Real AF Self-Discipline with Andy Frisella

Today we are beyond excited to have Andy Frisella on The Dad Edge! This interview is the favorite above all other episodes.
If you don’t already know, Andy Frisella hosted the #1 business and success podcast in the world, The MFCEO project, and is the creator of 1st Phorm supplements. Andy is also the host of the Real AF Podcast and the founder of the #75Hard mental and physical fitness challenge.
With a big voice, big personality, and big heart, Andy Frisella, gets real AF about his struggles. He reveals that he naturally is a weak and lazy person, and that only by learning the skill of self-discipline has he developed his unstoppable work ethic and hustle.
He talks about why health must be our priority and how the #75Hard challenge develops the self-discipline we need to accomplish everything we want to do in life.
He also tells us how to practice extreme time management, how to develop true self-confidence, and what legacy really means.
Andy shares stuff in this show that you haven’t heard on any other podcast. Get ready to get real AF about life!
“If you can master the art of feeling stressed but still getting your shit done, you start to become real dangerous.”-Andy Frisella
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WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
As men, the first thing we shelve is our health. We think we have to throw ourselves on the sword for our families.
Everything in life is built from health and discipline.
Controlling your hunger for food is a good tool to build discipline.
If you can’t control what you put in your mouth, you’re not likely to control anything else.
Success is not an excuse to let yourself go.
Take negativity and harness it for productive action.
Boundaries-don’t feel guilty taking care of yourself.
You don’t have to spend energy on people who are not operating on the same level as you.
You can learn from bad parenting in your past.
Why Andy’s pissed off at men right now
Why men today have to recalibrate the way we look at love
What masculine energy means to Andy
There is no way to please everyone on social media (and in life). The more you try, the more you lose respect from the people who appreciate you as you are.
75Hard helps you more than just by making you look better. It makes you mentally powerful.
Why 75 Hard enhances your sex life (and it’s not just because you’re in shape).
How to become addicted to strength instead of a good time
How self-discipline develops true confidence
How a challenge like 75 Hard helps you develop extreme time management
Andy’s 4-phase year-long program
Your feelings are irrelevant to your results. If you can push through in spite of how you feel, you will be unstoppable.
All the problems we see in the world are individual problems. We work on ourselves to help the world.
The truth of why Andy is not having kids
What legacy really means
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[@Stanley5551234]

"The world rewards people that accept responsibility and fix the problem. That's it." Amen.

[@Em3raldPretty]

I don’t know anything about 75 Hard... I ended up here from an Andy interviews binge but I wholeheartedly respect men with this mentality and this channel is currently underrated. Keep it going, my son and boys of the world need strong male figures. And women need self-disciplined men. 💪

[@nicholechapin]

I'm on 75 Hard - I highly recommend it!

[@user-mw4kg8cx8t]

Need more ladies who have this view. Much love to you!

[@omayrag4]

Absolutely!

[@kinkademichael123]

Yes! 👍😁

[@peterphillips5446]

I love the ideals in this program, you talk about kids and coaching them, we need a program like this for kids at high school level so they can begin to understand what it is to accomplished what it is to be tough what it is to be self-confident . Let's face it they have no real life experience other than what they've seen at home I think this could be very beneficial. Father of 3 adult children.

[@julzsep90]

"Your honesty and your ownership is celebrated and not punished." This is Excellent and applicable

[@madddowja]

I love this. The part where he says a father should be pulling the home up.

[@Seven_t_]

Great perspective change 👍🏽

[@BriannwBray]

Day 35 into this after dropping the ball on 36 my first run. Best part is my son at 14 helps keep me accountable. He now lifts with his dad at 5am. It changes more than you!

[@cschooler9698]

Preach it Brother. The difference between maturity and immaturity is willingness to take responsibility for your own behaviors.

[@TheDadEdge]

😀👊👊

[@lenoranave6588]

Hey Andy.... I lost 227 pounds in 17 months! I’m building muscle now...

