Always Gage a Woman's Reason for Choosing You

[@targetegrat]

Man your videos always have so much knowledge. I have a rule with dating. If you are more considered with the level of the restaurant rather than us spending time together you are not the one for me. One of my coworkers was complaining because she went on a date with a guy that made 6 figures and he took her to Applebees. This ungrateful bitch had the nerve to call him cheap. Then she got mad when even the women at work asked her what did you do to earn a date at a fancy restaurant.

[@RomWills]

Oh snap. I hate dinner whores.

[@leobramlett5118]

I started dating a chick that complained that I never asked her what kind of restaurants she likes. I was the one planning the dates and paying for them and she still complained so that shows you the entitled attitude of a lot of them. I hit it a bunch of times then broke up with her because I knew she wasn't the one lol

[@librarycardholder4908]

If a man is honest about his value and position in the game he will essentially know why women choose him or not. This topic can go deeper. 👍

[@brookvalley907]

Library, I agree this could go deeper. I think the knowledge that women check men for a variety of reasons is already deeper game and could well be the basis of game itself.

[@RomWills]

Trust me, I can go extremely deep on every subject I present. The issue is how deep are cats willing to go.

[@xskalibur]

Let's hear more, Uncle Rom. Even if it means another pay-per-view joint.

[@alvinhollingeriii2562]

Is she choosing you for a Slot Or POSITION!! There's a DIFFERENCE!! Women are good about building teams, what keeps the man around is the hope or sex or a relationship with her. Be smart Gentlemen.

[@RomWills]

You've been paying attention.

[@assaa5069]

Keep teaching Mr. Rom. Men attract what they are. I mainly attract submissive feminine women who want a man that can lead.

[@RomWills]

I can see that.

[@Sam-jp2lu]

Please do paas down the knowledge man how so because that is what i want too magnitize towards me?

[@dadon0133]

@@Sam-jp2lu be a dominant man who can lead

[@rmac8012]

And they will get mad when they game get peeped.

[@RomWills]

Yeah they do.

[@futuristicconcepts1257]

I have to concur totally with what you're saying. Men get distracted by a woman's body than to be impressed by her mental intellect. If a woman shows that she has an interest in me I immediately do a self check. I ask myself the "Whys". Why does she feel the need to be interested in me? What have I done to garner her interest? If a female tells me that she loves me I ask her what spectacular thing that I've done to have you believe that you're in love with me? I've had career women that I've dated. A Judge...a few doctors, couple of attorneys and educators. Now I'm a roughneck brotha and I am in no way a pretty boy so what's really cracking? Know what most of the answers were?...they was attracted to me because of my self hustle...my drive..my aspirations in life. They were blown away when they found out that I was a part time writer and a poet. When I recite my material on cue the looks on their faces was priceless. I try to avoid women with baggage because headaches come with it. And I never claimed some other man's child for to me it's the same as mental ritual suicide for the single black man. I find that many black women will choose a man who beats and disrespects her before she would choose a black man on a success mission. It's a very perplexing life puzzle. I've had women with money offer cars, money, capital to start a business, you know the type. I turned them down for had I accepted the offers I would have placed power and control in their hands. And they could hold over my head.."If it wasn't for me...". Not me. It was tempting but no go. As for the woman who chooses me we have to be mentally compatible on a 50/50 level even in bed or it just won't work for me. I seek a woman...screw the ethnicity who is basically ride or die. 100 percent real. That's why I admire that woman, "Letty"..Dom's girl in the Fast and The Furious when she said..."From this day on you'll never be alone. When you fight I fight. When you love I love. When you die I will die with you. I will always have your back." Bruh, how much more could a man wish for? To find such a woman and know that she chose you for you is as priceless as a pearl recovered from the deepest depths of the sea. Priceless. Keep preaching my brother. Your words need to be heard for they inspire and invoke knowledge for as you know..Knowledge is the ultimate level of enlightenment and power. Peace.

[@RomWills]

That was a great testimony fam.

[@banderas2000]

@@foilster1 but her type is

[@rmac8012]

You can't play this game if you don't know how to listen and pay attention. Please take their actions for what they are. It also tells you what their maturity level is as well. Grandmothers are still CHASING knuckleheas.. Learning how you are perceived is half the battle. LOOK FELLAS THIS IS A SPORT!!!!!! TAKE WHAT THE DEFENSE GIVES YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@RomWills]

Great advice.

