Let me put this as a reminder: not everything I say is a one size fits all. You can dress classy and still attract bad people, you can have high boundaries and someone still tries to lower them, etc. etc.. and this video is specifically for women who have struggled being taken seriously and want something better !!! I have built these tips directly from the consults I’ve had with young women and have collected data to help. I love you guys always xoxo
@stephanieross212611 ай бұрын
For context, he’s very narcissistic and manipulative
@Erica-cf1xb10 ай бұрын
This is the part that's sad and unfortunate. That a disclaimer is needed because the low vibrational individuals will feel attacked because they know You actually are very correct in your thinking. Everything is a judgment to them because they lack free thinking. Thank you for speaking for those who actually have the heart space to receive what you are putting down and to apply what needs to be improved. All of us can use improvement on the daily. Thank you ❤
@Sallyy15011 ай бұрын
About low vibration girls, I want to tell a story. A couple of years ago, I met my Canadian boyfriend. I had my standards and values about premarital sex, I didn’t find it me that I want to break that. I conveyed this to my boyfriend and he was okay with waiting. One day, I meet this girl who shoved her nose in my life, asking me about my sex life. I answer briefly, and she goes on and on about how unrealistic i am, and how he would cheat at the end because there is absolutely no reason for him to wait, there are plenty of girls out there who would do anything. I got affected by her talk, but sth in me felt off towards her, I thought why don’t u believe that there is someone who would love and wait for a woman! 2 years later, I am not friends with her anymore, and I got married to my boyfriend. Funny enough, I remember after she lectured me, she mentioned how she has been on and off with this guy that she done everything to him yet he is so inconsistent. Weird how ppl would dump on u their fears. Summary: don’t listen to anyone saying anything that doesn’t sit right with u, trust ur gut and mute the noise. ❤️ We deserve better ladies.
@ligiabonifacio678410 ай бұрын
Thank you for the stoty. Btw, are you Christian ?
@Erica-cf1xb10 ай бұрын
Congratulations. She is speaking from a place where she knows she will twirl right in front of him and do everything to put it on him just to prove a point to you...that she was the preferred choice and he gonna take her bait. You did right. The unfortunate part is there is a massive amount of girls who seek out men who are involved or heart is tied up on purpose. She teaches lessons too and leaves gifts and lasting memories behind. It's all funny to her. These are enemies to humanity. But the men treat them as God's gifts. Nope.
@heaven001ln9 ай бұрын
This is exactly my story minus the married part aha. Since him and I weren’t in the same singleness boat anymore he started to believe that men won’t wait till marriage with their partner…
@laniathereal11 ай бұрын
“Prove to them by proving it to yourself first” 🗣️
@make_emfall_inlovee11 ай бұрын
I had a random conversation with a man and I mentioned how men dont approach. He said " because we're scared " woman carry on in the world as if they dont need us . I told him ... I appreciated him , he said he appreciated me - we shook hands and agreed men and woman need to have more conversations like that 😢
@haileygamba11 ай бұрын
100% men are less likely to approach. But if you’re open they will!!
@make_emfall_inlovee11 ай бұрын
Definitely
@abbeymoody150711 ай бұрын
Society has watered down what it means to be in a healthy relationship. Yes!!!!! You took the words out of my mouth! Thank you so much for spreading your light❤❤
@samyljones387111 ай бұрын
Society hasnt watered down anything. Its ingrained in our violent country and cultures. We live in a world where woman were burned for existing while men abused power. Nothing has changed
@Erica-cf1xb10 ай бұрын
They hate it sooooo bad. There is nothing they wouldn't do to stop it from happening.
@aniqah402611 ай бұрын
The worst part is that “he picks you up at night and you give him head” thing actually happened to someone I know. She’s my age, 17. It’s sad how even young girls are getting into things like this and believing it’s love.
@Tasha-np5lc11 ай бұрын
Unfortunately young girls are targeted the most
@Erica-cf1xb10 ай бұрын
@Tasha-np5lc Nobody sees that this generation of girls are being breed to do this...what real ones feel sorry for. It teaches them to twirl early because they need bills paid. Do shallow things like look pretty and fake go to school...just to target the right male and twirl for the grade. It's wild out here.