[@bobwitimer9264]

you mean 127lbs?

[@lenoranave6588]

@@bobwitimer9264 no 227 in 17 months

[@bobwitimer9264]

opps. I read your comment wrong. I thought you said andy lost 227 lbs. Sorry. Great job! Keep up the good work. :)

[@lenoranave6588]

@@bobwitimer9264 thank you! The hard work is keeping it off! Lol

[@panagiotisgeorgoulas9519]

KEEP GOING!

[@thekettlebellcoach]

I did 75H April 2021. ~day 40… I started seeing how much HARDER I could make it. I did both workouts outside, trained outside without a shirt on (super uncomfortable for me). Just tried to make it harder: mentally, physically, and emotionally. Thanks for sharing this video.

[@giftfromaquarius]

What Andy said... about hating his mom for so long... and then letting it go. THANK YOU, because now I can forgive my parents for their flaws and not hate them for not having it all figured out! I still turned out pretty well. And need to acknowledge that! Thanks Andy!!!! 1stPHORM 75HARD

[@user-mw4kg8cx8t]

I feel for his mindset of letting people down. I graduated high school 112lbs at 5’11”. Couldn’t lift a bag of rice. Being that small I feel like I couldn’t protect my future family or generate the respect I need to provide looking like I’m a sickly child as an adult Been 7 years hard training. I’m now climbing through 150 lbs keeping low bfp getting ready for the gym right now. The people around you need you at your best. YOU need you at your best. No one wants to do business with someone who looks like a sick child. The person you’re attracted to won’t be attracted back and it’s disrespectful to your partner to be unattractive and unhealthy. The #1 thing that motivates me is what happens when I have to defend my family in an emergency. #2 is that people respect people in shape- you create or close opportunities based on how you present yourself, and no one likes small men. Have a mission you can do it. I’ve been mostly consistent for years and it’s paid. People notice and treat me better. Girls notice. Life is good. DO IT

[@JoseMorales-ep7id]

Came up on this randomly. Didnt agree with some of what Andy said, but i can relate to him a lot and definitely enjoyed your conversation. Just became a dad to an amazing son. Definitely the scariest yet happiest time of my life. Will keep listening.

[@pspcolorado]

Great video, I coach a lot of sports because dad's don't volunteer, I love coaching and teaching kids. I get a lot of parents with a lot of input on a bunch of things to say all the time. I always tell them then they should've stepped up and coached. Everyone these days have a lot of opinions but don't want to step up and help.

[@briancluster3120]

Great podcast. Very enlightening stories about the importance of having challenges (like 75hard) and how men have to have battles in their lives to reach higher levels. Very authentic conversations of being masculine as well. I've listened to well over 100 episodes and this is one of my favorite episodes of the Good Dad Project.

[@BeeBopGaming]

I was diagnosed with Narcolepsy and Complex Sleep Apnea in early 2017. Narcolepsy is so hard to deal with even with the best medicine, but I still make it to the gym, and/or do something hard everyday. Basically Narcolepsy makes you feel like you have been up 48-72 hours straight. It’s been so hard to deal with, and people who don’t have sleep disorders and still let themselves go... man what I would give for good sleep.

[@leavitts77]

Keep going bro 😎 it’s sink or swim 💪

[@davidsavitskiy2016]

This Podcast is so needed !!!! Thank you!!! Keep at it. I'll stand with you!!!

[@jbLR218]

Such an amazing conversation full of so many golden nuggets! I can't express how beneficial it was for me to hear both of you confess how you naturally are "fat and lazy" by nature but you have developed the discipline and the fortitude to be better. You want to be better so you work hard daily to be your best and highest self. I am a young woman but have gotten so much from this conversation and I appreciate both of you immensely!! 💗

[@SARJENT.]

I loved the video. Some of the best talk I've heard in a longtime. Thank you.

[@kollinrose]

Andy couldn't be more right about every other generation being messed up. Couldn't relate more to that.

