few days. I (being a bleeding heart dummy) said sure, and he took her and never brought her back. After a week had past ( and several ignored calls and texts-_-) he sent me a message that basically said “Hey yeah…I don’t think you living on the 4th floor is good for the dog safety cuz stairs and she has short legs so….yeah.” 😒 Ignoring the fact that the elevator exists….the excuse was piss poor.

[@heatherweir8726]

If you want to offer a client a drink have a coffee maker in your office and a mini fridge with an assortment if drinks.

[@melvinyoung3474]

Somehow I get the impression that that "artist" has a manbun.

[@mattyw8811]

Love the 1st story. 🤣🤣🤣 Your mom is my hero.

[@dream6562]

Idk it's a yta for me yes she was cheated on and that's not ok, but she's probably not the one going to be visiting it, the parents of are, I personally couldn't do that in that position, they don't deserve it

[@sharonconnolly3820]

Priority check, reminding him of the truth so you don't assume he's delusional. You keep telling the truth, you will have a great relationship with mil. She may be telling the buddies what happened and their wives .

[@OvrStim1]

For the second story, NTA. You were right for correcting him. He shouldn't lie, especially when he wasn't the one who had to face the betrayal. You were just telling the truth.

[@barrocaspaula]

The whiskey guy is completely bonkers, besides being an alcoholic.

[@abbie_joan]

I know people say "don't insult the dead" but...nah if they were awful then you got every right insult to them...being dead doesn't give them any form of respect nor does it give them sympathy

[@dream6562]

Yeah but she doesn't go there the only one that does is the family of the dad, why should they be punished, they didn't do anything wrong

[@martinrusev3502]

6:30 damn, mama went to town on his @ss. Dear god, I imagine my mother doing the exact thing to me if I left my wife in labour. I won't be surprised if she slapped me. The husband was treated like a child because he is a child. A big man child. If OP said that his mom spanked him, I wouldn't be surprised.

[@lynsthoughts3576]

Story 1,OP should have called HIS parents to take her to the hospital ... oh the crap storm when MIL answers the phone for a LABOR ride to the hospital. THAT would have been a much better ass chewing

[@missyjune9014]

Father to be was major Jack-A..guess he feels the Truth hurts.

[@Gingerycarrotkitten]

"Clapping cheeks and clapping hands" Im dead!!!

[@torridavenport1031]

Dog story. As a 4 decades an counting dog rescuer/trainer. I've taken on more dogs an breeds aswell as cross breeds than I care to count. Some abandoned on streets some rescued from abusive owners an some just given up as owner couldn't deal with training. Just because your cousin got the dog out of rescue does not mean she should be entitled to a dog she didn't pay towards it's care/needs ect. If Delilah meant so much to her why didn't she already have a place that accepts a dog?? That's like flying minus the plane. Any would be owner knows you get in supplies an have a safe property to house your new dog. Not dump it on her cousin for months without seeing said dog or making time to bond with it or covering it's costs ect. As my own sister did exactly the same to me. Got a puppy from a rescue days after our dad died an I was overdue with my then 2nd child an after my elder sis who lived at my dad's house refused to have said puppy there as my dad's dog lived there an as a elderly grumpy german shepherd she would have ripped said pup apart. So obviously it wasn't able to stay there. So my younger sis arrived at 9:30pm at my house with said puppy. I told her take it back to rescue an she refused saying she needed something extra to love as SHE had just lost HER dad. Who was obviously my dad too. So I told her she expects me a 9 month pregnant women to take on her pup when my baby was due April 30th an my dad died may 5th. An clean up after it while I still worked an ran the house an took my then 5yr old daughter to school daily. My hubby would collect her some days due to me working an him being postman who finished lunch time as I finished at 6pm. My sis broke down balling so I caved in an said I would keep it till my son was born only then she had find it a new home. I'm not saying he wasn't a great loving puppy my daughter adored next morning but we already had our own dog plus one rescue an a moggy. So quite a full house. A week after my son was born by c-section on June 9th my sis still hadn't rehomed said pup. So I called family meeting an my elder brother took on said pup. This one thing changed my relationship with my sister for ever. We don't speak or see each other after this as I felt so angry for her reckless choice an her pure self centered behaviour over my dad's passing. The pup muttley stayed with my bro till the end of it's life at age 12yrs old. The point being. DONT TAKE ON ANY PET YOU CANT FULLY CARE FOR OR PAY FOR ITS NEEDS. As over a dogs lifetime it will cost thousands in food an shots an treatment if needed it's not a commitment to be taken so lightly as cousin did. An it's NOT an object. It has feelings too an would be as heartbroken as OP if cousin took her away. Keep the dog OP. She needs you as much as you need her now. Good luck on keeping her

