r/AmiTheA**Hole For REMOVING Daughter From Her Therapy Sessions?

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[@teresafinch7790]

The man who had his wallet washed, should not be allowed anywhere near a gun.

[@moodycrab77]

Throw the whole man out, dollars to doughnuts this was a test and you passed, meaning to say he wants you to be his mom who gets down, run like yesterday. The red flags are flying, this abuse and that is what it is will not end with this instance it's not your job to check a grown man's pockets. You may not be safe to leave asap, please speak to woman's aid or your local comparable agency.

[@snowskimaster]

Sorry, doesn’t work that way. No matter how much of an asshole someone is, they still have a right to own a gun. The only thing that revokes these privileges is committing a crime. Every American has a right to own weapons of war. You may think this was done for “self-defense“ or “hunting” but the truth is, the second amendment was created to ensure that the citizens of the US always have the ability to overthrow the government should it become tyrannical and oppressive. This is also the real reason why the anti-gun movement even exists. The American citizen being able to own guns makes the government very nervous. They would prefer absolute power, but they will never get it. Any attempt to seize guns will be met with immediate Civil War. I’m not saying anything about what I would do, I am simply saying that I know enough people who are guns that they are absolutely willing to die to defend that right.

[@melonman6522]

My child's grades aren't good, should I take away the wheelchair? My kid really likes being able to get around without having to crawl everywhere.

[@DavidSwan1958]

I shouldn’t have laughed but this was an amazing example

[@paulajeannecolwell7562]

88888

[@anonmouse15]

The beatings will continue until morale improves.

[@doggytheanarchist7876]

You know there's another story where the parents took away a small child's prosthetic arm. You think you are posing an absurd example, but these parents will go the extra abusive mile, every damn time.

[@Ejiro__Kirishima]

“I’m paying $120 per session and seeing no progress in her marks makes me feel like I’m seriously wasting my money” Is her seemingly being happier and more outgoing not enough to prove how important it is for her to have that?

[@DominosAndHearts]

But then won't allow the wife to use HER money on THEIR daughters therapy because he sees it as "theirs"

[@magnarcreed3801]

I care about grades but damn. Improvement takes time.

[@katie6731]

His daughter isn't a person to him. She's an object her father can brag about--like a big house or a fancy car--used to show off her family's status, get accolades, and, thereby, pump up her narcissistic father's ego. Her mental health doesn't matter, especially not now that she is no longer embarrassing her parents by attracting negative attention and revealing his neglect (the parents knew their daughter had severe anxiety, but did nothing to help her until after she completely shut down socially, stopped eating, and the school forced the issue). Since she's just an object, when she "broke down," and he took her in to be "repaired," he expected her to be fixed. In his mind, he wouldn't keep paying a mechanic who couldn't get his car to stop making a weird sound, so why should he keep paying for therapy that hasn't repaired the one metric he cares about? Plus, playing games with the purse strings proves just how powerful he is. When his wife went ahead and paid anyway, the illusion of his power wavered. He took control back by claiming ownership of his wife's money as "our" money. His edit substantiates this. He realized he wasn't getting everyone on his side as he expected. He didn't address the harm he'd tried to cause his daughter, but tried to redeem himself and offer "sympathy" to the *online* people he'd upset. This is how my in-laws are, which is why I recognize it. 😖 We're no contact with them.

[@lorirobinson7357]

@@DominosAndHearts If the $ is "theirs" as he claims, then why is she not allowed to spent some of as she wants to.

[@kristinwiebold2433]

I dont think therapy magically sprinkles something on your kid and makes them suddenly have good grades. Truly I would go to the ADA place and see if your kid could get help well infront know if there is a place in elementary through HS but there is one in uni. I was given extra 15 for my quizzes, tests, mid term and finals also did it in a room alone. It made a world of difference because I could concentrate better and the extra time made sure I didnt stress about time. And gave me enough time for what I was doing.. get a tutor if she needs help with grades. Her therapy is helping her.

[@emilybarclay8831]

First story: your daughter’s grades won’t matter when one day you walk into her room and find her hanging from the ceiling. Parents that block their children’s chances to get help for mental health issues are killing their children

[@rayerose4646]

This was almost me. It's literal abuse to take away therapy. What a POS father

[@livewellwitheds6885]

totally aggree. also does he think letting his kid go on with untreated depression will improve her grades? because it will absolutely interfere with her academic performance

[@jaggirl]

Exactly. It's sad but true.

[@ryangooseling]

Exactly

[@deupree29]

Markee, the girl with the period didn't make any mistake. Every time you said he was mad cause she made a mistake it pissed me off she didn't make a mistake. She said the period was unexpected meaning even if she tracks them she didn't know it was coming so likely came early. Also she can not have known it was going to come and stain her dress she didn't make a mistake it just happened to her

[@maryguokas400]

Can't be said enough. Women can not control when it comes. it can come plus or minus a week ( even if your regular) Guys need to get over it. But all to clean it off Hydrogen peroxide like contact lens solution works wonders to remove it. He is lucky she didn't throw up all over him as that is also super common when someone gets their period.

[@MissSimone02]

Having a period isn't a mistake and the word mistake shouldn't even come up in the same sentence! I'm glad someone wrote this because this is exactly what I was thinking.

[@kitayawolfe1548]

@@maryguokas400 Wait, contact lense solution removes blood?? I never knew that! 😂😭

[@maryguokas400]

@@kitayawolfe1548 it's thr peroxide one. it's amazing

[@kitayawolfe1548]

@@maryguokas400 Definitely have something new to try now. 😂

[@co7314]

Someone who can't keep track of his keys and wallet is not responsible enough to be a gun owner. Throwing a temper tantrum because he's missing the gun show? Um, run, girl.

[@DesertBloomBettas]

The first story in this AITA makes me so angry. When I was 16, I attempted suicide.. and while in hospital, my father literally threatened me and told me to tell everyone I was absolutely fine and it was just a stunt to get attention because he didn't want to pay the high medical bills. I was sent to mandatory therapy until he was informed by my therapist that my mental health was his fault from the abuse I was suffering, and then I was pulled from that too. I'm in my mid-thirties now, and I still hold resentment towards my father for this. I needed genuine help, and he showed me that my life did not matter to him. That day in the hospital was the day I stopped loving my father. Full stop. I'm still dealing with the mental health problems I suffered from that period of time, but I am much better off now. I feel so badly for the girl in this story, and I hope he reversed his decision and wisened up fast enough that his daughter won't also turn against him. He is 100% the AH.

[@danacarter9147]

Same here. The first story ₱*&§es me off, too. OP is a full-on a-hole for denying his poor daughter therapy and downplaying her mental health, I mean, that's just unforgivable.

