Silent Narcissists: Dealing with Covert Narcissism and Silent Rage

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[@thebrownmoose8032]

My ex showed a lot of the covert narcissism traits especially the silent treatment, shutting down conversations, defensiveness, anger and darvo. I didn’t understand what was going on as I thought there was only one type of narcissism. It’s why I was so confused the first year and then I did some research and discovered the covert and he fits it. I learned lessons from this experience and don’t want to ever be in another relationship with a narc.

[@cassiebennet4262]

The subtlety of their passive aggressive, belittling insults enables plausible deniability.

[@tinasasso5769]

My ex boyfriend Anthony, that I left and went no contact with on 4/2/22, was 100% a covert narcissist and used silent rage(silent treatment, perpetual victim, stonewalling, gaslighting, belittling, all of it!) all of the time! So grateful for the freedom from toxicity, peace, healing, and growth I’ve had since leaving. Also grateful for counseling(EMDR and other faith-based healing program for this specific healing) realizing my part in why I was in a relationship like that, several times in the past, and healing at the root. And yes, self-love, self-care is key!!! Thank you for all your content!💯♥️♥️♥️

[@rachgrigg2447]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤

[@sarahfox5379]

This was my husband. If I would call him out on his abusive behavior - he would claim the victim card - oh he was abused, his dad abandoned him, he was cheated on - and how he's a monster and I should just leave him - until I felt so guilty, that I would comfort him and tell him we would put aside my hurt until we worked through his trauma....I was so confused I even comforted him after he would violate me - bc he convinced me it wasn't his fault he did that. We are separated now - and since he sees I'm not groveling to him anymore and standing my ground on his ill treatment - he's just ghosting his daughter and me now. But with him not in our lives anymore, I'm starting to realize how ridiculous the whole situation was.

[@m.b.9209]

Amen! Absence of the abuse brings clarity, doesn't it? I'm so happy you and your daughter are freed from it!

[@sandracaezza7234]

Thank you the silent treatment is where I am. I see it as a form of manipulation. I’m actually happier making decisions without him. Plow through no drama.

[@caur739]

The closest this man came to yelling was through text. He would spare me talking when he went into a rage. But he would say ' If this is how you think I am then you do not understand me at all ! I'm going back to work ! ' After saying I felt he was lying to me , cheating , playing games , Of course it all proved to be true. But the emotional development he has is childlike in the extreme. He is 45

[@lobsterbisque7567]

😆😆😆😆 IKR???? My ex is also 45y/o, and on quite a few occasions, I would share a video or two with her while she was at work knowing that her phone was on silent, with the belief: 'she'll watch this whenever she wants, i know she's busy right now. I just want to send this to her before I forget, and she'll probably find this useful.' And b/c I knew she was also busy outside of her work hrs, I rarely ever called her. Out of courtesy to her, I just let her know that she was free to call me whenever she wanted. Numerous times that I shared a video with her, she snapped at me via text: 'I am NOT your personal YT Channel!!' but... SHE was the one who video called me every moment she was available even if the call only lasted for only 10mins.! She was also consistent in calling me multiple times/day! some calls lasting over 4hrs!! 😆😆😆I couldn't believe how blatantly her hypocrisy was showing, I couldn't help but to laugh to myself at her outrage! But I was also careful not to flood her messages whenever I found more than 2 videos to share with her if my YT Feed was interesting at the time either. I made it very clear to her: 'I know You're busy, so I'm going to leave it up to You whenever You want to call me. And if I share a video with You, I'm not going to badger you about watching the video right away, either. You watch them whenever You want. If You don't, I won't be mad or disappointed' She was the one who always grew angry or frustrated with me. Now I know it was just another tactic of hers. Actually, I think she grew frustrated b/c I shared videos with her while she happened to be talking to another guy at that moment. She tried to sleep with me right away, and I always refused her advances. So I'm very sure that she found someone else to fulfill her 'needs' while keeping me strung along for the emotional & attentive fuel that she also craved. I'm glad You're free of your narc, I feel so much better being away from all the games my ex gf played on me. Best wishes on Your healing journey

[@caur739]

@@lobsterbisque7567 You as well . Thank you

[@loriewallace8922]

My ex narc was 45 at the time I met him. I had no knowledge of narcissists. He didn't rage in person he would rage in text. He did a lot of childish things.

[@RawMotivations]

Thank you for opening up and sharing your experience. Remember to be kind to yourself and focus on your own growth.

