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[@MaybeAnnatar]

So, ngl I submitted mine half expecting it to never show up. But ya know what, just gonna shame myself and own it. I'm the girl that left a guy for his twin sister. She and I are still together like 5 years later! I love her to death and have an engagement ring because I'm planning to propose too. Her brother has come around and accepted what happened is fully supportive of us now. UPDATE: We're engaged! UPDATE 2: This just hit my recommendations again and I had no idea that it was the one with my secret in it until I got there again LMAO

[@athena1491]

that is the cutest! congrats!

[@EmBotBeepBeep]

AHHHH YAAAAY oh I'm so glad you posted an update- congrats on your upcoming engagement!

[@amaninajumudeen6468]

Oh that's so adorable!! Congratulations and All the best for the proposal 💖💫

[@hadss6878]

Congrats!!!! your story is like a prompt for a Catradora fanfic and i love it...

[@marie-hf9cy]

Love this story! :) Congratulations and best luck!!!

[@mariem.5613]

If I had a huge source of gay secrets like Alayna, I would just be scrolling through them all day long, refreshing the page all the time, better than Instagram I would think 💖🏳️‍🌈

[@irradiated_woman8016]

I agree. Anyone wanna drop some gay secrets so we can all read em? I'll start: today one of my patients had an asl interpreter and it was an interpreter I hadn't met yet. She gave me the queer vibe and was cute and I was trying to give her the "I'm gay tooo!" eye. Cant do more because im professional lady, but... the point is, I've been single too long and it's got me ready to fall in love with every queer woman I see LMAO.

[@BeneathFullMoon]

I started fully coming to terms with being bi a couple years ago in my early 20s and it was such a long process... then I remember the first time I came out as bi, I was actually 11 lol I had forgotten, bc I went right back into the closet and ignored it for over 10 years 🙃

[@smile-gk7ws]

@@BeneathFullMoon my journey began at 12 years old... Everybody girl had a boyfriend at that age so I wanted to be like others and started dating a guy I met 3 moths ago at this time... A mutual friend (female; I call her Marie)of us started hugging later cuddling and holding hands in public... If someone knows me the person would avoid body contact because I'm not a big fan of that ^^ But with her it feels right and natural to me so I didn't worry about that... Yeah... she was my gay awakening(; I broke up with my boyfriend I had though... At that time I was confused as I realised that I've had feelings for her so I needed someone to talk about that and I hoped that another mutual friend(also female;I call her Lisa) could build me up... BUT! I was wrong she said:"You like girls? Are you sure?" I answered with "Yes" and she responded with"You're disguisting" and spit me in the face in front of a bunch of people... Everyone was ignoring me from now on but Marie didn't... She confessed her feelings to me but I said to her she's more like a sister to me than a girlfriend... We ignored each other for a few weeks then I confessed my feelings to her and she did the same thing as I did to her ... Now I knew how she felt at the time... A few months later she started cuddling, hugging again but we never had a relationship ... I started dating boys again but I wasn't happy in this relationships... Sorry for my poor english^^ and have a nice day Edit:Now I'm 20 years old and started accepting me as the lesbian that I ever was(;

[@zoejohnson495]

I am a virgin never been kissed not that I ever tried to kiss anyone 28 and single woman but I have bullied a long time but it’s ok because I am talking about my only best friend ever in my life now back in high school sucked but during lunch I was waiting for her not caring about anyone else because I had huge crush on her but as I walked away to throw my trash away and she looked like a tomato and she was so upset as I sat back down I was saying what’s going on and it was the other chick that I didn’t really get along with was talking shit about me for no reason then I just looked at her and sighed like saying come on really then I remember the girl I had a crush on passed away sadly

[@lemongrassandsleep6352]

We need more secrets on this chain. I’ll add one (it’s pretty basic but you get what you get) I think I’m in love with my best friend. I know, basic like I said. But the thing is, she is also queer-she’s been trying to figure out her sexuality a lot lately and I’m scared I’m going to confuse her. I’m also scared that telling her will ruin the friendship we have, and I don’t think I can afford that. She’s one of the only people I truly trust myself around and I legitimately don’t know what to do. I am also at the age where relationships don’t last long and are based off of drama and hormones, so knowing we’d break up eventually pains me. Anyways thanks for reading my stereotypical “I’m in love with my best friend” queer secret, hope you enjoyed

[@raspberryitalia3464]

Your sexual and romantic attractions can be different. Being bisexual and homoromantic is an option.

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

Oh THIS

[@white.and.lavender.blossoms.]