[@skinfanjay]

Truth

[@obama4hire]

R MAC well said.

[@rmac8012]

That's what I said.

[@rmac8012]

OK. You right. I didn't.

[@brookvalley907]

Another excellent video. I'm coming at this as a married man. I think most married men assume that their wives married them because they were "in love" with them, and that lust was a big part of the "in love" feeling. But I often see women divorcing men and telling them that they love them, but they are not in-love with them. I take this to mean that the women love the man like a brother, but not like a lover. The are not in-lust with their husband. And in many cases the women were never that much in-lust with their husbands. As Rom has pointed out, there are many reasons a woman will check out a man, and I would add even marry a man, and none of those reasons involve lust. There was an old TV comedy show called "The Red Green Show". The main character would always sign of with "If you're not handsome, you should be handy". So, as Rom says you need to understand why the woman is attracted to you. In my opinion, if the woman that you are thinking about marrying is not in-lust with you, you could be headed to divorce after you have kids and can afford to pay her alimony, because you have served your purpose. She will tell you that she loves you but she's not in-love with you. She may even tell you that she realizes now that she was never in-love with you. Now, I'm not saying that divorce was her intention in the first place. But after she has gotten what she wanted from you (kids and money), she realizes that she loves you, but she's not in-love with you and you are out the door minus half your stuff. There is also the case where she was in-lust with you when you married her, but you have become a different person over the years trying to become the man she says that she wants you to be. Unfortunately, after you become that man, she realizes that the man you used to be was the one with whom she was in-lust. And that man would never have done everything a woman asked him to do. So, as Rom has said in many of his videos, a man has to be careful not to let a woman make him into someone else. He has to stay the man with whom she fell in lust. So, I think a man must become and maintain the man he wants to be -- strong physically and emotionally. Rom's videos and books will help us be that man. Become strong. Find a woman who is in lust with you. Stay strong. And you will never have a woman tell you, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."

[@RomWills]

Bruh, you really need to be writing books and doing videos. I get the feeling you might be out there already.

[@brookvalley907]

Rom, thank you for the complement. Especially from a person like you. I am not out there. But when half your stuff is on the line, it does make you think and go looking for guys like you who have some answers. Like I've said, before I saw your videos and got your books, I could see some of the pieces, but you have put the puzzle together.

[@jamesroberts7115]

Anon amous been divorced 2 times that what it is not in love with me

[@banderas2000]

Anon amous i agree to never change who u are in the first place that attracted her to you. so i guess the real question is would you rather be the man she falls in lust with or the man she chooses because he is handy? so what if you are both? also was your wife a virgin when you married her? just curious.

[@skinfanjay]

Women are constantly. Scheming , WE. Bruthas have got to watch out. I'm. 52 years old and the women in my age group. are looking for comfort and security. Hell. To the. Naw !!!!

[@RomWills]

We're the same age so you know the deal.

[@ymarley1180]

skinfan jay lol

[@Ajayjohnson264]

Lololol

[@staffmuzik]

I'm Dealing with 2 women right now that I haven't spoken with much in months. Now they are choosing me hard. Glad you made this video when you did.

[@RomWills]

Always ask, "Why?"

[@donnelle222]

I'm glad I ran into this old joint. I got an older woman choosing me now and she is OPEN.

[@RomWills]

They stay horny.

[@underrated7725]

I saw this young women at work who was very attractive but kind of blew it off. I was there to work and thats it. She intruded herself to me one night. Long story short we went out later on and she seem like the perfect women. We talked and she told me what she was looking for ( marriage,kids,same path..etc. I wanted the same thing someday but wasnt sure i wanted that right away so i said lets just keep seeing each other and see where it goes. Anyway we kept seeing each other and things went south seem like. I was holding on to something that wasnt even there. I work out am in top notch shape,nice looking,quiet. Most dudes like talk. Id be trying to put no attention on me. Anyway she told me oneday she like my swag.Im thinking id care about no stupid swag. Lol Im just me. She a single mom but i think she thought i could be a great father to her son. Anyway im glad im out of that situation. That was a stressful as hell

[@GamerGee]

3:29. Exactly. This is facts. I always ask what a females intentions cause I refuse to be finessed for free food lol

[@RomWills]

Exactly.

