Re-Parenting - Part 85 - 8 A's Of Emotional Needs - Part 2

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Tim looks at the final 5 of the 8 A's that make up our emotional needs. These are the needs that must be met if we are to feel loved, safe, respected and not experience Complex Trauma: Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection, Allowance
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[@kukey25]

I think parents who are disappointed or even embarrassed by their kids are really only thinking about their own needs: gaining approval of their friends, family, and peers, being validated as a good parent, etc

[@kukey25]

I like how Tim uses "loving" behavior as a synonym for "healthy" behavior because that really is how we know what love and health mean. If it's not healthy, it's not love. If it's love, it will lead to healthiness.

[@DeeDeeOrr]

You are heaven sent. Thank you for your exquisite wisdom.

[@mercurialmom-qk9me]

I discovered you about a year ago and your videos have truly blessed me. Thank you for your work and for making these videos accessible online. You’re a great teacher!

[@LisaValentine1]

I’ve been binge watching Tim for the past few months and he is exactly what I need when feeling emotionally disregulated. I’m so grateful for his healing videos.

[@1HorseOpenSlay]

Anyone else never had someone treat them like that? Where are the caring people. I sure can't find any. I know that they must be out there, somewhere

[@Schquirl]

I totally relate and empathize with your comment. Where!? Scattered, few and far between

[@LisaValentine1]

I agree. I’ve decided God keeps putting challenging people in my path so that I learn to recognize people that are trying to take advantage of me/stop people pleasing,and learn how to establish boundaries. It’s a long exhausting road, but apparently I signed up for it in this lifetime.

[@edithlee3831]

I don’t know of any family like this. People carry down the dysfunction from generation to generation. I suppose awareness can help break the cycle. Listening to Tim Fletcher makes me realize how invalidated I was.

[@1HorseOpenSlay]

Thnx for your replies guys 🌞💛

[@annvisser7939]

My husband is so kind and respectful. We both had a lot of work to do to get to where we are now but it has been worth the work. 43 years married. There is hope!

[@claireh.7605]

My grandma mom and aunt would get worried and agitated if I did something to meet my own needs - they had to get involved and disrupt me if I sat on a chair, laid down to rest, ate or exercised. Like they have to feel dominant over me meeting my needs and if I kill myself inside and act like a dead passive animal focused on pleasing them, then they feel happy and at peace.

[@cubanadiense]

❤️‍🩹I hope the rest of your life you be surrounded by people who value and appreciate you just as you are , just for being you with the goods and imperfections , ppl who appreciate you as you so much deserve

[@stephanieg4950]

Very thorough and poignant. Super helpful. It always seems logical and almost simple when Tim describes a concept. But then you realize you never saw the full picture coz no one ever explained it all ! You realize you have many unexplained bits of feelings stuffed down and have been carrying them around, unresolved. That s where healing can begin. Ouffff!🎉

[@polodhtip6061]

Amazing video, so deep and on the spot, thanks a lot

[@themidnightmenu990]

Amazing work! Your wisdom is invaluable. I've learnt so much! Thank you!!

[@ChrisOgunlowo]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@joseph8468]

Thank you, thank you, thank you, TM.

[@cherrrryyyycherrybaby]

this content is amazing! so grateful for this

[@CuddleClaw.]

I love this

[@tarothijadevenus4017]

Thank you Tim ☺️🙏🏻❤️🇨🇱

[@justinheer9098]

Present = attuned

[@Lioness_of_Gaia]

Thanks so much! ❤😊

[@ingridwright5927]

Thank you

[@kelseystout8360]

Is it even possible to find someone in the world who will give you all 8 of these things at once? Because I never have, and I don't think I ever will.

[@milliewoo337]

Yes, I believe there are those out there in recovery from the same soul wounds that know how important this is, and even if they can’t do it perfectly, they will continue to get up and try everyday because they know it makes their life fuller to give the gift to someone else.

[@lindsay5305]

Agree with all the eight so far, but not the appreciation one. That comes from an unmet need 32:35. Validation is not praise. Thats the type of thing people seek via social media for instance. Validation is listening, accepting and understanding your child. You have the wrong definition of validation 33:14. 33:14 they feel love when they believe they are loved.

[@christinehex1238]

Can anyone provide the link to part 1 of this? ❤🙏

[@Cutest1TheGame]

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[@aciddiver1978]

I never heard i was good at anything.

[@indigosmyth7475]

Completely conformed growing up as a Jehovah's Witness all bc of selfish Mother that would never accept anything from me that wasn't the bs that tshe believed then when I became a JW & was fully immersed in the cult she became very unsupportive- the opposite to what I thought she would be happy, then when I left the cult she pursued after me for years trying to convince me to "come back" writing this I see how Fking Insane that is - having a parent like that - I'm filled with anger & hatred towards her but sometimes I feel love for her, I have No contact for my own sanity but yeh it's has affected my life alot!

[@katebueno191]

Does anyone know why this people who claim to have evidence sees the need to go around !! Getting false evidence that they create to prove a point ??

[@milliewoo337]

Who are you talking about

[@Me-fs5mi]

Born to be used.

[@patriciamuller72]

💙🙏🏼

[@19hotlipz81]

How do I find the last video? Can't find it in newest vids, or this one in fact. Last one I see was one month ago! Thanks

[@19hotlipz81]

Nm, found it in search. Not sure why these 2 new vids aren't showing up on the channel page though in 'Latest'.

[@19hotlipz81]

Omg, found them in 'Live' didn't even know there were other videos in there. Will have missed so many XD

[@lorihilliard9956]

@@19hotlipz81what do you mean by, you found them in the live? I’m unable to find the first one that goes with this one. Would really appreciate your help! Thank you!