Re-Parenting - Part 89 - Depletion and Self-Care

[@mindcache5650]

A straight talking therapist without the endless questions .

[@jenrich111]

Dear Lord GOD, bless this main always. He gives so much to us humans. Thank You for Brother Tim Fletcher and may his kind true words be heard by the most ears, hearts, emotions and minds and heals them fully. Amen🙏

[@LOVEISTRUTH300]

💖💖💖

[@yourbadmum]

🙏 🙏

[@tinka9291]

He just GETS it. Man what a relief to hear everything be validated

[@fryfully]

63 years of survival mode. Explains a lot my relationship failure and now…exhaustion. I guess learning this is better late than never.

[@carrie-annehixson3156]

Me too. Yes. It’s never too late.

[@elaine8985]

100%❤❤❤❤

[@lynnshiomi8537]

Me too! 66 years! True better late than never

[@thePOWERofART-11]

Tim. I could write a book about how these videos and your care have changed my life. There really aren't words to express it but my whole reality and experience of life has improved. yes there are ups and downs, but overall, there is progress. I go through the tough bits and come out the other end!

[@NeptuneRising888]

Do it!!

[@android584]

Do you pay for the courses or just watch the KZbin videos?

[@IndigoCosmic]

Do you have videos on how people with cptsd to stop ruminating on negative experiences specifically when it comes to a narcissistic ex?

[@HappyCat1111]

I’m so grateful for these teachings! I’m coping with C-PTSD and in the darkest place I’ve ever been. These videos help me so much.

[@kdjourney51]

It was nice to hear the permission for exhaustion. Ty

[@donnag.3611]

I thank & praise God for leading me to this video today! This is exactly what happened to me from the beginning of summer onwards & increased! I saw many different reasons why it happened & I am so grateful to the Lord in how He directs me to understand instead of being confused about it. I am thankful that you give us positive steps to take as well.

[@GodIsLove1John416]

Thank you for explaining why I feel so tired & drained all the time. Life shouldn't feel this exhausting.

[@JessicaBerry-ds2vd]

I'm glad you found the video. I will pray you are able to do what you need to do to break free and live.❤

[@GodIsLove1John416]

@@JessicaBerry-ds2vd I wish I knew what that was or what I'm supposed to do specifically.

[@NE0Nwhip]

@@GodIsLove1John416I think making time to sit aside and contemplate what deep feelings you’re experiencing along with insights and maybe writing it all down will help

[@GodIsLove1John416]

@@NE0Nwhip I wish it were that easy. I see how I'm disconnected from & don't understand my emotions/feelings from what all I experienced/endured growing up. I kept a diary when I was a kid then once I discovered my mother & so called friends had stolen it & used the information against me multiple times, I developed many negative associations and bottled up even more. Being vulnerable only lead to more pain. I see how my growth is stunted yet don't know how to change how my body's systems doesn't function like that of a healthy person who grew up in loving/nurturing environment. I can't go back in time to undo the long-term damages done. Trauma brain is debilitating to say the least.

[@carolineharrison9288]

Yes me too! I’ve got several situations and this week I’ve been completely emotionally and physically drained. Been letting my body rest. Next week is starting while I have some peace. My gas tank is beyond empty.😢 Please pray for me.

[@Paulathompson1712]

He answers the questions I never thought needed to be asked

[@majanikolic495]

Thank you so much Tim for helping us to understand better all this things. Every time I watch one of your videos I think “I can’t believe, this is exactly what I needed to hear and learn today!”

[@marykennedysherin3330]

Me too!

[@Deepskap-v9z]

Exactly

[@fairygurl9269]

Partial Self Care is Better than None, and More Could Be Better 💞 Growth & Gratitude 🌸

[@valazuniga]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. I graduated from LIFT in November, and the holidays, and now I know at times, "Depletion" has been wreaking havoc in my life. I was aware something was going on with me but couldn't put my finger on it. God bless my wife, who sent me this video after it popped up in her YT feed. It was the best gift I (and she) could possibly have received this year. Soooo grateful for Tim and all those within his organization for serving so many of us at the real point of our needs with overcoming CT and especially the resulting shame.