[@kcdav7]

Another Phenomenal video uncle Rom! I had a situation in which I dated a single mother. I met her through a mutual friend and figured hey let me give this a shot. At first she was cool but sometimes odd. She'd compliment me for 10 minutes every night before we got off the phone. But that didn't get to my head. I made it clear from day one to "take time and know her". (Especially because she is in a custody battle with her child's father and trying to get child support) After a while, the compliments stopped and demands became more frequent - are we together was the centerpiece of her questions. Eventually, she began to open up more, particularly when she made demands or showed frustration in the vetting process. I'm almost 30 and my son needs a father figure became common talking points. Basically it didn't work out because we are at two different points of our lives. Me: 28, college graduate, no kids, no debt, Christian man. I say all this to say that I can see a lot of myself in many of your videos. I greatly appreciate your work. I suppose this women was choosing me for my resources and while that's not necessarily wrong my question to her would be: what happens if the resources are gone?

[@RomWills]

That's the question men of means always have to ask.

[@thelegacy4939]

brutha kc how do u have no debt?

[@xskalibur]

You brought up a good point about men needing to take a look at themselves when they keep attracting a certain type of woman. So how do we change to attract the women we want? How do we give off the right energy?

[@brookvalley907]

xskalibur, I think you have it right. It's all about learning to give off the right energy. I don't know if you've had a chance to get Rom's books, but he is all about "energy".

[@RomWills]

Xskalibur, That's actually going into a deeper aspect of the game. That might have to be a long pay per view video. A short answer is understanding the type of woman you are looking for and try to become the man she would want. The issue with that, however, is that in doing so you may end up wearing a mask.

[@alexanderrodriguez8420]

xskalibur self improvement my guy, in as many areas as you can improve.

[@tonydavid492]

My response is, don't change you, but remember to either accept what you see in her, or keep it moving. But to depend on her and her potential "to be" is a mistake moving forward. So this is why this title is key. Because SOME of us men need to know why they want us.

[@banderas2000]

i read a comment on a video where it said " when your values are clear, your decisions are easy" what i got from that was you have to portray what it is you want in another person. you want a family life? do you want to be a don juan? i actually was thinking the same thing about how are you coming across to others? for instance i like tattoos' but iam NOT a playa at all. i like to wear matching clothes. im sure others think of me as a playboy based on the look i like. so what do u have to do to change how others view you? i want someone i can pitch and laugh with. i can chill at home. or go on a trip with the kids. but wearing a wife beater when it's hot with my nice body sadly shows somehting different. i believe you have to play the part.

[@kyandigaru5666]

I told my relative that its best for a black women to FIND and KEEP a man with a hobby. Whether its fishing, golfing, playing chess or video games. Some other than sex to clear his mind. Even writing and reading are good stress relievers. If a man DON'T have a hobby, look out! He'll used either sex with other women or will be argumentive with his woman(s). That's how I will be dating for now on. Its my top three questions, What do you do, are you happy with life and what are your hobbies...?

[@RomWills]

Good game sis. Women really do need to ask more question to gage the man's personality.

[@TreyGoose]

glad I stumbled across one of your videos. I subscribed quick as hell lol coo to hear some game from another brotha✊

[@RomWills]

Welcome aboard!

[@FGAlele]

2017 business: Welcome to the Brotherhood.

[@bullettoothtone816]

You keep coming with the essential knowledge for the brothers....much appreciated..and respect.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@maxhouse2409]

A sister knew that I am involved in the family business. The questions she asked me definitely pointed out that she was looking for a sponsor.

[@RomWills]

Good way to read her intentions.

[@supersaturn956]

I remember when I was going through hard times at 24 years old and was at the unemployment office. I had women choosing hard for different reasons. I had this woman follow me, when I was walking to the nearby mall. She was driving with another woman following me. I was not into her, as I was not attracted towards her, and I found out she was a single mom. Another woman was passive, and then I told her my career goals, and then she said I will make a lot of money and was all excited. I figured she just wanted an ATM machine. Granted I was 24 and she was 50. I had women in this age group try to get with me. Why not you Rom? They think you all want younger women with less baggage I suppose.

[@fah232]

That's why you too should be honest about what you're looking for. I just stumbled across your videos, you have a good perspective so far.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@francorodriguez5372]

“Leadership & guidance.” same uncle Rom

[@mrrsaf]

DAMN.... Glad I rewatched this episode Uncle Rom! I know you say, "follow your tribe"... Maybe now I can adjust the tribe!

