Reality Check about Inner Work

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[@Openingtheshadow]

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[@angeladudley1211]

Why didn't June have to go to therapy to release her attachment to living near her family? She could live further away and maintain closeness via video chats, cards and letters, social media, and scheduled visits, instead of squashing her man's career dream. How do you know which person actually needs the therapy?!

[@lous6938]

Thank you for who you are and all that you do. You keep shedding light on some of the most important topics in today's world without bias and with complete conviction. We are so grateful to have u

[@bluegum8783]

You are the best person to get advice from. Put therapist doctors to shame in the UK. They just feed you meds and use reverse psychology without even trying to get to the core of the problem.

[@Xr2-8fan_810]

True! Teal is better than American therapy scene as well. Teal, thank you for all you do 🇺🇲🕊️🇺🇲

[@KarenGriffith_SoulfulCoaching]

They have a vested interested in nit being able to ‘feel’. Have you noticed how much ‘feeling’ based decisions have been minimised even mocked!

[@jessebashiri479]

Don’t worry California got that too 😂 good luck

[@monicab8176]

AGREED

[@TheMasterDan7]

The fact that you are able to fit so much information into a 10 min video is amazing! Thank you Teal!

[@nidhimatta]

Know Thyself cannot be Outsourced

[@melindamcdaniel2479]

Absolutely priceless truth.

[@ajcraft-hello]

Well said👏

[@lucymildon7544]

❤

[@jaynebarry5658]

People love to use going to therapy as an excuse for apathy and jerky behavior. Thank you Teal for highlighting this gaslighting technique so many use.

[@slimshany4602]

Who are "People" ?

[@jaynebarry5658]

@@slimshany4602 human beings.

[@lucymziri1130]

Exactly

[@slimshany4602]

@@jaynebarry5658 So your opinion is that every human being on the planet who needs therapy, is using this as an excuse for their behaviour?..

[@slimshany4602]

@@jaynebarry5658 Btw, did you just read the title and not watch the video? The content is entirely different from what you wrote. I grew up in a toxic household with similar viewpoints as you. They didnt know anything about therapeutic care, but nevertheless they hated it and thought it was dumb. Heck, sure there are people who will use it as an excuse, I knew someone like that too. But a good therapist will help you step by step, supporting you as you grow. I have never met anyone in therapy who didnt have an appalling childhood, who's story silenced the room. Its all about help, just like going to the doctor or dentist. The brain is just an organ 😉 Best to you Jayne 🌼

[@turquoisetoile-universalethics]

If someone is doing inner work, that should be affecting the relationship in a positive way and if it's not, it doesn't matter.

[@vibrantvoid8568]

Depends on what "positive" means. Maybe the inner work quickly reveals the necessity to leave.

[@turquoisetoile-universalethics]

@@vibrantvoid8568 well if the person is able willing or aware enough to leave the relationship, that's a positive thing.

[@peteduch2151]

If you still have to work on yourself it means you are not ready for a relationship

[@turquoisetoile-universalethics]

@@peteduch2151 *speak for yourself*

[@melissasiniawski3556]

⁠@@peteduch2151what? “Work” on yourself should continue until you die. If you are someone who values growth.

[@Mark-bj4um]

Teal- you are a phenomenon. No teacher I have ever listened to can even come close to your depth and clarity in teaching. Not one human detractor of what you do can diminish your Light in the slightest. I must say though that the one detractor from your messages that even comes close is your freakin attractiveness….dam you! 😂

[@ShantiWrynn]

Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him

[@user-sp2pp9lm2r]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

[@ShantiWrynn]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?

[@user-sp2pp9lm2r]

His name is Dr. Owen Abiola, and he is a great spiritual caster who can bring back your ex.

[@ShantiWrynn]

Thank you for this valuable information,i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@adamlibertoski1460]

@@ShantiWrynn you’re both busted. Both of you make the same exact comments to each other on multiple videos?? You’re either AI or actual people propagating a fraudulent spell caster.

[@RJ-do5oh]

Well done. I found out this brutal truth years ago after reading and following the directions in the book “Getting the Love You Want” by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. The premise of the book for singles is that if you clear all your baggage, you can attract a better person. I did clear most, if not all, of my relationship baggage but did not attract a better person. Action X does not guarantee result Y. Happier in life without the baggage. I'm glad I did the inner work. I still benefited from the book.

