REACTING TO YOUR JUICY RELATIONSHIP EXPECTATIONS

*Chad's Encouragement below" These were some hilarious juicy expectations people have regarding relationships, whether you're talking to someone, dating, engaged or married! We hope this video not only made you feel "normal" to see that other people wonder the same things as you, but you felt a little encouraged as you process how you approach expectations in relationships.
Today's encouragement is short and sweet. You don't need to be perfect. Stop waiting on pursuing that thing. You don't need the perfect timing. Or "this" amount of money to feel comfortable. Stop holding yourself back. Our idealized versions of ourselves is an enemy to our progress as humans. I say this all from the mindset that we should strive to do better EACH AND VERY DAY, but based off the goal on doing better, not being perfect. Because when perfect is your goal, you either A. let yourself down, or B. become inactive because the goal is too high to reach. Like me. I didn't have enough time to write the most perfect encouraging description. But am I going to let that ruin my experience? Or am I going to do my best and let that be enough because that is what I have to offer based on my current circumstances. Because I am moving forward with this one, I feel light, and easy and proud that I was able to execute even with a hectic schedule and it's not my best work, but it was the best I could do right now and that is MORE THAN OKAY! So all in all... just do you best and be happy with your progress, no matter how long things take.
Love you,
Chad & Tori
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[@ToriAndChad]

FOR EACH LIKE ON THIS VIDEO A PUPPY WILL BE TOLD "WHO'S A GOOD BOY/GIRL!??!"

[@Greg_Orr]

Can I like it multiple times?

[@ToriAndChad]

so many puppies will be blessed by your likes!

[@samueljayakumar6132]

Ayye when you getting one for Tori ?

[@ToriAndChad]

HEY! lol

[@angelavanoosten1]

This is gonna stir up some "get Tori a puppy" comments

[@ToriAndChad]

If you want a part 2 let us know NOW or forever regret your decision. lol

[@Greg_Orr]

Now? Well I haven’t watched yet but I bet I’ll want a part 2. Hahaha

[@shaughnsmit2076]

Haha made sure you comment first this time 😉🤣

[@angelavanoosten1]

Do it lol

[@iuliaturcas4348]

I started watching it right now, but I am so sure I want a part 2!!! 💛

[@shaughnsmit2076]

Yess for part 2!

[@ryushizu17]

2:16 You have sex 24/7 in a marriage 3:12 Dating pulls you away from your community/friends 4:15 Marriage is like a sleepover every night, it's always fun 5:37 The guy has to make the first move 7:04 'I expect to be with someone who is emotionally, financially and mentally stable' 8:25 'I expect that my husband will take equal share of household chores if we are both working' 10:03 You won't have any bad arguments 11:49 'That she constantly stirs my spirit to do great for His Name' 13:26 Sleeping cuddled up in marriage 14:21 While you're dating you will know if he/she is the one 15:00 You always want to be near your significant other 16:15 You shouldn't make out while dating 16:43 Finances are stressful in marriage 17:17 Spending money after first combining finances when married is weird 18:51 'As a newly-wed I expected marriage to be more romantic, but work and life gets in the way' 19:30 Long distance relationships are hard 19:51 Having had sex in the past will bring hardship/insecurity into marriage 22:39 Do married people really believe singleness is enough? 24:27 Your wedding night is awkward 25:00 Hugs from behind all the time 25:44 Do people who get married really feel like they're marrying the 'perfect person'? 25:59 There is someone out there who understands you like no one else 26:23 Happy wife, happy life 27:18 'That I always get the first bite of his food after I said no to my own' 27:25 'If he goes out for coffee he has to bring me one too'

[@nwanyibuifeobiako162]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@rakhuramai]

Man I think I'm seeing you in many of these videos but thanks!

[@ryushizu17]

@@rakhuramai I was on a binge 🤣 you're welcome!!

[@uzeebu]

Okay but Tori is radiating joyyyy

[@floatingsara]

10:03 my husband actually expected to have zero arguments with me, whereas I come from a family where arguments were daily and considered to be healthy. So we had completely different expectations. I've slowly realised through therapy that I have some narcissistic traits and that I made my family feel bad because I am too confrontational, so I'm trying to keep my mouth more shut.

