The Single Biggest Point of Failure In A Man's Life | Scott Galloway X Rich Roll Podcast

Rich sits down with Scott Galloway, NYU professor, best-selling author, serial entrepreneur, and podcaster, to talk about the multifaceted challenges facing young men, advocating embracing humility, emotional intelligence, education, support, and more. To read more about Scott and peruse the full show notes, go here👉🏾bit.ly/richroll826
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00:00:00 Intro
00:02:01 Challenges Faced By Young Men
00:04:06 Lack Of Empathy For Young Men
00:05:43 Factors Affecting Young Men
00:09:51 Impact Of Technology On Young Men
00:11:51 Winner-Take-Most Economy
00:13:35 Mission And Personal Experience
00:14:56 Impact Of Education And Support
00:16:19 The Importance Of Male Role Models
00:17:11 Challenges Faced By Young Men
00:18:49 The Decline Of Mentorship And Community Programs
00:20:50 Economic Challenges For Young People
00:22:48 The Impact Of Government Policies On Wealth Transfer
00:25:47 The Effect Of Economic Opportunities On Young People
00:28:42 Sponsor Break
00:30:06 Reforming Higher Education Institutions
00:33:11 Elite University Hiring
00:34:15 Professional Track Jobs
00:35:50 Masculinity And Fitness
00:39:06 Influence And Service
00:41:01 Defining Masculinity
00:44:36 Surplus Value And Purpose
00:46:43 Meaningful Work
00:48:30 Vulnerability And Emotions
00:50:19 Fear And Living In The Moment
00:52:26 Life-Changing Experiences
00:55:45 Overcoming Addiction And Rebuilding Life
00:58:09 Surrender And Seeking Help
00:59:40 Faith And Spirituality
01:03:53 Changing Relationship With Alcohol
01:04:35 Alcohol-Free Lifestyle Movement
01:05:56 The Algebra Of Wealth
01:06:24 Career Advice And Economic Security
01:10:57 Investment And Time
01:12:41 Developing A Savings Muscle
01:16:04 Midlife Career And Financial Advice
01:19:09 The Struggle Of Economic Security
01:20:02 The Myth Of Balance And Unrealistic Expectations
01:21:51 The Benefits Of Working Hard And Testing Limits
01:24:44 Exploring New Opportunities And Self-Crafting
01:26:55 The Importance Of Seeking Help And Mentorship
01:30:52 The Loneliness Epidemic And Its Potential Threats
01:35:05 Detachment From Technology
01:36:25 Positive Change In Individuals
01:36:51 Challenges In Influencing Young Men
01:37:39 Tactical Lessons For Young Men
01:40:15 Parental Influence And Role Modeling
01:44:00 Podcasting Landscape
01:48:59 Podcasting And Media Landscape
01:49:53 Acknowledging Impact And Mentorship
01:50:37 Reflection On Blessings And Success
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[@hexadecimal5236]

If we have another civil war, there won't be anything civil about it. They've been telling a generation of men they're subhuman trash for a decade, and they are going to ask these same men for mercy. Just like the movie civil war showed, I doubt mercy will be shown on any side, and I fully expect either mass exiles or mass purges to occur. Lefties cannot be reasoned with and the far right sees that and is acknowledging that reality. The central government is delegitimizing voting, which shows both sides that the only way to express is thru force. They are using the judiciary for political purposes which delegitimizes it. They are using the US Dollar as a weapon which had delegitimized it even to US allies such as India who is now trading in Yuan, Rupees and Ruble, not dollars. They're destroying every legacy system they have and acting like it's business as usual and acting like they're smart than everyone else. I have a Masters in Econ and I cannot believe the things they are doing. The US Government is smashing the windows in it's own house, slashing the tires on it's own car, ripping out the electrical wiring in it's own walls, and acting like it's normal. They haven't started pouring gasoline around the place yet, but I fully expect them to soon and then they'll start playing with matches. They're pushing diversity in major corporations qhich is destroying their productivity and marketing. Hollywood is pushing wokeness which is destroying the US propaganda machine. Other countries look at Hollywood like it's a joke as do American citizens. Evey system is breaking. US recruiting is at the lowest level it has ever been and falling.

[@guillaumefloatin91]

The irony of it is that podcast is sponsored with " the plunge " which give me a lot of shame because I can not afford it and feel like I am not cool. ps : I am being ironic because I love Richroll podcast... But I am still a broken man :-)

[@NuanceOverDogma]

All talk and little action, reactionary winners whining about lost losers. Pointing the finger is all the elites with resources do without attempting to lift a finger to actually help build lost souls. It's all so tiresome & predictable. This guy isn't much different.

[@hexadecimal5236]

@NuanceOverDogma I agree, he hightlights the issue and his solution is to just pull yourself up by your boot straps. Which was a phrase that was supposed to mean it's literally impossible to do. Instead boomers use it to describe what millennial are suppose to do when they're faced with literally an impossible situation which is why more and more of them, the smartest who can see the equation clearly, are self deleting. He means well, but he provides no long term solutions to an obviously systemic problem where there simply is not enough opportunity. They polled American males age 16 to 36 about their American dreams and the majority said their dream is to LEAVE AMERICA. When every media system is telling saying, All men are rapists, women need men like a fish needs a bicycle, women treat men worse than you'd treat a stray Dog, and the systems themselves are designed to disenfranchise and destroy men. Why would they stay? We're going to start seeing brain drain as the best and brightest men leave america, and this guy is too much of a mid-wit to see it.

[@NuanceOverDogma]

@@hexadecimal5236 He benefits from the system & attacks all who question it. He is a fraud who pretends to be concerned about lower classes but in reality he is in the cult that loathes them.

[@bryceferguson8409]

“Child of an immigrant mother who lived and died a secretary… but everyday she told me I was wonderful, and that stuck with me” it really only takes one person

[@T1tusCr0w]

Same as my own ma. But we had my dad too who kept my feet on the ground. They were together all their lives. More people did that back then I think. I’m 52 this may btw.

[@bryceferguson8409]

@@T1tusCr0w my mom always told me to dream big and that I could be anything I put my mind too, I didn’t have a father and I’d agree with you social norms have changed people don’t stay together for the kids sake

[@colecarmichael5724]

This is why I believe in the “found family” I had a terrible family always told me I was worthless, useless, pathetic excuse for a man. When my parent divorced I got to raise myself from 6th grade and I got to choose my mentors and my life was changed forever as soon as I stopped looking at my parent to parent me and instead anymore who would help

[@sebastianb.1926]

@@colecarmichael5724 mentorship is dead. It stood at the intersection of community and organized labor, where it was gunned down by yuppies.

[@T1tusCr0w]

@@colecarmichael5724 There are no kids who are "worthless" Only Adults. And they were made that way by getting told & and listening to some PoS who moulded them when they couldn’t fight back 😔

[@sebastianb.1926]

Guest: "Social media tells young people they're absolute failures for not owning luxury items" Ad break: "Consider buying a sauna" Satire is meaningless in our era. It's like living in Robocop.

[@KirkMillerShow]

lmfao they did just straight up advertise like a hot tub didnt they 😂 well watever pays to get the message heard

[@dylansmith6078]

Just got the that part while going through comments 😂😂

[@NikkLiberos]

He still has bills to pay, sad as it undoubtedly is.

[@tweex1]

​@@NikkLiberos We love capitalism, don't we, folks? Truly an unflawed, unmarred system. Too bad Earth's collective human governance can do nothing to bridge the gap of their own making, very apparently. Good stuff.

[@jakebarnes28]

​@@tweex1can you please define "capitalism" for me? Is it static? Did Adam Smith invent it? Did it exist before him? Has it changed since Smith? If it has or hasn't, does that mean anything? Seriously. I'm confused.

[@Kteeee]

This is a national conversation that’s loooong overdue

[@wangcheng5188]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient

[@paulinebricks3441]

There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things

[@wangcheng5188]

Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly renee white

[@paulinebricks3441]

This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks

[@wangcheng5188]

You wont regret it

[@neomacchio4692]

Did you have to pander to her and give up your hobbies and friends to make it work? Did you have to work less? Women are interminably “not happy.” They’ll always find something to say you need to change. Guys, don’t do it. Stand your ground on being who she fell in love with. You both will be better off whether it works out or not.

[@kvk1]

I don't think I've listened to a more candid, stone cold truth filled conversation around this subject. This episode needs to be shown in schools or something.

[@painunending4610]

If they showed me this at school I'd hurl a chair at my teacher lmao

[@tex959]

Completely agree that this conversation is important. I'm really hoping that our collective societies can course correct in a more positive direction. I don't know how that might happen but spreading this information is a good start.

