How I Surgically Enhanced My Body | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 103 | Season 3

[@mahlatsemasha2308]

Childhood insecurities become very detrimental in our adulthood.

[@Zolwandle4209]

that true

[@YoutubeSAnews]

Very true.

[@freebluebutterfly6583]

Lord help us...A harsh world this is.. insecurities from bullying, parental neglect, lack of family love & affection... yoh!

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

I agree with your statement. My mom gave me daily affirmations as to how beautiful I am and smart & capable of anything. Those words stuck with me to this day...never once did I doubt anything she said even when my weight fluctuated during my undergrad studies. You really need to start early to encourage kids. Not sure if I would be so confident now if my mom hadn't made me feel like I was perfectly created in her eyes.

[@loreennomfunekosigwili5753]

We need to learn to keep our opinions about other people’s bodies/skin colour to ourselves. And instil this principle to the minds of young rising generations who look up to us; that’s where they get the influence of bullying, body shaming and colourism.

[@lefax9198]

Loving the first question, " what was you upbringing like?" This goes to show that a huge part of our life achievements/decisions/ highlights/ mistake etc are so influenced by our background, the foundation 👏

[@dahliavoka2193]

Very true

[@merdientaraneibes8133]

So true,I agree

[@sihledunamiz420]

Yes it’s like a psychology session

[@xoliswanengudza5877]

So true in the 70s 80s our parents drilled it into our heads that black is beautiful and we never looked back. I did it for my youngest daughter and I got her a black doll, I don't regret. Good luck ladies.

[@janayserrano]

@@xoliswanengudza5877 you’re lucky. Growing up my mother used to tell me that I don’t have good hair and that she regrets giving birth to me. My father is biracial and I came out with my mothers hair type and darker skin tone but my fathers face. My father wasn’t in my life growing up and it’s another reason she took her anger out on me. She hated my father and she hated that I wasn’t the ‘mixed’ child that she dreamed of having.

[@SueSuzan]

Relebogile was made for talk shows, the manner she carries herself and the interviews 👌🏽 and oh...no script what so ever.

[@keitum]

She’s amazing. I can’t get used to it ♥️

[@lukhomtirara]

it really shows that the host did her research very well . The way she speaks extensively about their procedures made the show for me , more beautiful to watch

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you!

[@marymoyo9439]

Plppllpp

[@siyakolisistanaccount5378]

I’ve noticed how bbls in other countries make a big difference for women. A hun can get a bbl and she could be a influencer or pull a rich dude. In South Africa it won’t do much because most women here have naturally small waists and big bums. If I saw a hun in South Africa with a bbl I wouldn’t even notice. The bodies a lot of women pay for is so common in South Africa.

[@margerine1346]

So true not only in SA but in Africa on general

[@mrlense2078]

If you actual check , those body types are not common, maybe a bit more common than other countries but not "common".

[@maphii]

Very true. I didn't know she had a bbl. Like these bodies are so common. My sister us built like this and every other woman in my life.

[@yoniem9835]

True hey

[@creativeolivia.9506]

Am Kenyan and I admire South African women ,,like youalll are naturals even the teenagers!

[@phowsekotlo739]

I can never get over how well spoken our host is 😍

[@barbaramabuda9512]

She's sooooo purrrrrfect...am jealous kkkk

[@obakengleseyane6493]

She knows her stuff and the execution is simply flawless

[@daisymhango3830]

Smooth flowing....👌🏻

[@nomafmaroga6827]

After watching Xoli I decided I'm going for my weight loss surgery and BBL. I'm not turning back.

[@matshidisoanastaciampotsan2642]

i was always mocked and told am ugly.....i accepted Jesus Christ....i tell u nothing beat that feeling of being loved by the King of Kings...am not shaken anymore by body shaming or mockery...try HIM ....He is waiting

[@gugudladla1046]

Hallelujah, tell them sister, what He thinks is all that matters and He thinks I am to die for

[@matshidisoanastaciampotsan2642]

@@gugudladla1046 yes my lady...cheers

[@ngwatomosadi1531]

Amen. And then the physical glow also follows.

[@dorothylerato8605]

Accepting Jesus u accept urself who u r

[@cc35506]

Im yet to see a bleaching person whose skin comes out nice. And its just soooo much effort. I would have 100% agreed she's secure in her (new) skin but when she mentioned she had to go and reintroduce herself to her ancestors.....made me realise insecurities are skin deep. Xoli is the one whose level headed about her BBL especially when she said she never modelled her body appearance after anyone. Guess thats why it looks very natural coz it blends with her body. One of the best Ive seen.

[@tshephangnelly960]

Khanyi Mbau

[@cc35506]

@@tshephangnelly960 I used to admire her but with lighting and make up she looks good. Without that you can see her skin isnt good

[@kwenzekilempofu9575]

Mandisa mputsang her skin is great

[@Yassmiinn.]