[@paiges9362]

“Lower your expectations, and have fun!” I feel like that quote can apply to any aspect of life, including marriage 😂 it’s a beautiful challenge!

[@sarahhicks3227]

My husband is huge on expectation management which has been so healthy for our relationship! It's much easier to have a peaceful marriage when you are very clear about expectations. Even little things like him telling me when he has to work late etc so that I'm not expecting what he can't offer and then upset by it.

[@averynmitchell]

I like how Chad went over financial literacy and that you use money to make more money instead of acquiring things. I feel like that’s slipped by me and I hope y’all have/do a money series to learn more about having that mindset :)

[@cathleenmccarty1001]

Yes!

[@haileymarie7719]

TORI YOU ARE GLOWING LIKE WHATTT. That smile. The tan, the fit, the makeup. The double piercing ;) iykyk

[@ToriAndChad]

I'm not sure if my other comment made it or not hahah but I was just saying I can't wait till she has that preggo glow!

[@brimstoneclub]

"If your first expectation is that your wife will never bring you down...you're wrong." Wow, it's not even 10 seconds in the video and Chad dropped the gauntlet!

[@ToriAndChad]

hahaha DROPPING THE GAUNTLET!!!! the gloves are off

[@karinaopryatova3615]

Dave Ramsey should sponsor this video 😂 he's been quoted so much today

[@samueljayakumar6132]

Another perspective to that question where you’ve had sex in the past and would it bring hardship in a current relationship or whatever that question was - If Jesus could forgive her/him you can too!

[@ToriAndChad]

YES!

[@jessiezsings]

Man, I never comment but I just love your videos. I’m praying for my future spouse and love hearing ya’lls insight 🥰

[@ToriAndChad]

awww that's so smart to do so! We love you!

[@BrianRhodes9763]

Where does one begin, so many thoughts (this may get long). Your video "Asking my wife juicy questions that guys are too afraid to ask" popped up on my feed, so I watched it. During the video I heard Chad say amen and praise God and it kind of surprised me (not that people can praise God on KZbin), I don't usually see that very often on this platform. So I then found the previous video on that Tori ask Chad juicy questions and watched it. That led to watching another (not sure which one) and another and so on. That was just last week and I've watched 30 of your videos (including the series "Our Love Story, and finishing up the Boundaries series) and I still have several videos on my watch later list. There is so much good content, wisdom and practical application, I really really like this channel. God has used this channel to awaken some things like introspection and seeing where I'm at with certain aspects of my life. Or implementing certain aspects/activities into my daily walk. Thank you for what you have started, it is making a difference. I love how you both are so open about your faith and your encouragement to others.

[@whitneywilliams6168]

Ya'll are really pulling me through my exam season, bless ya'll but also, the description was so good - I know that I tend to imagine certain things through the lens of perfection but I have to constantly remind myself that nothing will be perfect but that doesn't mean I should fell bad about myself because it's not perfect!! - thank you for the encouragement Chad!! I feel like I say this every week but I am truly so inspired by your hearts and the wisdom you carry!! I walk away from each video feeling inspired, joyful and so full of perspective! So grateful that you said yes to the call and did KZbin because I am changed by your perspective and through your love for Jesus!!💛 Also, ya'll are getting close to 90k subbys!🎉🎉

[@ToriAndChad]

hahahaha Yes love everything you said here! Thanks for lifting me up! We love you! Can't believe we are knocking on the door of 100k subs!

[@angelavanoosten1]

Couldn't agree more!!

[@whitneywilliams6168]

We're going to knock 100k's door down before 2022🎉

[@kelcicarroll636]

Thank you for this chad and Tori. It lifted my spirits in a time when life is throwing a lot at me right now.

[@francessoyelade4822]

So much love for the Masters fam. Much love from Nigeria 🇳🇬

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww love you!