[@riumudamc4686]

Go to a developing nation and people are hooking up like they did in the US 100 years ago. These conversations should focus more on the fact that people in the most technologically and economically advanced societies simply have less and less of a reason to have children. They are needed less and less for survival.

[@mrlorikeetmp3]

If only school would show the youth the issues men and women are facing. But no they are spending all that time on non binary people and trans people.

[@mizzounyc]

It's so, so good. Thank you, Rich for having this conversation.

[@sabastianswika-post1819]

This guy is hitting the nail on the head with so many topics. I’m 34, navy veteran, college graduate. I really felt I was struggling so much and had every type of vice you can imagine up until my thirties. Now I cleaned myself up, I have a decent job and very little debt but it still always feels like there’s that cloud hanging over me.

[@myronschabe]

Regarding the could...I highly recommend IFS therapy/paradigm...there is an episode on this channel about it...where don't have to be controlled by these clouds...you are inherently worthy. Good on ya!

[@tripleplatinumllc]

Same age same feeling brother we gotta be strong 💪🏻

[@ph318]

Better give your nation away to immigrants, in cel! As if people only oppose many of these things for the reasons he's stated. He's assigning cause without a true understanding of the world and society.

[@bakeraus]

I hear you brother, the best thing is just keep doing your thing. Stay focused on yourself and your health. Be a gentlemen to others and care for yourself

[@mitrahispana4119]

Thank you for your service 🙏🏼 I think it shows strength to admit challenges but also work hard to address them

[@basedtortellini]

This guy points out the exact reason I became a teacher as a male. People emasculate me all the time for it, and I'm going to be making pretty much no money after rent, bills, and food. But being there for kids without a dad and being a good male role model in their lives is worth all of that in my opinion.

[@rickpaul8012]

Dude just quit. You’re wasting your life, you think those children’s fathers are good people? How about their mothers? You’re not anyone’s servant man, those kids will grow up to be morally conflicted people like anyone else. It’s not worth it.

[@user-qu2gp8mw9u]

The average male h8tes anything that will create a healthy stable life for himself and others. Males are self destructing and want to take as many males they can with them. They don't actually want "solutions". The average male is entitled and is perfectly fine with women doing the work that they don't want to do. The average male proves they aren't leaders. They don't deserve a wife and children, because they don't like either and refuse to provide anything for them. Looking to other males as examples is usually pointless. You are a better example than the average guy.

[@BaroloBartolo]

@@rickpaul8012🤡

[@basedtortellini]

@@rickpaul8012 I wouldn’t say I’m wasting my life. I think even if I only end up making a minor positive impact in one kid’s life throughout my entire teaching career, all of the stress and poor monetary compensation would still be worth it in my opinion. We can agree to disagree, and maybe there are better ways to impact kids’ lives, but somebody has to be in my position, and I am content at night knowing that I am given the opportunity to make a real positive impact on the youth. Sorry for the long response, lol.

[@littlevahn]

Fight the fight man, im with ya. It is the main reason I Coach Youth Sports.

[@flobba123]

Well i was depressed and alone my entire 20s no jobs no friends no girlfriend no reason to be alive its a miracle im still alive. In my 30s now im aiming to finally get my paycheck from a job and mabye even my first realtionship

[@mr-iz8cx]

Go for it.

[@davida.taylor8444]

Keep working brother, it aint easy. I have a quote from Jordan Peterson on my desk that inspires me every day: "Get your act together, tell the truth, work hard, concentrate on something for a year or two and you can be a world-beater."

[@Mary-il6zz]

So proud of you! You got this young man💕

[@flobba123]

@@Mary-il6zz Thanks for your support that means a lot to me

[@More_Row]

Good on you man. I could say a lot, but I just want to say good on you.

[@jlive1975]

Every man should listen to this regardless of age. I deeply appreciated this conversation. We need more of this.

[@oraz.]

This is feminist rhetoric being slightly rebranded to uncritical people/

[@udithawijeratne7361]

@@oraz. would you like to give more info on your comment?

[@rbz60]

both men and women, the problem is both lack eachothers understanding.

[@NuanceOverDogma]

This guy is a fraud

[@tweex1]

​@@oraz. Care to unpack your criticism of feminism? I feel like a lot of men don't truly understand it.

[@darkdeminsion]

As a 30 year old man finally starting to get it together, I agree. Lack of a strong male father-figure/mentor is detrimental to our growth. Reminds me of a song lyric: “be kind and keep a smile. keep your head up and try to find a friend or a child and encourage their life”

[@eveline001]

The conversation about mentorship and masculine role models is everything I’ve been wanting to hear from men. Thank you for helping restore my faith in humanity in a way.

[@Samookely]

ever since i was a little girl and saw how horribly my male peers both treated each other, and the girls (including me) in their lives while growing up ive always hoped that one day guys would wake up and stop trying to be like their fathers and grandfathers so much. Its not so much that they are men, but the men from past generations are typically not men you want to look up to. The cycle of abuse is an incredibly easy one to fall into, i imagine its even easier for males to fall into it when they live in a society that is designed from top to bottom to trick them with their own insecurities and desires. what more people need to understand is that even if you find yourself a part of that cycle, its never too late to try and better yourself. When men are taught emotions and empathy are weakness, it tricks them into ignoring their own unconscious needs, and when they arent taught how to cope with emotions they also do not fully understand, its easy to fall victim to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Sadly, that cycle takes some to violence. Women are not immune to that as well, but in western society we’ve throughout the decades have spent plenty of time ridiculing feminine traits that regurgitating anything that’s been said would be stale. Men havent really had to self reflect in this way before, i think its partially due to the internet.

[@Ajv516]

Scott’s attitudes largely reflect my own and how I was raised by my dad. I hope to leverage the good fortune my wife and I had to instill the same priorities of empathy, love, and social cooperation into our son.

[@mikemike2750]

I grew up in a poor hood with plenty of drugs and some violence. I’m a chemist in my 40s with a bachelor in engineering and happy life experiences. From my perspective, this is the key… -good parents -curiosity for science and learning -elementary school Elementary school will define the rest of your life. If the kid is interested in learning and his friends are relatively good, he’s 80% there. The rest will just follow.

[@mercedesb2299]

I have somehow gotten sucked into the r/GenZ thread on Reddit and it is full of GenZ "men". I am 49, so it feels weird to me to call them men, but they are in their mid-twenties now, so they are men. That thread is heartbreaking and frustrating because it is almost exclusively GenZ men, no GenZ women, and they are absolutely miserable. For whatever reason, the Reddit algorithm continuously puts it in front of Gen X, so there are a fair amount of Gen X men & women in that thread at any given time, genuinely trying to understand what went wrong, and why these guys are so freaking depressed in their 20s. For Gen X as a collective, our 20s were the peak of hedonistic bliss. The problem seems to be the difference in perspectives on life. GenX did a LOT of f**ing up in our 20s but we didn't have any "rules" telling us that we had squandered our entire lives and we were going to die destitute and alone. Gen Z is the opposite, the overarching problem is the massive amount of rules they have for EVERYTHING. They have set up 1000 ways to fail in even the most mundane tasks because they have a right way for everything. If something happens and they don't hit one of these thousands of completely arbitrary benchmarks, that's it, it's all over, you pissed it away and there is no hope. There is no convincing them that they could be happy if they would stop judging each other and themselves and just live, embrace the best they can do for right now to pay the bills and keep pushing toward their passion. My dream was always to be a writer. I didn't break into writing and turn it into a career until I was in my late 30s. Between graduating high school and achieving my dream I was a stripper, a bartender, and a veterinary surgical tech. I was an alcoholic, and you could probably say, drug addict at various points along the way too. It never crossed my mind that any of those things should preclude me from being a writer one day, and they didn't. I also raised a daughter by myself. She is GenZ but she doesn't buy into the benchmarks and rules. At 26 years old she has graduated nursing school, worked as a nurse, decided she hated it, joined the military (over my protests - I am much further left than my daughter), and quit the military because she hates rules as much as I do (I knew that one would be short-lived), got married, bought a house, had two children and is loving being a stay at home mom, and writing for a couple commercial blogs online. She has no idea what she wants to do for a profession but she has a paying job, her husband has a solid blue-collar job that pays their bills. I am not worried about her.

[@gorkyd7912]

Elementary school > especially not putting your kid into it.

[@tweex1]

Too bad the U.S. government clearly does not adequately value public education as slews of kids go by the wayside and then turn into aimless, despondent adults. It's baffling to me how little we as Americans, and humans, really, undervalue the concept of cultivation. Cultivating young minds, creativity and critical thinking, hell, even in a literal sense nature, helpful infrastructure, etc.... it's like, once a human has achieved some modicum of success, the part in their brain that is like, "Hey, we ought to help and support others-" just... turns OFF.