[@cassiebennet4262]

Mines 51. Has the emotional maturity of a toddler.

[@cassiebennet4262]

This happened to me last night. I was sad all day from his constant belittling and put downs and I feel hopeless. I'm also suffering from adrenal fatigue. He could see I was sad so he was in a good mood all day. In the evening I started to perk up because we planned on watching a movie I really love and was excited about watching it together. I was becoming chatty and happy and all of a sudden it was like a switch was flipped. He had a nasty look on his face that I would describe as pure hatred. His body language was clearly angry. I asked him what was wrong and he denied he was mad until I pressed the issue some more. He finally confessed that he was just irritated that I did something minor that he's never complained about before. I actually did nothing wrong. It infuriates him when I'm happy. More belittling comments by the end of the night. I cannot express happiness because it sends him into a silent rage. I'm at my wits end and I'm completely depressed. 😢

[@ly5142]

Yes, I find the categories are blurred, there's a grandiose side and a neglecting uncaring side and a victim side. They are chameleons, except there's a constant - they always take advantage exploit and abuse.

[@eleanortrinidad4403]

Silent treatment I know about for years he didn't care. Omg what a guy 👦

[@maustin950]

He’s quiet. Passive/aggressive this is a nightmare.

[@plushie.fans.inc.toy-reviews.]

My ex who was a narcissist gave me the silent treatment and when I attempted to reciprocate that he didn't care... 😅 His silent rage got worse toward the end.

[@RawMotivations]

Thank you for sharing your story. Remember to be gentle with yourself and prioritize your own healing and growth.

[@plushie.fans.inc.toy-reviews.]

@@RawMotivations that's a good point. We can't change other people :)

[@writer1986]

My husband's SIL only talks AT me when she has "great ideas/things" to share. Other than that she gives me the silent treatment. But I ignore her no matter what because it's her insecurities trying to step on me to prop herself up, so I keep her down by not acknowledging her presence.

[@bettycarmella1127]

God bless you Ben🙏🏽

[@user-ge6uo2ry2b]

3 yrs of this and now that he has someone else, the 1-2 dozen daily crank calls stopped. I know they were him. They only happened when I was getting the silent treatment and refused to be blamed for something I didn’t do.

[@karenmurphy6003]

I am experiencing this right now.Jekyl and Hyde.

[@Libbylou77krtc]

My mother is giving me the silent treatment because, I didn't act and respond the way she wanted me too

[@superanxietychick7035]

All of this, wow. When I would ask if he was pulling away I got told it was in my head etc, eventually he only gave me breadcrumbs. When I stepped away he played the victim, woe is me and as last it was my fault he wanted to get rid of me bc I asked questions and made him feel bad 🙄 he ghosted me after and that's a month ago now. F******CK, wh had been friends for 5 years!!

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

Talk about the key to the rollerskates. This video would easily be akin to the Germans voluntarily giving up a working operating WW2 "Enigma" machine, its blueprints, instruction manual, and an 11:28 tutorial video on how to not be intimidated or perplexed by it but rather on how to master the legendary machine... On par with or above anything Sam Vaknin, Lee Hammock, or Kanika Batra ever released...

[@RawMotivations]

[@TheMatriarch-uf6xs]

Can they be nice during this time but drag out responses a day or two, trying to trigger you? Lying about not getting messages and calling you crazy when you react, but then act virtuous later, sending you love but taking forever to respond? I’m so confused. I reacted to it asking “I feel like you blocked me and it’s disrespectful. Is this right?”. She then feigned ignorance and laughed it off and I stated I don’t like lies. It all went downhill from there. She was either ignoring or blocking and it was obvious… still feeling sick

[@Cellia836]

Mine loves to use the silent treatment on me. I know he's being passive aggressive as hell. This normally happens when I tell him how I feel and especially if I'm telling the truth. Other then going no contact. What are some other ways to break that with them? Any suggestions? It does make me feel guilty and like I'm to awful to talk to. Like he's trying to behave like he's the victim.

[@edgreen8140]

For them life is a chess game .

[@RawMotivations]

Narc's game kzbin.info/www/bejne/eKLHqmCrqr9_iKM

[@cassiebennet4262]

And everyone loses until the victim walks away.

[@sandracaezza7234]

Thank you the silent treatment is where I am. I see it as a form of manipulation. I’m actually happier making decisions without him. Plow through no drama.

[@sandracaezza7234]

Thank you the silent treatment is where I am. I see it as a form of manipulation. I’m actually happier making decisions without him. Plow through no drama.