[@markmckennett3063]

One of my favorites with Andy. Great job to both of you

[@SavvyBroadcasting]

Awesome msg and Show. Way to go! I'm 90 days no alcohol, bread, junk food, and sugar and with workouts. FEEL Awesome. Thank you @AndyFrisella!

[@christinekolb749]

Love this. There is some much truth in this video. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@jo3agle67]

Got yourself a new sub... as a father of 3 super young boys.., I appreciate this channel. Thank you

[@you9111able]

Very good, honest and authentic pod thanks for doing this brothers. The world needs more of these

[@jdxcptn8058]

Man thank you so much for this podcast. I am so similar and can relate on do many levels. A lot of people close to me think I'm crazy because I like to be healthy. I have had a similar childhood. We are simply built this way. This is the way I must live my life to be successful. They live their way. I live my way. We are not the same.

[@jasonroberts7256]

Great content guys! So much value.

[@MyJohn1964]

I'm loving this! VERY positive information.

[@Seven_t_]

Awesome interview and great responses by Andy….as usual lol. Keep it coming. There will always be good strong men that will stand in the gap and fight for what we know is right 💪🏽…”we have a duty to fight it”

[@IeronDavis]

Great great great episode!!!

[@AdrianaJCantu]

My 7 year old son has the same characteristics as your 12 year old. I truly think those personality traits will lead them to a successful career in sales..maybe becoming an lawyer. Visionary for sure. As a single mom, I internally struggle having a balance of that love and affection feminine motherly energy toward my son versus taking on a that true masculine role that a father has.. As a veteran who once upon was a combatcamera photographer, went to SERE, loves working out, competitive athlete - I can be a 'hard ass' cause I expect a lot of myself but because I'm hard on myself .. I'm "hard" on my son.. I make him wake up early workout, meditate, take ownership, call him out when he's being lazy.. his dad is not around to do that nor do I know whether he would be like that with him. My 'concern' is really from a single moms perspective and there is no male role model.. trying to balance both types of energies - He's a dudes dude... Sometimes I don't want to play football for hours or wrestle or shoot nerf guns or fix cars or go fishing.. however, I know that he just wants to do boy stuff and feel bad that his dad is not around so I really stuffed that 'female' energy and taken on "both" roles, yet, ironically this is what has blocked me from wanting to pursue another relationship (and possibly have a real male role model) in his life. I have strategically listened to goggins, jocko, ed mylett, andy while he's around and know that he's picking up on some of the wisdom. I also think anybody who judges someone else is just a reflection of their own insecurities. I have started 75hard and the outside workout I intentionally use it to train on the track or the field with my son. And 10 pages is read aloud as my son's "bedtime story" Lol.. Great episode! Thank you! New sub now

[@boromirofmiddleearth557]

You're doing great mom! You are in a tough situation. Sorry about your son's dad. Some Men dads are being irresponsible. Is there a good male trustworthy coach / teacher in your life? You're probably looking but COVID19 has been so restricting?

[@Carlos-sr8km]

What a great mother you are fr, your son will do great and I pray you find a partner because you sound like you deserve it

[@juliapower1779]

What a great interview!!! Thank you

[@ssbbg27]

Great flow during this interview.

[@nicholechapin]

Women need to go back to building their men up, and raise their sons to be good men. (And I'm on Day 17 of 75 Hard)

[@juliefreitas4849]

WOW!! Impressive! You go girl 💪💃🕺✅

[@shaycarol]

So cool! I'm on day 12. How is yours going now. Are you a month farther?

