Revenge healing after a narcissistic relationship

[@shelleyd9910]

Here is one. He told me to “shut up” so I am speaking out. I will become a singer and a speaker. God gave me a voice and a gift.

[@shaniecegullison]

❤❤❤❤love this hell yess never give up

[@elizabeth5366]

Same here, I shut never sung again

[@peteanderson7294]

The best revenge is a life well lived and also giving back to those who have showed up when you really needed support. Ironically I also think this is the best form of gratitude to those who helped you.... a life well lived - because that is what people who care about you will want for you and giving back because you've survived and know how hard it is. I quietly go about both these things... working on a life well lived and giving back. Thanks Ramani Pete

[@timothygenaw2199]

No revenge is needed. Narcissists are miserable behind closed doors- never satisfied, critical, envious, negative. That must be a hard way to live.

[@flowersofthefield340]

That's the nature of evil 😈 it never ever changes !!!

[@marieborchardt2910]

I agree. I'm so glad I'm me and I can face my true self. The narcissist is empty and miserable and will never understand why.

[@llwydanwyl]

this sounds like something an enabler would say, don’t even give them your pity or consideration because they don’t even care

[@dredheadluna420]

U feel sorry for them

[@bridgetodonnell8800]

You are so correct. These people are so broken inside .

[@sharonkingston2821]

Feeling Indifferent toward toxic Narcissists is sweet revenge!

[@sikiescordova1826]

Writing a book about them would piss them off I love it 🥰 fire bomb them lol

[@emmalee7284]

"That's DOCTOR Ramani, bitch" Epic 🙌...this is why we love you, you are real, relatable, and remind us to stay strong and show respect to those who deserve us.

[@sunrise7244]

Loved it!!! 😎

[@cairosilver2932]

I don't think the narcissist deserved the news.

[@2023_music_]

Yes!!!❤👏

[@antoinette8519]

Loved this so much!!!

[@hadesashes]

I cackled out loud because those were the actual words that came out lol

[@nefarioussagittarius8906]

I think the best revenge you can get on a narcissist is when you live your life and leave them behind for good. They draw so much of their validation from convincing themselves that you need them. Literally the worst thing you can do is prove you don’t.

[@lynylcullen8370]

Ditto!

[@dinab7852]

Best comment on here.

[@thomashattey8037]

Living well is the best revenge.

[@DebRoo11]

*best thing you can do...

[@aboriginaleveything]

We all wanted revenge for what these dogs put us through. The best revenge is becoming a better version of you moving forward. The narcissist wanted to destroy us. The fact we are here and survived! Is the best revenge.

[@gqfilipino95]

Love the comment. Very true that we all have survived and learned to live without the narcissist in our lives.

[@gloriacoleman7012]

Right on the button.

[@umeshg9107]

To heal yourself forgiving is so much better than revenge

[@gqfilipino95]

@@umeshg9107 I agree and really tests us to be the better person.

[@ZestyAqua]

Wasn't dogs that are the problem toxic people are. Love dogs one tried to attack my dog he ripped open my arm better me than my sweet little dog's throat (which is what he was going for out of jealousy) that dog was abused badly. Have scars and 27 stitches happened as I was getting my stuff out of my ex's house. Wasn't mad at the dog ex wanted to kill him. His ex wife laughed at the fact the dog attacked me. Thought it was funny. 17 yrs of torture and trauma bonding. He was furious in the moment trying to kill the dog it was me ripped open that had to calm his ass how to drive me to the hospital. Which is very sad. Those scars remind me everyday of the actions of people more so than the dog. The domestic violence, narcissistic abuse. The belittling. The humiliations. All of it. Often cry. The dog went from loving on me being dominate over my dog...licking my face, bought them toys he then turned as I had my sweet guy on my lap still trying to love of that dog as well. Low growl then he went after my guy. Was him or my arm. Wasn't the dog I blamed. Was the cruelty by people that brought that dog to that point. Both my ex was dysfunctional to his son both kids. Everyday I'm grateful that he had a vasectomy. Was a serious blessing wish more narcissistic abusers or abusers/predators did get fixed and not breed. My ex's mom is a psychiatrist who was ABSOLUTELY NO HELP. In the process of trying to break the cycle of abuse through a business venture MORE ABUSERS latched on. Our society people are an issue way too many. Not the dogs. And when I hear folks call deception 'catfishing' very frustrating because Catfish do not deceive ignorant term- people do. It's Markling not catfishing. Fish simply want clean water as do I. Some species of catfish do clean waterways- people pollute them for irrational greed. And it is irrational pure narcissistic abuse this issue isn't a few isolated incidents it's a global Epidemic a global societal issue. Systemic cancer that is literally killing our planet crimes against humanity enabled Systemic abuse. So, these are the actions of canines these are the actions of homosapians. Our species. Frankly, revenge is simply a waste of time and energy these people already have no boundaries nor conscience they do not operate as others who aren't narcissistic abusers or predators. Simply don't. Many who very much care and are empathic. They strive to just be decent no corruption or tricks. Our society does enable toxic people and corruption repeatedly century after century repeated genocides then the abuses are justified- was in the name of a religious ideology or in the name of greed etc. As a result Our oceans are dying. Piles of trash EVERYWHERE, subpar products, still slavery (human trafficking), polluted air, water and soil. People did that on a planet we were gifted temporarily not dogs. People did that our species. So, these issues are indeed very, very serious. We can write and vent empty words or in action set a better example. The ambush abusive predators won't change not making my marketplace for them at all nor do I want to be 'equal' to those types. At all making it for the people who get it. Are seeing through the psychological warfare and gaslighting tactics adopted/enabled by consumers (we consumers out number a few) to me money isn't the issue it's the psychology around it that is the problem. Regardless of ethnicity, gender or age I want us to all have clean water, air and soil. If possible decent foundation of education based in REALITY not fantasy have a society with improved emotional IQ to critical thinking skills. Not blind followers. Can't stand all that. Now, we can't change the unhealthy CEOs, lobbyists, politicians to others who greatly enjoy enabling crimes against humanity keeping the corruption going- we can not stop that. We can be honest at our now. For example US celebrates Thanksgiving-we a group of repulsive Caucasians got together and burned many native Americans alive in a massacre after they helped them survive through knowledge and kindness. Slaughtered em and tortured them. Uncomfortable, real then celebrated those abuses. Been MANY Hitlers is my point those Hitlers are enabled these issues aren't new to our society. I point to the Crusades Slaughtering over ideology. The Muslim Slave trade that inspired the Atlantic slave trade dehumanizing marketplace is not new to the current human trafficking issues HUGE IN NUMBERS. Not discussed our country knows more about celebrities and pop stars than say our reality now. Needs the delusional distractions. That's widespread worldwide superficiality narcissistic abuse all the kids are seeing from the adults now- words & actions aren't matching. Revenge becomes a mass school shooter situation something we have experienced over 200 times since Columbine. Rather point out Columbus was a pos, slavery is trash created trash including a trash society then focus on improvement with those who get it understand these dynamics and strive not to be corrupt narcissistic abusers. Have empathy for those exploited and abused- not the predators/abusers. No empathy for them. Only pity really. We have a viper den globally everywhere these issues are all over. Prefer the go to another planet go to Mars & never come back the abusers. Go. I also don't want to live in a society people fake anything especially kindness. It's OK not to like someone or their actions etc. Simply understand the why? Why you feel this way? Critical rational views brought this channel area of research its a difficult study. Personally, Prefer not being completely alone while alive. As you cut people out I can say it's isolating. Dilemma why so many stay in situations they know are toxic it's what they know. We repeat history not because we necessarily like it we know it. Some at least. Why domestic violence is so difficult to address our society attacks the ones raped and abused who speak up- they make excuses for the abusers. Question is why? Narcissistic Abusive society that's why. Instead of offering kindness or humanity the masses attack. The people have already endured hell on Earth. I was only attacked by 1 dog- many have attacked humans over my lifetime it's too exhausting. A dog can be rehabilitated I don't think many people can or want to. They aren't accountable or escape via say diplomatic immunity for example (in my situation) these people have money, connections and are well known globally. I know my truth what happened many also knew including Obama they said nothing enabled it all. Can say there is no place to hide or run to escape what is happening I speak from experience. One thing I know they will get theirs despite what Dr. R says. Because these people create too many victims with their ways. Took oh, 20 yrs ish Jeffrey Epstein is now dead- I'm so glad our paths crossed knew his day would come- it did. There are more...He destroyed so many lives was a teen he tried to terrorize. Funny how you learn to bait a predator. They don't scare me. Just wish the adults had helped us kids then. Doesn't mean with the experiences and knowledge I can't trying I can only hope a few quality people will assist in making that a reality. Too much corruption on all sides it's gone too far been an issue for centuries. Enough is enough. Interested in thriving not just surviving.