[@gorkyd7912]

@@tweex1 I don't think that's quite right. We really really do value cultivating the next generation. Politicians and media have spent all of my lifetime talking about how they're investing in children, kids are the future, etc. And every parent is perfectly willing to put themselves through 20+ years of suffering so their kids can have a brighter future. The problem is we're being scammed. We're outsourcing all of the education to "experts" based on what we're told is their past performance. But the experts are not really experts in anything, they're just academics. And then the experts are further handicapped by the administrative assemblies that have cropped up around them to usurp all these free money we're pouring into our kids, to the point that actual teachers and educators get a tiny bit of the total and the rest goes to administrators, massive building projects, pet research, and especially SPORT BALL.

[@RestingJudge]

Man, I think of how lucky I was to have an early boomer Dad (b 1949) and that I was born so late (1995). I just let him lead me, he was always there and gave me great advice. He's been gone for 5 years now, but his lessons are constantly there. He was firm but kind, and that combination just made it so that I could tackle just about any hardship even after he was gone. He gave me tasks not for labor but to show that I was needed despite being by far the youngest. I never felt like a burden I felt valued through the work he assigned and talking to him after it was over with a meal and a beer are memories I'll never forget.

[@j.phinnaeusmorgan7125]

Scott is a champion of not just young men but of young women. Everyone has a stake in this conversation.

[@shanelaird9032]

Bravo, well said 👍

[@painunending4610]

Is he a champion for young men tho? Is he really?

[@tonyoramos1]

@@painunending4610he has no solutions that I’ve heard yet. Richard Reeves says we should start men in school later but until we have an Ozempic for men that makes you taller and richer, I think this problem will persist

[@shanelaird9032]

@@painunending4610 I'd say yes

[@cinemapigeon4898]

@@painunending4610 Better than Andrew "sign up for my university to online dropship" Tate.

[@leoneldelarosaibarria]

It's so rare to come across individuals as accomplished as Prof. G that are willing to talk about their flaws, share their failures and spread the wisdom in the hard lessons learned throughout their life and that they do it genuinely for the betterment of society. Typically their egos get in the way. I appreciate him and his message so much. I try to distill as much as I can to my benefit raising two young boys in this challenging environment.

[@guru47pi]

My favorite part is his acknowledging the advantages he got that are now gone. He's not doing what most successful people try to convince themselves and others 'i did it all by myself' and telling the truth. He got cheap, accessible college. He got an affordable housing market, doors opened bc he's a white man. He gets massive tax breaks. And he's saying how we can fix it

[@miker5631]

He uses self-deprecation as permission slip to (inaccurately) disparage the older generations. It is effective but transparent.

[@Skutnu]

This guy is just another red pill guy but delivering it in a boring way 😂 truth is, no one cares. If you're a loner incel, you will remain that way and probably unalive yourself.. And still no one will care. He's an out of touch boomer.

[@SurpriseMeJT]

He points at men to get better but doesn't ever address women's expectations set by marketing which is ultra sky high and completely unrealistic. He's an out of touch rich privileged white man mixing some truth with wrong assumtions.

[@francoutah]

Thank you, gentlemen. As a divorced and childless Gen X man, I see my purpose on this planet is to help the younger people navigate this adventure and survive - hopefully thrive as well. That is why I am proud to teach at a community college. I've had many careers but most of them were selfish pursuits that were soulless. I've learned exponentially more from tragedies and failures than any successes. It has given me wisdom that has no value unless I share it. The young people who show up to learn at a community college need adults like us more than ever. For many of my students, I am one of the only truly gritty men in their lives. I don't just talk about service, I live it. I sacrifice daily to serve broke, young adults to the best of my ability. I take my roll very seriously and the thoughts you both share help me find clarity and to not feel so alone. Your honest heartfelt insights gave me a good boost on this sunny spring Saturday in 2024.

[@conflictionated387]

Such a relatable comment. I'm also a childless Gen X professor at a very working-class university. A handful of lovely long-term monogamous relationships somehow never led to making my own family. I used to think of teaching as a paycheck and way to fund my creative work. Now, I regard it more as a calling to serve, particularly when young people become ever more lost.

[@BruderAdrian]

As a Zillennial, thank you! Although few men are courageous and selfless enough to take on the responsibility you have. I can equally say that I remember a few men & women who were my teachers and saw I needed guidance. Particularly a teacher who would buy me comic's in exchange for the completion of my coursework and good grades on tests. During that period of my life at home my parents fought all the time and my Dad wouldn't give me the time of day so I could tell him about what I learned at school. My macho Dad was also an alcoholic. Never once did anyone take interest in my proper development as a kid. Except for a few people. I learned almost everything myself, how to shave, ride a bike, swim, read, etc... into adulthood. it was because of those few people that I learned I was capable, capable enough to overcome challenges & learning obstacles and achieve my goals. Not going to lie though, most gen X males were macho - toxic masculinity type kind of men throughout my life like I remember this one college chemistry teacher who gaslighted me in front of the whole class. When I would raise my hand and asked questions. 1 time I asked about methane being a greenhouse gas and affecting the climate potentially. I found out He didn't like me and would put me down by lying to me and telling me Ihe didn't know what I was talking about and it didn't exist. He was gaslighting me at 19 and he was in his mid 40s. At the time I thought it was because I ask too many questions but now That I'm older in my late twenties. I realize it's because, I didn't fit his ideal of how a young man is supposed to be or look like and it threatened his ego. So he had to put me down and he didn't care if it was the expense of my education. Which was sad because he should have not been a professor holding a PHD & use it to feed his ego. It's crazy because he would say there's no such thing as stupid questions except for when I asked them. Please talk to other men your age. Toxic masculinity is a huge problem.

[@myronschabe]

Right on! in many ways. Yeah we used to tribal, nowadays the fierce individualism is revealing its cracks.

[@mercedesb2299]

@@BruderAdrian There was a major shift in personality style between Gen X and Millenials. I am not saying it is right but a lot of what Millenials take as Gen X being mean or disliking them is just the way Gen X, men in particular, talk,. I am at the younger edge of Gen X and I had older Gen X and Boomers as college professors and they were all like that at the beginning of every semester. They were pushing your buttons, trying to push you out of the childhood high school mindset. They were always much nicer and more like friends by the end of the semester when the class that had started out as 60 - 70 was whittled down to ~15 students. That's why they did it. They knew that 3/4 of the class was going to say it was too hard and quit. Pushing on you to see if you'll stand up for yourself is just a Boomer & Gen X personality trait. They really aren't doing it out of malice but I get it that they should recognize that the generations don't behave the same...well to be fair, Gen Z really doesn't have any qualms about standing up, but again different generations. I stopped arguing with my Gen Z daughter when she was around 17 because she is far more ruthless than I am.

[@BruderAdrian]

@@mercedesb2299 thanks I appreciate your insight. Perhaps you're right although I won't lie I pushed back too lol He ran a study with students in Organic Chem and I was the only one in General Chemistry for stem majors that participated in the vape juice study lol Just to annoy him more or so I thought. Haha with what you said in mind it makes me think that perhaps he played me right into being more involved somehow. Interesting 🤔 perspective.

[@trippler91]

Everyone in the country should have to watch this video. As a 32 year old, middle class male, this man knows every single thing I am extremely pissed about and think about daily. One thing that I think is super important to bring up has to do with voting. I don't vote, but it's not because I don't want to. It's because no candidate is saying what I want to hear, but we don't have a "all options suck, lets re-roll" button. We are forced to choose from what is available, but what's available sucks.

[@joeladams8506]

I joined the military right out of high school. Served for four years in 3rd Ranger Battalion. Got out, went to school at Colorado State University. Dropped out after half a semester and proceeded to blow all of my money on a joy ride around the US for a couple months. I remember looking down at my bank account one day and realizing I had about one more month of partying before the show ended. I recognized I basically had no money, I had some cool stories from the army and a few good friends, and due to my background in the infantry I had essentially no marketable skills, employment opportunities or dating prospects. At that moment I was faced with a choice - go back to school, which I hated the sound of, or rejoin the army and crawl back to my unit with my tail between my legs, which I hated the sound of even more. So I went back to school. I’m a year away from graduating now with a specialization in regenerative agriculture and permaculture design and I’m planning on attending a Master’s level program for landscape architecture in the fall of 2025. The journey from that moment of realization to now has been the most challenging, yet equally rewarding experience of my life. And everything these two are saying is true fellas. Once you get your shit together and have a vision for your life (that’s the big one - know where you’re going, and why) you will be tripping over high quality women. It’s sort of a sad state of affairs that simply having your shit together puts you in the top 10% of young men, but that’s where we are. There’s literally no excuses that are worth listening to. Get in shape, map out a vision for your life, and make meaningful progress towards your goals. If you want to go a step further find a way to connect with a higher power, get sober, and find a sense of purpose in service to the world. You’re only alive for 100 years at best. That means you have roughly 80 years to make the world as beautiful as possible for your children and grandchildren. The playbook for success right now is exceedingly simple, the hard part is simply making the choice to change your life and following through with that choice through your free will decisions everyday.