[@sniper11n.d.34]

Professor Rom i have a story to tell. Yesterday i was in the gym but i was finished with the weights. I went biking but there was just one place for 1 person to use the bike but the other three people were 2 guys and a beautiful female. But my bike was broke so i asked the female how long she will be at that bike and she told me 10 minutes. And then the best part came she said to me take my bike i will sit on the bad bike because i already know that bike and i said no problem i will wait for 10 minutes and she said take it. She sat for 10 minutes beside me and then left but what was funny she had here hair in a ponytail but when she was at the other bike she made her hair loose. When she was ready she went to the female lockers and for some reason she had lipstick(of course females use that but i was just funny) on her lips and when she passed by she smiled i acted cool and smiled back. Moral of the story is here reason was because i looked some kind of way and she was friendly to me because i was approachable.

[@MegaSolopolo]

Sniper 11 N.D. Question: Was she a white woman?

[@coldhardtruth333]

Sniper 11 N.D. Well she gave you all the signs. It's all now up to you...

[@sniper11n.d.34]

Good for you. But when i i'm in the gym i'm always there to train lol

[@sniper11n.d.34]

She was a moroccan lady.

[@sniper11n.d.34]

I know. Next time i see here i probably will start talking to her again.

[@fah232]

I believe you attract what you are on some level

[@RomWills]

True.

[@KNETWORK100]

"If men knew all that women think, they would be twenty times more audacious. If women knew what men think, they would be twenty times more coquettish." -Alphonse Karr

[@TheEnigmaticBM39]

I've done this talking to women on dating sites and never get a reply back or they get defensive lol.

[@lsporter88]

Very good advice and commentary. And actually deep as hell.

[@RomWills]

Thank you Bro. Leslie.

[@joefromdc]

Uncle Rom, ive been thinking about this for a while now, with all the categories woman put us in, it seems like they would favor polygamy more than a committed relationship. maybe if they were honest about this, they might get what they desire.

[@RomWills]

There's a growing number of women into polyamory.

[@johnnyhuggins2520]

That was a superior analysis..

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@AndrewJohnson-bj3hp]

Was picked on a rebound. By an unstable domestic type no less. Didn't know how bad it was gonna be. Turns out she didnt care about ex's as long as SHE ended it. Least she got honest.

[@RomWills]

Yeah always know where you stand.

[@AndrewJohnson-bj3hp]

DaMayorOfNewYork Oh yea fade job for sure. But I don't mind as long as I know what was at fault.

[@AndrewJohnson-bj3hp]

And that's why we're here. At first I felt like a schemer listening to all this game especially how to imprint a chick but it MUST be done unless you want to hear her say: "I didn't want to hurt you on purpose".

[@eseibiotheautomatic2074]

I'm not fixing shit for a woman

[@RomWills]

Do your thing.

[@jholliday3]

Very insightful video. Good things to look for in women

[@SN-yn6it]

100% at 11:38, I still need to be reminded about this from time to time. You can be friendly and fun with women, but don’t be a yes man, people pleasure. Don’t be a kiss ass doormat, they will walk all over you.

[@francorodriguez160]

Love this insight. Always gotta question these females man!

[@RomWills]

Have to.

[@ritagomes9186]

the unfortunate thing is that I Like I fat guy and I can tell hes thinking this . I'm a very in shape woman but have never been moved by a mans looks so I am really feeling the dude and I can feel his suspicions it sucks

[@Wack-rp9nz]

Just have to reassure him. Show him the attractive dude you're ignoring for him.

[@ritagomes9186]

Wack 100 will do

[@ritagomes9186]

Michael Elam his swagger and I hate using the word swag. But he's really confident doesn't try to hard. he has like jerkish humor but he's not a jerk per se just really sarcastic so I think it's funny. So he makes me laugh a lot. he dresses well he's still cute he's just fat lol

[@ritagomes9186]

Michael Elam I definitely appreciate good looks. But just because I think someone is attractive doesn't mean I'm attracted to them

[@RomWills]

Rita Gomes, Many women like that Big Man swag, kzbin.info/www/bejne/gmmuhYuLasdni6M

[@myhicks]

I know this is an old vlog, but it came up in my recommended options. This was another AWESOME one - great job! I really like it. Do you have one like this for women - consider why he's scoping/approaching you, or is it so simple it doesn't require a vlog?