[@lightworker2956]

Unfortunately, probably because of social media and internet dating in large part, relationships don't work anymore in the modern world for many average people with whom there isn't really anything wrong. Harville Hendrix is 88, he's from the time back when relationships still worked. But yes, inner work is always worth it.

[@juliemcdonald1245]

Changed behavior is the point of inner work. My husband stayed with me because he could see my inner work was helping me become a more supportive and loving and compassionate wife. I even went to his best friend and asked him specifically not to say things to my husband from his own divorce trauma, like "she'll never change" "she's just doing this to make you stay". I was determined to change the behaviors that resulted from my traumas, because they were causing me to be a bad wife. Mainly, the belief that I needed to be in control to feel safe. I truly entered inner work to save my marriage and applied it to the benefit of myself AND my husband.

[@sandraspirovska]

No person on this planet as amazing as you. Thank you for your existence

[@k9adventures340]

Teal swans videos have truly saved me, so much more then any therapist or coach .. Teal is such a gift to us all..

[@celestehernandez2000]

I feel like what makes this especially difficult is the fact that we’ve made any self-serving motives so “bad” and “wrong” to the degree that even the very act of doing something for self-improvement must be for someone else’s sake.

[@benjaminbleacheriii1724]

TS: Brilliant ❤#enjoythejourney ##teamworkmakesthedreamwork #weloveyouall #thankyouall ❤

[@RA1.0]

Thank you for blessing us with a video every Saturday without fail!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@kimifcation]

This brought on a breakthrough moment for me. Thank you, Teal. ❤

[@masonshields8006]

Yeah, I agree with what you said here. My inner work is for my peace and my ability to be empathic to people.

[@dylankulbok3388]

I would definitely celebrate my partner for “eating” in that analogy - if I’m aware that my partner is making an honest effort to make the changes (the “by-products”) that meet my needs, I will celebrate and encourage their efforts, even if they are not reaching the outcomes I’m desiring exactly when I desiring them.

[@lilyloy8218]

You are the only KZbin channel I wait for your video every week and watch everytime for years. Thank you xxx

[@lilyloy8218]

Thank you doesn’t cut it actually. Thank you times infinity

[@arianaalvarez6579]

When I did my inner work it was hard at first and felt horrible. Towsrds the end of my work I realized I wasnt the same person. What I did for myself really helped me value the time and love towards the ones that matter most my kids. I feel my relationships are better. I dont expect my so to change as I did when I began this journey.

[@knuckleheadreviews]

How did you start and complete the inner work? What is the work that you did?

[@danabiondo9243]

Right On Again ! I AM Responsible For No Other Soul. Thank God ! ✨️✨️✨️⭐️

[@soulinlove369]

🐲 stunning, radiant, clear... welcome back. Sometimes a perspective change is rewarding. Thank you for the insights. Good energy for your Workshop. 🙏🏻🧘🏻‍♂️🙏🏻

[@7thAtom-z4s]

Thank you, Teal for your gift that I will give back.

[@johnarmstrong194]

Teal is a great teacher. Her book on Self Love is very instructive. Doing the inner work is for you nobody else... but if I benefit from your work...it's simply a by product

[@knuckleheadreviews]

What is the inner work that needs to be done? How does one do it?

[@roshomosho]

Guys have done this to me in relationship. When they dont want to give me clarity they say "im doing inner work on it" so that they can continue to keep me in a state of confusion as it benefits them. No more!! 🎉

[@kellygreenii]

They are telling you with their behavior. Dont be pay attention to what people say. Watch what they do. Their actions are the truth.

[@DrFeelgood1127]

Girls do it with sex a lot.

[@b.d.y.k.1081]

Horrible. That’s so not the point.

[@DrFeelgood1127]

@@roshomosho lots of unhealed women doing this with sex in their relationships.

[@SheddedSnake999]

You've helped me change for the better so much.

