r/Relationships UPDATE Boyfriend Insisting He Will Never Stop Getting Lap Dances

[@kolonarulez5222]

Story 1: All those frequent lap dances aren't free or cheap. Break up on financial grounds if not the blatant disrespect. Personally that's something I couldn't get over.

[@LadyJoolree]

Story 1: So to round it up she's 'allowed' to feel her feelings and if/when he gets a lapdance he'll think of OP when he gets it. Riiiiiiiiiight! 1🙄

[@carolroberts4614]

Yes, that puts it all right, doesn't it!? She must be so pleased(!)

[@MaryTheresa1986]

I said the same thing when I first heard this story! I hope OP grows a spine and leaves him.

[@laraq07]

I thought the update was ridiculous.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Right? I get that people interpret sexuality/nudity differently but if your resolution is that your partner is “allowing” you to have feelings, that’s a problem

[@kristy6703]

That was my first thought. So nice of him to allow you to have feelings. And I totally believe he will limit his lap dances to maybe one or two more in his life at bachelor parties but probably not because he will think of her. And if she is ok with that, then why not let him have them all the time? Either a mostly naked woman grinding on your man is ok or its not. There is no middle ground. Set a boundary and stick to it or let it go completely.

[@guernseydonkey17]

Story 3 - Your granddad giving you most of his inheritance isn't favouritism as some say, it's him repaying your compassionate act, keep the money

[@ilbercgross4736]

You gave to him out of kindness. In his last wish/request, he too did this out of kindness. Grandfather might have thought OP would take care of his stuff better. Brother will not be happy with anything. It will never be enough.

[@fhuber7507]

1... BF needs to be single. No woman should put up with that crap.

[@AF-zx3uz]

It's one thing to have another woman grinding on my man, that's a fat no from me in any scenario. But that is also money that he is spending on another woman and not on me! Heck no.

[@karinlumm5123]

I hadn't thought about the fact he's giving money to another woman.maybe if he offered OP money she would do a lap dance for him instead?

[@em0via]

@@karinlumm5123 He wouldn't even need to pay her if she wanted to give him lap dances for free LOL he could get a lap dance at HOME if she wanted to do it.

[@Ifrit86]

Are the people ok with getting lap dances while in a monogamous relationship doing olympic-level mental gymnastics? The sheer number of backflips must be getting the gold

[@eowyn8340]

Story 1: NTA. Lap dances/strip clubs are a deal breaker for me. If I had a boyfriend who insisted on going to them, we’d have to part ways so he could find a girlfriend who can tolerate that.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: While I get there's some people/couples out there that don't mind, I'd personally be very bothered if my partner got a lap dance from someone else, and I'd _especially_ be bothered if I voiced these concerns and my partner responded with "I don't care, I'm gonna keep getting them" and I'd likely even consider ending the relationship if they were that adamant about continuing to do so even after I mention that it makes me uncomfortable. Porn is one thing, that's just something you watch. Lap dances are entirely different, you're paying to get up close and personal with someone in a sexual manner.

[@BronzeDragon133]

The amusing thing here is the second part of the story; she blew him off when he was uncomfortable with her skinny-dipping with friends, but the argument above is that's 100% OK and fine to hang around naked with other people. Even at my most abrasive, most people don't seem to be picking up on the fact that neither of these peaches are particularly ripe, nor particularly made for each other. Nor, for that matter, particularly supportable--but the gender-bias in the support is palpable. If he'd gone skinny dipping with female friends...whew! Frankly, I'd toss either back without a second thought. Both peaches are rotten to the core.

[@xarsta]

Yeah plus depending on how he plays it lapdances can give extra services that they could have like a handjob or sex or hand stuff I've gotten such by know some strippers and being a regular

[@owl7072]

@@BronzeDragon133 (clarifying real quick that I'm not saying this in an aggressive manner) 1. I think it said that she went streaking rather than skinny dipping. 2. While I agree she shouldn't have blown off his concerns, I think the difference and why people didn't focus too much on that is that streaking is just running around naked, there's no touching or anything inherently sexual about it, you're just running around without clothes on, whereas lap dances are nothing _but_ touching and sexual acts and, if you pay enough money, can lead to something more intense which is where the concern comes in. Both parties have got some things they need to work on but I think Op's was a one time thing whereas his occurs on a semi regular basis.