[@williamallen3800]

My "revenge healing" was to quietly exit the relationship and to limit all conversations to polite exchanges one would have with a stranger. The biggest revenge is making sure they know that their narcissistic tendencies are known and will no longer work: I see the naked wizard behind the curtain and he is Gollum.

[@emilys.7953]

I saw the same thing! Now all I can hear is, "my precious!"

[@NarcSurvivor]

When you start healing from everything the narcissist put you through, it is the worst revenge you can take on them. They become very envious and jealous of you.

[@SamSolasdonSaol]

Ick. Envy and jealousy is never my motivation.

[@jvsaints3028]

My impression of primary narcissists is they may not be envious since that would necessitate their focus being on someone else. I remember saying to my primary, "I hope you become as unimportant to me as I have been to you." Thankfully, I have surpassed that goal.

[@D1C2]

@@jvsaints3028 Unfortunately, narcissists are envious of the people around them who do some things better than they do. This is very hurtful, especially if they are family members or people you thought were close friends. Normal, loving people are happy for someone close to them when they succeed, they don't feel envy for the loved ones. So that's what we offer and expect from all the loved ones around us. But narcissists just don't work that way. They show envy and anger when you do something better than them, even if you have no intention of upsetting anyone.

[@cindyanderson9425]

@@D1C2 So True!

[@karifoto]

They continue to be jealous of you! They start out that way.

[@antoinette8519]

My malignant narcissist ex-husband laughed at me when we moved to France (his country) and although I did not speak French at the time; I told him I wanted to learn French well enough to practice law there. I was already an attorney in the United States. I did learn French well enough to be hired as a General Counsel for a French corporation and I was able to divorce the narcissist and still stay in France and financially support myself and my son. My best revenge was for me to live well and far away from the narcissist!!!

[@PeLuRu4586]

Félicitations!

[@amberpischke7563]

Wow that’s amazing! My dream is to move to Europe also. I’m from the states. 😊

[@47beena]

No I feel rather apprehensive ! What if something wrong happens to my husband !

[@OhaiTurtle]

That's really impressive!

[@kresivarivkah612]

​@@amberpischke7563 Mine too!

[@anniejuan1817]

The best revenge is complete and utter indifference toward the narcissist(s) in your life.

[@sheryljoystewart1960]

100%

[@marieborchardt2910]

It takes a while to get there...

[@juiadkar1374]

Yes indifference is the best revenge. They just cannot handle it. 😂 I have learnt it after many many years of abuse from narcissists of different levels.

[@kire115]

Yes. Maintaining frame… powerful.

[@alanalbin7432]

I don't want vengeance. I want justice. And that's impossible, because the narcissist can never feel the kind of pain that they inflict on their victims.

[@dustinnukem5458]

Living well is the best revenge.

[@detjaggillar8081]

Exactly 💯

[@ten3353]

This ✌🏼

[@tia-flame]

Yes

[@kyandiegyal]

"Thats Dr Ramani b*tch"... I've never clapped so loudly in my life. I felt the joy for you. You are inspiring.

[@ashfran]

When I was preparing for college, my mother's husband (the narcissist) felt the need to tell me that I wouldn't make it through college, that it would be too demanding for me, or I'm just not smart enough. I was quite the academic in high school, but I was too young to realize my capabilities, and his manipulation worked. I'm in my 30s now, and I'm working towards my PhD in Criminal psychology. I plan to give my mother a copy of my dissertation.

[@timothydraper6626]

Well done.

[@SamSolasdonSaol]

YAYYY!!! Do you mind if I ask what you've chosen for your dissertation?

[@annmaryvarghese3702]

Amazing...

[@Datamaiden]

You go girl!

[@SabiLewSounds]

When I was preparing to change my major to music education my brother did the same thing. He told me college wasnt a game and that I was trying to do music because it was "easy." I didnt get to finish because of money and I hate that I never got to prove him wrong. He doesnt care sure... I still do music to this day and try to help others still by doing a podcast about mental health. It's been a tough year but ik I am not lazy, dumb nor childish like he loved to make me feel.

