Rejection sensitivity can be seen in ADHD, BPD & other mental health conditions

[@mostlywholenicole]

I feel attacked. The irony is not lost on me. 😅

[@MonkeyDLuffy-rr3wl]

I'm so rejection sensitive, that the real part sounded like the "what they hear" part, no matter how hard I tried to not take it personally

[@gracep2910]

Wow, you must suck to be around

[@knowideas7184]

Shit.

[@alexisbalmer4675]

Sometimes sensitive people are reading other cues, like facial expression, tone of voice, body language, that shows a persons actual, genuine feelings. People think they are hiding their irritation by choosing their words more carefully and feel uncomfortable that you can see through their attempt at concealing them. It's often easier to gaslight the other person, especially if they are more easily dismissed because of Autism or Adhd, rather than admit, you haven't been as good at disguising yourself as you thought you were. Rather like the old assumption that there is a lack of awareness, when actually there can be a hyper sensitivity to other peoples energy.

[@kandacesimms8644]

THIS....I always feel like I can FEEL that the words don't line up with the body language and it feels like gaslighting lol

[@scatterlienatalie9873]

Wow, thank you for putting it that way! That's helpful to me! I appreciate your words 🙏

[@WallflowerCat7]

Wow you described it perfectly. I can tell when someone is not being genuine most times. Not all of it is overthinking. Many times people are actually double talking. Saying one thing, but their actions say another. And I pick up on that easily. It's usually why I can sense when something is wrong even though someone tells me they are okay.

[@sparklemotion8377]

Exactly! This kind of content just makes it worse. I'm literally waiting to be openly rejected even though I have seen the signs from the start. Instead of drawing my own conclusions about fakeness and false promises, I am waiting to be rejected so I can move on because 'maybe it was all in my head and I don't want to falsely accuse anyone'

[@Da_bear-ij9gm]

I’d say that’s true but also, the crux of the issue is that their negative feelings are their problem to deal with. They can get as frustrated as they want to, doesn’t mean it requires your emotional investment back at them

[@Elianalivinglife]

I just got told by a child psychologist who work with special needs kids that RSD isn't a real thing, neurotypical understanding of neurodiversity is a big problem. RSD has been my biggest struggle as an AuDHDer, and the lack of understanding is really worrying in this field.

[@stephanieradford8324]

What oh no sad

[@Tropicalpisces]

RSD has literally ruined my life. It paralyzes me. I lost two jobs in 2022...and recently another... It's been hell trying to recover.

[@rabbitotaku8369]

Damn. That’s accurate.

[@MyMerryMessyGermanLife]

Yeah for sure. Basically we are just hearing what we say to ourselves from other people. I have to remind myself of that when I feel rejected! That I’m just projecting my RSD onto other people.

[@Birdieblogger]

That’s how my mother spoke to all of her special needs children. It’s not in our heads. We don’t make this stuff up out of no where. We have been put down and made fun of my literally every ‘safe’ adult imaginable. We were given the scripts.

[@user-kcrpine]

Nonsense

[@knowideas7184]

Yeah I can relate to your point from personal experience. At the same time I relate I also understand that even if a person has a tone or other micro expression it still doesn’t make it about me. If they’re pissed at someone else yet still remain polite and professional when communicating with me, I have learned to appreciate their effort. I’m not perfect and can be critical of others in my head and how do I know they can see through my mask? 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@harheeshah8831]

This is me 😢😢😢😢😢😢. Literally my whole life which makes me refuse to do anything that can attract any attention

[@Melora84]

This is so accurate it hurts.

[@chrismesserer]

Anything my supervisor says I'm afraid that means I'm getting fired... Even when they give me a special project to work on!

[@rebekahfowler2958]

Can relate to well to this.

[@christiangirlcirhiri28]

Oh my goodness. All of these are SO accurate, but especially the second and last one!

[@KatharineHoffAlworth]

This is the most accurate representation I have ever seen of this horrible symptom. So crippling.

[@amandalfh9624]

Thank you! Some family members have it and it helps me understand them better

[@SemiSubconsciousSaboteur]

This is a combo of my negative self-speak and the actual disproportionately dramatic feedback I got from my mother and grandmother as a kid whenever I would forget things or some other minor offense. I actually have to consciously fight the urge to speak to friends and colleagues like this because it’s not normal or conducive for adults that respect each other.