Yup! You can also combine labels (bi lesbian, pan lesbian, etc.)

[@Rebecca-fw3vm]

​@@white.and.lavender.blossoms. how can you be a bi lesbian? like bi means attraction to multiple genders and lesbian means attraction to women? so how can they be combined??

[@purplekitten6637]

@@Rebecca-fw3vm It refers to the split attraction model. A bi lesbian could be a homosexual biromantic woman, or homoromantic bisexual.

[@JulietteVeronica1201]

@@white.and.lavender.blossoms. You can’t be a bi or pan lesbian because lesbianism is the lack of attraction to men. That’s why I think more people who are bisexual homoromantic or homosexual biromantic use gay or queer, because it’s more vague while lesbian is pretty specific.

[@elizabethtudor5948]

OMFG I CAN'T BELIVE MY SECRET SHOWED UP. I'm the girl who kinda discovered she was a lesbian thanks to my gf coming out as trans. It means so much that you read it. I love uuuuu 😭😭😭😭🏳️‍🌈💕

[@EternalDensity]

Thanks for sharing your beautiful story!

[@elizabethtudor5948]

@@EternalDensity You are very kind! 💕✨

[@jasonitaliano8631]

Congrats to you both. Thank you for sharing your story

[@karalee6522]

GET IT ELIZABETH!!!!

[@BlairMountainNetwork]

So happy you both found your truths together!!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@n1vzee]

"I hope the toast was good" almost made me choke on my water

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

just here to put your life in moderate danger, always

[@alisonbarker3862]

Very drool. [Australian for funny]. x

[@jaginaiaelectrizs6341]

@@alisonbarker3862 is that in any way related to the word "droll"?🤔 🤷‍♀️😁🤣

[@athenaamethyst8385]

Wondering if the person who is unsure of their orientation may be bisexual and homoromantic. Romantic and sexual attraction doesn't have to be the same.

[@mariebourgot4949]

Had the same thought. We encompass romantic feelings in the sexual orientation terms and it causes confusion.

[@AnneHeidrich]

Yeah, I was going to say the same. I think we grow thinking both things are the same, but they are definitely not

[@zs9710]

I’ve had the same thoughts!! I started exploring my attraction to other women two months ago and I’m definitely unpacking some internalized biphobia. When I sit with the possibility of being bisexual, there’s this part of me that feels like that’s illegitimate and like I need to “decide”. But on the other hand, since starting to go on dates with women (and kissing a few and thoroughly enjoying it 💕), I feel less and less attracted to men? Like even though I still find them attractive, I don’t see myself walking down the aisle and there being a man at the end?

[@sonipitts]

Exactly what I was going to say.

[@jaginaiaelectrizs6341]

SAME THOUGHTS! I actually almost never realized that I was bi myself because I didn't know for a long time that romantic attraction and sexual attraction could be very different/separate things. (I'm also graysexual, which further complicated/delayed things too.😅) But as soon as I learned the distinction, everything about myself made so much sense.

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

Why is it always the sister

[@octoberrose243]

For any trans lesbians worried about being accepted by cis lesbians: One of my best friends (I actually have a squish on her but that’s another story) is a trans lesbian and she’s with a cis woman who is questioning whether she’s omnisexual or a lesbian. They’re super cute and everyone in my friend group wants to have a relationship as wholesome and sweet as theirs. 🏳️‍⚧️💖

[@JokerCrowe]

Also, "We can find things pleasing without it being sexual". THANK YOU! Louder for the people in the back! (especially the ace-phobes x)

[@Shoot4AlarmFire]

YES! I am ace, and I have quite a few things I like a LOT, such the English voice dub for one of the actors in Squid Game. It's just a voice, it means nothing, but damn did I like the way she talked!

[@barbscosta105]

Hey, sapphic person who's questioning if they're bisexual or under comp het: you are not alone and I feel like you've described all thoughts inside my head right now. So thank you and I hope you're living your best life

[@ireallyreallyhategoogle]

If you are feeling like she described, consider the possibility that you might be bisexual, but homoromantic. You can be sexually attracted to both and romantically attracted to just women.

[@rheab8047]

Alayna becoming a bit more unhinged in every new video is an absolute blessing

[@panicwentmanic2525]

I always appreciate your shirts, but this mosaic of shirts is perfection!

[@MeAVE243]

Agreed! I would wear that t-shirt!

[@stephanieh5478]

My secret: my first kiss was a girl. Something about kissing a guy seemed off putting. After kissing a handful of girls and guys I can totally relate to the long secret they sent you! I have very particular tastes in men but find all woman beautiful. So now I just consider myself queer as an umbrella term for my confusing Bi/Pan sexuality.

