Roles In Our Relationship Dynamic (Ep. 36)

[@ObservingNdiscussing]

As far as roles, I am masculine presenting, and I do most of the cleaning. My wife does most of the cooking, and although I carried our son, we both share parental duties…I love it because my wife is a go getter and will jump on a ladder and handle some shit..I do most laundry & iron her clothes.. she watched youtube and ordered/changed my break lights with no prior knowledge..We just get shit done no matter what

[@heartdna]

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[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

Love how y'all make it work! 🙌🏽

[@TheBalancedLibra]

This is such a good topic. I’ve never understood the obsession with roles in relationships. To me, it’s about playing to your strengths. If my partner was better with the kids, they took the lead. If I was better with finances, I handled that. Household stuff was give and take-if I got home early, I’d start dinner or laundry, and they’d do the same. Overthinking kills the vibe. Relationships are about balance and building a partnership where both people thrive and find genuine happiness.

[@GoddezzTe.TravelerOnGoooo]

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[@33ladyRAM]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 well said! 👊🏾💜

[@dyshemaross]

I loved this topic! I was in a relationship with someone masculine presenting but she didn’t do a lot of the masculine roles like the trash and pumping gas. It took that relationship for me to realize having those conversations are important to have to make sure expectations are properly managed. Y’all always bring laughter and more insight into things I look forward to watching you all each week.

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

Much love to you 🫶🏽

[@jasmine_888n]

I don’t believe in roles, but I do believe in balance. As a femme I cook, clean, take out the trash, fix things, pump gas, take care of the car maintenance etc….Acts of service is my love language so if you offer to do anything I’ll definitely appreciate it.

[@bellbaby83]

I was with men until a couple years ago (married to a woman now). I think some men don’t know what they are doing or make it intentionally unpleasant so she doesn’t want it and they don’t have to do.

[@AeliciaMechele]

Great topic and conversation! One of the best episodes so far!

[@latashajordan2893]

It was a Good Topic! I always enjoy!❤

[@faithmusser5219]

Loving this episode! I was with a woman who had 4 kids. I was her second woman after marriage. I made it a priority to have very open communication with her about everything. Her husband had been a very selfish man. In and out of the bedroom. I being a very affectionate person had to say to her that I didn't expect sex very time I was just being loving and affectionate with her. Her response shocked me. He literally had no idea, apparently, what foreplay was. So she was experiencing things in a whole new way. I told her that how we interacted outside the bedroom towards each other effected how we interacted inside the bedroom. She had no idea what she capable of inside the bedroom. It blew my mind at how shocked she was that one she could and should have a orgasm every time we were intimate. Let alone that it was possible for her to experience multiple organisms. She had no idea what she was missing. My response being that I found her desirable and I enjoyed pleasing was totally new to her.

[@CatchingPiecesOfMe]

In our relationship we have a shared collab, highlighting the strengths. I cook, love does laundry. Love does it all tho with fixing things, i am very gratefull. We both take turn in leading and assisting, it just flows

[@jazzj04]

Great topic. I don't think there should be "roles" in a relationship. It can complicate things. I've found myself in relationships where the other person was keeping score. It ruined the relationship.

[@GwendolynBlackmon-u9l]

Financialy each one work TOGETHER NO LAGGING.

[@lazodiactwins9676]

Great topic! Considering our roles, I think a relationship should be mutually vested so it should come naturally but differ through our strengths and weaknesses. Totally agree with Nelcia! I don't think there should be so many expectations on roles in a relationship, especially as two women. I think partnership is making it easy to take it easy for both parties and what that looks like for each couple, varies.

[@deidre488]

Hello ladies. When I thought I was heterosexual, my PH balance was balanced. The men that I dealt with seemed to not do the “head “, thing completely correct. The moment I was with a female it was explosive!!!! They not like us, LOL!

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

😂 😂😂😂😂

[@mswatts426]

I came here to say exactly this. I thought I didn’t like head until I realized I was gay and started dating women. Game changer!!!!!