[@Da_bear-ij9gm]

So true, and the way that typical ADHD behaviors like being forgetful were assigned meaning by neurotypicals that was not there; eg “well if you cared about that item you wouldn’t have lost it, so you never cared.” Not too different from gaslighting

[@prismonthethehorizon5793]

Yep, we're sensitive to criticism, however when you received alot of criticism as a child it's understandable how we got there!

[@juliang6306]

It’s true However sadly rsd is not a recognized term in psychology I know it’s weird but these videos make me feel better coz I know I’m not alone❤ Can u make more of these?

[@davidn559]

Nice to know I'm not alone in the battle with this

[@Lakridza67]

I have adhd very badly. I was out of control as a kid. Full on all the time. You don’t hear of many girls like that?!

[@DannyStanley-Porritt-ji6jm]

tysm this resonates with me so much

[@cathyx7202]

Wow on the second point I felt personally attacked 😅 It was literally me during my last internship this summer. I would read my supervisor’s comments on my reports and I would feel so sad and angry and misunderstood, I would reject her comments in my head, scrolling up and down the page for half an hour, unable to start actually *working* on editing my report. I would also start having compulsive symptoms like skin picking. Then the meltdown would pass and I would start editing and pretend everything was fine. I’ve never told her.

[@Lexieswiff]

Wait, this is me. I am aware of it so I adjust accordingly as best as I can. Gotten very good at hiding it.

[@diegoandres46]

OMG I always thought that as an ADHDer I didn't have this symptom but I just found out that I actually do 💀

[@sirsqueeze8231]

"Missed you on the standup today" aka "youre fired"

[@Zonicmusic]

Relatable 😢

[@Noelsterrr]

Apparently you and I have completely different ideas of what rejection sensitivity is.

[@tiglen1]

Omg this is SO me at work 😱

[@priscillacyannimorris]

So real

[@sarawrubel1697]

Ok so I have ADHD and I’m not well with groups and stuff,I like working alone and I don’t know why! Please explain why this happens

[@Da_bear-ij9gm]

Introverted

[@KairiGreen-z2n]

I feel personally attacked. The irony is not lost here

[@nbafessant]

Then it can suddenly turn in the opposite direction because people realize you are sensitive, so they start sugar coating what is actually going on, and then you get to look like the ass when it blows up in your face, because you had no clue. 😢

[@Studio-ch3qc]

Walking on eggs shells with these types is never worth it in the end, unless it’s your child.

[@TenaniJohnson]

This may sound dumb but So when it comes to doing chores and school my dad always get mad at me because I wait forever to do chores and it’s not like I want to I just don’t get it my I want to do but I just can it’s like my brain just takes it out my mind like my bathtub is dirty currently I was supposed to clean it 2 weeks ago and I’m always doing my homework last minute and I’m not that smart I often get C’s on my test I try to understand but I can’t my friends say study but there smart so it doesn’t help also I can’t study if I don’t understand it and some say ask a teacher but she just gets mad if you don’t get it and I get distracted easily during test it’s taken me 3 days to do a test because I sit in between to boys who are friends and talk during the test and some of my friends say I might have a disorder but I don’t know must of them say it depression or Laziness and I was wondering if anyone had suggestions if it seems like a disorder and what I should do

[@mariamshah338]

I hear no difference 😭

[@LoveLife-gv8jg]

How do you fix it

[@Squishmitten5]

I feel VERY judged!! 😑 but also please talk to your adhd children about this bc they are never going to ask you for help. Mainly bc they don’t realize they need help, bc that’s not how any of this works.. talk your kids 🖤

[@okaminess]

THIS.

[@yamiletespinal-u1n]

😊😊

[@yamiletespinal-u1n]

😊😊😊

[@user-kcrpine]

Utterly worthless for those of us not suffering and simply trying to understand it.

[@Tropicalpisces]

Um. 😅😢 ... 😱

[@Yellow-draw.yourheart]

😂😂😂 right!!riigghhhttt

[@vf-163lipton5]

Going to report this short because my brain is very clearly in it and I hate it.

[@RiddleMrs]

Please vacate my head.

[@YouTubeCensorshipStinks]

Basically all the stuff narcissist actually say, but imagined

[@Tropicalpisces]

And if you HAVE a narcissistic family 👀👀👀😱😱😱🥺🥺😭...it's.. seemingly impossible.