[@BronzeDragon133]

@@owl7072 I'm still going with "No winners here." She's certainly real comfortable taking her knickers off around others while telling her boyfriend he can't see others with their knickers still on (since strippers do keep something on). And somehow, I think this is just the one time she got caught. In this case, the goose can keep her knickers and knots in place if she wants the gander to stay home on Friday nights. I don't see either happening, and I don't think we're hearing even half the entire story on either side here. But I'm getting real tired of everybody constantly defending some random woman stripping naked with friends.

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@BronzeDragon133 nudity isn’t inherently sexual. Lapdances are. I can see why there is a problem if she chose to do that without taking into consideration how her bf would feel because people view nudity differently, and she was wrong for not talking to him about it. But it’s not a gender bias thing.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 3: can we appreciate how granddad basically pulled the ultimate Uno reverse card. If that makes any sense? OP threaten to never talk to granddad again if he paid back the money, but he did via his will.

[@dianakosianka5344]

I get the feeling it wasn't the lottery money itself that put her in his good graces, but her care and generosity

[@jadedflames2809]

OP: pay me back and I won't talk to you Grandpa: *Ultimate Malicious Compliance*

[@itazuranakisu]

Since he’s now just plans on lap dances at bachelor parties OP can do the same at bachelorette parties even if she doesn’t do the act itself he can’t object. Though he thinks skinny dipping with people equates to lap dances where only lap dances always have sexual intentions from a stripper whereas skinny dipping can be done with friends platonically. Personally I don’t see the point of lap dances without following through to the next step then again I don’t get them from strippers.

[@aikikaname6508]

Story 1: Sooo… when she does something non sexual involving nudity (streaking) she has to stop no questions asked… but when she asks him to stop getting lap dances (inherently sexual) , when she asks him to stop first he doubles down and says he’ll get more in retaliation. Then their compromise, this treaty Of Versailles, is she’s ‘allowed’ to feel her feelings without mockery and he gives a vague suggestion he’ll get lapdances but LESS (which means nothing tangible). This is really bad. He knows (and feels entitled to) he can shut down anything close to outside sexual contact for HER, giving him the security he can shut it down, while she has to put up with outside sexual expression for and he doesn’t have to give anything. They’ve created a double sexual standard for both, and he’s gonna feel free to push boundaries knowing he’s never gonna have to tolerate the equivalent from het

[@thedestroyasystem]

You phrased things perfectly. This is a bad relationship.

[@technicaldifficulties368]

I would tell him that I'm going to get lapdances from men at strip clubs. If he gets upset about it he's being a dick and he knows it

[@BronzeDragon133]

No! Both refuse to do either for the other, but this place screams in support of her running around naked with friends, but demand that he stop keeping his clothes on around half-clothed women. That's the facts here. The relationship seems to be crap, but the response is toxic beyond belief.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

“Chef’s kiss” I wish yt had awards for comments. I honstly saw it as they both had valid points and just needed to talk it out but holly sh*t your right.

[@devchekhov7512]

Story 1: I understand that people have certain drives to varying degrees, but there are acceptable and unacceptable means of addressing them. I don't buy the idea that if OP's bf got a lapdance he would only be thinking of OP. If he was thinking of OP he wouldn't get the freaking lapdance lol

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. If he's thinking of OP, why isn't he getting the lapdance *from* OP. And he won't stop on "the principle of the matter?" What the hell?

[@BohemianScandalous]

Wow OP 1 is a doormat.

[@rai1578]

Story 2: The whole time I was thinking "This should be talked about, but there is still a possibility that it's entirely consensual and the mom already knows". I'm so glad I was right. It's an awkward thing to learn about your parents, but at least OP knows that their parents marriage is safe, and their parents love and respect each other.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Right? Swingers was my first thought. Both married, both neighbors, and it seems really dumb for a cheater to keep photo evidence on their phone lol. Glad things worked out.

[@iris5678]

When the OP told how close the couples were, I immediately thought "swingers."

[@fytrndm]

Yup, they are all married, neighbours and good relationship. I thought this is likely a swinger situation and I'm laughing my arse off at the update. Can't say it wouldn't be awkward if I was in OP's position though. Though, yeah, it could've gone the other way as well since we never know. Just glad they're just all consenting adults having fun.