[@ElikyaNgoma]

I agree that the ‘roles’ and ‘responsibilities’ in a relationship should be on the particular strengths on the individuals in the relationship itself, taking turns if it’s a shared skill, or if the person genuinely likes fitting into a role, but not necessarily just going by what society says. That goes for heterosexual relationships and homosexual relations. And I’m really confused by people in homosexual relationships that try to mirror heterosexual societal “norms,” when homosexual relationships already defy societal “norms” and we see that those “norms” aren’t always the best ideals to begin with.

[@Itzjasminemf]

I clocked the I’m single single single single 🤭🤭🤭 but loved the episode per usual ❤

[@theselfcenterllc]

Whoever is the strongest in that department, takes the role. Vehicle Maintenance, Trash, Vacay/Date Planning, Health/Fitness, Financial Planning etc of course work towards balancing where the other isn't as strong so the burden doesn't fall solely on the other ALL the time. However, I won't delegate yardwork to my partner if she's allergic to grass or has some type of bug aversion 😅 that's just cruel lol

[@heartdna]

Bug aversion 😂 I can relate! 😂

[@theselfcenterllc]

@heartdna 😂😂😂 Seeee!! So based on that alone, we know not to pass you the bug smashin shoe! LMAO

[@benedictevi5007]

Some people pretend lack of competence 😅

[@GwendolynBlackmon-u9l]

I do not fart in front of anyone and expect the same respect from everyone,,do not play roles with my partner,we protect and cater to each other,and we should not duplicate male female relationships,we live to make our life work,our happiness,love togetherness all things are50/50 100 percent respect honor and peace.

[@latashajordan2893]

Y'all Ladies are so Silly 😅😅 everytime Y'all Laugh at something I get Tickled over here😅. I really Love Y'all Vibe❤❤

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

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[@nikitadm5]

Appreciate the dialogue ladies.

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

We appreciate you tuning in

[@billions8888]

I be lazy with the gas ⛽️ 😩 I pay you pump 🤣 team work 😂

[@escapingmundane]

Aina ur motivating me to workout, you looking good sister 💪🏾 Nelcia looking good too sister 💅

[@NelciaofTheShellaspherePodcast]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@Groise]

First thank you for this topic...and i like the phrase "Message"😂..and i innerstand Aina, be in other room or planet😂😂they are peaceful moments for self..❤️🖤💚

[@billions8888]

Agree 👍 no women taking out trash in my house

[@CleoPatra-l4b]

What can I do as a 24 yr old stud to level up !? What did yall do ?

[@Manijlove]

Yall funny 😂 & I agree, both should lighten the load for each other. I’m def looking forward to the part 2 with a fem bc that’s gon be interesting

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

Part 2 is coming in season 2! Thanks for tuning in 🫶🏽

[@Rita30rage]

❤❤Good one 😅

[@valr91]

To answer your question about why some hetero women dont like oral, as much as men brag about loving to give it a lot of them are horrible at it. Also, i love watching the two of you.

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

We appreciate your support

[@ObservingNdiscussing]

I dated a girl who did not like head…I think it was because she was used to men and wasn’t used to certain intimacy. In fact, she would say she wasn’t bisexual bc I was the only female she would be with from time to time.

[@RobviHunt]

I believe it’s what works best for the relationship.. my partner and I do not live together and still make the effort to wash dishes or take the trash out when we spend time at each other crib.. finances will always be priority in a relationship.. we are working on that part.. I pay my own bills and so does she but when in need she’s willingly to give if able and that’s vice versa.. again not living together makes the difference. Sex roles!! Well we spoke about this on our first date.. let me make this clear my girlfriend is masc and I’m fem some would say… I have more tomboy with heels appear lol.. it was understood the rules in the bedroom and what we prefer sexually although I would like to believe sex is about exploring… we explore our preferences in different ways basically as a grown woman we are at the understanding of our bodies and know what gets us going what turns us off and what finishes us…great topic !! Love tuning in!