[@sarahferguson1830]

"It's Dr. Ramani, bitch." Priceless. You are beyond amazing, Dr. Ramani. Thank you!

[@summerro6455]

My hero!!

[@fishliver2601]

"You'll always be big, even if you lose weight." Currently, I've lost 168 pounds and am listening to this while training for a half marathon. "You won't make it without my money and you damn well know it!" Yesterday I interviewed for a job and was hired for a position with more responsibility and pay than what I applied for. "You're all about drama!" I was recently asked to lead a working group on how to foster communication between co-parents based on the drastic turnaround that I've made with a very contentious relationship in my life. Revenge is a dish best served BOLD! "You're too sensitive!" My child woke up early, crept into bed with me and told me that he loves that I'm his mom. Then he kissed my face and fell back to sleep in my arms.

[@SamSolasdonSaol]

Loveeee❣️❣️❣️

[@barbaraburbey7654]

I love this!

[@sunrise7244]

Love it!!!! 💕

[@cassandrachavez6501]

Love this! 💗

[@shadomly]

Congratulations fishliver! This is the spirit to get out of the narcissist’s toxicity and living your life to the best! 🙌

[@SharonFCorey]

About a year ago a friend asked me what the final straw was that made me leave and my answer was, I finally realized that no matter how hard I tried to please him, it was never enough and it was never going to be enough. As for revenge, at an early age my mother taught me that if you wish something bad would happen to someone that has done or said something to hurt you, that it would come back on you by something bad happening to you or worse, to someone you love. This pops into my brain the very minute that negative thoughts creap into my brain about someone that has hurt me. Someone else said recently on another video on Narcissistic Behaviors that "The best revenge is to have A GREAT LIFE! This is exactly what I am doing.

[@jenniferbaldwin8204]

I am going no contact today. Thank you Dr. Ramani for helping me understand my life, my pain, and understanding the relationships I've spent my entire life surrounded by and how they have influenced me.

[@quincicoates2490]

Good for you. Don't look back. You're going to feel so much better.

[@Josh19981]

Wishing you all the best! The hardest (and best) thing I did. I spent SO much time looking on social media looking at his new life and new relationship (6 weeks after our three year relationship). It was torture (self-inflicted). You can absolutely do it! Wishing you all the best x

[@breakthrough1019]

Be loving and kind to yourself .. you matter

[@ciscocisco6119]

Good for u, block them, change your ringtones and notifications tones change it, but top of all block them fast. 💪✌

[@olson.pamela]

I wish I would have 50 yes ago. Hanging in there with my NPD mom was more costly than it was worth. The rest of my family never got it. Still.

[@katiepayne2479]

They told me "you'd be nothing without me. You're lazy. No one will ever love you like I do." 12 years later, I'm 10 years with the most amazing relationship with a wonderful husband. I've taught myself many skills. I'm a respected and important member in my church. I have a great group of close friends who love and support one another. I have real love, encouragement, and support in my life. I don't walk on eggshells around my husband, who loves me better and more completely than I ever knew possible. I am doing life on God's terms and proud of how far I have come. They wanted to kill me, but here I am thriving.

[@shaniecegullison]

Love this

[@alicej722]

The way I see it is that it’s not about proving others wrong, but about proving to ourselves that we never had a reason to believe them in the first place. Thank you for this video, I’ve not been feeling so great recently but your videos always seem to get me back on track!

[@francesbernard2445]

It is healthy when wanting to prove someone wrong only in good ways after being given a poor prognosis about anything. A narcissist goes about that all wrong though.

[@seabreeze4559]

cui bono

[@StayCD]

I agree with Alice 100%. Narcissists in my life have fed off negative messages from others, it increases their drive to prove to all they are conquerors. Then use their newfound power, position and privilege to hurt others. It’s a twisted game. I focus on the fact I am my best champion, and they missed an opportunity to know me because of their flawed thinking and behavior. They are losers in the end not conquerors. A sad statement of their life.

[@kittyblack1538]

You said it so well Alice, and I totally vibe with feeling off. Lately I've also been feeling quite low, and Dr Ramani really helps me feel hope. Sending you love Alice we're all in it together! 💙

[@alicej722]

@@kittyblack1538 Thank you so much! 💗

[@chrissyw.7500]

My revenge is working out, hanging out with my loved ones, dancing, painting, being an awesome fun mom and so much more. Im so happy to be falling deeply in love with ME💜

[@meredithcosta7374]

Yes. At one time I wanted revenge, but then I realized the best revenge would be to let go, forgive, and try to help others who are going through this. I got into therapy, I went through the pain of no contact, and then I wrote a book and started a group on Facebook for sufferers of narcissistic abuse. I wouldn't say I ever wanted revenge, per say. I just wanted myself back, and I realized the only way to get there was to go through it and come out on the other side. Thank you, Dr. Ramani! You're wonderful! I wouldn't have come through the heaviest times in my no contact effort without your videos.

[@IreneKrasnoff]

Good for you! I love that you wrote a book and started a FB Group.

[@NiijiAl-Haqq]

Ditto! It's a waste of precious time and energy. You took the understanding of what the pain of your experience presented and made something positive for others! I too, am grateful for Dr. Ramani and I wish and want for you, all the best in your continued recovery and in helping others! 🥰💯💞

[@wellsr9280]

What is your book called? I would love to look it up. Same for your Facebook group!

[@gloriacoleman7012]

Good on you Meredith you are bringing light and love to others, God bless.

[@umeshg9107]

I agree wholeheartedly. in India Priyanka Gandhi the child of Rajiv Gandhi met Rajiv's murderer as an act of forgiveness for her own healing and was so overcome with emotions and could not speak. the whole family has written to reduce the sentence of the murderer. This act of forgiveness did not come easy but is a step towards their mental well being.

[@Yennojo]

I have gotten my revenge and I am achieving my dreams and meeting my goals in strides. I came out from with nothing to having the upper hand and I am glad.

[@ilovecargoshorts8634]

Reinventing yourself is a super power. Welcoming change is a rebellion. So dope. Thank YOU…

[@tlove6932]

Yes, don't have the strength for it. Too much damage for far too long. No dreams left either. They killed all those. Guess my Daughter & i are stuck in their slave cage forever.

[@tlove6932]

YES 💯💯💯

[@stacyjaye6350]

@@tlove6932 holy crap I hope you can get out. Get on the bus, Gus, make a little plan, Stan, drop off the key, Lee, and get yourself free.