[@katwiltz1134]

@@danacarter9147 maybe not Unforgivable but this would have to be one Charming MOFO and see from her perspective sometimes parents can seem so close because it never occurred to him to look from another perspective that's why I listen to Reddit so you can see how many different people so many different ways of thinking and surprisingly a lot of them can see a way they couldn't see before maybe they didn't have kids maybe they had too many kids and there's some some variable where he didn't understand I'm in be very short-lived shity conversation award depending on whether or not I know somebody that was hurt or something that hurt me where I empathize with the story at the end of the day shit today might be the day you get an atmossphere of informative that helps you grow/nurturing but u will never liked the other kind of informative LOL

[@Nyarlathotep_Flagg]

Well the difference here seems to be that this guy(the guy in the video) was actually well intentioned. No matter how ignorant, or stupid he was being.

[@tegantalks9612]

I am so sorry you went through that; I’ve lost 2 family members to suicide and it’s very hard to deal with. Whenever I feel my mental health dip I book back in with my therapist to help get back on track. I couldn’t imagine pulling therapy from a literal child.

[@mcaeln7268]

It doesn’t even make sense logistically. You paid for therapy, not tutoring. If her marks weren’t improving from tutoring you pull her out. I was flabbergasted when I read this first one

[@GooberFlute]

The period story made me so mad, he got angry at her for having a natural body function she cannot control. And bringing up how expensive the dress is as if she meant to do it? Something like that is very embarrassing and I am sure she is just as upset about the dress as he is. What she needed was for him to be empathetic and understanding, but instead, she got the opposite.

[@Tyggs42]

Second story: with such anger issues, it's terrifying that he's going out to buy a fucking gun.

[@wrenrix]

1:05:29 dude do you think periods magically conform to a regular schedule? They can be unpredictable and annoying and the tracking apps aren’t always the most realiable. Edit: fixed a word

[@aliquot8404]

They are guidance, not gospel. Real life varies from the theoretical and hypothetical. Think weather forecasts -- far from 100% but still useful.

[@Frostfern94]

Right?? Like I have had mine start 33-37 days into the cycle for a few months, right after it was 24-28 days (they always last 3-4 days), this one was 29-ish into it. Like ???? I was tracking it but it still came early, with no symptoms. No cramps, the cravings, mood swings, nothing. I don’t have intercourse or anything. You. Can. Never. Tell.

[@hammylol]

I broke my phone on accident when I was younger and was told I would never get a new one, 3 days later I was taken advantage of and had no way to tell anyone…. Never assume your kids are safe even family is dangerous

[@leeann5530]

Yeah, I don't disagree with a harsh punishment for this one, but I probably would have gotten her a very basic phone for safety. As well as giving her opportunities to earn those things back. Including volunteering at a food bank, homeless shelter and possibly a senior home. Maybe even a community cleanup. A job would be great too, but she should experience helping others and be exposed to the real needs of this world. Maybe do a small allowance for extra chores if she doesn't get a job. Sitting down with her and creating a budget that includes her paying for something like the premium on a new phone, a portion of gas or car insurance or something that's a luxury like expensive beauty products, etc.. So she learns the cost of having things and how quickly money can disappear.

[@glambertgurl1117]

The phone thing is relatable for me. My first phone didn't break, but my Dad took it away, despite him and my Stepmom being the ones who got it for me in the first place, because he thought I was too immature to have one, and at first told me I wasn't getting another one. It took my Mom stepping in and reminding my Dad that I would need a phone to at least be able to contact them or any emergency services if I needed to. My Mom has been more of an advocate for my autistic ass than my own Father, and yet he sometimes wonders why I'm closer to her. Gee idk Dad, maybe because every time I've tried to talk to you about certain topics, you question why I'm talking to you about said topic. 😂

[@mrFiiSKiiS]

​@@leeann5530Harsh punishment is one thing. OP is being a huge asshole and going overboard with her punishment.

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

@hammylol my God, are you ok?

[@fangchick93]

No one ever had to explain gay relationships to me, I grew up seeing two very successful, supportive gay relationships and saw it as a normal relationship and no one clutched their pearls that I was “exposed” to a non heteronormative relationship. It actually helped me accept that I was pansexual and no one made a big deal when they found out. I think if more kids get exposed to healthy relationships whether they’re gay or straight, they’ll be more accepting of all relationships when they grow up.

[@ghostofthefallenvalkyrie3320]

Yeah like what is there to explain. Although I have to admit I think I was a bit homophobic growing up (not because my parents or religious beliefs or anything) because I only knew vaguely what gay and lesbian meant and since I didn't think about it much and it didn't interest me at all, I only knew about the stereotypes and I really didn't like them (I still don't like them and I hate the terms gay and lesbian, especially in my native language because it has been associated with so much negative stuff and stereotypes). However that was until last year when I started being interested in the community (through gay ships) and half a year later I realized I was bi. I think my unconscious already knew, just not myself cuz I've only had crushes on boys (but I do have a fictional anime waifu crush) and I had never even considered me liking girls. Funny enough I think I even like girls more.

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Yes we need to focus on teaching people what healthy, respectful, supportive relationships require and how to address disagreements (all normal relationships will have them) in a productive manner including how to acknowledge when you make a mistake. This is regardless of the gender of the people involved and should also apply to your non-romantic relationships as well. This is why your SO’s relationship with their family can often be enlightening.

[@neeciedgm]

Wish I could upvote your comment a hundred times over!

[@ashleyn.9166]

My foster brother lived with my aunts first. Mom heard him call something "gay" as an insult. She told him it was offensive and disrespectful to say that given my aunts raised him for years. I stopped. "what's gay?" "Two women or two men that love each other. Like your aunt Sally and Jane or your uncle David" "Oh." Ran off to play. I had never thought anything was wrong with them or even abnormal. These were people that we knew and loved. I didn't know a ton of people like them and some of their friends, but I just thought some couples were man-woman, some were woman-woman and some man-man. It never occurred to be there was going to be a different word. OP is simply homophobic. She doesn't want the kids to think homosexuality is acceptable.

[@RJLiams]

It's a simple case of hatred is learned. Even people who claim to be progressive and supportive teach their kids other forms of hatred that they consider acceptable.

[@Slithery]

I’m sorry but what on earth was markee on about for the period one?! Randomly getting your period isn’t a ‘mistake’. Even if you keep track of your period, unless you’re on the pill, it can still start at random moments. The op is obviously an a hole but c’mon Markee. His girlfriend made NO mistakes, that crap just happens.

[@kitayawolfe1548]

Actually, it's even more unpredictable when you're on the pill, in my experience. It throws everything off and you really can't track it properly

[@Slithery]

@@kitayawolfe1548 sorry I was speaking from experience, one regulated it to a routine and the other stopped it altogether, each one affects individuals differently

[@kitayawolfe1548]

@@Slithery Oh yeah, I'm currently on one that stops it after taking one that would make me bleed for three weeks straight every two weeks. Looks like we've got two ends of the spectrum as an example here. 😂

[@katieb.1184]

exactly, I usually agree... but this one was way off... bodies be wild sometimes.

