Re-Parenting - Part 64 - Love - Part 2 - More Misunderstandings

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[@dianeorr8937]

All of your sessions need presented to organizations and rehabs. You are the best teacher in CPTSD in an understanding way. God bless you! He who has an ear hear. Praise God from whom all blessings flow!

[@OliveWeitzel]

All my AMEN to your comment!

[@jolaola1987]

AMEN!

[@TheBillaro]

I use these videos in stages. 1. take the video topic and write the info down. 2. i reflect on the experiences I had. 3. I think of solutions (inner child work, self-care talk) 4. I create new constructs for myself. (this is how I now think of myself, and if I'm not quite at that point, for whatever reason, i'm going to get myself there.)

[@jolaola1987]

How is this self loving action working for you ? After 4 months of giving you so much attention you must've noticed some positive changes. So how you doing friend?😊

[@johndangerbenedictarnold7862]

Extreme boundaries killed my little brother. He couldn’t stop doing drugs and was forced to sleep under a bridge when they kicked him out and was killed. He had two parents with disposable income and they choose to kick him out.

[@joeldejonge2986]

I'd keep using it if my parents were like that too. Extremely sorry for your loss. Hope you're doing all right.

[@michelehennessy2086]

It's very painful to lose someone you love die to addiction. I'm in long term recovery and my family did nothing to help me get sober nor have they done anything over the past 31 years to support my recovery or learn how to heal the FAMILY DISEASE. Sending you light and love..

[@kdjourney51]

That- is the most nuanced explanation of love I’ve ever heard. It speaks to me and my partner, to me and our daughter, and to me and my parents. It is so delicate, leaning into love. Asking for love. And having the wisdom to give love. It was not a language I learned… and I’m grateful, to learn it here and have the words. 🙏🏼❤️

[@lc3487]

This should be taught in education!

[@rickp.6251]

Maybe the spiritual needs should be like the air. Always around. And it's value developed and built as time goes on.

[@rickp.6251]

In WW2 my dad learned NOT to care if he hurt someone, it made it easier to kill them. Maybe he thought my older brother and I were just future dead meat. Who knows.

[@Kali08012]

😳 how 😞 sad!

[@TheBillaro]

At the same time, you can't say 'well they didn't love me exactly the way I expected or expect, therefore I was neglected or abused or should feel sorry for myself'. Why? It's an ungrateful attitude. You can go to that parent and express it, but chances are they will respond defensively because they want to feel that they were a good parent. You can instead say 'in what ways did your mom love you', for example. It would be enlightening I"m sure.

[@Nathja83]

I agree with, and value almost everything that is said in this video BUT - because there is a BIG BUT!!! No one that has had a healthy childhood with real connection, come to become addicts like it’s exemplified (approx. 37.00) in context to boundaries and kicking one’s child out. -that kind of relational wealth, keeps anyone’s brain from choosing to get their needs met by drugs, instead of real connection. It’s all abut how the reward system in the brain works. If your cup is full, due to connection, one is much less likely to try drugs. - AND if one does it anyway, he/she are much more likely to be somewhat indifferent to the high, than someone whom has an empty cup.. Drug abuse is a way to cope with severe pain. - that kinda pain that comes from growing up WITHOUT having ones basic needs met.

[@Kali08012]

He says this in a different lecture.

[@OliveWeitzel]

It's crazy, but my spiritual needs were met first. My emotional needs were never met ; my grandma, who had adopted me, because her daughter was the greater narcissist, was traumatized by two world wars; she gave me a very tough motional education - to "make me ready for this tough life". Oh, I could write a book....

[@Kali08012]

War is traumatizing in and of itself.

[@briieme]

This is the best video about love types and mistakes I've heard. I relate so strongly to this. Thank you for sharing

[@lanishortsunshine5773]

Ive been enjoying your views ....thank u...tim f. Love these...info sessions.....

[@truthministry7462]

Powerful

[@munimuni1385]

Great explained the unconditional love!❤

[@C-Span222]

Thank you!😊

[@Kali08012]

Are there any videos on how to fix our shame core belief?

[@cassiedavis2218]

This is probably the only video I’ve watched of these lectures where I strongly disagree with any part of it. I did find the beginning useful/insightful, but at the mention of kicking a child out just for using drugs (meaning there isn’t any behavior that is harmful to the parents, like no stealing, no disrespect or abusive language or anything like that, perhaps them being high or using isnt even that noticeable to the parents but somehow one day the parents discover evidence) to just kick them out on the basis of “you did a thing I don’t agree with” seems crazy harsh to me and there is nothing loving about it. Then farther in the video to insist that the child/person who used drugs or developed an addiction is the person who is guilty of destroying the relationship/connection, to suggest that the parents are just doing their best basically and genuinely are open-hearted and wanting to connect to their child but can’t because the child, by using drugs or developing an addiction, made it impossible to connect….I find baffling and sad to hear from this channel. Most of the people I’ve met who struggle with drugs or addiction came from households where their parents were the exact opposite of open-hearted and loving. They come from families that did not want to connect to them, that no matter how good of a kid they were, it was never enough. There’s people out there who quietly maintain an addiction without treating the people around them abusively or stealing from them, so-called “functional addicts” who do their absolute best to not hurt the people around them. They just want to be able to manage their own life and emotions, to attempt to be able to meet their own needs the best or only way they know how. Some people live in an environment where they have no real connection, they’ve never really known love, they have few if any resources on their own to be able to leave or get the help they would require to be able to survive on their own somewhere away from their family of origin. If all you need in life to be able to keep surviving another day is the feeling of a warm hug, something that nobody around you would ever be willing to give you and likely would mock you or belittle you for even asking, how is it the fault of the child/person struggling in this scenario for leaning on the only thing that feels like a big warm hug when they can’t get a real warm hug? Maybe I heard him wrong and this comment is off base, but that is what it sounded like to me and I just find it tragic that someone with so much insight and wisdom to share could be so quick to essentially victim-blame and absolve that person’s parents or family of wrongdoing. I’ve met addicts that are just garbage people through and through, but they aren’t the majority and even they often come from parents who were not kind or open-hearted or wanting connection with them. Parents of addicts aren’t all victims.

[@ladyen225]

I respect the cptsd part but to say this man is a christian is complete crap and should NOT be speaking about the Bible. John 3:16 is definitely NOT a coded message and anyone who actually reads the Bible for what it is would know this message is heresy.

[@Arbitraryusername]

Are you God? No? That’s right… you’re just an arrogant Christian passing you’re own garbage judgement against others. You are the kind of Christian that drives people away. Go sit down with the rest of the Karens.

[@Abi-or6hn]

Who are you to decide who a Christian is or not?

[@ladyen225]

@@Abi-or6hn Errrr, a Christian that actually abides by the Bible and it's doctrine.

[@Kali08012]

I want to say….. you can’t see the inner man only the Most High can. Just like when Samuel anointed David during King Sauls reign, he thought for sure God was sending him to anoint one of his brothers and God corrected him and said “I look at the inner man” (paraphrasing) in my personal opinion I never want to sit in the judgment seat of Jesus and say “he isn’t a Christian” bc I don’t know the inner man, all I can do is judge their fruit. So….. judging off of one’s interpretation of a scripture isn’t enough.

[@Kali08012]

Btw, that’s not heresy. Just because you disagree doesn’t make someone a heretic. That’s a very tyrannical perspective.