[@MamieBabi]

Swinging was definitely what I thought, especially when op said they are all friends and often have dinner together.

[@jas1007]

Glad I'm not the only one who felt that vibe. Embarassing for the kid to find out, but good on em if they can make it work.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 1: OP is NTA for discussing her reservations about her BF getting intimate contact from other women. I wonder what he'd say if she found a male review and paid for lap dances from way better looking men than him. She should go have a girls' night out to one of those places. See if he objects and just tell him than what's good for the gander is also good for the goose. This sounds like OP is on a different level of relationship and respect than her BF and it may mean she's incompatible with him and should cut her losses now than keep dating a man who will never change.

[@fcold9402]

If she was the type that enjoy such things she can just make a point to sit on all his friends laps at every opportunity.

[@TriXJester]

Story 2: This is like the first time I've seen a "Plot Twist: Theyre Swingers" ending in one of the cheating stories. Wild

[@Pocoentertainmentstudio]

Can we even count this as a cheating story

[@heathermiller5765]

@@Pocoentertainmentstudio When all parties give consent I think it’s safe to assume they’re not 😊

[@michaelwest2141]

If I learned that both of my parents, not just one of them, were having sex with other partners, I don’t think I’d be relieved. I’d probably feel worse. Just me, though.

[@Evibbles]

Honestly I almost feel like that would be more awkward for the kid than of dad was cheating 🤣 "no he isn't cheating on me, we just like to fuck the neighbors"

[@somedragonbastard]

@@Evibbles what a way to find out, huh.. no chance for the parents to explain what was going on in a normal way, just "...yeah we're uh. we're swingers. and seeing the neighbors."

[@shhd2105]

Story 1: “I can’t get mad at him bc we didn’t discuss it before” um no they’re are certain things you know not to do once you become exclusive. That’s like saying “well since we didn’t discuss sleeping outside the relationship before I can’t get mad if he did it”, where’s the logic? You already know! The update is NOT a compromise, nothing changed he manipulated her into thinking it’s ok and she’s seems to just take whatever he says to keep him. he’s still getting what he wants, having his cake and eating it too.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah, I mean, lapdancing is basically dry humping! Sometimes it isn't even dry!

[@catandrobbyflores]

Let the guy have his lap dances but let him know hes going to be single if he keeps doing it.

[@pipr5070]

Story 1. OP time to walk away from this disrespectful jerk

[@LadyLabyrinth1337]

Story 1: girl he is waving all his red flags for you, take them for what they are and RUN

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Story 3: OP's granddad is a genius. "If you pay me back, I'll never speak to you again." "Okay, I'll pay you back after I'm dead." Ignore the brother. He's a pinecone.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Just picturing the pinecone 😅

[@MaryTheresa1986]

@@kerribottriell-baxter7345 😂😂

[@heathermiller5765]

“Who lives in a pinecone under the sea?” 😁 Lol sorry I had to…

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

@@heathermiller5765 😂😂😂 Spungebob Squarepants

[@heathermiller5765]

@@kerribottriell-baxter7345 Had the song stuck in my head for a while after I wrote that lol 😄

[@Lahk1]

Story 1: next time he's with his buddies, start giving his friends lap dances.

[@janet6421]

My thoughts exactly. What is ok for him to do is ok for her to do.

[@3Augustin3]

That's wrong, it's not her friends grinding on him

[@Lahk1]

@@3Augustin3 sorry, I meant to type give lap dances to his friends while maintaining eye contact with him to assert dominance. My apologies.

[@erikahammer4337]

Story one This young lady needs to learn the differences between boundaries and rules, this isn't a boundary.

[@fcold9402]

1. Gosh, your allowed to have feelings? How magnanimous of him. So when is the next time you are going streaking? You can do it one or two more times, or you know whenever you and your buddies feel like it. Tell lapdance boy he is allowed to have feelings about it and you will be thinking of him.....oh wait, all of that requires a spine, my bad.

[@oakenshadow6763]

Seeing the background wobble made me laugh. >XD 3:56 Story 3: Grandad was a lad of great humor. His last joke would've made me laugh so much. The fact no one else helped him means they deserve nothing. You earn inheritance, you do not deserve it.

