“Alpha Male” Pick-Up Artist Admits to Assaulting Women in his Books

[@RachelOates]

So, fun fact about this guy: He's now turned fundie and is preaching all the typical fundie misogyny instead! Let me know if you'd like me to cover this (still harmful but different) more recent content / books from him!

[@vanira-01]

I'd like you to cover it!

[@SageK253]

So, he just gets more and more reactionary the more he gets rejected by women? Got it. I'd love to hear more about it lol

[@warlordofbritannia]

After all that premarital sex and fornication, I can't help but figure hell is his ultimate destination--isn't lust the second of the seven deadly sins?

[@maltie123]

Omg that is terrifying, yes cover it!!

[@bennienthejet89]

Yes plz!

[@r.t.7288]

The reason video game manuals are written better than this is because the people writing those actually like video games

[@RachelOates]

Excellent point!

[@Tarumarugan]

Bars 🔥

[@heddelinpralin1481]

That’s… such a solid fucking point..

[@tjenadonn6158]

Oof.

[@d.on.in.a]

Absolute genius

[@lutheranninja1819]

I am uncomfy with him only referring to women as "girls." his obsession with petite women is a bad combination with his choice of language. Younger women are also more vulnerable and easy to manipulate by these men gross

[@Li8aGun92]

Red flag for a guy when he monstly dates women that are like half his age. I geniunely think that a 40-year-old telling a 20-year-old "she's so mature for her age" that he's trying to groom her, even if she's a legal adult, it's still sus.

[@Li8aGun92]

Also: Keep in mind this guy wanted to legalize rape and then backpaddle "it's just a prank bro"-style.

[@magdajabonska537]

@@Li8aGun92 I'm going to go even further and say that 30 year olds who go mostly after 20-23 year olds are usually terrible people as well, in my experience. Not to mention anyone 25 or over who goes after 18 year old and 40 year olds who go after 24-27 year olds as well (the last category might be least bad of those, because at least those women tend to be fully past adolescence and have developed prefrontal cortex or something, but still)

[@Li8aGun92]

@@magdajabonska537 I mostly agree. The 30-year-olds who go after girls that young are not interested in a serious, relationship. They just want control and sex.

[@tiana4102]

That's because they want girls aged 18-21 to take advantage of, not grown women who know their game.

[@truebrew2004]

Ok this is horrific, but calling your own anatomy a “veiny monster” and thinking that’s sexy is the funniest thing I’ve heard in a while. Dude, I’ve read fanfic for fun since I was 12, and yet that is still the most awkwardly overdramatic way I’ve ever heard someone’s junk described.

[@indigotrails353]

The way my whole body cringed, the fact he genuinely believes that’s attractive to others, omg blegh

[@sadrabbit53]

That is similar to how I, a sex-repulsed ace, would describe myself if I had such genitalia 😂😂

[@gachasins699]

HAHA NO BUT SERIOUSLY, it totally comes off as a weird name for genitalia that you might see in a fanfiction lmao

[@laurynholling2309]

Even Stephen king pulls off sex scenes or even taunting with graphic language from a villain that never made me cringe like this guy did 😂

[@wickjezek1101]

As a woman on the autism spectrum I had to learn the hard way that I'm easy to take advantage of. After studying psychology, body language, and the behavior of these "alpha males" I've been able to be more discerning. Thankfully I now have an amazing, sensitive sweet partner.

[@visarathiel]

We may be strangers but I am so happy for you!!

[@icravedeath.1200]

I still don't yet.

[@wickjezek1101]

@@icravedeath.1200 If you have a friend who is a good judge of character run possible partners by them. Then ask what they saw. It's been incredibly helpful.

[@icravedeath.1200]

@@wickjezek1101 I don't have any close friends.

[@wickjezek1101]

@@icravedeath.1200 That does make it harder. I've seen some Facebook groups that help those of us who have been victims or are susceptible to it or have trouble discerning good from bad people. I also learned a lot about narcissistic behavior I can pick the pattern out a mile away. Whatever your main method of learning and retaining information can be applied to people. It takes time and practice and isn't foolproof of course.

[@generaldreagonlps6889]

These books do help my confidence for when I ever decide to start dating. I may be socially awkward but at least I know how to behave like a normal human being. Dating always sounds difficult but with people like this guy walking around it does make me feel better about myself.

[@BigTylt]

Part of the reason dating is difficult is because of people like Roosh V.

[@Zulf85]

If/When you do decide to start dating, I hope that it's the beginning of many happy relationships of all kinds! It can be difficult to find your match, but I promise you'll come to learn and love a lot in time.

[@belstar1128]

Yea his ideas are so bad it makes me feel like a genius.

[@megdutton7327]

had us in the first half 😅

[@TheSpearkan]

That's odd because I have the opposite feeling because, as a man, I never feel it a good idea to approach a woman I see in a venue, even if I'm interested in knowing her as a person because I default to "She'll think I'm a predator."

[@informationyes]

What really irks me is these type of men will boast about high body counts while at the same time complain about woman having high body counts like you literally cant have one without the other its not just hypocracy but cognotive dissonance

[@dakotamabry1645]

Was always intimidated by men who bragged about having sex all the time , even having some attraction towards them I would be hesitant to date them because of how in experience I was .. I feel better learning with someone .

[@belstar1128]

"high body counts" are lame anyway its much better to stay with someone who knows what you like.

[@TheSpearkan]

Not to mention their rather icky defence of Keys Vs Locks

[@frownyclowny6955]

“High body count” sounds like something a murderer would take pride in lol

[@DM-nw5lu]

belstar It's safer, too. That being said, everyone can do what they want so long as they stay safe and everyone is consenting.

[@Acidfunkish]

I don't know how someone can be like, "I'm going to PRETEND to be friends with her in the hopes of wearing her down in order to sleep with me!" And somehow, she's the villain? LMAO. Dude, get a grip. All SHE has done "wrong" is saying she doesn't want to sleep with you. She was honest, and let you down easily. But she still wants to be friends with you, if you're okay with that. How horrible..? Really, dude. How do you not see the reality of this?

[@hokiturmix]

It is not a pretend. The mechanics is if you got friend zoned you can "show her" that you are the one. You stay in friend zone to convince her that you are loyal. Genuine interest without knowing how bad this is for you. It prevents you to find a girl who have romantic interest in you. You can be in love with a girl who friend zoned you. Then you find no other choice to stay. Or become a man and say no. Another thing you can do is, you say that for me the friend zone is a torture. Please only meet if with romantic interest. People need to understand the difference in between the nice guy or a good guy. Not to mention how many girls friend zone you to be their backup plan or an emotional tampon .... Woman who just want your attention for validation but gives you nothing only empty hope.

[@Acidfunkish]

@@hokiturmix Hey, guess what: you are the problem.

[@picklejuice2]

@@hokiturmix you aren’t “genuinely interested” in her if she tells you how she feels and what she wants and you ignore all of that and continue to stay around in hopes of her changing her mind. That’s not respecting her. That’s trying to manipulate her.

[@hokiturmix]

@@picklejuice2 The responsibility of the stronger to say NO! Woman won't hurt your feelings. It is rare to find a woman who can "hartlesly" face you with the facts. Also woman can see if you want them. Only girls will keep you hooked. If you see a sign of a boy who want more than friends but you not, then KEEP AWAY FROM HIM. So fuckin full of damaged girls who want validation or put you in the fridge as a back up. It is not nuclear science Just watch how many girls post selfies sometimes daily.... beta male orbiters liking them like crazy. So many beta males who never learn. Hoping for a pierce. They will never know the highest price they can earn in life is their own true self! Same amount of females exist who uses males as males who using females.