[@jaymel4691]

Yeah, I'm not happy with how Markee said that either, although I don't think he meant it the way it sounded. I hope not. Those "period tracking apps" aren't perfect. Every person that has periods has had at least a few "accidents", no matter how well they prepare for it. I wish you hadn't phrased it that way, Markee. I guarantee that every person who has periods is not just going to "forget" about it, because we all know how humiliating it is to get a huge period stain on our pants unexpectedly and in public and not being able to do anything about it. OP is TA, 100%. Periods are not always predictable, and so many men don't understand that. Accidents happen. A lot of women have irregular cycles, and even regular cycles can start unexpectedly. Our reproductive organs aren't computer-controlled, lol. OP sounds like he was more concerned about her ruining the expensive dress that about her embarrassment. How would HE feel if he had Crohn's disease and pooped his pants while they were out, and his GF got mad at him for having to tell everyone he was "sick" so they could leave early? What an ass.

[@Orinatl]

When will men understand that period tracking is akin to tracking when you’ll poop after a large meal. Usually it takes about 3.5 hours to go through the body and what not. But if you have to be prepared at that time every day counting the hours etc. I assure you we’d all have stained undies once in a while. The body doesn’t ask, it just does what is does on its own time.

[@potaterjim]

Who the hell tracks their shits after a meal?

[@Orinatl]

potaterjim Congratulations, your so intelligent that you’ve missed the point completely.

[@HackiePuffs]

@@potaterjim no one. That’s the point.

[@ciderxera4963]

@@potaterjim Old people actually :) especially those in nursing homes/LTC. They tend to worry a lot about their health, and therefore bowel movements at that age. It's actually a very serious thing for them

[@alesia858]

Furthermore it's just not possible at all for some women, depending on medical condition. I've literally been bleeding since April. So help me god if anyone complained....

[@theladybastet6099]

What went through this guy's head? How the heck can you think, 'daughter's got bad grades - I'll cancel something that's working for her'. This guy is at BEST ignorant, and at worst, abusive and incredibly toxic.

[@kavinaderrow3269]

Amen

[@tired2159]

For the story about the girl smashing her phone. The fact she called her mother a narcissist and won't get a job tells me everything I need to know about her. It shows she has not changed, she refuses to work for her phone and wants it to be handed to her. I got a job as soon as I was in the legal age.

[@carolcarol9982]

If you want to wear makeup then wear makeup. When she came out with the clown makeup, I'd have told her "What ever floats your boat, but that had better not be My makeup".

[@rmhartman]

yep. odds are that it was just too get the reaction that is got. call them on their bluff, and say "you're ready? good, let's go."

[@damien678]

@@rmhartman I personally really like clowncore, and actively want to try the style, but yeah she was ... being a bit petty, at least? like even though she said she likes the style she did it to win an argument which isnt the best

[@Frostfern94]

@@damien678clown core? 😂 Anyway, I’d have just told her the makeup looks better, let’s go.

[@minagica]

Period dress story: and this is why we need proper sex ed among many other reasons, for couples to not have fights based on the ignorance of one party

[@leafyishereisdumbnameakath4259]

Seriously. Hate me all you want but I'm 22 and didn't know this.

[@isisruiz598]

No one can really hate you if you're considerate person and if you see blood on someone's clothes you're going to be concerned, no matter the context

[@scepticalhyenas5750]

Makeup one really bugs me. Shes wearing the clown makeup for one purpose, and that purpose is specifically to humiliate op in public. op likes makeup. op is allowed to like makeup. It's a hobby she enjoys, and one that's important to her. Unless op's gf is some kind of... closet coulrophiliac, shes wearing clown makeup not because she likes it, but because she knows op doesnt. Again, its use is solely an attempt to shame op out of the hobby she enjoys because gf thinks its dumb. If it's an issue of being late, just fucking talk to each other and work things out... but this seems more like a fundamental disagreement between the two over, like. Values and image and stuff.

[@damien678]

op's gf is being genuinely disrespectful af, and it's not cute nor feminist to shit on women for liking makeup. also I didn't miss hoe insecure she is that op wears makeup that's conventionally attractive, and thus appealing to men. if op is bi and her gf is a lesbian, I'd say to check to see if biphobia isn't a bigger factor here

[@dakotasan8719]

@@damien678 TIL Binophobia was a thing.

[@semideadnat]

I agree and honestly from what my mom has taught me from her past relationships is that when there is a problem you come together and solve it with a level head. The girlfriend sounds so toxic and even says "Oh well why is it that your form of creative expression something that men find attractive?" In any relationship that wouldn't be healthy at all. The to go on and mock her partner with clown makeup gives off abuse and a huge red flag.

[@tarotinthekichen1831]

I would also line to point out that she called her a tramp like really if I was op that is a deal breaker

[@rubymeaddle]

I think the OP is bisexual and her gf is biphobic. She's pissed OP dresses femme and is accusing her of cheating.

[@mc-rn8ro]

OP needs to reframe it this way: "Hey, my kid smashed his arm this year and thus failed math. He's going through physical therapy, so his arm is getting better, but he's STILL failing math. Should I sacrifice my child's wellbeing for the sake of a letter grade that, ultimately, will be MEANINGLESS as long as he passes the class?" This guy's an abuser, and good on the wife for shutting that shit down.

[@bakugoukatsuki153]

What the hell is wrong with this father 😡

[@meganwilliams2962]

Where do you start?

[@aliquot8404]

He is brain-missing. His logic circuits and critical thinking processes never developed. Think the father needs to be sent back to school to learn some common sense

[@TarisLuna]

@@meganwilliams2962 with the most obvious EVERYTHING.

[@meganpauline4391]

I remember back in high school I had a light beige jacket I loved. I had it hung on a coat peg in our hallway and my dad decided to wash it without telling me or, I guess, checking the pockets. My red lipstick was I'm the pocket... jacket ruined. He told me I couldn't have red lipstick anymore and my mom yelled at him until he admitted it was his fault.

[@NickanM]

Rest in eternal red piece formerly beige jacket....😔🌷

[@adog6495]

The first one he says he is paying then is upset when wife says she'll pay for the therapy with her money and says he see it as their money

[@jessicadias5014]

That stood out to me too as a big red flag. Sounds like OP has some major control issues and I wouldn't be surprised if it was a part of the daughter's decline in mental health

[@Kira_Nakasashi]

Regarding the picky eater- my immediate thought was Autism, especially since he will only eat one thing. I also have Autism and a very limited diet because of how taste is affected for me. Strong flavours and certain spices are a no for me. I can understand that making two meals is tiring, but that's my price I pay. Granted, the situation isn't quite the same, since I'm the food maker in this house, and I'm the one who has to make two meals or cook something else when I dislike what was bought for me to eat. While the OP is not the arse for making the food to begin with, she is a bit of one for being upset he threw it away and blaming him for not liking it. She also brought it as a surprise without knowledge of whether or not he was hungry, I feel. (Unless I misunderstood something). My husband and I have an agreement, if I don't like a food, he'll eat it (unless it has something he expressly doesn't like as well). If she was going to be upset he threw it away, she should have asked him to try it and said that if he didn't like it, she'd eat it. But that's just my opinion to limit food waste. I don't know if I'd call anyone in this the arse.