[@thetruecrystalvixen]

Not the same level as negligent and uncaring as someone giving birth and the partner not being their because of a hobby, my father once made me wait ten minutes so his show could finish before he took me to the hospital because I got a lot of bleach in my eyes. I was terrified, could not drive and was afraid I would go blind.

[@BonnieThebunny7051]

It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas

[@Sly_Successor34]

Dude, I just discovered this channel a few weeks ago. The stories, along with the narration of all sides, as well as the channel's Creator's own opinions being put forth, is masterfully put together . THIS- IS A VERY ADDICTING CHANNEL lol

[@lucyann1573]

The whiskey one honestly made me laugh out loud. Imagine trying to explain to your boss you're drinking on the job because you saw it on Mad Men (I also worked for someone who had pics from WoWS on the wall behind his desk)

[@heleneclark563]

The one who was sipping whiskey during work hours. YTA!! Emulating a TV show which is basted on a time period of 50 years ago?

[@league-of-shadows]

OMG when OP said her angry husband locked them in a room I thought he was going to hit her. She needs to run. He had no reason to be in her sock drawer to even find it so he was probably in on the prank. He kept his mouth shut to avoid blowback from OP.

[@emilybarclay8831]

Don’t want an insulting headstone? Don’t do shitty things in life 🤷‍♀️

[@standinthegsp6858]

You need to let their dad know what his childrens’ mom did, encourage the children to tell him too. This should be documented

[@UchuKejiMovan]

If I was Story 1 OP not only would I tell father's side to go to hell with him I'd tell them to never ever contact my mother again or the law will be involved

[@lawrencegcolemaniii7474]

The dad with the 19yo who he had just found out about broke my heart.

[@debdoug4136]

OP w the dog, technically the dog was abandoned by the cousin. Usually its about 2 weeks.

[@briangressett902]

The commentor named Booster Gold made me smile. Love that character. Blue and Gold forever.

[@sandgroper1970]

Damm that is some mother / mother in law. Sounds like the matriarch of the whole expanded family including in-laws.

[@Jadyra]

1:07:55 giving back cousins dog. Seeing you have paid so much on Delilah, you're her owner now, not your cousin.

[@marrionna044]

It's hard to hear one another in our apartments but with how loud me and my bf be I'm scared they hear sometimes 💀

[@patrickhandley627]

The second one nta the guy looked exactly like what he was on that occasion.

[@markedwards3647]

"You're the third child, so you're expendable?" This is not teasing. This is domestic abuse. From an idiot who, at 23, injured himself doing a stunt that most 8 year olds are too mature to try. And parents are supporting this!? I wonder how OP can get away from these abusers.

[@debdoug4136]

Cousin is too stupid to have a dog. Period.

[@starlaaster523]

The second my bf locked the door to prevent my family to come check that I'm safe is the moment I call the police and get him arrested. I will never tolerate that behavior.

[@vetaroberts3333]

Nice,it sucks to be called out on a grave stone

[@motherlove8366]

Man, the painter boyfriend story is baffling, how can you date a guy you see with such disdain? What the fuck is that relationship?