[@hokiturmix]

@@picklejuice2 Also confusing weak behavior with direct manipulation when in fact woman manipulates men all the time.

[@brettmarlar4154]

All of these books need to be retitled "How To Disappoint Women, End Up In Prison and On a Register".

[@kaihiroku8495]

"I have mommy issues" would work too probably.

[@BigTylt]

"Speedrunning Sex Assault Charges: A Guide"

[@chelseaandthebirds]

@@kaihiroku8495 hey, I have mommy issues and I’m not like this fucker. Then again, I’m also a woman.

[@TeresatheTruthSeeker]

Best comment on this topic!! You Made my day!

[@RainWelsh]

“Of course the sex was awful, *you* were involved” Brutal, I adore it. The alpha/beta stuff really bothers me, because not only is it only applicable to manufactured wolf packs, it’s not even a constant across them. With that one Yellowstone pack they created as a reintroduction experiment, the biggest, strongest wolf ended up as the omega. The alpha wolf was smaller and, as far as anyone could tell, got to be alpha because of his sheer Dad Energy. He was smart, caring, and calm in a crisis. The beta wolf, in that pack, was the big strong enforcer, who still wasn’t throwing his weight around the whole time, because again, he was confident in his own self. Like, if you’re going to cite an unnatural situation and pretend that a) applies universally, and b) even applies to an animal which has largely lost any instincts it might have had, replacing them with rational thoughts (you know, like, uh, what are they called… oh yeah, humans), what qualifies that one unnatural situation over all the others? Halfwits. Also love how guys like this always act like getting a random woman in a club to sleep with them is them somehow tricking her into letting him ‘win’ or whatever. No, dude, homegirl just wanted an itch scratch and you obliged. Also also, exclusively calling grown women ‘girls’, and then picturing what they looked like as a child while having sex with them? Telling on himself a little there, eh?

[@orangeismyfavoritecolor]

Yeah, that last point is _especially_ creepy.

[@LeonCouch]

I just find it strange that this group in the so-called "man-o-sphere" treat dating kind of like hunting rabbits, without much recognition that the women ("girls") are actually human beings: Probably most of their mothers and sisters were also women. If it weren't for the social effects of it, it would be interesting to investigate how their theorizing and categorizing are kind of like doing sports statistics and other traditionally-male pursuits, but applied to dating. It does seem like most of them have a very passing knowledge of science but are running with a statement or idea they ran into briefly, in a kind of unrealistic "logical headspace" nearly apart from human nature or with a pseudo-scientific collection of experiements supporting theories. Another thing I haven't yet seen but imagine does exist is the application of this sort way of thinking of pursuing sex to gay relationships. I haven't seen women nor transmales do it online in any explicit way, which is also interesting.

[@katrinam6795]

Also bonobos, closer related to us than wolfs, just habe everyone sleep with everyone

[@rubatozis]

also, a lot, and i mean A LOT of animals, including primates like us, are matriarchs, not patriarchs

[@resir9807]

Doesn't simply the oldest wolf usually lead the pack? So I guess a true alpha just... waits till he gets old

[@aye.p]

I can't believe this 'person' has been published. He should be in jail!!!! I'm a therapist, I have heard many survivors whose lives were detroyed by these predators. There are too many out there, but listen to this disgusing being bragging about It it' s just another level. Thank you for bringing this topic on the table, r@pe culture in a nutshell. Hugs from Argentina.🤗

[@LeonCouch]

@Ghost I'm sorry to hear this. It sounds a horrific experience with long-lasting effects.

[@clownrat5759]

@GhostGun Darling please do find yourself a better situation, you deserve more than everything you’ve gotten so far.

[@oliviabean8264]

@GhostGun Ugh, googled the fucker and found a recent video of them giving "life advice". Reminds me to much of the musician in my town who did that shit to me. In the case of him his reputation has been going down rapidly since my mom and a few others have taken to speaking out. Saw NOTHING about the shit he did to you or his ex wife when googling him. Something has to change there, I understand if your not in a good enough space to deal with that shit on your own but it might be worth reaching out to other victims.

[@FocusedFighter777]

According to many toxic men, r@ep culture doesnt exist. Misogyny doesnt either. YET everyday they prove it all exists, all too well.

[@noname-ur4gr]

I love how he thinks that every woman only wants to talk about fashion, gossip and cooking? Also, today I went on a walk in a T-shirt and shorts and there were two men looking up and down at me and they approached me and I hate it so much when it happens 🙃 I'm only a bit jealous because of their confidence 😅 Also, his definition of sex sounds terrible and I feel so bad for every single one of the women. Also, I can't believe that someone would voluntarily admit to having raped multiple women... And does he know that masturbation exists? He didn't have to sleep with an aching erection

[@barbieblues7639]

Try a little trick when you're approached by creeps or other guys that give you bad vibes - it's always worked in every situation I've tried: bark at them like a dog, making the ugliest craziest faces you can, then laugh in a deep throaty way. If they persist, use pepper spray.

[@noname-ur4gr]

@@barbieblues7639 usually I don't make eye contact and just walk by as fast as possible without running... those two gave up then, but I'm gonna remember that for the future!

[@saturngirl3748]

@@noname-ur4gr agreed I'm not going to stir them up if I don't have to usually I just say, "Sorry I don't have any change!" Then I keep walking.

[@noname-ur4gr]

@@saturngirl3748 oh, that's a good one as well!

[@Raz.C]

"Aching erections" are one of those things that guys lie to girls about to trick them into pity-sex. You'd have to have an erection for more than 2 hours to suffer any ill effects from it and even then, it's more "discomforting" than "painful."

[@monicavalladares4356]

I don’t want this book banned. It’s useful education for teenage girls- this is what rape actually often looks like, not some stranger leaping out of the shrubbery at night. Wish I had been warned back in 2010, but I can do better for my daughters.

[@edwardzignot2681]

Proud "emotional tampon" here. I've had a female bestie for 17 years, we talk every day. I feel pretty confident saying my life filled with friendship is richer than this man's "life" of meaningless sex. I'm an ace though, so what do I know.

[@regs3941]

I'm a cis het woman and I come to the realisation that it's better to only date men, who have at least one female close friend. Any guy, who has not, is very likely to have a crappy opinion about women and will likely treat me as subhuman, once we're in a relationship.

[@KreeZafi]

@@regs3941 This has become a rule for me too. I don't trust men who aren't friends with women

[@akiluckyakilucky7524]

@@regs3941 ohhh true! I love guys who can have healthy relationships with women without trying to get into their pants once or overly flirting. As long as that girl isnt enabling his bad habits and that's why he's friends with her...

[@omaralkayal7598]

@@akiluckyakilucky7524 It’s very rare Their can never be a relationship of “ friendship “ between a man and a women like if a guy is married he can’t basically keep around other women friends to talk to he can’t have them 9 times out of 10 he’ll cheat on his wife

[@yorickbrown5297]

? What

[@sunnyquinn3888]

I noticed whenever you say the word "r@p3", Kyra comes over to you. She probably doesn't know what the word means but she knows it upsets you so she does her best to comfort you.

[@cashwalk7253]

What a good dog ❤

[@chelseahindle3645]

These alpha males make beta males sound so damn attractive. Every woman I've ever spoken to wants those kind generous gentle and consent seeking guys.

[@tiana4102]

Yeah pretty much. If a man is kind and respectful towards me and others, he becomes attractive to me, even if he isn't the most handsome man.