[@willzinc6137]

Well said!

[@kvk1]

Good luck with the graduation amigo, and graduate school!

[@sabastianswika-post1819]

I followed nearly the same path as you. Life was hard. I changed my life, outlook, goals, and vision and now life is much, much easier.

[@claudiagolden8348]

Well done you for taking accountability for the life you are creating

[@brianmeen2158]

I don’t know what to say to guys that have completely talked themselves out of even trying to talk to women or date .. there are entire channels aimed at talking about how terrible everything is for young men . I see more guys reaching for victimhood and that is disturbing

[@josephsanders9181]

I am so lucky to have parents that loved me and finding a wife that is the best thing in my life. I want to help all young people get ahead.

[@rickpaul8012]

No you don’t. I’m 28 live in the street mentally Ill parents, abused, haven’t spoken to anyone in 11 years you don’t care about anyone, that’s why you ran the world into the ground.

[@npappas2]

He cares, I care. But there are realities to wanting to help. Give advice, mentor, donate money. But you also have to show and have the desire to get better. I’m sorry you for what has happened to you. But you can still change. You can look yourself in the mirror and decide you alone control your life. Not your past. It’s all about the first step.

[@rickpaul8012]

@@npappas2 care so much I’m censored hahahahaha

[@josephsanders9181]

@@npappas2 I am in the process of making myself better everyday and I have a long way to go. the first thing you need to admit to is I am far from perfect but if you want something that I have that you do not maybe I can give insight of how to get there.

[@rickpaul8012]

@@npappas2 “we care but we’re not going to do anything about it, and you need to fend for yourself like you always have” real great advice

[@lesterdiamond6190]

As a late-boomer, born 1963, I compare my life to what these young guys are going through and the contrast is shocking. I can hardly believe how easy it's been and how much fun I've had, and I'm just a regular guy. Nothing special.

[@Kevin-kj5th]

Yea it's kind of like the Great Depression today for men in multiple ways if your young. If your average in salary and everything else your screwed today. Only thing to do is to try to be great or quit. And quitting a not really an option once you realize where it leads

[@lesterdiamond6190]

@@Kevin-kj5th I've had 35 solid years of hunting, fishing, camping trips, road trips... just a blast. I'm at the point where I can just sit in my back yard and feel like I'm not missing anything.

[@betawolfhd]

​@@lesterdiamond6190I've had none of that, but I find it all so hopeless that I do the same but at a table in my apartment.

[@lesterdiamond6190]

@@betawolfhd I'm sorry to hear that brother.

[@2011hwalker]

White male boomers had an amazing ride as adults in the US from 1980-2000. Its a very, very different world for young men these days.

[@jspeed04]

Scott is truly a one of one. It's rare that you have a successful person who isn't afraid to admit that alongside their lust for working hard, that fortune, good luck, "blessings", timing, etc. have also played a pivotal role in helping them to attain their status. Scott is a role model that many of us should aspire to emulate and be more like. We all have to acknowledge the people who are not in our circles, not in our bubbles, and speak up for those of whom don't have a voice because we live in a society, and society breaks down when inequality persists indefinitely.

[@thru_and_thru]

Yeah I appreciate his humility here. So many wealthy successful people have a sort of God complex around how they view their achievements. There is a grossly inflated sense of superiority around their abilities and very few admit that a large part of their success was plain old luck. We all need luck in life and luck takes many forms. Of course their hard work and skills should not be overlooked but there is always more to it that just that. If everybody who was hard working and talented got rich there would be nowhere near the level of wealth disparity in the world.

[@Vlad-bs1js]

@@thru_and_thru The actually smart ones will understand that it's all just luck: the traits you are born with, the experiences you get to live from the moment you are born, the way your brain processes those experiences etc. None of these are your merit.

[@tweex1]

​@@Vlad-bs1js And we should all take personal enjoyment from our successes, but never laud it over others. By all means, you do you-get after it, get that green, whatever you're grinding-just stay humble.

[@Vlad-bs1js]

@@tweex1 Enjoying your success was not the topic of the conversation

[@tweex1]

​@@Vlad-bs1js Oh, sorry, ought we not? 🧐 You just pontificating to pontificate or what?

[@dlvau]

Wealth is becoming more concentrated which means most men have no chance to compete or simply give up trying. Jobs are less secure. Women also don't want to struggle and want security so even if an average man succeeds in building healthy relationships, it often does not last. After being burnt once or twice, it becomes a game that's no longer fun to play.

[@rickpaul8012]

No it’s fine. 11 years not being able to speak to people is fair

[@cedarinthecity3358]

No men involved or awful men. Unfortunately, there are a lot of awful male role models out there who berate and devalue their sons' worth. I watched my brother go through it :(

[@seminole17910]

Scott has quickly become one of my favorite authors and social critique writers out there. I love his no nonsense approach. There has been a huge gap and need for true and ruthless social commentary since the passing of comedians George Carlin and Bill Hicks. In this time of crises in America, we need strong voices like Scott that just tell it like it is no matter how uncomfortable we all get hearing it. This stuff must be said as awareness is the first step to solving any big problems.

[@rhythmandblues_alibi]

To have self esteem you must do something esteemable. Don't follow your passion, follow your talent. I'm a woman and I didn't agree with absolutely everything but there was lots of solid advice here. I was given rubbish advice as a teen and only just realised recently that I was never taught how to set a goal or even to *have* goals aside from "get good grades." Add abuse and trauma into the deal and it's no wonder I have struggled all my adult life. We need more mentors in the world to make up for the shortcomings of our parents and schoolteachers. Thank you for this 💜

[@thanaa]

Curious to hear what you disagreed with?

[@carakerr4081]

Our 17 yo son is in an apprenticeship to learn a skill. He may attend college. But I agree this lack of emphasis on learning a valuable marketable skill and over emphasis on college is hurting our young men and women!

[@myronschabe]

I live in a first world foreign country, without the US status culture, and it is perfectly acceptable to not go to college and learn a trade...Also, a lot of countries have working holiday visas for folks mostly under 30...so you can live AND work in a cool foreign country for like a year...it is so valuable just to get into a different culture such that you start to learn to discriminate 'the voices' in your head...whose are they?

[@user-xu6bv7yh2j]

Maybe just maybe kids are different - some should go to college, some not - maybe stop speaking for everyone and get used the idea that people are different

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

How the f$ck would you know? Do you know what's being taught in colleges? Have you even set foot in one in the last two decades?

[@dylansmith6078]

Lucky him to get an apprenticeship i have been looking for one for years but I got lucky and somehow ended up becomming a cheesemaker and producing most of the cheese in all ontario

[@WealdWold]

I'm a 29 year old guy who is just now finally starting to get his life together and, for what its worth, one of the biggest stumbling blocks in my life has been the push for everyone to go to college. I'm not an academic. That was never going to be my thing, and my grades reflected that. My guidance counselors let me slip through the cracks because apparently if I wasn't gonna be able to go to university and get my Bachelor's or something, I was a waste of time. I'm taking classes and trying to get into a union and pick up a trade and, honestly, I'm kind of in mourning for all those wasted years, and also worried about the fact that I'm starting so behind. I just try to stay grateful that I found a path forward now and not in 10 or 20 years, but its crazy how quick society is to throw you away as a man. None of the girls I hung around with in high school, who had grades just as bad if not worse than mine, went to their counselor and got hit with a shrug and were told, "I dunno. Try community college, I guess, and see what you can do from there."

[@bootstrapstylerich]

It's guys like you and woman too - you've got to get out and vote for local officials, local prosecutors as well as Governmental officials at BOTH the state and federal level!

[@betawolfhd]

I'm in a similar spot myself

[@johnd8596]

I'm 31 and feel the same. I'm currently working as a mailman for the post office. Women are repelled by the uniform. It just screams loser. I need a new job but at my age getting into the trades is harder.

[@waynewallace2061]

@@johnd8596 I was somewhat lost as a young man, I didn't care if I lived or died, but along the way, after my best friend committed suicide the will to survive took me over. All I could do was work. Some weeks I'd work 120 hrs. in an attempt to get ahead. We have a warrior in us that will carry us if we don't accept defeat. Keep grinding and keep your eyes on a goal. Move in the direction of your goal and life will open up for you, but you have to move.

[@mochamommyATX]

​@@johnd8596????? Isn't there a saying about nothing sexier than a man in uniform?????