[@deborahlockwood9035]

Men should be able to build themselves up and not make women feel like dirt underneath their feet. And that's a lot of men out there. But yes women need to make them men feel appreciated for what they do and how they make them feel. If the particular man deserves it and it's making a woman feel the same it's a two-way street. How are you doing in the 75 hard challenge are you still doing it have you had to start over if you are starting over? Some people are not doing it to that extent. I'm starting today with another group of women in a Facebook group. I am 60 years old with some health issues that may cause me to have to modify whether he feel that's acceptable or not. I'm assuming he would be because this is a mental fitness challenge mental Fitness is different for everyone and if my mental health is screwed up because I screw up my own physical health by trying to do something that may be unsafe for me then that would be stupid.. I'm doing it to get myself back into the good habits that I had before I am down from 218 lb to 137 or 138 right now so I know that following this challenge would help me rebuild the good habits that I am already instilled upon me other than the occasional Slack read but the slack is what causes people to fall off the wagons in life whether it be alcohol drugs food abusing their families abusing themselves. You got to build yourself up and keep yourself up there and I think challenges like this one even if it isn't this one are good to help people realize their potential in life

[@erickstotle4285]

I wish had some people in Las Vegas to do 75 hard with. Andy if you see this comment thank you 🙏 so much I’ve been looking back to all the times in my life Where I was making progress with time were “good” I realized I had a mission/purpose I pretended I was in the marine corp lol and had voice in my head that made choose discipline I had started eating a vegan diet And I was working out,makin music, and kick in ass in massage school. And during hard times I reminds myself To count it all joy when I find myself in trial and tribulations anyway long story short When you said “Look back 90 days when you were executing and things were great, you said the work is great and not me but doing the work is great ! It’s not word for word but Your right I was executing back then and now I’m back at it again!!!!! Thank you so much Andy I hope to one day pop in your podcast to share my story !!!!!!

[@Debo1717]

One of the best Podcasts I've heard this year

[@intentionalevolution3653]

Great podcast. Thank you.

[@somosimparaveis]

Thank you 🤜🤛

[@juliapower9792]

What a fantastic interview. We need more men like this.

[@jasonthieme8926]

Great interview. I'm seeing the same thing with masculinity but it's not in my immediate world. We live in a great neighborhood strong men. Military, construction, corrections officers. I'm in financial services mostly a man world but it's charging. All good with it. We all do our own work to out house for the most part and our kids see that happening.

[@richfuturebydsk2562]

Thanks a lot 🙏 Much support from 🇿🇦 ZAR- Durban Rich Future by DSK Clothing ❤

[@chaselayman-uw9ei]

I needed this

[@teamfishlineswfl9099]

Wow just clicked on this and sooooooo true. I'm a single dad with three girls and its amazing how on point this is. When my 17 year old's boyfriend asked me which way to turn the key on a deadbolt I lost my shi...... Young men are totally clueless today, its sad. Keep up the great work you both rock!!!!! Thanks and a great topic!!

[@TheDadEdge]

Thank you BOSS

[@deborahlockwood9035]

That's a sad seventeen-year-old I have to agree with you. I don't know anybody like that except the son of my one very good friend. But he has a particular form of autism but worked with he has improved a thousand percent over this past year because stuck at home without being allowed to just be out doing whatever he has had the opportunity to work with his mom who is wonderful. I don't believe there's a seventeen-year-old that doesn't know how to work a deadbolt unless he just chooses not to want to learn anything when my son was 17 years old he lived on his own and had two jobs and did his GED because he wanted to be on his own. By the time he was 19 he was co-owner of the business that he went in on with someone. He's now 40 but has flipped three houses been in management for over 30 years and just recently has changed positions. As far as learning how to operate a deadbolt I think he was probably five. I think when somebody doesn't know how to do something like that it's pure ignorance and wanting to learn anyting

[@spsxssd86]

Just found this show, I love the concept, love this podcast. I'm hitting subscribe. Hoping for some mindset on being the best Dad I can be, eveb though I'm not a father yet.

[@sinrentasamargado8669]

Thank you

[@kevineggleston9930]

The part where Andy calls men pussies. Haha I waited for like 20 mins for him to say that! I was thinking “just fucking say it bro, we’re being pussies” TRUTH BOMB 💣 he tried to be nice for about 15-20 mins and led in with “you caught me at a weird time, im just gonna say it” haha mad respect Andy! Great interview from both of you 🙏🙏

[@thomasarillotta6518]

12/3/23 Viewing and learning; loved it!