@@kwenzekilempofu9575 her knees are dark though. And you've never seen her in real life, without make up.

[@janetjohnston1702]

I think skin bleaching is as much addictive as any other cosmetic surgery so that's why you find people over doing it in such a way that it looks weird 🤔 so I think if you do it from a professional it would be ok but they also can't control what you do outside of their counsel 🤔

[@yethugamedze7317]

Relebogile is good at this 👌... the way she asks without judgement 💯💫

[@Her_Self..]

She is just amazing hey. Extremely smart lady.

[@mohauwamorena]

She's one of thee best 👌🔥I LOVE HER♥️

[@sihledunamiz420]

Yes she is perfect as the host of this show nyan nyan

[@leej6636]

Truly one of the reasons why I enjoy watching/listening her interviews.

[@iambloopy]

Wow I didn't expect Xoli to appear. This was a pleasant surprise! ❤️❤️

[@princessndlovu4869]

I LOOVE XOLI'S MOM ABSOLUTELY ADORE HER FOR THE WAY SHE LOVES HER DAUGHTER

[@palesamatabane3138]

Relebogile is such a great interviewer. So natural. 👌🏾

[@naomih.kinuva7562]

She really is. I don't doubt that a lot of preparation and hardwork goes into her interviews to make it look this effortless.

[@T_Amara257]

My mom never put on makeup and even today I don’t feel like I need makeup. I was taught to focus on being myself and if someone doesn’t think I’m pretty, they don’t pay my bills and they are not my creator so they can keep stepping.

[@Blessed224]

My mom too. Me2 I don't put makeup and am also teaching my daughter that.

[@NathiM03]

I’m glad you’re speaking about this, a relative of mine had a BBL, sadly during the procedure she got into a coma which lasted a year and she’s no longer with us.

[@Godsmasterpiece33]

I'm so sorry hey.

[@rosemwai8791]

Sorry . It's well Sending love and light.

[@myspiritualsafari8814]

Condolences to you and your family. I would like it BBL but am terrified. It's dangerous, the most dangerous cosmetic procedure I can't risk it. Rather stay with my shwapha...🤧

[@TheSmileycece]

@Kokiinieze.r it's the most dangerous cosmetic procedure in terms of the risks associated. There's a lot of the main veins that go to heart located in your bum and because they're operating on so many parts at once the recovery isn't easy. The use your own fat and if that fat dies inside you before it attaches back into the new area things are messed up. The biggest risk is the veins or arteries and the fact people usually travel very soon after getting it done. They are at risk of blood clots etc. Do your research. I'm not trying to scare you. I may not have the medical language and I'm trying to keep my comment accessible but if you just look at some BBC interview and look at the statistics from independent sources you will find out. It is a fact that this is the most dangerous procedure though. And most people have to do more than 1 round because after you get the surgery if you want to lose weight we'll your bum loses some and also if the fat was burned by your body and didn't attach properly to the other fat cells already existing then you have to go back to try and get it bigger and get the shape better. The risk increases.

[@dikeledimothiba65]

@@myspiritualsafari8814 lol shwapha lol you killed me

[@thobilebeta5343]

Childhood traumas are deep. We carry them through our adulthood.

[@lucynapwaro5725]

My self my girl now she is 15 , l always tell her to embrace her skin tone, I’m light and she is not dark, she is in between, but l always tell her never ever bleach , love who God made u, u are beautiful the way u are, my son took my complexion but as a mom let’s try to talk with our kids to be happy with who they are 😌this going under the knife, bleaching it has effects a long the way, you will spend more money trying to change yo body, be happy with yo self.

[@pointa2b388]

Black people, stop complaining about english. This is not our mother tongue. We hear what she is saying.

[@sontomtolo473]

So annoying right?!🙄I hate it when black people do that.

[@nonkumonkoe]

We get her point yazi 😀

[@stellamooibedi9027]

As if English confirms their intelligence....and it's always black people bashing other black people for not being fluent....

[@calviamashego4881]

Nothing wrong with her English perhaps the accent perhaps y’all want her to twang

[@lineosekele6872]

It’s funny because you’re complaining about English and typing in English What a contradiction 😹💔

[@ataa69120]

Sometimes improving your appearance with physical surgery can heal the soul Me for example I used to have this huge ugly gap in my front teeth People use to make fun of me I never felt pretty or beautiful and my mother certainly never help me with my self confidence growing up and at some point made it worse I saved up money and got braces, put on a bit of weight and people are now telling how beautiful l am It makes me feel good about myself not because people say l am beautiful now but because I feel beautiful and confident

[@melmel7011]

Its ouk to admit that society plays a huge role in our self esteem. It does. You were not confident because in the eyes of society you were not beautiful, but now that people say you are beautiful you feel confident. Its all about what people say about us, we can deny it all we want but its true. There is nothing like improving your looks for you, we always improve our looks for people.