[@tlove6932]

@@stacyjaye6350 Wish it was that easy.

[@lorirarich1875]

Reinventing is a struggle. Lots because it happens when you don't want to do effort but have to. Options get exhausted. It's creative but i have to do it so often lol!

[@AAXS-op1vo]

“That’s DOCTOR Ramani, Biyatch!” I LOVE IT!🙅🏽‍♀️

[@iamabundance1780]

The best revenge is to better yourself!!!

[@therealbronxilla]

My situation is somewhat different. My ex-narc devalued my whole life before I met her, as if all I had done and accomplished was meaningless. She came from a world of glitz and glam, and my life was too pedestrian for her. She judged me as "living under a rock" because I was unfamiliar with luxury items or fine dining restaurants. Before I met her I had lived a full though challenging life (where my wife demeaned me as a person in other ways). I am so glad that I have my life back now that she's out of it, and that I don't need to meet some goal based on empty materialistic "values." I don't need to "do" anything to get revenge; I just need to recapture the value that my life already had, and still has, before she came along and devalued it.

[@AdorkableHarleyFairy]

Post traumatic growth is one of the most beautiful things to witness 😍🥰🥳

[@internetpaper1]

*"That's Dr Romani bitch" needs to be on a shirt. I would buy it.*

[@shannonoconnor2066]

Yes!

[@kathysamson5691]

I would like one too!

[@RachelChristman]

I need that shirt!

[@shaniecegullison]

Yesss hahaha sameee❤❤❤❤

[@lindabell6954]

Sometimes they are envious and simply want to discourage you because they see your potential, and do not want you to succeed. Yes, please write another fantastic book Dr. Ramani.

[@garycole8365]

That's the whole motive for the beat-down. Tear others down because they are too lazy to do the work to make themselves a better person. Kinda like crabs in a pot.

[@mandarinadreux9572]

i agree. Often it's about jealousy. Especially in mother-daughter relationships I feel. The narcississtic mother is afraid that the daughter will "outshine" the mother and effecitvely render her "useless" because she might be prettier, younger, more talented etc. etc. and they crush them down preventively. Jealousy is so toxic. I wonder how many outstanding talents in arts, literature, acting etc. etc have been silenced this way.

[@annajeff810]

Dr. Ramani, you’ve saved my life! Watching your videos made me realize I’ve been married to a covert narcissist for over 11 years. I stumbled upon your videos just over a month ago and I’m now moved out and in the process of getting divorced. Once you see it, you can’t unsee it! My husband and most of his family are trying to hoover me back, but everything they have attempted just confirms that I’m doing the right thing by getting my son and myself out. My act of defiance is ANYTHING I do for myself. My narc had me doing everything for him on top of the gaslighting, invalidating, and minimizing he put me through. I was completely exhausted! I can’t wait to build my own independent life! Thank you Dr. Ramani!

[@oleleewahjahlawze60]

Great 👌.proud of you sister!!

[@rebeccaf8915]

My “act of defiance” has been going back to school to become a couple and family therapist. We all know the world needs more therapists who see through the act. I hope one day to help other people “wake up” and find themselves again.

[@sunrise7244]

Yeiiii!!! We need more therapists aware of narc abuse! Hooray for you! 🎉

[@laurenceboischot4265]

That's brilliant! Go you!

[@yey5725]

same!

[@kamicrum4408]

Awesome!

[@asociacionmexicanacontrade3209]

Congratulations!!

[@cim6205]

You know you are in a really healthy place when you stop having revenge fantasies. When you stop thinking about them altogether. 🧡 If they happen to cross your mind, you can genuinely laugh and feel good about where you are now. This is of course, in the best case scenario. It took me years to get myself to a better place emotionally and financially. I was also lucky enough to have great friends and family who helped me tremendously. I would not be where I am now without help. Sending love to everyone who has or is going through this. 🧡

[@StephanieSantiago-m9j]

Thank you.

[@GigiOAH]

The best revenge for a Narssisst is to leave him alone forever and create your own life. Grow, meet new people, create new goals, get closer to your family and other friends who appreciate you!

[@OlBlueshound]

Hi, your comment is the best advice and shows how being able to focus more positively on our selves and our lives is the way forward for us. And to not empower or avenge the narcissist is best and removes them and their influence from our lives so we are focused on ourself and healing. Best wishes to you and your journey.

[@Amy-mq7hu]

I’ve always said the best revenge is to be the best you and be happy. In my case this has been the biggest thorn in my ex’s side. He said I would never be anything or have anything without him. That no man would “rescue” me and my 3 little girls if I left him. Well I left with my babies and no money. Started my own business and it has been very successful. With all the success comes even more happiness and everything he said I wouldn’t have. I even have more than him but that doesn’t matter to me.

[@demigaines5644]

THE BEST REVENGE IS LIVING WELL

[@dustinnukem5458]

I was too late! 😂 Ya beat me to it

[@sabrinamohammed9778]

I think it's when you're focus on you an striving to accomplish goals you've set...they never expect you to accomplish our goal... It shocks them!!! An silence them

[@demigaines5644]

@@sabrinamohammed9778 YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT

[@tanyamomi8425]

Karma did its course to them. I am living my dream come true life. I am happy by myself. Listening to you and building myself one day at a time. Sending your videos to women who need the most. Spreading your knowledge Dr Ramani 💝

[@kav1tas3w58]

"It's Doctor Ramani, bitch!" Woaaw! And here I thought she couldn't get any cooler. My herooooo! ♥️👏🏽🙌🏽💣🔥

[@difigfs]

Great advice, my mother is taking my fathers voice and mentally abusing my children through flying monkeys, and father killed himself. It is so much more then proving someone wrong. It's an evil that is hard to comprehend.

[@steviecrow914]

Perfect message: feel the anger and hurt from betrayal and channel the hell out of it. Doing that right now! 🙌

[@jmabel86]

“That’s Dr. Ramani, bitch” made my day. 😂🙌 Thank you, Dr. Ramani ❤️❤️ I can’t thank you enough for the work that you do. Making me laugh is just a cherry on top.

[@ifeelwrite_me]

Is that really your number, Dr Ramani?

[@yukio_saito]

@@ifeelwrite_me No, that's a scammer.

[@rastaboi8864]

@@ifeelwrite_me nope its a scammer

[@marysullivan1815]

You should show some respect !She isn't here for herself but to help others not people like you who call her bitch

[@jmabel86]

@@marysullivan1815 wasn’t calling her a bitch, I was quoting her from her video. You should re-read my comment. Take care.