[@bkwisham2572]

So good!

[@gsgcarreviews]

Love how you went with the flow instead of sticking to "canned questions"

[@TheDadEdge]

no canned questions on my end for any show my friend :)

[@jaredwest3598]

Physical and mental fitness walk hand in hand. They equally either add or subtract from the other.

[@aeriosx21]

This is awesome 😎

[@ipaintedyoutube]

Great podcast, indeed ! SUBSRIBED !!!

[@gmiroofing]

Wow! This one gave me multiple revelations. 🙌🏻

[@lukemiddleton6946]

Great Content...solid talk

[@GaneshPalraj1991]

Great podcast.

[@TheDadEdge]

thanks man!

[@LifeLongFitnesss]

I trained a whole family today🥲 it gave me hope in my future family💜

[@fizeekpoaster]

Listening to you talk about going on that run with your son at 56:00 legit made me tear up.

[@randymilmeister-realtorprobate]

Great interview. I'm on day 2 of 75h.

[@c_blesss]

The flow of this is on point

[@TheDadEdge]

thank you

[@Tsjr628]

This is a great podcast!

[@TheDadEdge]

thank you!

[@rfross771]

When you guys started discussing masculinity and men being under attack is tack that completely resonated with me. I even did a video about it on my wee channel a month or so ago. I got some flack from somebody who is a single mom who raised what she feels like is a perfectly appropriate kid, And by all accounts he turned out to be a good man. I told her that the point wasn't that a single mom COULDNT raise a good person, but that men have our own role to play, ITS NOT TOXIC, and that society is just pissing away 50% of the equation that makes a potentially good human being. That should never be allowed. NEVER. "Dad lives matter" needs to be a thing. #DADLIVESMATTER

[@hectorg.5102]

"Men are under attack", I agree. Nothing against women but is sooo true. One book that's focus on that subject "No More Mr. Nice Guy "by Dr Robert Glover

[@lisamcbride796]

Right on !

[@santanapreciado2176]

1000 agree with this!!!!!

[@The-Glitch-]

7:52 if I can't control something basic

[@matsmith16]

Dope Conversation 😎

[@halokittyxXx]

"Men are under attack." Unfortunately everyone is feeling this regardless of gender or race or whatever. Being able to connect to each other, show empathy, and establish strong boundaries is the only way we will make it. Can't victimize ourselves all the time but we can't ignore how people feel either.

[@drebugsita]

Totally! Beautifully said

[@treead67]

im with you Andy.

[@MasterFFYL]

Awesome show

[@TheDadEdge]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@rockyself]

Thanks

[@sinrentasamargado8669]

I appreciate this..I need it bro...I'm back

[@thomasarillotta6518]

5/5/22 Viewing; loved it!

[@nicoleramirex]

This should be advertised for women as well, we need to see the perspective of a man in a family when our own partners can't tell us. Men are the pillar of a family and the woman needs to uplift him to keep him strong and confident. Guys- don't feel like your alone, a real woman is right beside you kicking ass on the daily!!

[@genesisjosiahethan24]

Great podcast!!!! Definitely shifted my perspective and motivation to work harder 👏👏👏

[@ronb4460]

I love the fact that you acknowledged delaying the argument with these crazy people only allows it to grow. As men, we have to have that confrontation when these shitty ideas are in their infancy otherwise they grow into the nightmare we see today.

[@healthysmarts3094]

Yes!! Men need to man up

[@strangertings9577]

Says stand up for what’s right and then gets mad at how people choose to stand up for what’s right 😅😅 everything else is gold though 👌🏾

[@michaelsorensen7567]

Burning down buildings isn't standing up for the right. What's the actual problem? Police brutality? How is stealing from target fixing police brutality? BLM as a movement hasn't changed any black neighborhoods for the better, but their founders sure got nice houses in white neighborhoods... He's not saying "blame others for your problems and make THEM change", he's saying "if you're not getting what you want out of life, YOU'RE doing something to cause that."