@lexivictoria315311 ай бұрын
I felt personally attacked throughout this video and I loved it. Thank you for this video.
@MuseSunflower11 ай бұрын
I feel so much compassion for the younger version of me who would allow physical touch even when I didn’t want it. Low self esteem attracts such predatory men who take advantage of you I’m happy to have found my voice and not attracting men like that anymore ❤ when your self image elevates, and you start viewing yourself as an Elite Woman who deserves to be cherished it really does shift the way you carry yourself. Which then helps you attract higher level dating experiences Hang in there ladies and love yourself well 👸🏾
@lilENAA1411 ай бұрын
I love that you’ve been posting soo much recently. Thank you queen!
@faitholateju659011 ай бұрын
Honestly, me too!!!❤
@ChrisssJenn11 ай бұрын
I feel like a lot of this starts with self value, once you start realizing your value and worth you won’t tolerate as much, you will also be authentic in setting the boundaries, and standards and meaning it! Not just because it sounds good but because it is align to your value.
@Acyuta-Priya8 ай бұрын
8:30 slapped us all in the face. girl! the fact that he actually told you was divinely orchestrated because we all needed to hear that. we've all give the time of day to a loser and something was wrong with us.
@karlybeeplays11 ай бұрын
giving THAT woman over THAT girl and I’m here for it 🤍 everything you upload is always something I need to hear in this transformative phase of my life ✨
@nuninuninu509511 ай бұрын
You can look sexy and classy or sexy and trashy. Being sexy is always going to attract a person. It's the classy or trashy that makes a difference on what kind of a person.
@aliatianna88811 ай бұрын
There are “classy” women that attract abusers and “trashy” women that attract the most beautiful men I’ve ever seen.
@haileygamba11 ай бұрын
@@aliatianna888this is also SO TRUE! Not all things are copy and paste.
@Karrington11 ай бұрын
At 08:31 I feel like for a man to say that to a beautiful, smart woman, he’s also showing his insecurities in himself. Translation “I know there’s something wrong with me and I don’t feel I am deserving of a woman like you.” And if a man feels he doesn’t deserve you, it’s best as a woman to walk away and find the man that will cherish you
@haileygamba11 ай бұрын
Oh trust me he knew we weren’t supposed to be together. He was toxic, not super good looking tbh, and worked in night life as a career.. he felt like I was ridiculous being the way I am but still being intrigued by him. And the truth is I just wanted something casual but because I am a woman .. I started to develop feelings.
@Karrington11 ай бұрын
@@haileygamba I understand girl, it happens to all of us. Better is coming along for sure !
@OfficalMeesha11 ай бұрын
I was just telling my friend that I don’t want to link up with new people the first time on “let’s do drinks” anymore. Let me get to know you (friends/significant) sober. That way I’m not connecting off the alcohol. I feel like once you grow older & you want to be treated a certain way, you move different.
@maddyG74148 ай бұрын
Everything you said it true…and I STILL don’t regret some of the casual dating I did (not one night stands). It isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, but there are moments of fun and freedom and exploration that I wouldn’t want to take back. I’m also glad that I had that experience so I don’t wonder what it’s like later while committed. Certainly can’t speak for other women, but that’s just my experience. But these days, if I were single, I would be celibate ❤
@haileygamba8 ай бұрын
I couldn’t agree more!!!!
@jasminrodriguez651211 ай бұрын
👏🏽 💐 👏🏽💐 I just want to give you a standing ovation !! I absolutely love and appreciate this series!! You are giving gems and it’s so refreshing to know there’s more women out here with similar values. Sometimes it’s a lonely road when you have to distance yourself even from friends who look down on you for holding yourself to a higher standard. I just want to say that God will bless you for guiding a lot of young women down a better path. Lots of love 💕
@aliceandappetizers11 ай бұрын
Hookup culture is a mess! I will say despite the low self esteem that comes with hookup culture, when you release the person at the right time, it’s somewhat rewarding. I’ve met some interesting people in my college days due to hookup culture. I no longer participate because some men are gross and it does affect how you view yourself. Thankful I moved on!