[@elle_l808l]

@@melmel7011 💯 No matter how much we want to claim it's for us, we were influenced by other people to think there's something wrong in the first place

[@elleyonaspg9580]

758 In this area code, spaced teeth is considered beautiful. A woman with spaced upper central incisors is a much sort after woman.

[@Letstalkaboutit2323]

Xoli is such a mood. I like that she doesn't take life too serious

[@thembekaduma834]

This felt more like a conversation which I loved very much… thank you ladies for opening up and thank you Lebo for how you conduct your interviews 😍😍😍😍😍

[@stellamooibedi9027]

When all is said and done. Most of us have certain insecurities about our bodies and wish we could change something about our looks. I am one of those people.

[@Nokss_20]

I was also tall, curvy and called ugly and fat. I was teased for my acne, my wide nose too. In high school my mom would laugh at me when I'm wearing heels. Even now we get bullied for example they say women who wear shoe size 7 and above are men. If you're tall you're told you're heavy or don't look like a gf or makoti type...if I wasn't caramel I doubt any man would even approach me. I wouldn't change anything about me, I love my height and my shape and really dgf what people think. I like myself enough.

[@ayayaflame]

Your mom ? Sorry 😢

[@arltklm8322]

Keep it up girl! ❤

[@glitterrose1810]

The host is just absolutely beautiful. The ladies need to heal their inner child I’m also a tall girl and I was called giant even by family members so I get it you want to prove a point in your adulthood but being successful is where it’s at Xoli no need to do anything else you’re beautiful.

[@f2v179]

Mina even now they still have comments with me being tall and I'm like the fact that I'm tall it's non of your business

[@Orahh_x]

I doubt it’s about proving a point, it’s more about how you feel in your skin. If getting a BBL will make you happy then so be it.

[@glitterrose1810]

@@Orahh_xYou are absolutely right.

[@glitterrose1810]

@@f2v179 Basile! You just have to set boundaries

[@letsomoloi6958]

It’s Xoli’s face saying EVERYTHING 😂😂😂 love you Aunty D 😘

[@busigime3942]

I’m a big fan of Aunty Darlin ❤️

[@khathutshelo051]

My mother always complemented me and all. So by the time the big bullies at school teased me or anything I was super confident. 👌.

[@Her_Self..]

Underated comment. I actually love tht Rele asked how ws ur upbringing like . Parents play a major role shame. Um so glad ur mama did her part. Also learning to be intentional abt how l raise my kids

[@nangafubesi2154]

Complimented myself mna and I've always been the babes with the most confidence. Noba bangandibuza do I eat na

[@Her_Self..]

@@nangafubesi2154 hahahaha my kinda woman. To be honest um super insecure but some days you gotta be ur own cheerleader and do the Naomi Campbell walk. Life is too short to live it in a shell. Love your comment will also be intentional abt hyping myself🤣

[@thandiwejambawa7827]

You have the best mom

[@thuthukiledlamini6850]

That's what I'm practicing with my daughter, she's chubby naturally like since she was born so I want her to love her body the way she is and she's a beautiful caramel skin (like her mama) It took me 25 years to love the body I was in..being a mom really helped me love the body I have

[@kitty.la_deesse]

For those judging Xoli's facial expressions, she reacted the same way most of us reacted the moment the lady said she wants to look like Michael Jackson so she's not being judgemental she didn't see the response coming lol

[@obakengmothokoa918]

Lol I am sorry I was going to laugh 😂

[@tthutom]

@@obakengmothokoa918 😂😂😂

[@charmainesayi]

It was more than once tho

[@albechabikoumou5647]

That was my face experession 2

[@nonkumonkoe]

I also didn't see that one coming, MJ was PALE...

[@ratiwabammekwa4219]

You will never understand what people are going through until you listen to their story, very brave

[@majesticmelanin2218]

Why are we so hasty to weaponize being '' insecure' as if it isn't a natural and common experience for a lot of us women. But since yall want to be so vocal, ask yourself, when was the last time you told another woman that she was beautiful, that she was enough. Self-esteem is not built in isolation, so instead of wasting your breath criticizing people for being insecure, use your voice to help build the esteem of another. A compliment will not kill you.

[@switchillli]

Thank you for this comment. Same applies for people being accused of being “desperate “ .. it’s a natural human emotion

[@Facieee]

True. And insecurity is not reserved for just women. We all go through it, men, women, black, white, wealthy and poor

[@Jussie_7]

❤️❤️

[@elle_l808l]

I love your comment ❤️ insecurities should not be weaponized against anyone, it's a normal feeling that can go away with just reassurance from ourselves and other people. Being kind to others is important since insecurities are often triggered by what someone else said

[@leratoranamane9529]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@noxolozungu6945]

Aunty Darlin' is so smart please, the way she answers all the questions.

[@EverythingKelly_M]

The lady in red expresses herself so well..wow! Great interview as always.💜

[@Yassmiinn.]

