Re-Parenting - Part 84 - 8 A's - Part 1

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Tim looks at the 8 Core Emotional/Relational Needs. These needs need to be met in order for a person to feel safe, loved, valued, secure and respected. This video covers the first 3 - Attachment, Authenticity and Autonomy.
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[@rosel9785]

Thank you, Tim I listen to your videos a lot. You are a calm voice. I discover a lot about myself and my life. I am thankful for you.

[@TimFletcher]

You are welcome.

[@rosel9785]

@@TimFletcher 🩷🌹

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

I have someone I think needs to hear this. It makes so much sense for someone who fears attachment but also is afraid of commitment.

[@marykennedysherin3330]

So excellent! My father was fear of engulfment, my mother fear of abandonment! Always conflicts! I wish I had all of this knowledge growing up! It was all just awkward and unsettling

[@mknels1299]

Same here

[@margitnuijens1603]

And now i’ve become that mother. To realize this is so ambivalent. One side is deliberation the otherside is grief that I didn’t understand this before my kids were born… I take both feelings in and work to accept and forgive so I can cultivate more heartfelt energy and my growth can help me, my parents and my chilldren ❤

[@n2dwwwild]

8 A++ Awesome authentic articulation and explanation of Attachment. Your insights are Invaluable/priceless masterpiece, card/ key. Thank you for all you do to help people like me. 19:22

[@CynthiaSchoenbauer]

I had no idea that attachment was missing from my life. It feels so good to know that that was something that I needed.

[@NarrelleChain]

I have fear of being overwhelmed by this content! I'm pretty tired!

[@kelseystout8360]

Thank you for sharing this--the conflict between enmeshment and abandonment is probably the biggest thing at the moment driving my difficult relationship with my parents.

[@Watercolordragon]

Thank you so much Tim. I feel so much validated. Its like I have an enabler in me that for me to recognize toxic behaviours from my family I have to pass trugh a fog

[@olgakim4848]

Thank you, Tim. Have a great weekend. 💜

[@Геймдев-ф5т]

Tim, Serious. You` re a Genius!

[@moushiramoris9129]

Thank you very much, Dear Tim. All you say is helpful, valuable, and deeply healing. May God bless and greatly reward you. I am just wondering where is the Christian spiritual part! I really missed it so much. Please consider adding it again if possible.

[@kshaw9179]

Agree!

[@lindsay5305]

Disagree

[@littlewillowlinda]

This helped me understand more about where my parents were coming from, I think I may have had one with a fear of enmeshing and another with a fear of abandoning. Bc I see it play in their dynamic and I often have conflicting thoughts on both sides. So insightful, thanks.

[@SpiritualStuntman]

Thank you Tim ❤

[@ChrisOgunlowo]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@khawlaadem1645]

Have a great weekend doctor Tim You can't imagine how much I wait your videoklips every week 😊

[@rocheclip]

I definitely feel seen and heard on this one. So many things on this list has crossed my mind and i have thought about these things in all my relationships.

[@Schquirl]

THIS is an ANSWER TO PRAYERS ❣️🙏🏼

[@agatagatnar9063]

Tkank you! Dziękuję!

[@fabulouslife4646]

So good. Really appreciate your talks.

[@rubberbiscuit99]

"Not good." Yes, definitely. One of my parents feared abandonment and the other feared engulfment. Awful. Then I repeated it. Horrible. Trying to move forward in a healthy way. It feels wrong, but I'm not giving up on getting there.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Another wonderful articulation of how dysfunctional my inner self is.🤦🏼‍♀️

[@lindsay5305]

Good talk. It makes me think of the differences between gender.

[@SpiritualStuntman]

I have been both at different times 😢 healing now

[@kathy1001]

Thank you, Tim ❤❤💕💕🙏🙏

[@lottevandenheuvel1345]

AMAZING!

[@Vic-jw7vb]

It cannot be stressed enough that a baby and child is so dependent (until they leave the nest) and this makes them vulnerable to all this trauma if they are not nurtured in a healthy way. On engulfment I have noticed that later in life people who have that style of attachment go over and above doing things to please but create a home of learned helplessness as they learnt to be accepted was parentification with chores but no emotional needs and think that this means they deserve your devotion and their kids, learn that they cannot care for themselves and it is passed on to the next generation sadly.

[@msgirl01]

What the rest of the 8? Edit: Found them • Attachment • Authenticity • Autonomy • Attention • Acceptance • Appreciation • Affection • Allowing

[@HostileWorkplaceEXPOSED]

Thanks

[@patriciamuller72]

🙏🏼

[@AviGuitar]

these is so impotent for me ,,thank you Tim .where can i get the slides of these lectures ? thank you !

[@Schquirl]

32:00

[@justinheer9098]

I miss the Christian portion at the ends of the videos

[@edithblock1072]

Me too.

[@marylevin9262]

Same here what happened ?

[@TimFletcher]

Sometimes I include them, sometimes I don't - it comes down to how long I ramble about the Complex Trauma part (because sometimes there is a lot to say!) but I keep each video under an hour. Thank you for the valuable feedback - I really appreciate it and will keep this in mind!

[@justinheer9098]

@TimFletcher thanks tim , either way I love all of you're stuff thanks for doing what you do

[@lindsay5305]

I dont

[@hopeisorange]

Am I schizophrenic? I’m seeing both of these characteristics in pieces and parts…