REAL TALK | Black Boys Don't Cry | Mental Health w/ Black Men

[@CindyrellaOG]

What should the next Real Talk topic be on?

[@shanten.rennick4806]

Cindyrella OG another good topic is why is society glorifying being promiscuous and the classy behavior is being pushed to the back. Example: as far as marriage material, careers, and etc.

[@AmariHetep]

I would be interested in a panel of women discussing the nuances of feminism. From slut shaming, to gender roles, to chivalry, etc.

[@kwameopoku3576]

Homosexuality transexuals why it’s important for men to also know how to cook aswell

[@gabrielleburnette7666]

Cultural Appropriations

[@ShekinahChi]

I've seen a lot of the AA vs Africans discussions and I want to know if you guys think it's possible for African Americans to "cultural appropriate" Africans

[@kis-pov]

"This got deep.... Quick!"

[@Zehiraxox]

Kiara Nelson girl !!!!!!! Right & were dating these guys !!!!!! Like black guys everywhere

[@BreenyLee]

When black men express their emotions 😍

[@sontiaw]

You rarely see guys being so transparent about their emotions. If all we take from this video is how attractive the guys are then we’re missing the entire point. These were definitely topics that needed to be addressed. It’s so good to see a real talk video again. Thank you.

[@CindyrellaOG]

Thank you so much, Tia!!! I really appreciate you and all the love!!!

[@sontiaw]

Of course!!💕💕

[@cameronhayhurst5274]

So what Cindy

[@karene.2704]

They all fine as hell.. Nobody can tell me Nigerian men ain't blessed.

[@sharde3416]

Adanna E. I need to find one

[@VoriciTheAssasinTV]

Lol yall hypocrite black people use to say african booty scratcher...... but now everybody even white people is pro africa and melanin..lol yall kill me with laughter. I nor sabi why mek wuna nar big hypocrite, nobody go no.

[@jimmyconners2397]

Ibrahim Yisrael I never used to say that shit. I was never ignorant. Plus people used to say that to me and I’m not even from Africa (directly)

[@karene.2704]

lol what tf are you talking about... I'm nigerian tf

[@cinderellafromtheblock6096]

@@VoriciTheAssasinTV How can I be pro something that I've never even been to before?? I dont say that whole Wakanda forever bs because it isn't realistic there is no utopia.

[@jamayab.177]

He said he cried 2 years ago meanwhile I cried five hours ago🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Scalpedpotate]

Jamaya B. Honey I cried for 5 hours 5 hours ago 😂💀

[@chirose240]

These people haven't cried in forever yet I cried last night, alright. I hope y'all are finding some other way to get your feels out

[@CindyrellaOG]

Mirror Enyo right!!!

[@gbbs9]

Same!!! He said last time he cried when his mom took took his phone....... 6 years ago! I'm not doing something right.

[@jazzminep7285]

I said the same thing! I literally cry at least once a week. I could never go YEARS without crying!

[@erion1170]

@TwoFold JuniorHighly unlikely. As a dude, I can confirm that.

[@alyjadee]

NOW THISSSSSS this is some high quality content and im here for it! it really shows that you care about what you’re putting out!!💓💓💓

[@LiyahMay-e2s]

Alyssa Jade I agree

[@westafricandiamonds4387]

Alyssa Jade The music is NOT HELPING AT ALL. It's hard to hear them.😑😒

[@rebeccan5048]

This gave me chills omg I love this!!! When he was talking about crying during a prayer, I've felt that and it was crazy and amazing.

[@chriscrenshaw8281]

I agree growing up in a african American household you really cant cry when you are the supporter of your family and the women and younger siblings are looking at you as the protecter and provider.

[@VoriciTheAssasinTV]

OvO Chris how are you african and American??.. Lol you need to try and find your family tree.

[@chriscrenshaw8281]

Ibrahim Yisrael lol I agree I’ve always wanted to

[@rahzikashiharris9539]

He is a African from America

[@kierragrant4291]

He is of African descent who is from America. Our ancestors helped build America Ima claim it too cause its ours just like the native Americans Mexicans ect..

[@chibaby0306]

This was so good!!! We need more dialogue on this especially in the african/ black community! And these men are so well articulate and intelligent, so proud! PS that guy does NOT look 21 at all!!!! lol AND women are more emotional beings. Men don't really have those emotions to the depths of how we women have it.

[@Boogersandunicorns76]

lovelychi mmmm... I think its because its acceptable for woman to be more emotional. Men just have to learn how to not show their emotions that are not apart of being angry. Its pretty sad.