I'm pretty sure you mean the lady in the black dress. Xoli.

[@yamfalas4390]

@@Yassmiinn. No dear, she does not. She clearly said the lady in red and there are 48 ppl who agree with her

[@nomusadlamini752]

The woman in red, I also feel that way

[@gush3645]

Emotions aside the lady in red STRUGGLED to express herself. She couldn't even construct a sentence properly. Vernacular would hv been better for her. Asiyekeni ukuqakazela into engekho

[@EverythingKelly_M]

@@gush3645 that’s your opinion. I understood her perfectly.

[@tapsy6769]

Going under the knife to look a certain way will always be an indicator of some level of insecurity. The physical trauma that comes from a procedure such as a bbl is a lot. The amount of money is a lot. You wouldn’t really go to those lengths if you were happy and accepting of your body. It’s so important to look within before undergoing these procedures, who’s to say you will be happy after it. Many celebs who have done it are constantly going back under the knife trying to “fix” or “better” themselves.

[@pointa2b388]

I also think bathing everyday is a sign of insecurity. Going under the knife is goin under the knife. Do not link it to anything

[@charmainesayi]

@@pointa2b388 hahah bathing?? You could have used another analogy fam

[@CareerGrowthSA]

@PointA2B Daily bathing of some sort is necessary to avoid odors, infections and germs. Now that is the reason we bath everyday. I think You are confusing the two all in the name of trying to be defensive. Going under the knife you are opening room for those infections. Nothing wrong about what any of beautiful ladies did though, just saying.

[@kgabomolele3346]

Girl, honestly nobody cares. Surgery isn't a problem honestly, if it makes people happy let them be, so what if they have insecurities

[@Naughtorious]

Well we all have insecurities really, for some it’s physical, some it’s psychological My mantra is, as long as nobody dies, do what makes you happy

[@itsyourgirltee3754]

I have a naturally curvy body but once I have these children i am definitely doing a mommy makeover. Exercising and eating clean to lose weight is hard. I have lost over 30kilos and maintained for the last past 4 years, and thinking of starting to lose weight again is traumatizing at just the thought. I would rather maintain after surgery. Aunty Darlin thanks for the transparency❤ To the lady doing skin lightening you are beautiful mami ❤

[@mphomohlabula8164]

How did you lose 30kg sis? And how long did it take you?

[@itsyourgirltee3754]

@@mphomohlabula8164 hi sis. I got a personal trainer at Virgin Active train 4 times a week and I started eating healthier( no diets! just eating more fruits and veg, less junk and cut out fizzy drinks and less alcohol) and gradually lost weight over the course of 1 year it actually took me 13 months in total. I refused to rush the process. And i till this day have a personal trainer & eat healthy. Slow and steady especially if you looking to lose alot of weight❤ Enjoy the process❤

[@itsyourgirltee3754]

@@mphomohlabula8164 also you dont need a trainer, i got one cause I needed the accountability. You can walk or even jog or even find outdoor bootcamps in your area and join. Just stay active

[@keneuwemopeli1717]

Why do people who hate their physical appearances like lying about the obvious : they are not happy with their physical being hence they change it. It is okay to admit that u hate your skin tone or body figure. You change what you don't like or what you hate. They look good, and it's good for them n their self esteem. We all know that society is mostly responsible for crushing our confidence hence we get so self conscious.

[@beingterryofficial]

Not Awelani saying she wants to look like Michael Jackson and Xoli wanting to crack up wow what a moment.

[@thelazysnapper]

Xoli sometimes hey

[@uThembelihle]

I can imagine how Xoli feels having to hold that laugh 🤣😂

[@siyamtolo6733]

Xoli's face killed me🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ongeziwecokoto3043]

Her face? Priceless😭😭😭

[@siyamtolo6733]

@@ongeziwecokoto3043 🤣🤣🤣

[@Filoe365]

Thanks ladles, I love the confidence you all have in yourselves 💚 I will definitely do a teeth enhancement.

[@winekamatshingana3844]

I'm definitely doing it too

[@thobilebeta5343]

This thing of adults comparing children and commenting on children's complexion is very dangerous. People need to chill and mind their business.

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

Agreed. It damages a child's mind..

[@duduzilemn6597]

I agree, it's so damaging. Even comparing looks, saying one is prettier than the other .

[@ronicakuntes9562]

Tell me about it 😪 my mom's friend constantly comparing my complexion with my sister's

[@duduzilemn6597]

@@ronicakuntes9562 like honestly some comments are unnecessary , our parents wow

[@RainQueen]

This is such a great episode! Your questions are so good! and I love how open your guests are. This is so educational.