[@Raven1799Games]

Im not even attracted to men but I would gladly take a man who is kinda, caring, puts effort into the relationships, and shows compassion over and dude who has the nerve to call himself and "alpha" male....seriously

[@72JeanYves]

The whole Alpha/Beta thing they use is from a long debunked ( not long after it was done actually) study on wolves.

[@anothercub6958]

Oh don't go after the betas either. They're the type of guy who buys into this stupid wolf dynamic and believing in these alpha male books

[@clownrat5759]

@@anothercub6958 anyone who genuinely believes in the “alpha, beta, omega” shit that ISN’T a fanfic writer making an omegaverse slow burn fic? I never want to fucking HEAR IT in the context used for humans. EVER.

[@tiredtrash7199]

holy shit i literally remembered this guy existed like a week ago..i went to his website n hes apparently had some kind of spiritual awakening, become a super-orthodox christian, & is now writing abt how hugs can tempt men into sin 😭

[@edenwinter9055]

And he's still cashing in on all the filth he published in the past. Such a grifter

[@lordmortimer9488]

Years ago he wanted to fund Islamic paramilitary groups. He's so nuts.

[@chatnoir9038]

This is what grifters do. They are absolute losers who have nothing to contribute to society and the only way they survive is being like deer ticks and latching on to others and leeching off their insecurities.

[@keeprockin69]

So he's basically a cult peddler who switches his product around every few years?

[@dianamations9371]

Man… as a Christian, I just hope God eventually teaches him a lesson or two 😭

[@Entiox]

Thank you for mentioning Dr. Mech. I feel like I'm forever correcting people about the completely false idea of "alphas".

[@punkybrewstar83]

Same 😄 I work in animal science and I particularly enjoy being told that I don't know how animals behave...

[@sierra4107]

And also like it’s false but also humans aren’t wolves anyway?

[@LeonCouch]

@@punkybrewstar83 Please write a persuasive summary article on this for the men's movement. Not something to lambast those men, but to increase their knowledge about the quality of their evidence in their arguments.

[@rubatozis]

@@sierra4107 bonobos are the monkey species whos the closest to humans and 1- theyre matriarchal and 2- they avoid fighting as much as they can and solve conflict via affection instead, so... yeah

[@anothercub6958]

Have you seen the bozos who say that the term has "evolved past wolves"and that it can somehow still affect humans because we domesticated wolves and evolved alongside them or some shit? These people are tought to convince🤣

[@jordy_Poupard]

“An emotional tampon” - ugh I hate that men just see us as potential sexual partners like wow!

[@RickReasonnz]

I used to be like that. I had attended an all-boys boarding school and could only see girls as a means to an end. But then I went to Uni, and learned that women could actually be... friends! It was quite the eye-opener, and was grateful for the learning experience.

[@clownrat5759]

@@RickReasonnz hey man you grew. You are doing LEAGUES better than most of these guys

[@Sarablueunicorn]

And you are only learning it now? Men have always been described as horny dogs who see women as sexual objects only but that has always been socially accepted because it's their nature right? While women have always been seen as men's objects and property...by men? revolutions were necessary to create laws to actually protect women from rabid horny dogs but that doesn't mean they nature of dogs changed, it actually got worse. Men just became more manipulative since coercion (r4pe) is now considered a crime. In an unlawful society you would never have a man as a friend/colleague/coworker and instead of having creepy dudes throwing pick up lines you would have them literally forcing you using physical domination.

[@DemonicRemption]

@@RickReasonnz How TF did you go to an all boys school, and still not know what women were like? Were you raised by two dads in a all male neighborhood in some pocket dimension on the other side of this one? Like how TF did you not meet any women OUTSIDE of boarding school prior to college?

[@BasedInBrazil]

​​@@RickReasonnzMostly disagree about opposite sex friendships if there is mutual or one sided physical attraction unless your both single.

[@rohir5806]

I'm glad you found a good cohost to support you through this utterly repulsive garbage.

[@violetheise4717]

Also, I love how you ask and value Kyra's opinions on things.

[@Roadent1241]

Always a reliable secondary opinion!

[@MrQuantumInc]

They see sex as something that men achieve rather than participate in. The goal is to prove oneself, not to enjoy. As extreme as Roosh is, I would point to Joss Whedon who in a interview claimed that he thought he would regret it is he did NOT cheat on his wife, is he did NOT use his power to get sex. Joss Whedon with all his achievements, wealth, multiple successful and beloved franchises credited to his name, Hollywood recognition, thought he would regret his life is he didn't have more sexual partners. In addition they alternate between thinking that women are dishonest about their sexual desires and thinking that women's desires are unimportant. I suppose in the past women often "played hard to get" and so if you wanted consent you had to look to subtle signs. Even today it is rare to literally say "Yes, let's have sex!" Of course women who were too honest about liking sex would get slut shamed. On the opposite end of the misogyny spectrum you have Harris O'Malley, AKA Dr. Nerdlove, saying "A women's vagina is not mjonlir, it does not deem who is worthy!" (Who better to comment on toxic masculinity than a Pick Up Artist turned feminist.) One of the most important parts of rape culture is this notion that men need to have sex with lots of women to be worthy, and equally important is the notion that women don't ever consent to sex.

[@marocat4749]

Anyd polygamy is fine but it requirs comunication and h either shoul listen and talk to his wife and strong consent. Which he didnt, Th thing is if whedon had acual respect fo his wife ther and the involved over his ego , he could have that without being abusive. Polyamory and gamy exits, just iof youdont have all parties willingly and on the same page, its cheating. harris omalley seem like a great person.

[@LeonCouch]

Yes, @Quantum Inc, I often get the impression among the frequent posters in this submovement of the bigger men's movements that this PUA "game" is about social climbing among the members of the men's movement, rather than actually scoring: Much like virtue signaling in the woke movement. (The leaders likely are making money more than "scoring" too.) Among the followers I've observed studying these websites, it seems some love the gaming aspect, and many are truly socially awkward, not too smart, socially handicapped, mentally/emotionally wounded or ill: They want some concrete direction on how to at least meet a woman and have something positive from the interaction. There is an unrecognized (and very small, unvocal) minority of PUA who actually are respectful men who are honest with women in what they are doing. So, even with only a little intersection with them, the PUA movement is more diverse than outsiders may think from seeing what's posted. There are many in the greater men's movement who feel disaffected, ignored, or hurt by the changes in society: They can all complain together with people who can understand where they are coming from: Statements like society has abandoned them, men have no purpose in society, they get no pleasures they value from society, society just removed all their value except to work for the system, the system is rigged against them or everything is stolen from them (esp through divorce), noone cares about men's feelings & complaints, men assumed to be evil, breaking moral rules because they completely lost everything already (women don't need us, so we trick them), noone listens to my concerns & needs because snotty men must "suck it up", they're told today's men must pay for the sin's of their fathers, etc. Making fun of them, labeling them as evil nuts, public shaming, and insistence on their invisible privilege during their misery strengthens their beliefs, increases their misery, fuels desperation, and justifies their rule breaking (PUA) or complete withdrawal from civil society (MGTOW). They also often lack "successful male role models" of attaining sex or maintaining heterosexual relationships in their family life; and display much jealousy over sexual success shown in the media. But, to my main point in this response: At the higher levels of the PUA specifically, I think that, apart from some notably-awful exceptions, the vast majority of PUA publications is fiction and partially-true stories (i.e., paying for their sexual encounters): At the lower levels of PUA, it's stupid people believing the higher levels and actually doing stupid things.

[@slevinchannel7589]

Did i miss this video mentioning the TOP-Coverage of this Subject or was Hbomberguy legit not mentioned?!