[@cattails4422]

Thank you for this very helpful video. ❤

[@paulinenjeri5254]

Wow. Well explained with compassion and precision. Be blessed Mr. Fletcher

[@gloriazimmerman4242]

My God, you are such a blessing. God sent me to your KZbin page because I prayed for answers. Thank you for your obvious obedience to The Most High God for helping others in need. May God bless you richly.

[@TikiTube1991]

Tim thank you so much for making this series. It has helped me tremendously and I'm sure many others too. You are a true example of what it means to follow in the footsteps of Jesus. Teaching, healing, and spreading hope ❤ I appreciate that you keep the Christian part separate so this content is accessible to anyone who needs it, no matter what they believe. I hope you had a wonderful Christmas with your loved ones and wish you all the best for 2024

[@drsandhyathumsikumar4479]

Much grattitude for your good work

[@schoolanglo6785]

Sir, from the bottom of my heart: God bless you

[@ldmarz5994]

Thank you so much for what you do. Thank you for posting for all to benefit from the healing power of your amazing lectures. It’s a blessing for those who cannot afford to have formal therapy, lifesaving even. 🙏🏼👏🏼 God Bless you for all you offer the world. 🙏🏼

[@bpassion4fashion581]

Glad I found you ! First day of the year and taking on healing at a cellular and nervous system level. I am constantly multitasking as a way to keep up but sort of in a survival mode. Throughout the years I have accumulated lots of things ( shoes, clothes, art and crafts ,) so it has become hard to keep up with the constant organizing . I have also become isolated and disconnected from the flow of life “out there.” I have been unemployed for a few years now and to tap it off, I have been giving my attention and little energy to toxic narcissistic relationships that make me feel drained ! Compassion fatigue is real! Not having none of that in this new year 2024.

[@martagilvazartlife]

ticking all those every day to get to the next day, until it's a workout to even breath, thank you for verbalising it

[@marykennedysherin3330]

These teachings always resonate with me! So so helpful!🙏🏻❤️

[@Sojourner-cd8go]

Awareness!! Yes that's absolutely it! Some things don't have an overnight fix. Like years ago when I worked graveyard shifts I knew that sleep bank would never ever be on full. Unfortunately sometimes we can't get out of that auto-pilot for a long time because we had to work so much. And every part of us takes a hit. Body, soul and spirit. It's amazing how much of being tired in your mentality is connected to being physically tired.

[@mrsks5399]

This information is absolute gold 👐 Thank you

[@LongTranDuy-wq2jz]

Thank you so much Tim!!! Even though this is the first time I watch your video, I am so grateful for how you deliver such incredible insights in a very effective approach. Thank you for your work!

[@carospereman3537]

reparenting - pt 89. Good video. Depletion -- who knew.

[@janemarlo4978]

Fabulous, thank you!

[@truth360able]

Thanks Tim!!! This thing about "self care" and depletion...argh!

[@suzijorgensen6545]

I spend way too much time alone. I've had Fybromyalgia for over half my life. I'm a very isolated person and I hate it. I'm so depleted and I don't know what to do 😢. I have been in counselling for complex trauma for 3-4 years

[@Heyu7her3]

May help to incorporate a somatic based therapy such as EMDR, hypnotherapy, somatic experiencing. I've also heard ppl have breakthroughs with acupuncture or massage therapy. Good luck to you!

[@Paeoniarosa]

I have been learning so much from your lectures, Thank you. And today is the first time I disagreed with something you said. Introverts really do sometimes need quiet time alone to recharge. There is nothing unhealthy about that.

[@nothingthere3959]

He wasn't talking about introverts though, he was talking about people like me - who don't talk to anyone at all for months if not years, except maybe cashier in the supermarket, and yet still feel lack of energy to go outside and see people just passing by, (and it's false feeling, because once outside I do feel better, but it can be hard to convince myself to do it because in my mind "people are stress, troubles, pain, burden"). It's basically shut-in lifestyle (which is absolutely possible due to modern technologies). And without conscious effort this can going on and on in perpetual cycle, because "feel bad->isolate->still feel bad->isolate more", rinse and repeat.