[@roelthas]

That last story, I agree OP can't win, even though she's in the right, the resentment is gonna be there. I bet grandpa didn't see that one coming.😅

[@SilentDecepticon]

1: So he'll continue to get lap dances but he'll think of her the entire time so it's okay. Wow what the hell. OP needs to stop being a doormat.

[@diddykitty746]

My cat, who was previously just laying on the blankets on my bed, decided to get on top of the shirts I was laying out to hang up. I was like "ahaha nope :D" and scooped him up and put him back on the blanket

[@theshaddowedsnow6838]

That brother wanting the granddad's money is horrible.

[@JUMALATION1]

I absolutely agree. However, this sparked a VERY morbid thought in my brain: my paternal granddad is in long-term hospital care at age 95 and my paternal grandparents aren't exactly poor from what I have gathered. I do NOT look forward to the day they eventually unfortunately pass and my very competitive paternal side of the family (mainly my uncles, my dad is a good guy) will eventually fight over inherited money, yeesh. It will become a nasty story.

[@theshaddowedsnow6838]

@@JUMALATION1 ooooof I'm so sorry you'll have to deal with that :/

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

3- NTA the money would’ve not gone to him anyways. Op give the money to their grandpa to retire early which allowed him in turn to give op more money. If op didn’t help him out then their grandpa would’ve not had that much money to give to their children and grandchildren.

[@brigidtheirish]

Yeah. OP's brother is just being greedy and selfish. Bet there were other reasons for grandpa favoring OP over the brat.

[@dirtfan4754]

I wasn’t expecting swingers, I kinda thought more they were dating together, but I’m counting this as an “i called this”

[@KE-hr4sb]

Story 3: I love how you gave your family "a tidy sum" and they're mad at you because granddad gave you the bulk of his inheritance. How many handouts do your family (especially your brother) expect? Ultimately, this is what your grandfather wanted, to show kindness with kindness. Your brother could have learned something from him if he wasn't too busy holding out his hand.

[@ItachiUchiha-sh6of]

Op did break the first and most important rule you must follow when you win the lottery. Don't tell anyone you won the lottery. it never ends well.

[@KE-hr4sb]

@@ItachiUchiha-sh6of Although sometimes (depending on the amount) you may end up on the news. But yes, I agree!

[@ItachiUchiha-sh6of]

@@KE-hr4sb dang I forgot about that. I think it depends on the state but I think in some states you don't have a choice. Not sure why that's a thing.

[@samdiel5527]

Mark, your chuckle at the unexpected twist in story 2 really sold it! So adorable! Thanks for brightening up my day today. I needed it. ❤ 💙 💜 😁

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 1 - I'm not a relationship expert but a lap dance seems dangerously close to cheating, IMO. BF seems to equate OP not "letting" get lap dances with not "letting" him go out with friends, which I think is BS. They are two very different things. 8:10 - I can't help thinking, "Oh, wow! She's allowed to feel her emotions?! How magnanimous of him!"

[@brandi5126]

Oh wow look at that! Cooler heads prevail when you can sit down and talk about your boundaries. As for me, I am not a fan of clubs or lap dances so I wouldn’t want to be with someone so casual about that since I am not personally.

[@katiesmith2031]

I think he only said what she wanted to hear when her back is turned he will be straight back to the lap dances

[@brandi5126]

@@katiesmith2031 maybe. But it seems he also confessed he would have one or two more lap dances so I guess she is ok with that now.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

I wouldn't be surprised if the boyfriend was cheating on her.

[@als2480]

I'm poly and wasn't expecting that twist ending

[@Russman67]

Story 2: Wow! This wasn't just a swinger story. This was a swinger story where everybody knew they were swinging. That's a damn near wholesome! Go OP's parents!

[@gaaraxnaru]

Isn't that usually the case though? If both partners aren't consenting to the swinging, then it's just cheating.

[@SaruCharmed]

I so called it on the swingers thing. Also so glad that communication saved the day in a wholesome way in story 1.

[@wendyhadley2764]

Story one. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩.