[@clownrat5759]

@@marocat4749 yesss agreed. Polyamory is a relationship structure that can work for SOME PEOPLE! It’s worked for me sometimes, and it didn’t work sometimes, it all depends on you & your partners! In my personal experience with polyamory, the best way to go about it to be fully open and honest with your partner. Set the boundaries you’re both fully comfortable with! It’s so extremely important to make sure your partner feels confident knowing they can come to you if they’re uncomfortable with the relationship or situation. Communication is KEY!

[@paisleepunk]

​@@marocat4749 a bit hard to read, but the points are mostly good ones

[@warlordofbritannia]

Let me try to be surprised: Woah Wow Who could have supposed that a man with such beliefs would end up treating women so poorly???

[@dangermouse4871]

Amber says what

[@noname-ur4gr]

I am just surprised that he admits it and doesn't even sugar-coat the rape and abuse

[@chatnoir9038]

@Akairo Kaminari I suggest you watch Ro Ramdin's video about the Depp/Heard case, I wish everyone would. So many misogynists are using Amber Heard as a reason to perpetuate more misogyny.

[@saturngirl3748]

@@chatnoir9038 She's on her own there and I'm not really surprised there using that excuse there using this narrative to make it seem like all women just make up abuse out of nowhere but in some of the scenarios with dep pulling her down the red carpet. I felt like he was a bit possessive of her company when they were together. If anything they hurt each other and he kind of started it. I feel bad for her because they would lie about me like that too. She's not the worst female abuser I've read about there's worse ones in prison that you don't hear about that actually killed their husband's and cooked them. I'm not sure why there so worried about amber she's just a liar that needs to grow up.

[@NayvieNoir]

When Rachel started talking about how if someone starts giving you drinks to “loosen you up” that’s predatory… I had flashbacks to all the times my dad would do exactly that. Sorry I need to lie down

[@jessicatoussaint9140]

*hugs* I'm sitting by you sweetheart. I hope you are in a better place from the trauma you endured

[@samwindmill8264]

God, your own dad? 😮 I'm so sorry 😔

[@edvh88]

That WAS incredibly hard to listen to. And I’m sure, to research. Ugh. Furious on behalf of all his victims. “Men are afraid of women laughing at them. Women are afraid of men killing them”

[@Kotifilosofi]

What's the weirdest about this pickup culture, is that the men who teach the less lucky men to exploit women to get what they want, also actually exploit the men who use their services. I once watched a documentary about the pickup artists, and it's clear that their courses and books and anything they sell cost fortunes and they still don't quarantee their methods give any results. In fact, they know that most of their customers are beyond any help and they just make money with the desperation of the men who are so unlucky that they're ready to believe anything. In fact, their "help" just makes these men more unlucky and (thinking they are) more and more dependent on their services so they'll have paying customers that never leave them. The same tactics that many religious groups use. Desperation makes you to believe in miracles, and some people are evil enough to exploit that.

[@LeonCouch]

This is a very good point.

[@alkestos]

And if their "great methods" don't end up working (which is more than likely) they gaslight the men to believe it's their fault just not doing it right. Doubleabuse!

[@Kotifilosofi]

@Ghost they can't change their mind (or listen to anything that might could change it) now than they've came so far and spent so much time and money on something useless. Just like the religious people who can't admit they're wrong about something they've believed in stubbornly for so long. No matter how much better changing your mind would make the life both for you and the people around you. The stakes are too high.

[@72JeanYves]

Luck has nothing to do with it. Either a woman is attracted to you in some way or not. Sometimes it will be known by her why and sometimes not. But luck is not something that comes into it.

[@Kotifilosofi]

@@72JeanYves isn't it a matter of luck if woman either is or is not attracted to you by some way..? Especially if even the woman can't explain how they are/are not attracted? If you think there's nothing to do with luck, do you think it's men who made bad choices that purchase their services (yet another bad choice)? They choose the path where it's more and more unlikely any women will ever find them attractive? None of this makes any sense 😄

[@a.d.r.m.7730]

Pick-up artists getting the sh!t beaten out of them by jealous boyfriends would be an internet video trend that I would whole-heartedly support.

[@GothBiDemiGirl]

Or protective girlfriends

[@LeonCouch]

This is actually a good idea. A realistic look at consequences would be good, even if they don't empathize with their victims.

[@juno3281]

@@GothBiDemiGirl thankfully i was born with an “intimidating aura”, so i don’t even have to try hard to get men to leave my friends and i alone lmao- im not even sure what it is but i’ve been told multiple times that im scary by men i don’t even know 💀 i think it’s why i’ve only had relationships with genuinely kind men because they weren’t trying to “dominate” me. its really funny to me now but when i was younger it bothered me a lot lmao-

[@luchirimoya]

@@GothBiDemiGirl both? Both. Both sound great lol, as long as they get their ass kicked.

[@bell.e.flower]

@@juno3281 how do you get an “intimidating aura”? Asking for a friend…

[@pinkysaurusrawr]

I’d love to see you talk more about the use of the word “girl” to describe grown women. I have come to really dislike it, and the way that it serves to perpetuate the idea that women aren’t whole people in our minds. If you’ve discussed this and I missed it, someone point me to the video please! I love your content ♥️

[@alkestos]

Well people nowadays can't even define women so there goes that.

[@awkwardukulele6077]

@@alkestos We define woman just fine, you're just a groomer

[@alkestos]

@@awkwardukulele6077 Wait, how am I a groomer again?

[@pinkysaurusrawr]

@@alkestos The thing about saying that there are clear-cut definitions of gender is that it inherently begets discrimination. If you can't have a nuanced conversation about gender, then you are always going to implicitly or explicitly perpetuate oppression and bigotry.

[@DM-nw5lu]

Wolfgang Okay, I'll try to make it as clear as possible so even you understand: woman = adult; girl = child. Don't refer to adults as children.

[@themaskedmewtwo4320]

As revolting and vile as the content in this book can be, hearing Rachel have a chat with Kyra in between is actually really nice and reassuring

[@FeministCatLadySpinster]

I'm so confused as to why an adult is using the word "bang". Just say sex, dude.

[@anothercub6958]

@D's Animation Yard Perhaps "bang" just sounds more cool and chill. Like, it's not a "how to have sex" book. That just sounds sad. But "how to bang chicks"? Now that sounds like you're recounting sexual exploits with your bros as you chuck back awful tasting beer. Either that or this dude is just as immature as his approach to women

[@LacroixboiMarx]

Remember that preacher dude who was standing outside a university in Arizona saying (and holding a sign saying) “women deserve r*pe”? He got hit upside the head with a baseball bat. I say this apropos of nothing 🥰

[@saml.purecats4695]

Roosh has been banned from most bars in Montreal. Very disgusting. 🤮

[@RachelOates]

Good!!

[@hjt5894]

He says essentially being a complete bell is how you get women to respect you. When ironically the men I respect the most are those who show me the most respect and kindness and selflessness. Why does it feel like he’s never spoken to another human?

[@kneerunjun]

I can’t believe this book is being sold and that he’s not facing criminal charges. Thank you for sharing this and for your in-depth coverage of this book as abominable as it was. It was hard to listen to in just one sitting. I can’t imagine how difficult it must have been to read and then produce this video breaking everything down

[@LeonCouch]

I made this comment to another comment like yours, in appreciate of your pariticipation in this criticism and dialogue. Here's my comment, written to be helpful and interact with your statement. He should be allowed to publish nearly anything, as you and other should also review it and criticize it in a free society. It is best to discuss and solve issues with people that you disagree with, especially if they are promoting wrong thinking or (worse) wrong actions, rather than silencing all discussion in an authoritarian manner. China is doing a great job developing a surveillance, police state to make a perfect society, after all: There, citizens don't need to worry about encountering challenging or upsetting topics, and solving those issues together in public as a society. This is why all these comments, including yours here, are so valuable. Let him speak and have a dialogue in public without secrecy. ..... I'll add that, if he has given enough evidence to breaking laws, he should be prosecuted. This applies to things anything criminal, from sexual abuse to suppressing speech.