[@annikabirgittanordlander6887]

Thank you all non-physical Consciousness/Awareness expressing yourself in human form for doing inner work; eternally grateful for you 🌎😘

[@Watercolordragon]

That example felt personal

[@memyself4627]

I am so, so grateful I rediscovered you at the perfect time. I really appreciate your work and it is helping me get a lot more grounded and relaxing into who I am. Especially about shadow work. Thank you

[@bettyluvs211]

Teal, you look stunning in that outfit. Red and black look really good on you. 😍

[@aevelynroos]

I agree! Teal looks amazing!

[@azlinatunmohdyusof7812]

Do innerwork for own self..tks Teal

[@gentlemanx7987]

Thank you. As always, profound. I send love.

[@mattlopez47]

Cant wanna be better for anyone or any reason , even yourself, just gotta do it for the sake of grace and love

[@psychesays333]

I do the work. Stick to my strong boundaries that support my best life... If my partner wants to be with me he will deal with the way these boundaries might cast light on his shadow. He has, and does what is necessary for him. We are both open to improving ourselves, no control is exercised. Just showing up for ourselves. It is an amazing experience after a 33 yr marriage that my ex never showed up for himself. Of course it failed because I outgrew him... But it was his choice, it's always a choice.

[@Radhaugo108]

Boys! She’s got our back! Go Teal!!!

[@MikeDowney-ui5xl]

Not so sure about that, especially when sharing videos on days like today. Won't be long before the truth comes out about the boys, and their actual relationship with the girls. Not gonna look good.

[@juliemcdonald1245]

🥰🥰

[@Jojo-sb1xs]

Exactly teal! Thanku so much for all that u are and all that u do. U are such a beautiful blessing to this world. Thanku...deeply 🙏🏼 ❤

[@TimothySmith73]

Honesty Trust Stability Faithfulness Those are the byproducts she is looking for from me. I remember the conversation. We were and are very much compatible.

[@NinaNour]

So well said, Teal, super true! 💜💜

[@rx88088]

Thank you for saying the quiet part out loud.

[@dylangabriel13]

I love you so much Teal. Thank you for everything!

[@Raz-q2r]

Hell yeah, baby! This was satisfying. We love reality checks from Teal!

[@brettacook2406]

Teal, where did you get those earrings? I want a pair for my wife. Thanks for all your work which seems to always hit the nail on the head.

[@McMilesE]

looooking beautiful, Teal!!! Also, AWESOME VIDEO

[@romanslama533]

Thank you for your great, authentic insights... Powerful

[@coolsdebristv489]

Thanks Teal. This helped me beforeth God 📺👀🙏

[@TragicEntertainment]

Interesting topic, my personal feelings on inner work. It's seems to be more of a social trend which can cause identity issues. As it's a hot topic on social media. What I procieved is emotional projection and a breakdown of communication, although we may be playing dress up with words. I can gather it's more of action awareness, which leads to self awareness, and finally awareness in general. I do enjoy the way you expressed this topic. Kudos.

[@joycechu5451]

Beautiful Teal ❤

[@lakedrop]

Feels like a low brow approach to connect with basics. I expected more from you.

[@ashleybriones2445]

Men do this with a lot of different things. They feel burdened and put out for doing something, to which doesn’t really add to the relationship, but they become hostile when you bring it to their attention because to them they’re working hard to please you.

[@tender3066]

They probably are working hard to please you, and you just arent compatible. Appreciate their efforts, thank them, and stop enabling them and yourself by being in a relationship that wasnt meant to be. And stop bashing on men.

[@isaidgoddamn]

Oh goddd you’re so pretty in red:))) Thank you dear darling Karina from Israel

[@Space_Princess]

Teal, you are glowing ❤

[@zinrainder]

I very much appreciate the clarity, precision and compassion that you bring to this discussion! I am curious as to whether various couples find various ways through these dialectics? For example, do some couples find a way in which they mutually support and reward each other for doing their own individual work, in service of their shared goals? Do other couples find that it is more effective to divide up their individual work, observing limits and letting go of and accepting the outcome of their partner's individual work? Are there other pathways that I've left out of my model? I do think it is normal and natural to look for support and reward from one's partner in shared goals, and the question for me is to what extent does each partner experience the other partner's individual work as part of a shared goal? This may vary from couple to couple, depending (I suspect) in part on how much emotional energy each individual has to support their partner...? or...?