[@Officiallykrysball]

I used to be in the bathroom with my ex telling her her shit stank and what she needs to do to fix that. Bae drink water… what have you eating? etc…. but every connection is different and if I don’t feel comfortable pooping in front of you vice versa, we’re not gonna last…. It’s unconditional love versus whatever else we be doing.lol💚💚

[@peachmari]

​ @TheShellaSpherePodcast Nice! 1. Well, I was wondering about your feelings and experience with *masculine women in media. What has been your favorite, how did it make you feel, what would you like to see (or act in!), and so on. 2. In particular can you touch on the Takarazuka Revue from Japan? Its so interesting that straight women there value the women who play the male parts so much. I have heard it said that they see them as the ideal masculinity. What do you think of that? Do you think something like that would work in the black community (crafted to our own aesthetics, of course) Personally, I would LOVE to see more *masculine women in media. Especially portrayed in much more noble and heroic roles that emphasizes the difference in how men and masculine women approach various scenarios. I can't help but think it would be so beneficial for both men and women to see those kinds of images. Feminine men kind of have their archetypes in media, its time for the spotlight to here now!☺

[@yahoo741]

Hi good evening

[@peachmari]

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[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

Yes we do

[@peachmari]

​@@TheShellaSpherePodcast Nice! 1. Well, I was wondering about your feelings and experience with *masculine women in media. What has been your favorite, how did it make you feel, what would you like to see (or act in!), and so on. 2. In particular can you touch on the Takarazuka Revue from Japan? Its so interesting that straight women there value the women who play the male parts so much. I have heard it said that they see them as the ideal masculinity. What do you think of that? Do you think something like that would work in the black community (crafted to our own aesthetics, of course) Personally, I would LOVE to see more *masculine women in media. Especially portrayed in much more noble and heroic roles that emphasizes the difference in how men and masculine women approach various scenarios. I can't help but think it would be so beneficial for both men and women to see those kinds of images. Feminine men kind of have their archetypes in media, its time for the spotlight to here now!☺

[@OhlaJen]

😂 I almost ruined my suv bc it needed oil all I was used to doing was pumping the gas keeping it clean and putting antifreeze

[@TheShellaSpherePodcast]

Y'all be careful out there. 😂

[@Noabynature]

I wish i didnt dress masc or gravitate towards masculine clothing. Because im feminine and want to be treated like that. I want my gas pumped etc etc and all the things yall just said bc tbh im not that masculine. Like at all. Im just androgynous. But bc if clothing i feel a lot of pressure to do the things yal said and conform to that. And its like. Damn. :( bc i am a submissive “masc”. I used to be kind of healous of gay men and their relationships. Where it seemed that gender roles didnt play much of a role in their relationships. (Maybe it does idk) but i feel like we have so many rules. Also on the head comment. Im lesbian and dont like head. But i think I haven’t had good head. My PH is fine. Lol my hygiene is great. I have never been with a man. But i dont like head.

[@jihadahmurray4285]

As far as head, it’s not my preference due to lack of experience, it has not been a great experience.

[@sherinathorpe]

Just keep practicing ❤

[@GwendolynBlackmon-u9l]

P.S. HEAD IS A MOST, ILLVE TO EAT.

[@DeborahLatrice]

She can't be a stroker 😂😂😂😂

[@GwendolynBlackmon-u9l]

The LORD OUR GOD WANT ALL GAY PEOPLE TO STOP ,WHAT WE ARE DOING ,REPENT OF OUR SINS, AND COME TO HIM. I'M GAY,THE LORD has kept me here 73 years, because he loves me,JESUS WILL BE RETURNING SOON, AND WANTS ALL SOUL'S ,TO BE SAVED ,STOP ALL SINS ALL PEOPLE GAY AND STRAIGHT,PEOPLE, FORNICATION,OF ALL KINDS, IT'S THE LORD JESUS WORD THOU SHALL NOT SLEEP WITH MEN AS THOU DO WITH MEN AS WOMEN SHOULD NOT SLEEP WITH WOMEN AS THEY DO MEN.