FIRST TIME HEARING Mike + The Mechanics - Living the years

[@chrismadden132]

I was rushed home from Afghanistan to be with my family as my dad was dying. I walked into the house and was rushed into my parents bedroom. Mom made everyone leave and it was just the two of us. He weakly opened his eyes and smiled. He said "I've been waiting for you son.". I smiled with tears flowing. He told me that he was so proud of me and the man and father I had become. We talked about his army career and then he said to call everyone back in. I did as he asked and 20 minutes later he took his last breath. I left my parents house 1 week later back to Afghanistan to finish my deployment. I miss that guy with all my heart. He was my hero.

[@dabearcub]

Wow, you were blessed to get that last moment with him.

[@rfletch6125]

Thats beautiful. Just like this song. May your dad RIP. Thank you and your father for your service.

[@chrismadden132]

@@rfletch6125 thank you

[@frankwatkins6223]

I was crushed reading your comment. I pray for you and your family.

[@dabearcub]

@@frankwatkins6223 Republicans like sending other people off to war to pad the money line for military contracts/oil/votes. But they don't care about them when they come back.

[@mztweety1374]

Oh God..I've NEVER been able to get through this song without crying....and my dads still here. Hes my hero.

[@lakermd]

Me too. Because all of the parts in the song matches us to a T. He's still here and we've been working on our relationship for awhile now.

[@azmike3572]

Me neither.

[@Peter-oh3hc]

@@lakermd good for you and good luck to both of you

[@craigdoriety9798]

My dad has been gone since 2004. Miss him everyday and always will.

[@shaunconnerley4345]

That's good I miss mine more and more all the time

[@nightthornkvala94132]

"I'm sure I heard his echo in my baby's newborn tears." That line NEVER fails to bring me to tears. Ever. Since the first time I heard it years ago to right now.

[@bankbarcomo806]

me too. My wife was hearing it the first time just recently, and I tried to tell her why it strikes me so much and I couldn't even get out the words.

[@iDuckman]

Tears? It's the cat allergy. Or someone is cutting onions. Anyway, my eyes get wet when they sing it. Such a beautiful line.

[@tommyk6719]

I’m not crying, you’re crying.😢

[@nkcbrazil]

Yes, and relatable same thing with my father.

[@tracyburke6849]

❤❤

[@akimali]

I grew up with this song and I STILL can’t hear it without tearing up! Love this song!

[@carolineturner6216]

Same here!

[@akimali]

@@carolineturner6216 ❤

[@shannonleekiller]

Same 😢

[@jtreedy116]

It's just all the onions I chop when this song is on...

[@andymiltner1713]

Me too brother.

[@koolkitties8552]

This song was a tear jerker when it came out in 88 and still is 34 years later.If you don't shed a tear after hearing this song then you have no heart.

[@meeksluv]

Or just not overly emotional.

[@wolf1066]

After? AFTER? I can't get through it without bawling.

[@leec6707]

I'm now in my 50s, my dad died when I was 16. This song gets me every time. I try to avoid it but wanted to see the reaction.

[@tripsmore1]

Mike is Mike Rutherford of the group Genesis and he is playing the guitar. Paul Carrack is the lead singer...he has a great voice. Great reaction!

[@djerm4031]

Just so you know Phil Collins was also part of Genesis

[@OronOfMontreal]

@@djerm4031 And Peter Gabriel!

[@steveeverett1736]

Thanks, I was thinking this was Genesis related: Phil Collins, Peter Gabriel, Paul Carrack, some exceptional artists in that group. This is the kind of song, that has you humming for hours after but also has you thinking of the words. I saw the hint of tears with both of you, mine were close behind. I had several family pass in the space of 10 years and I still think of them

[@nightHawk66]

@@djerm4031 and he still is... They are going on tour later this year! 👍

[@djerm4031]

@@nightHawk66 yup heard about that

[@Jigaboo123456]

I'm a 70+ Scottish man, not given to emotional over-reaction, but I had to swallow really hard to clear numerous lumps in my throat hearing this again. My dad passed away when I was 37, but I still miss him greatly, My biggest regret is that I never made my sons before he passed on he would have loved them, and they would have loved him. I deeply regret that I deprived them of this joy. I was enjoying my life to much to settle down, but I now know that was selfish. There's an old saying that goes" When I was 18, I thought my father a fool: when I was 28, I was amazed how wise he had become in ten short years". I guess I took another ten before I wisened up. It was touching to see the concern you both had for each other reacting to this, but take confort, please, in passing on your love, guidance and wisdom to your passed away parent's grandchildren. Wishing you all well. :-)

[@jpeopolis]

That's so sweet. I worry that I won't be able to make my mother and father grandparents, even though that's all they really want. Though, in fairness, I have an older sister who's been married for a decade. The onus SHOULD fall on her. ha Also, I chuckled when you said you were "Scottish man not given to over-reaction". Feel like that's a bit redundant. I'm not implying you're made of stone. It's not like you're English or something. ha -Thanks for the sweet story and the chuckle- Becca

[@Jigaboo123456]

:-) Hi, jpeopolis Thank you :-) I hada quick look at your channel, and I hope you d'ont take umbrage when I offer two suggestions that should be of use to you: Stop obsessing about how others think of how you look,there's nothing wrong with them. Looks cannot make up for a lack of character, which, when life gets tough, in the long run,is far more important than beauty. Have kids and you will see the world in an entirely different light. I;ve lived through great times and terrible times. With kids, the great times begin with the waves of exaltation that suffuse you when they announce themselves to the world. If you encounter terrible times, the love you have for them will give you the strength to soldier on, and in doing so, you will clearly see how trivial and insignificant many things really are.

