Real Love Is LOGICAL (not emotional)

In this short video from a live Q&A with my private group of men who are growing stronger everyday in every way, we discuss logical love. Let me know what you think.
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[@Catina28]

I'm a woman and u r on fire tonight... My friends called me cold how I selected a partner. But 15 yrs in.. Still going strong. I was not looking for emotional love but steady companionship and mutual respect.

[@OstirBass]

And that's what is called "life partner", not soulmate or love of your life.

[@1234KeithB]

I’m willing to bet a lot of your friends are now kicking themselves for not being the same way all these years later?

[@veronikaamaya]

Hi Elliot, I truly love your videos! My partner and I have been together for 4 years (soon to be married) and we have exactly the kind of relationship you talk about. It’s based on deep respect and really liking each other. There was never the crazy passion that is shown in the movies but I’ve never experienced a more stable and strong relationship and I’m sure that we’ll build a great life together, raising beautiful children and always having each other’s back. We are going more and more into feminine/masculine polarity and that is absolutely brilliant for our relationship dynamics. I used to be a feminist and it almost destroyed me, now I’m a feminine woman and I value men deeply! Lots of love to you, also loved seeing the videos with your wife together, she’s a very feminine woman as well 💕

[@DreamersOfDreams]

"I have to figure out how to get my daughters married to righteous men." .....I think God just smiled.

[@jasonsoliven5484]

Unless God calls thee to a nunnery

[@beats-by-skrill8925]

I will say when it comes to love, logical comes first, emotional comes second. You definitely need to feel something because it's the core of true and inner happiness.

[@IceisNice_FollowingChrist]

I agree well said 👏

[@bettermanchannel770]

Yes sir

[@lsour8546]

He's talking about emotional regulation. "Logical love" kind of doesn't make sense.

[@bettermanchannel770]

Logic as in a committed partnership of trust , loyalty , commitment and reciprocity and not Hollywood shallowness

[@lakeyshahayes3387]

“Your going to make my grandchildren with this” that’s right 👏🏽! Children immortalize unions, I wish we’d take having them more seriously.

[@supaman321123]

100% Correct Elliott! People need to be searching for shared values and compatability.

[@safeyalrahman]

Elliott never ceases to amaze me with his awesome ideas and way of thinking. 💯👌🏼

[@stann710]

Love your enemy is more about loving yourself. There is no external enemy, he is but a projection of ones’ ego. So love yourself is in a way love your ego. And by love - tame it.

[@thecrow4597]

That is gnosticism. None of the church fathers teach this

[@no8592]

@@thecrow4597 How about you start reading your bible more?

[@rad_98]

Finally, someone gets it.

[@Sonnykendrick]

I would say - love is INTENTIONAL. Not emotional. Solid video elliot 👌🏼 too many of us get caught up in that energy and emotion you speak of. Myself included 😬😬😬

[@arshmazoo9801]

13:10 facts. As an Indian I can attest to this. Marriage is seen as a sacred coming together of 2 souls and those souls come together for 7 lives. Ofcourse things are changing. Newer generation doesn't appreciate its own culture anymore. It's degenerate now.

[@adfohukafoju5759]

Yes bro. That is why if you include Pakistan Bangladesh sri lanka with population is very high as to europe. Im in Germany and family life sucks. Children think parents are oppression and parents are too strict to children.

[@isabellecoeur1829]

@@adfohukafoju5759 i fully agree. I am German and still live here atm. It is a MESS!! Society became so degenerated it’s scary. I am glad seeing more and more ppl having standards, morals, values - I think the two parts of our (western) society is polar opposite though, either degenerated or traditional.

[@privateequityguy]

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life.

[@CenfJ]

Thanks man

[@gavinspeaks]

“The idea is to die young as late as possible.” - Ashley Montagu 💜 Heart-Based Manifestation KZbinr

[@primalvii]

One of your best videos I've seen brother!! Bless You!

[@ahmedmedamar5698]

Thnx again big bro ur always helping me get out of these Western concepts that is very hard to practice out here tho they became engraved in our society may god help us

[@bettermanchannel770]

We may find our sovereignty

[@trashstomper]

That house looks like a place of peace, especially with the divine mercy image on the wall.

[@ThePhoenix109]

Thats a form of idol worshipping

[@kantrellebradford1284]

Yeah it really do lol

[@hseas3793]

I've been thinking about this idea that the mind = logic (can analyse the future and the past), heart = emotional (your daily mood swings) , gut = your attitude and decision-making in this moment. I believe being too logical may make you feel bitter and see the flaws in everything and realize the logical thing would not to commit, but at the sametime down the road it is something of great importance not now maybe but down the road. We should maybe try to move away from the day to day, but into our gut which I think is were good logic meets good feeling (sometimes).