[@shealdme]

This has given me a lot of confidence in how I have lived my life. I'm not all the way there yet, a man still at home at 29 and single. But, I'm on a good track in my career, I'm in touch with my emotions and masculinity, and a plethora of wonderful friends. This is such an important conversation for us to be having, thank you too so much😊😊

[@safetythirdified]

Imagine earning your master electricians license or welding certification from Stanford or UC, or any university. The pride and positivity men would display for being a part of the above-cloud community as an equal contributer to society.

[@mariabaca3941]

In New Mexico we have CNM, it's a great school for vocation or college.

[@thomasmainecoon]

What a great podcast, and something we need to hear more about. I'm 45 and just got divorced for the 2nd time a week ago. I made some bad choices, and my partner had/has her own things going on, but I'm 100% in the boat of feeling like a failure and not having a ton of hope. I've worked my whole life, from 15 till now, but I didn't make great educational choices nor financial decisions. I'm not a fuckup, in that I don't get arrested, no major societal issues, I'm tall, considered good-looking (though I have trouble feeling/saying it), but I'm not good material on paper. Do I have another 30+ years of this ahead of me? Sometimes I hope not, and other times I think sure, I got this. I may not be your typical disillusioned male, but I am indeed disillusioned. Life is fucking hard, man. I love hearing good, positive, sensible voices like these two, so thank you to them.

[@Matanumi]

You have money and a career. Its not that bad for you. Don't male dumb romantic partner choices again

[@thomasmainecoon]

@@Matanumi thats good advice. Responding negatively to anyone's comments, especially a stranger, has always struck me as odd. Good on you.

[@rid.h.tom.4296]

As the other person noted, you don’t have it that bad. I am slightly older than you and have gone through my own insecurities as such. What I would say though is that focus on you. Meaning, set some fitness goals and start doing it consistently. Preferably not all by yourself, but join some classes etc.. If you do this, it won’t be long before your outlook sharpens up as you start feeling better and more accomplished. Finding another relationship gets a lot easier, and dare I say you you will have a better chance to find the right person too. Good luck! Life is what we make out of it.

[@thomasmainecoon]

@rid.h.tom.4296 I understand what you're saying. Perhaps my comment is being taken differently than intended. I am physically fit and quite active. I do have a good job, a roof, etc. I guess that maybe I was being too honest in stating how I was feeling and what my current life looks like. I appreciate that your comments are intended to help versus shit on. I was voicing my feelings much as one might in an AA meeting where you're not typically going to get someone telling you what to do, etc. But rather by you, in this case me, voicing your problems, fears, etc you're helping others. Again, perhaps I was just being too honest in a forum that isn't meant for it. Thank you for being positive though!

[@jamesdean5095]

@@thomasmainecoon Ignore them, you weren't crying poor. The statement "you don't have it that bad" is a pretty weird take on someone just sharing where they're at and how they feel, especially in the midst of a major life shake up like where you're at. Good on you for sharing your current experience and thanking the generous men in this discussion. I note you have many more likes on your comment than commenters who chose to minimise your experience for no apparent reason.

[@stevenelson25]

Your purpose doesn't matter. Every person and circumstance you come across, will attempt to give you a new purpose. Real purpose comes from understanding yourself, and learning life lessons.

[@Puffalupagus360]

I didn't have a Mom these guys could really understand. Growing up around a vulnerable narcissist does the opposite and teaches that nothing matters to your mother except for herself and her victimhood. She broke my fathers soul but he still tried to mold me into something worthwhile. The failure to achieve that is all in my hands.

[@Theo-eq3ei]

Men: 77% of suicides Women: initiate 70% of divorce Damn!

[@BrockLanders]

Lesson: men are expendable. We’ve always known this deep down, but it’s become blatantly obvious in recent years.

[@EKL-qu7ih]

There is a video where a divorce lawyer explains why that statistic is so misleading. Women initiate the divorces most frequently based on the husband having an affair etc.

[@blairmil.1712]

The level of admiration, intellectual exchange, vulnerability and mutual respect is something to be lauded here. One of many brilliant conversations helmed by Rich. Thank you gentlemen for making the time to share this dialogue. Peace and more peace.

[@Nick-rr3pv]

I'm turning 50 this June. When I was 43 I left good paying job in my country and moved from Europe to China. When I was 46 I found my new career and mastered it and in return it gave me all the freedom I wanted. Financial and physical. No office, no timezone, no bosses, no clients. To all you young guys out there, keep on fighting. Life is tough but can be beautiful. And it is constant struggle. It never gets easier. You gotta keep on grinding. Work on yourself. Workout, find some passion, create a business. Push yourself. And when you think nothing is going your way light will appear and you will break through. Don't give up on yourself even if everyone has given up on you. Take chances, don't waste time and do not blame others. You have the keys to your destiny.

[@manilabroker2672]

Great story! What's that new career, I wonder?

[@treygraphicsfte6747]

Did you stay in China with your new career? Do you enjoy China more than Europe

[@Nick-rr3pv]

@@treygraphicsfte6747 No, I was there in 2016 for a month working on a freelance project. It was weird experience and I was just waiting to leave but funny thing happened when I was leaving. On the airport I got a gut feeling telling me that this wasn't an experience I hoped for and why don't I try to come back and find a job there. I gave it a thought when I came back home and said why not. 6 months later I found an ad on LinekedIn and I applied and out of some 50 people I got the job. Moved there in July 2017. Was working as a creative director in media company. First 4 years until 2020 were fabulous. I had great friends and we had so much fun. Then covid came and by accident I watched a documentary about bitcoin. Decided to invest some 5kUSD. That was the first time I got introduced to trading financial assets. Instantly fell in love with it. Then in one day I lost all that money because I didn't know what I was doing. Then the journey of learning started and it took me 3 years to figure it out. I do not trade bitcoin anymore. I trade mostly forex. I am still in China but will leave end of this year. Plan to open my own prop trading firm in Dubai. Low taxes. China was fun but it changed. Not so fun anymore. Much less foreigners than before. It was huge life experience. Thankful for it but time to move on.

[@Nick-rr3pv]

​@@treygraphicsfte6747 No. I worked as creative director in media company. I was a designer for 25 years. I am still in China but will leave by the end of the year. My first 4 years here were a blast. Fabulous experience. I had great friends and it was lots of fun. Then covid came and all of them went home. Lots of foreigners left and situation in general changed. It's not fun anymore. But it was a lifetime experience. I cannot say I liked it more than back home but I did like it. I like my country. Life is easier back home. China is fun to live for some time but it is hard to settle down. There is no perfect country of perfect society. Everything has its positives and negatives.

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

Dude, honestly, f$ck off. We have been lectured our entire lives about how life is a struggle by people who have actively made things worse for everyone and count their luck as achievement. It's not whining to want a better world or expect the people who lead to contribute to it.

[@Idrisg]

13:02 "I can prove to all of us that 90% of our son are not in the top 10%" that is such a well thought out sentence.

[@vegahunter8]

To the comment about not a lot of opportunities for young people not having an "on-ramp" to a liveable wage, here is an opportunity: professional trail building. The skills involved with building trail systems involves an incredible number of different skillsets that carry over into numerous other types of jobs. Entry level wages are typically much higher than minimum wages. Bigger Cities and counties now are hiring trail builders as full-time staff as well. Hope this helps at least one person searching for something that they may not even know this is even a job that you can get paid to do. Right now, today, there's really no end in sight on the demand for skilled workers that are willing to travel (it can be seasonal). I'm in the Southeast and we build year round, usually.

[@_nebulousthoughts]

As in hiking trails?

[@Sanguinarius9999]

His statement that women under 30 are earning far more than men and we should celebrate that and his statement that men's value comes from providing is a huge conflict, there are only so many jobs, women having those jobs means men that those women want cannot meet the expectation of being a provider that the women want, so something in that dynamic needs to change and I'm saddened that that was not addressed and seemingly ignore in the discussion in the video and in these comments. ❤

[@vknight7497]

Exactly, men need to have these jobs otherwise women lose mating options because WOMEN MARRY UP!

[@thestorybehindthat5236]

Rise to the challenge. Do better then the women. Men have massive advantages in the workforce just being born men and having testosterone and strong resilient bodies built for endurance and not having hormonal highs and lows the way women do cycling every month. Start a business, figure out how you can add value. You should not need women to step down to have a place in the world. Men are called to lead and pave the way forward. And you're gifted with all kinds of advantages to be in that position. Use your gifts well.

[@XenoviaM]

You’re my favorite podcaster, inquisitively curious, open, well prepared, interesting, hard working and it shows. Thanks for keeping this free in apple podcast where I prefer to listen to your podcasts , I hugely appreciate it and hope you continue to offer this for free!