[@tonyhomant244]

I can relate to a lot of what you said. I was 27 when my father passed. My wife and I had problems having children and our first son wasn't born until 15 months later.

[@Jigaboo123456]

@@tonyhomant244 I understand. However, the good thing is that you were eventually blessed with kids, and being an older father tends to have acquired a bit of wisdom along the way, which is to the betterment of all:-)

[@jbjacobs9514]

You just made ME cry. I miss my dad and mom excruciatingly every day. I am 54 (my dad passed in 07; my mom in 05) and they were my best friends! Please take care of yourself.

[@Peter-oh3hc]

One of those songs everyone should hear at least once

[@CHX_37]

The heed the advice everyday for the rest of their life.

[@rk41gator]

It really grabs at your heart!

[@ssshane071]

Lost my da to a drunk driver when I was 14. All of my grandparents the last one in 2005 and my brother to suicide in2017.

[@Peter-oh3hc]

@@ssshane071 so sorry. There is never a good time to lose a loved one, but at 14 seems cruel

[@rickswhiskeyjourney]

@@ssshane071 ...love to ya brother! That's tough for a young man to deal with.

[@veronicaleonard6370]

I didn't have a great relationship with my father, I was a huge disappointment to him, until my children were born. He thought my kids were the most magnificent creatures to walk the earth, and with that, it brought him and I closer than we had ever been, but the resentment of how he'd treated me throughout my growing years, and my heartbreak from trying to matter more to him, had taken it's toll. He died when my kids were still very young. When I received the call from my sister to tell me had passed, I drove like a demon home. On the way there, this song played on the radio. It still brings me to tears 23 years after his death.

[@pezmezsez9565]

That song was a message of Love from your father. Trust me.

[@michaeldavidfigures9842]

No man with a conscience can listen to this song and its musical score and not be brought to tears by its simple message.

[@shirleyjones9460]

This song always chokes me up. The lyrics are so brutal and honest. Gets you in the heart 💙

[@completecharleston7142]

Ditto! and thanks for the great Partridge Family moments :-)

[@shirleyjones9460]

@@completecharleston7142 LOL you're welcome 😂👍

[@Palindrome78]

My grandfather and I did not agree on lot of things. As a result, we had only had casual and short conversations. The day of his funeral, I went to sit in the car during the feed afterwards (for needed alone time) and this song was playing when I turned on the radio. A punch to the heart...

[@gerardbyrnes5780]

As a father to 3 boys that I mostly raised on my own.. who rarely talk to me these days (because I'm kind of a dick).. this song hurts bad.

[@shirleyjones9460]

@@gerardbyrnes5780 am so sorry. I come from a very dysfunctional family. My 3 remaining siblings won't speak to me. My mother and father died with only myself by their sides; my 4 siblings didn't care. I just lost my oldest brother and the next oldest left me out of the obituary. Hurt me terribly. I've lost half of my family and the remaining three siblings are miserable, unforgiving people. It's all very sad.

[@KathleenActonHA]

I watched this and cried. Today would have been my Dad's 81st birthday but he passed suddenly at age 54. I've been crying all day. As soon as you started to tear up, I cried with you. Love your channel and family. Xoxo

[@larrysolis6952]

I feel you my Sister,I'm 59 and so far I've outlived my father by 3 years,we don't really appreciate it till they're gone , that's why I always tell everyone in my family how much I appreciate them and Love them..May God continue to comfort you 🙏

[@thechomiji]

Another moving song about a son recalling his father is "The Leader of the Band" by Dan Fogelberg.

[@leephillips2837]

such a great recomendation

[@Missangie827]

oddly enough that was playing on the music channel at my foot drs office today-I hadn't heard it in years

[@chrisdutton2975]

Yes! One of my favorites that not enough people seem to remember.

[@descendantoffools9767]

Great song!

[@xperfloorcare]

Very awesome song

[@williamfaust5769]

The contrast between the youth choir singing first, representing the song's lead character and the elder choir representing his father's generation is brilliant. The message is timeless and much needed. Sadly, it takes two willing sides to reach agreement and peace. We all need to be reminded of the truths in this song.

[@Floppyearsmomma]

It's so true. My father died suddenly of a heart attack. I was 16. I always wished I could have known him as an adult. Jordan and Amber you are two of the sweetest souls.

[@GRAYR189]

All these years later and this song STILL makes me cry....

[@martyslazenger935]

Now you're ready for "Cat's in the Cradle." It will change how you think about being a parent.

[@paulleach3612]

No one is ever ready for Cat's in the Cradle if they are already a parent...

[@tammycosby4495]

The 2 best lines on here: “We all talk a different language, talking in defense.” When we’re not in agreement, you get defensive and you can’t hear what the other person is trying to express. “You can listen as well as you hear.” Hearing is passive. It’s only your ears picking up on sounds. Listening requires active attention to whatever sounds your ears are picking up. Paying attention makes all the difference.