[@nobodyhere22500]

Related to the comment at 8:30. I’m a bi man but I almost always date women, because even though I’m attracted to men, toxic masculinity is a hard no from me, and there’s an awful lot of that around. 🤷‍♂️

[@Othelbark]

Trans woman comes out to her wife who reacts with "ohhh, that explains it, I'm gay!" Is my favorite type of story, it's not even that rare of an experience.

[@peppersshenanigans5489]

I definitely need more details of this “hang out” and “getting off” situation 🧐🧐 also, when you said “we can like nice things and it not be sexual” 👏🏼👏🏼

[@lemonade876]

See, I'm a trans woman, and I tend to use two separate labels. I'm pansexual, because I tend to be sexually attracted to anybody, but homoromantic, because I tend to only want to be in a loving romantic relationship with a woman

[@A-Wa]

Can you be bi/pansexual but not be attracted (sexually and romanticaly) to people with penis? Asking for a friend..

[@anonymouscandle1223]

Exactly, so you're homoromantic pansexual, that would be your label if you wanted one. Nothing wrong with that

[@MsAaannaaa]

I think it would make a great "baby gay asks.." video to do a collab with a lesbian who is also trans, to share her experiences in the lesbian community and what you can learn from her like you could learn from other more experienced lesbians. They're an often overlooked perspective within our community and I'd love to see more of it in general. I know you don't necessarily label yourself as a baby gay anymore and I respect that. It could also be just a nice interview with another lesbian who happens to be trans, and you two talk about stuff like the pains and wonders of queer dating! :) Please? :D

[@egrace1321]

ooo yes this is a great idea !!

[@mailyak442]

YES.

[@Steertanzer]

YES

[@AnyaBlood1632]

As a bisexual woman I feel like part of the “disgust” in being attracted to men is the fear of being rejected by the queer community because you’re in a “straight” relationship. That’s one thing I’ve come to think over the years of talking to other bi friends about it

[@kenanjones3481]

I absolutely love the wholesome vibes in these videos, but it really is a blatant reminder that I am very asexual... y'all do be crazy sometimes lol

[@_Someone_out_there.]

love these types of vids! you showed me gay is okay, thanks to you i had the courrage to tell someone i liked them and now 'us' is a thing

[@AlaynaJoyOfficial]

AH this is so sweet 💕

[@bethany629]

You can have different romantic and sexual identities. For example: bisexual homoromantic. Edit: I have a double label like that, but choose to communicate what feels best for me. I use "gay" because I choose to only pursue relationships with women.

[@white.and.lavender.blossoms.]

Additionally you can ID as a bi lesbian or a different mspec lesbian label

[@staticsight]

@@white.and.lavender.blossoms. I use bi lesbian or bi d*ke as my identity label!

[@George-ne9rx]

@@white.and.lavender.blossoms. I wouldn't do that, just because lesbian means not being attracted to men, but bisexual homoromantic is fine because it's adding that difference between the attractions rather than just lumping them together. If that makes sense?

[@beanybee]

@@George-ne9rx Thanks for this. bisexual lesbians do not exist. Taking over a label that has been fought for for so long is lesbo phobic. Discounting bisexuality by attaching it to lesbianism is biphobic. bisexual homoroantic is exactly what this is. Anything else is problematic. Period.

[@conlon4332]

What is your double label, if you don't mind saying? I generally say I'm gay, but occasionally I'm attracted to guys so homoflexible. But I'm still trying to figure out romantic/sexual attraction, as I feel like they're not the same with guys. I'm attracted to femininity, occasionally in guys but mostly in women. I don't feel like I want to be in a normal relationship with a guy, but I might be interested in an arrangement where I had power over him? I don't know if any of this is attraction, though, or just theoretical ideas being attractive? I don't know if I'm sexually attracted to guys because sometimes they're in my fantasies but either not having sex with me (mostly with other guys) or if they are it feels quite... conceptual, you know? I don't know if I just find the idea of having sex with a guy potentially hot in the scenarios I fantasise about because he's desperate and I have power over him? It doesn't really seem like attraction when it's not a specific guy, just a concept. But sometimes I'm attracted to specific guys, but I don't know what kind of attraction it is. Is it aesthetic attraction? I kinda feel like I want to meet him, but I don't know what I'd want to do then. With women it's simple - I'm attracted to her and that's it, with guys it feels convoluted. It feels like there's something there but I don't know what, but it doesn't happen often so a small sample size is also a problem.