[@hugdispenser5627]

Yes yes yes. This this this. That was my exact thought too. As someone who’s getting the assessment consultation mid2022 I’m yet to start the long expensive journey of diagnosis. But I’ve learned a lot about the community from following and hearing it from the perspective of autistic people themselves not allistic doctors. I also thought possibly adhd but it could be a combination too as those are prone to happen. And my immediate first thought was “proper autism awareness needs to be more mainstream OP is being ableist against her husband so publicly and people are backing her up”.

[@Mb-yn9zp]

Periods are not like clockwork! An app might do one bit of good. She didn't do anything wrong

[@meganwilliams2962]

Dad taking away the therapy....glad to see that you've come to your senses.....sad to see that you were so clueless about your child's HEALTH needs.

[@carolcarol9982]

Tell your boyfriend to do his own laundry from now on. What do you want to bet that if she Had found the wallet pre-wash, she'd then have been accused of going through it?

[@carolroberts4614]

He wanted a fight!

[@danielledoran696]

So in line with the ‘wallet washed in pants story’, I alway tell my partner if he leaves money in his pockets when I’m doing the washing it now belongs to me. It took him leaving $5 in there once and me telling him “hey thanks for the $5” for him to check before he puts them in the basket 🤣🤣🤣

[@meganwilliams2962]

One of my (then) teenaged sons left his mobile phone in the pockets of his cargo pants......only did that once. We've had thumb drives go through the wash too. When they all lived at home, the rule was, whatever Mum find in pockets, Mum keeps.

[@rachelcape4056]

If my mother did this she would have two AirPod cases...

[@blondie7740]

This was an argument between my husband and myself for years. I kept telling him he is a big boy, he can empty his pockets when taking his pants off. I accidentally washed his wallet, keys, money, screws, and a scratch ticket worth $200. I kept giving him little pieces of it for days. But, he now checks his own damn pockets.

[@damien678]

@@blondie7740 hearing shit like this is always so embarassing because I have ADHD, always lose things, but literally never have this problem because I actually bother to check and care

[@blondie7740]

@@damien678 He wears carharts work pants, so million pockets and the weight is odd. By the time the scratch ticket came along, I was no longer checking pockets. It’s not hard to empty pockets when taking your pants off, and prevents all the above from happening.

[@kellyk6652]

To the makeup arguing couple, the anti-makeup girlfriend is BEING ABUSIVE! She's exerting control and it is going to escalate. Get out NOW! RUN! Markee is an idiot for calling this "normal!" This is a red flag!

[@carolinem.5044]

It honestly is. The whole perspective of assuming that what women do is centered around men and that women should center their actions around how they will or won't affect men is so sexist. The gf just sucks.

[@carterpitbull7366]

I like to call them toxic feminists. Women who think other women ARENT allowed to do the “feminine” norms. Makeup, cooking, cleaning, child raising, etc. People can like these things and have no problem with it being a stigma. It is only bad/sexist if someone tries to force it onto a woman.

[@kellyk6652]

@@carterpitbull7366 YES! EXACTLY! Feminism isn't about forcing women to become like men! It's about being allowed to CHOOSE how we live our lives.

[@ohboy-zi1yf]

​@kellyk6652 the fact that you think not doing makeup/childrearing/housework is "becoming like men" is really telling about what you think women are

[@whitewitch32]

​@@carterpitbull7366I call them Feminazist

[@minagica]

OP rehoming Shadow because their kid developed a dog allergy: absolutely NOT the AH, but it's not easy for a person with depression to begin comprehending that, so while the husband is technically the AH and needs to take responsibility, I understand the mechanism by which he blew up (depression makes us self-centered because we are so deep down in the well of our misery we have trouble seeing outside of it). It should be addressed in his therapy sessions, perhaps they should seek couples therapy too

[@franl155]

Main reason I broke up with my fiancé was that he told me that if he had to choose between me and a baby, he'd choose the baby and let me die. I said "Thanks very much!" He said; "Well, you've had your life" I was in my mid-20s

[@rmhartman]

um... yep. that was one thing we both agreed on. in fact my wife insisted. If we are in a crash or a fire or whatever, I was to get our son out before worrying about her. and the other way around.

[@franl155]

@@rmhartman - he was talking about complications during childbirth; he'd let me die, rather than save me so that we could have more babies. He was desperate to have a son who'd be "the best fighter in the street or I'll hit him till he is." In lifeboat situations, it's "children and women first" [in that order]; I think we'd all instinctively do the same.

[@kionnakelly2918]

@@rmhartman that's not the same as what she just said

[@carolroberts4614]

franl155 glad you got away from that!

[@franl155]

@@carolroberts4614 - took me long enough to wake up, but at least I did wake up eventually!

[@beegee1960]

You used the wrong thing about the makeup. You should have just grabbed her arm and said, “You look beautiful. Let’s go.” And carry through with it. See if SHE would go through with it.

[@jessiking7855]

No wonder the girl needs therapy..

[@eph2vv89only1way]

While we associate penguins with Antarctica, there are some species of penguin that live in warm climates

[@adog6495]

Like the smallest penguin the blue penguin

[@niel633]

Eg. the ones at Philip island

[@mr.monotone1908]

@@adog6495 kzbin.info/www/bejne/oGbEYZ2KmJ6GZ5I

[@D-me-dream-smp]

Fairy penguins live in the SE of Australia.

[@williamadams1432]

I read this while the ads were playing and now I’m so interested in this video lol

[@damien678]

nappy story: gaslighting requires it to be both a pattern and done with malicious intent. it's a partner trying to genuinely make you doubt your senses and memory. it's a partner making you feel insane. none of that was gaslighting, people need to stop throwing the term around.

[@VSE4me1]

Wet wallet BF: “Never touch my clothes again! GF: “Win for me!”

[@KazumiKiguma]

Mark, tracker apps arent magic, they arent gonna tell you "oh youre gonna have an early period this month starting on this day" no, its basically just a marked calander for your normal cycle, so if it's unexpected, an app does nothing. There was no mistake, there is nothing she could have done, and I guarantee she hates that the dress was ruined too.

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

Deciding who you invite to your house is not bullying. Bullying is an _action_ , done with intent to cause inconvenience + discomfort to a person, not a term for passively being the target of someone's inferiority complex or thwarted sense of inaccurate entitlement. You don't owe anyone social benefit from you. Not inviting is not victimising.