[@machtnichtsseimann]

@Tammy Garrison - Sound comments, Tammy. Thank you for edifying this soul a bit more here. Yes, defensiveness can be a tremendous deterrent to clarity, understanding and intimacy between a parent and a child, let alone between two human beings. And are we truly listening to each other or getting ready to make our next point, for example.

[@chrispavlich9656]

Most people listen to respond not to actually hear what is being said.

[@loudsilence6123]

My dad passed away due to covid. He loved this song, said "don't be sad when you listen, just hope there no regrest" there were none. Best dad ever.

[@alanwills9966]

Paul Carrack the lead singer is still going strong today and still sounds great - what a voice.

[@chris25533]

The band had a second vocalist called Paul Young. He had been in a great band from Manchester called Sad Cafe. Check out "My Oh My" and "Every Day Hurts". Mike is Mike Rutherford from Genesis.

[@shannondanaher]

You will be amazed how many bands Paul Carrack is part of! He's spectacular.

[@markbro4427]

@@chris25533 I remember when Paul Young died suddenly in 2000 ☹️...he was a great singer.

[@noahswann]

​​@@chris25533my dad was friends with Paul Young from the Toggery Five days, his tribute concert was my first gig and everyone was in tears when this was being performed.

[@victorylane2377]

I absolutely love you guys. You're such sweet kindhearted people. If everyone was like you then the world would be a better place.

[@reese9276]

Many people have forgotten how to just be nice. It doesn't cost anything to be nice. Life is better for every one when we are !!! You two are obviously good hearted people. Thank you for that !!!

[@victoriamartines5030]

Mike Rutherford the leader of Mike& The Mechanics, is the guitarist/ one of the founders of the more famous Genesis. By the by: the vocalist is not Rutherford. His name is Paul Carrack. Check out their discography as well for future reactions. Bless.

[@StevesFunhouse]

Yeah, Paul was in Squeeze (Tempted) and Ace (How Long), then M+TM and finally as a solo artist. Such a great singer.

[@fraslavko1]

they came to Portland I'm pretty sure in the early 90's and I met some of them outside the venue where they played. After soundcheck, Paul Carrack asked me where there was a bookstore.so I walked there with him and chatted. it was a cool interaction, very likable guy. This song drove me to tears later at the concert. a cool memory.

[@johnmason8841]

I never had a Dad that cared, and hearing, if you do have one, do.everything in your power to make sure you reach out to each other, and love each other, cause it’s extremely hard when you can’t! I wish every day, thatI had that opportunity. I have heard this song thousands of times, and it always brings a tear! Thank you, I love your channel.

[@althelas]

I know that feeling. My parents never cared for me when i was a child, the didn't care for me when I was a young adult. Now in my 50s I'm done caring for them. I don't know how they are doing, if they are healthy or not. I haven't talked to my parents in 4 years and I don't intend to do it anytime soon, because I know they wouldn't care what I tell them. It hurts so much even after all those years, but I'm done being the one reaching out and being belittled and rejected all over again. I guess one day my phone will ring and one of my siblings will tell me that one of them has died and I don't know how I will react when the time comes. I will be there for the funeral, but that's it.

[@johnmason8841]

@@althelas sorry to hear this, it is extremely hard to feel anything in that situation. My brother abused me for years, and when he died, I was angry more than anything. Angry that he never admitted it, and that he went out thinking everything was fine.

[@Ozone280]

We should start a club!

[@daveowens9849]

My father abused us in every way possible. Sexually, physically, emotionally, psychologically, financially. Very evil man. I envy people who have this song close to their hearts. I don't know.

[@ak5659]

@@althelas I know what you mean and I feel the same.

[@DrumBeatsLouder]

Mike (Rutherford) was from the great band Genesis (Phil Collins). Paul Carrack (vocals) also in Squeeze (Tempted)... one of the best underrated soul singers. Thank you for your perspective & humility... happy discovering, fellow human friends!

[@PlaztekNerd]

Don’t forget Paul was in the band Ace also ! The song How Long is great too

[@ibrstellar1080]

Paul Young was right up there and again massively underrated.

[@thehighlander959]

Tony Banks on keyboards was in Genesis too...

[@adrianrickards27]

​@thehighlander959 that's not Tony Banks on keyboards here, it's Adrian Lee. I think in the clip, Paul Young is also playing keyboards.

[@michaelpalerino5276]

The singer is Paul Carrack. He's one of the most underrated singers of all time. He had hits singing with Ace ("How Long") Squeeze ("Tempted") before he joined Mike + the Mechanics.

[@dhaisley]

didn't know he was with squeeze. that's awesome. I got to see MatM live in CT. great show.

[@smitty7758]

I agree Paul is unbelievable

[@LoganTravisDark]

Actually, if I'm not mistaken, it's Mike Rutherford.( Hence, Mike and the Mechanics). Paul Carrack, who sounds incredibly similar, was the lead singer for Bad Company.

[@Out_of_My_Head]

@@LoganTravisDark He replaced Paul Rodgers after Paul Rodgers left Bad Company.

[@suepod]

@@LoganTravisDark Mike Rutherford is the founder of the group but it is Paul Carrick singing this song. I have seen Paul several times and he always performs this song. He is probably the best live singer I have ever heard.