[@htpeck91]

This was a good message for me today. I ruminate about revenge, telling the people that were lied to about me all about the freak show that I lived through. I choose my words carefully so that they will believe me, or at least, they will hold a kernel of curiosity until it makes sense to them. I need to move on from this though to escape the trauma rewind. I would love to "out them" to anyone who would listen, but I don't want to need to.

[@dyanberg6263]

After my separation, I was focused on rebuilding myself and protecting our 4 kids from his toxicity and keeping them mentally sane. Revenge was not one of my priorities.

[@rebeccaf8915]

That rebuilding of yourself IS the “revenge.” It isn’t about hurting the other person. It’s all about you being YOU.

[@Canaday291]

I’m doing the exact thing, ongoing protection of my children and healing from the corruptive, envious, toxic malignant narcissist I divorced

[@GayleAngell]

I am too independent and too self sufficient to be in an equal partnership with someone...this is what my narcissist said to me. Those are things I am proud of....

[@myrnabryant7992]

I over heard my tenth grade physical ed teacher telling the councilor that I would end up in prison 🤦‍♀️twenty five years later I did 7 years in a women’s prison doing a bible study as one of the teachers 💖 best seven years of my life😇thanks doc💐🙏

[@MrsOctober-kc5de]

💯✔

[@FostersImposter1]

Oh, Myrna! God bless you, girl! That's so beautiful and Christ-like.

[@Diademischief]

This! I cannot express enough how this was my approach to healing and how it helped. We were gonna buy a house, but he cheated, so I bought my own without a realtor. He said I wouldn't make more or that my job was less important. I landed an even higher salary job doing what I love and will probably get promoted within the year. We were supposed to go backpacking, but he would say I wasn't outdoorsy, so I've gone several times myself. I was cool, I'm even cooler now lol and way stronger than he ever was or could dream of being.

[@jds0981]

I googled this quote: "Living well is the best revenge." It's by a 16th Century poet named George Herbert. I imagine he was referring to the narcissists of his time. I'm imaging myself as the heroine of an action movie taking revenge on behalf of all my internal inner children who were devastated by my narcissistic family system. Every time I honor myself, every time I cut off narcissistic supply, every time I go DEEP, it is an act of revenge on behalf of the parts of me that were traumatized. It may be petty....but it feels so good.

[@mandarinadreux9572]

that's not petty at all. What narcissists do is petty.

[@karenannaluisa3370]

Thx for this piece of knowledge of the history of philosophy! Will try to find sth to read by this guy George Herbert! 😘

[@psychedelic-aesthetic]

The best revenge is to be genuinely happy ❤️ thank you Dr Ramani, we are so blessed to have you!

[@crencottrell7849]

To everyone who's been desiring revenge on narcs who've hurt them, we HAVE to rise above the desire to stoop to their level. Even though they smeared us, hurt us, even tried to get us arrested among many other things...us trying to get revenge on them just makes us look weak in their eyes and makes them happy because they feel they still have control over us.

[@detjaggillar8081]

Yes - don't get stocked in thinking of revenge. Just go out at Your New Life and show Your self and others that You can do whatever You want of living a good life - do NOT do as the narc wants: make revenge or something stupid things. LIVE and LIVE Your New Life as You wanted all those years which You didn't could before - in Love and Peace and Harmony

[@yoki1234]

I'm reading this comment everyday until I'm fully healed.

[@crencottrell7849]

@@yoki1234 yes! I know it IS hard to NOT seek revenge on narcs who purposely hurt you but you're confirming that you're a better person than them by not being tit for tat vindictive 😁😉

[@jkiddo4254]

I truly don't know how I'd have got through the last few months without your videos to make sense finally of my life and childhood. Thank you more than I can say, you're making ALL the difference 💖

[@melissakinzley4765]

Thank you Doctor Ramani. I hear in your message it's about taking/building your identity back. Many of the things about me that narcissistic people in my life have insulted me for were actually my best qualities and gifts. Thieves don't rob empty vaults and where you see a battle, there is treasure.

[@sunrise7244]

👍🏻

[@garycole8365]

Lots of wisdom in those words, Melissa. They only want to take from us or destroy something valuable that we have that they don't have. 'Mirror, mirror on the wall' syndrome.

[@pmorgaine20]

"Thieves don't rob empty vaults and where you see a battle, there is treasure". Wow Melissa, that's so on point. Thank you.

[@kamicrum4408]

Amen!

[@fiofiofioletta1898]

The very best revenge I’ve experienced is when I finally got to the point where I genuinely don’t give shit one what he thinks or what he told me. Even if I’m living my life that-he would be quick to say, given the chance-confirms what he said…I never wanted to be the kind of person who would impress him, anyway. I want to impress me.

[@thevegene]

The universe hands out the best revenge. I knew he would get his….

[@Lstorer200]

Yes, the best revenge is to do well! After surviving a TBI and had a yr’s worth of therapy, I was told not to go back to school. I needed to clean house or get a job and contribute because I was not doing my share. “You’ll find that you’ll have a more difficult time getting a job because you are not getting any younger.” Possibly. However, I enrolled in a Master’s of Nursing Education program and graduated with honors after making it my “job” and working it and making it happen. Getting hooded for my MSN was the cherry on top! I was hired at the first position I applied. BAM!!!😊

[@walkingoutofthefire7796]

Congratulations! Thank you for sharing your inspiring story

[@Lstorer200]

@@walkingoutofthefire7796 Thank you! I want to encourage other to step out and make it happen. One step forward is progress!

[@barbaraburbey7654]

Yes, it is less revenge and more a rebellion against those who would crush your spirit. I have used this many times throughout my life to help me past the depression and general grief delivered by those who could not be supportive. And one day you realize that you won the uprising and then you don't need to think about them any more. You just enjoy your achievements.

[@karifoto]

Those men were jealous of you and your abilities and intelligence! Such a common problem. My academic counselor in college told me that maybe I belonged on the business side of the school, like I shouldn't be going for a science degree, just because I didn't ace some hard class. That really hit hard, especially since my dad was head of Computer Science and Engineering dept. Several years later, he came into the lab I worked at because the college was working on a pilot study with the Biologists there. It felt good to be like yeah, I'm here working at a lab, in a field of science! Sometimes people just want to knock capable people down because they don't like something about themselves or their own lives. Sounds pretty narcissistic to me. 🦋Thanks for these videos! I really look up to you and appreciate how open you are about your own experiences. You rock!