[@joyscott250]

It's been shown that both men and women experience the same range of emotions. Social norms dictate how each gender processes and expresses them though, which probably affects why we perceive men as being less emotional and women as more so.

[@BOOMBOXKILLA]

My God, the way you just contradicted yourself in one paragraph is immaculate. Let's not generalise and let's above all not try to act like we can actually feel what someone else feels.

[@printis_]

lovelychi Not for me. In my family men and woman really weren't allowed to cry. I used to get hit a lot for crying and now I barely do and it makes me feel like I'm weak if I do.

[@chirose240]

Tolu is a real one, everything he said was accurate. And honestly all of you are right depression and mental illness within the Black community is swept under the rug

[@karene.2704]

Love this 👏🏾👏🏾. Mental health in the black community is def not talked about enough.

[@chirose240]

This actually made me look at my brothers a different way, my brothers cry other bs not even I would cry over and I cry when I'm extra pissed or frustrated. But I've never really seen my older brother or my older cousin cry now that they are more grown. And my dad I think I've seen cry maybe once, and it high key hurts when you see your dad cry because then you know he's really hurt. Like my dad cut his hand and started laughing. And when I was a kid he'd always say "I'll give u something to cry about" (but u know how that is). Idk it really put things in perspective for me. My mom was saying she thought something was wrong with my older brother bc he was always defensive and never talked about his feelings and I really thought that was just him being him but maybe it's deeper than that. Thanks for the video Cindy, it gave me a lot to think about

[@gbbs9]

Everything you're saying is so true! I'm about to call my brother-- When was the last time you cried? Why do you think it's a taboo......

[@chirose240]

This is so nicely edited, we can tell you put a lot of work into this video. And it's such an important topic too, great job Cindy 👏🏾 Ima enjoy watching the rest of this video

[@thesanctuarybeautywellness6679]

I cried throughout the entire video. This is such a huge issue for black people, poc that seriously needs to be changed. Its a part of our culture. We shouldn't be ashamed of being transparent with our emotions and issues and seeking help. Thank you for this dialog. We need more of this.

[@thesanctuarybeautywellness6679]

I typed this half way through lol. But the topic of surface level questions and answering was right on point. We gotta get on that ! Man this is good.

[@zini9103]

When was the last time I cried? Just now while watching this video. I needed this and I'm glad I found it!!

[@TM-pj7yu]

Depression in men is frowned on and black men are often emotionally withdrawn because of it. I watch my husband physically and emotionally break down within himself ,expecting validation of being valued from his father. It ate at him his health began to fail, every time I made a breakthrough in advancing him to a healing state I notice after a conversation with his father he was back in a fog. I couldn't reach him at one point anymore. His diabetes illness ate at him and in the end it became his method of suicide. His suffering mentally and emotionally took him over the edge and only twice he cried out of the 8 years we were together. It is very important to give black men recognition for the sensitivities they have ,appreciate they carry burdens and are often weighted , without sole focus on his ability as a provider and masculinity as always the figure of strength. Very important.

[@princesswells9469]

I LOVE that you are talking about mental health in the black community, especially with black men. Noone ever talks about it but this helped me because I am going in to talk to a counselor tomorow to see whats it all about. This was perfect timing, thank you!

[@dashiajames1882]

He's got great point you ask "what's wrong " men just say...." I'm good "...!! Some ppl can tell something's wrong by just the expression on your face !!

[@yummyrainB]

Wow, this video was definitely a icebreaker for these kind of topics. In the black community, we don't address a lot of things, until maybe it's too late, or even still, it's easier to sweep things under the rug because "we don't/didn't have these kind of problems". I love the strength our men are taught to have, but at the same time, I need them to know that as a black woman, I will always have your back even if I need to hold you sometimes. You don't always have to be strong, and especially when it comes to mental health, certain things inevitably will need to be brought to the forefront in order to strengthen overall health and well-being of yourself. Sometimes, we can be our own selves' worst enemies or greatest supporters. 💕

[@shadajalloyd5786]

I really appreciate you taking on this topic, such an important but seen as an insignificant/nonexistent issue in the black community. P. S. I have contemplated transferring to some school in Texas cause these men are a different type of fine yo😂😂😂😂😂

[@nicnic4255]

I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT THIS !! I need more of this. I loved hearing their stories and I loved hearing them speak about their feelings. I feel like they probably felt so refreshed after this because men don't usually go in depth like they did today. AMAZING video!

[@shelly-gaecurrithers1728]

I respected you before from your other discussions, but this is on another level. I’m from Jamaica and the home dynamic is very similar to what these males described in the video. This was very refreshing @CindyrellaOG, looking forward to more videos like this. Keep it up, much respect.

