Retroactive Jealousy: How to deal with the thoughts

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[@deciduousrex1219]

This subject puts an immense strain on my relationship. And has done so all my life, in every romantic relationship. Thank you for starting me on my journey to rid myself of this.

[@HappyJ7447]

sometimes our RJ distorts our beliefs. Finally, I never asked myself the question if I could go out with someone who had had casual relationships. now it bothers me and I also manage to understand that this happens, I'm a realist. part of me accepts it and part of me is disturbed. I feel like I didn't choose these beliefs and I would like to nuance them, accept them because I really love my girlfriend. it's really her

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This is a great video. Thanks so much. I think you are helping a lot of people

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

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You guys are angels, thank you so much for your videos and help!

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

Thanks for commenting! Glad it helps:)

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Really helpful thank you so much

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

So happy to hear you found the video valuable!!

[@dumanski5635]

Sorry for commenting late, but you talked in an older video about preferences, and if i knew at beginning what she did, i would never have started a relationship with her, but even tho i know it now, i want to stay. In this case, is it still possible to overcome this?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

yes

[@QuangPham-gy7ym]

Its shamefulness in my case, I realize that the root cause that make me struggle with her past is that I somehow feel ashamed dating girl that did certain things like that

[@LangwidereLMFT]

I wonder if that's related to gender stereotypes about men and women, those tend to play a big role in RJ.

[@QuangPham-gy7ym]

@@LangwidereLMFT the scenario is that i am okay with her sexual past except an ugly ex that she had before. I subconsciously feel humiliated by that fact. I think its something else other than RJ like narcicissism, superior complex or something like that

[@RideTheGamer]

Honestly, I need help. It turns out my partner lied to me about how our relationship began and so many other things she did in her past relationship and "firsts" we had in ours. The only thing we've basically done first together is intercourse and I don't know if that's true either, and I just don't know what to do because it's really been affecting my mind. I asked her to tell me the truth for months on end, and she promised she always did, but I snooped through her phone, and I know I shouldn't have, but it proved to me she's been lying to me since the beginning and I really don't know what to feel. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

I will make a video on this soon!

[@missy6361]

How do I work towards what’s triggering me? What questions should I ask myself?

[@overcomingrelationshipanxiety]

the meaning you have attached to the past that causes the emotional reaction in you when you get triggered

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