[@iambloopy]

Xoli really wears what she feels and thinks on her face 😭😭 girl, she wasn't even trying! 🤣🤣

[@SuburbanZulu]

25:26 😂😂😂

[@iambloopy]

@@SuburbanZulu 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tondidiamond8743]

That's not how a woman as old as her should behave so disgusting

[@siyatheyoutuber]

@@SuburbanZulu i can't stop replaying this, she killed me

[@iambloopy]

@@tondidiamond8743 true but its so funny

[@tanyasnyman-stanford8012]

The lady in the red didn't necessarily articulate herself well in the queen's language, but I must say she very bright and I feel I understood of a lot of what she was saying and her thoughts. All the best to them both.

[@FirstLadyG]

Pls English is not the African language they forced it on us. Why don't the English or white people learn our language instead. She spoke better English than some English people.

[@tanyasnyman-stanford8012]

@African Royalty that's the point I'm trying to highlight. That she's bright and that this foreign language that was thrust upon us is not a defining factor to intelligence

[@MissVeeMokoena]

That's how she speaks

[@sontomtolo473]

@@FirstLadyG 💯🙌

[@Yassmiinn.]

@@FirstLadyG Lol she spoke better English than most English people? Haaa! Amanga.

[@tamaramoni6767]

R89K....😳 Aaiii angekhe ningase ngihlale nezpejeje zami.....😎

[@dimakatsondala9229]

🤣🤣Zpejeje

[@sithabilebuthelezi8275]

🤣🤣🤣

[@Leradennis]

Xoli trying so hard not to laugh is taking me out!😂

[@zee484]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣her facial expressions are killing me

[@fezekasipondo6434]

Laugh at what?

[@jabulilem1474]

Ey that's me🤣

[@mbalimlangeni7712]

She wants to laugh and her makeup! Ayifani ne skin tone 😅

[@ntombikaDlamini28]

Oh she’s gorgeous xoli

[@thandiwejambawa7827]

I have watched a few videos of other youtubers and read some comments made by some South Africans. If someone is light in complexion, has a small waist and is curvy, they say you look like a South African. It makes the other ones feel like they don't belong

[@jaiyaalexandra144]

Are you a South African?

[@ShantyKganyagoVlogs]

Growing up I was skinny and even after having 2 babies was still skinny at some point my wish was to gain a little bit of weight and always been obsessed with a bigger butt and now I am in my 30s and Ive gaines very well and on a thought Im like I don't really want to get fat I am fine wearing a size 32. Then with growing up being darker I was always bullied and would be clean "xintimama" or "black cat" and I was also surrounded by people who would bleached themselves but what motivated me to believe that my colour is just too beautiful is when I grew up and seeing more darker models. I thank God for giving me the courage of passing that temptation of bleaching my skin tone or attempting to use things to enlarge my bum or gain weight.

[@ataa69120]

This lady is an excellent host She asked great questions and didn’t judge her guests and their choices The fact that she started with their upbringing , childhood and family environment says a lot because all our insecurities come from there Love that the guests were honest and didn’t sugarcode anything Great interview 👍

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you for watching and commenting!

[@catchup1817]

Xoli was diplomatic about the person she looked up to!

[@Thuli_Kumalo]

Yeah I agree.... she was trying to sound smart you know🥲

[@KimMarshall44]

Or narcissistic 💅🏾

[@nhlalwenhledube4472]

She lied😏

[@nhlalwenhledube4472]

She lied😏

[@oleratomaleme]

Xoli is such a confident woman... I love her ❤️

[@patienceserasengwe7103]

BBL is definitely not for the weak. Xoli was emotional. Mna I'm hitting the gym.

[@nonkumonkoe]

I am light skinned was not too big when growing up. I was still teased in school and told I am in the "beautiful Category" because I am light skinned if they would take away the color I would be ugly. Also was also given names like pinky, sbovu, so there is no1 who go away skot free in high school.

[@mogopoleng3274]

True. Nami I am light but I am aware that the bulling would have been worse if I was dark. I am not surprised that I come from Limpopo a province where a lot of women bleach.

[@nhlalwenhledube4472]

Hahahaha your comment just made my day. True in high school noone goes skot free oneway or the other you get teased for something. So its up to you how you take it and all

[@nhlalwenhledube4472]

Hahahaha your comment just made my day. True in high school noone goes skot free oneway or the other you get teased for something. So its up to you how you take it and all

[@sincerely_sphesihle]

I absolutely love u Xoli Gcabashe. Love her, the realest.

[@Sibusiso6]

Awelani................no man. I know we chuckled when she mentioned Michael Jackson but this broke my heart. This is so deep.

[@Yassmiinn.]

I didn't even find it funny, just weird and shocking really.