[@chantaldrichards]

Shelly- Gae Gordon I agree with you. I am from Jamaica as well. Our men tend to build a wall when it comes to emotions.

[@TWForeeever]

This gave me Being Mary Jane vibes! Love you Cindy!

[@TWForeeever]

Well, more so in the beginning*

[@LifebyChi]

Love this video! As someone with a psych degree, I’m always advocating for more mental health awareness especially in the African diaspora.

[@naomidiego540]

I’m truly inspired by this. We NEED to have these conversations especially in the black community.

[@venawilliams6208]

Thank you for making a channel that has so much stories and information on important topics. I love your videos. From the pigment of the skin to mental health. The platform you are creating will help you and the future generations to come. May you be guided by the Grace of God💕

[@chirose240]

I think this is a great series, if there was more REAL TALK I know I'd be happy to watch

[@victoriajuluen]

I've only watched the first minute of this and I'm already feeling all the vibes.💜💜

[@N00R12]

oh my word… I’ve never seen my dad cry;even at my gran’s funeral…this is really an important issue and its awesome that we’re thinking about it…..thatll lead to solutions.

[@yummyrainB]

Oh but great job Cindy!!! I'd love to see a part two with maybe women's thoughts on how to support black men in this struggle of mental health issues. Or maybe even women's own struggle with this, because there's a lot of single parent households, where the woman is trying to be strong and having to hold things together, and kids (female mainly) are growing up with this as the new norm and only example they know. So who teaches the kids how to love and be love, and how to accept and appreciate it?.... We definitely need more dialog! I love your videos but these types are my favorite from you! 😍😘

[@snwokorie]

You are a breath of fresh air as a youtuber

[@jasminedanyell1441]

WOW. I loved this! It actually motivated me to ask my brothers, cousins and fiance about their emotions.

[@louislark4506]

Out of all these Nigerian men, I immensely resonated with Tofu. He is very authentic and transparent. In my opinion, drug, alcohol, internet, food, sexual addictions are very prevalent in the Black community. And- it is a numbing affect in which we do not contend with our emotions. Additionally- lack of real community and support systems.

[@cheetahgirlfan32]

depression is reaI, l battled with it for 13 years. I have always been the more emotional and sensitive one. This is good that these brothers are talking about this they are strong!

[@itslesha1874]

You better come thru with the RELEVANT content yasssss!!! I'm snapping my fingers i don't even know why 😂😂 but yassss baby yass🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@bonniescott198]

Thank you sister. America is here for the dehumanization of black brother and the mental is oftentimes overlooked. As sister.

[@nessab9311]

This is wonderful! God Bless Cindy

[@sheryljones8405]

Thanks so much for this. As a psychiatrist, this is an excellent production that will help our community to better understand issues surrounding Black Mental Health.

[@ariatsunami7384]

He said last time he cried was 6 years ago?? That’s so crazy. Hell, I’m crying right now. 😭🤦🏿‍♀️

[@iMMAH17]

CINDY! I'm 9 months late but this video is EVERYTHING! I relate to sooo many points in this video. Growing up in an african household there was no discussion of feeling or emotion, no sentimental anything. Now as a growing woman, mother and fiancée I still find myself trying to turn that part around for my child. This was such a well prepared topic. I'm currently in the process of searching for a therapist who is a brown girl as well.

[@GracefullyKaren]

Excellent conversation. Girl I've seen my father cry so many times more than my mother. It's good ooo. Let the rain pour down. Sometimes, it's good to release. I always say it's really important to reach out to people. I do agree that for the most part, we don't always have the answer to every problem so it's good to seek a counselor. I love reaching out to people. It got to a point where I pulled back because it seemed like it was a one way street. I've learned over the years to never give up on reaching out. I learned that when one of my male friend opened up to me personally about something I would have never known he was battling because he always responds he's doing well through a text. Really enjoyed this talk ✨😊

[@monaeholmes6346]

Cindy I respect you lile 10 times more than I already do for putting out this video. Not a lot of people on KZbin really talk about these kinds of things as in depth as you did, although they are essential. I myself teared up and got emotional because those guys really made me think of my younger and older brothers. It made me realize that I need to ask deeper questions and just be aware of them in general. I myself struggle with showing my emotions and have been trying to tell myself that it is ok to show them or that it doesn't make you look weak. I feel like my younger brothers especially are my priority to help because I don't want then to grow up with the same mentality as me. Thank you for opening my eyes.