[@GrumpyOldGuyPlaysGames]

I had to gear myself up for watching this reaction. I knew it was going to be bad for me to watch it, and it was. I bawled like a baby. My dad was a hard man. He'd grown up in an abusive household, often beaten by his father (who had been beaten by his own father... this is how it is in some families), and growing up, as the oldest of my siblings, I caught a lot of hell from him. After I became an adult I'd reconciled a great deal with him, but things weren't exactly healthy between us. I sought help to work out my anger over things, and managed to be the father to my own kids that I should have had (and my father should have had, and my grandfather... you get the idea). But for a long while we hardly ever spoke to one another. In his defense, let me say there were good times. My childhood wasn't one long session of horror and trauma. There were good times, and the good times are not diminished by the bad times. I will treasure memories of the good days forever. That said... he was a hard man. Anyway, the time came when he had to be put into a care center. He had dementia, and mom could no longer care for him. By this point, he didn't recognize me or any of my brothers. Anyway, I visited him as often as I could, and I'd just sit there and talk to him. Sometimes I'd bring him ice cream, or those spicy peanuts he seemed addicted to. Anyway, during these visits, he thought that I was his younger brother, my Uncle Charlie. I didn't mind. I let him call me Charlie. He and I he talked things that happened before I was born, or when I was just a kid (I'm in my 60s now), some of his war stories... I must have heard the story of how he and my mom met a dozen times. (And sometimes I'd hear the same story four or five times in a single visit.) Anyway, during one of these visits, out of the blue, I got the urge and sang this song to him. He sat there and watched me sing and never said a word. When I was done we went back to talking things he could remember. Things long past. But as I was going to leave, he said, "Charlie, when you see my boys, you tell them I love them. I know me and the boys had problems, but I don't think I have too long now and I need them to know I love them. And tell them I'm sorry I was hard on them. I shouldn't have done that. I shouldn't have done that to them, like Pop did to you and me. That was wrong. So you tell them for me, Charlie. Okay? And I promised to him I would. That was not the last time I talked to dad. He lived about another two and a half years afterward (and even actually recognized me a time or two during that two and a half years). But that's the time I remember most. The time that I sang for my father, and he said he loved me, and was sorry. I miss that old man every single day, now.

[@matthewlee6168]

I was a high school senior when this song was released and, although I really liked it, it didn't impact me the way it should have. Now, 33 years later, it really hits home. (That's what I am finding to be the case with so many songs from my youth!)

[@serendipity191]

Same. I’ve reached an age where the generations before me have all passed. It definitely hits home differently than it did as a teenager when you think you have all the time in the world with your loved ones.

[@ElectroAnnie]

Right. At the time, I didn't appreciate this one, since it was "Old people's music." But the moment I saw the title here, the subject matter came rushing back, and I realize I don't think I'm mentally prepared to even listen to this right now.

[@Be-Es---___]

Just like Pink Floyd's Time....

[@m.salleh5919]

Same here Matt...

[@rallypoint1]

Same thing with me. Really hits now in my 50’s. My Dad and don’t see things the same and sometimes we quarrel. It’s tough at times but I still love him.

[@dennytate26]

Another song with a similar message I think you would like is Harry Chapin's Cat's in the Cradle.

[@thechomiji]

Seconding that.

[@lakermd]

💯

[@JasonON]

I came here to say this.

[@invisibleman277]

I like Ugly Kid Joe's version

[@funkspinna]

Excellent suggestion!

[@theresagomez2605]

My father died in May of 1988. This song was released that December. It has always held a special place in my heart. I loved him dearly, but at 17 I expressed it like the teen I was. I honestly thought he would live forever. This song makes me cry every time, even all these years later. The baby's newborn tears part is especially hard. My dad was the most family oriented man I have ever known, and he missed out on knowing my children. They would have loved each other so much.

[@guymartin6514]

Thats beautiful 👍

[@ddw76y]

I listened to this while at work. I had to go stand and look out the window as I cried. My dad passed away in 1997 a few months after I got married and didn't have a chance to enjoy time with his grandsons, nor could he and I mend our relationship. Thanks for your review. I can never listen to this song without crying.

[@1134beerman]

Try “ silent running “. My favorite Mike and the mechanic song

[@Bekka_Noyb]

yeah!!

[@JengiX]

YES to this suggestion!!

[@xxbodycountxx7626]

Absolutely.

[@terririnella4032]

I still can't believe that song isn't from or based on a movie or Sci-Fi series

[@karenstpeter6321]

Mine too!!

[@judithshorey2137]

Amber, we are crying with you. It sucks losing a parent.

[@debbieadams334]

Amber I feel for you. I lost my mother way to early in 1999 and my father in 2011. I'm still miss them every day but it does get easier. First off you tend to only remember how you felt at the end. Later on you can remember the good times and smile.

[@professionaljackass]

My dad died unexpectedly at the age of 50. He had the heart attack that put him in the hospital on my mom's birthday (they'd been divorced for years, so it's not like he had it while we were all at dinner or anything. He had 3 heart attacks in 4 days), and made me realize my own mortality. I'm 48 now, and it's been 20 years since he died. Mom went 6 years ago. My stepmother that same year. Make sure you appreciate them while they're here.

[@marygreenfield528]

I had a neighbor who was in his late 70s or 80 when his mother passed away and he said something that has always stuck with me. You're never old enough to be an orphan.

[@AndieO]

I feel you. Today even more than usual. Lost Dad in 2013, Mom in 2015, my fur baby Luna in 2019, then my husband in 2020. Today my support worker got a job promotion across the country. Too good not to take, but I'm gonna miss him.