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

They want to be you bingo 😂❤🎉I worked I retired 😂😂😂😂😂

[@myrna4445]

Having negative people around us is always damaging to our self-esteem.

[@yukio_saito]

Exactly. I removed myself from such negative people.

[@warriormom5843]

“DOCTOR” Ramani, you are “THE BEST!!” I love your raw honesty, and YES….YES, your humanity!! It’s ok to fight back sometimes. It’s REAL! God bless you and all of your experience, knowledge, professionalism, and passion!! Never stop going!! You are helping so many!! We are cheering during your videos….do you hear us? I promise, you’re getting a standing ovation with every single video! 👏👏👏👏👏

[@LewsTherin100]

When they saw, that they could still hurt me and make me angry, but I didn't let it overcome me, that I had somewhat mastered the need to argue and push back - the look of horror and loss was more profound than any revenge I could have ever taken. They no longer held the keys to my emotional prison. That was an enormous step for me.

[@sunrise7244]

YESSSS!!! You got this! 😎

[@rutheloisa2811]

How did you master not getting hurt by them anymore? They obviously know what hurts us… 😞 and do it intentionally. I recently left a narcissist and will never go back but I need to stop the hurt…

[@LewsTherin100]

@@rutheloisa2811 oh it still hurts, especially when our children are used to inflict it. My meaning is that that hurt and anger dictates my reactions less and less. I don't give the Narc that power any longer. It was a matter of radical acceptance as Dr. Ramani speaks of

[@walkingoutofthefire7796]

After 28 years of marriage to a mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive man, I walked away 6 months ago. It took four years of counseling and courage that I never knew I had. Part of my therapy is listening to you, Dr. Ramini. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. The hardest part for me has been watching the abuse my children suffered. I’m learning to accept that I was powerless and unable to stop it. They’re adults now, and I can still see the effects the abuse has had on their lives. They are on this journey with me and they are beginning to see my husband for what he was and still is. It’s been difficult, but every single “little” victory we have is huge for us. It’s never too late to make the changes you need to make. The best revenge is your own personal success.

[@liudmilaaleagaaguilera8876]

I can relate to your personal story., I was told the same by my Spanish teacher and I ended up writing two master's dissertations, one in Spanish and one in English. My ex told me that I would go hungry pursuing a business idea and he was wrong😊 Thank you so much for this beautiful message of encouragement, and for sharing your experience with us. You are so right the best revenge is pursuing our dreams and going on with our lives. Thank you💕💕💕

[@yobrojoost9497]

Thanks to you, Dr Ramani, ( and some other excellent people) I have gone beyond being affected by narc attacks. I simply and calmly state my truth and leave them to it. I don't even need to take revenge. I see it for what it is, a deplorable pattern that they're stuck in. And I'm not having any part of it.

[@deadislander]

Beautiful come back. Your writing changed my life and a lot of other people's

[@peterwinzeler2935]

I was made to think it was always my fault not anymore! I'm living my life-the best revenge of all

[@nonavandre8960]

That’s awesome you were able to march into his office and prove him wrong. That must have felt good.

[@peacebasket]

I have started doing poetry just pouring out my feelings and thoughts especially when it gets tough. I feel so much better about myself every time. Thank you Dr. Ramani 💜

[@monikagin]

I'm right at that phase.. pouring words into poetry in sleepless nights

[@peacebasket]

@monikagin that's beautiful. Your response could not have come at a better time. I had fallen off of writing in my journal for a few months until this week, have to keep that bond with my self-healing strong. Wish you strength and good healing on your journey💜

[@Bpdbryan]

My narcissistic family system (who would never speak to me, unless to criticise or about another family member) are suddenly “proud” of me because I’m doing well in my own mental health advocacy and all I’ve achieved since moving out this year. Including my narcissistic older brother who physically abused me when I was 15, because I was grieving over losing my dad. He’s all of a sudden proud of me too. It’s interesting that my family never saw any good in me until now, because they can look like the ‘supportive’ family to outsiders.

[@seabreeze4559]

ironically we get their validation when we don't need it

[@wtfisgoingon129]

They love to do that sht when they can benefit from your achievement don’t they… these ppl couldn’t be more fake and parasitic… you deserve all the credit to yourself mate. 👏

[@YourMom-kg1tb]

They always cash in when it may benefit them. Own your own accomplishments. They will never care. I know. I have tried this path way too long.

[@itsdefinitelytrue7600]

I think that more motivational speakers, should incorporate this kind of thing in their programs also I've done so much healing, just watching you on KZbin❤ so thank you for that you're absolutely amazing👍

[@itz_calvin6697]

It was so difficult to prove myself from a narcissistic wife who's been invalidated, gaslighted, manipulated, raged me for more than decades and ended up suffering from depression and PTSD because when these symptoms hit you, its hard to focus on my work and life. But I do clearly understand and agree that proving them wrong is a better way to revenge.

[@covert_warrior]

I'm a failure. I'll never make anything of myself. Everyone hates me and makes fun of me behind my back. My family even hates me..... I still hear his words in my head. I dove deep into psychology studies because of it. I'm done being told I'm nothing

[@frolickingelf]

This is so timely I’d love to hear your thoughts on the “setting you up to fail” sort of trap inherent in narcissistic family relationships. Just pursuing my educational goals, I was perceived as a threat to the toxic system, and I was accused of being a drunk and running off to get pregnant when in reality - I had taken my dream job as a full time editor and writer. Writing my 23rd journal on family dynamics and my own personal journey out of the quagmire, and only just scratching the surface of how the double-binds, kaftka traps, and veiled threats were set up to turn me into THEM.

[@Alex-sc9cd]

Doctor Ramani the "They told you that you could never run a business, you start small and you build a business," hits close to home. Thank you so much for your work! You're changing a lot of lives. I hope someday, I'd be able to personally tell you how grateful I am for all your work.