[@korra8270]

Happy to hear about the trans acceptance in this video and peoples secrets being so accepting. Been out as trans for almost 4 years and still don't always know if I am welcome in some areas and was just happy to hear this. PS: love your videos.

[@J75Pootle]

I feel like so many more people in the community need to know about the split attraction model (SAM) and about how many different types of attraction there are too! The SAM is mainly used/known by ace-spec or aro-spec identities to help understand how we can not have one type of attraction but still have others. For example, that person who said they were sexually attracted to men but couldn't see themselves in a relationship with them? Bisexual Homoromantic is probably a pretty accurate label. Also, there are so many types of attraction (sexual, romantic, aesthetic, sensual, emotional, intellectual, platonic, queerplatonic, alterous) and they are so useful. Example? That person who said they were attracted to their cousin's voice and Alayna said "surely that's not sexual though" - probably not, I'd bet it was sensual. Attraction is a lot more confusing than it first seems if you start digging, but knowing this stuff has helped a ton for me (who still has no idea what type of attraction he experiences, but knows that it ain't sexual or romantic)

[@mariem.5613]

Whatever I'm doing, when I new episode of gay secrets appears, I click and watch. Keep'em coming, we love them ✨☺️

[@KS87878]

Such a nice feeling to see that other people out there feel the same way as me, still sexually attracted to men but not romantically. I was with a guy for 8yrs. Still figuring out the complexities of identity - This community of people has helped me so much!!

[@kayleetennant2769]

Hey there- you don’t have to answer (obviously) but did you guys break up because you didn’t know how to feel? I’m in a similar boat right now I’m with a man but am having the same thoughts and not sure if it’s fair for him or me if we’re together and I’m having these thoughts

[@gigglesmurf2004]

Yes. I’ve been realizing this. I’m still sometimes sexually attracted to men but have no thoughts of ever wanting to be in a relationship with one again. If I were to get into a serious relationship I can only see it with a woman. I identify as queer and leave it at that.

[@Maegz93]

I relate so hard to that girls dilemma with being sexually but not romantically attracted to men and being both with women. It's been driving me absolutely insane lately, so thankyou for your kind words. It really is a struggle.

[@Maegz93]

I'm leaning towards "lesbian with daddy issues" lol.

[@pepito2368]

It's such a shame we feel like we need to label ourselves in some way or form and also the confusion with this when we feel like we don't quite fit in the box... myself included. I am happily married to a woman, call myself a lesbian but do find men sexually attractive too even if i don't think I could see myself in a relationship with one anymore. Like you Alayna I was with my boyfriend for a long time when I realised I was probably bi and then later gay... I would like to think ideally we should just love the person for who they are regardless of gender, sexual orientation etc... like love without borders. Love the shirts too by the way. I think I need an Alayna wardrobe!

[@P0nyl0ve]

Labels are useful for finding people who have the same experiences as you, but can also make things way more complicated than they need to be! For example I think I'm somewhere on the ace spec, but idk what label exactly fits?

[@lydiakies9053]

*Yeah you will!!* Almost shot the coffee out my nose. Thank you for the unexpected laugh.

[@sarahm7086]

Your sexuality does not have to be defined. You don't have to choose a definitive label of bi or lesbain or anything else, you can just be. You are more than free and capable to live in your individuality and not have to justify that to anyone. Your sexuality can be fluid, it can be stagnant, it can be simply whatever you like it to be. This is your reminder to be kind to yourself and breathe in some fresh air.

[@sarahm7086]

and if you do find comfort in having a defined label - there's nothing wrong with Queer!

[@Zina_Sarah]

I just came out to my cousin like an hour ago and he was so sweet about it😭❤I don't know why I feel happy and "powerless"(that feeling of knowing something he doesn't know) at the same time...it feels weird but relieving❤

[@paniceverywhere52]

It’s the way I managed to convince myself that I was reading wlw fanfiction because I liked the plot lines and stories. Like what was not clicking for me? I literally typed in “wlw fanfiction” not straight fanfiction

[@Steertanzer]

For me it has kind of been the other way around. Always thought I didn't like YA romance for example. Turns out I'm just not into STRAIGHT YA romance... The exact same stories and tropes though, but with women only? I'm here for it, apparently.

[@MisterPunch19]

The woman trying to figure out is she is a lesbian experiencing comphet who, or is Bi/Pan ect. It sounds like she is Bisexual but HomoRomantic, your sexuality and romantic identity don't have to line up. I'm call myself Bi cuz I'm Heteroflexible but PanRomantic. There are great resources in the Ace/Aero community on the difference between sexual and romantic attractions. Hope that helps.