[@oluwakanyinsolaakinola145]

Same here

[@HephzibahFrances]

Yes from Nigeria too and you are my namesake

[@cherryteaaa]

Part 2 please!!! Love this (: Just started binge listening to The Messy Masterpiece and it’s amazing how a few minutes can change my perspective or convict me of things that God has been highlighting in my life.

[@JaneLanett]

THANK YOU Chad and Tori for another fun and educative video. Loved the part about being happy in your singleness. Been asked a lot by family and friends if everything is ok with me cause I have never dated. I'm honestly so happy with where I am and most importantly my relationship with God. That's all that really matters to me. ❤️

[@AmishaChhabraMusic]

i love this so much. it’s so beneficial to have these expectations debunked or confirmed before i even enter a relationship! you’ve done it again youtube mom and dad 😭😭 love you guys!!!

[@kayleighzubrod4468]

SUP MEESH

[@AmishaChhabraMusic]

@@kayleighzubrod4468 HI BAE

[@scottishmamalivingingodslight]

Around 15:25 talking about wanting to be near/ with your spouse all the time - this here is why the love languages book is so important! I recently gifted a gift edition for newlyweds to a dear friend’s daughter and son- in-law! We would have had far fewer fights in our first years of marriage if we had only understood each other’s love languages!

[@taylorriser9914]

YES to the part 2! This was so fun to watch and I laughed more than I expected to!

[@daniellekaufman8929]

This is probably my favorite video you guys have made so far! So insightful and informative!! Thank you guys 🥺🥰

[@ianazaitsev7873]

Im not sure if I've seen Tori smile so much!! Beautiful!! Keep it up 💖

[@neoandlykkecat]

You are amazing. You talk about things that most people woulden't dare to talk about. Thank you for being so brave! I love your channel. When we had dogs my hubby would take them on a walk and feed them before work every day. I loved that. Now we have cats and we do everything together with them. Hugs from Norway.

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thanks for being here with us!!! We love you!

[@agentdiaz2103]

The descriptions are always the best🔥

[@iuliaturcas4348]

I have never been so excited and invested in a KZbin channel as I am with you, Tori and Chad! 🤍 There is truly something very special about you two and the community you constantly build online! I am so privileged to be part of The Masters Fam! Sending my love to you and to every single person that is part of this lovely community! 🤗

[@whitneywilliams6168]

You're so great kind!! Just wanted to tell you ❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

Awww you're so sweet Lulia!!! You trying to get another subscriber of the week!?!? hahah

[@iuliaturcas4348]

@@whitneywilliams6168 you are so sweet 🤗😘

[@iuliaturcas4348]

@@ToriAndChad Thank you! 🤗 Also, haha 😆

[@whitneywilliams6168]

@@iuliaturcas4348 ❤️❤️

[@linayiiaholleman3955]

The thumbnail says it all. 👌🤣 I love how you guys continue to dive deep and don't just give us, the viewers, surface level content!!! You guys bring the quality answers!!! 🔥❤

[@OpenUpYourHeartPod]

I love you guys. I like your videos before I even watch. Small Christian KZbin here and I share y’all’s videos with my friends too😂 you guys inspire me so much!!! You have no idea.

[@bekahmoten2308]

Awww, I enjoyed this so much!!! A part 2 sounds wooonndderrrfuuuullll!!

[@savannahhorsch1740]

Love love love this video!! Seriously so helpful!!

[@juliarivait3685]

Y’all are my favorites 😍 So excited every time i see a new video!

[@anthonybartlem7063]

I love you guys, I feel so much better about myself and wanting to propose and get married to my partner and look forward to sharing our finances and everything about eachother, I’m a baptised Christian but didn’t grow up believing in god or Jesus but now meeting my partner that is catholic and a big believer, her way of life and beliefs has made me see things in a different light and I want to explore and get to know god and Jesus. You both are amazing and I’m glad i found your channel 🙂

[@gabbielawandi5952]

More Important to be loving than to be right! Totally agree 👍💯

[@ms.flawed]

Thats really good. You both are doing such a great job for married.. Singles...I wish there were a lot of channels like this.....