[@thestorybehindthat5236]

We never conflated masculinity with toxic masculinity. Y'all did that cause you never understood the difference to begin with. Glad we're getting there. Good job everyone.

[@beeftimer]

I like your comment, but to his defense, I believe when he says "we," he's talking to his fellow leftists. Conservatives have never muddled things up this badly. I think this guy has the red pill in his mouth, he's just having trouble swallowing it.

[@sharvo6]

If you take Gallowayis ideas of leaning in to emotion and combine that with Rich's points about doing the work, then that's a powerful combination.

[@ZTempudl]

"The most dangerous person in the world is man that is broken and alone" - This is incredibly topical at the moment, especially down here in Australia after we had a stabbing from a male at a shopping centre targeting women. Something that needs to be looked at more.

[@painunending4610]

Telling those people they're dangerous definitely sounds like a great idea. Thats definitely gonna reach then

[@mercedesb2299]

There are a lot of women out there who have done everything within their power to try to be partners to these men. They push everything away. My husband and I have been best friends since we were 14 years old. We are 49 now. He had a string of bad luck. It was no big deal. I am a writer and make more than enough to support us. I told him it is not like he is sitting at home and I am going out and breaking my back working. I work from home whenever I want. But, he has spiralled into someone I don't know anymore. He has regressed back to a 15 year old. There is no convincing him that this path leads nowhere good especially when you are months away from 50 years old.

[@kainickname]

@mercedesb2299 you're not wired to understand this. Have a great life.

[@painunending4610]

@@mercedesb2299 sounds like you've got some work to do

[@canadaclub8920]

@@mercedesb2299 sorry your (ex?)husband reverted to being a juvenile

[@strangeosity6896]

I did all my parts in regards to dating. I got the college degree, job and own place and very fit (six pack abs). I kept myself in very good shape for a good 15 years. I got zero interest from women. I got on the out in public and public is unwelcoming and making moves is inappropriate. I go on dating apps and swipe on a couple hundred women only to get 3 matches all from very fat women. When I was in my late thirties, I quit alcohol and now I just have pot every day. That really hurt my limited social life, but alcohol-free is better overall. Occasionally I'll go out in public or on the dating apps only to alleviate the guilt I feel from isolating and getting high every day. Whenever I log on to dating apps or go out, I am like "oh yeah, this is why I don't bother with dating apps or going out or trying to be social." I got the college degree, the job, my own car and own place mainly so I could start dating (this was back in my twenties). That didn't work. What else do I like doing? I like getting high. If I wasn't getting high, then I would have to face my empty apartment all alone and stone cold sober every night it's doable, but it just makes for a very long night followed by not sleeping worth a damn. I am not that great-looking in the face and am going bald...I can't fix it and women just won't have it. It might be that or something else, not sure. I have brainstormed and scoured the internet and books for solutions, but I just cannot seem to solve this problem. Women just don't want to date me and I can't fix that nor can I change the fact that that leaves a giant void in my life that I have to fill with pot or just actively resist filling with pot. Now that I am 40, is it even worth trying anymore. If I couldn't find a date as a younger guy with hair, how the hell am I supposed to get a date as a balding 40 year old? I can't. I know, I know...be nice (but don't be a nice guy), be assertive (but not aggressive), take a shower, save more money, buy a nice car/clothes, work on social skills, acknowledge my white male privilege, hold the door for her (but don't because that's old gender roles), pay for the date (but don't coz old gender roles), buy nice shoes, have a purpose, find God, confess sins, make more money...sure I'll do all those things for a fraction of the attention that women gave the "bad boys" for doing none of those things. Just be good-looking and you can bypass all that bullshit...that's the conclusion I have come up with.

[@strangeosity6896]

And no, Scott, women are not dating older men. Older men are not as physically attractive as younger men. The reason women date older men is money and nowadays women make their own money (often time more money than men). They are dating good-looking men and sharing the good-looking men in polygamous and serial-monogamy relationships.

[@joseph6243]

You mentioned all the things that nice guys do that bad boys don't, but there's also the one thing bad boys do that nice guys don't - embrace their masculinity. "Bad boys" know how to use their sex appeal as men and they emote that to women. It's not just looks (although having abs is sexually appealing in and of itself). But it's more about the attitude and the energy of masculinity.

[@kenpe1455]

​@@joseph6243you're right

[@MorrisLydiaP]

There is a myth that doing the bare minimum these days-job, education, fit, good looks, “good guy”-is enough to attract a quality woman. I can see how it would be frustrating for a young man trying to find his way. Today’s women want and need more than the bare minimum. You have to climb the ladder of Maslow’s Hierarchy to attract today’s average woman.

[@av2279]

@@MorrisLydiaP So what kind of man do today's women deserve? If a job, education, fit, good-looking, and being a good guy aren't enough?

[@a.okoronkwo311]

The level of scorpio in this conversation is incredible. Two people with stories of death and rebirth triumphs. Awesome 🤝 well done. Your blood, sweat, and tears have led you to a path of righteousness.

[@jefejeffwell1113]

I personally feel like video games have done the most damage to young males. I grew up when video games were 8-bit, and played some, but they didn’t really have the same emotional capture that modern day games have. I grew up hunting, fishing, hiking, and exploring. Drinking, lighting things on fire, and fighting. All the good and bad parts about being a young man. My success taught me things, but nowhere near as much as the failures and mistakes. The younger generation is really missing out and the good memories that they could make, but instead are glued to their phones and games. Occasionally, you’ll find someone who breaks that mold, but it’s a rarity.

[@kevinwilson6270]

Real people Real talk great structure and the openness these two men show to not be right is mind bending. Much love

[@BodyByBenSLC]

As I was listening to this on 4/25/3024 and I gotta call from Anchorage Alaska P.D. My brother's body was found under a bridge. He was a lost soul, alcoholic, homeless, in and out of jail, baby mommas all over the place. Our dad was around did the best he knew how. He was the guy they are talking about, just no direction, no purpose. I don't know if society could have changed him but maybe.

[@anandamonge1756]

My condolences to you and your family.

[@toddlloyd8495]

Very sorry for your loss. Hopefully you sharing your story can inspire someone else to avoid this terrible outcome.

[@mikeborrelli193]

Biologically, evolution wise, your brother was a far more successful man than you are.. in another 50 to 60 years you'll both be dead, but he spread far more of his genetic material throughout the world than you did and will live on in far more people.

[@Chronically0nline]

3024? My man a time traveler

[@tonyruggiero4168]

I was unremarkable too. I am 55 years old. My mother got the crap beat out of her by my alcoholic stepfather for 10 years but still managed to work two jobs and go to my baseball and hockey games. I went to Bemidji State University, which was one of the vmbest things I ever did. Many people don't know of BSU but my Sociology professors were great and sent me on my way to the best I can be. (Of course with my mother being the foudatolion).

[@djsunshine1]

Bless her!

[@ShadyRonin]

This is one of the most important and least talked about subjects. Thank you guys for this conversation!!

[@direwolf6234]

yes being a 'member' of the top 10% economically (what galloway focused on) extends beyond just men's issues .. the top 1% controls 20% of the wealth and the next 9% controls 60% for a total of 80% .. leaving just 20% for the 'bottom' 90% of us .. and no radical change in policy to help men will change that fact .. and as long as that exists women will not lower their 'standards' and men will struggle .. the correlation between economics and the 50% divorce rate is clear and we see that those at the top have much lower rates because their lives are easier ..

[@jameslove-vani797]

Had three separate instances of broken men (2 were homeless) pick fights with me in public, in a span of 10 days this year. Not for any real reason; they just seemed at their wits end and wanted a proper climax. I'm Canadian. This is not normal.

[@lukefisch9483]

There might be some victimization there, please code urself in away that makes people leave u the f*ck alone, u are absolutely not safe, when I move through public spaces I’m like a flash, I’m wearing neutral grayish colors that blend in, im moving quickly and with purpose, I don’t really enter peoples awareness, if u can see something it can see u right don’t look at people don’t see their bad side, their distress, u don’t see anybody your just going where ur going u don’t stop, or pause there’s almost a “zoning out, a dissociation that comes with kinda seeming kinda vulnerable, seeming innocent, concerned on getting where ur going, that intuitively u would associate with someone who’d be more likely to be pickpocketed, Mugged, jumped or some other altercation, but the point to which ur extremely comfortable in the social space and view at as familiar, recognizing to a homeless dejected or outlaw type thief or figure, this person is literally at home in this space, they live in transit, presenting as uncomfortable in this space creates a divide between u and them, they can empathize, they can see a part of themselves in u if u incur the state of mind, the struggle to get where ur going that intense focus, it codes u as one of them. It’s like putting on zombie flesh so zombies don’t eat u lol (gotta love walking dead), like literally that focus that pull away from the environment that comes from what I assume is years of subjection to weather events and lack of social support creates a pretty gruff individual, leave them alone unless ur gonna be able to provide resources to them, this is how bums operate

[@shoutatthesky]

Did you vote for Castro's son, Justin Trudope?