[@tender3066]

I think this all just proves how relationships as our society defines them and expects them to be are hopeless. If someone expects someone to change then I guess that sucks and move on, and if someone expects you to change then I guess you aren’t good enough for them and cut the cord first, and learn to love yourself and your traumas and your need to follow your path without the expectation to be perfect for them. They say healthy relationships dont take work, but any long term relationship as our society dictates it, do. And in this sense, I salute those who are doing internal work for their relationship. It would probably be best to can the relationship cause its a symptom of attachment and egoic constraints, but hey, if you’re working on yourself to save your marriage, your financial security, your kids well being, you future, why not celebrate that effort? Why shame having ulterior motives to internal work? It might benefit everyone in a situation if you can stop expecting perfection from another. If you wanna leave, then leave.

[@Openingtheshadow]

Teal I love the earrings and top. So pretty in red.

[@hybridmaswe]

I guess it comes pretty close in some cases. Lesson learned. Skills built. Avoid getting in similair situations.

[@Hotishh99]

The problem is people do inner work for an audience they want people to clap for them for taking care of themselves. Especially on social media

[@GlossyGabs]

It's called " inner work " for a reason you supposed to do it for your self to validate yourself, not put it on social media. Just show up for yourself. It's a solo journey. Lessons and realisations can be shared, but just be real for a moment and just focus on yourself not in a bad way don't focus on others reactions and likes and validations from others. It's all about your perception of yourself. And unconditional self acceptance and love. Which is a struggle a lot of people are having including myself but it's okay, there's a way to change and tools to learn to help. I'm in the process of it all myself, I'm just sharing my perception, Take care of yourself everyone.

[@spacedoutofyourdimension1774]

Hahaaa i love that she told us what was up with Dalton, she knows her audience 😂🙌🏻✨👑

[@Sashiminni]

As always, amazing video and thought provoking massage. But damn i forgot how beautiful Teal is 😮😍 guess gorgeous souls do shine differently

[@tomnelson203]

Of course a person does inner work for him/her self, and of course it's going to affect everyone in their life. It's going to benefit everybody in their community, and probably the world. Sometimes a person needs some space. If one is dealing with early trauma for example, working through decisions one made maybe half a century past, I don't think it's inappropriate to ask for space, and empathy from a partner. Healing is a process whereby one changes behaviour that has lasted a life time. It does not happen immediately because you suddenly get this amazing transfomatomnal knowledge. One can be a high level spiritual being and continue to engage in low level behaviour, simply because we are beings of habit, and habitual behaviour, simply needs to catch up with our spiritual awareness. That's beenmy experience.

[@peterforsberg6587]

Boundaries can become milestones in this sense. 😉❤️

[@BrunoBaumgartnerB]

Very nice new haircut! Looks good, very fresh and summery

[@petitpoissonp]

Thank you Teal ❤

[@carathorsven3326]

Loving the red ❤

[@beeman441]

Hi teal please can u put your psychic and energetic protection video back up ❤. Or even just the manifesting safety section of it

[@Madddarma]

It is up wym

[@beeman441]

@@Madddarma send me the link pls

[@CJusticeHappen21]

So, this can be way more insidious than people realize. It's a constant struggle to get out of your own way, because while we want to grow and develop, our brains are instruments that are constantly seeking comfort, patterns, familiarity, and ease. My recommendation for making changes is to get yourself hyped for the change. Focus, and I mean hyperfocus, on the benefits of change before you take that first step. Educate yourself, watch some videos of people talking about how they made the change and got excited. Read a book about someone who made the changes you want to make for yourself. Hold yourself back from engaging with the change too fast, because that sort of lackluster effort will produce within you lackluster results. Give yourself some time to get excited, create that tension, like you're pulling back on a slingshot. The longer you hold it back, the farther it will go. And if after that focus you discover that you can't really keep it up, then perhaps that's the point at which you realize that you aren't actually interested in what you are working towards, or you're involved for unsustainable reasons.

[@Dobermanmomma]

This is why therapy typically fails unless the person is seeking it out. So much of therapy is forced on a person, for instance they are told they should go because something is wrong with them whether it be depression, anxiety, PTSD, etc. or they have to go for whatever reason, but unless they want to then it's a waste of time and money.