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

[Addendum] To clarify, deliberate + malicious ostracism _can_ be one of the tools in the conscious bully's arsenal, but a choice not to associate with an individual is not _in itself_ an act of victimisation. It's just practicing basic personal discrimination, which is a morally neutral act.

[@kirstenornelas881]

We found out the hard way that while taking away a phone works as a punishment, it is one of the things that will make you feel like shit if something happens. We did and two weeks later my 16 year old went missing, some fucking 27 year old we believe was about to hand her off over the Mexican border though we can't prove it but he didn't touch her and took her from north eastern Oregon and then went through 4 states meandering back and forth state to state to take her down to Santa Cruz California. Tijuana was only 7 hours away... she was gone for 3 entire days with no word, we heard nothing and knew nothing and I searched and talked to every single person I could think of but she only trusted and spent time with less than a handful of kids. Thank goodness my child got this guy to let her use her phone to "chat with a friend of hers" she reached out and gave a code word for danger and we turned it into the sheriff who contacted the fbi and she was found and safe and free was temporarily in custody within 5 hours after the initial message she sent. Please don't use phones as a punishment, downgrade to call and text only, no net like flip phone style but don't cut off all communication. You never know when your child might need you and you will regret every second you don't know what's happening to them. Please listen and don't go through what we did. My kid in her words "just wanted to see somewhere else than here" we have raised her in the country in kinda middle of the nowhere small town. I told her while I do understand there were a million different ways she could have taken a trip that I would have been ok with and willing to help hey with without her leaving with some dude she just met who lied and she was told he was much closer to her age and told her a fake name and the list goes on. I'm just thankful she's home, safe and unarmed and learned from her actions but I will never again take away the only way she has to get ahold of us and I'll deff downgrade to a flip phone with 2 programmed numbers in it only but I'll never leave her without a lifeline esp now that she's getting to the point where she's is going to start working soon and is set to graduate high school 2 years early as she is passing classes very quickly and I'm so proud of her.

[@aliceblack9235]

Sometimes it doesn’t matter how hard you track you. It just comes early. It is a force of nature and there’s sometimes nothing you can do to predict or prevent anything from happening

[@annana6098]

As far as I know, the whole process is determined by hormones, which are all effected by stress and health and everything. For years, mine has come early or late to coincide with some sort of anticipated event, exams, moving day, holidays, vacations, a frikken hurricane! Not expecting it for another five days? Aunt Flo heard you were stressed and came early! Hey, Aunt Flo is a week late, should I be worried? NOPE she just wanted to join me on my vacation! Ugh...

[@sylokthedefiled7650]

Picky eating, I don't try much new, but that's because I have texture issues and would rather not gag on food people made for me.

[@hugdispenser5627]

Exactly my thoughts. I don’t think the husband is malicious in any way. He sounds far from neurotypical and needs to get assessed for that.

[@RockCollector201]

That roommate story is wild. How are you just gonna barge your way into someone's space when you didn't pay for anything. College isnt about mooching off of everyone you know because you will be exiled from all your friend groups doing so.

[@jjr9792]

Re: Period Stain. What part of "got her period unexpectedly" does OP not understand? If she used a tracker app, the app would be saying the same damn thing as she is "she's not supposed to be on her period right now". And it's likely more than a few days early otherwise she would have been prepared with backup supplies. Does OP think that she's any less upset than he is that her evening, and her beautiful dress got ruined? OP YTA.

[@gottathinkupanewone]

My husband cheerfully eats whatever I make for meals. Chicken and noodles? He loves them. Mac & cheese? A perennial favorite. Stew or vegetable soup? He's in heaven. Part of this is because he likes to eat, and enjoys being spoiled. But part of it is because he used to be married to a woman who demanded that he eat nothing but "healthy food" like unflavored rice cakes and something that he refers to as "sawdust."

[@hugdispenser5627]

That story made me think the husband isn’t neurotypical. And I felt a bit hurt at Markee hoping in to calling him a “6yo” cause neurodivergent people are always treated like babies.

[@richarddawson2919]

My husband is a picky eater as well, when we first married I fixed Chinese food and dishes up a plate for both of us. He took one look and tossed his plate across the table and said he wasn't going to eat that crap. I was boiling inside and calmly stood up took his plate to trash and dumped it. Came back and started to eat and he asked where his dinner was. I said in the trash. He said he could just get up and get something for himself. I told him if he did after disrespecting me I would break all his fingers on both hands!!! Ha ha needless to say no food for him for acting childish. Never done that again, been married 30 years.

[@WyldUnknown247]

@@richarddawson2919 good job 👍🏻 will do this to mine if he does this without a reason

[@Lunasera]

The story about the picky eater husband: I hate those kind of people. I'm a very picky eater myself as in - I can't eat onions. Apparently I ate them raw as a child and whenever I noe bite onto even a small piece I start puking. It's not an allergy, just a strong reaction to the taste and texture. I still use them for cooking, either as powder, cut so small they dissolve or so big I can take them out. -I hate many vegetables in their raw forms. Salad leaves only with dressing and only if they are crisp, bell peppers cooked are OK, but I prefer the sweeter red or yellow ones, tomatoes can be used for sauces or such but I hate them raw. The list goes on. I have a hard time putting into words when something doesn't taste or feel right (though I'm not autistic as far as I know and it doesn't cause any real issues aside from not liking it) But my mom always made sure to teach us how important it is to appreciate food and the work someone put into cooking it. If we didn't like something we didn't have to finish it but we always had to at least give it a try. I'm actually really happy my mom did this cause there are so many things I would never have tried otherwise. Like, parents of friends from my first grade of school were Turkish immigrants and their mom made really great stuff like filled wine leafs. Even if you are picky, it's an act of respect to at least try food you are given and then be honest. However, I have to say, the wife seems to have provoked this. She knows about his eating habits since long before, she should have talked to him and just given him the choice between trying something new next time or cooking for himself.

[@xd_destiny2272]

am I the only one who goes to sleep to these videos. like, his voice is just so calm and smooth

[@mariedillingham199]

NOpe. I listen to them too

[@susanlosey9511]

OP! If your girl friend does that again, don’t say anything! Just ignore her make up what ever it is. She’s trying to start a fight. Just grab your keys, say, “ You ready”! Tell her you’ll wait for her in the car. Let her embarrass herself herself. Also start putting your makeup on earlier so you won’t be late! NTA!

[@Mewse1203]

"Doesn't want a promotion so she doesn't get stuck there".....EIGHT YEARS LATER LOL

[@johndoekinnie9467]

The clown makeup story. Since I'm already a weirdo, I would have gotten up, gotten the face paint and started also painting my face as a clown. Then, tell my partner "come on, we'll be late, at least now we'll be matching". Pretty sure the partner would not want to go, if she doesn't, I could call her on her bluff and tell her that the comparison was over the top and we could talk about this like adults next time. For the period stain story, some people can't use trackers because they have irregular circles. And it feels horrible having a stain in public, especially when someone you're close to gets mad at you for something your body does naturally without you being able to control it. She had to apologize for something that happens naturally while he didn't feel the need to apologize for being a massive a-hole, and only apologized because people called him out massively. She needs to find a guy better than op, if he reacts like this about periods, I can't imagine other stuff or if they have a daughter in the future.

