Reimaging Empathy: The Transformative Nature of Empathy | Paul Parkin | TEDxUVU

The nature of empathy
Paul Parkin is a teacher, speaker, and researcher that focuses on relational communication. With over 10 years’ experience teaching at various universities, he began teaching at UVU in the Fall of 2014. His doctoral dissertation research focuses on the power of empathy.
Paul has a passion for teaching and for facilitating transformative change in and out of the classroom. He has won multiple teaching awards, the most recent being the prestigious University of Utah Student's Choice Teaching Award (2013). He has a Master's Degree from California State University, Sacramento, in instructional and leadership communication, and will graduate this year with a Ph.D from the University of Utah. As a speaker, Paul has presented to a variety of groups across the U.S. and has provided communication, leadership, and personal growth trainings for various companies and corporations.
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[@sarahsmith3683]

I have to respectfully disagree with the comment below. In this talk he is advocating that one of the best ways to cultivate love and connection is through cultivating empathy. I think this is an insightful way to look at creating loving connections with others, thus I really like his approach and the points he made.

[@LindaLouise625]

You have no idea how close to home this hits .. how the Abject TRUTH of it resonates through every cell in my body .. to my core. **I have had a LOT of loss in the past 12 months ... and am now without those "meaningful" connections... **I Need to find my way to open my heart again .. but I am so scared... :( Thank you for this .. I will relisten later today .. thank you

[@moonmissy]

Right on! Life most precious gift is emotional connection and relationships, sometimes we forget that we are already richer. Hug your friends, family, strangers who need hugs, it’s the most wonderful gift that is free.

[@dianewiegel7136]

I agree a culture of empathy could make the world a better place

[@Hooked2024]

I can’t imagine how he felt standing on that stage :)

[@mariusleroy8895]

Peter RICE Exiting, nervous, happy afterwards and towards the end and probably felt really good especially withh you commenting this to show empathy

[@strongempatheticawarenessy2145]

Paul Parkin you touched my heart. You are a truly great man, a man where love flows and all around you can rise and lift you.

[@joys2218]

thank you for sharing such beauty with us.......

[@rashadjaveed274]

Thankfully thank you for enhancing my understanding on the subject. May Nature always bless you abundantly.

[@abrols]

I agree wholeheartedly with him. Well spoken and more importantly being meaningful.

[@seandoherty3480]

So insightful!

[@morgan.lockwood]

Amazing talk. Incredibly insightful. Thank you Dr. Parkin.

[@jaedecoleman9584]

Great job, Paul! Beautiful talk I plan to share with my students.

[@nancymonroe9192]

This is the heart of intercultural communication

[@middlewaypsychology]

Thank you for this presentation, and thank you for connecting perfectionism to this problem. Very informative!

[@shortitalian10]

Dr. Parkin is amazing! Such a great speaker and such an important topic! Thank you for this, Ted and UVU, you picked a good one!!! Thank you Paul Parkin, for your enduring vulnerability.

[@llarose]

Bravo, great talk. Congratulations Paul!

[@katietark]

Excellent

[@jamesgburnham]

Powerful talk and your vulnerable discussion of how empathy transformed you moved me. I would love to know where to find more on the different empathy languages.

[@paulparkin2445]

Proud to share the exact same name with him.....

[@tylerb8131]

Ago 🤨

[@kittymarla]

brilliant. I was touched.

[@mariusleroy8895]

nicole Keller-Wyatt where?

[@ainsliegrosser2475]

A video that has no dislikes! Excellent

[@nitindadar7933]

Bravo

[@marketingmadeeasy8392]

Wonderful

[@nanastechica]

Corporate offices are the worst in dealing with empathy. I work at an office that constantly talks about diversity and respecting others when all they do is pull us aside and tell us we're not doing enough and complacent by our HR Department and apparently now this person works at TED Talks. This caused me anxiety, PTSD and panic attacks to the point of leaving work.

[@MisoiAlvin]

wow

[@Bill0102]

This is exceptional content. I read a book with a similar theme, and it was absolutely mind-blowing. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@bodesshowreel]

Does anyone have any further resources on the other Empathy Languages? Google is not yielding helpful results. TY :)

[@leavefollow1698]

What is he look like she's about to cry the entire time? I did not watch the full amount, but I am sure that he might open his heart up a little bit today.

[@wellingtonoliveira4217]

Fundamental a empatia.

[@thegoonisgood77]

most people need to try to have empathy but are capable of it,...being on the empath spectrum i can't easily turn it off and need better strategies so i don't sponge too much negativity... the narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths can fake it incredibly well but aren't capable of if... the last group often turn the majority against an empath through a sophisticated exploitation of this dynamic... which can lead that empath into a downward spiral and a resulting change of behaviour that may be interpreted as them being the narcissist... it is very hard to beat a narcissist in that game.

[@robin472]

Daniel O'Brien you are correct. Pray.

[@Andre-qo5ek]

how about people that reject both of those empathy languages?

[@jonathangarcia7711]

this man is talking BIG FAX

[@TwilightTruebahdoor]

Empathy begins with hearing someones backstory. This way, they know you care. Wait for them to ask you for advice. Listen more, speak less. This is what I am practicing now.

[@robertfaille1789]

Shouldn't it be "Reimagining" instead of "Reimaging"?

[@xiuchuntian]

Please have empathy and don't scare people who are thinking of going to grad school. Professors have the same goals as students, graduation. If they make the life of their students difficult, will there still be graduate students? Sorry I have to make this comment.

[@markboggs746]

I think he is getting confused between empathy and love. Empathy is about figuring out what the other person is about. Love is about how much you care. A person could be very empathetic and not loving at all.

[@HollyOak]

Sorry, not I have to disagree here. You cannot have empathy without love. 'Love' does not have to mean you are romantically involved with the person. We can love our children without being romantically involved. We can love our pets without being romantically involved. We can love cake without needing a relationship with it. If you care enough to figure out how you can help, then you are expressing love.

[@markboggs746]

Michelle Abrahmz. How about this? ... Empathy is the ability to experience and respond to another person's feelings. Let's pretend there was such a thing as the (d)evil. The (d)evil would be able to understand how you feel, certainly enough to help, they would just choose not to. I think you are talking about compassion. You can't have compassion without love. Empathy is about understanding. I could empathise with you while I tortured you to death... Just because I can feel your pain does not mean I act on it. People watch the TV and see a baby dying in some foreign country and they have "empathy" for it. ... If they had any compassion for it they would do something about it....

[@veritybarton]

@@markboggs746 if someone truely understands how you feel they have to feel it to understand, choosing not to shows a veil over any true empathy

[@markboggs746]

@@veritybarton A psychopath will feel what you feel. They will not care.

[@anitacrumbly]

​@@markboggs746 there is a difference between logical understanding and emotional understanding. A psychopath can logically understand but they literally can not feel empathy (understand emotionally)