[@jennauntnenehobbs4439]

I stumbled upon your channel while trying to solve some insomnia issues, I choose to watch videos on bad travels stories. One of my best choices was watching your Paris AirBnb nightmare story. I find your content witty, informative, and very entertaining. Thank you!💜

[@digitamaqueen]

Thanks for sharing the Trans-lesbian stories too, having representation in one of my favorite queer content creator's videos means a lot. 💖

[@elizabethtudor5948]

The girl who kinda figured out her lesbian identity by her girlfriend coming out is me!!! I am so excited 😭😭

[@Rosta720]

I am 24, 3 weeks on HRT and only within the last year or so have I realized just how much Other people weren't thinking like me. I really, SINCERELY thought all men secretly wanted to be girls and its just masculinity that keeps us all from it. I relate to that other girl so much and I think the next few years of my life as I transition I will only find more and more of these thoughts I just assumed were universal lol

[@bread2246]

Wow, yes as a bisexual I have started to feel shame for being attracted to men. As well as being a very masculine woman. All I ever hear about is how masculinity is bad and it makes me feel bad about myself. Like no one has ever told me being masculine is good as a gnc person it's always bad and it's hard. Firstly, homophobes then most women now. Also, i started crying when you said it was ok to like men. All my friends are queer, and they always make it seem like such a negative even gay man. They'll be like unfortunately I like men etc. Hearing that all the time constantly made me to start to feel bad about liking men. Hearing that along with other stuff has made it so hard for me to accept myself. Not only are plp telling me that parts of myself are gross but now it's like wow plp told me liking women was gross and now me liking men is gross. It's like I can never win.

[@AyameSohma1993]

5:53 To the person struggling with their labels, there are many people out there like you. My friend is bisexual, and he's sexually attracted to men and women. He's not romantically attracted to women though. Only men. He would consider himself homoromantic. Feelings like this are so valid. Don't doubt yourself.

[@kaslanarupi3546]

OP was not me but I related to them 100%. Comments like this are validating, thank you!

[@AyameSohma1993]

@@kaslanarupi3546 you're welcome!

[@NaeOnYT]

Alayna, you have to do a video on your favorite lesbian books! I'm rereading "Tipping the Velvet," and it amazes me that I've read that book at least five times and still love it every time; nobody writes "oh-shit-wait-I'm-gay-and-it's-the-19th-century" quite like Sarah Waters.

[@Shoot4AlarmFire]

Okay, that story about that the trans relationship made me so happy! It's like...she found her soulmate, she just knew they were perfect for each other and she was in love, but she was confused because male. Only for her partner to admit she isn't a male, and suddenly, it all made sense. How can anyone question that being trans is a choice?? It's like their souls just found each other, they knew they were what each other needed, and it all fell into place later.

[@chripaulzi]

For the person submitting their secret at 6:20. Please look up the term 'bisexual homoromantic'. I had seen this term a few years ago. Two identities put together to create a new, to describe the sexual attraction to more than one sex, while distinguishing that romantic feelings remain only for those of the same sex. Not sure if this term has picked up since then, but I have never forgotten about it

[@vlogergames]

wow , the whole story about attraction to men and the socialized turning away from it ( potentially anyway) kinda hit hard. as a bisexual man whenever I talk with people about sexuality and people are like " oh so you're LGBT" i'm no " well, i'd rather not you see me as part of that community because it can be REALLY toxic, both to outsiders and to people inside the community" . That's honestly why I love this channel so much, even though it's not really related much to bisexuality anymore and i'm sure most the audience here is (at least at this point) female, it feels like a much more open, accepting and loving community than the LGBTQ+ community at large

[@helenross3037]

everyone talks about disney plus having the greatest series of 2021 but i think gayest secrets blows hawkeye out of the water

[@FJA---]

I'm not gay and never have been. But your channel turned up in the algorithm so I watched the video. I have to say you have one of the funniest channels on KZbin. Your personality and way of doing videos is one of the unknown treasures of KZbin.

[@sssaaarrraaaggghhh]

You’re such a sweet bean,we love the shirt but I love more your excitement for the shirt (?) does they make sense? Also,these videos are both funny and educational 💯✨ it’s a good day to be gay 😌

[@taylormathis2085]

I love these videos. I submitted my secret right after watching the last "episode" of gay secrets, and couldn't help but anxiously hoping you would read mine in this video. Sadly, mine was not shared. I think I wanted it to be a version of "coming out". I'm not closeted to anyone it would impact, but coming out in a more general way seems unnecessary at best and potentially harmful to my professional life at worst (living in bible belt southern USA and working with youths in the public sector).