[@louislark4506]

This is a salient needed relevant mental health discourse. I struggle with depression, and I made a proactive decision to seek therapy. I actually have an appointment soon. I am cognizant that I need help processing a plethora of emotions and notions. Fortunately, my mom wanted to to be a psychologist and briefly studied towards that goal. So, she purported seeking therapy. However, residing in Western culture, I have learned to numb my feelings and emotionally shut down. Phenomenal talk.

[@Missmanima]

i love you cindy this shows your growth this video is edited so well the topic is on point! makes me remembering why i subscribed ❤️

[@fly3itch872]

This topic needs to be more recognized and talked about thank you for this video ❤️🦋

[@hephzibaholajimi]

This was such a good idea Cindy!!!

[@abigeorge9409]

K.

[@Kloudee]

If you do a part 2, could you ask them what they consider to be "small things" not worth crying for?

[@jessicabenton5215]

you should carry this into a “ask a friend” where we can tell you what we think about black mental health.

[@alishiacrichlow9145]

Awesome conversation! In society, this topic isn't highlighted much at all. I commend all who participated.

[@TheRacquellShow]

cindy have you ever thought about doing podcasts? This series would be sooooo good as a podcast

[@uniquer.5922]

Racquell yesss! please do podcasts Cindy

[@shadefode5829]

I had to stop halfway through and cry seriously. Mental illness in the black community need to be taken seriously with men and women. As a woman I'm not emotional I've been through sooooo much and I hold it all in, because I'm the strong one in my family. In most black households the girls have way more responsibilities to handle and hurdles to jump through. Parents have to be open with their children and most aren't. They sugar coat things. When that happens and their children are going through difficult times they feel like they have no where to go because it doesn't feel "normal" in a sense.

[@kelcr7744]

wow, love this cindy. I actually have a poem that I wrote around this issue and this inspired me to make it public.

[@orangesurfing94]

Cindy, I am currently in grad school and I want to be able to develop programs for children with mental illness. Therapy and medications are the only two methods society has out there and, from personal experience therapy did not help and I don't believe in the medication route. Only because I do not to want to have to depend on a medication for me to be stable and if I don't take it I won't be okay. There was a study done that African American boy suicide rates tripled in 2015. In many black communities it's a stigma that mental illness is a white person problem. That African American cannot have mental illness because it's seen as a sign of weakness or crazy! This video was great and needed!

[@Kashopespeaks4]

I don't know how I skipped across this video! I posted a question on snapchat relating to why black men are so emotionally detached or unavailable and I received so many unique responses! Then my cousin sent me this, and actually HEARING it from a black man's mouth is what I wanted. I am glad you made this video because this is one of the many topics, especially in the black community that. needs to be touched on. Even if the problem is not solved, these conversations to be had!

[@cierraking8365]

This is the content the people want!!! I absolutely love this! As a community we don’t discuss mental health but as a society we never stop to acknowledge men and their mental.

[@rasheedachane8664]

THISSS IS EVERYTHING 👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾 I loved this so much I watched it twice 💯💯 Big ups too these Men 👏🏾Tolu 👏🏾Obi 👏🏾 Dez👏🏾 Seun 👏🏾 @Cindyrella OG thank you for shining light on this🙏🏾

[@zoelinlove]

The relevance of this video is unreal. The young man that spoke around 14:30 made some points that are sooo valid and that are seen more often than we could ever imagine especially within college age young people. 😭🙌 Another job well done CindyOG 💕 Great content!!!

[@AmariHetep]

Yeeessssss Cindy!! Do it for the culture!! This is such an overlooked facet of black masculinity that needs to be addressed!! Emotional expression is literally natural, and it's not healthy to suppress your emotions for the sake of preserving your masculinity.

[@momandsoncookingshow3623]

Very well done!! This is submitted by a nurse who has done years of group therapy. I hope that many black men find this and have the courage to reach out to professionals or even friends when they are feeling overwhelmed by life. I agree that there needs to be a safe place to scream.

[@ObeyKaeyla12]

I really appreciate you for this. This is a HUGE issues that we never speak on, and we never think it is important to speak on.

[@MartinaKing225]

I cry every other day lol I wish black men could feel free in their emotions......beautiful channel

[@khalasutherland10]

This video was the truth. While I love your funny videos, black men being transparent is refreshing

[@nhines0167]

I love that you all covered this topic ❤️ thanks Cindy !