[@alexeyshachnev9189]

It's Dr Ramani b... God, I laughed so hard! Thank you ❤️

[@kf10381x]

Since I discovered what narcissistic abuse and codependency was, i’m finding myself spending that point forward rewriting the scripts in my head that invalidating and gaslighting people wrote in my head for long as I can remember them. The most amazing thing was how I actually believed their lies, and the feeling I get now when I just do it, dare to do the very things they said I couldn’t, and actually accomplish what I set out. Why does the caged bird sing? Maybe because it knows deep down inside, it CAN fly. It’s just waiting for that cage door to open once more and you’ll see it soar higher than its ever soared. Let my silent flight to the heavens say my goodbyes for me, for me, for now, the sky’s the limit and I can see the whole world below me. Thank you Dr Ramani 🙏🏽❤️

[@reyhanozcelik4210]

I have learned so much about myself after moving out of the relationship. I use to think about narcicisst people that they are god's dark angel. And defeat them brings you to a uncreadible light. But this whole experience has cost me ten years. But this dark angel have given me the oppurtunity to understand the impact of my narcicisst mother in my life and soul.

[@joemoon4ify]

There is a Proverb in S. KOREA, that says, "Sweetest Revenge is Success!" This video made me think of that phrase and how apt it is! Thanks Dr. Ramani.

[@violindalola]

I love you Dr. Ramani.

[@LB-dv8db]

Dr Ramani, this video brings me joy. I left a narcissist after 23 years. He cheated, abused, lied, … basically everything in the narcissistic playbook. I felt like I was nothing. I became a shell of my former self. When I finally left, I was a walking, swearing, ball of anger for a year. And then I realized… “ omg, I have a second chance to be happy”. I worked hard at letting go of the deep anger and resentment. I wanted him, and those he cheated with, dead. Seriously.. dead. But slowly i let go of that. I let go of all that I had internalized. I was not stupid, not lazy, not socially incompetent. I was not weak. In fact, I was the stronger of the 2 of us. I lost weight, got into wicked shape. Started doing things that I was too afraid to try. I now ride Harleys. I paddle board and white water kayak. I say “ yes” to life. I do not have a “ revenge body”. I HAD a revenge life. And that life turned into just MY life. Mine. At first I reveled in the fact that my now remarried ex started flirting heavily with me. But now, I look at that as simply another aspect of his self involved personality. It does not matter now how he sees me. I am free. I am happy. I am grateful. The Axe Forgets, but the Tree remembers. And this tree keeps branching out.

[@MzShonuff123]

I’m so sorry your teacher did that to you. I wonder who we’d be if we hadn’t met people who told us lies about ourselves. I’ve never been driven by revenge in that particular way per se. My goal was never to prove anyone wrong (because you can’t prove anything to them and then they’ll just devalue your accomplishments) but I would go do all the things I really *wanted* to do that felt like me. Dealing with narcs means a lot of pretending and I would go hard on doing all the things I wasn’t able to do in the relationship once it was over. It wasn’t revenge on them but rather the real me being let out after years of not being able. That’s a sort of revenge because they were always trying to stop me from being me and when I was free, I was able to be the loudest version of myself 😂

[@aprildavis1214]

Oh, i love that! "The loudest version of myself." Beautiful and healing words. Thank you for sharing. I have always let others make me feel like i am too much. Like i need to take up less space, be less noticeable, less joyful, less cheerful, just take half of myself away and everyone would love and approve of me finally. Or rather i would finally approve of myself. Working towards the day when i will no longer be afraid to succeed and be the loudest version of myself. Thank you so so much for being a part of my online support community, my friend!

[@sophialeman1012]

Thanks for this one. ❤️ But I think it gets complicated with narcissistic parents. My narc mom told me growing up that I was fat and unathletic so I became an ultramarathon runner - definitely driven by a powerful “I’ll show you” energy. While I saw beautiful places, loved competing, and became part of a community of likeminded people, I drove myself mercilessly and I think that in some ways it reinforced that toxic bond to my mom. The need to “disprove” her abuse inadvertently bound me to her because I was still looking for approval or love that I would never get. For me the healing is realising that she was full of shit in the first place and now I can run because I love it instead of trying to “earn love”.

[@phyllisjunemillerjohnson15]

I'm still overjoyed to find out that I had a right to my opinion. Soooo, I develop my own opinions in the face of those who always invalidated them, which pretty much describes my childhood and young adult years. I still really enjoy my personal right to think about things and form my own thoughts about them. lol. Great video ❤

[@mandarinadreux9572]

I feel you. I still struggle with that to this day. That's on bad days. On good days, I can't even fathom how wonderful it is that I am free to go wherever I want.

[@AmyMoore-t9i]

It's the old saying living your best life is the revenge! SWEET!

[@floriang5662]

Revenge = no-contact and genuine indifference. The rest, I now understand after decades of abuse from my narc non-brother, is distracting white noise that keeps me away from the good things in life.

[@sunrise7244]

Well said!!! 😎

[@NikkiGRocks4Ever]

Dr. Ramani, this is my revenge story. My dad (first narcissist) would call me stupid all the time. I pushed my in high school. I graduated with honors. I put myself through college. No financial help from parents. I graduated summa cum laude. (Highest honors). I felt very validated. I really understand Dr. Ramani.

[@sashamarie1353]

When I showed initiative in my life, my father would invalidate me in different ways. For example, he would give me the silent treatment or tell me that I don't know what I am doing or how to do things. If my initiative showed success, he would claim himself as the reason for my success, or make me feel stupid in order to downplay it. Any sign of vulnerability is teased. As a result, I have learned to not ask my parents for help in any area of my life, and I have learned that I will never win my dad's approval. That breaks my heart. But I "win" when I am able to forgive him and leave the toxic environment to create healthy relationships with others in my life.

[@Zoeybeau_1]

My act of defiance wrote sixteen books, learnt to drive, I'm back again with another I'm happy to be in defiance it is helping me heal with a smile on my face.

[@lily7943]

Love Dr.Ramani, keeping it real! The relationship showed me my lack of self-worth for allowing someone so deceitful and damaged in my life. They always saw my value, I didn’t. Now I know better!

[@nancyhjort5348]

I appreciate your honesty, Dr. Ramani. I think a great revenge is a no emotional response; don't let them push your buttons. My parent told me, in my early 20's, that I would never make it through Nursing school. Since my parents had helped my siblings with college expenses, but not me, I just refused to move out until I finished my degree with a GPA of 3.8, while I worked as a waitress. I did pay them rent but never asked if I had their permission to keep my bedroom. When graduated I left without saying goodbye. I came to visit and was cordial. I, not they, defined me.