[@kneerunjun]

@@LeonCouch I suppose I can understand what you’re saying, but my issue is that he’s making money and profiting out of his confessions of abuse, assault and misogyny. There’s also a case to be mad about continuing the spread of this kind of toxic thinking. Maybe you’re arguing that without the book being published, people won’t be able to criticise and expose the book for what it is. But I don’t think a book was needed for people to realise that kind of toxicity and it would have come out into the open through some other form. That said, I appreciate the thoughtful discussion.

[@LeonCouch]

@@kneerunjun Great reply, Niranjan. Yes, it's maddening -- isn't it? --when people profit from bad behavior, bad situations, etc. My comment wasn't about informing people of toxicity. We're likely going to be more successful by having a discussion with him and potential followers in the light of day. Yelling at people we disagree with and demonizing them is a great way to get them to both dig in their heels and go underground to do worse damage that is hard to root out. It is better to discuss things and come to right thoughts and negotiate good solutions for all the individuals and spectrum of our society. I want a better place to live in and a better place for the future--not to just win nor merely show off I'm right. That's my opinion for now, unless I'm convinced otherwise ... through discussion with those whom I disgree.

[@LeonCouch]

Another thought I had, which I didn't mention is that there is an attempt to police bad behavior without really listening to the discontent in our society -- however awful their behaviors -- to understand the reasons that cause those bad behaviors. (It is a real mistake to think that a person who makes one error in his/her/they's life must only be full of errors without ability to change, and have nothing valuable to contribute to this world: Some of the best contributors to Western society have also done bad things, and visa versa.) I think we should read and listen sympathetically to such disenfrancised people such as these (probably misguided) dating coaching and the rapidly-growing "man-o-sphere" -- not merely dismissing everyone we disagree with by labeling them as psychopaths and such (although they may be) -- so that we can fix underlying problem and issues for as many people in our society as possible. It is possible that they have legitimate, serious issues -- regarding the current discussions of gender, class, equity, equality, etc. -- which haven't been uncovered. I suspect also that, as with all huge changes in any field from medicine to nuclear power to social/political theory, there will be many unintended, horrible consequences for whole classes of people whom we are not really considering during those implemented changes we believe will create a better world. In our zealousness to do what is right, we can do a lot of wrong by not listening, moderating, negotiating, and proceeding at a wise speed. This seems to be a fact of human history, technology, thought, etc.

[@JennaEmbers]

“which isn’t really fair on men is it? there’s some nice ones out there somewhere, probably.” 😭

[@merbst]

So I hear.

[@LeonCouch]

It seems that his advice will make it worse for the men who follow it, including imprisonment in some public cases of recent history. Moreover, I agree that women are going to be even more "on guard", rebuffing even the best of men, because the fear and atmosphere that these kind of passages create. That is, it's bad for everyone: And, that's why we present it and comment thereupon.

[@maxwessel7786]

We exist. We're just respectful of boundaries, and thus rarely clear women's defensive walls built up after traumatic experiences with bad men, rendering us effectively invisible. Men like this fuck it up for everybody.

[@JennaEmbers]

@@maxwessel7786 i completely agree with you. but i also think we’re complicit in perpetuating a culture of toxic masculinity. for example i know men that are good and nice but don’t speak out about this kind of thing at all, who remain silent when surrounded by guy friends who are being misogynistic. and i get why, but i think all that perpetuates this problem.

[@maxwessel7786]

@@JennaEmbers we're not really set up to be emotionally healthy and we have awful support networks. I don't have cis guy friends anymore cause everyone I grew up with turned out to be an abuser, or racist, or a racist abuser. We have very little example to follow in terms of a more positive model of masculinity, and pioneering those waters causes society at large to treat you very strange. I cut off my best friend of 15 years last year after a conversation with his ex, so I'm really trying and it's very isolating. People are more likely to rally around abusers than take the socially inconvenient path of addressing that behavior cause it's like 97% of men.

[@MethuselahWinter]

These men have been so emotionally repressed they view relationships between different genders as transactional only. I think “Incel syndrome” needs to be classified as a mental disorder and need intensive therapy. I really think these guys haven’t been socialized enough in a healthy way to understand how relationships should work. Which for guys who are mostly living inside their homes/parents homes, would have this problem. They live in an echo-chamber. Now, I am introverted, I stayed home and in my room most of my childhood and teen years. However, I still used the internet to actually immerse myself in the world outside my door, and not just fantasy stuff, but actually reading, learning, and talking to people. I still learned emotionally intelligence and maturity even though I’m neurodivergent myself. He seems like those who only talked to other angry men, and the only women he talked to are those he wanted to use.

[@hexonyou]

I feel like when you see guys like that it's a sad but natural progression from being taught "men are sexual, your personality should be based on your sexual conquest and prowess (from a young age; the younger, the more impressive!)", then being stunted *because* they started having sex so early/attempting to have sex so early and really never growing into someone who can understand a positive and reciprocal relationship. Guys like this tend to be unable to face the truth because that would mean acknowledging their failures, and they've already spent all of their life running from the feelings of failure and using sexual conquest as a bandaid.

[@dameonbourland1828]

Suggestion, send a copy of the book to his mother and his local police department. I'd bet they'd be interested to have a chat with him.

[@linnS98]

Rachel, I want to thank you. I‘ve been watching your videos for years now and I really want express my gratitude. I never received any kind of sex education despite it being compulsory here in Germany. I didn‘t grow up in a household where I was free to express my opinion or to set boundaries which turned me into a massive people pleaser. The part of Roosh‘s book about „you can mold a girl by criticizing negative behavior“ really resonated with me because I‘m very prone to this kind of manipulation and I was often manipulated like this in the past. Watching your videos gave me so much confidence. While many of these videos are hard to watch, they help me find the words to express my wants and needs, and also my boundaries. They remind me that I am worthy of respect and that I am in fact my own person rather than just some pretty doll whose only purpose is to be/do/say what men want me to. You are an amazing person Rachel, and the work you do for other people is truly remarkable.

[@OglethorpeJConniption]

I'm so exhausted by the constant overwhelming flow of these "Alpha Males". The whole thing is so gross and, quite honestly, it would be sad if it was so angering. Btw, most the ads during this video are for a "documentary" by Matt Walsh, called "What Is A Woman?". The documentary is basically a feature-length mish-mash of Matt Walsh harassing & mocking women of many kinds & identities. He makes me feel ill & I thought you'd want to know that videos for a documentary made by a transphobic, hateful, misogynist. I love your videos & your passion, @Rachel Oates. I love Kyra too! 💗

[@chatnoir9038]

Watch kuncan dastner's recent video about these types of "alpha" grifters

[@ChristopherSadlowski]

Oh god, Roosh V is still around?! I don't usually get triggered, I guess it's the right word here, but I almost noped right out of this video after listening for a few minutes. Hearing his "writing" (I'm being WAY too generous calling it that) read aloud gave me an actual physical reaction of disgust. I literally felt queasy. I stuck it out though, as sick and filthy as hearing all this made me. A lot of work went into this video, and Rachel really took one for the team reading his stupid book and online postings, and it should be appreciated. She also deserves every cent of ad revenue for enduring this torture.