[@t.c.l1625]

The world tries much harder to impose ideals with threats and goodies rather than attempting to see eye to eye and communicate. The schism is in the ability to try and see one another. We are all attempting to impose our own ideals rather than share one space of ideals. The attachment to identity with the ideals being the end all be all is something everyone unilaterally struggles with.

[@nothingtofind9099]

@@t.c.l1625 thank you for this insight as it kind of blew my mind in the best possible way!

[@t.c.l1625]

@Eve.N1782 this sounds more or less an explanation of psychology this person is talking about. It isnt therapy. Shes trying to explain mechanics of behavior. Different part. One reason why therapy often falls short, is therapists try to explain pathology to clients to understand other humans, but the person seeking therapy is often looking for solutions to their personal problems and not dealing with another persons individual frame of mind. Often find therapists try to weave in social psychology to there work. That becomes less individuated to the person and more about integrating them into the web of social life. While i understand therapists often cant deal with every individual person walking in seeking help, this is often where therapy runs its course. Many are just sensitive to the world, and there is not a problem with that. We dont need to impose expectations and conditions upon interacting but this is what so many therapists are trained to do is to "rehabilitate" a person back into the social conditions that usually started the problems. It just is not enough to try and integrate a behavioral web of etiquette onto people who feel uncomfortable in certain situations. We cant be unilaterally available to every and all situations presented to us, some people we just dont fit being around and thats ok. We can still have and share a space, we just need to learn how not to drag people into our needs and wants for interaction so much. It honestly stems more from insecurity in self than the lack of understanding in others that this paradigm in trying to persuade one another over viewpoints or ideals has become so volatile. We are asked to be caretakers for others but we dont often have the ability to be our own caretakers and then the burden is dropped on us to caudle others by society at large and social ideology on top of that. It is the reverse effect of what the goal of therapy sets out to achieve, which is a peace of mind in the individual.

[@knowledgeableone9]

YASssss TELL THEM TEAL ❤ woot woot !! 🥰

[@banthatracks_gaffisticks]

Teal is queen.

[@arianasha]

YES !

[@esotericgamedev]

Thank you

[@brunolima8506]

Amazing visual and words congrats.

[@matthewwozniak9138]

Inner work leads to self realisation and acceptance. You accept people the way they are and you should not try and change them. If someone wants to change something about themselves or their part in the relationship, that's on them. Create boundaries if anyone effects your inner peace.

[@aylah.astrology]

blessed teal swan

[@SageLazuli]

Thank you for this.

[@breathecarv]

So true!!

[@NikolaSekuloski]

Inner work, I see it as mean to grow more spiritually and to everyone be fair according to how you grow, awake to see if you give the right thing, you also get the benefit deserved. I see it as people coming together to celebrate and be happy, and not to feel shame for doing work and it may come out as mechanical, so the right way is to master techniques to communicate subtly, without being ignorant, because ignorance can be bad. If you approach and pay attention to subtle voice changes and patterns I say not go to hurt and pain but come out with a plan that gets parties to deeper conection and the sex life with physical and emotional betterness should reach harmony and love. So even if you go to self criticize, don't, but think to understand emotions that come of people and score higher on emotional intelligence, kind of like experienced salesman who will make you buy things, so people understand each other and love one another, and don't be scared of love.

[@Super_BeastGirl]

I neded this. I've been doing this to my husband and need to stop.

[@NaikoArt]

this is a pretty good video but i do feel like sometimes inner work can take sometime to makes sense so is not unwise to have a bit of empathy or even patience with someone like dalton

[@Jordy_NL]

I don't think Teal Swan was saying not te be empathatic or patient. You can still support your partner in those things. But just not for the purpose of getting your own needs met. Those should be addressed directly, if I understood it correctly.

[@soniyasharma5155]

Just what I needed.. thank you

[@BrookeMeisterling]

Hi Teal! Can you do a video on arthritis and the spiritual reason we are suffering from this disease? My dad is suffering and I started to get symptoms after a loss of a close and supportive relationship.