[@albukolla1536]

amazing video especially from a man in his 40s and has been around the block great views i agree with a lot of shit you say im only 29 years of age…. not all of the shit you say… but a lot of you’re views i share the same views as you and i really believe you’re sending a great message to all us young men…. i don’t consider myself young at age 29 but the younger generation as well god bless you man

[@TEEANVEE]

How many women were u with by age 20? Thanks

[@albukolla1536]

@@TEEANVEE 10 to 15

[@taoyoka]

compatibility, then chemistry

[@008boot6]

Good comment

[@TheBmonster1]

Opposites attract like a magnet

[@shawnR3838]

so good to see you back... it's been forever it seems

[@zivamayne]

Don’t think by doing this, that you can’t enjoy the feeling that comes with love. Emotion follows motion. Act good and you will end up feeling good.

[@josiahslate7374]

Very Traditional. Once again though I understand why many things are- thanks to Uncle E. Great vid 🤙

[@balasaravanan500]

This video saved me a ton of time. Thank you my man. As always 🔥🔥

[@wailaspirit3148]

God Bless you Elliott

[@kirbfx]

There is no more pure form of love than a women's love, especially for her children There is no more self-sacrificial form of love than a man's love for his family Both are superceding forms of love because they are purly centred around wiling good onto others

[@NJFgang4life]

This is a video I needed at this junction in my life, thanks Elliot

[@UnlimitlesslyFunnyDude]

Love is often perceived as an emotion that overwhelms us and takes over our rational selves. However, real love is a logical concept. It involves making conscious decisions to prioritize the well-being and happiness of our loved ones. Real love requires us to put in the effort and work towards maintaining healthy relationships. It involves understanding our partner's needs and communicating effectively to meet them. Love is not just a feeling, but a commitment to support and care for each other through thick and thin.

[@lyxuong458]

Thankful for your amazing content, Elliott

[@jackrobertson5423]

Very true. If emotional love theory is true then how can I say to my friend Paige, "I love you like a sister and would do nearly anything to support you" and also be disgusted at the thought of sex with her? Either I am lying about loving her or not wanting to sleep with her (which makes all my other actions and words contradictory and a huge deception) or emotional love theory is wrong because she is my friend and I have chosen logically to love her.

[@jive499]

this is a really good video, lots of truth and more important than people realise.

[@faissallfa]

I like the way you give credit to other cultures or even other religions to support your ideas logically and emotionally

[@UnlimitlesslyFunnyDude]

Fleeting value (short-term pleasure) vs Real value (long-term planning)

[@brunopanger5451]

Pure gold what you sayin Elliott. Thank you❤️(logical heart emoji💪)

[@konini12]

Apart of your journey as a parent is to learn to let go at some point. Their experiences will shape them and the learnings they will gain are apart of life's beautiful teachings

[@no8592]

Based Elliot

[@UnlimitlesslyFunnyDude]

Real Love: to do good for an other, not just willing good for other. Real love is more than just a feeling. It's about taking action and doing good for another person. It's the small everyday gestures that show someone you care, like making them breakfast in bed or picking up their favorite coffee on the way home. Real love is also about being there for someone in their time of need, whether it's offering a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, or practical help with a problem. When we practice real love, we create deeper connections with others and experience greater fulfillment in our own lives.

[@kirbfx]

In other words: Emotional Love: Taking and wanting emotional experiences from others mostly to fulfill oneself (like a drug) Logical Love: Giving and facilitating to fulfill others especially those you hold dear in your heart, heart being the source of the soul

[@antoniogivens9203]

Wow Elliot I teared up on this one you're so powerful man

[@icephoenix1024]

This is true. Many just assume love to be the same as attachment and also very emotional.

[@TheMobileNest]

Thank you so much for this wisdom.

[@monetarymusashi5732]

great video cheif . lot of value and deep thought here. still droppin gems in 2022. apriciate it brother!

[@yuvi3968]

Thank you bro, I knew already everything but it appeases me a lot hearing I'm still not alone in this lost society

[@freemindkev]

Emotional love is deceiving

[@JosephR24]

Great job brother ! Appreciate it !

[@amirtak9886]

This video has so much truth in it

[@ajseb]

I wish I could show all of my friends this video

[@Naturalhit]

It's like fiddler on the roof. The two main characters got married because its logical for them not because of love. And, it's an arrange marriage too.

[@bettermanchannel770]

A partnership!!

