Reconnecting with Your Spouse - Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley (Part 2)

[@dasanders1988]

I needed to hear this. Please pray for my marriage. We are both hanging on and struggling, with 4 kids

[@riyanwilliams7664]

Buy the book love and respect connection

[@jaimegrant1682]

Praying for you all

[@grammyslim5766]

Praying for you!!!!

[@charnevdwaltthelemonlady2965]

Father, please help them in their marriage, relationship and the day-to-day challenges with 4 kids. Protect their hearts and show them small steps toward full restoration, for their victory and ultimately for Your glory and honor. In Jesus Name, Amen💛

[@clintonboehm]

Praying for you.

[@brightpage1020]

“Every day, pray with your wife.” This was so powerful! Thank you!

[@carolineokongo4480]

Erin you are such an inspiration to me. Your attitude, desiring to connect with your husband, goal being intimacy, longing to know what s going on inside your husband, doing everything possible just to connect with your husband is just amazing. I like that.

[@jusforjesus]

Love this series! Shared it with my love and have def learned a couple of things I needed to correct in my approach to communication. Thank you for the wonderful teaching content

[@jeffreybate1548]

This is a short week for this! Already listen to Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday show!

[@danielleg1504]

I’m having a hard time being emotionally vulnerable because we’re only a year out from infidelity in a brand new marriage. When I feel that we’re doing better in that area (forgiveness, reconnection, etc) inactive listening or trite answers seem to set me back into hesitation/self-protection mode. Please pray for us

[@mthomas73]

Thank you for great advice

[@purpose2grow764]

I needed this so much.

[@benitab.2832]

Thank you for this. My husband and I connect well and we pray together before bed and in the car before leaving our house. But, sometimes I feel like I have to initiate some habits for our spiritual intimacy. Any suggestions?

[@PanicAttackRecovery]

Great video. Thank you for sharing this.

[@Jenni208]

"Irreconcilable differences" is a common reason for divorce. But can you somehow live with these fundamental differences and stay married? Could you do a video on staying married with irreconcilable differences? Or how to live with someone who does not believe in compromise?

[@focusonthefamily]

Thanks for your suggestion, Jenni. We'll definitely pass it along to our producers. In the meantime, this article may offer some help (bddy.me/354jLQ3), and you're also welcome to discuss your situation with one of our counselors. Just call 855-771-HELP (4357) to set up a free callback. God bless you.

[@tiffanymartinez7342]

Thank you 😊

[@brightpage1020]

“You didn’t accept my influence”, that can feel like a lack of trust or like he feels I’m incompetent. I’m really sensitive to implied insults... how do I get a thicker skin?

[@brightpage1020]

Great idea to kind of put your husband to bed after the kids - for night wives. It sounds funny but to give him that sacred time.

[@tammiemurray9963]

A big issue is when the wife understands this and the husband doesn't. How does she talk to him about this without being a manipulative, nagging wife? I can't tell him how to behave in our marriage. I have always assumed that's God's role. Unfortunately, we're 33 years in and we're still spinning our wheels. And more unfortunately, I'm done.

[@focusonthefamily]

Tammie, we hear your frustration. We'd love to set up a consult for you with one of our counselors. They've helped many others in your situation and would be happy to offer any encouragement and insight they can. Just call us at 855-771-HELP (4357). Thanks for sharing, friend, and God bless you. He cares about you, and so do we!

[@millicentjohnson7364]

What if you are passed that season in life

[@SnookOnTheFly]

How do you connect with a spouse that says her dad will always be her number one man and she’ll never put you before her parents? She has her priorities where she wants them and we are not one of them. I get to live off the scraps.

[@PeacefulWarrior000]

I would sincerely ask why she decided to marry if leaving and cleaving is not of interest to her when it's in the Word. I'd also ask her what makes her certain that her dad is perfect. In addition, I'd address fear, what the fear is of allowing her husband to be first. Is she afraid he'll be angry? Is she afraid she won't be protected in the same manner? What's the fear?

[@SnookOnTheFly]

@@PeacefulWarrior000 she feels guilty that he doesn’t have anyone but her. He says she’s his best friend. I don’t understand it either, but she was conditioned from an early age. She never saw a functioning marriage with her parents having five divorces between the two of them. The worst part is the finger gets pointed to me for calling it out. If I shut up and go along then everything is ok, but our kids and myself are in counseling because of the dysfunction that has been created out of this (not the only reason for counseling, but even the other reasons are a biproduct of this family dynamic).

[@CyberHoTtiePetro]

This has blessed me so much in how I show up for my husband 💖