[@jimclifford1241]

Your almost tears reaction is exactly how someone should react to this song. It shows you're alive and a good man. Thanks for sharing.

[@aks4204]

I forgot how sad this was. I lost my dad at 19 & my mom at 49. It’s too painful to listen to this song! Damn this got to me. I can’t!

[@roystone9932]

.....................you were so lucky to have had such a loving relationship with your father Amber , i never did and i do regret that .

[@Whippy99]

I’m so utterly blessed to be almost 62 years old and still have my dad alive and kicking. 😇

[@ak5659]

Same here. I don't know anyone who was lucky enough to 'keep' one set of grandparents as long I was. I almost feel guilty about how lucky I was.

[@sarahmiller3941]

I,too, am blessed at 65 to have my 95 year old dad still.

[@karylkline6442]

You are. My dad passed when I was 34 and my mom when I was 38

[@karylkline6442]

@@ak5659 I only ever had one grandparent. My mom's mother, she died when I was in the 3rd grade.

[@nessnake123]

that is better to being millionaire or famous

[@itsmedino]

Mama Amber is a warrior woman. Love how strong that woman is in her reactions just honest open and pure.

[@SC-gp7kt]

I know, I love her (I'm a female so dont take that the wrong way Amber!) 💜

[@SRG1966]

They had a few good songs, "All I Need Is A Miracle" and "Silent Running". Mike was in Genesis with Phil Collins. And everybody cries, every time.

[@nightHawk66]

Genesis is actually touring beginning this year. Mike is still in as Phil Collins and of course Tony Banks. Phil Collins son, Nicholas, will be playing drums and the touring member Daryl Stuermer on bass and guitar.

[@karylkline6442]

Silent Running is a good one, I have seen it used in some ads for helping people who are victims of trafficking

[@JamesSmith-qy3eu]

'Was'? Is.

[@netrider5]

I think Taken In was another great song.

[@TreyTreydawg]

I am a singer and I am studying Carrack, his approach, his songs. A Brit with a soulful voice, self taught, and I am in awe. He closes his eyes and he has an inner tension in his phrases like a jazz trumpet, very complicated vocal riffs, a lot of variation in his tone and texture (this is why he is so interesting to listen to), especially in, IN THE LIVING YEARS, I bow at his altar.

[@angelbulldog4934]

Such a POWERFUL song. Moves me to tears, despite the hundreds of times I've heard it through the decades. Makes me soon grateful my precious dad and I had no issues ever. He was my true North, my strong and gentle example of what a man should be. He's still the yardstick by which I measure men. I still thank God daily for him in my life and I miss him more than I can say.

[@nicholasridley1036]

I was 200 miles away when my Father passed, I’ve never got over it, this song has me in tears,God bless you both

[@danielolson5378]

Written by Mike Rutherford reflecting on the passing of his father and all the things he never said. The singer is Paul Carrack who emotionally can relate to the lyrics since his own father died in a work related accident when he was 11. Paul Carrack still does this song as a solo artist.

[@beedeegee9374]

This one goes straight to the heart.

[@dottzie33]

Nope still can’t get through the whole thing without crying. I will never cease to be amazed how music and songs can bring such a huge range of emotions to your heart x

[@lisamartin7599]

This song. Tears everytime. He put to music all the thoughts we have when a loved one dies.😢

[@BRIDINC1972]

This was released the year my father died of cancer, I was 16. Even now it still makes me cry every time.

[@keeksbee5441]

I totally agree with you. My father passed almost 3 years ago. I was a daddy’s girl and was fortunate enough to know my father only had a limited amount of time before he passed. We were able to have many conversations about what we meant to one another and how much I loved him and felt blessed and proud to be his daughter. Not having any regrets is honestly the only thing that made my father’s passing bearable. Say everything you need to say TODAY

[@topgazza]

Paul Carrack singing. Check out How Long by Ace which was his own band. Living Years is a truly wonderful song. A real tear jerker and no shame in that, let it out. Thank you

[@dreamweaver8913]

Yes, that's a great song!

[@Braedensground]

Paul Carrack also sang lead vocals to the great song 'Tempted' by Squeeze.

[@topgazza]

@@Braedensground Ah, Squeeze, saw them live. Superb band and Paul added to their brilliance for too short a period

[@no2all]

"How Long" was about the bass player of Ace being lured away by others. It was obvious at the great bass line laid down on the track.

[@melodymcdonald2140]

Paul Carrack has to have one of the best voices ever. He has so many great songs! Some suggestions:: Beautiful World When My Little Girl Is Smiling Oh Oh Oh My My My Over My Shoulder One Small Step Better Than Nothing Say What You Mean Somewhere In Your Heart

[@iloveseble]

Paul Carrack has one of best singing voices of all time.

[@abf9596]

but how about that Mike? 😉

[@johnwilson3842]

Paul carrack🙏🙏🙏

[@scottblair6845]

Paul Carrack. Lead singer for Mike in the mechanics. Formerly with Ace. Beautiful songwriter. Like your wife's story. My dad was my hero. Greatest man I ever knew. Dad went down with a heart attack. Triple bypass. My wife gracious enough to allow me to move back home with him. Until I could get him back on his feet. I got to be with him for 9 months. A year after that he died. Which I stopped in that year to see him as well. I was blessed with that time. But it still wasn't enough. My parents are greatly missed. That was 17 years ago. And the loss is still felt. But I will see them again. Both were saved. Not that I'm rushing to get there. But we will have eternity to be together.