@haileygamba11 ай бұрын
I have to say I freed myself as well and it’s liberating ! No regrets only lessons ❤
@bigfranco11 ай бұрын
Hailey! So on point! I’m 33… I watch you because I love that you share tips that all women can learn from. Ladies she tells no lies… the self esteem journey is a deep one but once you really get it everything will change ❤
@kaylakatelyn11 ай бұрын
HAILEY WITH THE UPLOADS 👏🏽 it feels like every day i’m getting your notifications that you posted!! GOOD FOR YOU it does not go unnoticed 🥺🩷🩷🩷🫶🏽 been binge watching all your videos including the old ones !!! you have consistency like no other 👏🏽 you’re THE inspiration! 🫶🏽
@haileygamba11 ай бұрын
You're the best! Thank you so much 🫶🏽
@laurenscorner37311 ай бұрын
PERIOD “wtf are you doing with me” I needed this video so badly this was incredible
@amberyoung519211 ай бұрын
Thank you for this! Even as a member of the LGBTQ Community, all that you are saying resonates.
@Aliyahelisetv11 ай бұрын
Yess this is so true !
@makennaeaton246911 ай бұрын
Just got out of a situation and I really needed to hear this to not repeat past mistakes. It’s like u know what’s going on in my head 😭❤️
@launjaneecarriere850411 ай бұрын
All I have to say is thank you thank you thank you. I’m actively trying to be wiser and demand more, but I have a lot of doubts about what’s possible for me. This video just feels like a big hug of reassurance that I’m doing the right thing and to keep being patent and love on me until the RIGHT ONE comes.
@haileygamba11 ай бұрын
I promise you! Once you value yourself for real someone special will appreciate it! You just have to believe you deserve it
@sol_di_1411 ай бұрын
Beautiful message for us younger girls, it's really needed!
@claudinerobins14 күн бұрын
“Loving yourself will be the biggest shift of all.” This touched the deepest part of my soul. I am so grateful for you, dear Hailey. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. ❤️🙏❤️
@Blub2cool11 ай бұрын
I feel like this video touches on some things that I’ve recently thought about. I’m 20, never been in a relationship yet have wanted one and guys never take me on dates/take me seriously. I’ve been looking for reasons this is happening for awhile and I’ve heard to increase my value by doing shadow work, working out, having goals, hobbies/interest, being intelligent (on subjects and finances), be feminine, etc. But I’ve realized that I’ve been doing/working on most of these things for some time and nothings changed, yet when looking at my friends they dont do some of these things, usually the more superficial things like working on appearances or working out or being financially intelligent (my friends are smart though) or actively working on femininity, but they have the experiences that I want. I do realize that I have very poor boundaries, and although I set them and stick up for myself or what I want/need, I dont stick to them and thats been consistent. Ive told guys to wait to have sex yet if they push (physically or mentally) then I’ll do it or if they ignore me, stand me up, flake on plans then I’ll give them multiple chances after. So I’ve realized that it probably isn’t me, who I am, etc but poor boundaries.
@lew105611 ай бұрын
“The more you tap into your higher self, the drier your phone will be” 😮💨
@map.187011 ай бұрын
I wish I saw this video 10 years ago, hell even a year ago. It took me so long to ditch being treated like shit. Once I deleted the apps, decided to never talk to a man who didn’t date me, a month later I got in my first relationship. Love your videos hailey. We share a lot of the same values and aesthetics. We might live in different states, wear different clothes, probably date different men, but we share the same values and the little things, like enjoying my alone time, and I feel so seen!!
@itsmelilperry671611 ай бұрын
It surely can’t be a coincidence that I’m getting all these video suggestions about rebranding your standards and self, after realizing some toxic trait similarities with the men I’ve been entertaining in my dating life 😵💫
@tashlaw92938 ай бұрын
I'm glad you are so mature into growth and shifting into what's best for you and helping young girls. I will be 40 next year and I wish I knew these things sooner. ❤❤
@Lizzzhir11 ай бұрын
24:56 agreed. I didn’t dress modestly until my bf sat me down and talked about how I dressed. I was so offended in the beginning. I always wore tight clothes because “that’s what looked good on my body type”. Than he taught me how men are physical beings and that when a women dresses modestly: 1. Understand that she respects herself and her body and is not willing to let any man see it. 2. Is saving her body for her man/ husband Took maturity to get to this level.