[@talietalie3113]

🤣🤣 The first sister one killed me! There's a song about that!! "You want my sister" - 1 hour band That's hILaRiOUssss

[@emilyhart9067]

5:25 I love how she draws a diagram to explain it to us

[@littlemisswolfee1095]

the internalized invalidation and homophobia so many of us experience is so sad. Society and how we were brought up really did a number on us. Anyone who is questioning who they are right now, if you are reading this, no matter what you feel its valid and you are loved. As long as your attraction is to legal aged human beings there is absolutely no shame you should feel in whatever you may think or feel or how you love OR WHO YOU ARE. And just because majority of society is obsessed with labels does not mean you need one yourself to be valid and real with your identity, its 2022 and identities are unique to the individual so dont isolate yourself just because you dont fit into a standard mold, make your own mold and wear it proudly!

[@CJA32able]

Thank you 🤗 you are loved too

[@littlemisswolfee1095]

@@CJA32able ♥♥ TY! ^-^

[@Orangesorbet131]

I have a similar backstory, from bi to gay at 30 (just last year ) and your videos have been so great during this time of a total mindfuck, so thank you! Is there any way you'd get excited to do a full flirting tips video (get someone to collab maybe!), the legend of your great flirting skills has travelled far and fast and some of us could really use your expertise

[@KatelynJoe]

9:00 - I really appreciate this as a pansexual (when unpacked more so a panromantic and …vulva-sexual? as a preference because it’s not related to gender.. does that have a word??) after reading the master doc and reevaluating to be sure, I kept getting this feeling from the lesbian side (subconsciously as you pointed out, like this was an ah ha moment for me too haha) that my attraction to men was invalid, less than, or gross and this left me feeling much more seen. So truly thank you(and to the person who sent it in)! It’s helped so much! 🌈✨ Update: after some research I’m playing around with feeling most connected to Panromantic & Spectrasexual (as it’s more fluid on the sexual side but still not entirely all)

[@loiskarimu2109]

For "vulva-sexual" I've heard people use the term gynesexual. So that may be the word your looking for

[@KatelynJoe]

@@loiskarimu2109 thank you! I’ll definitely look into it 🌈✨

[@jayeras294]

Two things, 1st: I love all your vids so freaking much! 2nd: sapphic is not someone attracted to women, it is more someone being attracted to feminine presenting people :)

[@kittyg1035]

I finally got the courage to submit my secret after this video, I love how supportive everyone is here.

[@shawnferguson5681]

“I hope the toast was good!”?…. Lol, you’re hilarious! Love yer content... and you! I almost never comment anywhere else but I do for your algorithm

[@mohanthegay4398]

omg yes i am so ready to quietly relate to these gay secrets... also your shirts are cool haha

[@purpleheartot7649]

No way the video is already over! It was over so fast. Really fun.

[@nico_diangelo1957]

7:38 I feel like the person is describing being bisexual and homo- romantic so they have attraction to men and women but are only romantically attracted to women. That’s what I thought also love your channel.

[@nobodyhere22500]

“It’s too bad this is anonymous…” 10:00 I have a feeling your DMs just broke like an old dam in a flash flood.

[@quevivalavida4467]

❤14:38 nooooo, don’t suppress crying. It’s not a goood idea. It’s important to cry if your body decide that is a good idea. The same thing if you are happy, don’t suppress the happiness. I’d started to not contain my emotions and now I experiment the emotions with more intensity. The painful and also the comfortable ones. Thanks for all your videos 🧡🤍💖. ❤❤

[@dAfoodie101]

5:05 lmao it reminds me of that parks and rec scene with april but way more complicated

[@shravyashetty3491]

I struggled for like 2 years and finally figured out I'm bi like three years ago... And now watching these confessions are making me question my sexuality again 😂😂...

[@Cee944]

For the maybe bi maybe lesbian woman - sexual attraction and romantic attraction can be entirely different things! You can be sexually attracted to men but acknowledge that you'll still end up with a woman because the romantic and relationship aspect is there. There is power and community in labels, but also loneliness in them when you don't feel like they fully apply to you. I took on "pansexual" for this reason - not one label felt like it was perfect for me and I wanted a label that was kind of like "idk I'll fuck around and find out" vs. "this is exactly who I am and I'm bound to this."