[@mark_ostermeyer]

The Lord speaks through the two of you, and it is a powerful thing to witness! Cheers

[@sivunkopane755]

i absolutely love the masters fam !! so much from south africa 🥰 tori,you are such an inspiration and you carry yourself with so much grace and as an 18 year old ,you have always reminded me of my worth !! love ya’ll

[@ToriAndChad]

Awww we love you!!!

[@hannahjames2906]

The description is doing it for me! Loving the video😮‍💨❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

Aww thanks a lot sweet Hannah!

[@chrissuvi]

absolutely love this video!!! ❤️❤️

[@tanyadsouza1100]

This video helped me so much.. Debunking some of the relationship expectations. So much to learn from you guys. Love you both

[@livandjosie]

Almost to 100k! That’s crazy. Thanks for everything y’all do, you guys have been such a blessing to me 🤍

[@fabulouslyfrugalfancy]

I love how open you two are about Christ ❣️

[@samueljayakumar6132]

You knocked that description out of the park! So good!!! and convicting 😬

[@ToriAndChad]

thanks a ton!!!

[@seryex]

These videos are some of my favourite from y'all

[@edwardkhoury2424]

I love you guys. Thank you for the content. I have no words to express how blessed I am with how much I learned from your videos. Keep posting.. God Blesss

[@ToriAndChad]

Thanks for being here with us, Edward!!! We are blessed by you!

[@hariXmizu]

Concerning that very first expectation, something I’ve realized is that the world has defined that exact standard. On social media, in books, movies, tv shows, magazines, etc. it demands that to be the norm and if it changes then something is wrong and you aren’t “compatible”. I’m just so glad that is not the case in reality, and I appreciate the time you both take to even mention it and try and change the narrative. Just don’t hear it being talked about enough in the christian world. Also, after watching this video, and even in my own thoughts about relationships is that there’s no secret formula. It can be any formula really but God needs to be the foundation of that formula.

[@rebeccajasmine462]

Part 2 yasssss...so good and timely as always!

[@ToriAndChad]

WOOO! That makes a few people!

[@david_gurman]

Love this! It’s was funny 😄 and I enjoyed watching this, please make a Part 2

[@veritygrace1257]

Smashed the description as always Chad 👏🏼

[@shaughnsmit2076]

Yes he did!! Thanks Chad!

[@ToriAndChad]

awww thank you sweet V!

[@toniidowu6301]

Aw loved this so much!! I've learned a lot from you guys, Much love from England💛

[@merrysweatman7647]

It’s so easy to like you guys before I even listen to the whole video♥️

[@jessimitchell2051]

I liked this! I would watch another expectations video. This was very helpful for me!

[@allisonlucas018]

These were really good expectation questions! I feel like I either have super low expectations or not very many so it's going to be interesting in marriage to see if I really do have some! 😅 Thanks Chad for your description box encouragement. It's always really appreciated having that extra content. 😊

[@angelavanoosten1]

More 👏🏼 important 👏🏼 to 👏🏼 be 👏🏼loving 👏🏼 than 👏🏼 to 👏🏼 be 👏🏼 right

[@samueljayakumar6132]

FACTSMACHINE!!!!

[@angelavanoosten1]

@@samueljayakumar6132 ikr!!

[@ToriAndChad]

I wish I could hear you say that! hahah

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah yall are hilarious!

[@angelavanoosten1]

@@ToriAndChad hahahaha just said it out loud could you hear it 🤪

[@justinmooney4424]

Chad, can you share with guys how if a girl doesn’t give an ecstatic “yes” to going out or if she tries to do it in secret, then the guy should just back off? And Tori, can you provide insight into guys as to why they should back off and what’s going through the mind of the woman? Cause girls can not be entirely sure and lead guys on for MONTHS and keep the guy holding on to hope rather than caring for him and saying no even if he’s not sure. On the flip side, it’s important for guys to recognize that and back off if it’s not an ecstatic “yes”

[@shwetav]

This was nicee! Thank you for normalising 'normal' I got to learn so much about relationships in general. Expectations does cause disappointment.. so best to keep that bar low. Such a wonderful encouragement as always...reminded me of this quote, 'It is impossible to love without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all,in which case you fail by default.' There is no win/lose in relations.. just a balance between synergy matching upto words 🙂 Love you two always!! ❤

[@ToriAndChad]

awww sweet, Shweta as always! That quote is fire by the way! We love you!