[@gotdamnimin]

It made me sad, looks like she doesn't love herself enough, even though she's trying to convince everyone that she loves herself.😓

[@caroline3844]

XO is dying at this lady’s answers 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@kamanoledwaba4994]

I don’t understand people who say Miss Xo is wrong when she almost laughed at the lady in Red when she said she wants to look like Michael Jackson, Haibo was she supposed to cry yin?🤣

[@jabubuthelezi4822]

😂😂😂

[@omphemetsemolatlhwa9019]

I laughed too I was going to burst out laughing if I was sitting there 😂 🤣

[@nolwazimathibela5321]

I'd also laugh shame

[@sihledunamiz420]

For us who know Miss XO hayi shame we get her, we relate with her, nobody is perfect. What the lady said is funny even she smiled and saw everyone’s response, even our response.

[@unicahmanyapelo4356]

I laughed so hard 🤣🤣🤣

[@EverHopeful555]

Ms XO in the house!

[@NwabisaRadebe]

Body augmentation is a temporary fix. It doesn't fix body dysmorphia issues or any other mental issue connected to low self perception. You may be as light as Michael Jackson but still feel like the dark skinned little girl who was called "Kiwi" throughout primary.

[@ShuvaiAprilzw]

Thank you ladies for such a balanced account of your journey both the good and the bad.

[@zen5526]

Relebongile asking the right questions we all want to know

[@obakengleseyane6493]

Yet another simply great show. Relebogile you are amazing!

[@a.dlamini]

It's so fascinating, us skinny girls were made fun of for being skinny being called skinny bones. It's really interesting. Enjoyed the episode I also thought Xoli was petite on screen Lebo

[@nondumisobuthelezi3964]

I also perceived Xoli as petite, I am surprised to find that she's actually big boned.

[@nokwandasbiya6462]

As a child was bullied for having a big bum and small waist. Even now I prefer loose clothes because I just don’t want to draw attention to myself.

[@Yassmiinn.]

@@nondumisobuthelezi3964 she's always said on her videos that she's big boned.

[@tthutom]

But most of the time she said it in her videos that she is big boned, since from childhood. Unless you didn't pay attention to what she said.

[@tthutom]

@@Yassmiinn. she always said it in some if not most of her videos.

[@olgadutoit9560]

Yoh!🥺 People go through a lot with surgery, sounds scary.😢

[@Godsmasterpiece33]

Haven't been here in a while. Glad to be back. Helloooo family 🥰

[@jaydee6178]

Me too hey, good to be back.

[@kgalalelolala6963]

Same girl. Welcome backb

[@Godsmasterpiece33]

@@jaydee6178 welcome back babe

[@Godsmasterpiece33]

@@kgalalelolala6963 welcome back to you babe.

[@zoxolondamase3602]

Yhoo I couldn't hold myself when she mentioned she wants to look like Michael Jackson😂😂😭 I actually don't know how they held their laughter😂😂😂 I am in tears

[@MahlodiKgatle]

Not Michael Jackson my sister, please😂. Shuuuu I have so much respect for Relebogile as a host. The things she hears on her show are out of this world.

[@m_tecturial]

If Khanyi achieved the pale light skin, so can she. All it requires is money and good products

[@queenzee520]

@@lungilekhuzwayo8516 😂😂😂

[@portiemuleya2147]

Haaa I'm also shocked. Michael Jackson phoo. Hayi kunzima emhlabeni.

[@ghostlee2546]

i wouldn't be able to keep a straight face

[@unicahmanyapelo4356]

🤣🤣

[@futuremrshusband314]

Miss XO....Such a Queen.

[@segomosh]

Doesn't matter how much money you'll spend trying to fix your appearance ...it will never fill that void or fix those internal issues.. In the words of Queen B "It's the soul that needs the surgery"

[@tsholophatlhane2157]

That is true.

[@JabulisileMangwane]

Shoooh so deep SOUL SURGERY

[@dimakatsosetwaba5757]

This was insightful, very insightful. loved hearing about their experiences & journeys. thank you ladies ,Thank you Relebogile .

[@pointa2b388]

Andizi shem mainly for how she explains the pain she went through. I thought of having a tattoo, i wont because i am just scared of pain. You ladies are strong shem

[@nondo2.045]

You can use local anaesthetic (cream) to numb the area to avoid the pain.

[@misschidotv]

dear host, your venue setup drives me crazy, its so cosy and beautiful!

[@zandileswelindawo4864]

Miss XO saying she doesn't lookup to anybody 🙄🙄lies!!

[@sontomtolo473]

I've watched almost every episode on this channel but I have *NEVER* seen such a crazy comment section 🤞🤣😂Thanks to Miss xo for being honest unlike most influencers & celebrities who constantly tell people to hit the gym and maintain a healthy diet🙄🙄mxm, liars! Meanwhile they're outchea doing lipo suction etc. Not that there's anything wrong with it but why lie?!

[@mashudumulaudzi8229]

Thank you

[@nellyburu7322]

They go under the knife and come sell us waist trainers and tea's!

