What Your Kids Need Most to Grow Up Well (Part 1) - Danny Huerta

Danny Huerta, Vice President of Parenting and Youth at Focus on the Family, discusses his new book, Seven Traits of Effective Parenting. On day one, he reviews why kids need to be “contributors” to society rather than merely consumers. Then he examines the important traits of adaptability, respect and intentionality for parents. On day two, he talks about the important parenting traits of steadfast love and boundaries - which can be challenging for moms and dads to enforce consistently. He also addresses grace and forgiveness, and gratitude.
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[@gracekim4251]

Loved the quote,” Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.- Thomas a Kempis “

[@shizukuspider6559]

Thank y'all for this. I'm pregnant right now and I'm so excited to teach my baby everything about the Lord 🙏💕

[@gretelhance]

Dads help too

[@shizukuspider6559]

@@gretelhance ??

[@AngelaSmith-di2uw]

THANK YOU,

[@margaritavizcaino655]

Thank you very much for sharing this .

[@gabrielgarcia367]

Thank you

[@andrescastillo2863]

To give respect, we must be self-aware, through reflection and learning every day. This will help us become more aware of how we are impacting our kids.

[@sandeeciaccia9798]

Thank you for such great advice! Love the quote by Thomas Kempis 🙏🏻

[@andrescastillo2863]

Train of thought analogy: We each have our own train of thought and sometimes we expect each other to jump on our train right away, but my train is going full-speed, and I need time to slow my train down in order to join yours. In that way, I show respect to you by letting you know that I want to hear you, Being intentional about doing things with your kids that interest them. Kind of like “Hey dad, do you have time? Do you want to do this?” And you realize that this is an invitation that you need to step into.

[@frefre2238]

Love this program

[@andrescastillo2863]

Respect, a lot of the times is about listening to somebody else, being present with them, with what the true need is. Kid’s (and even some people’s) behaviors and emotions are telling us something. Many times, we are reacting to that, rather than really stopping and being present with what they need. Our role as parents is to see our children through God’s eyes, that tender-hearted mercy, steadfast love. We will gain respect if we we are giving it Be able to respond, rather than react.

[@andrescastillo2863]

When we are disciplining, how connected are we with our child? Even if we disciplined with undue harshness, can we show our child that we love him/her, and that there’s something here that went wrong, and we need to fix it because we love him/her. Can we show our child humility , in admitting where we might have gone wrong ourselves. Then they get why they are being disciplined and maybe internally thankful for it. humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another in love.

[@hannacastaneda8219]

Does Danny have any parenting talks in Spanish for Dad's and kids?

[@nailetrios2480]

❤️

[@LH-bq2xb]

This is a great topic but the share function here doesn't work. What a shame! However, if anyone wants to share, do the copy and paste instead.

[@rogerrabbits68]

"Dum Vivimus Servimus" while we live we serve

[@wairimumuchau7729]

Nice one!

[@kimkempke]

I heard a recording years and years ago where the guy kept saying "you gotta have the want to" Anyone have that? It was Focus on the Family I'm almost sure of it.

[@katherinerutecki8956]

I remember something similar to that! Try emailing them and asking on their website's contact page!

[@natashafriend5995]

Last night my son of 18 years came home with a tattoo after we told him that he is not alloud. He knew how strongly we feel about this. I feel broken and hurt because I just feel he did not respect our views and authority. I dont know how to handle the situation.

[@closerthaniwasbefore]

He's an adult, get over it

[@lisasteward6945]

Lower your expectations.. just love him

[@ruthvansandt9713]

Have you tried to understand his reasons or created a life-long active space where he can ask you questions without retribution? Have you reasoned with him and shown him why you hold this standard or just tried to enforce an arbitrary rule? Otherwise, he’s 18, so yeah he’s an adult. The very fact you use the word “allowed” makes me think of control, not relationship.

[@arnelarsen4073]

No one addresses the epidemic of mental health/chemical brain injury among our children today. My wife is an JK/SK teacher, where 5 years ago she had 1:8 with autism, today she has 100% class of spectrum. Why? No one will look at cause! Why the epidemic?

[@ithacacomments4811]

I am 70 years old. I just discovered at age 65 that I am on the spectrum. We are just starting to learn about the autism spectrum. Years ago, individuals were said to be "quirky" ..now we realize that this quirkiness is autism traits. I believe the increase is more evaluation and diagnosis... not an increase in the number of autistic persons.

[@mrs.h4484]

The food and the vaccines forced.

[@BlinkROC]

Toxicity. Look up GAPS protocol and Dr. Natasha Campbell McBride.

[@kimkempke]

I have my theories but if you say it here you will be kicked off of YT. It's a forbidden topic.

[@avarasouli5087]

This program is so weird... I listen to it and I feel grateful for these individuals dedicating their lives to figuring out how to guide their our children.. and then all of a sudden they say the most absurd things...

[@hannacastaneda8219]

What's absurd?