[@ruthbeamish8849]

Seriously. this is one of the worse stories I have every heard / read on one of these N.T.A chann. This child needs ditched A.S.A.P

[@mr.monotone1908]

I love you Markee. You the reddit youtuber that keeps on giving

[@julias2855]

I craft. I have ton of tools. Organized. So husband asks if he can use when needed & he can’t find his. He asks how much it is in case he is being rough with it & might break it. He has broken & replaced. Sometimes we wait for a coupon, but most time I don’t mind.

[@andreabergstrom983]

For the person who has been sick and has a brother who broke his leg. Try getting a sleep study. If you have sleep apnea or some other sleep disturbing condition. You could actually be saying hundreds of time every night without knowing it. Without a CPAP (continuous positive air Presure machine.) you will be tired all the time.

[@fishyz1500]

Hurtfull truths are better than candy coated lies

[@safespacebear]

That mom is a legend

[@markedwards3647]

Prank: Harmful behavior that the perp laughs about.

[@misty4937]

Story about the husband who went to watch football n didn't leave when wife went into labor. OP...NTA...your husband is neglectful and an ahole!!! Red Flags...it is his baby!!! I think you should talk to a counselor and maybe reconsider this relationship. He doesn't value you or your child, it is his needs n wants that only seem to matter! No okay.

[@AutoGamerZ_]