@ItsMimi_11 ай бұрын
I’m literally screaming on this video 😂you spoke facts. Thank you for your transparency and advice ❤️
@msescala539111 ай бұрын
Queen Hailey, you spoke to my soul😭🥰 And I love you for that. Sending you back love and happiness all the way from the Philippines 😘😘😘
@jr99418 ай бұрын
YESSSS, Hailey you definitely dropped some gems! Good energy and physical presentation is EVERYTHING!!!! You look great too!!! Love your nails in this video too. ❤❤
@nomytheone11 ай бұрын
Holy shit this video gets better and better and it hit me HARD. I specifically went through this type of experience where the guy was basically with someone the whole time and yes he has explicitly said that he doesn’t think he deserves ME, so.. yah.
@sanchi741011 ай бұрын
i am on my journey of healilng abandonment trauma and one thing that I understood and it helped me so much that first of all always trust your gut feeling about someone and second of all just know that if someone leaves it was just not meant for you and if it was meant to they would stay, so just stay honest with yourself and have a secure attachment style in a relationship its not easy at first but its worth it. loved the video hailey thanks xoxo
@starblossom13708 ай бұрын
I find that once I leveled up, prioritized myself and boundaries that low vibrational men don't even try me. I went through a dry spell where men didn't approach me. I work in a public space so I see many men. I dress professionally & wear a lab coat too. I started wondering about why. Then I realized I was repelling the dust.. The right type for me understood & appreciated me. . That's all that mattered. The ones I repelled were not for me. I didn't have my time wasted. It took a bit to get the right one. I am talking about a year dry spell. It was totally worth it though!! Blessings on your journey to fulfillnent! 🎉
@AarielNigam11 ай бұрын
I’m so glad you posted this. I was madly in love with someone who only wanted to see me sexually and for some reason I thought that’s what I was going to have unfortunately until i met someone who actually does all the right things
@destinydelarosa92911 ай бұрын
I would love to see how to actually talk to a man and how can us women stop believing everything a guy says and how to be confident and how to be in healthy relationships and not toxic ones
@malachinumba111 ай бұрын
Your womens instinct never lies, start trusting it more ❤️
@destinydelarosa92911 ай бұрын
@@malachinumba1 yeah because I have been in bad relationships in the past where you can do everything for a guy and they will still cheat and lie to you
@magicmarie840310 ай бұрын
Don’t follow words. Actions only.
@21Jayde111 ай бұрын
I love you Hailey! The big sister I never had! I don’t think you realise how much you’ve been helping me in my breakup season/healing era. Keep being you, keep being amazing, lots of love 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
@Callme_lex11 ай бұрын
The hair is GIVING😍
@valerieperez564210 ай бұрын
My goodness, your videos as of late, have been getting me in check. Your authenticity and and light are so special and needed. Thank you sis.♥️🔥
@Rana-fp2sm11 ай бұрын
If there's one thing that was on my mind the whole entire video, it's me being scared you'll quit making videos one day! You're a true walking inspiration, it's like whenever i have a low point in my life and i feel like i need "THAT" friend's words, the answer is always you hails. I love you mucho mucho. Keep rocking, keep reaching mountains, one day you'll be the best of whatever you're doing, mark my words i mean it. sending loving and healing prayers to you along the way xoxo ❤❤❤❤
@fakhrazarin698611 ай бұрын
thank god someone talked about 5star date mostly i got backlash for it from my peers and trying to drag me down for it
@itzcmellzbaby11 ай бұрын
Keep Applying That Pressure❗️ This Consistency Will Pay Off 👏🏾 Btw Love Adding A New Hailey Gamba Video to my Watch Later Playlist Every Week Don’t Stop Now
@Snr2711 ай бұрын
Omg Hailey. I am on the exact same journey! I just removed myself from a lot of people lives. Guys especially because I got tired of allowing the bare minimum. I felt everything in this video and it’s just wanted I needed to know I’m doing the right thing. My phone is so dry but it’s worth it.