[@GodTurnItAround]

Arthritis: feeling unloved. criticism. resentment. feeling victimized. - Louise Hay

[@FlorinGN]

The inner work by itself is of any use? What is really a relationship? I would say there is a transactional side fueled by unconditional love. If inner work with divine intervention is indeed a matter of exaltation, discovery and growth, then in a loving relationship the "by-product" is, in my experience, the main focus. Fall inlove with my wife and children again and again and not with my self pleasing, self growth or self anything at all for that matter, and the self rewards comes, the growth comes, the realisation happens. 100% without fail, every time. Maybe I've found a hack, who knows... God bless! ❤

[@Jordy_NL]

From that point of view I think you're right that the goal of inner work is to be able to relate better. However, inner work seems to be a more general personal process and not necessarily directly related to a specific need of a specific person, for example a partner. That's why that person should not expect the inner work to solve their specific problem. That transaction should be more directly, whereas the inner work can address series of transactions in general. Anyway, I'm happy for you that what you're doing is working!

[@Ferrari369]

Teal, I loveeee your top. ❤❤❤❤

[@danielamondschein]

"Ease up" 😆 Hasn't that made me leave any type of relationship 😸

[@lisarendina]

I love this video so so much!!!!

[@isaidgoddamn]

Awesome video and insights

[@cognitivedissonance1773]

I mean what is all the inner work for if you only care about the man fixing the end result for the woman? So if you need him to be happy living near your parents home for YOUR happiness... or you need him to give YOU more intimacy... he should just do it... right? But you don't only want him to just do it... you want him to do it because he WANTS to do it... and because he has done the work to WANT to do it... BUT... the inner work of a man isn't going to help incompatibility due to the woman's lack of wanting to leave the nest anyway... it's the woman who needs to do inner work in that case... not the man. He could spend all day everyday in therapy and it wouldn't change anything if he's the "breadwinner" and the work he's looking for isn't near her parents house she won't be happy. Unless you mean the work he needs to do is learn how to be happy living near her parents house and give up on his dreams of a good fulfilling career that will take up 8 hours a day for the next 40 years of his life? That's a huge sacrifice and not a wonder that he was already resenting the situation he found himself in. Either he had to give up the dream girl he wanted to spend the rest of his life with and mapped out a future with in his mind... or he had to sacrifice his own happiness and dreams for her comfort of living near her family. Did he handle it poorly... ? Yes. The correct approach probably would have been directly informing her of HIS dreams and plans for THEIR future.. and how they are at conflict with her current roadmap... and see if they could work out a compromise... and to get her to do HER inner work to see why she is afraid of leaving the nest... Unfortunately it seems he tried to prioritize her happiness without informing her of the sacrifice he just made... which made him passive aggressive and so she forced HIM into therapy for the way he was acting which made him angrier... because he was already like... I just gave up my dream job to live near your family for you and instead of being thankful and giving me time to recover from the trauma of giving up my dreams for you... you force me into therapy... which is adding insult to injury... so he becomes even more unhappy and even more resentful... because not only did he give up his dreams for her happiness, he went to therapy for her happiness.. and she STILL isn't happy and doesn't appreciate it anyway... because therapy is just for himself... not for her.. and all that mattered was giving her the END result she wanted to begin with... because happy wife... happy life... ? Did I get the message right?

[@Strider9655]

After moving house, my ex was always either thinking about or doing unnecessary household chores, literally every waking minute where she wasn't consuming social media. I mean stupid stuff like hanging towels in the right manner, having the fridge organised a certain way, etc, but not only was she obsessed with these chores, she was also critical of how i did them and eventually resentful when I gave up because nothing I did was ever right, I did a lot of work on the house, she did nothing but complain about that, EVEN though she wanted these things done, she had to tidy away things I was working on, which lead to arguments when i'm trying to finish a job and she's thrown away parts/materials I need because she didn't know what they were and I hadn't moved them within 10 seconds of her NOT asking me to move them. This behavior only came about when we moved house and ultimately lead to the end of the relationship,, there's something about house moves that seems to trigger this behavior.