*A long episode with surprisingly few Ahole posters.* Story 1 (Insulting Gravestone): NTA - Not your business to begin with. Story 2 (Neglectful Hospital): NTA - Isn't that the consequences of your actions I see there? Husband prioritised "the game" over wife's health and safety. That is a huge-Ahole move. Trying to lie to the family/gaslight away the situation is absolutely not OK either. MIL is right for tearing him a new one. OP didn't make him "seem" like a bad and neglectful father: He was one, and he caused that rift by being one. - Not the OP for failing to sit still when he extensively lied about his actions. Seems he got his comeuppance. Story 3 (Drinking on the job): YTA - OP's conduct is likely against company policy and depending on which state OP works in, potentially also against the law. It is outright considered unprofessional in most contexts to offer people alcohol upon visiting your work office, and OP took no regard for the image his behaviour would sent to the clients he spoke with. I am not going to outright say OP did anything A-holish beyond the bad reply to the e-mail which I am not going to judge him for, but his lack of due regard for the law, company policy and professionalism to his clients in his decision (irrespective of whether the Whiskey was okay in that context, which I am not even going to touch on) makes OP the Ahole. Story 4 (Loud naughties): NAH - I believe OP could've potentially made the point clear in a better way in such a one-off incident, but this got the point accross about the noise it was making. Don't make a habbit of this. I can understand the neighbours' kneejerk response to misinterpret this as harassment. For anyone who doesn't understand: They had been having naughties for an hour, and that was followed up with applause. That can very much be taken as someone creepily listening in on their naughties and harassing them over it. A simple explanation of what happened and talking it out with all relevant parties present. *(Including Management!)* Story 5 (Religious E-mails): ESH - I won't comment on whether it was good or bad for the employee of the other office to include religious texts. I don't have the needed information to determine if his actions fell within religiou accommodation and expression that has to be tolerated, or towards unprofessional and inappropriate behaviour which it definitely had the potential to be. The boss is the Ahole for not taking a complaint higher up immediately about the religious e-mails when he said he agreed it wasn't ok. (I suspect that wasn't his opinion at all based on the later interaction.) The boss is also the Ahole (and incredibly unprofessional) for going on a rant against OP about "Harassing the employee" for his Christian Beliefs when that is both obviously untrue, and when he could've known that if he had actually appropriately looked into the situation. The statement OP made wasn't even religious in nature: Just in another language. What the boss did here was make discriminatory assumptions and brought OP into his office on those false and discriminatory assumptions the moment he saw a language he didn't recognise. OP is also an Ahole for needlessly inflaming the situation by signing off the letter that was otherwise professional in a way that was clearly intended to be passive-aggressive. The Employee for the other office is the Ahole for sending a harassing text to OP. The company is the Ahole for over-reacting to the situation in a way that sound like they might extent to the point of a Title VII violation. Some amount of religious expression even in workplace e-mails is generally considered protected under Title VII, as the strict enforcement of all non-essential content in these e-mails needed to not make this discrimination under Title VII is usually not practically possible, desireable or done in practice. Story 6 (Theft for Art): NTA - You are *never* the Ahole for asking someone to pay the price for expensive property they *knowingly* stole and damaged. The complete lack of respect of the BF on GF's property is insane. Story 7 (Pregnancy Test Troll): NTA - I would absolutely do the exact same thing in kicking out the sister. Trying to ruin someones relationship is not a prank or joke, and that would've crossed a boundary where I wouldn't be able to feel even remotely safe in my own home anymore with them present. If this was naivity and recklessness rather then malice: Then she's about to learn that has consequences. I see no reason to assume Adam was in on this by the way: I would find it very improbable he wouldn't have defended his sister being kicked out if he was, and his serious response is entirely reasonable when finding out your partner may have been trying to hide a pregnancy for you. The fact sister appealed to him is not surprising either way because Adam is the BF of the house-owner, and as such the one that arguably has the most influence over the situation. I would seriously reconsider a relationship with this Adam and his family though based on how they more broadly seem to treat little sisters' behaviour as okay and just the actings of a naive kid. Story 8 (The Truth about family): NTA - Obviously not the Ahole for actually explaining to your own darn child what happened here. You do *not* and should not have to offer yourself and your reputation to protect people who maliciously lied about you: especially not with the hurt that caused Kara, and with the way that would've impacted her view of you now when she'd actually benefit a lot from having a present father. Every single person who accommodated the lie that kept a father from their child are seeing the consequences of their own actions when that now-adult child finds out the truth. That is *not* the OP's fault. What the heck is wrong with that family. Absolutely delusional. I am as heartbroken for Kara's situation, as many of the commenters are. I absolutely respect the way she's dealing with her family's terrible actions. Story 9 (Cooking): NTA - I am not sure I agree with the method here, but that's besides the point. This is a parental alianation situation. That needs to be addressed. The father being scared of the mom trying to change the custody agreements if he even dares to bring up a problem says more then enough. Document everything. - After listening to the update: Yep, Parental alianation. I agree full heartedly that they should see the call logs, and take them to mother to court if that is needed and possible. Story 10 (Ex stealing money): NTA - Ex in a co-ordinated fashion defrauded OP of a lot of money during the process of leaving her. Ex is just coming back to mooch off OP now. Not only that, but the reason he has no claim to the business is because of how OP and him devided the business during divorce. Him not profiting from the business is a situation of his own making that the OP is *not* responsible for, especially not after he defrauded OP of a lot of money. Of course shutting that down doesn't make OP the Ahole. The friend is either incredibly short-sighted or this is sketchy. - After listening to the update: I expect sketch, but not *that* sketch from the friend, jesus christ. They're getting married? They deserve each-other. Story 11 (Dogsnatching): NTA - That cousin was really, really, *really* irresponsible with the dog, and really darn stupid too in thinking that the new place would allow her dog to stay. I wouldn't trust a houseplant with someone like that, let alone a dog. OP *stole* the dog. That is illegal and that may have consequences, but it sounds like this was in the best interest of the safety and health of the dog. I will not blame OP for taking action in the best interest of the dog in this manner in the face of a lack of a good alternative. - After listening to the update: Even more NTA for somehow and improbably resolving this without theft. Better outcome then could've been expected. Story 12 (Broken Legs, Broken Health): NTA - Jesus Christ the double standard of the parents, and holy moly the mistreatment from the brother. This is atrocious behaviour from them. You're not the Ahole for refusing to be a doormat. Not only that: OP is the one with the worse health/mobility issues. - After listening to the update: Holy moly that brother is a gaslighter, and incredibly abusive. I hope OP cuts them out the moment they have the chance. Story 13 (Step-Sister's Education Financing): NTA - It is OP's choice of how to spend their money. - The advice to spend the money in a more wise way/order from the comments that OP took is wonderful. Story 14 (Oh my lawd it's a snail): NTA - The moment the collegue agreed OP can keep him, they became not the Ahole for refusing to giving the snail back, even with the kneejerk reaction. The snail being improperly cared for gives even more reason that the OP isn't the Ahole. - After listening to the update: :D So nice when AITA stories end up with all parties being kind and understanding for a change.