@cbaldera711 ай бұрын
Your hair! Your skin! That color! You look so good!!!!! ❤
@SZAliaBanks11 ай бұрын
your posts always make me feel better when i’m sad. thank you for being who you are. you’ve helped me so much ❤
@icannotdeal420411 ай бұрын
I relate to you so much honestly and I’m in such a tough spot right now. I’m 23 and for so long I’ve ignorantly thought it was too late. I just want to get to where you are now without having to go through more pain and heart ache. Thank you for these videos you’ve shown me that there’s light at the end and it’s never too late to figure it out❤️
@estefanialeon675011 ай бұрын
Hailey, you are so God sent. I recently ended things with who I thought was the love of my life, and your recent videos have been so beyond helpful and encouraging. You've been making these hard times easier to overcome. I appreciate you so much!! Also, I must say that this serious sit down and pay attention energy in this video is what I needed to truly wake up and do better for me. Thank you 💕
@debraglows9 ай бұрын
I saw a video one time that says My value isnt just when i open my legs. My value is my mindset. My lifestyle. The kind of heart i have and the fact that i can speak to you with authority and still humble myself to you.
@LostVisionary11 ай бұрын
Hailey I am crying lol “that is not a date” 😂😂 I can’t. A great word this morning 💕💕
@jordanhall349511 ай бұрын
This video is a gem !!! Can you do a detailed video on openness please 😭?? I struggle with chronic RBF and it’s hindered me from making friends and attracting men in college
@tiab1111 ай бұрын
Hailey pleaseeeeee do more of these this was hand downs so good to me
@faiithlove124011 ай бұрын
I love these big sister talks 🤍🤍
@jill857311 ай бұрын
Please do a video on your makeup and the product brand. Your makeup is beautiful!
@Seth_opinion7 ай бұрын
You are an incredible woman, and so brilliantly mature at such a young age. Hats off to you.
@Realmariah5105 ай бұрын
Oh my Gosh, what you said at 8:28 was such a powerful sentence. Eyes wide open! Thankyou for sharing that
@Lou-zr3ii11 ай бұрын
Hailey youre the bigger sister I never had ❤ youve opened ny mind to lots of things
@syd287911 ай бұрын
I want to say that you are a beautiful person inside and out and I appreciate this video so much cause I just finished talking to my mom about how much I want to change and I’m tired of my old self and habits so thank you so much for the video 🩷 please continue and maybe even longer I just love the talks.
@daaiyahm352511 ай бұрын
Hailey I’d love if you did a video on how you changed your style. I love dressing in a sexy flattering way but I want more ideas on balancing sexy with a more classy way of dressing.
@haileygamba11 ай бұрын
This is coming very soon 😍😍
@p.hearting999211 ай бұрын
Haley Gamba is my best friend in my head! Preach Queen, it’s giving goddess energy ✨🫶🏼
@samhiggins468211 ай бұрын
I strive to be like you, girl. Absolutely inspiring, honestly. LOVE these videos
@gldsundrp908711 ай бұрын
I like that she’s preparing girls for reality. The dry phones is soooo true!
@Jaslyfe82811 ай бұрын
Hailey , you are beyond your years! It’s great that at 26 you have this much wisdom! It’s taken me until 33 to really get it!
@kayemm218811 ай бұрын
Yes loving the back to back videos ❤❤❤. it’s you casually saying we rode around i gave him head on the way home and he calls me 4 days later lol i know you are being serious but you are so funny without even trying 😂😂😂
@wombtherapyendeed6 ай бұрын
“Head For The Free” 😂😂 I just love you
@blacbeauty82211 ай бұрын
I love all your videos , I’m 22 years old & you have helped so much just in these past few weeks 💗never stop posting much love from MN
@ItsMimi_11 ай бұрын
I love the consistency 🔥❤️❤️🫶🏾
@heidimacias924311 ай бұрын
You have NO idea the way these videos impact me. I am 25 and I truly want to live a different life than what I have been living and Hailey you truly inspire me ❤
@pilkingtonp7911 ай бұрын
You are so blessed with wisdom. Definitely an old soul. ❤❤❤
@Eshababyyy11 ай бұрын
This came right on time thank you ! Ik honestly fed up and tired of my own self I know better but I need to work on my insecurities as well !
@emilyyousey312211 ай бұрын
Perfect timing I needed this advice. I'm all about protecting my sacred energy. Why would I give it to someone that hasn't proven themselves worthy? I strive to be my best self first and foremost, you will not catch me devastated over a low quality man ever again.