[@ntandoyenkosidube9702]

@@nellyburu7322 😅😅😅true story

[@lesh1986]

I think one of the interviews should be about you tubers, how did they come to do you tubing,how much they are earning first months of monetizing and now in you tube,how did they decide to do it full time etc etc

[@switchillli]

No please. We are tired of hearing about influencers and kganyi mbau. I recon bringing scientists. Something educational would be nice

[@lesh1986]

@@switchillli its still fine if you want.i was talking about me,what i would love to see. im tired of things we grew up hearing about making a living.its now time to hear about things we normally dont consider to be done making a living.you tubers i dont mean famous influencers nd celebirities.im saying ordinary people you tubing making a living out of it.we have so many unemployed graduates including unemployed scientists roaming the street,who are thinking for them to make a living its only when they do what they learned at school like being scientists,geologists,acc.but they are so many ways of becoming millionares out there.morallly decent ways.making money from you tube,making money from facebook advertising,etc.what has Khanyi has to do with you tubing.

[@nothandodlamini3192]

The way yall are treating the lady in red is disgusting angfun kungasho. Yes some of the things she said are funny but making fun of her particularly is a no no.

[@divinepeaceInternational]

💔

[@Kgomotso_Mosotho]

Thanks for saying that Nothando. It's sad

[@khensanebaloyi6835]

Relebogile always asking the right questions 🔥❤️💋🤩

[@aphiwemasaleguba9942]

Aunti darlins reaction when she said” I want to look like Micheal Jackson”😂😂

[@rdjalloh]

😂 😂 😂 😂

[@iam_karabor759]

She wanted to bust 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Gosh Yoh literally took words out of my mouth 😂😂😂

[@ntabasentuli7390]

🤣🤣🤣

[@ntokozozulu4284]

She wanted to say 'Heyy please what's your P'🤣

[@christinegweredza9635]

@@ntokozozulu4284 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@siyamtolo6733]

Aunty Darlin 😘 If Xoli had not said we wouldn't notice the difference. She didn't do too much!

[@siyamtolo6733]

@@phathyladyb4578 it's really just a shortcut from gym. That's the exact reason I'd do it.

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

Those who knew her body before would see the difference but if you never did you wouldn't.

[@siyamtolo6733]

@@RayOfLetsatsi I know her body from before and I still look at the before and after namanje.

[@siyamtolo6733]

@@RayOfLetsatsi my point is not that there is no change but that because she didn't do too much it looks like she just went to gym unlike most BBLs we see where you can tell even if you don't know the person before ukuthi they did something to their body. Hers looks 100% natural. That's my point not ukuthi there is no difference at all.

[@nondumisobuthelezi3964]

I dont know Xoli personally but I recently saw her transformed body and I immediately saw that there was a difference. I didnt take the time to check her YT channel but I definitely picked up that there was a change, her Dr did an outstanding job because her body looks so natural and beautiful.

[@jaydee6178]

You'll learn a lot from such content. 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@reneilwemorobe8204]

I ran here for Aunty Darlin ❤

[@damariszuckschwert9489]

Oh God have mercy on us, help your children to love themselves the way you created them. We are so confused.

[@dorothylerato8605]

We r realy confused believing that being beautiful u need a lighting skinn

[@damariszuckschwert9489]

@Dorothy Lerato I asking myself because she hate herself that much for being block what as she going to do if she's gonna have kids and turn up black like her original skin? Will she also bleach them? This low esteem thing and self hate is on high level.

[@dorothylerato8605]

Some black people hate themselves for being black now u have to go to the graveyard an explain why u look the way u look because u know the ancestors won't recognize u,such a shame or maybe she won't have kids at all and I think she hated her father for being dark.

[@sammie_khay2604]

Miss darlin is in the building 😍🔥love this show it's so convineint and is very unique

[@dipseemapotoka7613]

"i didn't want my butt to be so big, you don't understand whether you coming or going" 😂😂😂miss xo is so funny

[@siphesihlemdletshemkhwanaz864]

What a beautiful episode. I enjoyed it.

[@lulufierce01]

I heard everything. But xoli having R89000 available unplanned was it for me. I stan this queen. Yho i need to work

[@drbella3524]

She’s lying coz she spoke about her saving for a BBL and having these men give her coins coz she wanted to do a procedure. If you go back to her blogs or story times you’ll hear.

[@tebogosithole8920]

Aunty Darlin 🔥🔥 love how open she is about it

[@QuantumPrincess27]

"One morning you wake up, your butt is so small and you're like 'what did I do this for?!' ;the next morning you wake up, it's so big and your just like 'what is happening!?' "..........wow ......sounds like a mild case of body dysmorphia. Hope all ladies know they're beautiful, no matter what!!!!!

[@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y]

It would be wonderful if dark skin girls would lean into emphasizing their strengths, I find they can pull off more colors than lighter skinned women. A great example is bright yellow. The darkest skinned women also look leaner, more athletic and They also age a lot slower. My personal standard of beauty have always been dark women and curly hair.