[@TheLeckie29]

song was written by b a robertson

[@rnntexas]

Amen…we will see them again, fully restored to their beautiful selves! God bless…❤️

[@frandistabile4723]

I barely make it through this song without crying, It is so beautiful. I have to say I was very Blessed to have wonderful parents that we showed love right up until they both passed away. I also had the same with my husband and my son. My only regret is that I didn't get to grow old with my husband(he was 49 when he passed away, and my son never got to grow past 31, the last thing I said to my son was I Love You and he said it back. I am so grateful for that. That was a beautiful reaction, thank you and Amber I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs!

[@jeffstevens4262]

This always brings a lump to my throat. So many people will relate to the message in this amazing song, me included. I love how they used an older generation of choir singers in this video, that's so powerful and brings home the message so beautifully. I'll never understand why sometimes it's so hard to open our hearts to the ones we love, but that's sadly true.

[@lynngreco6304]

For me, It's a little hard for me to ear this song. I'm the youngest of 4 kids. My dad had died about 5 weeks after he turned 50 and 2 weeks before my sweet 16th birthday. And he died after battling cancer for 3 years. I'm 54 years old know and I still think about and miss him. I wish my 13 year old son had the chance to meet him. My dad died in 1983.

[@louisef1861]

I'm the same age as you, and lost my dad just 2 months ago. I'm so grateful for all the wonderful years I had with him, and I am so sorry you lost yours so young. No matter what age you are, it is devestating to lose a good dad.

[@lynngreco6304]

@@louisef1861 Thank you. And my condolences to you and your family for your loss. And I agree with losing a good dad. Losing anyone your close to. Best thing to always do is to remember all the good times you had with them. That's what helps you to continue on and help keep their spirits alive.

[@srslyboomer]

lynn, I'm the youngest of 8. My Dad's fight w/ cancer was about a year. He was 63. I spent the 5 months after graduating from college at home, watching him waste away and die. It was in November of 1983. My heart, and my hugs, go out to you.

[@lynngreco6304]

@@srslyboomer Thank you. My heart and hugs to you as well. I know what you mean about watching him waste away. It was the same with my dad. He passed away at home surrounded by family which is what he wanted. I was finishing my Freshman year at a Regional Vo-Tech school when he passed.

[@kitskivich]

To this day, this remains one of the prettiest, most poignant songs ever. The band is comprised of a bunch of famous musicians who banded together for a while during the peak of each of their respective years of fame. Paul Carrack sang lead and is a ridiculously good singer. "I need You"(Suburban Voodoo album by Paul Carrack) and "Tempted" (Eastside Story album by Squeeze) are two great bluesy blue-eyed soul songs you may want to check out, even if just on your own. Mike Rutherford, the guy with the little boy, was with the band Genesis. He wrote this after he lost his father. Grab tissues before you listen. It's a truly beautiful and poignant song. It makes me cry pretty much every single time. OS: I'm sorry you lost your dad, Amber, but I'm really happy you had such a great bond with him while he was with you.

[@niallmcentee9400]

I love that when the line "I just wish I could have told him in the living years" Amber was welling up and without even looking, Jay knew, he sensed it. Such a well matched couple. I saw a short time after that the song got to Jay and he just put his fingers up to the bridge of his nose and closed his eyes. It's a very powerful song and I don't think anyone could have delivered it in a better way than Paul Carrack does. Jay and Amber are such a genuinely down to earth couple.. Makes me glad I found RSR

[@brainsareus]

Such a moving song

[@The_nitewolf]

Yeah.. don't wait. Last thing I said to my sister was a stupid text. "I'll get back to you" 3 days later she passed away with no warning. She was my bestfriend and hero.

[@timmank3617]

One if life's most valuable lessons hidden in a song. God Bless, and press on with Pride.

[@danielume9628]

When my dad and I don't see eye to eye and when I listen to this I reminded that my love for him is greater than any feeling. Love the ones close to you before it's too late.

[@my.business]

*One of the best songs ever done....this lyrics hit many when they hear it.*

[@wandawoman4847]

By far one of my favorite songs from the 80's. Y'all did great...had me bawling 😢. My two sons lost their father to cancer in Oct. of 2019 then that following Feb I was diagnosed with breast cancer so a lot of deep conversations were had... I can definitely relate. Y'all are so sweet! I look forward to your reactions daily.

[@katherinebosse5706]

God bless and keep you, Wanda, in your battle. I’m glad your children are a comfort to you. Stay strong. ♥️

[@wandawoman4847]

@@katherinebosse5706 thank you so much. My boys are my everything and take good care of me. Things happen in life but we keep it movin.

[@calkelpdiver]

I was there the night before my father passed away. I was the last one of my siblings to see him alive. I was in his room at the nursing facility, and I could hear his labored breathing as he slept. I sat there for about a half hour just looking at him and listening to him breath. I thought about how much I loved him and how he had influenced my life. I said to him right as I left that he needed to go be with Mom, it was time. Little did I know that at 5am I would get a call from my older brother telling me that Dad had passed in the night. I cried as I drove to the facility. My other siblings were there around our fathers body. I looked at him one last time, kissed him on the forehead, said goodbye, and then I left his room. I had listened to this song many times before my father's passing, thinking I needed to tell him so much but did not. I have my regrets, but I was able to say goodbye and see him before he went to be with my mother who had passed away years before. Whenever I hear this song on the radio now I have to turn it off, not because of the memories about my Dad but because of the strong emotions it brings forth.