[@seaofgeese]

Someone with that reaction to your wallet being accidentally washed shouldn't be buying or owning a firearm

[@Avrysatos]

I leave my keys and wallet in a designated place near the door. this helps me keep from losing them.

[@aubreymorgan9763]

1st op sounds like the type "I keep punishing my kid for their bad grades. i've tried everything, took away their electronics, they're not allowed to see friends, i've hit them, and nothing works! How can I get my kid to improve their grades?"

[@jdd9993]

Story 1: Grades are an issue separate from mental health, even though there is some relevance. OP needs to get his daughter a tutor.

[@theTheoryofEvil]

that period story… jeez i had an unexpected period what was so bad that i lost over 70% of the blood in my body and had to go to the hospital. i tracked my period and it still happened. periods aren’t always predictable and easy to deal with. that dude pisses me off so much

[@monsorelong5066]

I feel bad that you have to read stories with these people in them. Thank you for going through this to give us entertainment

[@carolroberts4614]

It's a hard job but someone's got to do it!

[@rinpaisys]

Even setting aside the fact OP is 8 years older, the guy his mom is dating is, well. Just that. A boyfriend. They aren’t married, they are dating. So even legally, he isn’t a step-father to OP, much less emotionally.

[@bricksloth6920]

Friend bro doesn't deserve a girlfriend, he's emotionally about 6, freaking out about a period accident damn

[@kalynshafer751]

My husband could never and would never manipulate me into thinking he's smarter than me cuz he's older. He's not and we both know it. His strengths are in other areas and thats fine.

[@madelinewisner4717]

I know an exception. My friends husband took great care of her mother with dementia until they could no longer keep her at home. They still continue to see and care though she has no memory to speak of. Love doesn’t end for your parents.

[@francit4856]

Miscarriage/weight gain: Never apologize! NEVER respond to them in any way. They might have been friends at one point in their lives but apparently haven't been real friends for a long time.

[@shadowm2k7]

The story at 51 minutes in ((i haven't finished it all yet)) but I do sympathise with picky eaters as I am one myself due to growing up in an abusive household, my mum would only make me and my siblings the same bland 4 or so meals so anything remotely seasoned or healthy makes me feel sick and disgusted and I feel horrible about it. I never used to go to friends houses as I dreaded the chance that their grown up would make me food. It happened once and i tried to eat it to not seem rude but I was gagging the whole time 😭! Im nearly 30 now and i am pushing myself to eat more than snacks and sweets

[@leahaf808]

Yeah picky adults are still adults, capable of making their own decisions. Infantalising someone bc they have a limited palate is just disrespctful tbh. My partner is very limited with what he eats, so we just cook for ourselves. I worry a little for him, but he's perfectly capable of getting some supplements or going to the doctor if his diet started affecting his health. Sorry your mum was shit with that stuff, hope things are better for you now.

[@maryguokas400]

Yes but he has her make the TV dinner then complain that she did it wrong too. She just needs to say your food you problem. I am only cooking for myself. i am only shopping for myself. It is a lot of mental energy to time out cooking a real meal for one person and a TV dinner for the other. He has the right to eat whatever he wants and she shouldn't make him rat else, but she should also just stop with his food.

[@kitcat8308]

My son is picky by old time standards... But he would literally not eat if he didn't "like" the food ( it's not always about not "liking" a food ... Certain food flavors/ textures/ etc can be nauseating, uncomfortable or even painful) I didn't completely omit foods or stop introducing new foods... But I'd have alternatives on hand... At 5 I'd have him " help" make his alternative... By 8 he was making his alternative ( microwaveables/ sandwich) ... No he makes dinner for us occasionally 😊

[@Gilhelmi]

Penguin story: I would bet on Australia actually. I suspect that because of the use of the C* word. And the fact that Australia is close to Antarctica so I could see it living well in South Australia. Also, the HOA virus has been spreading across the world. As an American, I am so sorry that we started it. Many Americans are trying to stop it, but far too many people don't care about their rights.

[@lorifiedler13]

Picky eater: sounds like he could be on the spectrum. Very common with those on spectrum.

[@hugdispenser5627]

The way I had to scroll that far to see this. I’m very well aware I’m late, I usually try to sleep to these videos but I had to say something. He does sound like he’s neurodivergent for sure.

[@stephjovi]

I`m a meet eater, but OP was totally right with honestly answering the kids question, she offered everything the kid didn't want it. The parents dropped her off with her for weeks, not days weeks.

[@all-tickityboo5836]

Isn’t mental health far more important than grades?

[@theycallmet3061]

In theory,yes. But apparently a number on a piece of paper is worth more than a kid's life

[@ghoullovinbutch]

“Now that she returned back to normal” BRO DOESNT UNDERSTAND HOW MENTAL ILLNESS AND THERAPY WORK 🗣️🗣️🗣️

[@braidygal]

I was very sick with my twins. I couldn’t gain weight and felt like I looked like I had an eating disorder after they were born. So many told me how lucky I was to lose so much weight and not to look pregnant after the birth. I hated it, it made me feel so bad. I ended up gaining so much weight and I attribute it to the comments.

[@micahfoley9572]

Okay, so singer, songwriter, musician here: Sounds to me that the wife in the karaoke post was telling a story with her song choice. Breaking up, being broken, meetting someone new and recovering, being happy. Just thought i'd mention it cuz no one did. I kinda sympathize with the wife cuz it's something we do all the time and for the most part, no one really notices lol

[@feraltaco4783]

What is with these spouses that won't eat home cooked meals. If the OPs want to come cook for me I'll happily eat. Hell, I'll even clean up. 🤣

[@ghostofthefallenvalkyrie3320]

Like yeah, a meal is a meal and if it doesn't make me sick I'll eat it

[@angel_vii]

Re: Picky eater spouse- He said he only really cares for those few certain foods. OP guilted him into eating something he specifically didnt want. He still choked down a few bites, smiled, thanked OP, and gave a polite excuse, not hungry, for not eating more. OP isnt necessairily an AH, but neither is her husband. Sounds like major food aversions to me, which is common in ASD. I wonder if OPs husband is undiagnosed autistic? My neuro spicy kid only has like 10 safe foods. We work with him to try to add to that list but we dont force it and were sure to always have all of those items on hand and suppliment with vitamins. Food aversions can be REALLY hard. I only have one, yogurt. I can not physically choke down yogurt. The texture is an abomonation to my pallet. Id rather, and probably have better luck, eating grass from the yard. Some people are just hyper sensitive to certain stimulai. No ones the AH. Get hubby screened for ASD as it might help explain some of his "quirks".