[@dedricklane4899]

My girlfriend of four months told me she wanted to have my baby two weeks ago. Never got into it when she said that because I busy with something else. I asked her the other night why and all she said was I have a good heart… thanks I guess… I’m wondering if because I’m nicer than the last dudes she was with or am I a nice sucker?

[@RomWills]

If a woman wants your baby she wants you genes. She's letting you know that she finds you attractive.

[@anon5091]

​@@RomWills She still could be seeing him as a sucker though right?

[@obi9065]

good video. gonna have me thinkin about the women who've chose me all day lol.

[@RomWills]

Men need to do that anyway.

[@itstayaaa8280]

UNCLE Rom did it again .

[@RomWills]

Thanks fam.

[@garywillis4520]

What is your opinion on STDs in the black community? And the claim that 50% of bw have one?

[@RomWills]

This is one area where the stats are overblown in my opinion. 50% of the Black women TESTED had STD's. The question that needs to be asked is the number of women in the study. Usually if someone tests for a STD they likely showed some type of symptoms. The actual number could be less or could be more. The only to know for sure is to test the ENTIRE Black female population.

[@Zhaturianvisionz]

Well i agree but i do find that we are more carefree with highrisk sex. We are more likely to have multiple sex partners and things like that especially our women in comparison to others. I met a sista who thought it was ok to go to la nyc and texas to fuck her regulars in addition to the guy she was banging on the home front. Thats very highrisk behavior and she like found no problem with it. We dont talk about it but its a big reason some of us date outside we can be real lose sometimes

[@thomaspostman9175]

Dale Winston do you think white women aren't doing anything like thatm

[@allisononyoutube5794]

I appreciate your perspective and that is why I watch your videos. When a woman sees you as a leader, that is a complement But if you see her as someone who is looking for (role of a male) comfort (protector) and security (provider) as a negative that is why the positive relationship is broken between some men and women. Is this a negative to some males for a female to look for comfort and security? Or are men looking for women to protect and provide? I'm confused. Please help me understand. Seriously.

[@RomWills]

All of this should be normal but things are twisted out here.

[@Malik_Hoff]

hey Uncle Rom may you make a Video for Us More Artsy Brothers. i've had a few women tell me they were feeling me because i was cute but also had women say they were feeling me because i was "Weird"

[@RomWills]

That's a good one fam.

[@jsirch7598]

so why do i attract all the crazy woman?

[@RomWills]

On some level they think you can heal them.

[@Mr2andresims]

excellent, Rom

[@patton1909]

You never fail

[@RomWills]

Thank you brotha.

[@rharden66]

great message bro westcoastreg

[@RomWills]

THank you bruh.

[@happynewbeginnings]

the comment section's absolutely revolting!

[@RomWills]

They are speaking their truth.

[@happynewbeginnings]

I know and to each his or her own, it's just a lot to take in. it also says a lot about their character and the women they choose to deal with, hopefully it's a phase that all will eventually grow out of! Its never too late to learn and grow

[@kamala80]

Good stuff.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@user-ko1zb4vh4v]

I love this guy!

[@brwnhilarybanks9953]

this goes for woman too

[@RomWills]

You're right about that sis. You still need to hit me up, www.romwills.com/contact-rom.html.

[@brwnhilarybanks9953]

ok, i will email you today!

[@Jahfariinternational]

Rom you need to check out Sheraseven's youtube page and give your thoughts on it. That would be a classic video.

[@RomWills]

I don't want to give her any attention.

[@akinsolaagbebi3104]

man like rom wills with that classi man insight yh

[@RomWills]

I see it from all angles.

[@DarronBrown88]

What type of woman is more common?

[@RomWills]

That's a tough question because I see all types.

[@DarronBrown88]

Rom Wills my intuition isn’t strong enough yet. Because of your video I can now tell when a woman wants me for sex because I have experience. I haven’t develop a radar for the other type of women. I hope this happens sooner than later.

[@felixperalta5154]

Intresting prespective, 👍🤘

[@grandoldsoul4691]

hella good video.

[@theerealatm]

Your intro is way too loud bro. I'm a newcomer sort of. The intro is blaring and then the topic audio is low so every video I'm turning down the intro and then turning it back up and turning it back down and turning it back up. I've remedied this by simply skipping the intro but I just thought you'd know.

[@RomWills]

I've changed mics twice since this video came out. Check the date.

[@SuccessIsCertain]

A classic

[@RomWills]

Thank you.