[@muhname6052]

"Mad men" bro didn't get the hint when nobody accepted a glass.

[@Frazzled_Chameleon]

OMG, worker dude is pretty much a fully-functioning alcoholic. How did he not get canned on the spot?!

[@amandabrinkman2338]

Sad to find out that your parent’s have the morals of a cat! I wouldn’t be able to look at them the same.

[@ibelieve96]

To the woman with the tools! Get rid of that crybaby excuse of a man!

[@cindykq8086]

Parental alienation can seriously backfire. When my beloved stepson was 7, his mother forced him to call his stepfather "Dad" and call his real dad by his first name. He was so stressed by trying to remember what to call them at what house, that he developed a nervous tic that he has to this day (he's in his mid-forties now.) He's gone VLC with his mother and his brother by her has gone completely NC with her. Neither one will agree to have children. She whined and said she was jealous of me having grandchildren since she doesn't, and her comment made cold chills go down my backbone just at the thought of her being around children. She paid herself back for the evil she's done

[@suehirsch6545]

Re lie told to daughter that wasn't aborted: That lie should never have been told to the daughter as lies serve no one/no purpose, in general. OP's ex is no longer around to suffer the back lash anyway.

[@delorescannon455]

Leave him or it will get worse

[@Twilight24682]

OP in second story is a huge AH you don’t put video games before your wife and unborn baby he should have gone to the hospital and been a supportive husband and a father to his kid

[@hugdispenser5627]

I think OP was the wife

[@Twilight24682]

Oh ok I meant the husband then

[@melvinyoung3474]

Children DO NOT come with a owner's manual.

[@toniclarke7398]

He did it to himself when they ask what happen if you should have just kept his mouth shut but instead he went to tell some elaborate lie about that night and so what she's supposed to sit there and let him like hell no he should have kept his mouth shut

[@mtimm9023]

A stupid game is worth your son birth.

[@bun04y]

I heard this story on another channel and the update turned out that hubby wasn't at a game, was having an affair.

[@LauraB12k]

Jesus, the ex's family ROBBED him of his child. And now they're mad because he told the truth?! That's sickening. Those flaming rectal carbuncles!

[@williethomas6388]

Yes YTA for drinking on the job and assuming that it’s ok to drinking on the job,

[@zachariewinters2335]

The person in the first stories comments saying they send their mums stuff with their dad's ashes, really should have contested q lot of that inheritance based on slayer rule and whatnot

[@Jack-kx5rf]

I was thinking this too. If the step-father died less than 28 days after the murder then half of everything should have gone to the wife's children via regular interstate laws anyway. If step-father had adopted his wife's child the child should have gotten everything.

[@aurora4218]

Apartment advice: rentals allowing/disallowing pets does not change with how well-behaved your pet is - it's about insurance on the property. Because pets are an additional risk to the property, the owner will have to pay higher insurance rates if they don't certify that there will be no animals living in the property. They might be persuaded to allow fish or hamsters, but not free-range pets like cats or dogs. The same is true for weight limits on dogs. Some insurance policies cost more if there are larger dog breeds in the apartment. So if the limit is 40pounds and your dog weighs 41, the property owner will probably turn a blind eye, but if the limit is 40 and your dog weighs 50, it's very unlikely.