[@irenemosasejake89]

As a dark skinned person it’s not as easy as this, most dark skinned people if not all, had to know more or “develop a personality” because they were not chosen from the start. And it’s not as easy as dating, it’s in class, not being the first option for any team, nobody wanting to play with you etc, you get older then see how people ignore you like you don’t exist so you send your lighter friend to go order for you, you see the differences in how you are treated. conversations were your beauty is centred around being “dark skinned” whereas everyone else is just beautiful. Why must a dark skinned person say something smart before people notice them? You being attracted to dark women does nothing for the person because they are still existing within a world where they are constantly reminded their inferior.

[@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y]

@@irenemosasejake89You make it sound like a disease. I'm trying to say it's a strength. Bullying is a problem, but it happens regardless of how you look. I speak from experience, avoiding people my own age when I was younger allowed me to focus on my education, which I'm grateful for. It is a strength, I'm saying natural hair, dark skin is the first thing that attracts me to a woman. Once I've approached her it's all down to chemistry. I'm not basing my love on a phenotype, it takes more than being attracted to each other on a superficial level. Irene, I'm sorry people treat you poorly. I'm sure you're far more interesting than them after having to develop a personality and knowledge.

[@krystingrant6292]

A family Friend passed from bbl she was 42yo. Passed in Dominican Republic the family had a hard time getting her body shipped back to the states. Heartbreaking for her kids it stopped my Mom from going

[@tshegofatsothembu4998]

I love Xoli’s facial expressions when the lady says she wants to look like Michael Jackson😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹.

[@natashamamba7734]

lol, I resonate so much with Xoli's facial expressions

[@noreenm5018]

Like the lady in black, I never ever wanted to look like anybody. For me from a very young age, I understood, that I would never be or look like anybody except myself.

[@chantelm186]

Guys you see Miss XO understand and know what she wants. She is gorgeous love her

[@DimphoM]

I'm so happy to see myFav's growth ❤️✨ #XoliGcabhashe

[@prkhumzicles]

Nah Fam , Xoli's reaction was the one. I don't know why people are coming for her for that. Michael Jackson had Vitiligo he was boader line Albino. Xoli wasn't judging she was reacting thats the difference

[@Yassmiinn.]

Lol vitiligo and albinism are two very different conditions.

[@trevor_reeves]

Miss XO's facial expressions are killing me 😂

[@michelebrown5142]

I was the darkest in my immediate family Two of my three older brothers teased me unmercifully. As I started to go to school I saw girls who were darker than me. I learned to appreciate my complexion and now I love it. My brother's had me believing I was the darkest girl on the planet. And I've found that men also love my complexion. It seems to me that alot of light skinned women seem to have an issue with dark skinned women. Women seem to want what they aren't. 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@kuselwaleona6483]

Both ladies made these decisions based partly on what others thought of them (bullies in XO's case and being compared to a lighter skinned mother as if she was not deserving). We need to be kinder to little girls, they really take that stuff to the grave. Just imagine if nothing negetive was said? Their journeys would be different...let's think before we speak especially to kids. I don't believe their claim of being confident, I think they have normalized deep insecurities and trauma. I wish them well thou.

[@janetjohnston1702]

I do believe that they are confident now since they both got what they want or atleast the lady in black did and the other lady can be considered confident that before her skin lightening journey 🤔 maybe she'll be more confident when she's MJ complexion level but I'm more worried about her because she actually said 'It's never enough' which shows signs a possibility of addiction 🤔

[@noziphotshabalala5018]

That could be one factor, but there’s beauty standards marketed to women as well, beauty is currency in our society.

[@sihledunamiz420]

I’m here for Miss XO’s facial expression and shock at 23:43, hayi sana Xhosa women, uzinqandile ekukhuzeni nasekuhlekeni umntase 😂😂😂

[@nikiwejentu9565]

I love Xoli, but I feel like her answers are rehearsed. I think she’s gotten so used to responding to people questioning her about her journey. That she’s telling people what she thinks they wanna hear.

[@khutsomaponya5511]

Awelani is not as articulate and that is why it is easy to ridicule her. I feel like Relebogile had no right to challenge her Michael Jackson aspirations. Who has the threshold to body modification? If she wants to, why not? Xoli was hurt by people who ridiculed her for getting a BBL which wasn't visible but she's here pulling faces about another woman's aspirations. She should do better. This interview should be an eye-opener for Releogile. Possibly shed light on some quests understanding questions better in their mother tongue and articulating themselves better in their mother tongue.

[@nonkosi8021]

The abused become abusers. How we treat other people is the reflection of how we were treated, how we feel inside. Belittling Awelani wasnt on.

[@Elizabeth-vu1tb]

People will highlight things about yourself that you didn’t even see as a “problem”.. and with this ever changing definition of “beauty “ is, it’s crazy. People will ALWAYS find something wrong with everyone!!. Even after the BBL people still come from her nose; even after skin lightening people tease/bully. It’s just heart breaking!.