[@michaelaldan6969]

i had the same exact thing with my mom.....in my arms and she died...the morphine kicked in....i never really told her i loved her...i never told anything...and i hope i will die soon so my family will get some money and i can finally repent my deeds...... i know this wont cheer you up but....it's the way it is

[@AgunziLFC]

@@michaelaldan6969 You were holding her, she knew. And money wont replace you, no amount. You sound like you are regretful, like this song says, say it loud, say it clear. Talk to them, dont leave it, any money you leave wont make amends. " Its too late when you die, to admit you dont see eye to eye ", money wont fix that. Pick up that phone. Make that call. Even if it doesnt work out, you can at least be at peace knowing you tried and can move on.

[@deantait8326]

"Every Generation Blames the One Before", incredible line and TRUE except the previous generations knew, more than we thought!

[@RastaSaiyaman]

Gosh, this song hits hard. I also wasn't there when my father passed away seven years ago but I did say to him in one of the final times I saw him that he shouldn't worry about me, I had set my goals in life and was going to work my hardest to achieve them. His final words to me were "Son, I have every faith in you."

[@ePelle741]

One of my father in law's favorite songs. Brings a well of tears whenever I hear it. RIP Pop. ❤

[@Lolo-zs2eo]

I remember the name of the band, but couldn’t name a song. This one was beautiful, and I must listen again. It inspired me to do something fun with my Mom tomorrow. As she aging, she’s sharing childhood memories. Learning things about her and the family that I didn’t know.

[@donnazasgoat2274]

That's what I'm trying to express to my son now. I don't have 10 or 20 years left to wait for him to understand how important this is! I want him to know stories about my childhood and his. I write to my grands and I've asked my son to date and save them. It might be all my grandson will remember about me. This song makes me cry. So does James Taylor's Shower the people you love.

[@Lolo-zs2eo]

I so get it, as my Mom ages she’s telling me more childhood stories, and l’m so fascinated that I want to write a book on her life. I’m building a bond that I didn’t expect. Keep sharing family stories and history. One day he may too might want to write about his legacy.

[@lynngreco6304]

The guy Mike from this band is also the guitarist from the group Genesis.

[@heyjude1920]

They’re reuniting with Phil’s son on drums due to his back problems. Can’t wait!

[@mariebishop7357]

This song really hit home for me, having just recently lost my father and my mother, within days of each other. Don't wait until it's too late, say what you need to say now, while you can. Great reaction, great song.

[@glennhargrove8365]

A beautiful “life lesson “ song ! Jay you mentioned the choir , I love how they had the younger/children’s choir …. But later in the video they also added the adult choir , like each were singing to each generation ! New to y’all’s channel, and absolutely love it ! Happy New Year

[@antoniotaylor391]

The genuineness of your emotional response made this segment one of the most touching I’ve ever seen. Thanks for opening up 🙏🏽💞☺️

[@xScooterAZx]

I will always cherish my Dad. He's gone now,but while he was alive,he held me so close to him,kept me safe from my mother's hatred and cruelty. He took me with him everywhere. Even when he went into a tavern for a beer. lol. He truly was my Hero. I,too, cant get through this without crying openly.As I am now.

[@jessehoechst]

Dont ever let the evils of the outside infect the beauty of the inside you both share. Its impressive to see a real couple with real genuine partnership. Loyal fan jesse from jersey

[@waynefinnicumbb7218]

Listened to this on replay after my dad died. Brings tears to my eyes to this day.

[@ericlarsen4050]

This tear jerker was a #1 hit on the Billboard Hot 100 in March of 1989.

[@neilrobinson1858]

I have been watching you two for sometime and what has always stood out to me is how genuine caring people both of you are. This song brings me to tears every time I hear or see it, because it floods my mind with memories of my dad. Just a big thank you to you both. If you’re ever in Australia please contact me and I would love to show you some of the beautiful places we have and the very special folks of Oz. 👍👍👍

[@TheRatsCast]

Mike + the Mechanics was a part of the 80s Super Groups. As someone already listed; Mike Rutherford is a part of the band Genesis. Paul Carrack was once a part of groups, Roxy Music and Squeeze. And Paul Young was a solo artist who sang as well.

[@shellycasbeer3775]

My dad just passed and he had Alzheimer's so this song just says everything about our relationship

[@ayantzjr]

Listen to "Garden of Remembrance" by a musician known as Fish. He sings about his parent's relationship after his Father's passing while having Alzheimer's. Can't watch the video or listen to the song without crying.

[@IWDTC]

I'm very sorry for your loss my friend, sending my prayers and love..❤️

[@shellycasbeer3775]

@@ayantzjr Thank you I will listen to it.

[@shellycasbeer3775]

@@IWDTC Prayers and love accepted thank you so much

[@dean9235]

Sorry.

[@Isleofskye]

Appreciate your Parents while they are there . My Dad died 50 years ago on the 11th April 1971 and My Darling Mum on 25thMay,1996... I miss them both every day :)

[@bobmurray6697]

What an iconic song. If this doesn’t make your eyes water a bit I don’t know what to tell you. Especially if you’ve lost your father.