[@adrianenglish511]

If Beyonce shocks Elliot wait till he hears Cardi B...

[@healthiswealth6237]

The logical love you speak of is Agape love. When the Apostle John said "God is Love", at John 4:8, that God like love is Agape love, when translated in Greek. E'ros love, for instance, is the love between the sexes.

[@Incandescence555]

I think one of the most compelling psycho-social-religio-spiritual forces driving men to long for women is that need to nurture, protect and covet - this is only possible in the woman that you channel your mother in, your sister, your best friend - I mean that person you need most and is the best that they can be is an archetypal manifestation, both for her and for yourself, it's not the hourglass figure or the long, voluminous hair that we long for, they are both embellishments on the archetypal Eve, our existential companion, our mother yet our lover (no oedipal intended), it's literally our other half in humanity that we seek. May God endow us all with the courage and strength to seek out and be Adamic and decent to all our respective Eves.

[@obl7vi0n]

The need for a woman is mostly biological but I see the spiritual need for femininity in a man’s life. We don’t really need a woman, what we need is sex from a woman and through her a legacy in children. What we need as men is a father and through him, God the Father. If you were spiritually fulfilled you wouldn’t need a woman at all because a woman could never fulfill a man. Paul in the Bible talks about this how it is best to not get married but if you are burning with desire then take a wife. Most men do need a helper that comes in the form of a wife but it isn’t necessary. It’s dangerous to think of women as a need for some existential companion as you said because God should be the only thing a man needs.

[@nph84]

Elliott with the remix 😂. Good video. Thanks for the wisdom.

[@alexiskarlberg4048]

Been praying that god guides me to become a good wife before I’m married. I didn’t have a father but god has been working in me oh man!

[@copainspammeur404]

Good wives are those who keep what must be kept for their husband

[@ericgroovenhoff9913]

I asked permission, to his face. To this day, I still think they appreciated it

[@SelfImprovement1988]

Brilliant video, thank you

[@timproffit7861]

It's true Elliott. I would not be with a westernized girl ever again, at least I do not think so. I am privileged to see how real women behave through my girlfriend. She was raised like a lady. She is from Verecruz Mexico. Our cultures are lots different from each other and sometimes I don't understand everything she says or does but the one thing that I do understand about her is she is loyal/honest, she loves God. You are right "The West has Fallen."

[@tommyking8560]

@ 20:14 I see you Elliott 😂

[@angelasudzukovic5371]

I love everything you said. I am a woman who wants to be at home and rise a children. But what is repelling me a lot is men from my culture. (Balkan) What they do is that they “put” a woman in a house, a loyal one, but they are not loyal. What they say is “Men need a change” and they justify having mistresses. It makes me sick to my stomach. I will give you everything and you will do thing behind my back. It’s awful!!! Recently I went for a coffee with one man, just to find out that he has a pregnant wife at home. I was shocked. And witnessing so many cases like that is making me to lose desire for marriage. What are your thoughts on this?

[@bodnarova05]

I would say try to meet older established men, they will value you more because of you being younger. You’d have to be okay with then possibly being divorced and having grown children already.

[@yailtonneves]

Elliot made me laugh so much with the bumpin bumpin 😂💯

[@untoldname]