[@elaine8985]

You are an irreplaceable Gem😊

[@chilloften]

Yes Tim, it’s very helpful. Inspiring me to be better & better. 🌲🦋🌸

[@lynnebailey6528]

Thank you Tim for your understanding of the situation. And, more importantly the solutions you offer..DIY from an expert..you do know how much value you are giving us? you must do. Huge appreciation from all of us. Xxxxx

[@Deepskap-v9z]

Thank you

[@tinka9291]

I actually laughed after 37 minutes, I felt like he listed every viable option which are apparently all unhealthy- my trauma mind be tripping . But the healthy self care makes sense…

[@rohanrajah8839]

Excellent.❤

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

Happy holidays, Tim! And Happy New Year! 😊🎉

[@PhươngHoàngTrúc]

Thank you so much and Happy new year 😊🎉

[@awetephrem]

Thanks!

[@teresa1710]

Just back from a day at the spa! It was like Tim was speaking to me 🥴

[@ChrisOgunlowo]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@joostvanherpen3138]

I wonder, how should you deal with emotions then. You for example lost someone, how not to stuff it down? What to do with it then?

[@theNeverangel]

Where can I find out more about the 12 needs?

[@mgrizz2386]

Where do i find te 12 needs?

[@sylviaestrada9257]

What are the 12 needs?

[@jenrich111]

just search Tim Fletcher 12 needs Bam "Reparenting part 21 - 12 needs" see how easy that is, using yt search

[@sylviaestrada9257]

@@jenrich111 Thank you kindly!!

[@rafeeqwarfield9690]

What’s terrible is I’m listening to this while doing my unhealthy behaviors

[@nothingthere3959]

Same. Though, making list of what should be done and soon.

[@rockstarphysiqueinc.2391]

thx mate

[@KellySnow]

How do I fill back up

[@kay4725]

THIS.

[@anonanon8409]

what are these 12 needs he refers to?

[@Thunderroad8517]

What are the 12 needs

[@TimFletcher]

The 12 Basic Needs are: Physical Needs 1. Food + Water 2. Pleasure 3. Sex/ Intimacy Emotional Needs 4. Acceptance 5. Relationships + Belonging 6. Safety/ Security/ Fairness 7. Purpose 8. Rest 9. Beauty Spiritual Needs 10. Awe 11. Higher Power, Meditation, Connectedness, Humility 12. Content, Happy, Fulfilled

[@Thunderroad8517]

@@TimFletcher Thank you so much and for the work you are doing. I am learning a lot from you. I have needed it for a long time. As for the 12 needs I have never seen them in a list. I have suffered all of my life with ctpsd. The only thing that keeps me going is the Creator ! Thanks again!!!!

[@shahlathasni6525]

❤❤❤

[@gulliver7419]

🙏

[@Vic-jw7vb]

Tim, I listen to your list of reasons for depletion. And I am triggered with anger because what you describe is many of the items on the list women do daily for family and are so depleted but can looks like they have been doing Nothing! and the husband's come home and think they had it harder because their work was physical!! And we wonder why women do not feel appreciated. I have had to leave my partner because he is a high functioning alcoholic and earns more money as an engineer and even society places a higher value on his job and him. However all the emotional work with kids and keeping the home a calm home is not appreciated and women have had this depletion for all.time and exhausted with compassion fatigue but expected to provide it constantly..... When will women be honoured for this in society ??? So women can be valued as much as the breadwinner. I realise this is generic but no one mentions all this new research highlights what women have done for 1000s of years as mother's. I hope the next generation can learn this as men and women who can appreciate we all need the 12 needs supported not just Mother's and women providing it to the men's ego. This is just what I have witnessed 😢

[@katalinfenyvesi1156]

Thank you for all your videos!!! It seems that you have lost a lot of weight. I hope you are o.k.!

[@GoddessHabits]

According to this i should be -125,645% depleted 😅.

[@paulinenjeri5254]

😂 then you are walking dead child😂😂😂

[@nothingthere3959]

I feel that depleted...

[@nealwailing3870]

People who know what is going on in Gaza get emotionally fucked up

[@EnglishFuture-xg1gw]

i think tim works too hard. that sigh says a lot.

[@RadekPilich]

Listening to someone continuously repeating the same sentence.....

[@fairygurl9269]

Hearing is Different Than Listening.....

[@avivithagby]

Way too much publicity