[@Hannah-gh6qn]

At this point I shouldn't be surprised that people like him still exist and yet... Ew

[@alanfike]

It's a community of gullible, self-serving jerks and a lot of men can't stand them either. I think the best way to dissolve the desperate men from the predatory is a combination of guiding them patiently with what will let them achieve finding a girlfriend who will want to stay with them, and guidance among single ladies as far as what to look for in a pick-up artist because -- this may be the most obvious thing to anyone who is reading this, but.. -- not all single ladies pick up on this and are maybe just basking in the fact that this guy is paying (an unnaturally amount of) attention to her, and it works! And a big reason that these guys flock to this community is that they see that it works, because it does work. Fire "works" at burning a house down too, though, so just because something works doesn't mean that it works for anything good.

[@gabeo9474]

They wouldn't if their tactics didn't work.

[@carrela1000]

@@gabeo9474 Or they make up these encounters like many of them do and go after gullible and vulnerable men that will do anything to get a date and will keep paying them money for advice that turns them into a creep. If you really think this guy's fantasy erotica tactics work, I fear for your future

[@chatnoir9038]

@@gabeo9474 Oh yeah Roosh is such a fking rockstar for r**ing women. He's so fking cool

[@chatnoir9038]

@@carrela1000 Yup. Kuncan Dastner made a good video on these "alpha male" grifters very recently.

[@MochiFowl_4412]

So glad Kyra decided to help out with this video because if she wasn’t it would be unbearable! /gen

[@May-fs3wm]

Wow, this man is really out there telling that most women don't feel attracted to him and don't enjoy sex with him while bragging about being a sex god.

[@PainappuruShoujo]

My favourite quote from all dating-coach-alpha-male guys is "you'll be stuck with beta man" whenever women say how they don't want to tolerate their bullshit alpha male behaviour... Like, where's the issue, my guy? If a guy will respect me and share values like me, call him beta, call him simp, call him however you want, but he's the one who'll date me in the end. Not you.

[@phyzarel1845]

“I am a man that treats women poorly but fuck those other guys treating women poorly”

[@leviroscoe4355]

kyra: grumbling incoherently into the microphone me: what an icon...

[@warlordofbritannia]

To whoever is watching this in the future and you're wondering if it somehow gets worse? It does. It somehow does each time. Never should have doubted you Rachel 😂😭😂

[@redrubysinner7050]

This answer did not age well

[@PixelPenguin87212]

He sounds like a serial killer 😯 thank you for persevering this torture so we can know what this book is about and know to stay far away from any man who is a fan of this weirdo.

[@PixelPenguin87212]

Also- shout out to Robert Sapolsky! He is so bright, I was happy to see you cite him!

[@lemonymouth]

I'm totally fine with him bragging about this stuff as long as he's at a police station or, preferably, in court. The amount of times I looked at my phone in pure disbelief, shock and terror...

[@sylvias756]

This video makes me happy. I'm old, well, ancient by YT comment section metrics, 40+ (and a straight woman) and this is how I thought ALL men thought about sex and women, and the conversations I had with my male friends only cemented that belief. All the sex I had confirmed it too, the sex described in this book is the only kind of sex and the only kind of male mentality I knew. It took me years and several partners to break free of some of this mindset, and I'm still struggling with a lot. I am so so SO happy that young people now talk openly about sex, and are so positive about sex, and there is so much informative and positive content available. I loved all your comments in this video, thank you for this.

[@Jynxedlove]

My boyfriend hated dogs. And I could not understand... until I saw the few dogs in his life. None of them were well trained, and several were outright vicious. We now have two.

[@lutheranninja1819]

Roosh V is the same man who says that liking butts is a gateway to gaeness so that makes that line about wanting to "hit it from the back" extremely ironic and hilarious

[@chatnoir9038]

And the line about a "man's an*s"

[@LadyQAB]

One of the last stories happend to me, the one where he kept pushing the woman to take her clothes off. I was a virgin and didn't want to do it, but it happend anyway (I was also drunk and he wasn't). In the morning I found my roommate and he hugged me while I was crying and shaking with the realisation of what had happened the night before. I reported it to the police and when I said "I was there and said no so many times how could this have happened" they were so kind and said that it was not my fault and that I was completely in the right for reporting this to them. This guy should be locked up because he is leaving women traumatized with what he is doing and thinks is normal.

[@drawingspider7798]

He hates dogs because he knows they would protect their owner from his assault.

[@idawantu838]

Roosh V also started male supremacy site Return of Kings. Fun fact! He's banned from entering the U.K. He wanted to do a tour, parliament got a hundred thousand plus signature petition and banned him form entering after they'd all been cancelled.

[@Awesome8D]

If you're a heterosexual man wanting to connect with women, why on earth would you go to another man for such advice rather than the gender of your actual interest.... Unless? 👀☠️ (jk no accusations but actually wtf is up with these people)

[@hokiturmix]

Woman won't be harsh enough to wake you up. The basic is that woman won't lie but they do not want to hurt your feelings. Maybe an older woman who is your relative can you give a good adwise. Lots of woman will write a list what they are looking for in a man then go with an asshole who does not give a shit. Woman who only knows what they TRULY looking for when they see it. Like in a loong shopping session then you find THE ONE shoe. :D Mostly take advice from a successful man in a long happy relationship or a guy like Coach Corey Wayne who teaches how to apply long term changes in your life to attract the right woman for you.

[@monicavelazquezrodriguez3035]

@@hokiturmix maybe every woman wants something different, as if we are human individuals. The cliche about "women always prefer the men who treat them poorly" is outdated and ignoring completely an entire culture where it supports this belief as if it's a healthy relationship. Also it wouldn't hurt you asking women about diferent topics. Saying is preferable to talk with men about what women want says a lot of who you see women.

[@kaihiroku8495]

​@@hokiturmix Okay, lesson number one. Thank you for serving as an example btw (yikes). Lesson number one on "how to connect with women": Don't generalize women. View women as adults and individuals. There, you're welcome. No, really take it. It's free, I insist. (*remembers he wants me to be harsh*) Alright I gotta do it for my sisters out there and for this lost soul. Let's dive a bit deeper. First, if women don't want to hurt men's feelings it's generally not out of kindness, but out of fear of a (male) stranger's reaction. If you are a friend, there is no need to go out of our way to say truths in harsh ways, you are showing us your vulnerability by asking us questions, so I don't see the point of being mean or rude when it's already hard enough to open up. 1. Women do not go with assholes, they go with assholes who pretend to be nice guys, men who actually know how to listen to what she wants, becomes a copy of that and once she is in love he abuses her. THEY ARE NOT assholes from the start and it is not the abuse they like, it's a bond caused by emotional trauma that makes them stay. It's called a narcissist and men are also often victims of female narcs. So technically, men also go with "b*tches" instead of nice girls. Ouch! 2. I knew what I wanted from the age of 15 and found it at the age of 19 and now I am 26 and still with that man (7 years anniversary coming, yay!) and no it didn't take me a "long shopping list". I will call you out on this as well, it was a sexist stereotype you used as a comparison, "women like shopping" my ass. I HATE shopping okay, and a lot of women hate it too, enough to say it's far from an exception. You sound like you need to have more interactions with women, you seem to lack actual knowledge on real life women and not media stereotypes. (harsh enough I hope) 3. Most definetly don't take advice from successful people who are completely out of reach with the reality of things, and just use you for their success. They will give you only ONE way to do things pretending it's the ultimate path to ONE type of happiness that might not even make YOU happy. 4. Find women, ask women. And if you're shy, watch videos of people asking women on KZbin. Just type "we ask women questions men are scared to ask" and such. Wanna know the best thing about it? It's freeeeee!