[@kitsune7351]

A mentor when I was a "successful " person, told me I should run for office because I had great ideas. He was former FBI, Chief of Public safety in a large county and police officer telling his hippie Co worker she had great ideas. He liked my style with people and my creative solutions for homeland security, emergency management and police reform. When I proudly shared with my ex he said "You aren't likeable enough to vote for, I should run and you can write my speeches and policies." I never shared anything nice someone said or any accomplishment again. It was a common theme, how unlikable I was even though I got on well with everyone back then. I didn't run. I shrunk. I became invisible. Anything beyond talking about weather was a possible rage or beratement trigger. Life was intolerable. Today I think success would be the best "revenge." But sadly I'm still in survival mode. Side note, only a narc would think he should be in government when he has zero experience, never read our constitution and couldn't pass a citizenship exam. Wait that describes half the politicians lol I bet my nex could get elected cause voters hate expertise.

[@cassandracarrizo6429]

Love the term "nex"!!

[@SamSolasdonSaol]

That's some thick sludge to clear out. Stay as patient and loving with yourself as you would to your best friend. 💞

[@kitsune7351]

@@cassandracarrizo6429 I saw other people use it....it's perfect!

[@kitsune7351]

@@SamSolasdonSaol thank you. I found I'm hyper angry when I feel ignored or berated. My oldest is 11 and starting to act like her dad. It's survival mode but also manipulation. She has been working to destroy one of the only mom friendships I have from the school. This mom has a nex and hates my nex. One of the only parents that sees him for the monster he is. The narcs can't let us have anything. Being ignored by the normals we went trick or treating with was my last straw. Sadly I informed her that I'm done being around parents I don't like. She can make her own plans I'll drive her. But I'm not going to tolerate people that don't treat me well not even for my kids. Yes I'm still enraged.

[@shalysepierce3468]

I feel like I’ve made so much progress in my life since my narc ex told me, “you’re unmotivated”, and a part of me feels like I’m doing it for him still. I want him to see, but I know he doesn’t care and those words were a projection. Slowly recognizing that it’s actually all for me and he would still find something wrong with it all if he were still here!

[@annaballard6252]

Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes Doctor Ramani (my fave 'healing' doctor)

[@brookeburridge5532]

When I started being my authentic self instead of running away from my narcissistic people personality traits. Going to instead of running away from. All my nacs eventually left due to not getting what they wanted, or being afraid that I was already three steps ahead of them, and they will eventually lose what they desired. If I work on myself I don't have the time or energy to expend on them. I now have healthy relationships and people who see the real me and not the mirroring from the damaged people in my life. I finally like and love me and that is the best revenge.

[@lauriemccrackenalsted9778]

Thank you for the reminder of embracing who I am outwardly, and not being who I became as the outcome of the relationship.

[@zzulm]

You are a beautiful mirror for us to look at the good things that can happen to us after recovery.

[@dianakells8007]

Thank you so much Dr Ramani. 💟⭐️🕊 You are making a huge difference with your talks. They have supported my own transformation work. My daughter, a covert Narcissist, sociopath, has lived off my generosity with her family on a sizeable property I once solely owned. She convinced me to make it a joint Trust when she asked to join me. A Big mistake! Recently she chose a legal mediation over finding joint solutions with me. My grief has turned around, into setting powerful clear boundaries developing all my skills to optimum with a focus on a new life of peace & freedom. My self confidence has soared as a result. My friendship circle is changing. So grateful to have mojo back!

[@oleleewahjahlawze60]

Awesome 👍💯Diana.

[@happyintoronto7759]

Dr. Ramani, thank you very much for all the videos you made on this subject! It helped me tremendously and it opened my eyes to the reality. I didn’t even know I was in a narcissistic relationship. I put an end to the relationship in September, I went no contact and I will never go back. I am taking the time to heal myself, I am giving myself the attention that was greedily taken away by him. I love how coherent, clear and sincere you are in your videos. I appreciate your work very much, it makes such a great difference in my life.

[@jijixiaxvi]

Being the scapegoated truth-teller in my family with a narcissistic father, I was often told and conditioned that I was worthless. My father even told people that he thinks I'll never reach anywhere in life. Even from a young age, I could never get his approval while my older brother (the golden child) got his approval just for breathing. I'm writing this now in my own apartment. I moved in three days ago. I know I'm doing this for myself because I have to heal from all the abuse I endured all my life, but I have to admit...making this very brave decision to move out when I've been told I was worthless is kind of a major flip off to my dad. My revenge is I needed him to see that I'm worth something to myself...and he can't take that away from me, no matter what he does. Revenge is definitely a dish best served cold, but it has to be healthy for the doer as well.

[@walkingoutofthefire7796]

You took a huge step forward by moving out. You need time to process what happened to you and to accept that it wasn’t your fault. Stay on the path that YOU chose for yourself. Keep good, supportive people in your life, and keep watching these videos. You got this!!

[@jijixiaxvi]

@@walkingoutofthefire7796 Thank you so much. It took a lot to accept that it wasn't my fault and that I can empower myself to move on with my life. I'm taking my life in my own hands, and I think that's the best way to heal.

[@majatomic4786]

I was called idiot and stupid by a person older than me who I looked up to. This happened on a daily basis since I was 7 till I was 16 years old. At one point I started to believe that I was mentally challenged compared to my peers in my class, so I had to hide that from the world - nobody would ever find out that I was mentally behind others in my class. So I didn't dare to raise my hand during class. I didn't dare to make mistakes. I was mediocre in maths, so I took my older brother's book during one summer, went through it, did all the exercises in it and got better grades in math. When I got to the secondary school, we learned to program in Basic. I was mediocre there too, but before the end of the year I was one of the best in class in Informatics and my teacher said in front of everyone: "You really have a talent for this." I went on to study Informatics/Computer Science and today I have a bachelor in Informatics with 6 subjects (45 study points) in maths (60 study points is one whole year, or 8 subjects). I can call myself a computer science engineer. Thanks to the person who abused me, in my subconscious I have been fighting the negative automatic thought without even knowing it. Nobody can call me stupid or an idiot now. And if someone does, it doesn't matter. I know I'm smart, and I know I don't have to keep that kind of people in my life. And now I know that mistakes are necessary to succeed - they are not a sign of stupidity.

[@crimsonking7955]

My narc mother floated out the notion that amongst other things, I simply wasn't enough. I went no contact 10 years ago. She sent me an email last week, hardly phased me, I am healing myself. Thanks for another informative video.

[@bahle20]

Thank you so much for encouraging me to be "me", you helped me so much. My healing came from knowing who I really am and working harder to be the best me. I am not there yet but I am so happy