[@michaelyeboah7789]

"Am not a great friend" thats so me

[@christybuster9230]

Andy = G.O.A.T

[@demetriotizcareno980]

I agree 100%

[@Ryan-wv8nh]

Bro, great program... thanks for putting it out there, but guess what?? "The Truth is, ....just another deployment to me; even though, today I've been "retired" since 2016 and i still git after it... Keep fighting bro. Don't Quit!

[@mrgraham8168]

This is fuckn GOLD MAN 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@nolan14patterson]

How could you not sign up after listening?

[@demetriotizcareno980]

I just hear about 75 hard and it’s a challenge to me to do it but I will

[@juliefreitas4849]

Not just for men but women too!🌈✅

[@PrettyGreenMonk]

This is real as fuck for sure !!

[@pr5pr]

01:11:04 - WORD

[@docdeezy8220]

What's 75 hard, and how do I get into it?

[@Andrewcastellanos]

💯

[@youllmakeit]

Ayeee after years my buddies met up 🇵🇰🇵🇰

[@mojo14520]

What was the name of the author they are talking about at the end?

[@yvonnezamora6425]

Hi do you have any parenting books

[@daleschneider6392]

I respect his accountability mindset. The only caveat and disagreement that I think is important to touch on here is his stance on how all instances of protesting and calling attention to something is a product of bad parenting. I think there is a lack of personal understanding on his part of the root idea behind these protests and the effect that they are trying to cause. It's not about sitting back and blaming others or wallowing in self-pity, it's about calling attention to something that cannot and will not change without systemic change ushered in by popular demand. It's not about expecting the world to be fair and being disappointed. It's about seeing something that can improve, and working to improve it. Sometimes that comes out in unproductive ways, obviously, but I think there is a difference in voicing an opinion through protesting and throwing a temper tantrum. Sometimes those opinions are strong and angry, but that doesn't necessarily make them invalid.

[@Caesar__99]

Thank you for saying this because I’m tired of people not stopping to listen to what’s actually being protested. I think deep down some folks have accepted their life and upbringing and treatment and so they expect others to do the same with their own circumstances. But no, what’s wrong should be called out. Doing that won’t negate the fact that an NBA player made it out of their bad situation. They can still call out what they went through or what others ARE going through. It’s how the world gets better.

[@boromirofmiddleearth557]

The left wants to destroy the family, heterosexual men, husbands, dads, boys. The protests are lead by leftists communists who want to overthrow civil society and the church.

[@Youngquavo2]

👊

[@andresesteban3308]

First time here. This was a good podcast 💡 first time here about the 75 hard and I'm about to start doing it...

[@deborahlockwood9035]

Did you start and finish it? Starting it today

[@bradmead9245]

Which 1/2 gallon jug are you using in this video?

[@TheDadEdge]

BUBBA :)

[@spsrappers]

"Your beard is toxic masculinity" 🤣🤣🤣who tf are these people?!?!?! I'm dead

[@daniele.7438]

Not dead just sleeping.. the Melvin's

[@jeffromero1783]

Any links on that 75hard?

[@michaelalexanderkugele7284]

You can find his app in the AppStore. Or look on instagram. Hope I could help you have great day.

[@deborahlockwood9035]

Look up 75 hard anywhere it's all over the place. Starting it this morning with a group of women

[@Buff99ca]

Great podcast. I've done 75 HARD twice and am on Day 45 on my 3rd go around. The only thing stopping me from doing the Live Hard program are the cold showers. My inner bitch voice keeps yelling at me to turn the water to the hot side. I can do everything else if I can ever do the cold showers.

[@boromirofmiddleearth557]

that's so funny and true. I have tried cold showers.

[@troncat93]

how many bottles of water did andy drink during this tho? lol

[@ansonvilla1871]

41:38 The real message