[@jameslove-vani797]

@@lukefisch9483I think you may be onto something; people tell me I stand out all the time. I do the opposite of what you're suggesting and call it out' most of these guys are hurt and looking for one of two things. Violence or recognition, Probably not the most sustainable response, but I gotta be who I is.

[@Matanumi]

Canada is stranger then America- the erosion of the middle class hits the country harder than the southern border counterpart IMO. Canada was always "go along to get along" and "we don't do as well but we protect our middle line workers" and that has completely fucking eroded in the last 30 years. Also we are weak on crime, liberal courts (unless if the defendant has went after the government) and we've abused the poors in the world in TFWs in trading for feeding our upper rich economy and keeping wages low. We are more fucked then America is and nobody cares because we are tiny in comparison

[@Matanumi]

Your Canadian- welcome to your new normal. Trudeau doesn't help, but he's only a tiny portion of a greater issue- Harper made it worse in many other ways

[@50zezima]

As a 25 Year old who didn't have any sort of apprenticeship support growing up, and also all of my friends who didn't have such a thing. I think it's very important and I appreciate you talking about this.

[@joshuagrubbs5207]

I really like this guy .. first guy I’ve seen in awhile to accurately portray classic liberalism .. witty.. doesn’t hold punches .. but compassionate and empathetic .. perfect blend to raise accountable young men ..

[@realjoedee]

Banning access to all social media for those under 25 would be the best thing in history. Also banning all p***. You do those two things and this country with thrive.

[@Brian-vk1hm]

So China

[@NickyDiamond44]

Social media is extremely unhealthy for adults as well.

[@thegratefulsteve]

Banning? Authoritarian much? Not the solution mate. Perhaps holding social media companies liable for doing nothing to control the negative health effects of there products is a more suitable solution.

[@jasonolinger7585]

Forget China, you are playing in to politics and talking points. Just because one country does something another way doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

[@Peglegkickboxer]

You mean like China did? Oh wait, they're going through the same problem but even worse.

[@certifiedday1]

This is the most powerful and accurate speech on the state of the country that I have heard in years

[@cpdoorbell]

This is my all-time favorite RRP episode out of the hundreds I have heard. Every single RRP episode is super interesting, so the bar is high. I have shared this with many friends, educators, coaches, our kids, and my son's college lacrosse teammates. Scott Galloway addresses the many reasons why we all should pay attention to how boys and men struggle. Supporting boys and men benefits all genders. What a great conversation between two emotionally courageous men who openly share their fears and doubts while acknowledging their privilege and success. Thanks, fellas. I have listened to this three times.

[@FluxNomad678]

Not everyone is sitting at home I work at 12 hour second shift until 3 A.M When everything is closed when I get home. After that I'm wiped out and on the weekend I catch up on the neglected chores try to get in some damn exercise maybe talk to some people. I do enjoy social virtual reality because I can talk to anybody anywhere in the world at any time it's independent of my schedule

[@Lock8484]

Two of my favorite people talking. I love it. Thank you.

[@alexanderfrank1712]

This was such a damn good talk! I’ll be coming back to this for sure. We need more folks speaking out about MEN and what that means. What a candid and honest conversation. 💯

[@rickpaul8012]

They really don’t care

[@cherylball7869]

Thank you for this post. I work as a licensed marriage and family therapist and the mom of 2 amazing adult sons. My younger one sent me this. The importance of fathers is completely underrated. I was able to love and care for them yet I could not teach them what it means to be a man. Luckily my husband and I have a solid marriage of over 30 years and he’s there for them in ways I can’t be. You have me thinking of how I can help support young men more and help women understand and support them better as well. Thank you.

[@user-qu2gp8mw9u]

Are you all just so enthralled with this male that you forget that males are K--illing women at alarming rates? Or that s8xual abuse increases with males in the home? In fact, abuse of women and children largely happens at the hands of males in their homes! Let's hold the tears for these failing males for a moment to realize that this a patriarchy. It has, only a few decades ago, restricted women's rights to have bank accounts, buy homes, or own anything without a male. The problem is males. They refuse to adapt, to change, to work on themselves, or to serve others (all things women and everyone else has to learn to do).

[@rgomoffat]

These two should do a series. Their comments on podcast advertisers is honest and informative.

[@pjkaup]

I’ve listened to hundreds of riches podcasts over the years and this one is an instant top 10. Solid start to finish.

[@Babylon6969]

It’s a bunch of Liberal hogwash. As soon as he said weak men start listening to conspiracy theories and become nationalist, I knew not to trust them.

[@dmitryc760]

This is absolutely brilliant podcast! I can relate as a citizen who came from abroad (legally) 18 years ago (I'm 40 years old now) with $400 in a pocket. However after this is insane grind I still feel like this "great wealth transfer" is outpacing me. Which prevents me from ability to provide much needed "safety" to actually support a family, therefor I'm walking alone and absolutely hate it! It is a tough race indeed. Even though I'm educated, well versed, fit and understand this economics well in depth, once this insane printing had began i knew middle class which i was, will be wiped. Last 4 years all im trying to do is figure out how to beat it and come ahead. Thank you for what you doing.

[@SirGalaEd]

Wow! A balanced, thoughtful, well considered discussion on how to help our young people, both boys and girls. We are practically symbiotic species who need the other sex to be as healthy as possible. Love this!

[@tedankhamenbonnah4848]

I'm building a new life after a huge career / relationship / mental breakdown. I'm glad I found this.

[@Aoiraider]

Same here

[@tedankhamenbonnah4848]

@@Aoiraider Wish me all the luck I wish you mate!

[@Aoiraider]

@@tedankhamenbonnah4848 good luck man

[@jimparsons4312]

Great morning surprise! Thank you Rich!❤️❤️❤️‼️🙌

[@dk1828]

I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation. Two mature adult men having an honest, deep conversation. Why do we not see this more?

[@tomcoop9750]

Because the media shuts it down

[@oraz.]

It's just rebranded feminist rhetoric and masculinity punditry. It's actually underhanded, but I guess no one sees that?

[@oraz.]

@@tomcoop9750 this is The dominant narrative. It's basically the masculinity studies premise from institutional feminism

[@schonlingg.wunderbar2985]

@@oraz. And what alternative would you prefer?

[@jeffreychandler8418]

I find his statement that when men lose a father that is the single point of failure. I find that it's a double edged sword. Usually because 1. lack of male role model, duh, but 2. hard dynamics with women, particularly mothers. I was in an odd position because I had divorced parents but even time with mom and dad. And it was 100% my mom that fucked me up. My dad may not have helped me grow to success but he atleast didn't harm me. It was my mom that failed me. And I find a lot, a LOT of broken dejected men have really awful atrocious experiences with their mom.

[@TheCastedone]

AGREED. MOMS CAN DO SOME SEROUS DAMAGE

[@Suburp212]

Finally, this is talked about openly.

[@MelodyProsser]

These kinds of inspirational conversations are the reason I look forward to Monday mornings! Thank you both!

[@richroll]

Love this one with Scott! If you’ve received value from this channel but have not yet subscribed please take a moment to do so - super helpful and appreciated. For more on Scott and this conversation plus show notes and links, go here 👉🏾bit.ly/richroll826

[@asgmighty]

Needed to hear this, was sent from a friend. I resonated with the recovery & then the points talked about in the anger brewing in my male peers around the financial & emotional stability we are seeking. I'm 32 and have 8 years of self development experience to the point where this podcast beautifully captured all the points & soulutions to shift that culture and empower my fellow men that are struggling today. Gives me hope to continue spreading the message and giving love to my fellow brothers. It takes a village rings in my ear. Shared this with a few of my friends. Keep the lighthouse shining for those lost at sea my friends.

[@marcusjohnson5664]

The portion where he asks if the interviewer has ever lost a parent or someone close to them hit me hard. I lost my grandpa and father one year apart from each other then 6 months later covid hit. I’ve still been trying to pick up the pieces but have made huge strides in identifying my trouble areas which led me to this video. Thank you for the positive insight! I have a 6 month old son that means the world to me and all I wanna do is set him up for future success as a minority in America

[@mikek6098]

As men we gotta help each other out. Especially the young bucks. Personally, i feel like its my purpose to be a mentor to the younger gen z. However I can.