[@thesoulofdark]

My response to the therapy story, YTA as someone who has suffered from long term depression its like trying to walk up a muddy slope and any help you can get for it makes the ground easier to traverse helps

[@Gilhelmi]

Technically, you can spend 14k on a VERY high-end PC. I have seen some through my job, and they are amazing. They are absolutely amazing for high-spec programs that are also nearly $10k themselves. HOWEVER, that does not change anything. It was incredibly disrespectful. Honestly, it is a coin-flip whether or not the relationship can be saved.

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

Regarding the tracker app thing, periods sometimes come a day early or late , shit happens

[@susanlosey9511]

NTA. Talk to him, lay down the law. If he doesn’t ship up and respect you. I’d tell him Adios! He is not being a good person. Making you to wait out in the rain for 45 minutes. That’s terrible! OP, he’s flying soooo many red flags up. He has not grown up yet.

[@ZombieSazza]

“My husband is a picky eater, and when I think about it thoroughly, I don’t feel attracted to him anymore” LMFAO WHAT?!? My reaction was the same as Markee’s, where on earth did that come from?!?

[@katieb.1184]

at ten years old, I wouldn't consult my husband about hair dye... that's temporary. I would NOT decide a permanent body modification before 16, much less without talking it over with hubs.

[@Lunasera]

The one with the period stain: trackers and such are nice and everything but period doesn't work that way. Your period is highly affected by health, stress and environment, even the most perfectly timed period can have a stray. Mine came always irregularly no use trying to track anything. And even if you kepps hundreds of pads and tampons on you, sometimes the blood is faster

[@breanawilhelm3420]

Period story: Even with the tracker app, you can still be surprised by a period. The apps follow the average length between cycles, it's not exact.

[@Heaven69J]

The guy always hanging out with his mate seems they are really great mates and more. They are each other’s side piece I would bet money on it.

[@lindalmiller429]

College fund story: neither the daughter nor the son are entitled to OPs money. The daughter had her way, or much of it, through college. And she’s struggling? What’s her part in that?

[@d.johnson1811]

funny how people start checking laundry when you announce how much money you earned doing laundry 😂😂😂😂😂

[@jenniferlabathe5117]

Clown makeup? OP should have just said, "OK, get in the car. If you want to go to the store like that? Knock yourself out".

[@kirstenornelas881]

Have your child’s D3 levels specifically checked. We found out that myself and both my daughters began struggling with feeding depressed and lack of energy and feeling unwell. Thankfully I first had their bloods checked showing the deficiency but in there were others involved who pushed therapy which pushed a medication that nearly did take my child’s life. Please don’t just go to depression as a be all end all. Have their bloods drawn and if D3 is low or non existent guess what, your child is no longer producing serotonin and is completely trying to get through life solely on melatonin

[@shriyasingh3789]

In the story at the 1 hour mark, the mother keeps talking about how the father doing anything to take care of HIS OWN BABY is 'helping'. I don't get it. If a man doesn't want to do his fair share of child care, he shouldn't have had a child. ffs

[@RoseRegent]

Markee.. people are ALLOWED to be picky. Maybe that’s literally the only food that actually is pleasing for them to eat or maybe the only thing that tastes good. Your fine to find literally anything as a deal breaker. However, thats kinda hypocritical because thats being picky in itself lmao. Picky can apply to things other than food. Im literally only ever picky with food personally because i can immediately tell if i wont like something by looking at it i dont need to taste to know. My great grandma always tried to force feed me stuff i had ‘tried’ repeatedly hoping my tastes would change and id like it. It was her only bad quality.

[@lorifiedler13]

I had my tastebuds go wonky for about 6 months in 2018. Some of my favorite things tasted off. Like all the manufacturers changed the recipes. Only thing good that came out of that was losing over 25 pounds. But that was temporary. (Wish I could have bottled it 😉)

[@rubymeaddle]

Nah it's totally valid to not wanna date a picky eater. I love exploring new foods, and would want my partner to do the same with me. It's no different than wanting someone who likes outdoor activities.

[@Celestial-Skyys]

Markee, I'm a person who gets a period with fairly normal health and I'm going to tell you why the mistake angle isn't a good one. Mine normally happen on about the 12th of every month... give or take 1 week. Meaning it could happen anywhere between the 5th and the 19th. Many things can factor in like what I ate between periods, my mental health (stress makes it later), medicine (varies between what I have taken including my normal medication), other women I have frequent contact with (something happens hormonally where women can sync up), illness (can make it later, has sometimes made it happen sooner), exercise... and I think you get the point. At any point I have a 2 week time span when I don't know when mother nature decides to paint the town red. Then there is timing. Normally, mine starts between 12 PM and 3 PM... buuuuut other times it happens over night. So during a time where my period is (1) a week ahead and (2) heavier, my sheets will be dyed red by my uterus. I only recently got a period cup. That I can preemptively insert and safely wear over night. I can't do pads because I don't like sitting in wet and, honestly, to me it feels like wearing a sticky diaper that slides and doesn't work. I shouldn't do a tampon. (1) It's a waste of money for me to use and replace tampons I don't need to use, (2) putting in a tampon when there is no extra moisture is uncomfortable to painful for me, and (3) if I keep it in over night then I run the risk of toxic shock syndrome. Do I use the cup preemptively? Yes but a good quality one that'll last me up to 10 years will cost a person $30-$60 (I think mine was $35). Not everyone can use it and it's a heck of an investment for someone who might not be able to use it. Could the girlfriend preemptively use a pad? Sure. But what's the odds that she thought she had a week and some outside factor made it come a week early? What if her periods are irregular and this goes to the point of a reproductive health thing?

[@purplebunn]

1:07:32 I use a period tracker and I wear pads when I feel cramps before my actual periods. You are not guaranteed to know when it's gonna happen, just a couple months ago I got all dressed up and went out with my boyfriend and it wasn't until we were at the restaurant we went for breakfast that I realized I was on my period. My skirt was white and light purple, which is why I decided it would be good to wear shorts underneath so if I bled through it would stain the skirt. We ended up cutting our plans short, only going to breakfast (Which we left early) and the game shop so he could get his trading cards (I stayed in the car). I was the one who said I was okay going to the shop after, even though it was a half hour drive and another half hour back home, plus waiting for him in the car. When we were at breakfast, I was in a lot of pain, asked my boyfriend if we could go and he said yes. I also asked if I could wait in the car while he waited for the server to get a to go box and pay, he also said yes. He was very understanding and I appreciated it

[@skyelindsey687]

College fund one: OP is NTA for giving their son his college fund. The daughter decided to spend her college fund on a degree that didn’t pan out how she expected, which sucks but it happens. Son decided to hold off on college and keep his amount accruing interest, dividends, and what not. The money for both was set aside to be used as they wanted and it just so happens that the son’s choice was the better investment plan, although that doesn’t always work out for people. The money is rightfully the son’s and daughter has 0 claim to it. I hate that Reddit always sides with the woman in those situations because “she NEEEEEEEEDS it.” ETA: he never said he doesn’t want it, he said he doesn’t need it. And how would they have spent more time on the daughter’s gun when she went “I’m gonna get a degree in a field that doesn’t pay well.”