[@Metalrogue]

This song has always effected me like this, especially as time passes. This was my dad's 6th heavenly birthday this year. Thank for this.

[@donaldwhite1928]

I’m a grown veteran man and this makes me tear up because my dad passed 28 years ago and I never got to tell him everything and be there when he went and that still bothers me. I did get to tell him I loved him

[@dreamweaver8913]

Brought me to tears too. Shared this reaction on Facebook with my sister-in-law who lives in Sweden. She loves this band, and we both lost her brother in 2017. Thank you for this reaction.

[@CharCanuck14]

I've heard this song so many times and it still hits me hard and brings tears to my eyes. Twenty-two years after my dad passed I still have sadness about the things I wished I would have said to him. Life is so short - we need to value all those who lovingly touch our lives.

[@jaeson8654]

My dad passed away this past July. We did t see eye to eye. But I miss him and love him. Wished I would've been able tell him while he was here

[@collinjenkins8623]

It was one of the songs my dad chose for his funeral.. watching along with you has set me off again.. Watched a lot of your reactions over the last 48 hours and i wanted to thank you for the respect you show the songs. You play them with very few pauses, and you're eclectic in what you revue.. Add to that, You're input is insightful and like me, You are enjoying the songs i grew up on.. Keep being unapoligetically yourselves Much love.

[@dckmiller]

This song hits me every time I hear it. Especially since I lost my father last year. It’s an underrated song that everyone should listen to. Thanks for reacting to it.

[@mikejacobson14]

"I'm sure I heard his echo in my baby's new born tears". We carry part of our fathers, as will our grandchildren. How we live our lives matters. We should strive to pass on love & righteousness to our children.

[@TheUshouldknowbetter]

that was a tough one to watch you guys go through, knowing how the end - hearing echo in baby's new born tears. Love to you both!

[@beatleschick1000]

I agree this song is so heartfelt and true to life. Don’t let ones you truly love go long at all with a quarrel because you never know when you will see them last & quarrels don’t mean anything when there’s love. The line in the song that just makes my heart, swell and contract because of the line “I’m sure I heard his echo later that same year… I’m sure I saw his spirit in my babies newborn tears” I cry and cry on that, and I didn’t even have a parent or close loved one that passed while we were not getting along. It’s just such a beautiful, poetic, masterpiece of a line. Thanks for listening and enjoying. Love your house reactions ❤️❤️❤️

[@garyglass7406]

How did I miss this? I love this song and your reactions to it were perfect. I lost my dad in May last year to cancer also. The last couple months we had together I never heard my dad tell me he loved me as much as he did then. I miss him alot. Tell people now, in "The Living Years", that you love them.

[@DevJannz]

Another great Mike & The Mechanic's song is All I Need is A Miracle. You should also check out the song "I'll See You In My Dreams" by the group GIANT.

[@isabellebergevin]

Thank you for reminding me how much I love this song. I hadn't heard it in years but I still remember way back when it started playing on the radio. Brings me to tears every single time. Even more so now that I'm getting older and have lost a lot more loved ones and I'm seeing my parents age, especially this past year, it hits even harder. What a beautiful tribute to a deceased father... Also, I'm very sorry for your recent loss...

[@sean_b_drummer]

This one is rough to get through sometimes... 😢

[@stephskipcain4599]

Yes!

[@melprophet1936]

Yep.

[@mztweety1374]

Tell me about it

[@hgianos65]

Yes

[@ryanportaro1060]

I was only 25 at the time this song came out but didn't hear this song until 1987 when my father passed away. My son was born just 3 months after he died. This song transcends generation after generation and just reminds us that life is really short. Whatever issues and problems we have it's always better to resolve them before our loved one's pass on. DO not ever live with regrets and wait till it's too late to reconcile and rekindle that relationship. While in the living years let's thank God for our parents and loved ones and pick up that phone and call them before it's too late.

[@tammijackson6694]

This song always brings me to tears. It reminds me of my dad so much. He and i had a wonderful relationship. I wasn't there when he died. We were 1000 miles away. I miss him so much!

[@Mr.Batsu12]

I grew up in the 80s and this song is one I've heard hundreds of times... but I haven't heard it in years. I forgot how damn good it was. It means so much more to me now that I've had both of my parents pass away in the past 5 years. If you still have your parents around be sure to spend time with them. When they are gone you will miss so many things you would take for granted.

[@karengoodenough827]

Absolutely beautiful song that always makes me cry, good choice

[@bestlexluthor7596]

This is definitely one if not the most tear jerking songs of the 1980’s.

[@juliesipes8007]

Tear-jerker and powerful song. I lost my dad to Covid in 2020 so even though I already knew this song it was fresh for me listening. All three of my dad’s children (including myself) had periods of estrangement from him and our mother, but am grateful that we all reconciled in recent years and were all together during the time of our father’s passing. Although we couldn’t be there when he died (because of Covid) we were all able to visit him in the hospital a few days before and say our “goodbyes”. My mom is up there in years, so I will take this song to heart. ❤️

[@jamesjohnston9225]

Good message - get it said NOW, there may not be a later. Paul Carrack, one of the most underappreciated vocalists. He was in the band Ace (u might wanna check out their "How Long") and in the band Squeeze - "Tempted" is one that might deserve a listen.