[@ronjagrassl9478]

There is no other youtuber that is so unproblematic 😭❤️ Youre so honest and real😍✨

[@ninath.1662]

To the person questioning whether she is gay or bi: You could be both. I know it sounds weird, but you could well be a bisexual homoromantic, meaning you are sexuelly attracted to men and women, but could only ever imagine being in romantic relationships with women. 🌈 Hope that helped a bit 🤗

[@drskelebone]

I derive so much vicarious pleasure from these videos. :) I hope everyone is doing well, and continues doing well! :D

[@Elhopperseggos]

I was having a hard time feeling a lot of pressure in life and i just wanted to relax so I came to KZbin and saw you on my recommended page and i immediately taped on your video cause I knew it would make me feel better

[@s.g.brewer982]

I see people saying maybe that person is bisexual and homoromantic, I also wanna throw out that you can be a lesbian if you WANT to be! You can be a bisexual lesbian! Queer taxonomies were never meant to be to strict or cut and dry, that is the beauty and freedom of being queer!! You can also just be queer and refuse to explain or nail down your specific attractions to people, you don't have to predict every person you'll be attracted to in the future! I think people, especially young-ish people or maybe just people my age are SO attached to figuring out an exact specific label and definition of yourself. Labels can be really empowering and freeing, and serve to bring us together as a community-- but if that process is not vibing for you or is stressing you out you can just get vague for a while (or permanently)

[@leolovsen1448]

The cut after your little cute speech at 15:07 is HILARIOUS

[@CallMeStinker]

5:58 I'll preface this by saying the person in the message knows her feelings better than anyone. I'm asexual, and a lot of the ace community uses the split attraction model. This means our sexual and romantic attractions are separate. Would it be helpful for the person in the message to identify as bisexual and sapphic romantic? Also, anyone can use the split attraction model, not just ace/aro people. If it helps you define who you are, use it!

[@dinomader306]

Alanya!! Your a Riot to listen too!!! Cracks me up every time I see one of your videos!!!

[@yuuyuu_]

Need like a one hour special of this

[@maggieo1683]

Damn these secrets! That last one hurt. Love your videos Alayna!

[@marspierson5114]

Hey Alana how’s it going? Also your shirts are sick especially this one!

[@addaditamir]

Aaaah ur eyesss

[@OctoberAzriel]

Love how your mind jumped to wrestling. LMAO I was more along the lines of thinking they started casually making out and got off on it even though it was just "gal palling". I will now forever question wrestling first. Lol

[@mpk1731]

lmao also so confused by the getting off one, I feel like this person thought putting quotation marks around hanging out and getting off would somehow clarify this question but it just makes it more confusing LMAO and OOF the somersaults, like I was convinced that all women probably wanted to sleep with other girls, and watching a show where one girl had the opportunity to sleep with an other girl and then she's like 'nope can't do it' because she realised she was straight, i remember being SO CONFUSED and annoyed with her that she didn't take the opportunity?? and someone i thought that i was straight for several more years?? IN WHAT REALITY WOULD THAT BE THE THOUGHT OF A STRAIGHT PERSON

[@Gandellion]

I’m coming to the place with my sexuality you described. I identify at some kind of ace and, while my attraction to men is constant, my attraction to women fluctuates from day to day. I’m starting to accept that I don’t need to pick a very specific and concrete box to sit it, it’s okay to just pick a label that sits well with you regardless of whether it’s 100% accurate 100% of the time.

[@PastelSolar]

18:58 Stop calling my younger self outtttt omg I so did this stopppp 😂😂😂

[@sophiecrawford3879]

i cant wait to watch this, you really bring joy to my fridays, so thank you :)

[@robertjackson3552]

pun intended or not ?

[@sophiecrawford3879]

@@robertjackson3552 deffo intended

[@rubyjarl9250]

For the person telling the secret around 8 minutes: You may be homoromantic and bisexual. There are a lot of different ways to feel attraction. Sexual, romantic, platonic etc. I chose queer because I am both pan- and grey-/demi/fray ace, but I exclude cis men romantically because it just never work out. That part of me being with them romantically is, for me, all comphet. But sexually, I can for sure enjoy it those time everything works for me.