[@mk_gamíng0609]

Story 1: Hes 100% still gonna get them. The part where he said he WILL still get maybe a couple more lap dances just struck me Its like a smoker going " Only 2 more" and 2 more turns into 10 and 10 turns into 20

[@HectoGames]

One could look at story 1 from the perspective of "if he gets this for free every day from the girl he loves, why does he pay others to do the same thing (but only because he paid them)? " is it innocent? Does he not thing op is good enough? Does he enjoy knowing that having money means he holds power over other peoples bodies? Id be outta there.

[@HectoGames]

To me, its more okay for my partner to want an open relationship than wanting to pay for peoples bodies. Just something about the fact that money and therefore transactions/"ownership" is involved.

[@WindySilver]

Story 2: Man, I was holding my breath when the update started; I was expecting a complete mess. What a relief that things turned to be fine!

[@missymeakin6945]

Story 1: just want to say this. How would he feel if you got lap dances from men?

[@JasperCatProductions]

Your grandfather did the right thing, take your inheritance and go to school. You wasted a ton of money helping everyone but yourself. Your brother isn’t owed anything.

[@Pastel_Dreams]

2nd Story: Called it! 🤪 Listening to the story and kept thinking what are the odds that the Op's parents were swingers/in an open relationship?

[@bryanklar305]

I was thinking that it was more of the same thing

[@heathermiller5765]

Never crossed my mind honestly lol

[@dracawyn]

Story 1: I'm dealing with issues to this one with my husband. I see certain behaviors as highly inappropriate and even bothering cheating but, because he sees nothing wrong with them, he's put his foot down also "on principal" and has gotten angry with me when I try to bring up the issues. What I see as trying to establish my boundaries, he sees as being controlling. And because he thinks it's controlling instead of a healthy boundary, he can't "give in to my demands on principal." I suspect OP's boyfriend is feelingly similarly and is also afraid of it becoming a slippery slope (which is a logical fallacy). My husband and I are in couples therapy trying to work this out and I think OP and her S.O. would probably need a therapist to help sort this out too. OP feels betrayed by his behavior and feels like her feelings are unimportant to him. He's worried this is a sign of controlling, manipulative behavior because he doesn't understand or agree with her concerns. It really helps to have a qualified mediator to help deal with this kind of situation.

[@katwiltz1134]

Story 1 i applaud your efforts to help your partner to see it from your perspective using examples that were missing any recriminations in your use of them. Bravo! Hard to do! Even harder with such grace where once ego lurked!❤

[@goddessrick8734]

She should've broke up immediately and still should. If you have to explain to your partner why someone else shouldn't twerk on their genitials the relationship is over.

[@adrianaaab436]

I kind of suspected the parents were swingers or it was fully consensual. I’m surprised there weren’t more comments saying the mom might already know. I thought the mom might be okay with it since the OP says what good friends they are with the other family. In any case I’m glad it was a positive ending!

[@aleksandarbradaric4925]

7:27 Sympathizing with HIM?

[@janicewilcox8590]

Don't give your brother any money. FFS he's ridiculous.

[@LadyDragon11135]

Omg I actually expected it to be a similar situation for story 2 😶 Either an open relationship situation or both partners included with the neighbor

[@momotaro1236]

Story 1: NTA lap dances are explicitly sexual hanging out with friends isn’t.

[@MageMalice]

Story 1. Bruh y’all are thinking small. Since he’s okay with rubbing his bits against a strangers in a sexual way then he shouldn’t mind if she does too. Go give strangers lap dances for money and see if he minds. He shouldn’t right? I mean it’s JUST a lap dance after all?

[@telinhajp]

Hi Mark! Wish you a great, fun, and happy vacation week! ❤️

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark hope you are having a wonderful time.. Stay safe please.. PEACE

[@charlesjohnson9034]

Favoritism in this situation was earned by your kindness and love towards your grandfather. What kind of relationship did your brother have with grandpa? Bet he didn't have a great relationship with him.

[@sweetloutstea1688]

That girl In story one makes me sad she Is being cheated on right In front of her face and she still wants him poor thing.