[@shwetav]

@@ToriAndChad Thank you for always lifting me up! The podcast today was excellent!! :) Cannot wait to see and absorb all that you've planned for us ahead!

[@Chryslerdealership]

Such a helpful video!! God bless you guys ❤️

[@peteysrib]

I love Tuesdays and Thursdays because I get to watch you guys! Hope you are a great day so far.

[@ToriAndChad]

Awww we love them because we get to see your name pop up!

[@peteysrib]

💜

[@JMKrech]

Love this!

[@geno5169]

I just love watching the both of you! My wife and I have been married 31 years this May.you guy’s are so funny and loving.

[@nellygathoni9584]

Love you guys.Can't wait for Part 2!

[@ToriAndChad]

Wooo! We hope to make it! We love you too!

[@serenityh.]

3:34 I know Chad did not just pull a Troy Bolton from HSM3. 😂 😂 😂 That was a good song too. 👌🏽

[@Myself-anonymously]

I myself have a relationship research playlist. But at the same time I look at this channel as my goal . . . in the sense that I want to provide all my friends with really good quality relationship advice. If that is not my own playlists, I am honestly perfectly okay with that.

[@jaanviveluguleti467]

I loove you guysss 🤗❤ I am excited to watch this video!!

[@ToriAndChad]

awww we love you!

[@taniaannanil576]

Excited !!!!was waiting for the notification:)

[@ToriAndChad]

awww WE ARE HERE!!!!

[@miriamslack4086]

Y'all are great, solid and cute...thanks. Oh, and yes please to a 2nd expectations...💖

[@lisapetty6029]

Yes part 2!!!

[@katherinehawkins2032]

“You’re watching it live.” Lmbo too real 😂

[@shaughnsmit2076]

Thank you for your candour!!

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah thank you for being incredible.

[@lilyjubilee6596]

Dang this is literally such a good video ❤️🌟

[@sasscass22]

Yes! Definitely want a part 2. 😁

[@ToriAndChad]

WOOOO!

[@isabellalacy9901]

So excited to watch this video and I love all this content so much! I hipped this at y’all are having a great day! Also I have a question: are your subscriber of the week patrons? I would just like to know! Thanks! I hope you are having a great Tuesday

[@dsophie7816]

You cannot expect what you do not express.🤩

[@lukeroberts3464]

Congratulations 🎊🎈🎉🍾 on 86.8k subscribers.

[@abigailbassia7999]

I’ve miss you guys!!❤️❤️

[@juliamahoney1509]

You guys remind me I’m human and so is my husband! 💞💞

[@joslynblessy6608]

Family meeting LOL...Noted !!! This was fun and a blessing you guys! Love you both so much...!

[@ToriAndChad]

hahah we love you!

[@alenaannmathews5323]

So excited for this ❤️

[@ToriAndChad]

we are too!

[@clara-vd6xc]

Please do a part 2!!

[@Greg_Orr]

Sooo good! Can confirm we definitely need a part 2! Also how incredible was the Dutch GP Chad! So excited Max has regained the championship lead again!

[@ToriAndChad]

hahaha MAX MAX MAX SUPER MAX MAX MAX SUPER SUPER MAX!!! Has been going on in my head non stop!

[@Greg_Orr]

Hahaha. Oh now you’ve got it stuck in my head again!

[@ToriAndChad]

At least it's a good song haha

[@wellworthitco.8495]

Let's get MANY more parts!!!

[@veritygrace1257]

Woo excited for a juicy video!

[@ToriAndChad]

We hope you like it!!

[@annaklassen1435]

Party 2, YES!!!

[@zanetah9837]

Yayy!! Haven't been early in a while because of exams but so excited for this vid!!