20 Fears of Modern Women (Must Read): 1. She fears no dates from up, but from across or down. 2. She fears no men focusing on her words or Womanese but her actions, including checking her phone. 3. She fears no men to be manipulated and simping for her like a prize, as she has this inveterate unbearable entitlement and contempt for men. 4. She fears boredom or a drama-free life, for she is insatiable and ungrateful. 5. She fears her friend got a better man than her or her man stolen, whom she stole from another woman/friend during her last seamless monkey-branch. 6. She fears feeling sorry not for her cheating but for its being caught, while she always got pumped and dumped from these unknown men and therefore climbed back to be with her beta man who mistakes her staying with him ''by force'' for ''by choice''. 7. She fears her friends revealing her body count or what she actually did in those girls' nightouts/bachelorette party/Vegas or Cancun Trips, while she cannot help sharing her secrets as well as her man's privacy with them who are gossipy and bitchy. 8. She fears no free attention, continual validation, unconditional energy from men, while she'll make no efforts at all in return and won't feel sorry for using up their resources. 9. She fears it is not 6 digits income, 6 inches D, 6 feet tall, 6 pack abs, while she claims she wants a nice guy (to provide), by which she means is she's going to find a chance to seizure the 666ers behind his back with the security and his trust in place. 10. She fears men not treating her as an end while she is treating them as a means, given she loves them not for who they are, but for what they can do for her. 11. She fears her man's money is not her money while her money clearly isn't her man's money. 12. She fears bigger-better-deal men are wise/redpilled/KnowingHisValue but not stupid/bluepilled/NotKnowingHisValue, and she always wants to change/vet/brainwash/shame a bbd man of that stupid kind for her use for good. 13. She fears a lack of privileges or convenience but a presence of accountability or responsibility, and she must always play the victim of all-time while she's under the independent-woman brand and yet she insists he pay. 14. She fears unable to use her sexuality as the only weapon but her personality, humor, cooking, etc. which she sucks at, given she always responds to men with ''Entertain me'' as her conversation-opener, which is also her fundamental life attitude toward men. 15. She fears no backup men even in a good LTR, for she fears karma and is anytime ready to dispose her used-up men upon inevitable life difficulties with him. 16. She fears being single by betatizing men in her Situationships by wasting their time, and what's worse is her riding on the carousel counts as being single too in her opinion. 17. She fears unable to get what she wants through no men, for men not playing her stupid games such as not subscribing to her bullshit or shaming, or not wifing her up for her to divorce him later to take half his shit. 18. She fears ending up being alone and lonely in her 30s, 40s or 50s when she realized even the nice/beta guys back then have now disdainfully rejected and ghosted her, after she ain't doing shit for decades, either for her own relationships or for her self-improvement on basically being a loser OFFLINE. 19. She fears aging like vinegar or milk, which she is. 20. She fears her look seen without makeup, be her a 49er 304 from the streets.

[@xSamuele10]

👍

[@sexyblackcharlery]

Watch Indian matchmaking on Netflix, its brilliant

[@RaoulMoreira]

Arranged marriage DOESN’T WORK by itself. The father in the matter needs to have a well built value system for it to work. The biggest problem is fathers just copying what their fathers did without actually knowing WHY. What it boils down to (just like any set of behaviours) is this: Don’t copy the action. Instead, copy the intent behind the action. It’s kinda like the religious concept of idolatry.. people who start worshipping the picture of an entity instead of what it spiritually represents

[@soacker25]

Man, bro. That was straight up fire. Pure goosebumps. Much love from a feminist infected dying country - germany.

[@isabellecoeur1829]

So much!! German here - seeing this toxic feminism everywhere around, even in my own family 😩😑🤢

[@josephbinkley]

Game changer. Thank you E!

[@SomeGuy-tz8dz]

A quick story on when sex stops... Some octogenarians gave a talk at a university gave a talk on relationships. In the Q&A, a student asked, "When did you stop having sex?" One answered, "Some time after 80!" That answer was met with roaring laughter and applause.

[@lsour8546]

Love is emotional, too. Who are we kidding? Let's not put shame in having a deep emotional connection with someone else.

[@R32boii]

Exactly - everything is Emotion... it’s just that people only want the good Emotion not the negative stuff.. plain and simple

[@seds94]

Real love. Not lust or attachment

[@goodaymate43]

Emotion should come after taking the Logical decision to be with the person. Not being Emotionally with the person and then Logically the next step is marriage.

[@lsour8546]

@Samurai Pizza Cat Agree! But I think with being in a relationship it's inevitable to have negative emotions. If you use them in a healthy way, they can be used as a compass in life and relationships. If I just used ligic, I would have stayed in a relationship that was miserable despite being good on paper. I wouldn't have ended up in this amazing marriage I have now if I just followed the "logical choice".

[@lsour8546]

@@seds94 right!

[@kinGsaL1515]

14:50 he hit it right on the nail with that point

[@Seth6000]

you are absolutly right

[@Sudhesh_somu]

Fuckin love you brother ❤️

[@HellenicWolf]

we are men talking to a screen, what would you expect? We are all artists now or talkers. Where's the action in our community? If we spend less time in social media and more time on the streets and with our neighbours, maybe we can turn the ship around...

[@shawn-dsz]

You are awesome Elliott

[@thomasflippen4341]

We need to bring back initiation and true guidance

[@Kristoffceyssens]

The love we think is love, is lust.