[@Tammohawk1]

1. Wonder how boyfriend would feel if OP started giving lap dances? Many women would have a problem w/their man being that intimate w/another woman. For him to disregard that is very disrespectful if you ask me. 2. OP needs to show her mom those pictures. If he is sleeping around like that, she deserves to know. There are std's to think about and the entire deception issues. Husband and I met some people who were "swingers" and we had a feeling they were trying to get us involved w/them. We let them know in a subtle way that we weren't interested! Ewww.... lol 3. OP put her life on hold so she could help her grandfather retire instead of working himself to the bone. To get upset w/OP is stupid, she didn't leave herself the money, Grandpa did. No one is entitled to an inheritance, and to expect someone to leave you money is acting entitled.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@carolroberts4614]

Hi Broken! Hope you're well and having fun!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@carolroberts4614 you too m8, much love🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@camwyn256]

You can't tell me what to do! But in all seriousness, thank you and you too

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@camwyn256 lol and thanks m8🤗🤗💜💜

[@vernell2601]

Hope you had a good weekend

[@momotaro1236]

Story 3: It wasn’t done as a joke, it was done to show how he still loved and wanted to support you but didn’t want to cut off your relationship.

[@Trijem]

Yep, I considered the 'Swinger' possibility before the update. I'm glad it was a mutual understanding and not a cheat check. Not my choice of a lifestyle. 🐾🐺🐾

[@charlesjohnson9034]

Swingers? Wow, I really don't know what I'd do in this situation. I'd have lost some respect and view their marriage in a different right. Our relationship would never be the same.

[@nossac1]

It's time for Magic Mike! Get on stage with the male dancers and enjoy the fun

[@maggpiprime954]

Haha! I was totally thinking "OP's parents are swingers!" Didn't expect to be right! 🤣

[@Evibbles]

That plot twist in story 2 🤣 "no sweetie dad isn't cheating, we just like to fool around with other people" god that would have been an awkward talk

[@jennstewart3003]

Story 3: give him something with a contract that says he is never to speak you again and that you will never give him any more money or items. Like actually ever.

[@emijliastarovic8524]

I was definitely not expecting that ending for story 2 lol….

[@goofygoofymf]

I wouldn't feel comfortable if my man got a lap dance, but he also isn't the type to do that sort of thing. I really hope the good ending in story 1 remains, because they are both based if they can approach it rationally and stick with it

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - OP is not in a real relationship, imo. She is shacking up with some dude who; goes on weekends trips (apparently without HER), has 'bro time' (guessing that is with his guy friends only), seems to go to a large number of bachelor parties, AND gets lap dances regularly. This misogynist is living the single, frat boy lifestyle with a piece at home to get some from if the other sources don't work out. I feel bad for OP and some day she might realize to recognize the warning signs before getting attached to someone like this.

[@Cell287]

Story 2: that ending was what I suspected

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 thanks m8🤗🤗💜💜

[@queenofthebathhousesluts7750]

no

[@karinlumm5123]

@Broken.. I'm still waiting for you to come and carry out your threat😉. Hope you are doing well and taking care of yourself. Much love x

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@karinlumm5123 lol and you too m8, hope you are well, much love💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@TarisLuna]

Story 2 For some reason I thought that the parents could have an open relationship since the father did not seem to care too much about his phone being locked / in someoneelses hands.

[@81babyruthluv]

Story 1: sounds exactly like my first relationship in my young 20s. I ended up dumping that dude, we were together for 5 years too lol. But he had no respect for me. Please dump this guy, I wished I had dumped my first boyfriend so much sooner than I did. Ahhh young love....giving excuses for the crappy behavior of men in their 20s. I wish girls like this could just see the relationship for what it is - a good first practice relationship, and that they will meet much better people in the future, people who don't go to freakin strip clubs. But, I guess you have to be the one to decide, nothing anyone says will change your mind. (btw, it turned out my boyfriend started cheating on me eventually too...just saying).

[@potatodatbean]

3:42"Wrong sub reddit mark!!"👌🏻

[@Silence-1170]

Happy Evening to You all! Hope Sunday is going well for you.

[@lewischase]

Good evening Mark Hi everyone

[@moonbear5929]

Story 2: I did not expect that outcome! I was going to say, that if it were me, I would tell the "Other Women" to start driving her own damn car to work and leave my father alone or word and pictures about their affair WILL get out!

[@gelibeanzcantrell7192]

i was not expecting that ending in story 2 🤣😅🤣😅

[@badkitty4922]

Woohoo!! Only 2 minutes after upload! I'm getting better at this on time thing! Lmao!! Much Love, everyone.