[@ToriAndChad]

awww we hope your exams are going well!!!

[@zanetah9837]

@@ToriAndChad Yess thank God! I'm taking my last (and hardest) one tonight and then I'm going to bingewatch last week's vids haha

[@ToriAndChad]

Praying for you right now!

[@zanetah9837]

@@ToriAndChad Thank you so much!

[@lina_este]

Send you love from Russia. Yeah you have fans in Russia 😁 You are guys the example of relationship that I want to have one day. And I’ll definitely wait for “the one” now 🙏🏼 thanks for sharing your experience. Love ya ❤️

[@bethany764]

Hiii so excited to watch this🙌🏼😊

[@ToriAndChad]

Awww yay!!!

[@angieavo]

Love you guys 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@rosesmith000]

20:40 needed this so much, especially the shame part

[@ToriAndChad]

Happy you are here!

[@serenityh.]

9:40 Tori: “That takes a lot of mental energy.” Me: *WHY DID I FEEL THAT IN MY CORE?* 😂

[@luanagonzalez5441]

OMG YAAY so excited to watch this!! Ps: THE PODCAST TODAY!! OMG that was a blessing! Love you guys so much!

[@ToriAndChad]

Awww you liked it?!?! We love you!

[@luanagonzalez5441]

@@ToriAndChad I love it!

[@natanya5394]

Is it just me or is Tori the HAPPIEST in this video and I love it!!!!!

[@heatherschraedel8390]

LOVE YALL

[@keana._]

Yo this is so good!

[@ToriAndChad]

We love you sweet keeks!

[@francialopez7339]

Omg the excitement Tori has! I love youuuu Tori ❤️ Chad you are THE FUNNIEST 😂😂😂

[@JosephButso]

OMG Chad just sang HSM3! That's my all time fav movieeee!!!!

[@janeferguson9092]

Hi Tori and Chad. You two are amazing and obviously so in love and committed to your religion and to each other. Why did you decide to wait? I consider myself a Christian but I’ve not had the strict boundaries that you have. I understand everything that you say. If this is your choice, then an engagement and a wedding needs to happen fairly soon. I think this is what happened in our patents day, whereas now there’s no urgency. An interesting subject

[@angelavanoosten1]

Great job planning 👏🏼👏🏼

[@ToriAndChad]

we are trying our best!!!

[@angelavanoosten1]

@@ToriAndChad yessss and we see and appreciate that

[@jess1ic5a]

On "do married people really believe singleness is enough?" As a person who has never been in a romantic relationship, but find myself completed surrounded by married people and their kids (the last of my closest friends will both be married in the next 6 months), I think it is hard to believe that married people truly believe it's enough. Honestly, it hard to even hear married people say that because I feel like it's a hindsight moment. Of course God is enough to leave you content if you spend your life single, but that's not something you guys have to worry about so it's easy to say singleness is enough and even look back on it believing that to be the case even if you might not have at the time. There is also a stigma attached to being single. The world doesn't look on it too kindly and so it's hard to fight against that and find victory and contentment! Sorry, it's been a HARD year and just feeling like I'm so far behind in life, because of my relationship, status even though I've been through more than most at my age! I'm surviving while others are thriving and I so wish to be in that place too, but that's not always how the healing process works. It's really hard to continue to pursue healing when it was other people's sin that put you there in the first place! Grateful for a God that redeems though!! Otherwise all the pain would be worthless. Loved this video! PART 2 PLS

[@heaven9378]

I have often wondered that myself and I do agree that it's hindsight...I am in your shoes in terms of surviving and not thriving and just feeling left behind but thats the process as you said and the only church that really talks about singleness in a holy way as much as marriage is the Catholic church within the protestant churches singleness is not looked at in the same light, I hope it changes

[@jess1ic5a]

@@heaven9378 I'm sorry your feeling the same way because this is so hard, but I hope you find some comfort in knowing you're not alone! I do!! Thanks for responding :)

[@Nickel-and-dimes-budget]

The was enjoyable. Thanks

[@cp804]

part 2 please!