[@bluxpretion]

'Any way, I'm'o'n'o stop ranting here 'n' get back to you, hmhmhm'- no, Elliott...the rant was good

[@sexyblackcharlery]

Love to u Elliot

[@SomeGuy-tz8dz]

Marriage is suppose to be a union of two people coming togther. The union is suppose to be for the betterment of BOTH parties. I wouldn't go into a business partnership in which only one party will have most to all the benefits. Unfortunately, in this day and age, each party is entering marriage want and expecting the best for themselves. Now the phsychie is, "The happiness of ME is more important than the happiness of the union." This is why most marriages are failing. Each person in a marriage is screaming, "I can't find ALL MY happiness for myself in this marriage! I'm feeling stifled!" Really what they should be pursuing is happiness for the whole. Each person might not be "as happy as what they want", but with mutual respect and each partner looking out for the relationship, each partner can be as happy as what they can be in a sharing relationship. Yes, this means that each will be missing out on some happiness that they might be able to obtain if one partner is giving up on what happiness that partner deserves. Think of in this way... Each partner can each get 50 points of happiness if each respects each other; total of 100 point of happiness. Or one partner can get 75 points of happiness, but the other partner only gets 10 points of happiness; total of 85 point of happiness in the relationship. When the is such a skewed amount of happiness being felt, the partner with the least happiness is certainly not going to want to stay a part of the relationship. In relationships, and partners in business, if one partner is wanting more than they deserve, or than can be had, the other partner will soon want out of the union. And so with all the fairy tales, rom-coms, romance novels and movies where everybody lives "happily ever after", everybody thinks they can have it ALL FOR THEMSELVES. Well... Yes and no. Yes - you can have ALL of YOUR SHARE of happiness that the relationship has. No - you can't have ALL THE HAPPINESS that is within the relationship. And so relationship go sour unless EACH partner is striving to make the WHOLE relationship better.

[@paulgarzillojr.9979]

Thank you Mr. Hulse

[@ericruden1920]

Both are connected. Logically you need to know what will work in your lifestyle and if you are believer your best chance is being with another believer. But don't throw out all emotion. Need to connect on some level but find your spirit first and pray about it. Don't let the heart betray you. Jeremiah 17:9 (KJV) 9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?

[@wanderlust451]

By the way, I am looking for a 👰 and here are the matches that I keep getting, and this is arranged marriage I am talking about. *28 year olds, lawyers, want to be strong💪, independent, "you go girl" types. Who clearly had their party years four, five years ago. (They are now acceptable in our culture, impossible 30 years ago.) *Girls from our top universities are encouraged to be promiscuous and go getters in the name of being modern. *Advertising, Bollywood and daily soap operas are taken over by post modernists which is brainwashing young girls. Homely, housewives are being bullied with sophisticated propaganda. Things are Concerning.

[@no8592]

Push back against the propaganda, if people think it's time to progress just show them how it has gone shit here in west. Finland is facing a birth rate so low that we're having a crisis..

[@shawn-dsz]

Good is giving you wisdom

[@megaape]

Trying is failing, doing is doing.

[@shervafshar7334]

Do you have a podcast? Id like listen without wasting video data

[@chrisgrave9216]

great perspective on thing

[@samfaris313]

Keep the moustache bro

[@brofessormex]

I have to second that. Like a thick firefighter moustache.

[@coachjr3280]

25. Heres some good advice. All these boys need to listen to tom leykis. If not you deserve to get finessed with your love chasing bs.

[@jarvesejoschandanaparamban2274]

Great ⚔️🔥👍🏽.

[@johnmclaughlin4802]

Great and accurate podcast 👏

[@tino0936]

23:29, 24:49

[@cuciureanugica9363]

Man, you have nice eyes, sir. I have same colors to my eyes. I am currently working while listening to you. I choose logical my future wife but I am scared a bit because in my past relationships I focused on them and neglected me and I am afraid if I do it again it will end up bad, because my past relationship made me stronger because of the mistakes I made, but I am afraid I will bounce back to the past me if I am not present with my spirit every day. What should I do?

[@jcvelez915]

This video is amazing

[@claudiuflorea3186]

Incredible! It's all I gotta say

[@chrisgeojaison4673]

being an Indian is one of the best blessings god gave me..🇮🇳✝️

[@enrique1765]

What books do you recommend to read

[@a1d5]

revelations from this one, only ever had that fake love

[@jasong3398]

I think there needs to be a balance of traditional and some progressive concepts. There is a reason strict traditional concepts in west stopped working. And there is a reason why progressive hippy dippy bullshit also is causing a lot of issues for dating and families. There needs to be some balance of each

[@no8592]

Traditional stopped working when the people left the countryside to cities and became aggressive and intoxicated.

[@jasong3398]

@@no8592 I doubt this is the only reason, and not everyone is going to go back to countryside living or work. There was toxicity even in countryside living

[@thomasflippen4341]

Most of us men have been failed by our fathers and our fathers father's.

[@tedsterrett7204]

What if the Father has abused the woman sir? Thank you for what you are doing... it's vitally important to the future of the world!

[@Kristoffceyssens]

The duty to love?

[@rateloveable]

Wow That Was Awsome