[@timothyflynn1758]

lots of good relevant points but this guy seems overly focused on external rewards as central to happiness (probably because he believes that / admits to being narcissistic) when internal rewards (internal meaning, health, fitness which don't require wealth) are more central to happiness

[@eliduncan-gilmour5028]

Scott is really an incredible force for better dialogue in this country

[@robbingcars9140]

Scott Galloway is 5 dimensions ahead of all of us

[@peterharper6592]

Phenomenal podcast! May be my favorite of all! I have shared with many friends and agree with other comments that this episode is universal for all (men, women, parents, young and old).

[@donjuliuswilson5387]

Man he’s really, putting it all on, the table. We are living, in a unfair society.

[@ninarenee3956]

My husband was born much later in ‘87 but he was an extremely talented and smart young boy. In fourth grade he received the presidential award for writing from Bill Clinton and was shuffled around grades his entire life. Then when he should have stayed in middle school they bumped him up to high school and he was only 13/14 and was much too immature. He also was smaller than everyone and everyone picked on him. He rebelled and got kicked out. It wasn’t his fault ? But the schools that pushed his mom telling her that he needed to be in higher grades to be successful. He dropped out at 16 but did get his GED by the time he was 18. If that hadn’t happened to him and he had a regular school life I think he would have been in a much different situation economically today than he is.

[@gorkyd7912]

I didn't go to school, I got a GED. And then I got a 4-year degree with honors. Going to school is meaningless. Both of my parents were dropouts, they're not dumb they were too smart to waste more of their time in that system.

[@ebeezification128]

This discussion has a great grasp of current state of affairs. I only struggle with advice of expressing feelings. Men constantly state that when they open up they are either told their feelings are invalid because they’ve lived with male privilege or that their significant others begin to distance themselves and act cold towards them. This needs to be addressed. For many men, they are constantly told only women suffer and struggle. Open up and admit you as a male do and it’s shut up, you have it easy.

[@TheCastedone]

I'd only suggest opening up to who you trust.

[@carakerr4081]

My husband and I support an agency that offers sober housing for men coming out of prison who have a hard time finding housing. As Catholics we have a traditional view of marriage and roles of men and women. My prayer is that we will start to care for our young men and young women coming up in society. It’s not popular to be religious these days but we find so much joy in Christ and our goal is to love all people in our lives especially the young people. May you both be blessed 😇 ❤

[@micmor517]

But to access the heart compassion generosity love these are feminine traits.

[@user-xu6bv7yh2j]

Traditional ideas of men and women do not jibe with current science - just speak yourself - not for men or women - just for yourself - no one elected you spokesperson for women - I certainly didn't

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

@@micmor517 No, they're not. They're human traits.

[@Mary-il6zz]

Bless you both

[@billusher2265]

@@user-xu6bv7yh2j scientific survey data shows traditional cultures are the only ones not dying out from low fertility 🤷‍♂

[@RealHufflepuff]

That stuff he said about emotions around the 50 minute mark was profound A minute later he talks about death, mom died when i was 22 and I remember that feeling of "finality". totally changed my outlook

[@JK-cz1km]

Momento mori

[@j.davila4523]

What do you mean finality? What do you mean exactly?

[@RealHufflepuff]

​@j.davila4523 ive had friends die in the past, and they were sad experiences, but nothing came close to when my mother died. I have a lot of good friends in my life, but i could only have one mom. There must be a small circle of people in ones life who hold specific roles and when theyre gone, youll never have any relationship like it again. There are a lot of realizations that come with a loss like that. Youll never speak again, never get their advice, theyll never meet their grandchildren, never see how your life and career choices play out. Then you notice all the things you appriciated about them, all the little things that they showed you how to do as a kid that you likely can't even remember, from learning to read to tying your shoes, to financial support. Then you see the physical and personality traits you share with them as their child. You appriciate all these things and realize its too late and youll never get to thank them sincerely. Like scott says, the silver lining is that you become more empathetic and your worldviews evolve, but it's a hard thing to accept.

[@ladybug3380]

@@j.davila4523 it means a piece of himself left with her. Death became inevitable. It’s the same thing that happened to me.

[@wanna_be_racer]

I felt that too from thoughts of loosing my dad 2 years ago.

[@justinmeader]

Hearing Scott talk about being a dad of a 16 and 13-year old at 59 made me feel a lot better about not yet having a child at 38. Now I just need to get in a shape resembling anything near as healthy as he is 😂

[@damiangonzalez7876]

Cannot agree more with all comments about it. It is true. There is polarisation even in masculinity. We need to go deeper into this conversation. The REALstuff

[@stephenrose9157]

All of that wisdom, and for free. SG was on fire in this one.

[@millerbiz]

I loved this. I have 3 daughters and am fascinated by this issue. The generation of boys today is a worrying prospect

[@djsunshine1]

Work with her to work with their boyfriends!

[@howikorx]

Scott is the biggest or clearest voice of reason to some massive problems in the western society. We can be progressive and support traditional needs at the same time. Young people need to spend money to mate or court, period. Placing barriers to that process will screw up society and the economy.

[@outlaw9728]

I wish these two were my neighbors. These guys have such a ridiculous amount of knowledge and yet seem like they would be so much fun and inspiring to just be around them

[@kevjmcc9861]

This dude is one of the most on-point voices out there right now. Love watching him on Real Time. As a father of two 12 year old boys (twins), I will definitely be following Galloway and suggest my sons check out his work as they get a little older.

[@theminister1154]

I haven't listened yet, but I've seen him before. *He places ZERO responsibility on women as I recall.* I'm not quite 60. From what I can tell _this is a female crisis not a male one._ Males generally work and achieve for females. Modern females are mostly unattractive, entitled, and using the internet as a proxy for the attention they want. Naturally they end up miserable, but by that time it's too late. This was not the case when I was young. I'm not the most attractive guy, but I'm smart and funny not too bad looking so I did fine. I have a strong feeling I'd be in the same boat as these kids were I a young man today. The quickest fix I can see is this: kill no fault divorce and kill alimony. Most women are waiting till around 30 to get married, and they end up 'compromising' on a man they're not actually compromising for. Thus entitled and dissatisfied, they divorce the men they "settle" for in order to have kids. It happened to my son. It happened to two of his friends. Now I have to help my son out on the QT. If it wasn't on the QT she'd steal it. Ending no fault divorce will fix that and give them permission to take a chance. Right now they have no permission, not from me anyway. Nor from chance, nor from fate.

[@theminister1154]

But I'm guessing he doesn't mention no fault divorce in this video. He didn't before. If he does now it's probably because he got a thousand letters.

[@andrearobinson7526]

This was grounded and clear (in a world which is rarely that). I shared it. Some of what I found to be missing is that the advice wasn't directed towards creative disruption and innovation (the more right-brained thinkers) and it was more packaged to being a follower of the system the way its currently structured. I think that 'program' works more for Neurotypicals or 'Follower' generations and I believe that loneliness also comes from being someone who doesn't feel authentically aligned with the way the larger system is defined and designed. Thank you for both of your angles. Very sobering and important, even though grim in many ways too.

[@More_Row]

Very good comment.

[@mux-fo2ek]

This episode is deep. This is one of the top best 5 podcast episodes I've ever heard. Young people need to listen to this. We all need to listen to this. Thank you for this. It's a podcast episode to save for my child when he's 16. Thanks again.

[@ebeezification128]

Actually old people need to listen to this.

[@hawaiianmango4556]

I loved the time/ investment I spent listening to you two. Genuine and down to earth advice. We need MORE of this in the world we have today. It’s hard to block out the noise, calm the everyday stresses and just lean in and listen to great, helpful thoughts. Thank you

[@user-qg8ic5ex5z]

A couple of great men. Can’t wait for that book on masculinity to come out

[@shoutatthesky]

What would this gay lover know about masculinity?

[@jchowald]

Scott G nailed it here. More people need to touch this subject before it’s too late. So much obsession with demonizing men is a classic FAFO situation.

[@Doriginal5]

It’s refreshing to hear a successful person not take all the credit and identify themselves as “self-made”. It’s such bs. People always discount all the external factors that aided in their success.

[@mikalwtf]

Thank you very much for your selfless service to our civilization, professor. Totally agree about your idea of masculinity in its ultimate form. Stay pure, and remember that you are far from alone. You speak from the highest authority on this topic, from love and truth. You are a true champion.

[@ShaneHarveyMusic]

Buckle up folks… at the 1 hour mark it gets superbly Rollian…. Often brings me to tears. Thanks RR. A true warrior.

[@theresawaveyme4482]

Thanks Scott for giving credit to all the little things we do to raise our kids. Just the simple (but not so simple) practice of being present with our kids is so important and a gift to them. Man, this was such a good talk. It's all the things I have been contemplating as of late and trying to support my teen because we can't go to Stanford...Keep yelling this topic from the rooftops. It's our future. Take Easy T

[@rgomoffat]

And manners

[@jefferyrosenlund8720]

Solid session gentlemen! Thank you!!