[@thehealingsessionher]

Thank you for making this video. This is relevant today. As a Black Therapist my clients and I discuss this as well

[@grinder701]

We all cry As Niggas As Jews As Christand As Mexicans As Slavdorians As Portoricans as Jamaicans as Africans We All Cry Bloods Crips M13 Let's all Get together With our own Culture And Cry Together

[@jullietogu7652]

YYESSS MAAMM!!! you snapped on this one girl

[@JayLeiRay]

Cindy, thank you for this video!

[@danabelle7736]

This topic is so necessary for so many reasons. I get so excited hearing things like this because this is literally my research topic for my Masters program! I love this! Keep the conversation going!

[@TheCocoKayyy]

Cindy you literally know all THE FINE MEN. Like how ?

[@adewunmiization]

This might be your most important video to date. Loved it!

[@tyeishajones3030]

Handsome Black young men. Powerful topic/video. Awareness in the black community is a MUST SPREAD. ✊🏾❤️

[@TeeyanaAromi]

Love this, it is nice to see black guys talking about the real things they don't get to really express x

[@dorcasruhamya9453]

i never thought that in the world today they will still be man as wise as the ones in this video. any ways thanks so much Cindyrella i love the video and all they say i think it because of the way they were raised because i have a young brother and he is 6 years old and when he cry my dad says "don't cry your a man" . i don't know but i thing they grow up with that spirit in side them. please more of the REAL TALK videos.

[@boopyshmurdaa]

Thank you about talking about things that are neverd talked about and putting out in the open 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@soniaa2327]

Loooved this!! Tryna bring this topic in my new Culture Club at school to change the culture behind the taboo of mental health and vulnerability in men.

[@savianbattle]

I wish black men would be more open with each other. We need to be each other’s support system. You’re not alone, struggling with mental health and depression hits us all at some point.

[@mrsslamenjamen]

I'm so grateful that you create such important content and shoutout to the men for being so transparent. I'm so proud.

[@naffytaffy1999]

You always come through with original REAL LIFE content. This was super insightful. I live for your channel! ❤️

[@MissNuBehaviah]

Honestly I think this is beautiful!!! Thank you for taking the time to have these type of conversations with our brothers because they are NEEDED! Keep doing what you're doing love !!!

[@preciousajoku2828]

As I'm watching this I'm too proud to be sharing the same igbo gene with you girl, great job and excellent content, you hardly see it spoken about like this. 💙💙

[@pkmelody3]

YES THIS TOPIC IS SO NECESSARY, PT1 PT2 AND 3

[@iamrocky9805]

i feel like this video was so necessary and i hope not only black men but MEN period stumble across this video and really take something from it. Awesome Job🎉

[@pkmelody3]

Man Cindy, this is beautiful 😢

[@timilehin1787]

I love this! So inspiring and I think we should speak out more about these things especially in the black/African community!

[@traikyana]

I love you for talking about topics nobody talks about..I love this sooo much. Kudos to you sis

[@tinkerbell3667]

Nigerian guys are handsome! Much love from a Kenyan girl 💜

[@saumumgude4999]

Okay my love, you done did it this time!!! Content is on point, editing is fire, and Obi is still fiiiine. I LOVE EVERYTHING 😭❤️ #create #touchsouls

[@a.emmadiallo5889]

This is the best content you ve ever done. Thank you!

[@allthingsmelissa]

love your videos & how you shine light on the black community and talk about real life issues in the black community. Don’t ever stop🖤🖤

[@chichiokafor2749]

This topic was so amazing! Very current and something the black/African community needed to hear!! Great job Cindy! ❤️

[@nishimoon1]

This probably my favorite video of yours and that's saying alot bc I'm huge fan of your content

[@saladaballa7331]

We need more of these real talks. I love it ❤️

[@myliferox4realz]

Thank you for making this video Cindy. This discussion is much needed in our black/African communities

[@missqueeny24]

This is so POWERFUL Cindy, Thankyou for speaking on this subject

[@sasha-gaymckenzie8382]

For a very long time we didn't have the luxury to cry or feel any type of emotions (both men and women). We as black people have been through some real shit and have had to stay strong for our families. I acc like the strong mentality, it's in our blood. We get shit done. But we also need to understand that it's ok to feel and it's ok to cry. It doesn't mean we're not strong. That will NEVER change. 💪🏾💪🏾 peace and blessings xxx

[@babrownie3219]

This is real. I appreciate you using your platform to speak on this.

[@dpeach7]

This was truly a great segment and I appreciate the men being open to help you capture the importance of the issue.

[@gbbs9]

Cindy you are the QUEEN of Quality Content!! I love your videos and you outdid yourself with this one. Keep them coming! You only get better and better. :))