[@childofartemis5410]

Where is the link for the Google form....Asking for a friend 😂

[@avamason6297]

To the person who said they feel sexually attracted to men but can't see themselves being in a long-term relationship with them, I feel you. I've been with a woman and know I'm definitely attracted to women, but I've never been with a man before, however, same as you, I think I do find them sexually attractive. I learned that sexual and romantic attraction are separate things, and you can be sexually attracted to both men and women, and only romantically attracted or invested in women. I'm still not sure if what we're feeling towards men is bisexuality, lesbianism with compulsory heterosexuality, or what, but maybe this can give you some answers :) I think if you look up sexual and romantic attraction it may help you out, as it helped me out :) I just realized so many other people already said this, but I'll leave it here in case you find some comfort in not being alone :)

[@potmki6601]

on discreet masturbation: you don't have to use your hands. crossing your legs tight in certain way can have an effect. crossing them with smth between - even more of, but is probably less discreet. obviously, don't do that in public, that's not an ok thing to do - also pretty obvious, i think. people "getting off" while "hanging out" can be decoded as that they had some kind of a cuddle, that was presumed as platonic, but each of them experienced some kind of sexual feeling

[@eclipsegacha7954]

Fun fact about me, all throughout childhood even when I thought I was straight I never said, "I'm straight" full stop and instead said, "I'm straight until proven otherwise!" I'm gay now.

[@eggchomp]

“A lot of sibling attraction in this video” Scared me so bad..

[@childofartemis5410]

Yesss ....I have been waiting for this video 😅❤️❤️thank you mom

[@caracapizzo6776]

I'm seeing some mad biceps in this video. Keep it up! Lookin good 😉💪🏼🧗‍♀️🔥👏🏼👏🏼

[@darcidaniyel]

So i have a dilemma. I need my non binary friends here. Im not old enough to move out, i also am non binary, my family doesn’t support, i really need a binder but my shopping account is monitored. I play volleyball on a unisex team and i made up an excuse that its hard to move around but my mom didn’t want to believe me. What do i do?

[@foxfoxelliott]

Somebody told me you had a girlfriend who had a girlfriend as well as a boyfriend who also had a boyfriend who had a girlfriend who's now your girlfriend. (To the tune of The Killers, Somebody Told Me, obviously. Also don't come for me if this is wrong. I am easily confused, even with charts.)

[@lunafoxglove-z2n]

For the person who is questioning, I feel you. I identify as bi but sometimes there will still be doubts in my mind. I read the "lesbian masterdoc" about comphet that was going around on tiktok a while ago, and it's a good starting point but only you can answer. For example: - all of my male crushes are on fictional men. and it could be a sign of comphet but for me, I realized that there was just a safety in being attracted to a man who could never hurt me (unlike past partners who were violent or toxic) - I used to always say that I could date men but I would probably end up marrying a woman, simply because I had never met a man who I could have a deep emotional connection and conversations with, I always thought that a woman would be more able to provide me with what I am seeking for in a partnership, but I met my boyfriend and I was able to find that deep emotional connection that I was seeking this isn't to sway anyone in any direction but you just have to really get to the root of why you think you might be lesbian or bi or whatever. sending you love, because I know figuring out shit like this isn't easy

[@Ashsarwono]

I just submitted mine and now I really really want to hear your reaction.

[@jennaozzy6863]

Thank you for that shoutout to us trans lesbians. I too am a bit scared about finding acceptance in the lesbian community, but I'm allowing myself to dream a little about finding "good ones" or "A good one" matching up nicely. It means a lot to hear some positivity and a success story from someone so amazing

[@howtomeetwomen-]

I used to watch the "golden retrievers running on the beach" KZbin channel but I've been too sad to care lately. This still works somehow. The second I saw Alayna's smiling face I felt a little less crappy. Honestly, that's weird but the best compliment. Thanks.

[@marchingMars]

I felt like I was in class for a sec 🥲(5:40) 🤣

[@MisaRose]

NOT THE SISTERS. . . . .also if you dont already have one you should set up a PObox xxx

[@shantayaburback9585]

"How the turn tables have turned". I'm gonna use that now.😂💀

[@kal-muzel875]

Me binging those videos to only submit mine and continue the binge cuz who knows maybe somewhere I'd find a story similar to mine

[@Mojohjohjoh]

One of these secrets reminded me of a *disturbing* thought I had as a young teen that I'd completely blocked out. So I wrote it in the form 😁

[@angelicadominguez7610]

"I hope the toast was good" made ugly laugh 😂😂😂

[@irradiated_woman8016]

Yay! I'm a proud joybaby. Edit: I WANT THAT SHIRT sorry for yelling.

[@aprilspiers8363]

Your videos make me laugh. You make me laugh and you’re very articulate, which is refreshing. At 47, I have way too many stories. I have drawers of t-shirts…Been there, done that…got the t-shirt saying. Thank you for getting content out there for the baby gays. I’m sure you’re saving lives and don’t even know it. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