[@sabrinaoloughlin6957]

Wow, she is totally right but I just feel more videos that can make make key points on this information would hit home. Again, always on point but the shorter videos making key points seems to really hit home and be the hallmark. Maybe if a longer video is needed to really hit home on something a series or segments maybe needed to do it's just cause to the idea

[@fabuloushan3935]

Takeaway: - your inner work is not to be literally celebrated by others. It's your responsibility and to be celebrated among yourself - if you want to be considerate and cooperate in the relationship, please the NEEDS of the OTHER PERSON and don't relate it to yourself. Put the spotlight on the other person

[@walgekaaren1783]

That inner work issue is also with Christianity and is usually called in Theology studies as "Educated Helplessness" You only do the minimal work to address the criticism but not the issue at hand causing the criticism, because that would compel you to take responcibility and charge for your relations. I also don't feel right, if couples live too close to either sides parents, because that gives that party an edge to run away, in case a fight happens. Couples shoud live together in a remote place outside their parents families. It would definitely make me shy and insecure as a a Man... Thanks for yet another great video.

[@Jordy_NL]

Interesting viewpoint. I think that's also where marriage comes in: to forbid running away and to make it opportune to address the real issues (because leaving is off the table).

[@jefftaylor4783]

A person does inner for themselves. Both parties need to do inner work to improve a relationship.

[@ohwell9093]

Yeah nice analysis!

[@Foxie770]

2:03 He crossed the boundary because he was too much of a coward to face his real issues and speak to her about them.

[@anthonykariuki5850]

Do you read our comments Teal?

[@noone-gd6pm]

i literally got dumped by my fiancé after 4 years for being concerned i may lose my job (i work in mortgage) I have some strange CPTSD now and love has just become so fear based panic disorder. I met someone after 15 years of avoiding relationships and now i literally shut down in the process of texting her. Its become debilitating. Im seeing a therapist and trying to build this relationship but i think it would be too taxing on her to express my needs. What woman would want to have to reassure her boyfriend that it's ok to text "good morning." or annoy her to death with my needs. The whole idea of inner work is confusing when people are constantly saying you cant be in a relationship until you're a whole person, and if you're not then you cant be in a good relationship. it seems like all the love in the world towards yourself will never be enough. I'm 50 and its way too late for me. there's always some problem that needs to be fixed and its usually me. How many people do you have to burn through to get it right? Love just does not seem worth it at this point. Teal is rad. I would like to hear Teals take on limerence though. That would be cool to see.

[@ETanHongYe]

Hi, I may be lacking in experience and expertise, so pls ignore if my words do not apply with you. You have stated 2 main issues here, first the CPTSD and your need for love. From your statement, I am assuming the need for love is the bigger issue, while CPTSD is more of an obstacle to your needs. Look at your need for love, is there an underlying reason for it. Such as being isolated with no family and friends to connect with. Or is the emotion and psychological pain from your trauma and by you receiving love you free yourself from pain? From your statement, you are trying to fulfill your needs by having a finance. you said that it won't work out well, because you are very insecure about yourself. From what I have learnt online, women do not like insecure men, maybe you right. It also depends on factors such as the nature of the relationship. What is she getting from you and what she needs, such that she will stay. Okay, let say you did manage to find someone that could assure you. Would your trauma go away, the part of you that is injured, how will it react? The trauma could possibly heal, or it could also not heal. Why? Thats because with issues like low confidence, the whole world can tell you are the best and you can still doubt yourself. Sometimes, we need that inner work that therapy or counselling provides. Regardless, of which problem it is the inner work, the wife issues or the lack of love. It is crucial to do the inner work, to see everything from a bird's eye view and resolve the core issues.

[@DDS_1117]

Good one Tilly

[@eric-wb7gj]

TY 🙏🙏

[@robnobilia]

Yes mam. Ha.

[@TadashiLove]

I have a question for you and your audience Teal. I’ve began to read The Completion Process. But ever since I’ve started that book of yours I’ve been attracting crying people more often. I’ve been running into screaming kids everywhere. And today a crying woman crossed my path. Why might this be? Could it be that merely reading this book is exposing the pain in myself and everyone around me? Or could it be that I am attracting people who also need this process? Quite an odd occurrence.

[@Jordy_NL]

Maybe people feel your authenticity / emotional stability and feel more safe to be vulnerable around you.

[@kawikakon2646]

FEW MORE OF THSE types PLZ ! lol