[@MarcelaElviraTimis]

@@hokiturmix dude! A-holes literally put up a mask (they mask as "betas", btw) until they get to the committment phase of a relationship (marriage). I also heard of men who are a-holes to anyone BUT their partner. So, if you want a woman by your side, be a "beta". "Betas" get laid 😅

[@ernie39]

@@hokiturmix Women, particularly if they don't know you well, are likely to "not be harsh enough" because they are afraid of violence and/or don't feel comfortable sharing personal information with you. But if you're asking a woman you've established trust/friendship with about what she's comfortable with and desires in a relationship, you'd probably get a pretty clear answer depending on how relevant that information is to your relationship and how healthy/direct both of your methods of communication are. Long-term romantic relationships tend to be based on friendships, and a healthy friendship tends to involve learning and understanding each others' boundaries and personalities. If you're wondering how someone feels, hopefully your relationship is one where you feel safe to just ask them about it!

[@alternity7838]

I actually do dislike dogs. It's not that I think they're bad or that there's anything wrong with them, it's more a part of my autism/neurodivergence. I dislike that they are often loud, messy, and enter my space without my consent, and I do not have the heart to raise my voice to animals to try to mitigate that sort of behavior, because it isn't like they understand what they're doing is upsetting to me, so I just tend to avoid dogs altogether. So, I guess I 'like' them, I just dislike being around them. I do understand when people are like, "people that dislike dogs are red flags" (this guy is a mega creep) but it does make me a little sad when it's just blanket "what is wrong with you?" because sometimes, there isn't a good reason, it's just that certain things don't make a person feel comfortable like they might to others.

[@terrylynn7936]

oh, I feel this. I have nothing against animals, but I just don't like the sensation of touching or petting them, or not even just them, but humans too sometimes, and people have just assumed that that means that I must hate them.

[@catherinecox573]

Yeah I totally get this, I am also not a dog person. I feel like saying "dogs are not a good fit for me" or "I'm not a dog person" is waay different than saying you hate animals. I think the hateful attitude is where the red flag comes from. Hate is a really strong feeling to have about an optional thing like adopting an animal. Like.... Just don't get an animal. You can dislike being around dogs. but saying you hate them is weird.

[@belstar1128]

I started to hate dogs over the years because i got bitten by them and they poop everywhere but the thing about dogs is that like humans they all have different personalities so some dogs are very good and nice while others are evil but with my experience i assume the worst of dogs.

[@chatnoir9038]

Disliking dogs being around you? Okay. Saying "I hate dogs" and adding some comments aboit wanting to mistreat animals? Red flag.

[@chatnoir9038]

@@belstar1128 Dogs are also often a reflection of us as people. Ill behaving dogs are often ones that have been mistreated by people.

[@MissMoontree]

Men; women have emotional networks they can rely on, that is why they have better mental health us men don't have that Also men; Eeew sharing emotions is her using me as an emotional tampon!

[@DM-nw5lu]

It's honestly no wonder men have horrid mental health when they do not even allow emotional intimacy and deep platonic relationships. The only kind they do allow is with their female partners which then in turn really harms said women because they have to deal with ALL their crap instead of what a partner should deal with in a healthy romantic relationship.

[@gabeo9474]

The issue is that those women expect to dump all their dating frustrations on the man and have him listen, but there is no reciprocation. It's a way for a woman to leverage a man's interest in her to get emotional benefits, validation, and more without ever actually providing anything in return. It's dishonest and predatory. A man doesn't suddenly become part of an emotional network simply because a woman uses and dumps on him, so the point you are trying to make is nonsensical.

[@humanperson318]

@@gabeo9474 Venting to someone you think is a friend is dishonest and predatory? Yikes dude..

[@gabeo9474]

@@humanperson318 It is in the context I described. If the relationship is not well-established and reciprocal, then it's not a friendship. What makes it predatory is when someone's emotions get played against them by another person for their benefit. It's no different than a man who games a woman's emotions to get what he wants. They are both wrong for the same reasons.

[@DM-nw5lu]

@@gabeo9474 They don't want to open up and talk their issues though? Women would listen. Men don't talk because "Muh, men no feel emotion. Men strong. Uga uga."

[@Pandozzi]

The way I feel listening to this guy's writing is similar to seeing something covered with bugs that are crawling around, and then you get that feeling like something is crawling on you

[@Itri_Vega]

I'm so glad I'm aroace. All these incels and pickup artists scare me.

[@kaihiroku8495]

I do think the aroace community will also get bigger, simply because so many women will end up being digusted by sex and love altogether by men like this.

[@anothercub6958]

I'm sad to say that being aroace would not keep these men from trying it with you anyway.

[@Orange-tf3bf]

Hope the girl who tried to be friends with Roosh Vee is doing ok, if she was even a real person.

[@Moonbutnosun]

What is a shame is that men like him completely overlook the power and quality of meeting someone you truly connect with on a deep level, then of course that is the best sex you will ever have. And you will have it as often as you like. Many couples have sex daily or at least several times a week, and it gets better with time and affection.

[@monicavelazquezrodriguez3035]

These "alpha males" (and the people who buys this shit) are psychopaths. They are incompatible with basic empathy, all the connections they seek is to serve them, and when it served the purpose they dump them. I would dare to say they would do the same with their male friends (without the sex part).

[@5superhombre]

I cant imagine how emotionally draining this must have been to just read let alone make a video about. Thanks for taking the time and emotional toll for doing this. Hope you can relax and process this all now. Love the content always!

[@MrQwefty]

Dude makes about as good of an "emotional tampon" as a butcher's knife. I'm astonished and appalled he ever had friends....

[@caseycronan9217]

❤️Kyra is precious.

[@oscargustafsson2822]

It is incredible how far the self-centered point of view takes some people. Being rejected by women and having to use "tactics" and even force to have disapointing sex is disregarded since he "is a player" and therefore it is just part of the process. Therefore he can still see himself as the main character and not worry about the damaging effect he has on others. What baffles me is that he can talk about a person and recognize that what he has done is terrible "I ruined sex for her, poor girl" and still lack even the slightest self-reflection. It is truly fascinating and horrifyig seeing this being brought to the light and hope it helps at least some people become aware of people like this and cause them to intervene. Thanks for the scary yet entertaining ride!

[@daughterofyith5393]

I'm one minute in and I already know how bad this is going to be. I've seen this guy in a Reggie Yates documentary about misogynists, and it's as horrible as it sounds.

[@ahanemone]

Anyone outside of high school age who uses the term "getting laid" or "banging" unironically just makes me want to vomit

[@coolwoman698]

"Is it me that's the problem? No! It's the women that's the problem"

[@xscribbledoutliesx]

Unrelated but I would wholeheartedly listen to a podcast of you and Kyra grumbling about things!

[@moammonster_Jess_]

As much as this was really difficult to listen to, props to Rachel for shedding light on the situation. This is absolutely disgusting and anyone who supports this type of behaviour needs serious interventional help

[@ghostie-8089]

this couldn't be more off topic but her dog looks at her with so much love its great

[@october7895]

The shirt you're wearing in this is GORGEOUS!! And you look gorgeous in it!