[@queen_of_flatulence]

Hello beautiful person!

[@carolroberts4614]

Me too! Only 6 minutes in!

[@katiesmith2031]

Hope you are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@badkitty4922]

@@queen_of_flatulence Hello, sweetie!😘💖

[@badkitty4922]

@@carolroberts4614 Yayyy!😘💖👍

[@a.b.2850]

Totally saw the swinging thing come even before the end of the post.

[@lina9535]

Story 2: I mean good on OP for finding that evidence. However, why do people snoop through other peoples stuff like this? It's ridiculous.

[@queen_of_flatulence]

Hello beautiful people!!!

[@katiesmith2031]

Mark thanks for the video hope you and poppy are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Sleep well m8 much love 🤗🤗💜💜

[@katiesmith2031]

@@broken_queer_but_fighting8589 thank you broken I will. Hope you are having a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 thanks m8 much love 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@dottiepacheco54981]

Strip joints, porn, and lap dances made me divorce my husband of 18 and a half years

[@divedweller4295]

Story 1 - Isn't what he was doing basically 'cheating lite' (No risk of disease!) and simply stomping on his partner's wishes and dignity? He's just disrespecting her, nothing to do with 'control', full stop. Glad a good discussion could solve it. Story 2 - The 'fiddling with father's phone and opened the trash' part is worrying, but otherwise sounds like everything's gravy.

[@Buff_Helpy]

Don't worry Mark, I kind of read AITA so much I have to stop saying NTA to.

[@bangeryun94]

The boyfriend mentioned bachelor parties. OP should have taken this as a clue. He's not stopping because he's getting more than lap dances

[@theplaintech]

Life is fair; the universe is actually pretty generous; it's people that aren't fair.

[@chulutheimposter5415]

Hello Mark!! How are you doing tonight? I hope all is well and I wish you a great night!!

[@stephenlundy5082]

Story 2: LOL, as soon as I started listening to this story, I wondered, hey what if the parents are swingers? There just didn't seem to be that underlying sense of neglect or bad feelings that you get from a relationship on the rocks.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Story 3: I wonder if the amount of money OP received from her grandpa’s inheritance was equal to what she gave him from her lottery winnings. If so, he was making sure she got her money back and her brothers didn’t get their hands on her money. If was hers, not theirs!

[@alr3764]

oh wow, story 1 was 9 years ago. i wonder how she's doing almost a decade later

[@dash9641]

The moment I heard of taking a picture with the two and the dad having it saved I was like, "Oh the mom totally knows. He probably has it saved for for his wife's enjoyment, I'm 100% sure they swing." Lo and behold, I was right.

[@Flotton]

Much love you all

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

[@katiesmith2031]

Hope you have a wonderful evening goodnight and sweet dreams

[@Flotton]

@@katiesmith2031 you too Katie!! enjoy the evening!

[@katiesmith2031]

@@Flotton thank you I will

[@wheelsndealz]

Story 2. Yeeeah, I was gonna say, if he does confront the situation, be prepared for it to be that they have an open marriage. Based on how happy and loving they seemed to be, I was guessing it was gonna be that situation. So funny how convinced people were that he was a terrible guy and all that shit. Talking like they knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is doing something wrong and that he was wrong, etc.

[@anelbegic2780]

Open relations, though it not apply to swingers nearly as much, are nit common so i'm not suprised honestly. This is more of a problem where a couple have an un-ussual relationship that is *not the norm* therefore people assume cheating naturally.

[@ivy4104]

Eyooo, have a good night everyone!

[@lina9535]

Can I be disapproving of OP for the emotional manipulation of their granddad? Because that's just an AH move, regardless of how kind of a gesture it was. He said no. It's a legit answer.

[@mriddley]

Story 1: so if you go to a male strip club and get a dance it's all good right?

[@michal31131]

Only if the partner is aware and consents, which is almost never...

[@KisameOwnsYouAll]

s1 update; lol doormat

[@itjustmemanning8441]

Hey Mark 👋 it's nice to hear you branch out on your reddit posts. But I gotta tell ya that I can't listen to anyone else reading am I the A hole! Your the best ❤