[@bobcatred]

I’ve suffered from chronic migraines since I was 12 and have watched constantly for different remedies to help ease them, and while hydration can definitely help, this is the first time I’ve ever heard of someone saying that a cold drink helped when medication did not. That said, IF I relied on cold drinks for my migraines, when the OP first mentioned splitting the cost of the set, I would have been on board to make sure I had what I needed. OP could have just shrugged and not gotten one if roommate didn’t want to split the cost, then where would migraine moocher have been? She can go pay for her own now, if she’s telling the truth, because she was an ahole and abused her roommates good will.

[@kathieoray2990]

Louise, I've been getting migraines since I was in my teens, I'm 59. Just an FYI if you're looking for something that helps prevent them all together. My Dr prescribed Topiramate, it's a drug that was meant to treat seasures but it was discovered that it also was really good for preventing migraines. I've been on it a few years now and I don't get migraines anymore. Something you might want to ask your Dr about. The only notable side effect for me was weight loss. Just thought I'd share. 😀

[@amyyaku5022]

S1: YTA. Parents take grades way too seriously. It won't mean anything if the daughter's depression gets worse and...they don't have a child anymore. S2: NTA. I'm scatterbrained and forget to check my pockets before doing laundry. I've had to remind myself to always check, but never blamed someone else for my mistakes. S3: NTA. Sucks that redditors ignored the fact that the gf only wore clown makeup out of spite. OP shouldn't have made them late, but hey, we all know it takes some women a lot of time to get ready 🤷🏾‍♀️ S4: 🤢 sorry OP. You mom and her partner are creepy. NTA S5: Nta. It's uncalled for to talk about someone's weight, especially when OP had a miscarriage 🤦🏽‍♂️ S6: Biggest YTA I've heard. It has nothing to do with the kids. OP just hates her niece. S7: Redditors ignored something very important: of all the songs she could sing, his spouse CHOSE to sing about an ex while her partner was right there. It's beyond disrespectful and it sucks that OP's feelings were not taken into account here.

[@faeb.9618]

I hate to wear make up but honestly I really don't get all the people saying OP is just as bad and stuff like that. I mean, OP was just wearing normal make up and the gf didn't like the fact that her partner was wearing make up (yes she has the right to be upset over being late, but it definitely seems like that's only part of why she was mad considering how much she ranted over the make up thing), OP tried to defend a harmless interest and the gf didn't like that? I'm also anti make up but that's no excuse to go tell someone to stop using it. Also the clown make up thing is just childish and stupid, OP had the right to say what she said, the gf clearly only wanted to spite her and drive home her point as a 'ahah take that' kinda way. I'd even be tempted to say that by using clown make up she was just thinking over making OP feel and look stupid for wearing make up, sort of 'see this is how you look' kinda way. Seriously, it's so obviously just petty and stupid spite in the face of OP's normal reasoning, how hard is it to see.

[@adog6495]

And her girlfriend "it was a valid form of creative expression" make it seems to be spiteful

[@faeb.9618]

@@adog6495 Yeah right??? It was definitely spiteful. Honestly I don't blame OP for having come up with that explanation at first because if they were arguing in the heat of a discussion sometimes people don't really think of what they're saying, but the gf really just clung to that to further spite OP

[@cynicalminion]

counterpoint: why are you NOT upset that your brother is OPENLY suggesting that your wife cheated on you? unless YOU don't think your son is yours, you need to tell HIM to step the hell off. the fact that your wife has to defend herself at all in this situation points out how little you trust her...

[@kirtemoon529]

Markee: “if all you eat is chicken nuggies and chicken tenders and fries, what are you doing with your life” Having a sensory problem. Usually picky eating comes from having a sensory problem like autism and it’s something that can’t be helped. In all honesty though, I’m prolly gonna be the unpopular opinion and say that OP is YTA. Her husband *did* say thank you. Sure, there was no harm in wanting your loved one to try new things; *but you were so mean about it* especially with saying he’s like a 6 year old, he’s not attractive to you, and being mean to him the day after. As someone who is a picky eater and who does have a sensory issue, I would’ve asked ‘what’s this’ too, especially with making sweet potato fries and trying to pass them off as regular potato fries. Also, she didn’t even say what the food actually *was* all she did was say “it’s your favorite meal”... girl if it was his favorite meal he would’ve recognized it.

[@Shangori]

The makeup story. Of course, bring in the patriarchy. Let's do that. Let's imagine a guy telling off his girlfriend for using makeup just 'to attract other men'. Heck, imagine him starting to wear a thong in public to 'get back' at her for wearing makeup. It's controlling af. It's childish af. And in any other case we'd be telling the girlfriend to RUN

[@knitwit9447]

56:16 As someone with what would be considered disordered eating (people always assume I'm picky but it's really reductive to call it that), I can weigh in on this. I'm autistic, and we didn't know until I was around 18. My entire life, there has been certain foods that I just can't eat. They can make me throw up because of the texture or send me into a panic attack or sensory overload. Because of that, there are things I refuse to eat for my own good. I know my limits, and people will say that eating things to be polite is a part of adult life, but they're coming from a place of ignorance with that. HOWEVER, if what OP says is true, and he only wants chicken nuggets and fries, he has very, very severe disordered eating habits. I have safe foods I eat when I'm already overwhelmed, or I get hyperfixated on a certain meal for a while, but it is never the only thing I eat for days on end. I think they're both assholes in this. She is not coming from a place of worry and wanting to help her husband. I think she just wants to find ways to aggravate him. He's an ass for just throwing away the food. If he doesn't have some sort of mental issue (or if he's not autistic, because while it is comorbid with mental illness a lot of the time, I don't think it's a mental disorder.), then he's just being stubborn and childish and is an asshole for that. This is a complicated situation and I think we aren't getting all of the information.

[@demonheart13]

I nearly choked to death because I heard the term Community Vibrator, please be aware that these words now exist together in a sentence and do not eat or drink anything while watching this video. You have been warned.

[@Krisna_K]

I wear light makeup because it makes me feel good! I don’t care what anyone else thinks!

[@lesliek3794]

Just an FYI, there are warm weather penguins around. I first saw them when I was in Las Vegas. Up until that point, I had no clue penguins could live in warmer weather climates.

[@Krisna_K]

The depression could be contributing to her poor grades. It did for me! I still battle with depression and have difficulty being motivated to do anything!

[@beegee1960]

Tell your husband’s brother that he needs to retake his high school biology class and pay attention to the chapter on genetics.

[@lorifiedler13]

Perhaps husband should go away until he is going to shut it down.