@stephaniemilian11 ай бұрын
Wow miss girl this video was just what I needed. It funny how you uploaded this video today because I was just thinking that I can’t now longer be that girl in giving in knowing damn well I need to receive princess treatment !
@jasinia11 ай бұрын
*Me in a perfectly healthy relationship watching cause it’s Hailey*
@elitaahiakwo11 ай бұрын
Not my favorite KZbin big sister being consistent on here, I love you babe❤️🥺
@Erkavla11 ай бұрын
Loved this video, not that i need the tips since i am married but it's always good info 👏🏼 more videos like this because i do see so many women settling with just anyone or having poor boundaries and low self esteem its pretty sad. I am on my journey to get back to myself after having 2 babies ❤
@Rere1997_x11 ай бұрын
Everything you say always resonates with me. I love how you are young but still so mature❤
@SADEKELLY_11 ай бұрын
This was so good! This whole series is 🔥🔥🔥
@imaniwallace674711 ай бұрын
Brooo you just unlocked a new level in my mind when you talked about what the man said to you.. thank you for this video u always speak facts
@motherbenz11 ай бұрын
you always push me to be better ❤ i’m sure others feel that too. thank you.
@Prince.Dior9611 ай бұрын
Whew! You just got a new subscriber. ❤️ You are so poised and well spoken. I enjoyed very minute of this video because everything you said, I am about to apply with pressure. I’m ready for a new life; I have been living in a low vibration for years. The old me is DEAD. New me; pending. 💯
@grinchysej783511 ай бұрын
7:26 LMAOOOO. also i just recently started college and i already am so over hook up culture and i rly felt this one. you’re such an inspiring woman and i appreciate your videos so so much! wish you all the best things in life queen.
@rika87sp11 ай бұрын
I love your consistency, this was an awesome video. Keep it up ❤️
@IvorianAya11 ай бұрын
Hailey girl I just wanna say you look gorgeousssss, you’re literally glowing through my screen. Whatever you’re doing keep doing it, looks amazing on you babes 🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷
@sharisseila11 ай бұрын
Great timing Hails❤️ Your advice was definitely god sent🫂 Appreciate it.
@NanaHoneyB11 ай бұрын
You're GLOWING🥰🥺
@nayah476411 ай бұрын
Hailey, you are truly amazing! I’m grateful to be a subscriber. Growing up without parental figures due to hardships and the passing of my mother, as well as a toxic stepmother, you are like an older sister I never had. Your character, how you choose to present your self and feminine energy inspire me and I can’t wait to unlock this new version of myself.❤I hope life is treating you with the most highest positive energy the universe can offer. You’re doing great!
@altobajoful7 ай бұрын
I love a really simple date, but i dont treat it simply,im very intentional with the conversation, and then if that goes well, then I'll accept the dinner date for the next time.However,im never going for drinking dates or anything like that. Also youre so right that if you sleep with a man on the first date they never think youve made an exception for them. This whole video was facts.
@Xo.francy11 ай бұрын
Girl I actually love you for this video ❤ thank you love
@latoyasmythe450911 ай бұрын
Yesssssss This Is What I’m On Queen yessss Keep It Coming Girl🥰
@Keepinupwithkenz21 күн бұрын
The hook up example was hilarious😂
@nathaliaventura374411 ай бұрын
This seriously needs to go viral !❤
@ajohonly372111 ай бұрын
The consistency consistency yaaaaas .
@iamantoinay11 ай бұрын
This video is just what I needed! Omg you are this video up!!!!!!! Your were born for this tbh. I think I’m listening to this every morning now and I’m not kidding ! So serious thank you so much !
@yayadrew11 ай бұрын
You always give such great advice ❤.
@tinahdee979611 ай бұрын
I love how Hailey is so strict on us stepping on our best versions and not taking bs from those who don't deserve us😂❤❤
@AmbesiweQamata-tb2uf10 ай бұрын
Hi u have helped me so much and this vlog just showed me that I must not say yes to everything thank u from South Africa ❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽
@maggiegonzalez19511 ай бұрын
My weekend just got better. I'm in a marathon with your videos ❤