[@zoeb3573]

"You've only known me for X minutes, what about my job could tell you more than a natural conversation with me?" this... this IS a natural conversation to have

[@geraintthomas4343]

Oh god Roosh "legalise rape" V. I'm so sorry you fell into this whirlpool Edits as i go: 1 - I'm with you on pets. I was attracted to a coworker and trying to make friends generally until she said something along the lines of "i don't get why anyone would have pets" and that instantly ended it for me 😂 2 - I am enjoying the savaging of this creep. It's great. 3 - Telling men to rape people absolutely explains why this shit is so popular with the manosphere and generated the incels. 4 - his conversation suggestions are so cringey I'm getting third hand embarrassment from you having to read this crap out loud 5 - how was this shit published when it outright recommends DV?! 6 - Suffering shared is indeed multiplied but i feel we owe it to you to listen in solidarity. 7 - "Oh yeah hun you keep those socks on. Yeah the woolly ones with the holes in. Oh yes!" 8 - why would someone boast about being this bad in bed?! I've heard some of these quotes by other people making fun of him but not the anecdotes and it's breaking me. 9 - oh god no what the hell why would someone think that causing (unasked for) pain is a good idea and should keep going?! 10 - oh of course the (possibly internalised) homophobia wouod show up... 11 - That "if you don't feel like a creep" advice is horrifying. I'm awful at dating, flirting etc myself if so I'd had and believed that advice, to disregard any judgement of my own actions, when i was younger it would have guaranteed that I would have been a gropey club guy at best. *shudder*

[@slevinchannel7589]

Did i miss this video mentioning the TOP-Coverage of this Subject or was Hbomberguy legit not mentioned?!

[@geraintthomas4343]

@@slevinchannel7589 tbh i don't think rachel will have necessarily even seen those vids based on her choice of content to look at.

[@murph64]

I’m totally with you about “hates dogs” being a red flag. It’s one thing to not like dogs, or to prefer cats or another animal, but to HATE them??? Like idk unless they have a phobia I’d be side-eyeing anyone who told me they hate dogs

[@ece2382]

“he’s an intersectional misogynist” i laughed for five minutes thank you rachel

[@CainXVII]

My dad, kindest person in the world, hated dogs. But really he was deathly afraid of dogs. And when he met a tiny little yorkshire terrier that he was forced to share his workspace with, he did conclude that it couldn't harm a fly. He would never admit it, but we all knew he secretly loved that one tiny dog.

[@dorothybelle9411]

Kyra made this subject a little easier to hear. What an angel pup ❤️

[@markvickroy6725]

The 30 bangs quotes are too much for me. My skin is crawling towards the commode as we speak. I gotta bail on this one. New sub.

[@technoloverish]

Thanks for talking about Roosh! I'm a guy that's long been disturbed by his material. Recently, he apparently became an Orthodox Christian and disavowed some of the stuff be promoted in those books but I question his sincerity and whether he's fundamentally changed. Anyway, I work with this older dude who my family hired as a job coach (I'm on the autism spectrum), and him and I talk a lot about social issues, including about the kinds of things Roosh promotes. What's funny is that my job coach and I came up with idea that Roosh is as bad as fried poop, and my job coach has pointed out that the name Roosh sounds a bit like someone flushing a toilet:)

[@ZekDraco]

I heard panting near the beginning and I was confused on the noise and then I noticed your dog and smiled. Your dog is adorable.

[@amandabernard8179]

I think the funnest thing for an autistic person who also has a learning disability are the conversations that last for hours. Why are conversations so fun

[@meghnalahiri9618]

i will be completely unsurprised if '30 Bangs' turns out to be '30 Kills' because he behaves like serial killers do. if he hasn't already begun, he will soon

[@Itri_Vega]

He apparently has become a hardcore bible thumper so the pipeline to rather extreme views seems to be a short one.

[@liana3886]

I actually used to dislike dogs quite a bit. My reason for that? In my country many people don’t train their dogs, so whenever you go you get constantly barked at through the fences. Accross my house is a dog like that and I had many sleepless night due to his constant barking. That being said, it only caused me to avoid dogs, not be hateful towards them. Of course that has changed after I had the chance to help to raise a puppy and I understood how amazing dogs can be if trained at least a little bit. Just wanted to put it out there, because many people who dislike dogs (and I don’t mean hate, just a slight dislike) is usually due to similiar bad experiences withe dogs while growing up. But you are completly right, this attitude can change, it just takes a bit of time.

[@sunnypeacefull]

I love how inclusive you are with your language around gender, and i agreed with everything you said

[@shouldbestudying2235]

Kyra is best doggo. Please take time for your mental health as well. Have a great day!

[@dudeist_priest]

Frankly, it sounds exhausting to strike out with that many people.

[@celloafterdark4173]

Right??? 4000-ish by estimation. Imagine literally anything else you could do with that much time/energy

[@Roadent1241]

@@celloafterdark4173 imagine all the games you could make!!! So much more fun!!

[@MsPurji313]

I remember my support girl. I love recognizing her behaviour in Kyra; it gives me warm feelings. These men are so sad and dangerous. Like, maybe they are writing and just living in their own world but others who may actually take this advice resulting in dangerous actions.

[@lorenemaurer3310]

This guy needs to be sent to court with these books. He's a danger to women, and young men who might try to learn this.

[@toyotatacoma1616]

“There’s the way ahead of its time Bang Ukraine!” I should feel bad for straight up belly laughing at that, Jesus H Christ.

[@questionablebackyardmeows]

He'd make a good Russian soldier. And by that, I mean an unalived Russian soldier.

[@BanglesAU]

he hates dogs because they hate him.... and if your dog hates a person, that normally is a sign to run far far away

[@Roadent1241]

I'm still confused that ONE dog hasn't liked me, and that was one of my friend's 3, and I've met a lot of dogs over 30 years. Then again she was a Chihuahua compared to the... Daschund and lab, I think, and I've heard they're overprotective little yappers? But that one tiny dog has given me so much doubt as a person. How well have I been masking if she was the only one?

[@BanglesAU]

@@Roadent1241 one dog, I wouldn't worry so much, and a Chihuahua? Those dogs don't even like thier owners 😆

[@Roadent1241]

@@BanglesAU This one seemed over protective of hers but eh, it was our first time meeting, what do I know?

[@Ingemaja]

What he wrote is not “the right path”… it’s not even the right forest. This is in that cursed horror-forest where everything is scary and twisted and wrong… and I dislike how someone can take themselves seriously while in that forest… the things he described and admitted to should land him a conversation with law enforcements… Anyways… good video, as always. Love seeing you and Kyra interact

[@laurenhills239]

I love when guys openly identify themselves as alpha males just so I can stay far away from them 😂

[@jessicatully3929]

Thank you for this very important video! That was fully shocking and disgusting what this guy has said! I'm so angry and outraged that this man is profiting off this and poisoning minds. I love you Rachel keep it up! ❤

[@The_Leftysaurus]

God, Rachel, I commend you for having read this absolute trash-fire. I don't think I'm gonna be able to get through this in one sitting, it's just so revoltingly upsetting. I'm so sad and honestly frustrated any woman ever has had to endure a 'man' (I say man but even toe-rag would be too friendly) like this, least of all in a sexual situation. It's just,... I really can't think of a better word than revolting.

[@SinthiaVicious]

I love the dress you wore in this vid. Thought you might enjoy a genuine compliment after such a large dose of Roosh the Douche. (I don't usually use that word as an insult, but Roosh!)

[@weichpilz9224]

your top/dress is sooo pretty & your styling in general

[@beckiadriaanse6312]

Story time, about the time when his first book came out, I lived in va and often went out to wine festivals because I like them. I once had a creepy older dude come up and touch my upper back tattoo and ask what it meant. I said "it's personal" and got away pretty quickly. I'm not saying the two similar stories are connected... but wouldn't it be funny if they were

[@neobrala5237]

Only around 8 minutes in, and I just needed to say, what a good doggo you have there! Such a nice support girl, give her the best hugs! Such a sweetie!